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Oh this is an amazing tidbit of information. Thank you for sharing this with me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:20 PM
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Oh yes I was agnostic for years but had an experience that opened me up to the idea of it. I met a missionary at 22 who told me God is love and it felt like perfect timing so that was enough for me to believe again. I tried the whole ritual again but I prefer to practice in a way that is considered blasphemous lol. i can totally understand why you left it all behind especially if you had any particularly bad experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:30 AM
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This is the energy I love to see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:27 PM
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As someone who grew up in this religion it made me so angry that I was told I had great promise for a leadership role but that I couldn't even get one if I wanted. The type of leadership they meant was teaching faith studies and recruiting people to evangelize or bring to retreats and conferences. Edit to add I was never comfortable evangelizing anyone so I never pushed this on anyone. I would just ask if they were interested in our community and if they were they would get invited to different …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:22 PM
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I like the explanation Father Mike Schmitz gives that it was both Adam and Eve's fault because they both had free will. I don't necessarily like how he compares the expectation of men to provide for the family to childbirth (he says these are the repercussions of their distrust in God and so to me that is comparing them.) Not that providing isn't difficult, but bringing life into the world by sacrificing your own body is quite different and honestly more traumatic. Another explanation he gives a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:20 PM
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And this is why I only went to a particular church when it wasn't lockdown. I even avoid telling people I'm Christian IRL not because I'm ashamed of my beliefs but because of the men it attracts. Spirituality is so important to me as well so it's hard not to bring it up if I'm having a deep convo with someone I'm interested in even as a friend. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:09 PM
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Women have sexual needs too I'm so tired of this argument about men's needs. Like maybe we are not having sexing with you for a reason, just maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:06 PM
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Thank you for posting this. I just left a dusty man I was in a relationship with on and off for two years and I feel like I've gone through this before. The lessons seem to actually be sticking at the moment, but I owe a lot of that to FDS and you ladies who post and comment here. I was feeling down on myself about it because I'm 27 and my older sister has been in a committed relationship with her fiance for 14 years, they have a home, dogs, and twins.. so it's hard not to compare. But your post…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:57 PM
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Well thank you kindly! It is a great passion of mine that is for sure. I will be getting back to you in the near future with that short list of versions of the Dao De Jing for beginners, I promise. Edit: I would like to add that I commented below asking someone who converted to Buddhism about their perspective on Buddhism. They have not responded as of yet, but I thought you would be interested in the answer as well. I plan to do more research on the Religion and it's philosophies through it's t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:46 PM
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Do you practice a particular branch of Buddhism? I'm curious since I took a course last semester in Uni and would love to hear about Buddhism from a Buddhists perspective. Particularly about the school you practice under if any at all. Thanks in advance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:45 PM
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I was lucky enough to take a course in University with a professor who is passionate about the philosophy of Daoism. She also studied in Taiwan and so she was able to give us an idea of how religion is practiced there and in other countries influenced by Chinese Thought. It is very normal to practice multiple religions and pray to different religious deities. Many temples provide Buddhist, Daoist, and Folk Religion areas so that people may practice different religions more easily. My advice woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:20 PM
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I just wanted to clarify for anyone reading the comments. Lovely post by the way, there is a lot of wisdom to be found in the photo/text you shared. Thank you! I've saved it to my phone. Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:15 AM
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Yes, I was quite surprised to find ancient texts talking about this even when I was a pickme libfem who didn't know FDS existed let alone radical feminism. The Dao De Jing (or Tao Te Ching depending on the romanization system used to translate Mandarin to English) is a big advocate of embracing what is feminine. The yin and yang (pronounced yaw-ng) represent the feminine (black) and masculine (white) respectively. Originally there were no tiny dots in the symbol as that was added later. The book…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:49 AM
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I like how they tried to call out FDS as an anti-porn religious organization lmao and that's not even an objectively bad thing to be a part of???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:11 PM
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I was the best friend who was an emotional affair. I'm just realizing this now because of your comment and it's been 2 years since I ended the friendship. We were "best friends" for 10 years. I didn't understand during my pickme years how much we affected each other's dating lives and I only really thought about how he affected mine. I hadn't thought of how I affected his dating life. And he dated some sweet girls one of which is my cousin's best friend. Gosh the guilt sticks around doesn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:08 PM
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Daoism is my favorite. Don't forget that there are still patriarchal themes in both Buddhism and Daoism, but there are so many pro-women anecdotes. Just be careful to call either FDS material since there are still some very sexist biases in both religions. Daoism is my main focus in my Religious Studies B.A. and the way it talks about how men are meant to give and women are meant to take and give back later was what hooked me to the first class I took!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:16 PM
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I mean, he was using her during her "good years" and now she's "hit the wall" so by scrote-logic this should be punishable by law since he's taken away another man's opportunity of happiness with this woman. /s Okay, even typing that sarcastically is sickening. Idk how people say this stuff and mean it. But anyway... I do agree that during divorce it should be taken into consideration that time, money, and effort was wasted all based on an empty promise. A very important one that seems to be int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:27 AM
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That makes me want to punch him.. I can't punch.. but I want to punch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:21 AM
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I think they mean libfems and as someone coming out of that fog for over a year now I have to say I've heard this said by at least a few libfem women. They think it's treating men equally or something. Edit: correcting autocorrect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:27 PM
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Yeah they indoctrinated me young so I feel you on that. Keep up that hard work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:21 PM
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I still cringe at the four year relationship I was in that ended 7 years ago. And the one after that and the one after that... My pick me days are full of cringe. I thought I was out of my pick me ways, but to be real I found out my prince was a frog and I realize now I had fell back into old habits and ignored red flags because of Quarantine Loneliness. I really had myself fooled too because he was an ex I took back. Starting over is difficult, but at least I held onto FDS in large part and hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:37 PM
