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For like 10 years, I had a weird "friend" with ALL sorts of issues, mental illness, addiction, who was hugely flakey and started being creepy, who I felt too bad for to cut off. I'd hang out with him occasionally but only out of guilt. It was awkward and painful. Finally a good friend told me "You're not doing him any favors by pretending to be his friend." I'll never forget that. We are FULLY within our rights to not associate with anyone we don't want to, and if we're still hung up on how "unk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 07:31 PM
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Not sure if you are US based, but here we've got a great organization called The Phoenix that provides athletic and creative events to people striving to live a sober lifestyle. There are of course 12 step communities and more modern versions, like Recovery Dharma (which is Buddhist) and several others, some of which meet at the Phoenix. Think about your lifestyle and values (religion? fitness? healthy eating? art?) and remember others with those values want community too. Bright Line Eating is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 06:49 PM
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Imagine being 30 and still partying. And thinking it's spelled "partys." Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:09 PM
2

I could have written every word of this! Totally agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:42 PM
7

This is real as fuck. I think it's good to throw off that (very masculine) pride that keeps us from admitting this. No more of this suffering alone in silence because we don't want to look weak/pathetic/needy for having a BASIC human need for other humans. Let's have some humility and self-compassion, and I think the more of us start talking openly about this, the better it will be for all of us. So thank you for this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:32 PM
9

Oh God I'd have to bite my tongue off to keep from telling her she needs to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:30 PM
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Yep, feels like after 30 finding new friends is like pulling teeth. Women are all absorbed in their man/kids/career and in the dating world men are mostly shit. Getting into some sort of community is your best bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:29 PM
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Oh, it's 100% beyond my control, lol. There simply are not enough to go around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:52 PM
50

God that diet of his. Made me feel queasy just to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:29 PM
44

And I couldn't date someone who had hangups about my hangups around food. I didn't ask for these lmao, and I'm certainly taking zero judgment or cajoling from anyone else about them at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:28 PM
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We lie loudest when we lie to ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:42 PM
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And then they complain you won't snarf down the same garbage food and beer they do. Remove men entirely from the equation on how you treat yourself and your looks and health. It's the only option that makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:30 PM
16

Even my gallbladder winced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:12 PM
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I benefit from it a lot too, it definitely makes me look way "better" per societal standards. Going makeupless did not look "normal" for me either, I felt freakish, until it became my new normal. I'm very pale person with red hair and blonde lashes and brows. Now I just tint my brows every couple weeks and wear moisturizer/SPF. The natural face is what is normal, not fake stuff. We've been so conditioned by the beauty industry to find our natural faces unacceptable and I'm just done with it pers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:17 PM
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Thank you for this. I have a new rabbit hole to go down! I was listening to something talking about the new HBO show The Gilded Age, and they mentioned her. I will check out her books!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:30 AM
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I'm sure when he remembers and tells this story, he thinks of you as "crazy" and/or "a bitch" like you're the unreasonable one. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:02 PM
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Depends on the person and their interests and situation, but for any woman who's gone through an abusive relationship, I would emphatically recommend Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:06 PM
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1000%. You couldn't say this elsewhere without getting dogpiled for "slut shaming" though. Women really will defend their right to have dangerous shitty sex because liberal feminism has told them it's empowering even though they dissociate and feel like shit afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:30 PM
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Bluebeard is one of my favorite examples of this. It is symbolic of what so many women go through - slowly finding out a man is actually a huge monster and then having to escape him before they are added to the pile of women he's destroyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:47 PM
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And bi women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:42 PM
5

Yep, you know the feeling. I had a guy go down on me when I was super depressed and did not consent, I just was so sad I didn't fight it. So I know what it's like to just lie there while some fool beats off to the delusional idea of his own sexual prowess with his nasty scratchy face and slobbery tongue on my bits. It's dreadful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:02 PM
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This is not a loss on her part. I don't think either should stay through such a big incompatibility. Also ICK at him expecting her to let him go down on her when she isn't in the mood. She prob knows it's not about her at all but his gratification and it (rightly) feels like he is masturbating with her body to get off. That and/or he's terrible at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:46 PM
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This advice would have saved my younger self years and so much grief. Keep up the great posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 08:32 PM
9

Excellent post. This one is FACTS and will stick with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:04 PM
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This is me to a T.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:04 PM
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1000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:15 PM
48

No banana dicks for me, no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:15 PM
10

