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I have some shoulder pain that made my arm hurt, and then my fingers go numb Could be a pinched nerve. Ice, motrin, and check your neck/shoulder/back posture.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 12:25 PM
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20 months in, OYS - 5-14-19 Summary: Weight loss still stalled, fail. Internal gains, and shoulder injury healing. Me: 51, 5' 11” 191 lbs, 25% body fat via Dexa-scan in Nov. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 26 years, married 23 years, 3 kids, temporary empty nest in 5 months, lasting for a year. That's going to be a big change, just the two of us. Workout: BP 195x3, Squat 250x2. DL 275 – pre-injury numbers. Taking a break from the g…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 09:57 PM
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I got her flowers. She gave me baklava. She cooked and we had dinner at home. I made a low calorie dessert. We watched TV together and then had sex on the couch. She gave me a great BJ.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:12 PM
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Thanks. I highly recommend that you make it happen. There are many different ways of getting it done and I hope you can do one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/19 12:42 AM
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Yeah, I thought I was being needy but wasn't sure. Thank you both for clearing it up. A close friend said the same things as you two. I have more work to do on myself. I still have that BP "she will take care of me" dream or expectation pop up occasionally.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/19 12:40 AM
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17 months in, OYS - 2-12-19 Summary: Bucket list trip, gained weight, redid MAP, good sex, self-respect epiphany. Me: 51, 5' 11” 191 lbs, 25% body fat via Dexa-scan in Nov. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 26 years, married 23 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 2.5 years. Workout: BP 195x3, Squat 250x2. DL 275 – pre-injury numbers. Working out harder at the gym and it feels great. Light weight on bench and OHP, not going to push those too…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 02:14 AM
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I took your advice while I was on vacation. Perfect timing. I usually ate around 2,500 calories but had one day at 3,300 and a few at 1,800. Gained 5 pounds. I am back on my diet and at 1,700 calories. No weight loss after one week.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/19 12:29 PM
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I know I am stalled. I know it has been long time, months. I didn't realize (or avoided) that it has been longer. I made changes and have seen some progress - kept my weight below 190 for a while, quit alcohol for now, and lost some weight. 1,500 vs 1,200 calories., new vs old goal My goal has always been 2 pounds lost per week. I should lower that to 1. Nutritionist said my resting calories is 1,800 per day. I thought 1,500 was ok. Maybe on gym days I go to 1,600. And I need to consistently hit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 01:04 PM
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Thanks! I hurt my other shoulder worse, rested it for 1.5 months. Went to the doctor, he said ice and motrin for 3 days. It worked. If it didn't he was going to send me to a specialist, said PT makes some shoulders way worse. I am going to stay away from OHP and BP for now. Those are the only times I get numbness. No weight loss from her but she is eating less and occasionally working out.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 11:30 PM
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16 months in, OYS - 1-22-19 Summary: Lost weight. Caring less. Reversed a shit test. Me: 50, 5' 11” 186 lbs, 25% body fat via Dexa-scan in Nov. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 26 years, married 23 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 2.5 years. Workout: BP 195x3, Squat 250x2. DL 275 – pre-injury numbers. My shoulder is still hurt, I have strength but get numbness even if I bench 70 lbs. No pain anymore, even with lifting. Going to rest is …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:46 AM
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Oh ok, thanks for clarifying. Yeah, I stopped tracking it this year. I want sex more than I am getting it. Maybe it's still neediness or validation seeking but I don't think so. I have to decide if I keep going without it or make up the difference with ONS's and plates. My T is low, 340, but I have morning wood and want sex every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 04:36 PM
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I don't know what the ideal number is for me. I am unhappy with the amount of sex I get. That may or may not be right or correct. I still have the biological drive to have sex. I have worked to get rid of the neediness sex. I am not in a deadbedroom. There are people that have more and less sex than me. I look at it as an indicator of the relationship. It could get better and worse. The 100 benchmark is just a number. I am 50 and don't know how long my sex drive will continue. So far it is still…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 06:04 PM
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My plan is to get back to benching but keep reps to 10 minimum. No 1RM anymore, not even 5x5 at 80% 1RM. I hope bench is not over for me. Hadn't considered that but it's possible. I want more sex than I am getting. I am afraid of it getting worse (less sex) and I try to limit that thinking. Keep making changes. Yes, temporarily quit drinking. So far so good. If I have an issue I will permanently quit. I will look up Pressman and Tendler. I like the inchworm concept and will keep that in mind for…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 02:49 PM
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Yeah, I keep telling myself that no one owes me anything. With others I don't have any trouble. I have to keep working on my view with her. Just saw a post where you say "my wife doesn't do X". Not that you control her but you don't accept certain things and make decisions accordingly. She doesn't get to stay, something you do control. That is helpful for me. The covert contracts are: I give her commitment she give me sex, if she stops having sex with me (that she owes me) then I have sex with o…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 11:44 PM
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I had read and saved that post, and just read it again. That is a topic I had been thinking about and the post cleared up a few things. So thanks for that. I was the silent lover and have been changing that. She has been reacting well to it. I have more work to do outside the bedroom. STFU and no arguing mean less emotion from me. Too Stoic. I need to be more fun, show more emotions (not go back to butt hurt though)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 11:27 PM
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16 months in, OYS - 1-9-19 Summary: I reviewed last year, realized where I am LARPing, went to a counselor, quit drinking. Me: 50, 5' 11” 188 lbs, 25% body fat via Dexa-scan. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 26 years, married 23 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 2.5 years. Workout: BP 195x3, Squat 250x2. DL 275 – pre-injury numbers. My shoulder is still hurt, I have strength but get numbness even if I bench 70 lbs. No pain anymore, even …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 12:38 AM
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Over 1 year in, First post in a month, OYS -11-6-18 Summary: I was feeling stuck and depressed. I had hit my willpower and discipline limits. Took some time off to step back and look at things from a different perspective, regroup. Figure out how serious I was. Got a Dexa-scan. Met with a nutritionist. Got my weight below 190 again. Me: 50, 5' 11” 188 lbs, 25% body fat via Dexa-scan. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. She is now running or walking…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 05:56 PM
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Diet could also be a reason. I am losing weight again, eating 1500 calories per day. I also worked out a lot harder last week. Had a trial gym membership so I went to the gym 5 days last week. I did my normal workouts and a lot of swimming. You recommended swimming to me a while ago and it is great exercise. A big reason to join the new gym. I also tried the Navy SEAL entry test a couple times. Failed everything but situps, but did finish the test. I thought it would be a good end of week workou…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 02:33 PM
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No I am not deloading. I get 7 to 8 hours of sleep and am still exhausted. Not the good DOMS feeling but just drained. Definitely not 21 anymore. I have a warm up routine and stretch at every workout. I will add in a deload week. Just pulled my hamstring at the gym yesterday so now is a good time. Thanks for the info.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 01:24 PM
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49th week of MRP, OYS 9-11-18 Summary: Lost 3 lbs. Sex twice. Me: 50, 5' 11” 188 lbs, 22% body fat via impedance method. Read the sidebar material, some a few times. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Comfort test: The comfort test from my last OYS was just manipulation. I realized this in hindsight with help from people here and thinking about it more. She does this once or twice a year. Usually I fold like a card table…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 11:20 PM
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Wife drinks less than me, about 4 glasses of wine per week. She does have alcoholics in her family, yes she is a child of one. If it becomes a problem then whomever is having the issue, or both of us, will quit. So far it is under control.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 05:32 PM
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Fair enough. I agree that discipline is a big problem for me. Probably my biggest issue. It covers weight and alcohol. I gave up alcohol a while back then decided to start drinking again. I am not currently trying to quit drinking. I get it that no alcohol would be better. I read the sidebar, 101, graduate level (several more than once),BPP book and videos, lots of posts. I have been here almost a year. I think you are right about it not being a main event, especially when considering her past a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 11:19 PM