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Please make a YouTube equivalent, I don't use Spotify and have no room for it on my phone. In all seriousness this is a wonderful idea and I will be taking a look at the playlists and possibly recreating them on YT and if I do I will post here and credit you. Blessings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:32 PM
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This exactly. I just made a comment explaining my Nmothers similar behavior and mentioned how it feels like this. Thanks for the extra reality check, anonymous friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:50 PM
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My Nmother is like this. She tells me "this is how I talk" and "what else would I do" when I confront her about it. I'm 26 and still trying to get over it. Doesn't help to be living at home as well. I'm sorry you experienced this with a partner. It's such a frustrating experience. For me it feels like my Nmother just wants the problem fixed so I won't be a bother to her anymore and she can continue watching her soaps. Do you feel similarly with your own experience? Nmother tends to sit in the li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:48 PM
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I grew up with parents who didn't listen much and had to figure this one out young. Be careful and look for red flags when using this method. It can really anger some people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:38 PM
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Schools and planned parenthood should hand these out tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:29 PM
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"Men fight for themselves and themselves only and if women don’t start meeting that same energy in our own best interest then we’ll always lose out, and so will society as a whole." This is so accurate. I am someone who believes society will never be perfect because nothing can be and there are too many factors and people to keep happy and alive/well. However, I do think society would improve immensely if women looked out for themselves the way that men do. I think women would be more likely to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:32 PM
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They can't stand when we're doing just as good or even less good they are. Edit: took out unnecessary word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:34 PM
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Hahahah meanwhile some of us want the D, just not any D. HVD. So it's not a privilege to not fuck men. They twist stuff easily don't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:30 PM
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Isn't it surreal that they consider us snowflakes when they're the ones who get offended so easily over not actions, but words? They react rather than respond. Edit: Changed a couple words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:27 PM
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This is lovely advice. I've screenshotted the comment to print off and put in my journal as a reminder that men ain't shit and to think of this thread 😂. I can't wait to start using this tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:26 PM
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This just made me think in a tangent and.. Ever get a man with a big dick and he thinks it's too small because of porn? ETA like they are insecure to sleep with you because of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:53 PM
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Any man who has told me he is a dom has turned out to be a lot less dom than I anticipated lol and a lot less experienced. Celibacy has been good to me though cause I'm good to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:52 PM
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Replying to your deleted comment: How did this come across as damsel in distress when she is the one who got away from the creep she was on a date with who she didn't feel comfortable around and communicated to a person she knew for basically the same amount of time, but felt comfortable around, that she didn't feel safe. The ride was just the cherry on top of the story but you decided to focus in on it as the main event. I know biker communities are misogynistic and I think many women are aware…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:57 PM
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Ahh you are a Disciple now this is wonderful!! 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:35 PM
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This is like a soap opera where can I binge watch his downfall lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:02 PM
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PragerU 🤢 the fact that he watched and tried to use right wing media to influence your boundaries and values, that in itself is a red flag. This is the man who started this media outlet. Link is to a CBC Calgary article from February this year titled, "It's 'idiotic you can't say the N-word,' says radio host Dennis Prager, soon to speak at Calgary conference." ETA I love how you describe poly relationships. I've thought about this but could never quite put it into words. Thanks for your input ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:00 PM
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He wasn't seeing it from a HVW or HVM perspective. This honestly riled me up because I have very similar trauma from my first long term relationship. Screw that NVM honestly. Screw abuse. So glad you got out and have learned from the experience!!! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:50 PM
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Make that 💰😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:28 PM
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The hahaha at the end implies a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:22 PM
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And this is why I thought one side had 2 and one side had 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:21 PM
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You are so absolutely right thank you and I apologize for not commenting back right away. I didn't see anyone had replied but that's my bad. He ended up dumping her and messaged me recently talking about missing me. I didn't have him blocked, I'll be doing that now thank you for the kind advice/reminder. But I did move on, so he hasn't trapped me and I've been ignoring him. I was feeling a bit like I wanted to remain friends... but you are absolutely right. Hes not my friend!!! I'm sticking by w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:52 PM
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We're all here now so that's what's most important, and im so happy we all are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:34 PM
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And look at us being QUEENS learning how to best love ourselves and possibly find a HVM along the way 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:32 PM
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Yes exactly! It's never too late, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:30 PM
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I feel as if your flair should not be FDS Newbie considering your behavior, can we request updates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:47 PM
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I got The Handmaid's Tale vibes thinking about men's masks coming off 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:39 PM
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I'm currently seeing a man who has a job that doesn't have a set schedule, such as this man, however he keeps in touch with me throughout the day when we have plans to let me know how things are going. Is the job going as planned, are there any obstacles that will slow down the days progress and thus extend his work hours that day? He let's me know. I've seen men like the one in these texts and this behavior is refreshing to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:30 PM
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You just summed up the main reason sugaring became such a toll on my mental health. It was too difficult to consistently hear about men's sick fantasies and be faced with the reality of how it's not just creeps but men we interact with daily. I don't see men the same way and it's set me back in a lot of ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:54 PM
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What a scumbag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:45 PM
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Yeah I keep wondering how he didn't get candida on his bum from the moisture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:42 PM
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I was thinking coke but this is totally possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:44 PM
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Honestly how many moms think this anytime they get out of the house lol bravo those men can relate better to their wives but don't realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:17 PM
