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It’s easy to be skeptical but the reality is that there are women who are truly attracted to other women but they have no idea how to approach, flirt, or escalate, and they friendzone themselves every time they make a connection with an attractive woman. Their standards are usually very high too and they like very stereotypically feminine women. They’re basically waiting around for some 10/10 hottie to sweep her off her feet and take the lead but that never happens and the bi or lesbian women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:35 PM
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53% of people under the age of 30 have used dating apps. And 37% of the 30-49 age range which sounds pretty huge considering that a large chunk of that demographic has probably been married or in LTRs since before dating apps even existed. 20% of people under the age of 30 who are in a relationship met their partner on a dating app. And among people who have used dating apps, 79% of people under 30 and 44% of people under 50 have used Tinder. It's by far the most popular app. https://www.pewrese…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:18 PM
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And yet you guys keep talking about how you'd take anyone, your standards are low, etc. I'm not an incel, I have standards. Yet you want/focus on the best women? Sounds like you guys are Stacy chasers after all. Yes of course, guys with standards and options are. What's wrong with that. Like women say "of course we want hot guys".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:04 PM
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Women who claim that men self-select for bad women are just doing a gender-flipped version of incel talk. They hate that men are attracted to hot, fun, socially popular women so they demonize them as being some kind of bad people with bpd and try to claim that the only "good girls" are homely homebodies who've never been invited to the party. It's pretty obvious they're just jealous of women who are attractive and socially normal, just like incels seethe about chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:03 PM
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Of course I acknowledge that not every woman likes to go out and have fun. That’s the whole point. The women who don’t are probably unattractive, weird, live in a small town, or are religious fundamentalists who got married at a young age. Now you’re saying “house parties” are acceptable lol. So these “normal” women who don’t drink, have never tried any drugs, don’t go to bars, have never been out dancing or gone to a concert, and aren’t on dating apps are going to lots of house parties? And tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:50 AM
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Going dancing is NORMAL and has been throughout human history across almost every culture. Simple midwestern people of my grandparents generation probably met square dancing. Women who enjoy going out aren’t crazy or terrible people. If you don’t enjoy socializing, dancing, and listening to music you probably have social anxiety or some other kind of neurodivergent condition. Don’t try to paint conservative high inhibition shut ins as normal and demonize normal fun people as crazy trashy monster…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:24 AM
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Who said anything about minors? Anyway it’s deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:16 AM
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I don’t know anything about Tate or f&f. But what kind of grown ass adult has never been to a nightclub!? You’ve never been dancing? Gone to see a concert? I’ll tell you what kind of women hang out in clubs. Normal attractive single American women who went to college and live in a city.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:52 AM
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Not sure why it wouldn’t be but I deleted it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:49 AM
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The women that trp describes are attractive single American women who are socially normal and most likely college educated and live in a big city. That’s it. The idea that men select for some specific group of terrible crazy women is a nonsense cope. Attractive should be assumed. Women here will say “well of course we want hot guys” and the same thing goes both ways. It should be a given that we’re not talking about ugly women. Attractive women have a lot more social opportunities than other peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:34 AM
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You’re conflating “druggies” with “low income” which is inaccurate and frankly pretty prejudiced. Plenty of rich people do coke and pills and k and everything else probably even moreso than poorer people. Abusers can come from any walk of life. And I’ve dated nice college educated middle to upper middle class women who had experience with felons, drug dealers, heroin addicts, etc in their youth. Because women of all backgrounds like guys who are exciting, fun, and maybe a little dangerous or giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 05:34 AM
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I’ve encountered 3. One was somebody I met online and we had one date and then I found out through social media that she was violent and crazy. I didn’t seek her out, I didn’t know anything about her. Another was a casual fwb who seemed normal and I never would have suspected but she told me she was actually diagnosed so idk. I didn’t stick around to find out. And the other was someone I dated for a while and it started out great then got bad. There was really no “type”, no common denominator be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 05:18 AM
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Rich people like to party and use drugs too. You’re the one categorizing these women as terrible. Actual trp is about understanding women’s motivations and not being angry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 12:52 AM
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No it’s more like cluster b women get around a lot, are single a lot, and have a certain type of guy they target. One link I saw said it can be as high as 6% so a man would only have to date 16 women to run into one. But that’s ignoring the fact that they’re likely over represented in the single scene because they can’t keep a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 12:47 AM
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Because money isn't status (especially low level money like that) and women are attracted to STATUS. I've dated never-married women in their late '30s and early 40s who were still hot af and could have easily locked down some rich FAANG guy if marriage and money were all they were after. But they don't care about that, they want a hot guy with some kind of impressive status that they can show off to other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:43 AM
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I think it's supposed to mean guys with scrawny arms and legs who have a beer belly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:07 AM
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Just FYI there is no common law marriage in NY.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:45 PM
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I think that’s a dumb argument because it could easily be defined as a special skilled job. You don’t tell somebody on welfare “go become an actor”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:29 AM
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Af/bb, hypergamy, branch swinging, orbiters, assume attraction, develop an abundance mentality by actually having lots of options, dare not deer, hold frame, shit tests, she breaks rules for chad, and plenty of other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 08:52 PM
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I don't have time to dive into the study but I wonder about the difference between an income gap vs the actual amount of income. Like are we talking average guys whose wife is a sahm so there's a big income gap but he's not exactly rich and successful. Or are we talking guys who make a ton of money and if she divorced she would never be able to snag someone that successful again?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:33 PM
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Yes all of these guys who are so terrified that there are going to be some kind of awful consequences for approaching women are pathetic too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 08:04 PM
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You can't be an architect or a teacher without a college degree. Maybe you don't understand your friends finances as well as you think you do because some of those jobs you describe probably make as much or more as the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:38 PM
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Keep on walking. I wouldn't cry about it on reddit. I've been physically assaulted on the street before. You just get out of the situation as quickly as you can and keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:37 PM