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The more I think back the more I think it was manipulation and wished I A&A"d or even better psi flipped "why would I cheat or leave" and let that hang out there. Next time I will. Compared to my BP days this was a homerun. No massive DEERing, trying to fix her emotions, negotiating, etc. I read the link and still think that's too advanced for me. It seems like giving up power and dread, removing some doubt/mystery. I will keep it in mind for the future though. And thanks I hadn't seen that befo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 11:00 PM
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There was a lot to unpack in your comment Johney, and I am still processing it. Don't be passive about "seeing" this. Take action one way or the other Yeah, this and the wife goggles are really important right now. And most of my goals and actions are "avoid this" type, not "go to this" type. That eventually has to change as well. though your lifts are weak Yeah, I am working on it. 8x5 numbers posted, so 5x5 would be 10% more. Not sure if that matters much. My shoulder is healed but I am dealin…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:49 PM
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48th week of MRP, OYS 9-4-18 Summary: Lost 0 lbs. Sex twice. Got a large comfort test. Me: 50, 5' 11” 191 lbs, 22% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: 8reps 5 sets numbers. BP 165+, Squat 215 fail due to knee pain. DL 235+. +=felt light, up the weight. To compare, 5x5 numbers are 10% higher. Alcohol: No benders. Realized I am back to having 1-2 beers a night. I am cutting this back …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:40 PM
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Good question. Hopefully it is less each week. Get rid of neediness, co-dependency, wife centered thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 01:21 PM
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I'm confident you do not have that much body fat. I carry my weight around my waist, like a spare tire. Maybe that throws off the scale. Rest of my body looks good, slim, some veins popping. I don't look like the 25% bf pics but I do need to lose weight. I don't think you should "try" to stop doing something that you actually want to do. Yeah you are right. I was trying to warm her up more earlier, doesn't always happen. Keep the balance and stay away from covert contracts is another problem of …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 01:15 PM
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47th week of MRP, OYS 8-28-18 Summary: Lost 2 lbs. Sex twice. Back on workouts and diet. Me: 50, 5' 11” 191 lbs, 24% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: 8reps 5 sets numbers. BP 160+, Squat 205+. DL 225+. Completed my full workout this week. First time since being on vacation. +=felt light, up the weight. Alcohol: No benders. Never more than two beers in a night. Another pass. Sex: …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 11:26 PM
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I just reread Models and the book goes into the why and how of making connections with a woman, anyone really. The high level summary is know yourself (likes, dislikes, etc), take a risk and openly express yourself, without neediness or fear, but with authenticity, vulnerability, and emotion. You open yourself up to more rejection but people self select out and you end up with better relationships. The book goes into how to be more interesting, body language, conversation skills, sub-communicati…
/r/askMRP25/08/18 01:42 PM
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Those are great suggestions, thanks. Yeah, I want to look good with my shirt off. I still think like a fat guy. I will need an attitude change eventually. Yes, I reset and play the nice card every morning. Anger is gone. Resentment is 90% gone. For inner game I am working on my neediness. My hovering is gone, trying to fix her or her moods, gone. I say no occasionally and she accepts it. My weight and my neediness are my top priorities right now, and being social.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 12:18 AM
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Yep, another bullseye Chuck. I get a lot of temptation from friends and family, even mocking or negative talk in some cases (the crab bucket you mention). I haven't had much support at all really, except for work (lunch crowd) and gym friends. But the most temptation, mocking, and negative talk has come from me. So congrats, you've come a long way! Thanks. Acknowledging and celebrating victories helps me, and it helps me more if food or alcohol are not involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 10:46 PM
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Yes, for sure. My goal is 15% body fat. I got to 19% then fell back due to vacations and easing off. Not an excuse, but the reason. A failure on my part. I have the exact body that I deserve. I need to get back to hard core calorie tracking, or start a new plan. Setting up the meals for the week might work (mentioned in the article you linked), or skipping dinners (intermittent fasting). I used to look down on smokers. How could they do that to themselves? But it is their weakness, and mine is f…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 09:33 PM
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46th week of MRP, OYS 8-21-18 Summary: No weight loss, not getting along with wife, not making any progress, butthurt after rejection. Sex twice. I was very social at the end of the week. Me: 50, 5' 11” 193 lbs, 24% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: 8reps 5 sets numbers. BP 160, Squat 225 fail due to knee pain. DL 245 fail on 3rd set. I just cannot put up the weight I did before t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 10:39 PM
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Her: Why didn’t you ask me first? (in a nasty tone) I guess I had it in my head that when I made more improvements my wife would stop being bitchy. My wife says those things now, nasty tone etc. Just a wrong belief of mine, or covert contract. I have to care less, and have a filter that turns the bitching into Her: Blah bitch blah bitch And cold initiations is probably 80% of my game. That's a problem. I should take a step back. I am still trying to figure out the wife's "leg over me" move. Some…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/18 02:23 PM
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It's not all bad, but some of it is bad. The sex can be really good. Maybe it's not a bad sign. Time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/18 02:24 AM
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Yes to all this. I have had the 15% body fat as a goal and a requirement before bailing. Hearing it more reinforces that. Now I need to do it, been slipping lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 07:36 PM
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I think OP and I have a lot of things in common - started MRP at the same time, in our 50's, wife has an alpha boss, and I have recently noticed myself looking for a reason to kill the puppy (make the decision easier). I thought about it and don't like the answers I came up with, which is that it's still too early to go and I need to put in more work. Ultimately stay or go will be fine for me (all of us) but staying and doing the work is the better option. Sometimes it seems like divorce is the …
/r/askMRP15/08/18 03:17 PM
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45th week of MRP, OYS 8-14-18 Summary: Back from family vacation. This OYS covers 4 weeks. Sex 7 times. Gained 6 lbs. Me: 50, 5' 11” 192 lbs, 24% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: No workouts for several weeks. I missed going to the gym. Lowered weights 5-10% when I got back and it was not enough. I struggled for most exercises, couldn't finish most of my sets. I need to deload mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:31 AM
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41st week of MRP, OYS 7-17-18 Summary: Sex twice. Lost 3 lbs. Back to the routine. I think I got a comfort test. Me: 50, 5' 11” 186 lbs, 22% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: These are 8 reps, 5 set numbers. + = felt light, move up weight. BP 170+, DBcurl 40, Squat 225, no DL this week, too soon after squats and too sore. I felt strong and really pushed it first day back,, duh. Re…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 09:16 PM
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Oh, I already ordered one. I am guessing that dieting has an effect too. Will see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/18 07:09 PM
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Ok I will look into it, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 05:23 PM
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Yeah, I hear you loud and clear. As a lay it was a fail, but as a confidence and abundance booster, and game improver, it was a huge gain. I am emerging from being unattractive and getting into the attractive phase. The 24 yo was way skinnier than the wife, but wife's weight doesn't bother me. She got fat probably 14 years ago, and I am just used to getting sex from that body type. Skinny is attractive though, and something different.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 05:22 PM
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40th week of MRP, OYS 7-10-18 Summary: This OYS covers 2.5 weeks, I was on vacation. Starfish sex twice. Catch and release a 24 year old. Me: 50, 5' 11” 189 lbs, 22% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: Got in my workout before my trip. I am not going to report all my weights, just the major ones. These are 8 reps, 5 set numbers. + = felt light, move up weight. BP 165+, DBcurl 40, Sq…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 12:30 AM
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Yep, and yep. I was over-thinking them both. Externally I am handling the titty drive by's, I need to be less internally surprised.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 10:49 PM
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Ok, just read that too. Yep it applies. I have been doing better in that area lately - interacting and getting attention from others without it being a big deal. My problem is I look for feedback/calibrate to the wife too much. It pulls me off "me centered" to her centered. I have to find the right balance. Not fix her emotions, pursue my mission, not completely ignore her. Ultimately to do things for me, not her.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 06:11 PM
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Ok I read your "deadbedrooms/ control what you can" post. I also read the "toga party" post mentioned in the comments. Things I know about but strayed from. One of my bigger weaknesses. Good reminder, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 05:58 PM
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Well I had that wrong. Trying too hard, caring too much, as usual. Chasing a checklist. I described the action, but it needs to just happen. I should not be chasing it. I think that is what is being said in these comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 05:34 PM