Lmao I snorted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:14 PM
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I wonder if one can become asexual later in life...say, 30. Because I think I'm there now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:20 PM
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Fantastic post. The reason we want anything is we think it will bring us some state. Take your focus off the thing you want and aim it instead at the state you want, and see if there is a shorter, better route there. There usually is. For example, we want more money because we think it will bring us more peace. If our quest for money is ruining our peace, then what is the point? Start chasing peace directly. Take your focus off the HVM and onto happiness/fulfillment and you will get there. I've …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 01:02 AM
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I agree, if a guy sees you're neurotic about eating/weight, he knows he can forever control you by gaslighting you into thinking if you were just thinner, he'd want you instead of porn, if you were just thinner, he wouldn't be so obsessed with having 3ways, if you were just thinner, fill in the blank...it's a way to keep all the focus and blame on yourself and off him and his scrotey ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:04 PM
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Omg eff that old scrote. Food policing is such a disgusting control tactic. It just betrays such a contempt for women and women's pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:02 PM
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I always have a good cackle or eyeroll when men say bearded like it's universally attractive. A lot of men with them look homeless or Taliban or leprechaun. I actually hate beards so much. I love the feel of a soft, smooth face, so if you can't grow one at all, even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:59 AM
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I had an ex just like this. You know what I think all this nonsense is a cover for, besides just control and emotional manipulation? I think men want to blame our bodies (especially body size, since it's something we're so sensitive about) for why they have erectile dysfunction in their 20s. When it's really the result of their disgusting porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:11 AM
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My eyeballs rolled out of my skull after the title line. Apparently all a guy has to do to turn repulsiveness into chivalry is wheedle "baby" and then not rape a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:56 PM
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Goals. Society teaches us the most important thing is whether we have a man, but it's actually the LEAST important thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:34 PM
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She's lucky she never procreated with this POS. Unfortunately she did waste 5 years on him. It was NEVER about her health. I'm sure that he's one of those people who "decides" unhealthy BMI is actually 22 and starts treating her like shit above BMI 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:19 PM
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Friends is trash and I don't understand the love for it AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:36 AM
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Still breathing as far as I know...but I do know he's had a few big wallops by karma!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:18 AM
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I'm not sure if this makes it worse or better, but he did it while kissing me. >_<
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:37 PM
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I remember being disgusted when my ex started doing dip, and when I registered my displeasure, he responded by spitting a big wad into my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:15 PM
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So well said. I agree totally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:51 PM
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I only wanted it so bad because I was conditioned to started in middle school, going through...about now. It's not an authentic want for me. At age 9 I knew I didn't want kids, and when I was told my husband would want them (as if it were a given!) I simply said "I won't get married then." It is just too much time investment hunting for the right guy and risk - risk of heartbreak, harm, and at the very least, wasted time and energy. Better to live a life and be a self I am happy with. FDS has he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:29 PM
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Being single is better than being partnered up. I love sleeping in my own bed for as long as I want, no one thrashing around and snoring and farting next to me or pestering me for sex...getting to do whatever I want, whenever I want, never having to compromise and get dragged along for some BS I don't care about, never having to clean up another person's filth, and having constant pace and quiet, being able to spend my time on my hobbies and self improvement instead of distracting a man from his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:52 PM
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#1 sounds unbearable tbh. I'd break it off for that alone, and I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:47 PM
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Talk is as cheap as table salt. Once he ropes her back in, the bullshit will commence again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:56 PM
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I respect your commitment to vetting and I think it is necessary, but holy shit, living with that level of hyper-vigilance? It sounds like fucking hell on earth to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:55 PM
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A year? No. You can never know someone enough to trust them adequately. People can be false for years, decades. Or they can change. Sad but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:54 PM
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Can you please message me the link as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:13 PM
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It was dating a guy who was "not that bad" and one of the relatively good ones and realizing he still was manipulative, selfish, and needy, and that hanging out with him was tedious and got in the way of me living my best life. And realizing I just don't need sex anymore. And of course finding FDS and reading all the stuff here and listening to the podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:10 PM
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Thank you for the rec! Definitely adding it to my To-Read on GoodReads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:01 PM
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Exactly. This is a brand new sentiment to me but mind-blowing and accurate. We need to spread it far and wide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 11:22 PM
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"Naughty salt" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:48 PM
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Wow, how sad is that, that Reddit is so invested in maintaining the status quo where women are exploited and trampled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:31 PM
12

Love (the feeling) isn't worth a fart in the wind. Action is what counts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:45 PM
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"Let's just go with the flow and see what happens" - I want to raw dog you and trauma dump on you and then continue doing whatever the fuck I please when I want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:44 PM
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They think the point of Tinder is to find free sex work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:44 PM
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I hate those guys. Nope. No questions. Could not care less to know more about Boring, Lazy Man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:43 PM
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100%. It took like a year and a half for the first glimmers of assholery to come out in my ex, a full 5 before his true colors were flying. He was super good at charming and ingratiating himself to everyone, even my dad who trusts no one. Narcs are masters at this. Be careful. Personally I doubt I will ever trust anyone again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 07:27 PM
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"Few things"..... "everything" only counts as one thing apparently!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:28 PM
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And just as important they all seem to want to prove something to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:03 PM
14

It's the same mentality as the people who think you are missing out in college if you don't live in a dorm and get blackout drunk every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:57 PM
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I'm one of those who can easily get off from (even pretty mediocre) sex and I still got to this point. Repulsed and tired of "living the dream" according to men. Casual sex takes me so far outside myself it's scary. I can't even bring myself to download ANY dating app now. It's just like...why. Even if the man is lonely existentially and wants my company as well as sex, its like...why am I wasting my precious time (my most valuable resource, even as a childfree woman) to mop up his fear of being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:55 PM
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I'm wracking my brain trying to imagine a tattoo of a female body on a man that's not sexualized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:04 PM
12

Ewwwwww, this just bolsters my revulsion at beards. Like kissing an animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:19 PM
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Lucky for me I hate beards and avoid all men with them lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:18 PM
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Idk how Gabby's family feels but to me, this is better closure than a long drawn out trial where he may end up under-punished and maybe even eventually free to harm someone else. As far as them not getting answers...what a crock. They would get no real information from him, only lies and excuses. What we can imagine happened is probably more accurate than anything he'd ever fess up to. If others are curious, as I am, I'm reading Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:08 PM
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And if you are 5'8" and 100 lbs they'll shame you for having no tits or ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:24 PM
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These men act so entitled to have every little sexual whim indulged while the women they're with beg for scraps of love and respect. Sickening. I hope she gets away from this trash fire and finds someone better. But first she needs to work on herself so she's not so vulnerable to predators like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:30 AM
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It feels wrong to blame women for the failings of these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:34 PM
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I hate the "teach men not to rape" thing as well. Children, sure, but what about the grown adult men that are terrorizing women right now? They know it's wrong, they just do not care about the women they victimize. You can't "teach" empathy to this brutes like they are just some Tarzan creature who merely needs to hear of the concept in order to internalize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:31 PM
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I don't think there's any moving past it. We can't force ourselves to stop liking what we like and disliking what we dislike. It's not like this is unrealistic or twisted or depraved like porn-based preferences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:14 PM
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Hell yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:21 AM
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I'm wheezing, Jordan Peterson has a benzo addiction? Do tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:18 AM
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True. What an awesome thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:16 AM
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Even if you find a good man, he can get hit by an asteroid, or a bus. Better to invest your time and energy in more solid and reliable things. It's about survival.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:13 AM
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This is like those VICE stories about the so-called "leftover women" of China, women past 27 who are unmarried. The culture shames them viciously as expired goods when the real anxiety/sadness belongs to the surplus of men no woman wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:12 AM
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Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:58 AM
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Agree, FDS is has become to me (and others) a complete restructuring of values and priorities to things besides dating. Wish we had a whole sub about just being independent financially and psychologically and just deconditioning ourselves from the patriarchy entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:27 AM
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I feel like if you gave a bonobo a phone that's exactly what it would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:19 AM
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Not my intent but I can see where you are coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:11 PM
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Oh wow this just gave me a realization. 35-year-old men think it's ok to date 17-year-old girls just because they have not mentally grown at all since that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:33 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you!! I also find myself asking if there is anything wrong with me for this. There is some guilt, but it is a guilty pleasure. I love the freedom of being by myself. When I was younger I couldn't bear it - I felt incomplete, anxious, depressed if by myself. Now though? Alone is my safe place. I even go to movies alone on occasion. I enjoy just being able to watch the movie without a guy making sheep eyes at me and pawing at me and whispering at me. Whenever I'm hanging al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:11 PM
1