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The fact is that they're just lying or overestimating how common it is. Even in left-leaning tech circles most of those women are going to be married to other men in tech who still make as much or more than them. These highly paid techy women aren't marrying construction workers, they're full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:35 PM
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How does that stand to reason? Most high earning women are married to men who make the same or more. It's not like there's some particular job that makes a lot of money and mainly hires women who go for lower earning men. Like I said before the study shows that it's mostly educated women with non-college educated men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:32 PM
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Right but that study shows that the wife being the primary or sole breadwinner is more common among college educated women married to non college educated men. So it’s more of a working class thing. The median income of women who are the primary breadwinner is around 80k so it’s not tech workers it’s probably couples where the wife is a nurse or teacher and the husband has a blue collar job.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 03:13 AM
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Interesting since that study shows that it’s more often college educated women married to guys with only a HS diploma. But I guess I can see how if two people basically have a very similar white collar job but she works at a place like Amazon she might make significantly more. What kind of jobs do the husbands have?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 03:10 AM
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And the flip side how is someone so fragile going to handle an interaction with an actual crazy person roaming the streets? How will she ever navigate living in a real city in the real world if she’s terrified of a guy trying to chat her up at the manga section of Barnes and noble in some suburban mall?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 03:05 AM
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Where do you live, and what kind of socioeconomic circle is it where there are "a lot" of couples like that because in the US it's pretty rare. Only 15% of couples under the age of 45. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 12:30 AM
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I have little to no experience with that, which isn't surprising since that's only 11% of married couples under 35 and only 15% of couples under 45, and those are mostly men with no college education married to college educated women. So mostly from lower class backgrounds that I don't have much experience with. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/ Struggling to think of some couples I know where the woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 12:28 AM
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Yeah an intelligent sociopath who is a master manipulator is probably some kind of very successful career guy in a stable relationship who is not violent. Like a Steve Jobs type.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:33 PM
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Often that's because the parents had tons of work done and the kids haven't yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:57 PM
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Women couldn't open banking accounts until 1974 with the Equal Credit Opportunity act. That's a myth. That was the first time a federal anti-discrimination law ensured that all women could open bank accounts in every state, but that doesn't mean that no women could open bank accounts. Some states allowed it and CA was the first in 1862. As far as I understand lots of banks would allow women to open an account but they had to have their father or husband cosign for them. There were even women ope…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:49 PM
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Come on dude literally no one thinks software engineer is high status or chadly. Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:49 AM
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No not really. A bad boy doesn’t have to be a violent criminal. He’s just somebody who dgaf and doesn’t play by the rules. Could be an outsider rebel type or a rich kid party boy or a sociopath ceo or coke head finance bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:26 AM
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Being unable to hold a job doesn’t matter if bad boys are just for casual or for having fun with in her teens and 20s. And not all bad boys are broke. There are highly successful men who dgaf and don’t play by any rules. They don’t have to be violent either. There are plenty of guys who just like to party and are low inhibition and a lot of fun who are also chill af and not violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:53 AM
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Kind of but with less judgmental language.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:42 PM
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Yes that’s basically the definition. It’s fine to not identify as bluepill but that’s what it means. It’s not an ideology it’s just the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:39 PM
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Do people who claim no pill not realize that that IS blue pill? By definition blue pill is just the default mainstream no pill state. I would argue black pill is also just angry blue pill guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 08:34 PM
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I'm in college I go, I don't know anyone there and it's just class, there's no chance for you to actually get to know anyone there. Are you in the US? Did you live in dorms? You've never talked to people in class? Gone to a party? alcohol is haram. LOL well there's your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 08:28 PM
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So you don't agree with the first amendment, good to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 07:15 PM
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People work around dangerous chemicals and risk getting cancer, work physically demanding jobs that damage their bodies over time, or work around people with dangerous infectious diseases. I don't think you can make a logical argument that those things are fundamentally different than prostitution. There may be some other logical argument against prostitution, but the "selling your body" one doesn't make any sense because even a physically undemanding office job that only requires brainpower is …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 07:11 PM
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Men sell their bodies too. It’s called labor. It’s pretty strange that you can pay someone to have sex in the US if you film it but not otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:11 AM
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Girlfriend yes. Wife never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 12:16 AM
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If women are universally, by definition of being a woman, hypergamous, monkey branching gold diggers, then the only sensible option is to cut them off entirely from your life. No trp says to spin plates, never cohabitate or marry, and enjoy the decline. Cutting them out of your life entirely is some anger phase mgotw shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:47 PM
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Every fuckboy player abuser me-too-allegation creep I know has a bunch of women friends making excuses for him who would happily endorse them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:15 PM
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You don’t agree that a real estate contract where each side’s obligations are spelled out clearly would be safer than a marriage where one side can break the contract at any time for any reason and still walk away with 50%? I have no idea what you think this has to do with commitment. I think you just can’t admit that your original post was factually wrong so now you’re just posting non-sequiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 08:55 PM
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You’re not making any sense. Now you’re backpedaling on the “banks will laugh at you” and changing it to “who wants to do that”. Again I don’t get your point. I would much rather create a real estate partnership with a trusted friend where it outlines how much each person puts in and how much equity they earn than buy a house with a spouse where they get 50% on divorce even if they contributed nothing to the mortgage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 08:43 PM
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I guess I'm not understanding your point. You made it sound like you have to be married to get a mortgage because if you tried to get one with a friend the bank would "laugh its ass off at you." I was just pointing out that that's false and banks have no problem lending to people who aren't married. They just add together the debts and incomes and calculate your combined debt to income ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 08:25 PM