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38th week of MRP, OYS 6-26-18 Summary: Sex once. No weight lost. Random woman rubbed her breasts on me. Me: 50, 5' 11” 184 lbs, 20% body fat via impedance method. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 160+, DBcurl 40, Squat 235 FAIL due to knee pain, calf 455+, lat pull 130. Group B: OHP 100, DBisocurl 35 FAIL, leg curl 110+, leg ext 150+, Uprt row 75+. Gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 03:36 AM
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It's a mental trick I use, that is how I think of it. A willpower helper. IDK. I am not happy in this relationship, don't love her ... or like her. She isn't pleasant to be around usually, but I am not either really. That's a problem. I am not purposely staying with her only for money. A male gold-digger, if that's what you are asking. It kind of works out that way since we don't get along too well and she makes way more money than me. If we go the "blame the parents route" she is following in h…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 11:21 PM
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Yep, the alimony $ per sex ratio blows up if your wife makes more money than you. It may have some value if she doesn't, if she's a SAHM. I don't have faith in it either, just a recovering spreadsheet guy, doing the numbers. If you can change your consumption habits to match up with your salary, you can walk at any time, for free Did that already. No debt, saving 33% and investing 12% of household income. Both of us could walk and support ourselves right now. I would struggle more than her but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 11:10 PM
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37th week of MRP, OYS 6-19-18 Summary: Good sex twice. Lost 1 lb this week. Me: 50, 5' 11” 184 lbs, 20% body fat via impedance method. Corrected age and height. Her: 49, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 155+, DBcurl 35+, Squat 225+, calf 405+, lat pull 120+. Group B: OHP 95+, DBisocurl 30+, leg curl 110+, leg ext 150+, Uprt row 75+. Group C: Incline bench 135+…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 11:47 PM
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I noticed that phrase too and realized that is one thing I am missing. I am too neutral (my mood). Still have latent resentment, under the surface. I need to be fun, or at least pleasant. I think I got rid of the scoreboard and covert contracts on my end. She is a different story, they are still there full force. It may be "unable to (yet)" instead of "missing it". The anger phase takes some time. Resentment may be another phase or the tail end of the anger phase, and I think that takes longer. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 10:27 PM
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Yes, I agree 100% with what you wrote. I figured you would have a lot on insight on the topic. Thanks for clarifying. My confusion is the "can have many women" vs "must have sex with many women". My misinterpretation. The mental point of origin puts it back into your own choices, your mission. Having options and choosing the best for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 03:13 PM
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Yes, I was thinking it but didn't work it in there. To increase men's options. My understanding is it relates only to sex but I could be wrong. Having many options and making good decisions is the key to life in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 03:07 PM
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Rule zero is the improvement of men's sexual strategies and power ... and self improvement. The last phrase is not always in there. It is asking "does this get me laid" or "how does this help me get laid". If rule zero is just one of many rules then there is no contradiction. If it is the prime directive then I think there is a contradiction, or maybe a paradox.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 02:55 PM
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If rule zero is only to get laid then there is a contradiction, and it is ultimately catering to what women want. It is still good to use to limit navel gazing. If rule zero includes improving yourself then there is no contradiction. I usually see it referred to as "does this get me laid?" That's fine. For me personally I see self improvement as more important, which is more "don't be unattractive". Good on you for doing the work Thanks. Lots of new, healthy habits in my life and it is paying of…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 01:49 AM
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36th week of MRP, OYS 6-12-18 Summary: Sex once. Lost 1 lb this week. Waist size down to 33. Me: 49, 5' 10” 185 lbs , 19% body fat reading on the scale, but not much confidence in the scale. It also showed 23% at that weight. 23% Navy method. Picture method is around 20%. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 155+, DBcurl 35+, Squat 225, calf 405+, lat p…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 11:13 PM
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Yeah I was wondering about that scale. It has hand and foot pads but I am not confident of the readings. It dipped to 21% but after I lost a few more pounds it is back up to 23 to 25%. When I hit 180 I plan to go get a Dexa scan, or some type of body fat measure.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 11:08 AM
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I am close but need to eat more protein. I am tracking with Myfitnesspal app. I have an impedance scale. Hadn't even thought about the glucose. Diabetes runs in my family and I check glucose twice a year. Maybe I should do it more often. I used to intermittent fast but have stopped. I eat a light breakfast now. I am losing weight again, stall seems to be over.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 10:37 AM
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Not sure why the doc said that, but I will ask him at my next checkup. No related medical conditions. There are probably a lot of different ways that can successful, just have to be consistent. I started at 222 in October. The early weight loss was easy, it's tough to make progress now. I will re-evaluate at 180, may keep going with the weight loss. Sounds like I should. I thought I would be happy at 200, and then 190, but that is still too heavy. Thanks for the info. Weight loss is my main goal…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 04:19 PM
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35th week of MRP, OYS 6-5-18 Summary: Sex once. Lost 1 lb this week, 10 lbs this month. Me: 49, 5' 10” 186 lbs , 21% body fat reading on the scale. 23% Navy method. Picture method is around 20%. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 155+, DBcurl 35, Squat 225 FAIL due to knee pain, calf 405+, lat pull 120. Group B: OHP 95, DBisocurl 30, leg curl 110+, le…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 11:08 PM
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Yeah, been moving that way, and will continue. The "is this a threat" thinking doesn't go away though. And the best way to not get mugged, is to not go into a trap, kind of like the best way to win is to not to play. It takes awareness.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 02:03 AM
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I have not done the "reward good behavior" much. I am not even sure my reward would be a reward to her. A cocky funny joke might be a good way. She loves the "you are my favorite wife/girlfriend" jokes. Something like that might be good. I used to thank her for sex but have stopped that when I started MRP. I also stopped asking for sex as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 02:01 AM
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34th week of MRP, OYS 5-29-18 Summary: Very busy week. Sex twice. Same weight. Leadership and dealing with teen-like wife. Me: 49, 5' 10” 187 lbs , 21-22% body fat reading on the scale. 23% Navy method. Picture method is around 20%. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 155+, DBcurl 35, Squat 225+, calf 405+, lat pull 120. Group B: OHP 95, DBisocurl 30, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 08:13 PM
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33rd week of MRP, OYS 5-22-18 Summary: Busy week. Good sex once. Lost 3 lbs. Less validation-seeking. Me: 49, 5' 10” 187 lbs , 21-24% body fat reading on the scale. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 160+, DBcurl 35, Squat 225+, calf 405+, lat pull 120. Group B: OHP 95, DBisocurl 30, leg curl 110, leg ext 170, Uprt row 75. Group C: Incline bench 135+,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 11:05 PM
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Ouch, you are probably right. I hadn't thought about being boring. I read SGM but it was too early on for me. Wanted to jump to the great sex phase. I should reread it. I am reading less these days but can look at those chapters.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/18 08:23 PM
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I don't remember the order of rejections and sex, not sure it matters. I am aware of giving up power with too many initiations and rejections. If I want sex I initiate, maybe I should set a max try per week limit. Sounds like spreadsheet thinking though. We have sex once per week but half of the time it is starfish. In my book that is better than nothing. Get out of my own head. Yes, for sure. I need to do this. I read and over-think too much. I have been doing more, and not reading much last fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/18 08:21 PM
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I turned down starfish recently, but it was before any clothes came off. After insertion would be a bigger statement. I will have to think about that I guess, and about me having lower standards too, I don'tfully understand that. Going deadbedroom doesn't seem like an improvement though. Haven't gone pound town but have stepped it up a little. That may be better, or maybe just a large change all at once is better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/18 07:27 PM
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I initiate by rubbing her body, sometimes with kissing as well. She lays there, maybe trying to get mentally involved. If she's in the mood she starts touching me after a few minutes. If not, she says she's not in the mood or lays there until I give up. Sometimes when she's not in the mood she just takes her pants off. Sometimes she gets in the mood and is involved, if not she just lays there. When she's really in the mood it's less than a minute of touching/kissing and she's into it. I used to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/18 04:49 PM