Ultra-shitty men pave the way for medium-shitty to mediocre men to get and keep women. They're glad their brothers in scrotacity are out there greasing the skids for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:58 PM
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This man is the equivalent of a ring made of balled up tinfoil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:00 PM
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Also if you have an eating disorder or addictions, and you're really struggling with those, I guarantee whatever person you're dating has something to do with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:18 PM
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Lmao I can't anymore. Since being on FDS and reading The Gift of Fear, I have such a sense of danger and disgust when I contemplate getting back on online dating that I simply cannot do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:42 PM
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FWB is a scam, don't have sex til 3 months in, prioritize your own growth and independence over dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:40 PM
24

I bet he is shaped like a barrel with legs and still considers himself fit because he has a glimmer of bicep definition but he probably gets winded while walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:29 PM
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Men that mourn "the one that got away"...I guarantee she thinks of it as "thank God I got away." When will they stop seeing us as objects and start seeing us as people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:43 PM
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Anyone who tries to draw an equivalent between them, I lose all respect for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:02 PM
7

If a man is ever like "yeah my ex was crazy" my assumption is he drove her there and I nope right out. But really, I think the main problem with all this amygdala activation is that we are taught that THAT is love. The heart racing, the butterflies, the obsessive thinking. And we think as long as we have amygdala activation around a man, it ~means something~ and we have to stay no matter how unhappy we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:57 PM
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Jealousy/possessiveness needs a mention. Double standards. He can have female friends but you can't have male ones. He wants you to pursue women for a 3way but expects to have complete control over every little interaction between you, flips out if you do anything without his express consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:48 PM
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Sadly now whenever you try to tell the younger generation the world is dangerous and they need to be more careful, they start frothing at the mouth and shrieking at you for "victim blaming" them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:50 PM
1

What's his IG?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:07 PM
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"Is he usually pretty patient with you?" Yeah, but he gets frustrated a lot." Uh sounds like he isn't actually that patient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:06 PM
57

It's wild he gets a hotel while she is left in a car alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:04 PM
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The cop just admitted she needs to be drugged to deal with him. Cops radiate such a high strung energy at all times, they're awful to live with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:49 PM
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Exactly! What the actual fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:47 PM
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Yup, I was just telling my sister he has big Chris Watts energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:47 PM
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I've been watching Z: The Beginning of Everything on Amazon (about Zelda and F. Scott Fitzgerald) I don't know how true it is to actual history, but I will say I have been conditioned to tend to a husband the same way as Zelda does. While Scott isn't complete garbage, he's basically a giant toddler that Zelda has to coddle and caretake. She makes sacrifices for his career while he actively stifles all her own dreams and ambitions. Because at the end of the day, she is responsible for his happine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:42 PM
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Also iirc it is HER van and he was trying to lock her out and leave her, of course she was freaking out! Who wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:13 PM
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I loooved that concept, empowerment vs liberation. That clarifies so much and will really stick with me. Empowerment is feelings based and subjective and individual (and can often be achieved by the purchase of a product or service) and liberation is objective and collective and cannot be purchased in the form of a frivolous product service. With this lens, pageants are absolutely not liberation but may feel "empowering" to the winners. I hate this idea that ANYTHING that even a few women enjoy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:01 PM
4

It makes me burn with rage and shame when I think my ex did this and I accepted bc his dick was in me. It was abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 07:51 PM
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A friend of mine recently was GUSHING about this guy because I guess when she asked him what body type he preferred in women, he said "It doesn't matter, it's more about who she is as a person." Bull. Shit. It's SOOOOO easy for guys to just lie and tell us what they think we wanna hear. And so many of us are SO ready to think that he's actually being honest (lmao) and that this makes him aMaZiNg. The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:12 PM
2

how do you make the premise itself, i.e., confining and trapping a person wholesome? Well, Beauty and the Beast did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:33 PM
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It's been my sister's and my wish since we read the story in the Grimms' fairytales that Disney would make a Bluebeard movie but NOT clean it up and make it "wholesome." There are some really fucked up stories in there, but I think it's better to do that there than try to sugarcoat everything the way Disney "romances" do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:52 PM
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Ding ding ding, literally spent years thinking that was what mattered most about me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:50 PM
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Yeah I have one of these right now who is like (to me and my other friend) "Let's do double and triple dates!" But I am not dating anyone and don't care to at the moment. But she's been asking to hang out one on one too. I feel bad for her bc her relationship just ended horribly and dude was NV. But while she was with him, she was MIA constantly for like 6-7 months. Now she has a bunch of new dudes lined up and it's only a matter of time til she is gone again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:28 PM
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Also, piggybacking on this, if you grew up being treated horribly by a parent (but only occasionally!) you will rationalize a LOTTTT of shitty behavior from men. Because if mom didn't kick dad to the curb when he abused you, and the official story is that he is a good guy, well then, good guys can be terrible sometimes, goes the thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 11:40 PM
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"I love(d) him." It's always the answer, isn't it? But what is love exactly, but a pulse of intense emotion? You can get that from anyone where there is history, especially a contentious one. Emotions can be deconditioned, habits unlearned. Women need to love themselves as fiercely and thoroughly as they love these worthless men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:17 PM
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His first wife was 15 years older than him, now his second is 19 years younger. Hm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:43 PM
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Men want to be loved unconditionally while they love you conditionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:36 PM
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This is so specific yet so accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:30 PM
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Reminds me of my 4-years-older douchewaffle ex I met in college. All semester we were in a 4 person group together and I never noticed him, he asked me out by hunting me down on Facebook and messaging me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:22 PM
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This is 100% only said too assuage fragile male egos. They love to dish out body criticism but they can't take it themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:40 PM
15

