cantwifeahoe Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
283	The average man is better off paying a hooker for sex once a month than trying to date in the modern world	CMV	cantwifeahoe	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 01:53 AM
16	Guess I’ve gotta become a white guy		cantwifeahoe	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 12:51 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Will you have problems with such a woman? Just as a person or as a potential partner. No problem with her as a person, would most likely not be compatible for an LTR.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 04:50 PM
17	Being nice is the bare minimum. Most guys' definition of a good guy usually seems to be someone with basic human decency. Women on average have alot of options compared to the average man, so of course just being a good guy is not gonna be enough. No need to point out that you’re conservative-ish. Even the most progressive women turn into hardline conservatives when the man is below a certain looks threshold What exactly are you trying to debate? If your statement wasn’t true this sub wouldn’t exist. At this point most men are aware that being “nice” isn’t enough for most women, they’ve decided that the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. You said it yourself, you’re a plain looking conservative that is looking for a top 15-20% man	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 04:36 PM
1	Men need to start holding ourselves to a higher moral standard of decency My responsibility is to not violate anyone’s rights or commit any crimes	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/25 01:53 AM
1	Men need to start holding ourselves to a higher moral standard of decency If it’s a crime, let the legal system deal with it. Other than that it is not my responsibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/25 09:48 PM
1	CMV: just because she enjoys the sex doesn't mean you aren't using her for her body She decided that being with that man, whether it’s a relationship or FWB, was better than being single or in a relationship with any of her other potential suitor. The same way men generally can’t buy or “earn” love/lust/respect from a woman, women can’t always fuck and suck their way into a committed relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/25 09:30 PM
1	A man should never publicly commit to fidelity to his SO, even if he is committed because women will lose respect for a man they don't need to "work for". This is a recipe for disaster and will rarely, likely never, work out in his favor. The best thing anyone can do is communicate their requirements and dealbreakers in a relationship early on. Tell her you expect a certain level of attention, sex, eye candy,etc from her. Let her make the cost-benefit analysis and proceed accordingly	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 10:58 PM
1	Would you want to know if a woman expects you to pay on the first date? Wouldn’t make me feel anything. I’d view her as desperate and frustrated with her dating life. I’d like the information upfront because the type of person to vocalize that is the type of person I try to avoid. Yes to both. No No problem playing as long as I’m the one that made the initial ask. Offering to pay half is usually either a shit test or the canary in the coal mine in regards to any future relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 10:52 PM
–	Q4M: Would you say you are a natural provider? What benefit do men get from coming out and saying something that is already an open secret? It’s why the marriage rate continues to drop, it’s just not politically correct to say in a professional setting	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 09:50 PM
–	Q4M: Would you say you are a natural provider? Mostly agree with your point about why most men don’t provide but I think we have different ideas of what “providing” is. I view providing and spoiling as separate things Giving money to your gf isn’t technically sugaring. However the tone and in many cases the existence of these sort of relationships is directly tied to whether or not the man obliges to every request	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 09:30 PM
–	Q4M: Would you say you are a natural provider? This is a thinly veiled sugar relationship not an example of a natural provider	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 07:48 PM
3	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD B	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 07:56 PM
3	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. Without medical supervision an opioid/herioin addict going through withdraw will die. Unless you’ve got a full rehabilitation plan for these men telling them to not care about pussy is pointless Humans are infatuated by what they don’t know and haven’t experienced. Sure pussy doesn’t matter but good luck getting a promotion without at least a fiance. Sure pussy doesn’t matter but many women would rather share a man than commit to someone with no other options. Sure pussy doesn’t matter but you b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 07:42 PM
1	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. Young people need socialization, love/dating are just a byproduct of that. Dating is just the popular aspect to highlight but younger gens are failing at every aspect of social life	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 07:21 PM
2	Men are Love-Shy The solution is for them to become more attractive. It’s going to sound cliche but 6 months of working out + clean eating, a few conversation classes, and more attention to their appearance will do wonders This is all just a result of a more isolated society. Socializing was a lot less optional when you had to talk to someone to accomplish anything. Outside of work, how many times does the average person interact with a stranger daily? Self checkout, order ahead/food delivery, and mass shipping …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 07:18 PM