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Yeah I have a lot of home projects I can do, but leaving is better. If the weather is good I can be spontaneous with the hobbies, or go for a walk. It's a good idea to think of some more all weather spontaneous ideas though.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 02:23 PM
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Ok, I believe you, and I appreciate the info. I was stalled at 190 for a long time, decided to change it up. I have always been fat and want to change. This is working so I am sticking with it. If I have to lose some muscle as well as a lot of fat then so be it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 02:21 PM
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TDEE says 2800 per day. I tried 1800 as a goal and only hit it 20% of the time. Usually hit 2200, but wasn't losing weight or body fat %, but was getting stronger. Somehow I am able to hit 1300 80% of the time. I am thinking I only need a few weeks of this. Today I weighed in at 189lbs 23% body fat. I have still been raising my weights, 3 to 4 exercises per week. Seems like I am building muscle, but how? Fat to muscle since I am still lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 02:04 AM
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Yes I have hobbies. Sailing is the main one, and I have long term plans that it fits with. I am learning and growing there now. I also golf. It's ok but mostly for social reasons, to be outdoors, and get some exercise. I am also improving there but don't care. I do both hobbies weekly. I agree that they are helpful in mood improvement. Detaching from her mood and emotions is also important and I am working on those. Getting out of the house in general is helping too. I became a homebody, a fixtu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 09:48 PM
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What are you talking about? I spent the week busy and on my own, no butthurt, and you have an issue with it. There is some major disconnect here. Either I am missing something, my writing is not accurately describing the week, or you are misinterpreting my OYS. Or something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 03:46 PM
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32nd week of MRP, OYS 5-15-18 Summary: Busy week. Rejected starfish sex once, had starfish sex once. Lost 2 lbs. Me: 49, 5' 10” 190 lbs , 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat*. * Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 155+, DBcurl 35, Squat 215+, calf 365+, lat pull 120.** Group B: OHP 95, DBisocurl 30, leg curl 110, leg ext 170, Uprt row **75. Group C: Incline bench 135, lat cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 01:00 AM
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The estimate is based on comparing my 5x5 numbers with my actual 1RMs. It's pretty accurate but I get the skepticism. I am staying away from actual 1RM to avoid injury. I should plan an adventure. I have been eating way less, and the weight is coming off. The shirtless pic and stalled weight loss motivated me. But yes, no sex or low sex is also motivating.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 11:11 PM
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31st week of MRP, OYS 5-8-18 Summary: Sex once, low effort by her. Back to tracking calories and now dieting. I was busy, lots of DL3 and 4 this week. Lost 2 lbs. More internal progress. Me: 49, 5' 10” 192 lbs , 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 172 lbs, 38% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 150+, DBcurl 35, Squat 205+, calf 365+, lat pull 120 Group B: OHP 95, DBisocurl 35 FAIL, leg…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 01:48 AM
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The plan was 1800 calories per day. Usually did not hit my goal, 2200 calories usually. Macros were off, too many carbs. It got me down to 189. I cut back on "high carb" food but was surprised when I started entering food in the app again how many carbs are in everything. I have been resisting the keto diet because I don't want to stop and start diets. I wanted a "lifestyle change". I was stalled and couldn't get past 189. Not sure why. Not enough willpower probably. I am trying to change it up,…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 07:03 PM
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I just read the label and there is more sugar than protein in these protein bars, WTH. My maintenance calories is 2700 kcal/day. 2200 is 1lb/week, 1700 is 2lbs, and 1200 is 3lbs lost per week. I ate 1300 calories yesterday. My "low carb" eating had 90g carbs. Almost three times the keto limit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 06:01 PM
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I topped out at 235. Drinking WAY less. No benders, a few drinks socially. Black coffee. My snacks now are protein bars and nuts. No more chips and donuts. Too many carbs in the macros, been bringing up the protein but it was low. Need to cut carbs. Stopped tracking calories a few weeks ago but didn't go crazy with food, well, except for that one batch of cookies. Trying to get rid of the spreadsheet mentality but need to watch calories closely.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 11:05 PM
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I want to have a good answer for you ... creatine, getting stronger, bf% scale not accurate, but it is all bs. I am not sticking to my diet and I am still fat. 21-24% by picture method. I need to make a change. Now that the fighting and shit tests are under control weight loss needs to be my #1 job. I want to be healthier and look good with my shirt off. Not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:12 PM
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My 5x5 numbers are about 80% of my 1RM. So 180 5x5 = 225 1RM
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 05:00 PM
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#### 30th week of MRP, OYS 5-1-18 **Summary:*\* Fun week. Good sex twice. Passing shit tests, disconnecting from her moods more. I feel like I had a lot of internal gains this week. External items are slipping though. **Me:*\* 49, 5' 10” 194 lbs , 25% body fat. **Her:*\* 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method**. **U**s:** together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. **Workout:*\* 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. **Group A:*\* BP 145+…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 02:50 AM
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I stopped reporting on my changes that are now good habits (that I do everyday) - eat less, 2L of water per day, walk half an hour a day, sleep better, work out 3 or more times per week. It has got me to this point and I need to go farther, so yeah, I should spell that out. I have had 1800 kcal as a goal but rarely hit it. I need to get more serious about it. Was looking into intermittent fasting. We started eating dinner later and I think that is working against me. I need to work on the detail…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 05:53 PM
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I do not expect encouragment or support from the wife. Neutrality is the best case usually. Sad but true. I tried caveman in pre-MRP days and she wasn't into it. I guess I am afraid of trying it again. More weakness. I will try it again now. 25 months total, 6 months in. Ugh, that sounds overwhelming. Never thought about that rule much. I wanted to make the call this year but my progress seems slow to me, or at least to what I had planned. I need to break this into smaller goals, go step by step…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 05:44 PM
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29th post, end of 29th week of MRP, OYS 4-24-18 Summary: Starfish sex twice. Passing shit tests regularly. Disconnecting more from her moods. Good week overall. Me: 49, 5' 10” 192 lbs , 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 140+, DBcurl 35, Squat 185+, calf 315+, lat pull 110. Group B: OHP 85+, DBisocurl 30, leg…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 02:54 AM
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Yeah, I know and am working on it. I think time out of the house will help, and the last few days I have done a lot of that. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/18 11:50 PM
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Thanks. Are viewing your MAP from the perspective of your wife and how everything affects her? I am not, and have reviewed it awhile ago with that in mind. I have made progress since then, and one of my big issues is being in her frame, my world revolving around her. I should review it again with that in mind. I interact mostly with her, use her for feedback on progress, and I need to lessen this. Get out of the house more. Detach from her more. Get more "me" centered. Last week was a shit show …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 07:28 PM
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28th post, end of 28th week of MRP, OYS 4-17-18 Summary: Good week, no anger, no fighting. I was more assertive and it paid off. Had sex twice. Me: 49, 5' 10” 191 lbs , 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Workout: 8x5 numbers: +=felt light, up weight next week. Group A: BP 140, DBcurl 35, Squat 185, calf 315+, lat pull 100+. Group B: OHP 75+, DBisocurl 30, leg curl 110 FAIL, le…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 10:21 PM
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I have been reading your post history, working my way through it. We have some similar situations. Thanks for all your comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 11:04 PM
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I have read it. I have trouble doing it. I will reread it to be inspired. Yeah her shit tests are generally not playful. More of the cunt-like, I will destroy you type.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 09:28 PM
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I thought it was bad when the shit tests stop, but they keep coming. Not saying you are wrong, just trying to understand. Ok, I have stopped arguing. Glad I got the priorities right. Now I need to successfully work on them
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 08:01 PM
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Yeah I thought of that too, she could be prepping for an exit. Avoid the octagon, realize the words are a shit tests and respond correctly. That is what I am aiming for.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 07:58 PM
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My one win for the week gets dismantled. Oh well, better to have the truth. I don't know how it is different than squats but will look into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 07:03 PM
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Yeah, I remember the antlers story. Will try to keep in mind. I did some meditating earlier. Just kind of stopped. I should get back into it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 01:08 AM