My idiot ex roommate did this, and mad as I was, I still was kind and forgiving to her because even though she was drunk, it was an accident. She realized she was stupid and understood the severity of it. I had no relationship with her and I was still kind to her. Dude is an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:47 PM
2

Interesting, sorry to be basic but can you recommend a good place to start learning about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:31 PM
4

"I have entirely lost interest in men, dating and male friendships" Same. Personally I got into pour painting and adopted a kitten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:31 PM
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He probably has a paunch and receding hairline and pockmarks. This is the sort of man to literally cause an eating disorder in a woman and then ask why she is doing eating disorder behaviors. Hopefully he falls off a cliff and doesn't have any impact on this child. Imagine if it's a girl. She will never stand a chance at a normal relationship with food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:54 PM
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I'm so sick of men viewing sex as need and an inalienable right. It's ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:09 AM
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Junel 1/20 gave me interstitial cystitis and ruined my life. I took it for an ugly scrote who cared more for porn + his hand anyway. I got off the pill bc depression but he pressured me into condomless sex anyway so I figured I had to take the pill. June/ 1/20 was cheaper. But it cost me my pain free body. Biggest regret til the day I die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:45 PM
54

Society tells us CONSTANTLY that we do not measure up physically, and because we go around feeling deficient, we have empathy for unattractive people and want to give them a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:40 PM
16

Thank you FDS for this. The whole pandemic I talked to a guy who seems HV but when I finally met him I was honestly grossed out by the thought of sex w him (he's 15 years older) so I nixed it. He took it super well and we're still friendly. But I'm glad I didn't try to force it. It would have been even more awkward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:36 PM
10

So creepy and pathetic of him. And sad for her. She deserves her moment without him ruining it. And I guess she wasn't marriage material til she won? Hmm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:31 PM
6

Why the fuck would anyone agree to that? It's basically slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:39 PM
24

Lmao I always thought the lyrics was I'm running through these aisles like Drano and I just pictured LMFAO running through grocery store aisles and didn't question it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:30 PM
70

My ex dumped me by text and then 5 days later when I was going to a military town to visit my (female) friend he texted me sniveling "it's all just hitting me now..." and he whined that I was probably going to hook up with some military guy. When I was heartbroken he didn't give a fuck, he only got upset once I started to heal and move on. Pathological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:04 PM
24

I remember my high school bf and I watched every Futurama episode together that was available at the time. He was a deadbeat and dumbass and I was just like..."We're just like Fry and Leela, so cute." Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:40 PM
28

Have to chase one down is a huge turn off. If it's effort for me to make sure I get one then I'm not gonna bother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:00 PM
13

Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:31 AM
12

HA! Underrated comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:01 PM
23

What I hate about this is the most is it equates dehumanization with not wanting to date someone. We should be compassionate for the homeless and treat them like human beings but that does not mean we are wrong to judge them as undateable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:51 PM
32

WHAT??! NO. I am CHJOKING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:40 PM
29

If you pretend you haven't done XYZ and ABC they will just be like "How do you know until you try it?" Counterpoint - but even if you HAVE done it and didn't like it, they will be like "Well you'll like it when I do it, let me try."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:31 PM
103

He is dating her for the sex because he clearly does not see her as person or care about how she feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:27 PM
22

The fucking entitlement is breath-taking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:25 PM
19

Talking for 4-6 hours on the first date. I can do that with just about anyone intelligent. Doesn't mean we have a connection/future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:51 PM
15

The fapping takes more like an hour bc his dick is so desensitized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:34 PM
9

RIGHT. I actually hadn't thought about that detail in years but that's the most fucked up thing about it. I can't believe how dense and oblivious I was to think I was in a good relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:24 PM
19

Ostensibly for a 3way bc I'm bi and was down for those and therefore a cOoL gIrL. We actually went to this shitty motel/swingers club in east Denver with a pool where IN THEORY you can meet people for group sex. It's mainly old naked paunchy white guys in the pool. Though there was this middle aged black couple and the woman wanted to go down on me and I was for it, but my ex said no. See it was never about my pleasure, not even on my birthday. It was truly all about him getting to fuck some str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:23 PM
94

My ex gifted me a hooker for my 21st birthday. So he could fuck her in front of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:43 AM
3

I dated a NVM like that in high school, late 2007-2009. I met him at his job at the mall. Shortly after we began dating he quit his job and then refused to look because none of it was what he wanted to do (as if hostessing and cashiering were my dream jobs). He blamed the economy and I let it slide bc jobs were scarce then. I paid for absolutely everything. Days after I dumped him the second of three timea he'd gotten his original job back. Fucking lazy leech. I'd been the one to ask HIM out. Ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:55 PM
26

I dated a NVM like that in high school, late 2007-2009. I met him at his job at the mall. Shortly after we began dating he quit his job and then refused to look because none of it was what he wanted to do (as if hostessing and cashiering were my dream jobs). He blamed the economy and I let it slide bc jobs were scarce then. I paid for absolutely everything. Days after I dumped him the second of three timea he'd gotten his original job back. Fucking lazy leech. I'd been the one to ask HIM out. Ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:55 PM
30