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Even with my IUD, a man better wrap it up if he's so lucky to have the opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:29 AM
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Took me 26 years to learn this lesson and I'm so grateful to know it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:59 AM
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Yeah did they take his account down or anything I wonder ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:51 PM
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This HAS to be a woman looking out for other women hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:56 PM
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I spit out my tea seriously hahahaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:12 AM
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And they always want to see what we offer at our commitment level and not at a dating level.. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:11 AM
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Yeah the music video is a fantasy for men since the reality hurts their feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:42 AM
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This is long but very cathartic for me. I don't have many people irl available right now to talk about this and your post gave me some confidence and courage to share. Just last night the guy I had been flirting with for a couple months told me he's been speaking with his ex for a few weeks now and he said he knows he should have told me sooner/he's an asshole/he's so sorry blah blah. He asked me not to tell her about it because he knows she will eventually ask me for some reason? I don't know w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:22 PM
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I think the men in my area are prone to this and it makes me wonder which generational trauma has them imagining such things. To be fair there are also a lot of women here who play into this role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:04 PM
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Showing off my witchiness will scare them away you say? I'm interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:15 PM
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I thought the dark side had 3 my bad. I was also using a joking tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:57 PM
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Same with Ghandi, but his movement did A LOT of good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:47 PM
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Yeah I think people have until like 30 to become aware that they are not the center of the universe. At least in my not-at-all professional opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:36 PM
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I'm glad someone said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:35 PM
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I had actually heard of Travis Scott before he began dating Kylie Jenner. His music is popular at the school I attend. His beats can be amazing, but his lyrics almost always make me uncomfortable. I am a big rap fan when done well, but his music is so heavily laden with drug culture, glorification of "hood life," and misogyny I usually don't listen to it unless I really want to hear the beat and that's not even really giving anyone but his producer/audio engineer credit. When I found out he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:32 PM
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Personally I think their parents focused too much on grooming them into money makers and not enough on how to love themselves/not let others opinions affect their perception of themselves. Kris Jenner morphed them into celebrities as they grew in a way that these women will now do almost anything to look good, get money, and keep their status. Plus they grew up with status from birth due to their parents. For the Kardashian sisters they may still be adjusting to their father's transition from Ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:23 PM
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I'm offended that his side has more monitors than hers hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:57 PM
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This comment is longer than I had intended but I do hope you read it all. I want to make sure I give you an honest response and it turns out I needed to add a decent amount of detail to give you the best answer. Remember that what works for one person may or may not work for another. Here is my response: It depends on which you ask me about: the first I had placed or the second. The first one I had inserted hurt but not in any terrible way. It was actually MUCH less than I expected but I don't w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 05:57 PM
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Wow today I learned something new. Thanks for the lesson friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:53 AM
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Same here. For me I can see them taking my "low maintenance" style (no makeup or natural makeup, natural hair, cosy cute clothing) to mean that I am a "low maintenance" woman to day who doesn't expect or need such things from them. Men often comment on how I'm chill and "low maintenance". I'm still healing and learning from my last relationship where I was definitely a pickme. I am teaching myself to respond and behave in ways that communicate to the men I vet that I expect high effort and will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:52 AM
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And the years some of us take to even find the right birth control for us!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:38 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of love and healing energy tonight!! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:35 AM
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Yeah usually 5-10 years. Maybe she said emergency meaning that they are getting her in quickly for an appointment? Or because many people are not having such things placed at the moment so it's like an emergency? I have no idea. I use one and don't get periods and love it. Had it replaced after 5 years in December. Still use condoms. Well not now since I'm not dating and it's quarantine lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:11 AM
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I'm confused because she says it's an emergency contraceptive which sounds like Plan B to me... Ahhh does this woman not care about STI's?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:59 PM
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Just sliding in to let everyone know that fandoms are a form of religion and some people focus a lot of attention on things such as a movie franchise because it gives their life meaning. Star Trek, South Park, Harry Potter, Star Wars and more were some of the topics of discussion in a Religion and Popular Culture course I really enjoyed. Of course like every religion their are people who are extreme and probably even dangerous, but I thought this was a random interesting fact I could add.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:49 PM
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Yeah if they want to be the rational thinkers they believe themselves to be they should practice it. They have free will just as we do, there is no excuse for abuse against another person no matter the gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:42 PM
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His humor is so relevant today. His bit about "spooky language" or political correctness is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:31 PM
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They think in 1920 women were having babies according to their own schedules, how cute. Pretty sure it was scandalous in the mid 80's to have babies past the age of 30. It's only become "acceptable" recently and even now women over the age of 30 bearing children are often talked down to for daring to do such a thing. I've spoken to my doctor's about "the wall" and they told me I have until 40 before I would need to be concerned about a pregnancy and my age. Not that I know if I want kids or not,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:02 PM
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Is she getting an IUD so she can have sex without condoms?? Oh my... Not the purpose at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:56 PM
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"You don't know you're beautiful, that's what makes you beautiful!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:48 PM
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They do that 5 second nipple lick for themselves because porn teaches them that foreplay, even foreplay meant to please a woman, is about male pleasure. It's as if they think seeing them being turned on is what gets us going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:25 AM
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Men are so deluded they really think they don't need to clean their own messes, even when in someone else's house where they don't even pay rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:52 AM
