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Makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 03:51 PM
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-- 6th OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 36. --Why am I here?-- My wife cheated on me. Perfect lab created Beta Bux™ - /u/RuleZeroDAD +1 Drunk Captain. Dead Bedroom most of the time. --My Failures-- Afraid of my Wife. Drunk Captain. Flabby no-tone body. Too emotional. Bad habits. Let myself hate / blame my wife instead of owning my shit. Balls deep in wife's frame. My frame is paper thin. Finances are unhealthy. Wife SMV > My SMV. --My Mission-- To become the strong, confident, and secure …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 10:25 PM
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-- 5th OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 29. --Why am I here?-- My wife cheated on me. Perfect lab created Beta Bux™ - /u/RuleZeroDAD +1 Drunk Captain. Dead Bedroom most of the time. --My Failures-- Afraid of my Wife. Drunk Captain. Unnatractive body. Too emotional. Bad habits. Let myself hate / blame my wife instead of owning my shit. Balls deep in wife's frame. My frame is paper thin. Finances are unhealthy. Wife SMV > My SMV. --My Mission-- To become the strong, confident, and secure le…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 05:07 PM
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I hear ya. I'm fucking sore in all sorts of new places. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast is my life at the gym right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 05:37 PM
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Noted. I hired that PT to help me sort of my lifts so I can stay consistent and not hurt myself. I'm pretty fucking weak and I don't wanna stall via injury. The numbers, while arbitrary at this stage, are keeping me going. It's a goal for the day. All I have to do is lift 5 more pounds.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 05:27 PM
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If the shit shoe fits right?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 05:19 PM
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I've been drinking a ton powerade packets and making myself drink at least a gallon of water a day otherwise. Most of the manifestation has been headaches so far. First week was bad, last week not as bad. I've been eating celery for the crunch and the cravings are getting less and less prominent as the days go on. I haven't cracked yet and I don't plan on it. I just hadn't realized until I didn't eat carbs a lot how much of my diet was carbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 10:57 PM
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The KetoGains calculator at 219, 23% BF puts me at 2224 for maintenance, 1779 for lose weight doing fuckall. I ate at 1650-1700 a few days last week (didn't try, just worked out that way) and wasn't really that hungry with all the water I was drinking. I'm feeling pretty stable eating that low but I did notice on the days I went to the gym I was pretty whooped by the time I got to bed. I had assumed that was because of the no carb but you've got me rethinking it. 1724 would be the magic number t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 09:39 PM
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Same thing - My first girlfriend had to literally put my dick inside her before I realized what was going on. In retrospect I laugh at myself for how little I knew (and still don't know). I've got an endless amount of shit to read and I'm trying to absorb and be it and not just read it. I'll give it all a read / watch through.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 09:32 PM
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Yep. Makes me realize I am autistic as fuck. When we were younger, I would initiate 95% of the time and when she did, she just grabbed my dick. I'm sure I am missing IOI's all the time because I'm stuck in my head and not paying attention to anything around me. I'm finding a lot of success with things I read about conversation in WISNIFG, shit that is obvious once I slow down for a second and actually do it. I've got MMSLP on order from Amazon and The Game coming today. I'm still in deep recogni…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 09:14 PM
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-- 4th OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 22. --Why am I here?-- My wife cheated on me. Perfect lab created Beta Bux™ Drunk Captain. Dead Bedroom most of the time. --My Failures-- Afraid of my Wife. Drunk Captain. Unnatractive body. Too emotional. Bad habits. Let myself hate / blame my wife instead of owning my shit. Balls deep in wife's frame. My frame is paper thin. Finances are unhealthy. Wife SMV > My SMV. --My Mission-- To become the strong, confident, and secure leader of both my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 07:55 PM
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A lot. I think I do a lot of things. I think I am direct. I think I am doing things for the sake of doing them. I think I am actively avoiding covert contracts, now that I know what they are. I think I am being no-bullshit with myself. I think I am doing all this shit right but in reality I'm doing the opposite. I fit basically all the nice guy descriptions Glover describes. It certainly was difficult to read but honestly it was one of the most informative and powerful books I've read. My perspe…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 04:15 PM
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-- 3rd OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 14. --Why am I here?-- My wife cheated on me. Perfect lab created Beta Bux™ Drunk Captain. Dead Bedroom most of the time. --My Failures-- Afraid of my Wife. Drunk Captain. Unnatractive body. Too emotional. Bad habits. Let myself hate / blame my wife instead of owning my shit. Balls deep in wife's frame. My frame is paper thin. Finances are unhealthy. Wife SMV > My SMV. --My Mission-- To become the strong, confident, and secure leader of both my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 07:53 PM
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I will include it in my redacted, clear, and realistic OYS next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 05:01 PM
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Think and change your reality. I will read.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 08:28 PM
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It doesn't. I'm planning to do a bunch of shit I needed to do anyway. I'm not doing anything different and have built-in excuses to fail at it. All I should be doing this next week is eating, reading, working out, and sleeping right. good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 08:17 PM
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I read the guide. Pretty fucking true.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 06:40 PM