I think media/makeup companies vastly overestimate how much beauty their products confer. If you're pretty, you're pretty makeup or not. There is no ugly guy makeup could make handsome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:46 PM
6

I was once in a throuple with a NVM Narc and a wonderful woman who I am still friends with. She wasn't the problem. The NVM put no effort into looking after our emotions, was totally selfish, was never satisfied and was quickly wanting to add a 3rd girlfriend, basically did this without consulting us (oh guess what, I'm talking ____ to Japan) still cheating w a few other women, etc. I wouldn't mind the other woman (depending on who she is) but any man that isn't satisfied with one woman sure as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:14 PM
24

Same, he was a thing in 2016-2017 and again in 2019-2020. Finally got away but wow was he manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:32 AM
19

I am concerned because the vast majority of sex I have had I have been less than 100% about it. I am implementing this rule as well. I may never fuck a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:53 PM
24

Honestly ditto dad jokes/bad puns/sex jokes or some hideous amalgam of all three. These are the lowest form of humor, and they literally vaporizes any and all attraction I might have had to someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:48 PM
15

I'm picturing them both at Arby's working the same position lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:43 PM
11

Who the fuck is going to be footing the bill for travel and/or kids? Is it really his money and her choice? Dubious. But if it's her money and her choice then he is just a fucking barnacle to a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:43 PM
162

This plus dry-ass pussy is the WORST, it's like what the fuck are we even doing here and why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:35 PM
37

BeCaUse GiRls WiTh DadDy IsSuEs ArE teh HAWT!!!!11one (and we all know that hotness is the highest aspiration a woman can have!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:50 AM
1

This poor woman. This man needs to be drop-kicked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:09 PM
230

Re: the daddy issues, I brought this up elsewhere and a bunch of men tried to tell me "but, but it's a compliment!" As if I was to be flattered that the psychological damage caused to me by one man was sexualized by others. Go to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:57 PM
10

A fuckboi I was messing with last fall-winter, his ex gf was OBSESSED with Beauty and the Beast and they had like anniversary dinners at the Beauty and the Beast castle or whatever at Disney World (don't know exactly cuz I haven't ever been). And he got her like Beauty and the Beast jewelry. I just...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:31 PM
11

Evil: The Science by Humanity's Dark Side by Julia Shaw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:17 AM
41

But but! We've achieved equality of the sexes so this shouldn't be happening /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:27 AM
29

Horrifying. I was reading a book about our conception of Evil by a psychologist and in the chapter about sadism she talked about a study where when given a choice among 4 tasks, about 25% of people volunteered for the sadistic task of crushing bugs. These people are not rare. They walk among us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:32 PM
4

What's erectile distinction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:44 PM
16

CONSTRUCTION PAPER. DIDN'T USE TOILET PAPER. WHERE. HOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:51 PM
19

What a dipshit. Maybe he lacked the dexterity? I couldn't do a ponytail til I was about 8 or 9 and it took a lot of practice. Still, good for you for leaving. I've never left a date yet but one day I probably will thanks to FDS.
/r/askFDS29/06/21 06:59 AM
17

Slightly OT but how can you ever really know if he still watches it? It's something I'd think would be easy to hide if he has alone time at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:58 AM
85

Lol @ men like that. They don't take it seriously but expect full access to our bodies. Fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:40 PM
16

Oh god poor thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:39 PM
40

PSA even if he likes cats he can still be flaming garbage. My ex didn't like them until we got one, and she's so awesome he changed his mind. He made cats one of his things, but he is still a giant narcissistic misogynistic tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:14 PM
9

OT but that's why I can't eat spinach, the feeling it leaves on my teeth is legit like sweaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:30 PM
1

Summer 2020 was an interesting time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:12 AM
35

Not the paint off the wall! I'm dying at that visual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:35 AM
110

Don't forget about dirty nails! Fucking blue-black crescents of filth under their nails and they have the audacity to want to shove their fingers in us. I legit do not understand this. Their parents have failed them. I have been working from home the last year and a half and I will go days without seeing someone else, but I shower, wash my hair, wear deodorant every day no matter what. If I don't, I feel gross. It's not about impressing others, it's about having some self respect and not being d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:34 AM
31

I'm losing it at FUZZY teeth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:29 AM
9

The way the little girls are posing makes me want to puke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:19 PM
21

Freddy Mercury abused children? I hope I am misreading your comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:40 AM
21

And they want you to be at their beck and call always, hold you hostage all evenings and weekends. I think some of them are actually so delusional they think sex holds the same importance to us and therefore this is a fair deal. Lmao as if.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:35 PM
53

Ugh, that makes me shudder. As if sexual gratification at our expense is some commodity that doesn't psychologically damage us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:03 PM
11

An ex of mine has dick enlargement surgery. I found out way later after talking to another of his exes. I guess they take some fat from his body and jam it in there. Hilarious because he did not need it and it caused tears for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:20 PM
12

Wow this hits. One of the reasons my 15 years older scrote ex dated me was because I could still get excited about things and enjoy them (ie the Bahamas, it was boring to him but the experience of a lifetime for me) He lived vicariously through me. And since he paid for shit he felt it was to his credit when I was happy. But that relationship was a huge shitshow full of lying and cheating and manipulation. So he ruined my happiness for a year in exchange for some of my life force.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:54 PM
8

I agree - they are scratchy and wiry and it's like making out with a Brillo pad with lips. Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:20 AM
5

I absolutely hate the look and feel of beards. I have to laugh at the delusion that they are assets or something to be proud of when 4 times out of 5 the beard is mainly there to obfuscate facial features/out of laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:19 AM
3

We moved when I was 4, and we looked at a lot of houses. I literally loved every house we looked at and got attached. Because I was a child. The kids will be impressed with whatever. That's horseshit what that realtor did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:11 PM
9

Cuz remember, anger isn't an emotion when men do it! You're only emotional if you cry! Meanwhile screaming and throwing things and punching walls is A-OK! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:26 PM
7