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Do or do not, there is no try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:51 AM
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You're so right about that. Love the term "hug-box" and I will be using it from now on! These kinds of communities have only encouraged behaviors in me, ANY behaviors, and that's just scary to be frank. Ah butterfree, you've chosen a great fave. So cute and dangerous at the same time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:56 PM
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You're so kind to say that thank you! This community has really been the most helpful resource for me. You guys are all so supportive and it's all love! Sometimes tough love, but that's necessary in any community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:48 PM
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First of all I'm sorry you had to deal with such a cowardly and perverted man. I hope you are doing much better now without him and I would bet money that you are. I did sex work for a short while when I was a libfem. I'm not proud of this by any means, it does however give me a sort of insiders perspective in some ways. The men who came to me always felt the need to explain why they were cheating on their wives. They felt justified in their behavior because their wives were either sick or only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:32 PM
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Yes I agree. I think it can be a sign of someone being a pickme when they're being mean girls as OP explains, but I think if the jealousy is quiet it may not be. I know body image issues and other insecurities can make me envy other women, but I keep it to myself and try to find reasons I admire them to change my mood instead of just comparing myself to them. Like maybe that girl that caused some jealousy in me is conventionally beautiful but also has a heart of gold and so I admire that trait a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:56 PM
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Slowly becoming more ruthless in vetting men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:51 AM
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If that's the case I apologize! I saw this today and thought of all my FDS friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:50 AM
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When I've been in relationship with men like this they have generally had the "tit for tat" mindset. If they perceived me to have done something wrong (eg: smiling and getting along with his friends instead of only paying attention to him, dressing up on a day that I won't be seeing him even if I send him pics, enjoy myself without him, etc.) they tried to even the score somehow. Usually this was done by flirting with other women in front of my face or behind my back, lying about things like dru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:33 AM
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Yeah this is the response I needed to see to feel better tbh lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:22 AM
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It didn't affect her for four years because she legitimately could not see it so how would she have known about it for it to affect her? How can he not see how this could hurt someone? How does he not realize pranks have victims and consequences? He knew it was wrong. He said so right there in his post when he said that her mom "unfortunately" walked in while he was pretend kicking his blind gf. That is shame speaking and the rest of his post is validation seeking so he doesn't have to take resp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:20 AM
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Seriously though. Is buying me dinner going to give a man an oxytocin rush that leaves him susceptible to unwarranted attachment and feels? No. Is having sex with him going to do that to me? Yes. ETA Buying me dinner can't give either of us a child or a STD. Sex can. Men must be so afraid of Investment Transmitted Diseases? Value Transmitted Diseases? Transactionally Transmitted Diseases? Oh no wait they're just selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 04:45 AM
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Why do they ask about our exes AT ALL 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:24 PM
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This is hilariously accurate haha I love it, thanks for making it! Saved :) the dick size complex made me roar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:11 PM
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If women behaved in a similar entitled way we would be villainized and called hysterical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:09 AM
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Oh my bless you, no rush by any means. You are appreciated!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:49 AM
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This video is spot on. I had an inappropriate fit of laughter watching it because I let myself be with a man who didn't invest in me last year and I could never put it into words. Love Derrick Jaxn and his videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:29 AM
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I've saved this for reference and it's just so darned cute. Can't wait to share with my friends at just the right moment lol. Maybe to remind a friend what they deserve if they get upset by a man or something. ETA a LVM Bingo would be a great post as well, something small and easy to reference like this when vetting men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:25 AM
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I think it's always important to be careful but also to remember there are exceptions to the rule. If our instincts are good enough we will know from our gut if it's a good idea or not. I know one guy I can have drinks with or go for a drive with at night one on one and nothing ever happens. We're both interested in each other but are healing from our own separate breakups so neither of us wants to mess anything up. He's been very respectful of my boundaries and I of his. Some days when I browse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:05 AM
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Yeah I'm not disagreeing at all I'm just curious about these men who didn't try anything late at night like where can I find one lol Edit: I actually know a man myself who I can hang out with at night and not worry, but for real where are the rest of them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:59 PM
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Were these men friends or perhaps HVM/gentlemen? I think it's more likely to be a bootycall if the late night invite is from a LVM or someone you've not been seeing often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:54 PM
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Yes I have to agree women are much better friends! We are better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:02 PM
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Maybe their bodies also get upset that there is no baby !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:09 PM
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Yeah before I came to realize this myself I was one of those girls who hung out with mostly guys. I had a best guy friend of 10+ years that I hung out with almost daily and who relied heavily on me for emotional support. My ex would get reasonably jealous and try to explain to me what men are like and their intentions, but I was so convinced that this guy was actually my best friend that I wouldn't listen. Turned out the ex was totally right and not only was this guy enjoying my free emotional l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:04 PM
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He probably thinks about how this is so hard on him without even considering her struggle and pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:39 PM
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Shame is an important tool in learning right from wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:37 PM
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The cost of an automatic system likely won't be covered by many insurers just like my insulin pump and it's supplies. But thanks for the optimism!! A cure would be delightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:41 PM
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I think they even twist it in their minds that they are honoring her memory by fapping to her nudes after her suicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:39 PM
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This should be on r/trashy I'm disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:37 PM