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Try signing a 30 year contract loan with a “friend” and see the bank laugh its ass off at you That’s what a mortgage is. Huh? I did just that and know other people who have too. It's not rare at all and banks have zero problems with it. It's funny that you're so confidently wrong about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 07:41 PM
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Super large like… Seattle and Austin?! Lol what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 12:26 AM
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Also, technically, true average on a 10 point scale is 5.5. Not if it starts at zero. It's more like 50% out of a 0 - 100 scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:14 PM
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Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:00 PM
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Most of the time these women are still dating up though. Often it's the mega famous actor dating the lesser known up-and-coming actress who then becomes more famous because of their relationship. So after the fact it seems like they were on the same level even if they weren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:43 PM
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I thought looks discussions weren't allowed anymore but I guess if you're parroting some women are wonderful bs it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:40 PM
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It's not like he was unattractive because he was too feminine and pretty. It's the same face.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:57 PM
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It's not phony niceness, women really believe it. Look at how many women here say all of their friends are attractive, women are typically more attractive than men, or calling this woman pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:57 PM
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She's objectively not. This is proving my point more successfully than I expected!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:55 PM
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She's not attractive to me. Both are 4s. Women predictably overrate her because of her styling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:54 PM
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I mean objectively it's the same person! It's not like he was unattractive because he was too feminine or anything. She's still unattractive, she just has long hair and is wearing makeup lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:53 PM
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LOL women do it all the time! "OMG you're so pretty!" "you look gorgeous" "your hair looks amazing" "she can do better than him she's beautiful". They do it publicly when commenting on each others social media posts! We can all see it, don't lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:25 PM
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And him?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:23 PM
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I feel like most women if they were friends with her would say this woman is pretty. Or at least not acknowledge that she's below average. Seems like a pretty good illustration of why women overrate themselves and other women compared to men. https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/1798f9l/after_almost_30_years_of_fear_a_reason_to_smile/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:18 PM
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I don't understand how the median number of partners is relevant. I saw someone claim that the median for women is 4. But if you had a group of women with these numbers 0, 1, 1, 2, 3, 4, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 Wouldn't the median be 4? And isn't it logical to assume that the low ones partnered off early or are unattractive, so the higher numbers are what's actually common among attractive women who are single and actively dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:39 PM
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You don't sound very confident in your intelligence if you need an outside source to validate it for you with arbitrary grades. Grades are for children. Even if you are trying to go to grad school you shouldn't really worry about grades after you finish your undergrad around 22. You know, kid stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:01 AM
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Grades? LOL those are boys not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:19 AM
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It's funny how confident you are about SlowEffective's meaning of "repercussions". You seem to think it's about "safety" by which I'm assuming you mean STDs, pregnancy, rape, and murder. Like I said, I don't know what they meant by "repercussions" but through context I'm assuming that they were thinking of more redpill concerns like inability to pair bond, unrealistic expectations, being alpha widowed, and overall lowering of value as a serious candidate for marriage. Either way it's irrelevant …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:13 AM
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Here you go Icy_Ordinary2025 · 1 min. ago Yes, we can fuck a bunch of guys for fun and it has no repercussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:08 AM
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I have no idea what the other poster meant by repercussions but it seems irrelevant to the discussion which is about having sex with someone just because they're hot without concern for any other type of relationship compatibility. The safety part also seems irrelevant since most sane women aren't trying to get murdered. The safety part should be taken for granted. It's like if a guy said "no I wouldn't just sleep with any attractive woman I would only sleep with any attractive woman with a clea…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:07 AM
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The OP says it's weird for a man to fuck a woman just because she's hot if there's no other compatibility. The woman I just quoted describes doing exactly that, fucking a guy simply because she was horny and "the only thing that mattered" was that he was "a hot guy". SlowEffective8146 jokingly summarized that attitude that we see from women here all of the damn time as "I can fuck a bunch of guys for fun". I'm not going to jump straight to insults like you did but it's weird that you can't follo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:55 PM
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From just two hours ago It’s not some sort of crazy desire, it’s just that the woman decided she wanted sex that day and went out to get it. In that moment, the only thing that mattered was safety and attractiveness which is a hot guy. That guy may not be someone I’d ever like to spend time with but his only purpose in her life was to provide sex. Women can always find a man to hookup with so it makes sense that after breaking up and no longer having the expectation of monogamy she would go out …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:43 PM
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"But if I'm horny and he's not relationship material then OF COURSE all that matters is that he's hot. Duh."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:35 PM
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It was probably most common in prehistoric times but less common in 1950s than in 2023. I don't know, I've been meaning to make a post about this, but I listen to a lot of old music and it's insane just how many songs are about cheating women, broken hearted guys "you said you would be true, but you lied", or if the girl is good it's always listed as a reason why he loves her is because she is "so true" and would "never lie". And this is before the pill was widely available! I know that's just a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:09 PM
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It's incredibly hard for most men timewise and energy wise to have multiple situationships. It isn't glamorous, or easy, or anything at all like social media cliches. There's a lot of relationship-like things that come up in situationships. Not really. I've never "spun plates" or slept with multiple women at the same time. But I have had women who would text me like once a month to come over and we would have a couple of drinks and have sex and that was the whole dynamic. We never hung out outsi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:06 PM
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In my country, that kind of sports culture is nonexistent in colleges. The observations that TRP is based on were made by american men talking about the dating culture in the US. Sorry, but if you live in an entirely different culture, I don't think you can understand ours just by looking at statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:50 PM
