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Discussioncandiedgemstone/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:58 AM
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2

Sex toys are not the same as porn. I’d be fine with a man using a sex toy, porn is a different subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:11 AM
8

A cope for who? I’m in a relationship and he tremendously improves my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:44 AM
2

You can have a healthy relationship with it I guess but it’s a slippery slope.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:44 AM
7

The happiest women are unmarried and childless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:43 AM
43

Yeah they just realized the risk outweighs the benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:10 AM
14

Most of these women are independent and make their own money and aren’t really interested in finding a man unless he tremendously benefits her life. When you date men you open yourself up for being cheated on, dealing with porn addiction, dealing with other lustful activities such as following Instagram models and onlyfans creators, him not doing his share of the household duties or child rearing… not to mention if we really want children we can have babies through sperm doners and raise them wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:08 AM
5

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:05 AM
-1

This is so interesting!! I love this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:04 AM
11

What? It’s 2025 women have careers and support themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:27 PM
16

Us 20 something women aren’t really trending towards dating older men either. We are trending towards not dating men at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:26 PM
12

If he’s following Instagram models or watching a ton of porn I don’t want him anyway. I’ve ended relationships for that before and so have a lot of my friends. Women aren’t dating gross lustful men who disrespect them anymore. It’s literally better to be alone than to be with a man who pays for onlyfans models or follows them on her personal Instagram account.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:14 PM
25

Same here ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:12 PM
-1

You shouldn’t have the same amount of dating or life experience as you did at 22 and you should’ve grown a lot as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:08 AM
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You’re just making every excuse for it to be acceptable to date a super young girl it’s so weird
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 09:43 PM
1

A 22 year old and a 31 year old absolutely shouldn’t be in the same stage in life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 08:53 PM
100

Yeah most women aren’t having sex in the way that women in porn have sex. Most women have no interest in anal or threesomes etc Most women also aren’t really having too much sex outside of relationships and have realized that casual sex isn’t worth it due to the orgasm gap, the risk of pregnancy, the risk of being harmed by their sex partner… And no I don’t have any sources on this other than being a woman in her mid 20s who spends a lot of time in female centered spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:59 PM
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Nobody could care less about your 29 year old fiancé. This post isn’t about two mature adults dating. Your age gap is a non issue. Women do not care about this. 29 and 45 is fine. The age gaps that people are bothered by is usually when the younger person is 18-23 and dating someone 10+ years older. This doesn’t bother women because they’re jealous, and they’re definitely not “seething” over this.. Women are bothered by extreme age gaps because they’ve likely been there and know what that toxic …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:33 AM
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It doesn’t have as much to do with the lacking of ‘big boy goals’ as it does someone being a creepy predator. You could be a 32 year old neurosurgeon and id still think you’re a creep and there’s something wrong with you if you’re going after an 18 year old girl. Men choose women this young because they’re easier to manipulate and they are less likely to stand up for themselves due to the power imbalance that a person with 10+ years of dating and life experience has on the younger person. Women …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:29 AM
6

See most normal people have this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 04:46 AM
6

This is such a good point. So many dads (including my own) want kids but are uninterested in parenting
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 08:16 PM
25

Also, I’d like to add that I work in public safety and deal with child abuse and neglect and children living in poverty pretty regularly. A child having a single loving parent who really wanted them is such a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:36 PM
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It’s not cruel at all. A woman who had a baby via a doner most likely really really wanted a baby and will be a great mom. “Depriving” a child of a two parent household is ridiculous. A ton of kids have divorced parents. Women also commonly have villages to help raise children. Good friend groups, grandparents, aunts/ uncles. To be honest, my dad was kind of a drunk loser and my mom was great but fought with him a lot. I’d much rather just grow up with my mom in the picture and no dad. If my par…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:35 PM
2

We actually don’t care. We might joke about it, there are a few “is he bothering you queen?” Jokes I’ve seen other women make online when a really attractive woman is with an average looking man but it’s all in good fun. I think in general women are more attractive than men. We put more effort into our appearances
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:00 PM
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Nobody cares about anybody’s past unless someone is a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 08:09 AM
2

Yeah that or something people would tell men who aren’t getting dates
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:37 AM
2

lol people tell women this too??? Even more so than men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:31 AM
3