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I believe HV people who love each other can commit for life without marriage, but I also believe it is extremely rare. Maybe they are one of the few exceptions to the usual rules. Giving the benefit of the doubt here of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:34 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace and his memory live on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:20 PM
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I respect your opinion. I do agree we need to ingrain "civilized" behavior and thought into men. My opinion is that society teaches men, not necessarily just close male influences. I believe it's a cop out when people blame biology. We are different from animals, we have free will. When men want to do the right thing they will, but often they've not even been taught what it means to do that. I'm not here to debate only to give my opinion. Maybe I misunderstood what you were saying and if that's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:14 PM
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Your grandpa gives me hope as a Type 1 Diabetic. The idea of leaving my Diabetes care in the hands of nurses at the hospital is scary enough since they often don't know much about my insulin pump or Type 1 in general. I hope to be so blessed someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:40 PM
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It's not instinct though, it's something they've learned is okay behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:37 PM
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Always about the man's feelings and never the woman's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:32 PM
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Keep that queen energy going oh my gosh bless you! And don't settle, there are men interested in personal growth and education, they're just so busy they're difficult to find I think 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:24 AM
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That is exactly what I mean yes! Might I add that you said that so well?! That quote is from the Daoist philosopher Zhuangzi. One idea from Daoism is that language creates most, if not all, conflicts. The idea isn't that language isn't useful, but that it can be dangerous due to misunderstandings, specialist jargon, a lack of perspective etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:40 PM
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I know men in their mid to late twenties that still do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:14 PM
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It's not about the words, but the meaning behind them. "The fish trap exists because of the fish. Once you've gotten the fish you can forget the trap. The rabbit snare exists because of the rabbit. Once you've gotten the rabbit, you can forget the snare. Words exist because of meaning. Once you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words. Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can talk with him?" -Zhuangzi I only know a select few men who can keep up with me in a face to face co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:11 PM
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Am Canadian, it's all the same here in my experience. The men I've dated who played and watched sports were more HV than the men who simply watched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 04:29 PM
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Women who watch beauty bloggers are learning useful new skills, men who watch sports are not. There's the difference. If women are expected to wear makeup and appear beautiful than isn't it necessary we take some time to watch videos on the topic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 04:28 PM
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If you're on mobile go to the front page of the FDS sub and tap the three dots in the top, right corner. Choose contact mods and away you go! Hopefully this helps. If all else fails I've found guides on YouTube and Google to help me use Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 12:25 AM
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Always makes me feel good to read about other women on FDS's relationships, at least when they are with HVM! Glad you like him. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 12:01 AM
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Are you okay? I ask because you met up with an ex during the pandemic (I understand you took social distancing into consideration). You may be getting downvoted, but the community ultimately supports you and wants you to be okay! I sincerely hope you're doing alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:59 PM
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I was complimenting your taste! All love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:57 PM
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Humble men are great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:56 PM
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The mods are usually pretty good getting back to us about whatever we ask. I'd say give them a message on mod mail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:46 PM
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What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:38 PM
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This just means he knows better how to hide and keep his money away from her now and if they ever should divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:42 PM
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Sob story boo hoo, wtf is right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:36 AM
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Is this the definition of lovesick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:50 PM
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It's just an analogy. When you're anonymous and online ignoring them does work. It's easy to block a man who's bothering you online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:45 PM
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I can't imagine letting my niece and nephew (newborn twins) just cry it out. I know there's a huge cultural and socioeconomic difference, but it is so disheartening to read. Thank you for speaking up about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:13 PM
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Thank you for naming the disorder. I'm always happy to get free lessons online. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:44 PM
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I wasn't aware of these facts. Thank you for informing us! This makes a lot of sense now looking at the illustration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:42 PM
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Yeah either case is sad and immoral. I said to another user who replied it really could be either or situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:22 PM
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This is fabulous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:49 PM
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I did notice that as well. But his face seems fuller imo. I guess since it's art it could be interpreted either the way I commented above, or that the focus is on the man so heavily that the wife and children all suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:26 PM
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I could be misinterpreting it for sure. I'd assume that if that were the case though, the girl would also have a bloated belly wouldn't she? You definitely have me questioning my first comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:19 PM
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I'm taking advantage of quarantine and not dating. It's been good, no one asks me if I've found a man because no one assumes I'm looking due to social distancing. Wish it were like this all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:16 PM
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ETA I now believe the boy has one type of malnutrition and the girl has another type of malnutrition. See my other ETA below. Oh man seeing the little boy in the front crying loudly with a full belly then seeing the little girl following behind silently with a sad face and her bones showing is a hard hitter. The boy isn't even grateful to be given more food than his sister. The girl is probably terrified that her moms experience is her own fate. It starts so young. Men can't face the facts. ETA …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:09 PM
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It's basically bullying right? Just like our parents and teachers would tell us, if we ignore them they won't get the satisfaction of seeing how upset they may have made us. They get off on making others, especially women, upset in any way. They must be so hurt inside... Sucks to be them 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:02 PM
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I assumed him being labelled as a work contact, calling her kitten, and himself Daddy meant this was a SD/SB arrangement. Even if that's the case his behavior is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:55 PM