I feel like the men who throw the loudest tantrums about ~evil gold diggers~ are upset because money is the only thing they can offer a woman and being reminded of it wounds their ego. 100%. They're ugly and/or fat and charmless and actually have the audacity think that you might give them free sex and companionship when there are billions of people on this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:10 PM
7

Also, if he tries to call your his GF after 1 date (as I had two much older scrotes do) you are still single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:08 PM
12

Said it before and will say it again, 90% of men are not attractive. I no longer am going to poison myself to be able to tolerate sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:02 PM
13

Me too! I can't even sleep next to a nonthreatening dude who doesn't move and doesn't snore. Their presence bothers me and I can't relax. Also if it's not my own bed, forget it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:33 PM
9

Cue the Michael Cera meme: Oh jeez that's me. I would have consented but I was passed out drunk. Still rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:28 PM
15

It's like people lose their minds if you use the words overweight or obese, smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:20 PM
17

This comment should be its own post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:19 PM
29

I spit water on my computer screen lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:19 PM
2

Is environmental science mostly women? I have a girl friend getting her PHD in Natural Science and Resource management and her team of colleagues is like 2 men and 7 women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:13 PM
2

Fuck yes, I'm glad others have had this experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:06 PM
7

Wow, now we are being shamed for wearing breathable fabric. No end to the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:02 PM
3

Lmao A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:02 PM
10

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:01 PM
8

The worst of both worlds, oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:00 PM
4

Women who stay single live longer and are happier, why is this story that it's "sad" to never marry perpetuated? Because without it, so many scrotes would be without a bangmaid/cook/baby factory. I say good, let them die out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:34 PM
2

Asked my ex this, and he was just like, "I just can't help it." Meaning he just couldn't help preying on someone young and vulnerable bc he thought he'd get a great narcissistic supply in return and a baby factory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:30 PM
2

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:26 PM
2

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:26 PM
1

1000%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:25 PM
2

Yeah NO. What the fuck. Getting fingers stuffed in you while dry is NOT in any way like shitty Tombstone frozen pizza. ZERO enjoyment in feeling like someone is ripping through your vag like it's tissue paper because he can't turn you on and thinks the secret to it is just jamming things in until it gets wet. And ofc this is not even close to the worst it can be. Fuck men. I would say sex is like Dollar Scoop Chinese food - when it's good, it's surprising and rare, and when it's bad, it's like..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:23 PM
309

A man I hooked up with called a bikini cut peach-colored pair of underwear "granny panties." As if I should be parading around with sparkly floss up my ass at all times? No. I might have worn cuter underwear if my period wasn't incoming. I bled all over him and his bed, served him right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:56 PM
5

I actually did a thought experiment on this...wrote a letter to MY 20-year-old self, and then tried to apply these principles to myself as a 30-year-old, as if 40-year-old me was telling me the same shit. Basically it was DUMP HIM, don't date, focus on your career, and hold yourself in MUCH higher esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:11 PM
130

For me, I always thought I'd be devastated at the first signs of aging but instead I felt such relief at my first tiny lines, like thank God, it's starting to end, finally I can go back to just being ME, like before puberty when I was a person and not a shell striving to be the best fuckdoll possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:23 AM
50

This!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:20 AM
29

They get soooo mad that threatening to withdraw their approval does not phase us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:51 AM
27

"De-center men." Love this, wish I had the idea 11-12 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:48 AM
32

In my experience, I've really only been discarded a couple times. In the vast majority of cases they don't want to discard me so much as keep me in their lives as a free source of company/emotional labor/casual sex going forward (aka FWB). Because of FDS though I'm starting to see a guy wanting "casual" or FWB as audacious and insulting. I am not giving a good chunk of my time each week to a man with whom there is no love, no future, and who still gets to act single and coat his dick in HPV doin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:44 AM
66

Omg this reminds me, I did trade school in high school for engineering graphics, and my teacher told me I was by far the smartest and best candidate for the one internship available that fall (it was 2008 so it was miraculous there was even one). They gave it to a boy. I also interview well, always have, and my teacher recommended me. Looking back this is probably a big part of why I didn't want to do any further STEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:01 PM
5

Orthopedic problems too, ie sciatica.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:53 AM
61

And he'll probably want to open the relationship bc wahhhh she isn't a 24/7 sex doll anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:32 AM
23

Smh he'd be on his phone the whole time anyway, looking at porn or trying to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:31 AM
19

Horrifying. Women just need more TP. We have crevices! I doubt these crusties limit themselves to two squares of tissue when fapping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:54 PM
40

There's also a faint hint of parmesan in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:46 PM
5

WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:32 PM
14

As my mom taught me, "Pee when you can, not when you have to." And any man who makes fun of a woman for needing to pee more often (when our bladders are smaller, helloooo) is a POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:32 PM
5

Ewwww god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:12 PM
25

This did happen in the 1950s or so iirc. Whatever class I learned about it in, we talked about how it was bullshit he couldn't just listen to black people but had to experience it himself. Same exact thing here. Like imagine thinking an ENTIRE HUGE GROUP OF PEOPLE is just lying about something. Psychotic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:17 PM
18

The entitlement of these scrotes is unreal. I guess all women need to be as easy as ordering a pizza or pulling up a porn video to fap to. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:09 PM
428

Men have literally been whiny babies about sex for millennia. Sex is not a need, never has been, never will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:28 AM
30

Crusty, tubby old chrome domes really get on SA thinking they're entitled to normal date women 20-30 years younger and not pay up. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:51 AM
121

"if sex for some reason is absolutely necessary" sex is literally never necessary but ok. Sad they have to say that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:31 AM
11

Or embroidered on a pillow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:27 AM
5

This made me squirm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:26 AM
11

Or their sheets!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:25 AM
6

I'm so sorry to hear this, didn't realize that the powers-that-be at Reddit and not just the users were so misogynistic, but I am not surprised. I don't use Twitter or Discord but I may just have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:42 PM
40