Do you not think women are told the same thing??
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:48 AM
0

This sounds like advice people give men who are already struggling with dating. If women were throwing themselves at you nobody would be giving you this advice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:13 AM
-2

Oh my god nobody is against you having sex? Who would want it to be the last thing you achieve??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:32 PM
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1) no. Just no. 2) why would I date someone who only has sex with me 3x a year and I’m suddenly not attracted to someone I’m dating and have to imagine someone else?? He seemed perfect until you threw that huge negative deal breaker in there. Also, why would I want the guy I’m dating to think I’m a virgin? 3) I don’t want to date a man who’s been married or has kids. 4) sounds like a child / someone who I have nothing in common with. Also, why would I care if my boyfriend knew about my past? we …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:34 AM
4

Um ok ? Sorry you live at home I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:26 PM
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A lot of men don’t want to date a single mom. A lot of women don’t want to date a man who lives at home. Also, I’m assuming this woman probably has lived on her own at one point. It’s kind of different if you’ve literally never moved out, I can see how that would be a massive turn off. Also, you really consider yourself an 8? You’re probably delusional. I think you should do some self work before dating. The only way I’d personally date a man who lives with his parents is if he was taking care o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:18 PM
1

Women don’t have casual sex because it’s not worth it to us. I don’t even think good looking men are getting casual sex. We don’t orgasm from it, we risk being murdered, we risk pregnancy, STDs… if men want sex find a woman to go out with. Spend time with her, earn her trust, then have sex. That’s how most women get sex. The only group of people having 100% no strings attached casual sex all the time are gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:58 PM

This definitely isn’t the norm. Actually, most women can’t even orgasm from penetration. A women being penetrated forcibly by a man she doesn’t want to have sex with when her vagina is dry is likely to be painful and not result in orgasm. Honestly, when I’ve heard about the involuntary orgasm it’s usually in CSA cases… I also think this post is gross, I’m not sure what you’re trying to say with it. That women often get off on being raped ?? That’s just not true. The whole “it’s a natural process…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:53 AM
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That’s fine dude you can just fuck prostitutes who recoil from your touch instead of putting in the work to find a nice woman who wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 06:39 AM
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It’s actually very different though, because he’s having sex with a woman who doesn’t want the sex. In the groupie scenario, both people are consenting to the sex and there’s attraction there
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:37 AM
0

Men will defend paying for sex so much and it is so beyond disgusting. You’re having sex with a woman who doesn’t want it. How can you even get off on that? I can’t be into sex unless I 100% know that the person wants to be with me and do this. Her mind is somewhere else while you guys are having sex. It’s a little bit different than two attractive pornstars having sex and getting paid. She probably thinks you’re gross and ugly and is just looking forward to use this money to buy food / drugs / …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:34 PM
1

I also talked about that a lot of them are underage, exploited, and drug addicted?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:56 PM

We are talking about how men want to defend paying for sex. I don’t think all men are horrible. I’m just saying that a lot of the girls selling sex are drug addicted, underage, abused, not selling sex willingly… the escorts that are independent are probably going it out of desperation.. nobody is an escort because they like sex though. Nobody in the right state of mind would willingly put themselves through having sex with strange men for money without anyone around to protect them. I also think…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:37 PM

It’s not silly that Maine allows the selling of sex but not the buying of it because a lot of women who are selling sex aren’t doing so willingly. A lot are underaged. If they aren’t at risk of going to jail they might be willing to talk to police more and can report when they’re abused by Johns
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:33 PM

I love how that’s the only point you wanted to address.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:31 PM

I know! Why do guys want to defend using hookers so much? Do it if you need to, but the majority of people think it’s weird / gross that you sleep with someone who’s only sleeping with you because you’re paying them. At least with women having casual sex all parties are 100% consenting. Not to mention a lot of prostitutes are exploited and drug addicted and some are even underage. Oh and also, it’s literally illegal in most states.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:57 AM
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Most of us have realized it’s not worth it. Of course some still are partaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 07:35 AM
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This is a crazy statement considering what women give up in order to give men children. They give up their body, often times careers, do most of the domestic labor… Women often act as a personal therapist in relationships with men If we are talking about sex we can talk about how most women aren’t partaking in casual sex anymore so good luck finding that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:15 AM

