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Stop porn. See a therapist
/r/seduction18/06/26 01:40 AM
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I'm sorry for what you are going through. Hang in there
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 11:17 AM
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I would try to work it out. I made it work for another 7 years after my wife went off the deep end and had an affair with my friend. It was constant drama and extremely hard on both of us, but I did it for the kids. We hit our breaking point over COVID, but I fought like hell, And I made tons of personal sacrifices for the family. The grass isn't greener. Dating sucks. Lonely as hell, never see your kids. Paying for your ex-wife... everything's more expensive. I hate being divorced. If you think…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 05:17 AM
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I went out there research what apps to use for my goals and my age demographic and what's popular in my area. I would do that. Get back out there! My only advice to you, having gone through this after 22 years at the same women is the following: Don't pretend like you know how dating works anymore. It's going to be really bumpy for the first year or so as you adjust your mentality going from a monogamy type of guy to a dating type of guy. I can tell you all kinds of embarrassing things I did tha…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 05:14 PM
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I've been coming to the subreddit for a long time and this is the best advice I've ever seen. Awesome job 👍
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 01:36 AM
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That's a great plan. You are doing great my man! Yes, you are going to hurt. A lot. Sometimes I still wallow in the pain of "lost love" and cry- 8 years later. Sometimes my kids might see it, but I never let them see me sob. That's too much. I don't think you should completely hide it from her just like you said because it is part of life. Teach your daughter to "feel and deal" like in the book I suggested "how we love" (or maybe it was the version for kids). In this instance you can lead by exa…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 12:17 PM
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Also, I think it's great that you're willing to accept some of the blame, but don't accept it all. I always think there's three people in the relationship. There is the husband there's the wife and then there's the relationship itself. You are just one of these in the triad. You've got some warts... but we all do. It sounds like you're willing to admit and work on these things which is more than most people.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 03:44 AM
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Just hearing you say that you know you'll overcome it makes me think that you're going to be just fine. It hasn't even been 48 hours yet!!!! You are doing great man you'll get through this. People that can positively frame adversity in your life end up being the most successful so just keep it positive and try to get through this in a healthy way and you'll be better for it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 03:42 AM
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No problem. After rereading my comment I meant to say that it takes one month per year of relationship to fully recover.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 03:31 AM
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Dude, there are horror stories out there. A co-operative ex-spouse is like hitting the lotto. I wrote a novel on your main thread. A bit long but I'd read it in detail my friend. I didn't even talk about the divorce proceedings, but like I said in my "novel", you straighten yourself out and you'll have the mental energy to devote to the legal proceedings! hang in there. Don't budge on anything, but be fair. Give her half the shit, split your time with your daughter. be fair and kind, but dig in …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 12:30 AM
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Awesome advice man! not unlike my "novel" that I wrote above. way to overcome and come out on the other side! Love your vision of living off the grid. keep us posted!
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 12:27 AM
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Brother, I am so sorry to hear this. It sounds like a real struggle, and I can say that I have been through the ringer myself. I was first separated 8 years ago, and I've largely "made it to the other side" and I'll share what I can here, and maybe it will help. I've been through an affair after 9 years of marriage and three separations and I've found out the hard way what worked and what didn't (source: time, trial and error, and my couples and personal therapist) 1) face reality: Your marriage…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 12:25 AM
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Sorry to disagree with everybody on this thread but it sounds like you need to work on yourself more than the marriage. If you have social anxiety issues and alcohol issues it could be that you're the problem here. I would suggest having an open dialogue with your spouse and telling her that you're trying to improve yourself and then go see a therapist for a few months Feeling like you're the only one doing chores is a pretty common thread in marriage. Fighting is also common. It's about how you…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 01:04 PM
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My ex-wife cheated on me 9 years ago. We divorced quickly and then she moved back in twice and we tried to do the quasi marriage thing for about 9 years. She just moved out for the third and final time. I can say it never really gets back to the way things were. We tried we did the therapy thing and it just didn't work. The trust just wasn't there. It might have been pretty good for the kids for those 9 years but I'm not sure it was worth it. I really don't know. It was tolerable and we had some…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 11:39 AM
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Can you share the YouTube?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/21 05:21 PM
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