I never watched Friends, what little I saw of it was unfunny, but I remember when the final episode aired it was like the 2nd coming of Christ and everyone was giving themselves an aneurysm over the question "Will Ross and Rachel end up together?" Even as someone who was raised on Disney princess movies, I found it ridiculous. Why do we act like romantic relationships are the most important and fascinating thing ever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:47 PM
10

Lmao ick I'm fucking wheezing and puking at the same time 🤢 WHERE DO THEY LEARN THIS STUFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:19 AM
49

It is the "search" that releases the most dopamine, gets the person hooked on repeating the same behavior. It's just like gambling or doomscrolling on IG or FB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:12 AM
8

Hell is not hot enough for this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:19 AM
35

She's just snorting lines of Koolaid powder, taking it straight to the brain like it's Colombian dancing powder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:18 AM
10

She should go full Carrie on his ass, paint the whole house with blood. Un fucking believable. I feel so sorry for this woman that she thinks there is something that can be said to this man to change the fact that he's an unrelenting psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:12 AM
54

Chilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:28 PM
33

That is just some horseshit they use to get a woman to think that if she gives him sex that is an expression of her love for him. When really he could not care less about her feelings and could not want a relationship less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:02 PM
57

Don't forget a McChicken sandwich! But ask them to fuck their own hand and suddenly they act persecuted and insist a "need" is being unmet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:01 PM
40

This didn't bother me now, but it does now. My (Catholic) mom would tell me "Woman can't have it all. You can have a career, or family. You need to pick one." So bc I thought I wanted a husband and kid, I never aspired to anything, missed so many opportunities in high school and college. Now I am childfree and increasingly feeling more marriage free and I lost potential I will never get back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:26 AM
136

Honestly I believe so many men marry for no other reason than 1) regular sex and 2) having a housekeeper 3) and a guarantee against being alone. They feel entitled to all these things and then they resent that that their wife has wants/needs of her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:22 AM
26

I wouldn't be surprised if he poked holes in a condom or messed with her birth control pills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:10 AM
23

I was briefly in a throuple with a RN and a NVM. Shitty men know that nurses take sooo much shit on principle. My poor friend (the RN) took a looong time to finally get away from him. I think Narcs and abusers also go for RNs and teachers because they sense they are caring/patient/giving and will take a lot of shit and put the needs of others first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:42 PM
13

Yep, my mom was almost in tears. It was the last sewing project my grandma ever did because of her eyesight. My ex posted a picture of himself with it on his shoulder on FB, smirking like the fuckhead he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:10 PM
27

My NVM ex insisted I give my engagement ring back. And because he had a sentimental gift (a stuffed animal my grandma helped me and my mom make) he used that to barter for it. My mom pressured me to give it to her and my dad, and they met him and gave it back. I looked up the jewelry store (John Atencio) where he got it on Yelp, he had left an angry review saying they would not give him any money back for it. Also, you can pawn this stuff, but you get only a fraction of the original value. You'd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:44 PM
105

My dad was a cop. Never abusive to my mom, but episodically terrorized me and my sister. Cops also abuse their children, who have even less power, but idk if that is a conversation anyone is having yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:30 PM
60

Omg what a fucking tool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:09 AM
3

Right? Exact same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:15 AM
2

This is a good perspective. How fortunate I am to be bi. Now I just need to find a FDS minded gal to be with lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:16 PM
68

Men will want you done up in $400 worth of lingerie but won't wash their bedsheets, clean their toilets, or do laundry or dishes. This is not hyperbole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:11 PM
55

I think it was an OBGYN on TikTok who said, "As a doctor, when the husband asks me to give his wife an extra stitch, I tell him to drop his pants and show me just how small I need to make it." I love that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:50 PM
73

Isn't it convenient how scrote culture teaches girls and young women to obsess about their looks and develop eating disorders in high school/college, right when they could be maximizing their potential the most by taking AP classes, applying for scholarships, applying to college, figuring out what career path they want...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:45 PM
49

How can they write that shit in good conscience when only 7% of the time in a casual man/woman encounter the woman actually has an orgasm lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:39 PM
30

And honestly if you can separate your emotions from your body it's probably because of PTSD/dissociation. I only became "capable" of cleaving sex and emotions once I had gone thru horrific trauma. So much for being OnE oF tHe GuYs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:34 PM
10

Any time someone tries to make you eat something you don't want and will not take no as an answer, it's bc they're a flaming narcissist who needs to have control of you. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:50 PM
9

Otherwise aN aMaZiNg GuY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:48 PM
15

He will probably will be fapping lbr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:32 PM
106

He prob has an asphyxiation "kink" - the moment her throat starts to close up, his dick will be out, I guarantee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:29 PM
22

100% this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:34 PM
12

I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:30 PM
61

She's beautiful. He looks like a half melted Bill O'Reilly candle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:19 PM
64

I remember my ex-fiance telling me how thrilled he was he didn't have to date anymore. Not thrilled we were going to get married. I was just the easiest, most convenient doormat at the time, and he was just stoked he didn't have to put in effort anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:16 PM
114

The one decent ex I had told me "I wouldn't want a threesome, I think it'd be too nerve-wracking trying to please two women at once."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:17 PM
12

Most are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:56 PM
15

And BV and mycoplasma too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:56 PM
20

Why I can't sleep with a man next to me lol. Can never feel physically safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:55 PM
16

And if it does the sex is over in 30-60 seconds lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:54 PM
70

Typical man, thinking childbirth is basically no worse than taking a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:54 PM
7

This man should be made into sausage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:51 PM
15

100%. No one ever talks about this though!! We're all just expected to play Arwen to Aragorn and watch him die. Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:11 PM
17

I've said this before but...it's funny how it's always "well, it works because she is so mature for her age" instead of "well, it works because he is so immature for his age."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:04 PM
10

She adopted a stray and he found a mealticket. Fell in love my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:31 PM
6

Lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:29 PM
17

So Important. If only a teenage me could have got this message at all from anywhere. At least I'm getting it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:22 PM
4