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Men don't ask for permission to take time to themselves, why should women? It's assertive and communicative to tell someone you will be doing x activity at y time and then simply do it. With a HVM this wouldn't be necessary because he would have already taken what she's said about needing alone time into account. A discussion about how to get that alone time and divide labor more fairly would have already happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:28 PM
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Yeah this is what I came here to say as well. Men will pretend they don't know how to do certain household tasks or do them poorly in hopes that their partner will just do the task themselves. Honestly, I say let them do a crap job with the dishes and leave it that way. When they go to grab a plate and find it's still full of soap scum they can fix it for themselves. This post makes me think of how I behaved as a child when I first started helping around the house. I was grumpy, didn't like the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:22 PM
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The one guy I've ever dated with HVM traits is a MOC. This is blatant racism imo. Not cute. The quote that always stuck with me as cliche as it is, "you can't judge a book by its cover." Glad to see you are the top comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:57 PM
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So he wanted a roomie with benefits.. parasitic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:19 AM
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Like online anonymous accountability buddies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:13 AM
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Yeah his brother and sister Jude and Sarah are going to have to intervene to get shit settled. I hate to tell anyone to call CPS because the system is broken but maybe this is one of those situations that calls for it. I really don't know, I'm not a parent, just a new auntie. I don't know how I would handle this kind of misogyny and abuse if it were happening to my nephew and niece, but I know I would have many sleepless nights trying to figure something out. Looks like Jude has a good heart, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:44 PM
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Oh dear, sorry for your hair experience. Now it's all up to you, that must feel great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:51 PM
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Were you also excited to get your hair cut because it meant someone would be styling your hair and brushing it properly? I know I was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:21 AM
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Naturally Curly is a goldmine of info. Some people use these techniques and still blow-dry with a diffuser for a more polished look. Others don't find the benefit and continue to blow-dry/straighten. Everyone wants different things. Good luck on your hair journey and no shame if you continue to use heat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:29 PM
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You're welcome and yes definitely! My hair texture is a mix of curls and waves. If you are interested in the techniques you can check the naturally curly website for a guide on the hair types scale. That's what I was using to describe my hair texture (2C/3A). I believe straight hair is 1A but I'm not entirely sure. Also I saw in your other comment that you can braid! That's a GREAT protective hairstyle and something I have yet to teach myself how to do. Edit: removed a word mobile had added
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:21 PM
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I'm Irish white and my hair was so hard to manage at first going natural. I had used heat and silicones/sulphates for the majority of my life at that point, maybe 13 years. My hair was a frizzy, damaged mess that resembled Hermione for sure. I've been doing the DevaCurl cut and Curly Girl method (no heat, sulphates or silicones, wash as little as possible, plopping to dry) for around 8 years now. It took me about a year to see the progress I wanted. Even then I did a big chop to get rid of the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:14 PM
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I am with you on it being hard. I've had a long journey of learning to love my hair, but it is quite manageable and I like a less polished look. I've gone "natural" and don't use silicones or sulphates. No hate though, if what you're doing makes your life easier and you happy then more power to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:56 PM
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Yeah almost everyone in my family has thin, straight hair and I have thick 2C or 3A curly hair so my parents just didn't really know what to do with it. Blowdry straight with a hairbrush and wear a headband was the go to style. I actually inherited my hair from my Dad, but because he was often away for work and hasn't grown out his hair since probably the late 70's I doubt he remembered how to take care of curls. And if I'm being totally honest the way he "took care" of his curls was to try and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:37 PM
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My mom barely did anything with my hair let alone my dad, this is a HV trait in anyone imo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:35 PM
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Scream it on the rooftops !! Love your mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:34 PM
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I was confused because of that and because some people refer to blowjobs as getting "becky" which I assume comes from the same slang. I could be wrong about that last part though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:02 PM
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Were wrong no matter what we do, huh? Great way to put it, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:01 PM
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Thanks for the definitions I've been aware of what they mean but not to this extent. Ive seen the terms used here and I don't think it matches the ideology of the sub. Do people use it here ironically/with sarcasm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:00 PM
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This is the most true thing I've learned in my life so far. The only thing we are in control of is ourselves. We can choose to respond (healthy/willful/mindful) or react (unhealthy/impulsive/mindless) to an event. This can be done by training ourselves to manage our emotions so that we replace reactions with responses. We can't change anyone else, but we can change ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:52 PM
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Great point about movies aimed toward teenaged audiences. The media plays a huge role in what we think is okay and normal. I don't think your mind is strange (or little) I think you and I had similar experiences in this department. I would just assume the couple that was happy at the end of the movie stayed together forever. Why would we have thought otherwise, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:39 PM
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Great question. I'm not sure about other women who fell into this as teenagers, but I know personally I romanticized it because of the high amount of these kinds of relationships in my family. Therapy helped me realize I don't know anything about their relationships except for what they want others to see. I think I was also somewhat of a red pill pickme without knowing what that even was. I had a great HVM counselor who helped me see how backwards and gross that thinking was. SO glad I'm not br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:13 PM
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"Stay at least 6ft away, spray him with hand sanitizer, and don't touch him." This and your hashtag should all be on a shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:03 PM
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I've gotten used to being called a TERF on here now. It's strange because I actually have a few friends that are trans and I would fight tooth and nail for to have equal rights or better yet, as the poster above stated, liberation. I don't think it's trans exclusionary to want a space for biological women only anymore than I would think it's bio-female exclusionary for trans people to want a trans-female only space. Our experiences growing up are so different. Most people looking for a community…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:54 PM
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This is why FDS exists, we need a space to talk about this kind of stuff without someone coming to their defense. Men have always had their own spaces in the form of boys ("men's") clubs. Women deserve and need the same. Thank you for the info, I was unaware of these events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:44 PM
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Attachment, validation, and self worth issues is my guess. Level up ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:38 PM