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27th post, end of 27th week of MRP, OYS 4-10-18 Summary: Changing OYS format this week, less details and task tracking, more of a story format, less copy/paste. Starfish sex once. Lots of disrespect, arguing, and ignoring of each other. Ego epiphany in the Old Comments section. Stuck in the same place as 6 months ago. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs , 25% body fat by Navy method. 23% by picture, and full body impedance methods. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: toget…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 10:06 PM
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Ok, thanks for the clarification. I will work on DL3 and 4. I try to balance the planning and analyzing vs the actions. Trying to do both. No planning could send me down the wrong road. No action is useless. No analyzing is autistic and could mean staying on a dead end path. I do have to really focus on where I am now, not get ahead of myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 12:14 PM
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I do not know how this applies to me
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 10:26 PM
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26th post, end of 26th week of MRP, OYS 4-3-18 Summary: No anger again this week. Really good sex once. I think my big issue was that I cared what people thought of me and/or my actions, no OI. Six month summary at the end of this OYS. Called lawyers. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs , 25% body fat by Navy, picture, and full body impedance methods. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 02:39 AM
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I have a scale with hand and foot pads to measure body fat, supposedly the whole body. The measurements are all within a few degrees. It is consistent, not sure how accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:36 AM
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you do the actions and are outcome independent with the mindset. I think that is what I am missing. Part of the faking it until you make it, except I wasn't internally faking it, or making it. Sex used to be about 80% starfish. Now it's about 50%, but less often. Whatever, still making improvements in myself. Still have a ways to go. maybe you forgot it, but I did not see anything about DL3 Yeah, I half-assed DL3, didn't really get out of the house much. Tried with being busy in the basement but…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 10:08 PM
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Cool, progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 10:05 PM
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I will recheck my bodyfat %. My fat is in the spare tire around my waist. Maybe that is throwing the measurements. Not sure. I do not look good with my shirt off ... yet. you're moods may be fucked for a while as you dry out. I never thought about the alcohol end of it. I was drinking 2-4 beers daily, not sure how bad on the scale that is. I have friends that did a fifth a day, so, not that bad I guess. But probably enough that it could be an effect. being deep in your wife's ass I definitely ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 10:05 PM
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25th post, end of 25th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 3-27-18 Summary: No anger again this week. Starfish sex once. Trying to figure out what I am missing, my blind spot, and how to fix it. I probably will not have much, if any progress until I do figure it out and start working on it. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs , 25% body fat by Navy, picture, and full body impedance methods. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids,…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 03:37 AM
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I agree. I am going to stay out of DL4 for now. I know I need to be more fun, and lead in that department. That is why I mention it, and work on it, but I keep failing at it. I used to be fun and happy. If wife and kids don't want to go along I need to do my own thing, have fun anyways. I think I am too wrapped up in the daily family life ... trying to keep others needs met, teach and provide for them, always trying to fix things and make them right.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 11:42 AM
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Ok, fair enough. It is one of my weaknesses, constant errors. I am not sure why. I will work on it more. Maybe I just spend too much time in the house. Even though I am busy, I am still home. I need to get out more.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 01:39 AM
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Yes, way less fucks, get out of the house more (not just working on things in the basement).I felt defeated that one day. I got better. I have been way less angry over the last few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 02:37 AM
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24th post, end of 24th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 3-20-18 Summary: No anger again this week. Had sex twice. Disrespect and negativity back for a few days. Lots of weakness this week for me. Coming up on 6 months MRP. Me: 49, 5' 10” stuck at 191 lbs still, 25% body fat Navy method and picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: drank 64 oz of water each d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:18 PM
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23rd post, end of 23rd week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 3-13-18 Summary: No anger again this week. House guest is gone, happy family. Starfish sex once. Me: 49, 5' 10” stuck at 191 lbs again, 25% body fat Navy method and picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: drank 64 oz of water each day, read a lot of MRP posts, maintaining leadership, selling items fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 09:59 PM
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For initiating it's a balance between being the bull and not being autistic. In the past I have been too autistic and going for it, pushing forward. So this is new for me, and I am trying to give her space. I was thinking DL4 is too much now, and will back off that. I am not gaming my wife enough. More being stoic and leading vs being the happy fun guy. I need more happy fun, and gaming. I am not happy about the level of sex but don't feel butthurt, just going about my life. Still interact with …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/18 11:59 AM
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She kissed your dick and no sex or BJ after? What a tease.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 05:56 PM
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22nd post, end of 22nd week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 3-6-18 Summary: No anger again this week. Told live in house guest to leave. Creating distance with wife and she is creating more distance. No sex this week. Me: 49, 5' 10” 191 lbs, 25% body fat Navy method and picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: lost 3 lbs, drank 64 oz of water each day, read a …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 12:13 AM
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Thanks. You helped the process. I think the ship is starting to turn... slowly.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 05:17 PM
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21st post, end of 21st week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 2-27-18 Summary: No anger again this week, maybe I am getting over that phase. Two week streak but we will see. Me: 49, 5' 10” 194 lbs, 25% body fat Navy method and picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: drank 64 oz of water each day, read a lot of MRP posts, maintaining leadership level from last w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 11:15 PM
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20th post, end of 20th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 2-20-18 Summary: No anger, this week. I was calm, had fun with my wife. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs, 25% body fat Navy method and picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: drank 64 oz of water each day, read a lot of MRP posts, maintaining leadership level from last week, cleaning more of the “junk room” (s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 11:38 PM
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The problem I have is after the wife disrespects me and I let it go then the kids will act that way to me as well, and I shut that down. She will also work against my parenting decisions, in front of the kids. Either completely defer to me or openly disagree, like she is trying to make up her mind. I will be more aware of ego protection though
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 07:48 PM
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Yep, I agree with everything you said. I need to be busy, I need to physically withdraw more when she is being a cunt. For no weight loss, I used food and alcohol for comfort in the past. I am moving away from that now but make mistakes. Last week the no sex drove me more towards the dual path, couldn't lift much because of my injury. I could use it to motivate me to lose weight. I still have at least 10 pounds to lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:17 PM
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I think you are right. Boundaries is the wrong word or category, wrong diagnosis. I have frame issues, ego protection, and validation issues. I have been struggling with inner improvements. My wife is polite in public as well, that makes it easier. Not being a whipping boy, especially in front of the kids, is where I struggle. Alone with her I am much calmer, more STFU and A&A.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:08 PM
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I may be off on the boundaries as an issue. Disrespect and power plays are my issue, fighting leadership. Words, essentially. In front of the kids makes it worse but it is still words. The items you mention are boundary issues, and thankfully I don't have those issues. I should remove boundaries from my OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:06 AM
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Ok thanks for clarifying it, I had not thought of it that way. Makes sense now that I hear it
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 12:35 AM
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A major problem I’m having is insomnia For me I have to clear my mind, not think about issues I am having, not make plans, maybe daydream of something relaxing, like laying on a beach listening to waves. There are many YouTube videos with calm sounds like that, and the videos are hours long. I like watching this video to settle down, watching the city go by is just relaxing for some reason. A good app I found is Relax Melodies, it has many different types of sounds you can choose from, and you c…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:34 PM