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I didn’t realize so many guys think that women’s views come from “feminism” or “social media” and not what she witnessed or experienced growing up or in her day to day? I don't know a couple of days ago I was arguing with a 30 something woman on here who said that 30 years ago women didn't live alone and were reliant on men. It seems like a lot of young women truly believe that women were completely helpless and subjugated by men until very recently. As if Gen Z are the first feminists. I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:31 PM
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I'm not sure who annoys me more, people who would travel to Dubai, or people who believe there's a place called "Disney".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:58 AM
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Sure you match with a girl on OLD who's not that cute but maybe looks cute enough. You start chatting right away, get invited over to her place, meet her and realize she's not as cute as her photos but you're there and don't want to hurt her feelings, get drunk, fuck, never see each other again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:35 PM
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LOL a child is literally a dependent. It's harder than living alone! I don't know many women who live alone now, they usually have roommates. But if anything it was probably more common 30 years ago since rent was so much cheaper. Two women who both work and share an apartment together as roommates are still supporting themselves independently from men. No. Because it wasn't the 80s. Lol. Right, it was the '60s. The 1860s. "Alllll the way back in 1862, California became the first state to pass a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:53 PM
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Up until the 1970s/1980s they did. It's a relatively new thing for women to have the ability to provide for themselves. 30 years ago, women weren't living alone like they do today. Insane. You don't actually believe this nonsense do you? You think that women couldn't live alone and support themselves in... 1993!? LOL. One of my aunts was a single mom supporting herself and her kid and a small business owner in the '70s. My mom worked to pay her way through college in the '60s and lived with a ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:09 PM
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Agreed, I posted something similar the other day and I view status that boosts your smv like this: 1- Achieving something great and difficult that stands out over other men in the same field. So no "son of the guy" like somebody else mentioned. He didn't accomplish anything. 2- In a field that's interesting/exciting/fun/sexy to women like the arts, sports, travel, anything cultural. So not the guy who is a "high status" FAANG engineer. 3 - In a way that leads to an interesting, fun lifestyle tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:23 PM
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That's what I thought would happen to me after divorce but it hasn't been the case. Luckily I have plenty of other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:26 PM
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Your post is an odd mix of biological explanations and sociological explanations. If you look at it purely biologically wouldn't it make sense that ingrained behaviors developed over thousands of years of evolution would stick around even after sociological changes make those behavior seemingly obsolete? Looking at it from a sociological point of view, even after industrialization, a woman marrying up into a higher social class was still the best way for her to guarantee the best possible future…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:05 PM
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Fathers and sons and other men in the community used to work on the farm together or hunt and gather together. Then in modern times the men were all off at a couple of world wars and if and when they got back with severe ptsd they were at the office all day until late or traveling for work while the moms stayed at home and raised the kids. Then those boys who grew up with absent, abusive, emotionally distant fathers and entirely raised by women at home and in school grew up to also be dysfunctio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:50 AM
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Huh? Getting fat is the disordered relationship to food.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:10 AM
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Well if he was already attracted to her then the number one way for her to kill that is by gaining a bunch of weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:05 AM
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So the hotter a man is, the harder women will work to stay attractive for him, but if she feels like she's settling for a guy who is beneath her she'll get lazy and let herself go. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:17 AM
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And I'm countering saying that the brokeness clearly doesn't matter when lots of attractive women chase broke musicians and artists. You said that women would leave a model after 3 dates for being broke but then admitted that they would stick around for a year for a broke musician, kind of proving my point. In the context of male models it's assumed that we're talking about very young men who aren't looking to be longterm relationship material. But I'm old and know plenty of older musicians who …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:59 AM
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The post I was replying to mentioned musicians, celebrities, and athletes. I was saying that male models aren't high status and attractive for their accomplishments in the same way as those other guys because they're just hot. They didn't really do anything. You said it's because they're broke but I pointed out that it's not really a factor. A string of young women who stick around for 6 months to a year is a feature not a bug.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:23 AM
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Nah women will date broke musicians because it's attractive that they actually are DOING something and have accomplished something impressive that not many people have. Modeling is not really respected in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:13 AM
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Because the latter guys have actually accomplished something while the models are just pretty boys. And modeling is a kind of feminine field and it's probably assumed that many of the guys are gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:17 PM
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I can assure you looking after the kids is NOT chilling though. For the first 3 or 4 years, then they're at school all day, at playdates, doing after school activities, playing outside, or parked in front of the TV or ipad. I have kids and I've been a work from home dad. I know what it's like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:12 PM
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I think it’s sooooo weird for one partner to be spending the majority of their income and struggling whilst the other partner spends a minimum and is chilling This is normal for a lot of men. I make a lot more money than my partner and pay for everything but still am struggling financially. She makes a lot less money but her money is for herself and she doesn't face any of the financial stress that I do. It is what it is. Every single SAHM (1/3 of all married moms in the US) are "spending a mini…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:51 PM
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For your first point, you took the logical chain I used and completely reversed it. That's not what I said. Men are the pursuers so they usually don't receive active "interest" from women except for women who are beneath their league. So a guy can objectively be a 6 but never have even gotten interest from a 5 because he's never tried to even approach any women. Is this bad? Are you complaining? I can't tell I'm just describing reality. Men say that women date and marry up in terms of income. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:58 PM
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It's not even a real cmv because the OPs aren't required to actually engage with opposing points of view, concede any points, or even reply at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:54 PM
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Damn that's fucked. But also pretty fucked to do that in front of those kids. I have trouble with numbers so birthdays sometimes take me a minute and there are some similar numbers which trips me up. And doctors and dentists who gives a shit. But not to know their friends names, their grades, or even the name of their school? Pretty bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:48 AM
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That just sounds like she picked you up
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:40 AM