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Imagine being in a relationship like this for 6 years of your life during a developmental and formative period of your life. It's a super strong yet flimsy attachment with so much and yet so little meaning. At least that was my experience with a 4 year relationship similar to this. It took him dumping my ass and a year of pining to get over him because I had convinced myself that he was my "soulmate" and I was so lucky to be with my "highschool sweetheart" and my oh my how I thought I fucked it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:11 PM
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And (at least in my own experience with this) the man doesn't seem to have the obligations of a husband or at least he will not behave in that way. 4 years was too long of a shitty relationship when I was just finishing high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:02 PM
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Is your username a reference to Purity Ring? Love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:52 PM
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Follow the advice above and if you still have a gut feeling while doing that I would take that as your body trying to tell you something is wrong. Our intuition often shows itself with an unsettled stomach when a situation isn't for us and can other times show itself as that butterflies feeling when something is for us. That's just my observation from some research on intuition and gut feelings. Train yourself to trust your intuition because it is generally a great indicator of what you truly wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:26 PM
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I wasn't questioning whether it's made up or not, I was wondering about these rules I have not personally seen. No need to be rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:46 AM
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I know more men than I'd like to admit that worry about their looks and do nothing about it. BUT still want a "hot" girlfriend who will boost their confidence in their looks. So. Irritating. Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:48 AM
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Is this a thing???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 09:59 PM
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Basically a therapist who focuses on sexual issues.. like pornsickness! I once saw one with an ex, she told us how most of her clients were young boys around 15 years old with porn addiction. ETA: I saw the sexologist with my ex, but he was her client. I was simply a partner of her client. We broke up shortly after. Honestly thank goodness. Only thing is I wish I could have seen her for my own issues. Would have made things a bit easier for me when I was pornsick myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:16 PM
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First of all thank you so much for the support and for sharing your story. Opening up can be scary even in these kinds of spaces. I also used to love erotica and found it did nothing for me after a while of watching porn. Now I'm afraid to read it because I really am afraid to be triggered to want to watch porn. That's just me personally, erotica is supposed to help with our imagination. It can be descriptive in a way that someone can't help but see who or what they're talking about. I'll be rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:42 AM
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Yeah that's one way to look at it for sure, thank you. I agree that if he "played" with me it would have been much creepier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:00 AM
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Repeating for emphasis: Don't expect a feminine woman if you aren't going to act like a masculine man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:16 PM
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Right!? Even women fall for this. It's not just about cup size but also the band measurement. I'm on the itty bitty titty committee, but my bra size is sometimes a 32C when a 34B doesn't fit correctly. I just wear what fits. (Usually without underwire because ouch.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:12 PM
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I often point this out to friends in relationships where they play mommy, I ask them, "Who cares for the caretaker but themselves?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:52 PM
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Certainly seems to be the case. One of my exes tried to help with my depressive symptoms once by filling a bath for me. While naked in the tub I vented a little to him, he proceeded to tell me he wasn't attracted to me anymore and left. Like.. what???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:50 PM
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I believe the website I was looking for is Fight the New Drug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:19 PM
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I actually just made a comment on another thread in this sub about this subject. I was afraid to be ostracized as well. I instead found at least one other persons support. I think as long as we recognize the issue and are looking to fix it, we are welcome. Really we are just living proof of how it affects both sexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:13 PM
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r/pornfreerelationships seems to be a good one. I haven't visited r/pornfree as often even though I am single. There is another website that I know of but I am struggling to remember it's name. When I think of it I'll be sure to comment again! Also r/pinkpillfeminism is great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:04 PM
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I've been where you are. I was 10 when I started viewing porn. I'm now 26 and about 6 years "clean." I personally had no support and was unaware of the online porn-free communities that were available at the time. Maybe you can find some help within them. What I had to do to rid myself of this habit took a lot of will power. I started to read a lot like I used to as a child. I did some research on the porn industry through online articles and documentaries hoping to turn myself away from it. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:55 PM
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I can see both perspectives for sure. Sometimes when I cry sex is the last thing I would want from a partner even if it's intimate, loving, caring sex. Other times that may be just what I need from a partner. I think often in visual media it can be a little tone deaf, but certainly not always. I know, wishy washy response.. but I don't have a simple opinion on the matter I suppose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:51 AM
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Yeah I agree that your standards and boundaries go hand in hand. I've just never thought about it before seeing your comment. Thanks for the perspective!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:05 PM
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You're so right. Self worth and confidence come from within not from outside validation. Men will not accept that beauty is subjective. It's "in the eye of the beholder" as people say. Even a group of male friends will usually have large variations in what they find attractive. Just because a woman doesn't make one man's "peepee go doing, doing, doing" (thanks Eminem 🙄) doesn't mean she doesn't tickle another man's fancy. And again, a man's interest in a woman is only outside validation and does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:58 PM
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Yes! Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. I've had the same experience with my mental health and relationships. I prefer being alone to taking care of someone else's adult child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:49 PM
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If a man did that for a woman people would call her a spoiled brat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:23 AM
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Thank you for the support and for sharing your story too. Your comment has made me feel much better about my own. I was too nervous to add that I had done SW myself. At the time I thought it was going to be empowering. It most certainly was not. It made me so aware of what men really want and has given me a fear of cheating far worse than any ex who cheated had. It is definitely another aspect of how porn messes with women. I'm sending you social distance hugs and hugs to your past self. Be gent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:20 AM