Love how much shit he has vs her. Men just think we have it sooo fucking easy. When irl she would have 3x the trauma he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:21 PM
13

A much higher proportion of women are attractive than men. It just is that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:17 PM
8

Shaped like a T-rex, I'm dead 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:16 PM
2

YES. Extinction burst for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:12 PM
37

Yeah the number of older men I've met with substantial guts who seem to feel completely comfortable with themselves...it's amazing and sickening considering how women's bodies are policed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:11 AM
128

Exactly. Reminds me of the quote "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you company." It's a rare dude that isn't exactly that for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:33 PM
3

PASTA IN A SHOWER GLOVE. Aren't those things scratchy though??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:19 PM
20

I wonder how much of men body shaming women is actually nothing but the man covering for and shifting blame away from his own dysfunctional, deathgripped dick he pathetically can't keep up due to all the pron he watches constantly. I bet it's very high percentage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:12 PM
12

Weird how no one ever shrugs it off with the phrase "yeah well he's immature for his age so it makes sense" even though that's almost always the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:51 PM
38

"3 raspberries" has me wheezing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:49 PM
13

My sweetest ex was 5'9" but he was an exception. Generally I agree with your rule though. My 6'7" ex was also pretty sweet and kind. I liked to joke it was because he had no natural predators. It's like a chihuahua vs a Great Dane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:46 PM
68

They see women as objects, possessions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:49 PM
9

I truly don't understand how women are able to give men they aren't sexually attracted to a chance. I find that so disturbing, the thought alone makes me extremely uncomfortable. How is this normalised in society? I'm so heartbroken for women who give men they don't find attractive a chance. Since finding FDS I am physically incapable of doing this anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:02 AM
31

GOTTEM. Oh man. And they say women aren't funny. This thread is hilarious. I'm having so much fun. I love FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:52 AM
17

Not many things I read online actually make me legitimately LAUGH but that was one XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:49 AM
79

She looks like a fucking POW in the 2nd pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:58 PM
53

Men don't deserve women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:10 AM
80

I snooped the reddit comment history of my 15 years older ex, and I'm glad that I did. I found he posted a compilation of photos/videos of him making out with younger women entitled "Thank God for women with Daddy issues" I was on there twice, and in one video he aimed the camera right down my cleavage before grabbing me and making out with me. In another he was making out with me and our ex (we were in a throuple very briefly) I had no idea he took, let alone posted, either. I emailed Imgur and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:38 AM
133

Ugh so true. A guy will be at his phone night and day and text back instantly, because he cares about you sooo much, but as soon as sex is off the table he disappears. He never cared. He was just trying to care his way into your pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:42 PM
2

Absolutely chilling. Who is going to save this generation of women? I'm so glad I don't have a daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:06 PM
3

Yeah we do because I didn't realize this was an act til now. As a shy/awkward person, whenever someone acts this way, I totally buy it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:35 PM
1

Ew I'm sorry you're married to someone who says such things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:11 AM
24

Ooooof yeah. Emotions are easy enough to fake. I don't know why I believe men to be sincere with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:59 PM
95

I love how astute and clever they all are. It pleases me to think they were better off for their choices. True role models. You never hear about women like this unless it's through a lens of pity/revulsion. Just like with children, the world has decided it is a poverty to be unmarried, when it is so often in fact the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:02 PM
50

The thing about moms is definitely a red flag. Especially if you share major physical features with his mom, watch out. I'm a redhead and if the mom was a redhead too I'm gonna see some other bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:23 AM
2

Of course he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:50 PM
9

The short and ugly ones will shame you the worst because they feel the need to knock you down a peg so you don't go "Wait... what the fuck am I doing with this bridge troll?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:18 PM
15

Anyone who INVITES HIMSELF TO YOUR PLACE is bound to be shit. No fucking manners, only audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:45 PM
2

Watching how a dude treats waitstaff is everything. Had a guy refuse to let our waitress put down his (small) salad because we had an appetizer and plates that was taking up 90% of the small table between us. He refused it three times, saying "I'mnot ready for that yet." On the third time the waitress brought it, I was so embarrassed I told her "I'll take it!" And I put it on my side. We had room, it just wasn't ideal. Can you imagine what I dodged here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:38 AM
25

I've noticed since going from short hair to shoulder blade length hair I get WAY more men looking at me. It's as profound a difference as wearing something revealing vs something that hides my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:19 PM
17

I'm around ovulation and yeah I've been sounding extra syruppy on the phone lately...a lady yesterday told me I had the sweetest, most calming voice and I should get paid for voice acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:16 AM
2

Whew, that was a ride. I'm proud of you for breaking free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:04 PM
29

The answer? Porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:49 AM
34

How dare we have the audacity to be complete human beings and not just sex dolls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:48 AM
40

Also I'm so sick of how they want to gag/choke us with their dicks to the point we can't breathe and throw up. And we're supposed to like or tolerate it?! Fuck off. And then there's the occasional guy who will open-hand slap your vag and/or boobs. What. The first time it happened I wanted to laugh and yell "What the fuck?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:48 AM
2

Disgusting. Like a giant hamster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:36 PM
11

Isn't it striking the difference between the way women talk about their partners and the way men talk about their partners? The women treat their partners like a beloved child they can't possibly abandon no matter how mediocre or even terrible they are. Whereas the men will talk about their spouse like she's a object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:10 AM
3

Thr grandpa from Willy Wonka, omg dead 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:14 AM
42

If I'd had FDS when I was 18 it would have saved my entire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:48 PM
9

This gave me ass cancer. I'm horrified. Why is she so committed to doing something neither her body nor mind wants?! Like, I want to sit her down and scream WHY?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:12 PM
7

Ugh yep. My ex deflected his porn induced ED by fat shaming me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:12 AM
7

" She lied to herself about everything." One of my biggest fears is that I am lying to myself and don't recognize it. "There are none so blind as those who refuse to see."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:54 PM
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