Really? Because women are pretty open about finding taller men much more attractive than short men for example.. I’ve never seen a woman say “I could never be with a man with a 5 inch penis” but I have seen women who refuse to date a 5’5 man. I don’t think women would lie about not caring much about penis size. We don’t put as much thought into penis size as men do. Of course size matters to a point, and a lot of people associate large penises with being more masculine. Some women think large pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:33 PM

“Most women are like 5s” Yes that’s how being average works. Most men are 5s too. Most people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:11 PM

Just look at the r/truerateme subreddit (it is a cesspool so proceed with caution) but the men there are rated wayyyy higher than the women (it’s other men rating them) It’s actually crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:10 PM
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45 year olds can be attractive still if they’re active and take care of themselves. But yeah age catches up with most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:24 AM
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A man who leaves his pregnant wife for someone is a huge piece of shit. This person has other stuff going on that they need to work on. That is not a ‘high value man’ If you told me an attractive doctor with good values proposed to a single mom 10 years older than him with tattoos I’d be a lot more surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:07 AM

You could argue it’s the same for women. There’s not much we can do to change our general appearance without tons of money / filler / plastic surgery. An ugly girl isn’t going to look pretty or even average with makeup. That’s not how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:12 PM

That’s not true. Also, most women don’t even wear makeup everyday… and it doesn’t change their looks all that much unless it’s expertly applied which most women don’t know how to do / don’t have the skill for. Men can learn how to style themselves, practice better personal hygiene ( a lot of men Ive known don’t even floss or wash behind their ears) get a haircut that suits them, find a good cologne, obviously eat right and exercise, actually have a skincare routine, trim nose hair, trim between …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 07:55 PM
-4

Do you think tall women have it easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:00 PM
4

What should it be
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:40 AM
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That’s a men’s issue. Men should be more open with each other and talk about their feelings with each other. Instead they rely on their female partners or bottle it all up. It’s a little bit hard for women to show compassion to men as a whole. Women are great at listening to their male partners / male friends but worrying about men’s issues when women are constantly harassed and assaulted and killed by men is a little bit hard. Not to mention we have our own issues like fighting for bodily auton…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:31 AM
4

What about the unshaven legs/ pits, upper lip hair, unkempt eyebrows?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:49 PM
8

Oh so you’d be fine if a girl you were dating showed up wearing basketball shorts and a t shirt with full leg hair and underarm hair? With unplucked eyebrows and hair on her upper lip? Wearing a baseball cap with her hair under it? Because that’s about as much effort men put into their appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:40 PM
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Right now me and my boyfriend have a 50/50 relationship and it’s fine. However we do want kids and I don’t want them in daycare all day. I also have an extremely demanding career and don’t want to do that AND raise children. So eventually I’m planning to stay home and raise our children when we get married and have them. I’m totally okay with doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:16 PM
1

Most women with a good moral compass aren’t interested in dating a married / taken guy. Especially nowadays with people wanting to be “girls girls”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:00 PM
9

No woman is okay with being a ‘side chick’… I think women just aren’t dating men because it’s not worth it. They’re not all having sex with the ‘top men’ Why would the top men even want an average woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:38 PM
10

I don’t really understand this because all of the couples I see are equal looks matches, with even the women being more attractive. So I don’t get where this is coming from. I will say why the average man might be undesirable to the average woman though. Women on average put a lot more effort into their appearance. They get their hair done, apply makeup, get their eyebrows / eyelashes done, shave / wax every inch of their bodies or else they’re called gross / unhygienic But it’s fine for men to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:34 PM
1

There isn’t a single woman who’s saying looks don’t matter.. they’re saying It’s not the top thing that matters which is true. I’ve became attracted to guys before that I wouldn’t be attracted to initially. But obviously when you’re doing online dating that is the first thing you see so.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:31 PM
1

Anyone who calls themselves a sapiosexual has the depth of a puddle and they’re probably better off avoided anyway, just saying. Most of the women saying this have a bachelors degree in something stupid and thinks that makes them an intellectual or an academic. But also, yes looks matter for women? I’m really confused why men are so butthurt that looks matter for women and women do care about looks. It’s not some secret that we try to hide. I’m sorry if you’re ugly. Looks matter for men too, obv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:02 PM
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Yeah but risking having a life partner for a few minutes of sex is crazy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:01 PM
5