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Not only housework but "emotional labor"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:26 AM
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-The dating market tells you what you are worth. If a 5 has never been interested in you, chances are you're not a 5. It's more nuanced than that. Just because some hot drunk guy was horny and had sex with you doesn't make that your league. As a guy you can't judge based on who is "interested in you" since women who actively pursue you are generally beneath you. Some people are insecure or lack self esteem and stay with mediocre people when they could actually do way better. But if you've dated …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:17 AM
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just get weirded out and disgusted This is how men feel about anime too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:21 PM
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For 3 years maybe, but after that it's bullshit. Plenty of men work fulltime and also have partial custody of our kids so we know firsthand what it's like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:27 PM
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No, way off base. You can be a neurotypical and conventionally attractive man and dating is absolutely not "easier than breathing". This is who RP is for, not unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:40 AM
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Social intelligence would mean intuitively understanding those rules within the context of the situation and knowing how your joke/line/banter will land.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:40 AM
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The difference between sexual harassment, and rizz, and humor is basically nothing Anyone who believes this is not an intelligent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:02 PM
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Yeah it seems like if you're going to lose it all it's already well underway by 30 and if it's just going to slowly thin over the years, there's not much difference between 30 and 40 if you're lucky and take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:56 PM
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More like 45 imo if you're genetically lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:28 PM
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The TRP line (which seems to ring true to me) is that there are 3 kinds of women distributed evenly. The ones who absolutely aren't interested, the ones who would be open to it with the right guy, and the ones who actively seek it out. It doesn't always have to be "dating" either, it can just be sex. And it's talking about high smv guys, not your average fat middle aged dad. My biggest gap was 18 years in my early 40s and she was totally into me, I didn't "groom" her or "manipulate" her or anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:45 PM
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It depends on genetics and your life circumstances but it absolutely can get better for men. Early 20s can be tough if you still look like a kid and all of the women your age are dating older men. In my 30s I still had all of my hair, didn't start to age at all, although I started looking a little more masculine, and I didn't get fat. The people who claim otherwise are lazy guys who got fat or got genetically unlucky and women who are trying to push back against "the wall" concept by claiming th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:40 PM
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Are you a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:04 AM
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LOL imagine wasting months before finding out someone sucks in bed. All because you're too cheap to buy a couple drinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:10 AM
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if personality was actually the determining factor in dating, everyone would be open to dating anyone so long as that person possessed the other person’s ideal personality. Ridiculous argument. If being attractive was all that mattered then you should be equally happy dating attractive men or attractive women. There wouldn’t be so many people with toxic/abusive ex’s. Abusers are often charming at first and create a trauma bond by love bombing then withdrawing and playing hot and cold. Neither ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 09:21 PM
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This feels a little "narcissists prayer". Guys just describe the way things are and women here say "no that's not true" and then finally "well maybe it's true but life's not fair".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:11 PM
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This is why TRP says that AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 06:49 PM
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Nowhere in the article you linked does "Vanderbilt Law School" say that 47 states have equitable distribution. Go look again. That's something you extrapolated by misunderstanding the "3 of them require 50/50" part. It is a simple fact that 9 states are community property states and 41 are not, not 47. The mistake is understandable but the fact that you can't concede this small factual error is proof that you have no intention of honest debate. I could try to explain to you in more detail what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:07 PM
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No, you said that 47 states "equitable distribution" applies which is wrong. There are 9 community property states and only 41 without. The fact that you don't understand the distinction isn't my problem. If you can't admit you're wrong about basic indisputable facts, then there is no discussion to be had here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:47 PM
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You clearly didn't understand what you read. There are 9 community property states. That's just a fact. 3 of them require 50/50 split in all circumstances. Anyway it's a terrible argument. It's like saying "what's the big deal about abortion? only a few states have restrictive abortion laws, it's still legal most places". If there's an injustice there's an injustice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:23 PM
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"only three community property states require a 50/50 split in assets." There are 9 community property states. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_property_in_the_United_States
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:50 PM
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It does not say that it says "only three community property states require a 50/50 split in assets." There are 9 community property states and 3 of them including CA require that things be split 50/50 no matter what. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_property_in_the_United_States
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:49 PM
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Hmm this article says that 9 states divide community property 50/50, and that includes California and Texas which alone account for like 20% of the US population. According to the article other "equitable distribution" states can also decide to split 50/50 at the judges discretion. https://helloprenup.com/divorce/community-property-vs-equitable-distribution-states/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:28 PM
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So what, so does the average man. Does she bring more money to the table? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:26 PM
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On average, young professional men and women both have positive net worth. However, there is a large gap in net worth between men and women. Men have more than double the net worth of women, averaging $12,188 compared to the female average of $5,541. On average, women have investment account balances totaling $19,541 compared to the male average of $26,717. They have significantly lower balances in their investment and retirement accounts. This is particularly troublesome: over time, the investm…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:15 PM
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A third of married mothers in the US don't work at all and another third make less money than their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:11 PM
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The old trp and ask trp subreddits were full of angry sexists and right wing blowhards but if you could stomach sifting through it all there was some genuine good advice, insights, and harsh truths. I don't know anything about the weird world of podcasts and youtubers and names people throw around now though. I think it helps to have already had lots of experience with women though to be able to filter out who knows wtf they're talking about and who are larping morons, and to recognize which ele…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:13 PM
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You're not going to get the answer here. And you're not going to get it from women. That's why TRP existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 09:37 PM