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I'm being really vulnerable in this comment and hope to get support or maybe have others share their own stories. I'm honestly afraid to share this, but I think it's important due to the lack of research on women and pornsickness. I was once pornsick myself. Porn messed up my libido and the way I thought about sex and my body for a long time. It messed with my self worth. I was really young when I started watching it and I came to the realization years later that I needed to stop. I was having t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:26 AM
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Excellent advisement. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:06 PM
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Keeping this in mind for my newborn niece and nephew (twins) thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:39 AM
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Realism > Idealism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:38 AM
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As someone who grew up with a similar upbringing I really feel for her. I commented and messaged her suggesting she come here for advice, but I tried not to push too heavily because I know that I needed to come around on my own. When your whole view on the world is questioned daily from childhood it is hard to believe your gut feeling about red flags. But I've found this sub is helping me build my trust in my own intuition. I do hope she comes around to get advice, but I know not to hold my brea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:06 PM
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Use a texting app, on most of them you can pick your number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:59 AM
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I'm sorry this happened to you and I am proud of you for doing what was best for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:33 PM
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Even with injuries in my shoulders, neck, and jaw my ex wanted bj's. He would say "well I can do all the work" as if keeping my jaw open, sucking, and being face fucked isn't tiring, painful, AND degrading. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:30 PM
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"Good day to you madam" is the r/niceguy equivalent of "f u" it seems. Why do they browse here if it just upsets them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:58 PM
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If therapy has taught me anything it's that our mental wellness is directly related to our physical wellness. This upset stomach you and I have experienced around men is the gut feeling women have spoken about for centuries and still do. It's our intuition and it's STRONG!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:43 PM
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I was in an on again off again relationship in my first couple years of university. One time we were hanging out during "off" time to get back "on" and this happened to me. Had to go to the bathroom a few times during that hangout actually. Notice it wasn't a date. Netflix and Chill lol. I didn't listen to my body and I swear I still have trauma from this relationship. No one to blame but myself since my best friend tried to wake me tf up and I denied all help. Red flags everywhere and I was jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:22 AM
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It's great that your parents were able to see things from your perspective, accept the reality, and support you. It's unreal to me how being vulnerable can improve our relationships (familial, romantic, and platonic.) So happy for you! I am blessed to have a family that supports me even if they aren't "picture perfect." Very pleased to be getting along with my parents nowadays as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:12 AM
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This tho. My dad was away a lot for work and my mom and I don't always see eye to eye so I sort of fended for myself for a long time dating. I recently opened up to my dad about my ex. I have never seen him so apalled as when he found out I had paid my ex's bills, for his smokes, etc. Now he keeps reminding me I deserve someone who has their shit together and it's been really reassuring. I will never allow myself to be in that situation ever again. My poor dad looked heartbroken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:56 AM
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Happy cake day! Unfortunately, this is real. I checked her Twitter and she seems to send nudes for money even claiming men with girlfriends will not only pay for her pics but also her rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:44 AM
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Happy cake day! Also you put into words what I was doing with my ex prior to really grasping the FDS concept. I'm definitely still learning so I appreciate these kinds of comments that hit close to home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:02 AM
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This makes me think of men who do half assed jobs with chores so that a woman will take over to do it correctly and preferably never have to do it again. Even after being taught to do things correctly I have had exes do half assed jobs with chores so that eventually I wouldn't want to ask them to help because I would end up doing it all anyway. Also reminds me of men who need to be told to do chores or run errands as if they don't live in the house themselves. This is a really great post. Thank …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:53 PM
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The cam girl promotion is getting heavy on my IG feed now. I followed most of the girls because I knew them or I liked what they posted, but was unaware of the camming so lately I've been unfollowing many accounts. I used to be very pro sex worker, but through my journey with FDS so far I have come to question that support. I don't want anyone harassed or hurt because of their work, but I also have a strong dislike for the sexual gratification obsession we see in many men. Do you have any insigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:56 PM
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I admire you for this! Keep it up, you deserve so much better than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:50 PM
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This is such an important comment. Enlightening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:14 AM
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Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:13 AM
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I've dated one HVM and I didn't even know how good I had it. What a lesson I learned when my next few relationships were with absolute trash. Stay safe while getting out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:39 AM
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I'm 26 and just beginning my FDS journey. I resonate with your post so much. It's a bittersweet comfort to know I'm not alone. We are worth more than the way LVM and men in general have treated us. We deserve to get back what we give. Thank you for sharing your rant, I feel as if I was meant to see it tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:32 AM
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This is gross. I volunteered for a sexual assault crisis line and was educated in the topic quite a bit. We were taught to accept that there would be both male and female callers. We were warned that there would be more male callers than we probably expected. I don't know if anyone gave statistics, but before I had to stop doing this kind of work I was receiving more male callers than female.
/r/MGTOW24/12/19 06:51 PM
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Men are also more likely to die by suicide. True feminist rhetoric would include the struggles of both genders due to gender roles, but often I just find man-hate and I'm not cool with that. I know men who feel they have to be the provider and it causes so much stress and sometimes depression or anger. My dad is retired and still works now and then to support my mom and the family because their fixed pension income isn't always enough. Yes mom is stuck home doing a lot, but dad is off on his own…
/r/MGTOW24/12/19 06:48 PM
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This is beyond true and artfully written wish I could give you gold or silver stranger!
/r/MGTOW24/12/19 06:34 PM
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I have to say this is true for people in general. But as a woman I really do see this happen a lot in my dating life and it's sad because I would like to see the person I'm with flourish and follow their dreams. (I know this sub isn't meant for relationship talk sorry if this breaks any rules). I'm curious about this sub, I think it's important for everyone to have a space to discuss and grow the way this sub seems to be. I hear bad things about this sub but I don't see it myself. What is the ma…
/r/MGTOW24/12/19 06:33 PM
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The three words to solve any argument: You're probably right. Who cares if they think they're correct when you know better?
/r/MGTOW24/12/19 06:26 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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