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19th post, end of 19th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 2-13-18 Summary: The week started bad, arguments and no sex, side order of butthurt. I may change strategies, more in the Strategy section below. I am stuck in the anger phase, Groundhog Day Loop. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: no alc…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:17 PM
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This comment filled in a few missing puzzle pieces for me, BP words vs anger, and having fun teasing her. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 05:54 PM
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Ok, I will, thanks. I have a lot of work to do to make the stay and go plan the same, a little at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/18 06:59 PM
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you're doing a lot of good work here Thanks for the compliment. I was so in my head I missed this. Reread my post to try and figure out what it refers to. I think passing some shit tests with A&A, weight loss, no alcohol, and Dual Path (minus the counseling) are the highlights.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:21 PM
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I still go to the gym but I have a shoulder injury, only lower body workout for now. I am doing 5x5 at about 85%, so yes, heavy lifting. I need to get out of the house more. All my hobbies used to be bro hobbies - martial arts, hockey, boxing. I have been thinking of doing a hobby with more women in it. I work in a male dominated industry. Was thinking dancing or yoga. Maybe I need both. I have male friends I see regularly. Sailing will start up soon, that is my main hobby.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 04:24 PM
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Yeah, I agree completely. I read my post and I cringed, am embarrassed. So much weakness, butthurt, being in her frame. I need to: NOT be a puppet on a string, get the Disney story out of my subconscious plan, not base my self worth on sex frequency, not plan ahead for months (deal with today), focus on the journey and process not the end goal, not work through a checklist to exchange it for a cookie, not turn all negative emotions into anxiety (accept and deal with them), stop serial initiation…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 04:17 PM
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18th post, end of 18th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 2-6-18 Summary: The week started good. As the days go on without sex and the rejections add up I get more anxious. Right now I am lost though and may change strategies, more in the Preview section at the end of my post. Me: 49, 5' 10” 189 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. We…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 12:51 AM
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I read to the end because I am dealing with this now. I don't have the outburst level but a lower level of anger and resentment. I try DL4 lowering of attention but am too resentful, lack OI and abundance, and it comes off as butthurt. I am stuck in the Groundhog Day Hamster Loop. Trying to get out by asking myself what lies I am telling myself, what delusions do I have? I am aware of the Dancing Monkey program and am trying to avoid it but end up back in there anyway. My route out is either 1) …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:30 PM
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Ok, will do. Rehab then use it in my warm up routine. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 12:17 AM
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Ok I will look into those, thanks. I think I know what you are referring to but will make sure. The guys at the gym warned me and I tried their method/form but abandoned it because it felt awkward. Duh. One guy does band pull excersises, probably what you are suggesting. My shoulders are not strong and need work, and I will start slow. My 50% then 75% plan may be too aggressive. I may start at 50% and slowly work my way back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 08:02 PM
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Thanks for the info and clarification. My frame is not that strong yet. I am not afraid of her, detaching from her emotions, and staying calm. Working on body language, still probably need words but will try your method. Leaving the room really gets her, I have done it once. Need to keep it in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:22 PM
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Yep, I used to think it was strong, and all that was needed. It is a first step. Just starting my study on boundaries. Leaving the room and leaving the house are the next two levels of defense I know of so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 02:30 AM
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I have a few similarities to your story, the power struggles and patterns especially, I will make sure to read the links in the comments. It could be your wife is low self esteem, thus the self-destructive patterns. Read Practical Female Psychology for more on that topic.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:05 PM
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17th post, end of 17th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 1-26-18 Summary: Another week of disrespect and avoiding from her, feels like a big step back. Busy week, I got a lot done. My shoulder still needs rest, no workouts for upper body. Me: 48, 5' 10” 191 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method, gaining weight based on her looks. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 10:59 PM
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I cut back on alcohol and it helped, but eliminating it completely was a lot easier for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:48 PM
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She may not be able to follow because she has low self-esteem. Read Practical Female Psychology for more info on that topic, or goto BPP's summary here
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 02:43 PM
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Ok, I read the book. I will try to think of these techniques during those times. And I will read the links, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 11:51 PM
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I am a lot less afraid of her emotions now, not sure I am at 100%. Yes, leadership to get her to clean her mess. Her going and finding something to argue about felt like a shit test, her return fire. I stayed calm and think I handled it well. I have noticed way shorter recovery times after arguments.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 01:52 PM
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16th post, end of 16th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 1-23-18 Summary: Calm week other than the end of the week. I am noticing a lot of changes in me, her, and our relationship. Me: 48, 5' 10” 193 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years. Week review: PASS: lost 2 lbs, no alcohol 6 days, no porn, drank 64 oz of water each day, read a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 01:14 PM
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Have you read Practical Female Psychology? I have a wife that seems to attack my self confidence and that sounds like what you have as well. I found the book very helpful, maybe it would help you. My wife has Low Self Esteem (LSE), and the book explains their behavior and motivations. I don't have any verified solutions, I just work on staying calm in those shit-storms. "Rise above" was advice given to me for similar issues. Good job on the home improvement
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 04:36 AM
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In the US, so it must be by the doctor. Maybe women sue doctor offices but men don't do it as often.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 09:59 PM
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I should review my MAP again, it's been about a month. My MAP is thorough, and full of difficulty, if that is what you mean. I don't know how strong it is. I am going after the long term changes now, the yellow ones, like weight loss. There are several arguments, frame battles, shit tests (whatever you want to call them) each week, sometimes daily. My frame is tested by my wife a lot. So yeah, I am sometimes in reaction mode. I look forward to the next road. I am working to strengthen my frame, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 09:58 PM
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15th post, end of 15th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 1-16-18 Summary: I was a lot more relaxed internally. Being busy helps DNGAF a lot. Felt like I had a good solid week, no major relationship issues. I got a vasectomy. Me: 48, 5' 10” 195 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. I think she is an avoidant narcissist. In the past I wanted to try to fix her, now I just want to know typical patterns and the …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 11:32 AM
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Very rarely and I have no idea. Doing that successfully would give OI via external actions, even just getting phone numbers. Doing it and failing may reduce OI. Either way it's feedback. Once I move up in DL my plan is to flirt and go for number closes. You are suggesting I do that now but I am not sure I am ready yet. I am not afraid to talk to women, and I have a little bit of game, sure I could improve it a lot. I want to read Bang and Models before going to DL7. Oh, and go through DL4-6. Als…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 05:45 PM
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I agree 100%. Now, how to work on it and fix it? For internal work I think it is force of will, building off external gains and successes, and using mental tricks and tactics (breathe from balls, antlers on your head, Commander coin, act like ship captain). Reading OYS stories (success and failures) helps too, you realize others are doing it as well - "flying in formation". Some imagination helps - in the future I will be X with a women who does Y, but you have to watch for delusions and depende…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 02:48 PM
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14th post, end of 14th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 1-9-18 Summary: This week was INTENSE. I got very serious about weight loss, had a large fail, kid/family challenge ramped up (not going into details), then had a big internal shift. Me: 48, 5' 10” 195 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method, 25% via picture method Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175? lbs, about 35-45%% body fat via picture method. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: PASS: lost 5 pounds, no alc…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 12:42 AM