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It's more than a little misleading. Your post is basically admitting that the only sane course for a man to follow in a relationship is to never show vulnerability or weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 09:34 PM
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Whine about it online apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 09:13 PM
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So emotional vulnerability is good, but not too soon, not too much, and you still might get turned off by it anyway, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:04 PM
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Would you like me to go over the development of romantic love as a concept dating from the courtly love tradition of the Medieval era, compare and contrast it to, for example, the Romantic period in art and music, Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:51 AM
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My friend circle is wide, I, personally don’t see any of the guys as having ‘status’ they are all just finance and tech bro. The women they date are all either in similar industries or are similarly educated. Their friends are also in finance, or tech in some way shape for form. If your social circle is all tech and finance bros then it is not wide and obviously none of the guys have status.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:33 AM
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Nicely said. A true man of culture and she replies with a wikipedia link lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:30 AM
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I see. Yes that's weird. When you said cancelled dates it sounded like they didn't live together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:33 AM
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So the better guy wasn't that into her and had better options and she was forced to settle for a guy on her actual level. The poster above is right, it sounds like you're perfectly describing what TRP talks about even if he technically doesn't have the bux. She's shown that she will cheat and branch swing, so it won't be surprising if she does it again the minute a better guy gives her attention. You made it sound like they were in an actual ltr. Now you're talking about "cancelling dates". It s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:21 AM
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Most women don’t participate in casual sex (I realize that this point relies on self-reported statistics and that women generally under-report sex partners, but to deny it you have to assume that the wide majority of women are lying and I don’t think that’s a particularly credible claim) I don't have to make any assumptions, I just know for a fact that every woman I've ever been with has had casual sex, either because they did it with me, because they told me, or because our LTR started with cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:15 AM
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Notice that you specify "in an LTR" meaning that women will have casual sex or short term flings with those exciting bad boys, they're just not "relationship material". If you're in your 20s I don't think you have a very good perspective on which of the relationships in your social circle are going to last long term and how and why some might eventually end or what their relationship dynamics might look like 20 years from now. Some of your friends might currently be with the guy who is going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:41 AM
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I know I'm a good listener but I have no way of knowing what her previous sexual partners were like. See the difference? I'm personally not worried about it but it shouldn't be a big mystery why it's something some men would be worried about. I know why my partner ended all of her previous LTRs and it was never because he wasn't a good listener.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:38 AM
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I'm in a happy relationship and I'm a good partner. But I'm smart enough to know that our life together as a middle aged couple is never going to be as wild and exciting as the non-stop party lifestyle she and her ex lived in their 20s. And if she ever cheats or leaves me it's not going to be because I don't love her enough. It's going to be because the other guy is new and exciting, hotter, or more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:08 AM
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Sure, after the hot toxic bad boy she's going to decide that she doesn't want that anymore and just wants the nice, comfortable, safe, boring, relationship guy. But there's a good chance that when she finds him she's going to eventually get bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:03 AM
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The "alpha widow" concept IS about emotions. It can be about excitement, unpredictability, ups and downs, and a whole rollercoaster of emotions that never leave her bored. The type of typical "being the best boyfriend" characteristics you're talking about are boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:18 PM
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I think most of us are probably over the age of 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 08:26 PM
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Not entirely true. https://femmefrugality.com/myth-busting-womens-banking/
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 08:26 PM
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Being celebrity adjacent like that isn't great in my experience. Worst case scenario is that she's had just enough of a taste of that world that the real world is always a little disappointing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:21 PM
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Even for very skinny women it's still most attractive for them to have an hourglass figure with larger hips and a skinny waist. It's not about fat it's about the hip to waist ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:16 PM
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"The wall" is about finding the best possible guy to settle down and have kids with, it's not about casual sex. Obviously women can sleep around forever, but they can't have kids forever, and their ability to find suitable father/husband material who isn't already taken doesn't last forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:13 AM
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No, most women are unattractive. If her face is a 3 she's a 3. Also not being overweight doesn't necessarily mean she has a nice body. The whole "just be skinny" thing is really stupid imo. Lots of women are flat chested, have weird butts, no hips, weird proportions, etc. Some women can be every bit as genetically fucked as the short guys who are always whining. I guess there are just a lot of guys with zero standards. If you think women who are 3s are attractive then you're probably a 2 or 3 yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 11:05 PM
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They are projecting their own insecurities and obsessions on others. As if women don't stalk the social media of a guy's exes when she starts dating him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:56 PM
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Women know men can handle one heartbreak/lifetime LOL. The minute a guy sleeps with a woman who is hotter than his exes he forgets all about them. You're just describing a loser who peaked early and does nothing to improve himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:54 PM
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We all know a man who got their heartbroken by some girl in high school and since then they have not been able to commit or open up emotionally to any other girl emotionally. When women do what you're describing TRP refers to it as being "alpha widowed". So you're agreeing with TRP essentially. The thing is men have a lot of ways that we can improve ourselves and level up the type of women we attract so it's much less common. I'm lucky in that every relationship I've been in has been better than…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:51 PM
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Uh, she's just straight up ugly. wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:36 PM
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LOL no most women don't care about that at all because most women have had casual sex and have a lot of options so it's nbd if it doesn't lead to a relationship. If she's really into the guy she might be bummed, but put yourself in her shoes: is your biggest fear that some hot woman way out of your league is going to use you for sex and then ghost you? No of course not, you would be happy to have had the experience and disappointed that you don't get to see her again.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:58 PM
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Also interesting No. None of this is interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:47 PM