Oh yeah absolutely. That’s why I really don’t understand why people cheat. Like you could have this amazing life with someone else, raise children with them, give everything to each other but you trade that all in for some cheap sex or whatever… kind of crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:52 PM
7

Yeah I understand that. I’m not saying that all men don’t care about the pleasure of their hookups and women are risking pregnancy and exposure to std for nothing, but it happens A LOT and the risk isn’t work the reward for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:59 PM
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I’m just saying it’s typically not worth it. And yeah, I’m sure the more attractive and charismatic guys have more access to casual sex just like the more attractive women have more access to potential partners / dates / hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:48 PM
1

Exactly I don’t cuddle with my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:26 PM
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Because I want a partner in life. I want someone to start a family with, merge finances with, create a home with. I guess regular sex is a bonus but if I were single I wouldn’t be even a tiny bit interested in sex with a random guy. Hooking up is not worth it for women. Sometimes even men you’re monogamous with don’t care about your pleasure, men you’re hooking up casually with definitely don’t. Couple the risk of STDs, pregnancy.. not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:25 PM
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No adult woman who respects herself does this to herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:27 PM
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Yeah I’m an average woman dating an average man. I’m not in a situationship with a chad or whatever the top comment says. Neither are my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:25 PM
0

Who do you think the average women are dating ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:49 AM
5

Who do you guys think the average women are dating? Do you think average looking Ashley who works at the bank making $18/hour is trying to date some super hot guy making six figures? No… She’s dating average joe who works construction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:48 AM
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That’s what I’m saying… The post is talking about paid sex though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:12 AM
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It can be a broad definition. Some of the upper class women will do just that, and that’s fine. But escorts also have sex for money, and that’s a whole other can of worms that’s also illegal in most places.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:16 AM
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sex work is one thing, having sex for money and listing yourself on an escort page puts you at risk not to mention it’s prostitution and illegal in most places. Most educated women have other avenues. The women who are escorting (specifically escorting, not just ‘sex work’) usually aren’t doing this because it’s their career of choice. Do you realize how dehumanizing it is to have sex with the type of men who pay for escort services? Not to mention the risk of being murdered. No woman is doing t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:15 AM
5

It is absolutely not common for college students to escort to pay for tuition, that’s ridiculous. Student loans exist. The type of girl who goes to college isn’t the type of girl who is having sex for money. Stripping, onlyfans…. All of that is different and doesn’t involve risking your life or doing something illegal or allowing disgusting men to use your body for a few hundred bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:22 AM
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No. I think sex work is extremely dangerous and self destructive behavior. Also, it’s illegal where I live. And I’ll add that most women who are doing escort work ARE doing it because they don’t have a choice. Onlyfans and stuff is different, but letting the type of men who pay for escorts into your body….i can’t think of much worse than that. I can’t think of any woman seeing that as ‘fun’
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:20 AM

It’s word salad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:10 AM
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No you’re just commenting word salad and avoiding the whole point of my comment which was if you think feminism has any downsides you probably just don’t like women. If there are any negatives they are so minuscule compared to the positives it isn’t even worth a conversation. “Women are more picky because they don’t need a man :( :(“ Okay cool that’s such a non issue compared to women being unable to access education and healthcare in countries where feminism doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:08 AM
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What bad can come from equality? Honestly ? Enlighten me I’m curious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:21 PM
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Feminism by definition is the equality of men and women… Do you think the civil rights movement has had downsides? Do you think men and women being equal in society has downsides? Do you think black people and white people being equal in society and having the same opportunities has downsides as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:18 PM
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Exactly. And if you don’t like feminism because women don’t really “need” men anymore and can make their own money then you don’t really like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:12 PM
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There actually isn’t a single negative consequence of the feminist movement. Look at countries that don’t practice feminism and live in a patriarchal society. The women there can’t leave their houses without men, can’t be educated, are killed if they dishonor their family by doing something as shocking as having premarital sex, women can’t work or earn their own money… they can’t say no to their husbands.. Do you know that women couldn’t open their own bank accounts until the 1970s? Right now, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:11 PM
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