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No I wasn't doing everything, just picked up a few tasks
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 02:16 PM
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Thanks. The shit tests and emotional end of the game have been my bigger weaknesses. Glad to have some progress in that area. BTW I like your username. Good motto to live by.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:18 AM
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No agreements on tasks if that is what you mean. I just picked up her slack. You think the two items are related? I don't know why there were no shit tests this week. I don't get them every week. She is can be a controlling bitch but this week she was following my lead, asking for what to do, and treating me with respect ... when she wasn't avoiding me or throwing a tantrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 12:52 PM
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13th post, end of 13th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 1-2-18 Me: 48, 5' 10” 200 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: Took a week off and it shows. Gained weight again this week, fail. Way over on alcohol with all the parties, one in house bender, fail. No clutter cleared, fail. Did not start financial review, fail. No porn. Drank 64 oz of water each day. Sex twi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 10:39 AM
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Ok, good info, thanks. I hadn't thought that far ahead in terms of body fat. I'm thinking my next big change will be at either 20% body fat or 180 pounds. At that point I plan on getting new clothes. If I have been busy enough (DL3) then I will also start reducing attention based on how she treats me (DL4) as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:44 AM
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Thanks, I have read that, but am thinking it comes later. I am 2 months into MRP and the post said it was for 4 months in. I think I am still in DL 1 or 2, and she is not attracted to me. In fact, she has spent the week avoiding me, and is out to the movies by herself right now. I'm not sure how I would implement it anyway. She has already pulled away her attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 01:02 AM
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she didn't even respond to it. Been there many times. I only text logistics to the wife now. She is off and on in responding to basic greetings in person to me. If I confront her she says she didn't hear me. Just today I said "good morning", she ignored it and looked away from me. I responded with "nice". Times like that makes me think it is just over.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 03:36 PM
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12th post, end of 12th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 12-26-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 196 lbs, 28% body fat Navy method. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: Drank 64 oz of water each day, walked every day, read some MRP posts. Worked out 1 day. Good sex once. No fap, no porn. Passed those. Way over on alcohol with all the parties, no benders but still a fail. Not much clutter cleared, fail. No A&A o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 08:49 PM
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Great ideas, thanks. I weigh myself 1-2 per week, always in the AM, and not daily. I have been too focused on the weight loss though. That and the muscle gains have been my wins, and I am using that for support. I realize there are plateaus, and am staying with it, but need to limit my focus on it. I hadn't thought about waist size, so far I lost 4" in that department. I am waiting until I get to my target weight to get a new wardrobe, but just went out and got a new pair of jeans. The old ones …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 07:35 PM
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Just to clarify, the event was at the end of the night. So going to bed was not as much butthurt as I implied, at least I think that reduces it, maybe not. It did not feel butthurt to me, and I never raised my voice or got upset with her, like I usually do. So I felt like I stayed in frame, but am probably mistaken. The talking I did was using logic and negotiating, I see that now. Whatever it was, it stung her. She went to bed late that night (someone who is always tired), and avoided me the ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 07:18 PM
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Yep, should have said "not as much progress as I thought". I have made some internal and external gains, but I have a lot more to do. No complacency here, working hard and trying to admit mistakes.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 07:03 PM
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I thought I was improving since I was less upset internally, obviously not the case. I will concentrate more on shit tests this week. As I sit here I want to A&A them but in the moment I take them too seriously. It's the same patterns, I should see them coming from a mile away. Thanks for the info.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:49 PM
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11th post, end of 11th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 12-19-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 193 lbs,, about 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: I lost one pound, drank 64 oz of water each day, walked every day, read some MRP posts. Worked out 4 days. Good sex once. No fap, no porn. Passed those. Slightly over on alcohol but way better this week, no benders but still a fail. Not much clutter …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 09:33 PM
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Wow, great comment. I am working on several of the issues mentioned. Very motivating each time I read it. Too bad OP took off. Criticism is easier to take when it is directed at someone else but applies to you.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 04:27 PM
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10th post, end of 10th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 12-12-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 194 lbs,, about 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: I did not lose any weight, drank 64 oz of water each day, read Gorilla Mindset, typed notes on books I read, walked every day, read some MRP posts (from one I realized I was probably not an alpha originally, probably a feral beta). Worked out 3 days …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 01:10 AM
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9th post, end of 9th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 12-5-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 194 lbs,, about 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: Lost 5 pounds, probably water weight. I drank 64 oz of water each day. I read the Abundance book but it was more about technology not internal/mental/emotional topics. I read a lot of MRP posts. There was one about co-dependent relationships that really…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 11:01 PM
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I think it is a way to prevent sex later. It's weird that she would do it when we agreed not to have sex for some time. It is a creative, drama-filled way to say no. I will pay more attention to this to verify. I want to try some A&A on them too, see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 05:00 PM
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8th post, end of 8th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 11-28-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 199 lbs,, about 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: Two days of feasting resulted in a 9 pound weight gain. WTH, how is that even possible? I knew the holiday would make it a rough week, goal-wise, but that is a lot. Water-weight? Beer weight? 9 pounds is a lot. I don't look worse in the mirror, in fact…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 11:21 PM
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My situation is different than yours, opposite even. Wife was not excited about the deal (or pretended not to be), no large behavior changes so far for either of us, I am less into her, she has resentment from starfish sex and will not initiate sex, she is ok with no sex and I am struggling more (why do I stay?), she needs a lot of foreplay to get into sex, and sex is a big issue destabilizing our relationship. It has only been one week so we will see what happens. BTW, we have had dry spells th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 06:17 PM
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7th post, end of 7th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 11-21-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 190 lbs, 34 lbs of weight lost, about 25% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Week review: I have been drinking 64 ounces of water per day. I did not read Manipulated Man. I finished WISNIFG. Beard is in. Cleaned up more clutter, more to go. Lost 2 pounds. I was gone for several days on a hunting trip with my son, which…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 12:05 AM
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leaving, even for more money, would delay it (retirement ) for years. I have done the math Or math based decisions. I do my job and go home, and am paid well. I am surprised by all the negativity on my career. It is "meh", not bad. Extra work at my current job is not compensated for, so my time is better spent elsewhere. I am not going to leave, follow my passion, be a sailing instructor, and take at least a 50% pay cut. In 8 months there will only be one kid in the house and I will have more ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 01:29 AM
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I never said I hated it, and there are promotion prospects but I am not interested. I choose 8 vs 12 hour work days. I don't love or hate my job, but there are a lot of benefits, I work from home a lot. Could be better but it could be much worse too. My current job is crucial to my retirement plan, leaving, even for more money, would delay it for years. I have done the math. I will check out the link when I get back though. I an on a hunting trip now and don't always have a signal. I haven't tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 07:53 PM