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I've requested the training track but have been waiting on the funding to come through so I can start the training track to get the damn certification for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 06:28 PM
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You need to be your own PMP, because what looks obvious to me, is not to you. I had not thought about it in that way but it does make a lot of sense. I am a psuedo-PMP for a lot of things now and I am familiar with those processes. Your future will improve if you improve it. If not, you will be used up and spit out by women, employers, and eventually your child if not given a positive role model. Shitty, but true.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 06:05 PM
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Make sure you text her so I have the paper trail.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 05:46 PM
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Disloyalty is not to be forgiven and that cloud will always be over your (mortally wounded) relationship. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 05:43 PM
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Point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 05:40 PM
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I will figure that out. I don't have an answer because I don't know.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 03:32 PM
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You mean nothing True. I don't stand for anything and put up with everything. What can you start saying no to? Not a whole lot for a while - I'm pigeonholed. I'm already burned out but shit is moving forward so I am optimistic. I can pass 4 of those certs without really studying much so in reality it is 3/7 I have to worry about. It isn't just there - I don't say no enough and especially when it counts. I appreciate your comment. In retrospect, I wrote a real fucking wordy OYS that doesn't reall…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 03:13 AM
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I amended it. They were bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 03:01 AM
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Good feedback. Hindsight is 20/20 - I have no illusions about it now. I was weak, told myself "She won't cheat, I trust her.", and certainly was too stupid to see what was happening right before my eyes. I thought at the time it would be a "good break for us to have some space" - hahah how fucking stupid was I. Spot on with the cream and sugar. I failed at my diet every day but one and I'm not owning it at all. Poor planning and bad habits led to failure. It's either black coffee or no coffee. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 12:40 AM
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-- 2nd OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 7. --Why am I here?-- My wife had a threesome with my ex best friend / his fiance when my wife / his fiance were blackout drunk. I am a shell of what I know I could be. I have been a true blue Beta / Nice Guy my entire life. I was a Drunk Captain - I was a daily high-functioning alcoholic for 4/6 years of our relationship. I quit drinking for 1.5 years and now only consume alcohol socially (1-2 beers max) I have a Dead Bedroom. I usually get quick m…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:31 PM
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I posted it because she outright told me that. There is a duality there between what she says and what she does. She has no problem spending money on family stuff that we need around the house but when I comes to things for herself I sense the apprehension (or I hear about it during her decision making phase) . I don't question her spending choices because I view "my" money as "our or family" money and if I was in her situation, I would hate to me made to feel bad for spending someone else's mon…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/17 04:02 PM
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There was one other guy who she saw a few times - "old friend" - later I found out he was basically behind me in line when we started dating. They only met in public places but who the fuck knows what that really means. Once he got a girlfriend he stopped trying to get together with her. I could torture myself about it but it isn't worth wasting cycles on. This was right when we moved home and I was so tired and disillusioned from moving / fixing up a house / work / dad shit I didn't have the en…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/17 05:37 PM
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Totally. The idea is that I am never at the bottom again. I am just at the bottom right now and I will make this the last time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 03:46 PM
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I got hit by a car at a crosswalk. The fucking kid behind the wheel was staring down at his phone and rolling the stop sign at about 10mph. He clipped my ass as I tried to lurch forward and spun me around in a circle. I smoked my knee on the curb and before I knew what happened I hear him slam on the gas and take off out of the parking lot. Nothing broken but serious bruising / swelling / stiffness. I was out of commission for 2 weeks before I started getting sick (finally felt OK today). I love…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 02:11 AM
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You can't see unless you have your eyes open.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 07:06 PM
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It's hard to say. I think it was a combination of both a teaching failure and me having two different ideas of what I was supposed to be learning. I used to think I had two dads. My "good" dad during the day when he was at work - would do anything for anybody, calm, nothing in the world he couldn't handle. This was the dad I looked up too. My "other" dad was the dad I saw the most of - the drunk, moody, had-to-walk-on-eggshells-around guy sitting on the back porch by himself. This was the dad I …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 06:44 PM
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My grandpa is a bad ass - 9 children, worked for 50 years, put all his kids through college, grandma and the people he knows respect the fuck out of him. He invested well, lives a very comfortable life, and he still goes to the gym every day at 86. He has skin cancer, is going blind, and is getting a new hip. He won't let any of it slow him down. My dad is the same way - 4 kids, self-employed for his entire career, does whatever he wants, and my mom loves him to death. I look at myself in compar…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 05:26 PM