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I don't think that men who are born into wealth have any problem. They socialize with women from similar wealthy backgrounds and marry into other wealthy and powerful families. If you're just talking about some average dude who happened to get lucky getting an office job that pays him way too much money? Well yeah he's not going to be able to date some old money woman but it would be much easier for him to hide his wealth since he's still going to come across as some nerdy average dude, not some…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:40 PM
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But again, women and children. So let's say that's only 15 million adult male tourists and 35 million german men for a total of 50 million. 1.2 million customers a day is 438 million a year. That's an average of 8.76 trips to the brothel per man per year. If the average customer goes once a month that would be 36 million men or about 73% of the combined german+tourist number. If once a week trips are the average then that's 8.4 million customers which is still about 17% of 50 million local and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:29 PM
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Uh 83 million people lol. 15% are kids. Of the adults, half are men, so it's more like 35 million adult men. So that's more like 3.4%. But that's EVERY DAY! Let's say the average customer goes once a week, then it becomes 24% of adult men. If the average is once a month that's about 100% of the adult male population. Now obviously it's not that high because a lot of the customers are tourists, but it's way more than 1.4%
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:38 PM
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I'm not a lawyer but it looks like the issue comes down to the concept of "public accommodations". So yes a brothel that is not handicap accessible could get in trouble, but a prostitute who operates as an independent contractor and does house calls would be perfectly in their rights to choose which clients they work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:41 PM
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A quick google says that in Germany there are 3000 brothels and the industry is worth 11billion a year, with an estimated 400,000 prostitutes and 1.2 million customers a day. Doesn't sound very rare!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:32 PM
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I don't think so or else you already would have seen this problem in porn which is legal. It's basically about plausible deniability as well. If a baker says "I will not make cakes for gay weddings because it's against my religion" then they're opening themselves up to a legal challenge that they wouldn't have had if they just said "sorry I'm booked full right now, let me recommend this other baker".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:23 PM
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Nah that's abortion. If prostitution were safe and legal it definitely would not be rare!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 05:22 PM
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Really? I rarely see any posters that seem to have actually understood trp. There seems like a lot of blackpill and autistic types and lots of people who completely misunderstand or misrepresent trp. TBH no truly redpill guy would waste any time here so the most redpill leaning types are more purple types who have a reason to be open to debating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:57 PM
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The women here are completely dishonest when they're trying to win an argument. To see real honesty you have to look at relationship advice, sex, twoxchromosomes, and other places where they feel safe to tell the truth. I'm sure if you did an n count survey here the average would be 5 but any place else on reddit where they felt safe in a sex-positive environment it would be more like 20-40.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:54 PM
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I'm just going by what other women say. Some women actually have some kind of hormonal motherly instinct that kicks in at a certain point. It isn't something men made up. But I guess maybe it's a myth https://www.huffpost.com/entry/childfree_b_1752906
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 10:59 PM
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Maybe not, but it's weird to say you knew without a doubt at 9. It would be like if a 9 year old boy said "ew girls, gross". He might be gay but probably he's going to change his tune in a couple of years when he goes through puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 10:54 PM
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I just say that as someone who has dated women in their 40s who regret never having kids. I love my kids but I have no feeling at all about other people's babies. They don't trigger some emotional, hormonal response in me. Do you really think that all of the women who experience that are just conditioned by society to feel that way? There's no biological, hormonal component involved in wanting to be a mother? Of course even if there is a hormonal component that doesn't mean there aren't women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 09:03 PM
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TRP specifically tells men not to waste time watching mindless entertainment and playing videogames. But then to me TRP was a subreddit with information shared freely, not some youtube channel or podcast, so I don't even know what some of you consider trp these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:11 PM
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Most women I know don’t even want children, so the whole “ring and a bump by 30” pressure doesn’t really hit the same anymore. It's biology. It's only going to get worse with all of these women convincing themselves they don't want kids and delaying it longer and longer before the biological reality kicks in. It’s a harsh reality of life that some people have an easier time finding sex and relationships than others. TRP is all about exposing men to harsh realities. The point is to become that gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:03 PM
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You should get advice from people older and more experienced that you. That's true for basically any field, any topic, anything in life. Why would an inexperienced person take advice from equally inexperienced peers? The young boys who do get good advice tend to get it from older brothers, cool uncles and male figures like that, not their peers. What if you're friends with people who are less experienced than you, who are gay, who have unattractive girlfriends, or who have been with the same per…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:42 AM
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And btw most people don't just "figure it out in their early teens". Girls don't have much to figure out since boys do all of the work. And if girls can just "figure it out" why do they need dating advice in things like teen magazines, books, "the rules", and fds? If girls don't need help learning how to be attractive to men why are there so many makeup and hair tutorials, beauty tips, fashion magazines, and all of that? That kind of stuff has existed for decades for girls and women without any …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:37 AM
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TRP was a space for men to share dating advice because our parents, the media, and the "blupilled" society at large gives terrible advice that's often the opposite of what successful men do. How is that not self-evident with even the most basic understanding of TRP? They say "ask the fisherman not the fish" or "watch what they do, not what they say" because women give completely wrong advice to men. So obviously your mother is going to give you bad advice. And one of the core books that newcomer…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:57 PM
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making sure they don't get taken advantage of They go hand in hand. People who don't know how to be attractive to the opposite sex are very vulnerable to being taken advantage of. They don't have a lot of options or experience so these are precisely the men who get used for their money and the women who get manipulated for easy sex. why would you believe they are good sources of information? This is the entire point of TRP. Also it's not like parents aren't giving advice to boys they just give r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:58 PM
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That's true and your point about the "angry black woman" stereotype is really interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:14 AM
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I think the problem is that a lot of women are hyper vigilant about male anger to the point that it's the only emotion they see or care about. I can't tell you how many times I've been exhausted, stressed out from work, hurt by something a partner said, annoyed by something a partner did, depressed about something going on in life, or just quiet and in my head and have been asked "are you mad at me"? It's never "are you ok", "how are you feeling", "is there anything I can do", "sorry I said that…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:42 PM
