cantdecideifdumb Archive

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3	What is it like being a straight women sexually? Not OP, but I can explain because I feel the same. Good conversation involves a kind of flow, an exchange of equal energy. Being heard, seen, appreciated, learning about the person and how they see the world. Once there is some emotional/intellectual bond established (this can take minutes or months, with some people you just click sooner), it becomes easier to cross the touch barrier, but before that, there's got to be flirting. Eye contact, body language mirroring, flirty jokes. It all boils d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/21 08:53 AM
-2	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? You can become attractive in ways besides physical. Physical attractiveness is just one of many factors women care about. There's no such thing as wrong race because you can always date your own race, no one's making you date white girls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 04:03 PM
6	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? Looks are a factor for everyone, but that's just a way to get your foot in the door. Men can improve their style, sense of humor, demeanor, self confidence. There's loads of room for improvement besides growing taller or having a different bone structure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 02:23 PM
4	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? Uhhhh, Chad is only physically attractive, and not the rest. Especially the "responsible" part, that guy is generally the Beta Chump. You just don't want to accept that Chads aren't always superficial assholes. Many are successful, interesting and charismatic people overall, but ofc you won't admit it because it's easier to classify people into AF/BB like one person can't be both. Why do you think I don't enjoy my hobbies? I like them more than I do people Oh, so you dislike ALL people, not just…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 01:44 PM
1	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? Oh cry me a river. Men have been using women for sex for millenia, raping, coercing, seducing and leaving pregnant. Now that women learnt to stand up for themselves and enjoy sex for their own sake men complain of their sexlessness? Become attractive, interesting, independent individuals who don't need sex to boost their self-esteem and you'll be getting sex no problem. But ofc it's just easier to blame women for male problems, isn't it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 11:29 AM
-2	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? You just prove my point. Be the "Chad" (ie. attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally, a responsible adult) and you'll be fine with women AND other men. Be the incel playing video games 24/7 caring only about not getting laid, you won't get laid OR have a relationship. Stop whining that women don't like your hobbies or how no one cares about self-actualisation or being a valuable member of society and you may have a chance to simply enjoy your life even if it's playing WoW all day and e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 11:02 AM
5	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? Do men not see any value whatsoever in being successful and fun to be around people besides getting sex? What about enjoying one's hobbies, learning, self-actualisation, bringing joy to society, caring for environment? Like the only reason to do anything in life was to get pussy. That's downright pathetic. Women earn their own money nowadays and often more than their SOs. Don't delude yourself into thinking women want men for their wallets. Women want emotional connection, companionship and good…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 09:07 AM
2	Let's discuss the fundamental issues at hand: Do women have unreasonable and unrealistic standards/expectations? Or are men just impotent, underperforming and/or checking out? If the former, do you believe men have a right to be bitter and angry over the situation? Men should be pursuing growth for themselves, not others. It's their own problem they don't see any value to grow as people if it doesn't mean drowning in pussy. Men have honestly become pathetic in how they tie their self esteem to how desirable they are to women. They should pursue goals for their own fun and if the only fun they see is in being slobs, eating fast food, playing video games, well, they should enjoy that and stop moaning about women's high standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 08:58 AM
1	Cheating Mega Thread That's what I said. "One doesn't need to cheat".	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 10:05 AM
5	Cheating Mega Thread When you realise your man is sexually attractive to others it can boost your own sexual attraction to him. If you get over the cheating, it might just be what the relationship needs, a sort of a makeover, a starting over. One doesn't need to cheat though, innocent flirting, differentiation can work just as well. Ester Perel calls it "the shadow of the third" and to a degree I agree that knowing your partner is desirable makes you desire him more. Some people get settled in relationships to such …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/21 10:48 AM
2	Do women get bored of relationships faster than men? I'm really interested in the study if you have time to look. What you wrote rings extremely true for me. I outgrew my SO and lost any attraction whatsoever because he hasn't changed one bit and I grew a lot. In fact he even regressed, so it's even worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/21 06:15 PM
8	There is a power dynamic in heterosexual intercourse. Sex for women requires more physical AND EMOTIONAL vulnerability. having so many negative feelings about sex in general is just so baffling to me. It seems that you've been lucky to have mostly positive experiences with sex. Many young women end up in relationships where they have sex moreso for their SO than themselves. Happy to pleasure them throughout NRE they never learn to enjoy it for their own sake. Once NRE wears off, they find sex to be uncomfortable, unpleasurable or outright painful. Some even get to the point of sexual aversion. It's very common. Y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 11:49 AM
1	Women: right after sex, what do you enjoy doing the most with your sex partner? What post-coital activities do you feel would make your whole experience of sex much better for you and more joyful? First let me kindly point out a logical flaw in your reasoning. If sex is vaginal intercourse, it means that gays/lesbians are having uniquely sexlike acts. Though I doubt you'd argue that gay/lesbian couples are not having sex. It follows then that sex is anything that involves genitals, not just intercourse, but also outercourse, fingering, anal or breast play. You should check this out: https://amp.reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/cnjarp/oral_sex_is_not_foreplay/ Overall I suggest strongly to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/21 03:56 PM
5	Women: right after sex, what do you enjoy doing the most with your sex partner? What post-coital activities do you feel would make your whole experience of sex much better for you and more joyful? OP, you're not wrong though, oral sex is SEX, it's in the name. Anal sex is sex. Manual stimulation of the genitals is sex. Anything to do with genitals is sex. Seriously I don't get why women consider oral sex foreplay. Foreplay is what you do before any genital play, aka kissing, grinding while clothed, breast play etc. Some people clearly have a very narrow understanding of sex... It's a pity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/21 11:06 AM
2	Women: right after sex, what do you enjoy doing the most with your sex partner? What post-coital activities do you feel would make your whole experience of sex much better for you and more joyful? Actually OP is right. Oral sex is sex. Manual stimulation (fingering etc) is sex. Once the genitals get involved it's sex. Outercourse is just as much sex as intercourse. Foreplay is whatever you do before touching genitals. Kissing, rubbing, grinding (while clothed).	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/21 11:03 AM