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Absolutely not. I cut my tie to that shit sack 30 seconds after I found out. I went full bore and deleted my facebook, lawyered up, and signed up for BJJ within a 48 hour period. Anything that connected us together was deleted, quit, and stopped. I don't have a best friend anymore and right now that is for the best - my new best friend is me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 04:31 PM
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Good point. I'll keep that in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 04:27 PM
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A lot of my personal growth in the past has come from being at the bottom and having to claw my way out of the hole. My assessment is about as basic, honest, and cutting as I could make it. When I review it next week, none of it will be any less true and I will have avoided bullshitting myself. Avoiding my self-rationalizing bullshit cycle is a step into undoing programming I've had my whole life. Guilty catholic self-deprecating bullshit self-rationalization is something I don't want in my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 03:47 PM
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I realized I haven't had a plan besides "climb the corporate ladder for more money", "happy wife, happy life", and "make sure daughter doesn't die". None of those things really benefit be me in any way. I'm going to work on making a MAP next week and taking stock of the shit that is important to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 03:47 PM
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I have a really demanding job (I'm at the top of the food chain) and a tremendous amount of responsibility. I have to be on top of shit constantly and quick and clear with every communication stream I am engaged in. I see the breakdown here - I apply that to my professional life but my personal life doesn't have it. I think pretty lowly of myself and I have for a long time. I put myself on the back burner automatically and I will lower myself in a feigned attempt to "get on the level" with other…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 03:47 PM
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Good tip - I installed it on my phone and will start using it tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 09:41 PM
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Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:48 PM
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I am the only person in the world I can trust and the only person who can do anything to make my life better so fuck yeah I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:47 PM
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I saw my primary lawyer less than 36 hours after I found out. I went and visited 2 more to cut off her options in case she was thinking the same thing. I have a game plan but its gonna take a while to get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:45 PM
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Kid for sure is mine - I made sure of that when she was born. Wife never knew but you can't be too careful anymore. My plan is pretty simple: 1g of protein per pound, carbs to a minimum except on BJJ days (and not a lot more then), at least a gallon of water a day. I don'r really eat sugary shit, drink soda, snack on chips or other crap foods like that. I drink a glass of water when I want a snack. Meal planning is where I get fucked up. I'm checking out example plans and seeing what I can put t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:43 PM
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It certainly isn't off the table but where I live, divorce rape is imminent without planning. I read a lot of threads in this sub on guys going through divorce and all the ins and outs of doing that without getting taken to rapeville. I don't have a war chest currently, I live in a no-fault state, and without the proper steps taken first it would be a fool's errand to up and do it right away.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:35 PM
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-- 1st OYS -- Days since swallowing the pill : 1. --WHY RP?-- Wife slept by my best friend / his fiance when she was blackout drunk. This happened during a "temporary seuperation" a few months ago. He was the only one coherent enough to remember it and blamed it on my wife. I don't believe a fucking word any of them said but I was too big of a pussy to end it there. Am a shell of what I know I could be. True Blue Beta from dating through marriage. Drunk Captain - Quit consuming alcohol for 1.5 y…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 06:41 PM
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"I can't let go of the anger" = Go lift real heavy shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 09:00 PM
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Preface: I read your OYS post and this post a few times. FWICT, you need perspective - the same perspective I needed. We have a similar life in a lot of ways (sex life sucks, hot wife, lack of social life, low T, etc) but honestly you are better set up than I ever was. Here is some perspective to chew on. Background: I am a SAHD because I WFH and I am also the breadwinner. My wife is a SAHM . I quit working in the office the day my daughter was born and transitioned to 100% remote because I had …
/r/askMRP07/04/17 07:48 PM
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Up is fine just don't do it all the time otherwise it seems like you are too busy thinking and not listening.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 02:57 AM
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I use the 5-2 method. Look into their eyes for 5 seconds, look to the left for 2. Look into their eyes for 5 second, look to the right for 2. Don't look down. Looking to the side is interpreted usually as trying to remember a thought or processing a thought. This way you don't break the flow of conversation and you visually show you are listening.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 07:53 PM
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Fuck yeah. Do you get any gum irritation or should I just man up and bleach my gums while I am at it?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 07:06 PM
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Crest 3D white strips it is then. Apparently they are the shit - I will report back if my teeth don't look piss when I'm done.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 05:06 PM
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"Teeth Whitening" > I'm working through some long standing dental issues and when I'm done a lot of the nasty shit will be taken care of but my teeth will still be yellow af (smoked for a long time, drink coffee a lot). Any rec's on good teeth whitening products? I know the shit they do at the dentist is basically the same shit you can do at home but I'm not really sure what works well.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 04:01 PM
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