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very few of us know how quickly the women we know had sex with their various partners/how often. It's pretty easy for some men to get a feeling for general trends based on the women they date. If 9 out of 10 women I date jump into bed with me on the first date, it's pretty safe to assume that most women do or have done that at some point. Men can just read about other mens experiences online and apply occam's razor. Are hundreds of men going online anonymously and concocting stories to impress o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:04 PM
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LOL people like Einstein and Hawking had time for both. There's evidence that Tesla and Newton were gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:29 AM
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Let's be real they were probably gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:57 PM
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True it's also why fame and status are so powerful because its the perfect mix of a false sense of comfort due to social proof combined with the excitement of a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 03:28 AM
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It's a debate forum. The problem is that basic statements of fact are regularly taken as some kind of misogynistic attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:25 PM
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Another thing is that I'm convinced that men have a biological drive to fuck while women have a biological drive to raise children (biological clock, baby rabies). After marriage, kids, and divorce, some women might feel satisfied that they've already had kids and that drive is gone so they're happy single. But men still have that drive to fuck. This could be why men are more likely to remarry after divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:31 PM
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There's a compounding effect too. If you're a little weird or shy you're going to have a hard time finding a partner and then you'll be a social outcast not just because you're single but also for the weirdness that made you single in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:29 PM
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Different men get different treatment. Why? Because they are different fucking people. Yes one is attractive and successful with women and the other isn't. If the goal of both men is to sleep with the woman in question and one succeeds in doing that more quickly and with fewer strings attached, then by definition wasn't he more successful? Same as when may say a woman is for a "good time" or "relationship material". Right, if a woman sleeps with a bunch of guys and none of them want to stick aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:18 PM
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Most women have had casual sex and are open to having casual sex, sometimes on the first date, sometimes with strangers from an app, or someone they just met at a bar. Guys who have experienced it firsthand or seen it second hand know this is the case. So if that same woman turns around and makes a guy wait for months and jump through hoops before she has sex with him that's a good sign that she's not really sexually attracted to him and is just settling into a relationship with him for some oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:57 PM
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Because people settle. And most women have had casual sex. So men who haven't had casual sex but have gotten married should know they're being settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:23 PM
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The sub rules say no incel content and no woe is me posting but apparently that's not being enforced anymore. It's supposed to be a sub debating red pill vs blue pill, it's not a sub to discuss developmental disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:45 PM
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It's a sub about dating. Do high school jocks have trouble dating? Masculine hobbies are not unattractive at all but things like gaming aren't masculine, they're childish. It's not gendered it's immature, which is very unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:42 PM
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Most men don't like dancing which is why if you're comfortable with it and good at it, that can be very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:12 PM
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If you're a grown ass adult and your idea of a hobby is "gaming/yu-gi-oh"... well there's your problem. Not all men have "gender specific hobbies" some people are into cool things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:11 PM
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This sub seems to have become overrun with autistic dudes. It's like every third thread. I don't get it. Yeah it sucks and it's a major disadvantage, what do they want people to do about it? It's like making thread after thread saying "looks don't matter, what matters most is that you have all of your limbs". It's something that affects a tiny minority of the population, it's not a major issue affecting most people on the dating scene. Sorry?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:08 PM
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Above average guys are in a tough situation which is exactly what TRP is about. Ugly people know they're unattractive and can match up with each other. The absolute hottest 9 and 10 women can have anyone so they tend to end up with guys who are rich or famous. This leaves an overabundance of the hottest 9 and 10 guys who then skew the whole above average range by casually sleeping around with 6s and 7s. Guys who are a 6 or 7 can't really lower their standards and still be with someone attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:57 PM
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But women here say they see average guys in relationships all of the time. TRP is about not getting dead bedroomed, not getting nagged and manipulated and used, and not jumping through hoops for months dating a woman before she has sex with you, things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:30 AM
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No it started out with a lot of older divorced guys and just average dudes who had problems in relationships. It was NOT created by or meant for incels, autists, and kissless stem virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:28 AM
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Nope, BP is fine on dating and meeting new people. Just be a nice guy have a good personality, take her out on fancy dates, and all of that. That's why most guys who find TRP have already had relationships but they've ended badly or have been a constant struggle and guys don't understand why she lost attraction and left him for someone else. TRP is for casual sex and for keeping attraction going (essentially a relationship even if it's short term or non-exclusive).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:12 PM
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Boring guys are predictable, unambitious, not very social, homebodies, don't like traveling, risk averse, shy and introverted, have nerdy interests. Exciting guys are spontaneous, have big plans and goals, lots of friends, go out a lot and get invited to do fun things, take her on fun trips, down to do exciting thrilling things, outgoing, friendly and fun, and have attractive interests like being athletic, creative, and building things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:02 PM
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That's one way to look at it but my probably controversial take is that it's the other way around. Women want mothers and men want fathers. Hear me out. Postwar american families have passed down several generations of absent fathers either physically (at the office, traveling for work, off to war, dead, deadbeat, in prison) or at least distant and emotionally unavailable. This left women to run the household and raise the children. This is described in No More Mr Nice Guy. As a result, a lot of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:29 PM
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It depends. First of all what do you mean by single dad? A guy with fulltime custody of 3 young children is a different story than a guy with one teenager who drives who he has 50% of the time. Also age matters a lot. A 20 year old with a young kid is different than a 45 year old dad trying to date 45 year old women. In my experience (divorced with a kid 50% of the time) it hasn't hurt my dating life. For casual sex it doesn't matter at all. Nobody even needs to know. There's no need to mention …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 07:17 PM
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