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Thanks for the info. I saw your OYS write up too, part of the inspiration to do it. Just to clarify, you said you both needed it after a month, but you also said you didn't need sex too. I am trying to understand that. Short term you didn't need it, or not need it as much as you thought. I guess it's good your wife figured out she also needed sex at some point. Years ago I tried no sex to see how long before my wife wanted it or initiated. I didn't mention it to her, just stopped initiating. I g…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 11:54 PM
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6th post, end of 6th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 11-14-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 192 lbs, 32 lbs of weight lost, about 28% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Sex: I didn't have much drive this week. Initiated once, had sex once, it was starfish though - fail. Disappointing week overall in this area. Week review: I did the NMMNG exercises. Worked on figuring out my mission – in process. I did not lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 02:05 AM
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Ok great, thanks for the info.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 12:35 PM
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Ok thanks for the advice. I am definitely done having kids, that is not the issue. I was referring more to the after affects of the surgery - loss of sex drive, extended periods of pain or pain during orgasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 10:55 AM
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Ok I will do that, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 02:04 AM
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5th post, end of 5th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 11-7-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 192 lbs, 32 lbs of weight lost, about 28% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Sex: I didn't have much drive this week, did not initiate until the end of the week. Initiated once, had sex once, and it was good. We went out to a bar, had a few drinks, listened to some smooth jazz, home, another round of drinks while watchi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 11:52 PM
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I've thought a little bit about that. It needs to have no effect on my mission, which I am developing. I should check my MAP to see if all that still makes sense. I get that these things (my mission and MAP), and my actions, should not be tailored to her, or to please her. I feel my progress so far is for me, a benefit to me. I keep that in mind setting my actions for the upcoming week.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 01:35 AM
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I was wondering when the first insult would occur, well, one month in. She is not your metric. Women in general are your metric. I get that. She doesn't matter. At all. not one single bit. I am having trouble with that, or am not ready for it. Her actions matter a lot: help with the kids, errands, work around the house, etc. We are legally intertwined. It seems like you are saying to go Rambo, or autistic with her. She is not attracted to me and some of my actions would be different if she was. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 11:12 PM
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At first I thought you were referring to me, then I thought you meant to reply to man_in_the_world, then I realized it was about my post, had to be referring to my wife. It's a journey. SorcererKing confirmed it. Ok now I need to figure out if I am referring to her too much, which is what I think you mean. I know I am not here to serve her, everything does not revolve around her. I probably need work in that area too. Point taken. That is referred to in NMMNG, and getting to the exercises is on …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 10:45 PM
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I thought I was posting. Do you have some kind of time limit?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:11 AM
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Yep, you are right. I originally started the MAP and TRP/MRP to fix our relationship and to get more sex. I now know she can react or not, I can go on with or without her. Usually I have that mind frame but occasionally slip or vent. I am hoping she does react and we can fix things, and I never thought of that as a covert contract but it is, and I need to move more away from it. Yes I have reread the Dancing Monkey post several times and it applies to me for sure. I have work to do in this area.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:07 AM
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4th post, end of 4th week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 10-31-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 190 lbs, 32 lbs of weight lost, about 28% body fat. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Sex: I was going to back off on initiating after last week asking for and getting a BJ, but then spontaneously initiated the next night for a good round of sex. I hadn't planned or thought about it, surprised myself even. I need to work on ini…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 08:21 PM
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3rd post, end of 3rd week of MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, OYS 10-24-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 192 lbs, 30 lbs of weight lost, about 28% body fat. I think I am an 8 and she is a 7. Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat. She thinks we are both 3's. There goes her low self-esteem again, or maybe I am delusional/overly optimistic, or comparing only within our age group. Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, empty nest in 3.5 years Sex: I was gone last weekend for a hunting trip with my son and fri…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 10:28 PM
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if you have a history of initiating sex when you got positive responses to kino in the past it will take some time for her to unlearn this habit Yes, I was thinking that too. The day kino with my wife is new to me, so she is probably thinking I am trying to initiate sex, which is what it used to be. I am in process of undoing that, not that this is a problem, more of a status report. I try to evaluate where I am in MAP phases and Dread levels and it seems to bounce around. I need to keep focus o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 02:55 PM
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2nd post, end of 2nd week MRP, MAP started Feb 2016, 10-17-17 Me: 48, 5' 10” 194 lbs, about 28% body fat Her: 47, 5' 7”, 175 lbs, about 30-35% body fat Us: together 25 years, married 22 years, 3 kids, empty nest in 3.5 years Last week goals: gym 3 times, lose 3 pounds, no beer, no fap, no alcohol, no starfish sex. Work on kino. Initiate sex when I wanted, roll over and go to bed with no butt hurt if rejected. No complaining or talk about feelings or unmet needs. Results: had 2 beers with a frien…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:29 PM
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Hey I ran across your web site. Your writing is great. Lots of emotion and knowledge in there. Thanks for putting it all out there
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 12:20 PM
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Yes, I am doing that now. I may modify it to have 1-2 beers a week out with friends or with the wife. I have given up drinking for months at a time, several times in my life. I sleep a lot better and lose weight faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 10:20 PM
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I reread my replies and don't get that impression. It is what I am working on and struggling with, and things I have to do yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/17 10:16 PM
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I have a free gym at work, usually work out before coming home. I could join a gym and only work out in the evening. Tough to initiate at 7pm with teenagers running around the house though. Been trying to think of other ways to initiate other than last thing at night, it's when we are alone though.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 08:30 PM
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Hawaii shirt (or any button up untucked shirt) and OWB holster. You have to be able to get to it quick if you need it. If you have to tuck in your shirt go IWB but it's not as comfortable, get one with the inner shield. Another option is get a smaller gun. I can wear a 32 in gym shorts and a tank top, no one can see it, although I have a spare tire waist. I would stick with strong side, hip holster, for access and less accidents. My opnion.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 12:06 AM
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I was thinking the same way. If I am low value and she is not attracted to me then who cares if I go away, but I am trying to build attraction, and become OI. So far other than roll over and go to bed I have not withdrawn anything. (I only initialize at the end of the night when we are in bed, same as all the starfish sex we had. Another issue I need to work on.) I'm good for now on not withdrawing but not sure when that changes. I got a hard no last night, I roll over, she starts crying quietly…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:36 PM
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You are right that there would probably not be alimony, and few if any years of child support. Divorce would cut the household budget, investments, and retirement income in half (at best case) plus lawyer costs. If she was working full time I might actually get money from her. I have yet to look at an estimate of what divorce would look like financially but it is lower on the priority list.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 04:26 PM
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Yes, exactly ... what is MY mission. I need to figure that out. Also need to figure out details on work out and diet, a timeline with some decision points. Lots of mental work to do, both strategical and tactical. I wanted to document where I am at now and what I have done so I can refer back to it, and get feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 04:18 PM
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First post, 2 year RP, 1 year MAP, 1 week into MRP actions. OYS Me: 48 years old, 5'10”, 200 pounds, Dad-bod with some strength, I do not look good naked, full head of hair with very little gray, good looking 8/10, have had 7 sex partners, I make over $100k/year, ENTJ personality. I estimate 28% body fat – too much. Her: 47, 175 pounds, pear shaped, Mirena IUD (hormone IUD, she claims no lowering of sex drive from it), 2 sex partners, no sex drive for at least 10 years, makes over $100k/year, wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:18 AM
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