2	CMV: proposals should be specific to the woman Fairytale proposals are for women you’d reasonably see in fairytales, not the woman you’re using as an example	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 06:44 PM
1	If you are fine driving a used car you should be fine with having a relationship who is settling with you This is a way better analogy	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/24 02:55 PM
1	What will happen once enough men get jaded from dating? Nothing, by the time a man is jaded from dating he has too many responsibilities to just give up in life. They’ll continue to work their dead end jobs paying shit wages, eat their unhealthy slop, and bow to the oligarchy	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:27 PM
1	Q4M: if you aren't able to climax during sex - who's fault is that? My responsibility but if this happens a few times in a row than a conversation needs to be had	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/24 07:38 PM
–	Q4M: How often do you do the following chores? Kitchen gets wiped down daily, clean dishes as they’re used, fridge is emptied twice a week, floors are Swiffered every few days, towels and sheets are swapped weekly, laundry ever two weeks, toilet is too sporadic to pinpoint	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/24 07:32 PM
1	Why some men are willing to enter into LTR with a woman but reluctant to make her his wife? Some comments to another post opened my eyes. It seems we women can't really trust some 'relationship guys' even. It seems some guys also separate women from LTR & women who are fit to be the wife Assuming the woman is not drop dead gorgeous, set to inherit wealth, or on the path to building wealth the risks of marriage far outweigh the potential positives	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 05:09 PM
–	Would you rather date someone with low standards or high standards? High standards but they them self must be on the level of said standards. I disagree though that women with higher standards are less likely to cheat, from what I’ve seen it’s the opposite. They can be so particular about their standards that as soon as the man starts to lack she’s back on the prowl. Think gold diggers but the “gold” is whatever she values. Could be money, physique, height, race, lifestyle, looks,etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 04:52 PM
6	Q4M: SlumpBusters - myth? Or reality? It’s a thing but those women very rarely get done dirty. They usually give it up within a few days of meeting the guy. She’s got no ground to demand or expect a relationship after doing that. They know that guy would never consider a LTR with her under normal circumstances so she tries to win him over with sex or just wants to fuck a guy out of her league.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 04:37 PM
2	Wh do some people feel so desperate to not be a virgin especially under 20 Sex and what leads up to it is fun. Being around a girl that wants to fuck you is an experience every straight young man should strive for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/23 11:59 PM
1	Why do men leave their sick wives? Those numbers have been misinterpreted beyond belief, only about 20% of men leave their sick wife. They leave because the wife is no longer useful, wether it be for homemaking, sex, or companionship. It’s fucked up but it’s the truth. Chances are that man has been considering leaving for years but something kept him around. When that something evaporates, the choice becomes a hell of a lot easier.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/23 11:54 PM
1	Do You Think Being Platonic Friends With Women Is Worth It? No. Being a platonic friend means you checked all the boxes but looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/23 06:50 AM
–	Most guys are godawful at flirting and their success isn’t reflective of their skill level Flirting is as easy or as hard as the woman you’re talking to wants it to be. Before you say the first word she knows how the interaction is gonna play out. If you’re ugly/average to her she’s looking for the quickest way to end the interaction. I’ve tripped over my words and had women take over the conversation just so it keeps going. I’ve also spit my best “game” and had it go absolutely nowhere. The “Flirting vs sexual harassment” meme is far from a joke.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/23 05:53 AM
1	Rejection Sensitivity Men that have some success approaching tend to be better at handling rejection, they still may get disappointed but they aren’t lashing out about it. Unfortunately this isn’t most men, many men either had a traumatic first rejection or have had years of failure with no success. The former are more likely to mope,pout, or even cry about while the latter will either lash out or have no outward reaction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/23 02:34 AM
2	Women will always have an advantage in hookup culture and it’s completely fair. “How do you even know that 80% of men are in relationships where the woman does the desire” I’m going to assume you meant doesn’t. Over the past half decade women have made it clear they would rather be single than date a man on their level. If they do date their equal, the man has to either worship the ground she walks on, trick off on her, or get walked on. Marriage rates, divorce rates, and all sorts of cultural evidence support this. “Most men fuck and have a relationship” Most women get fuc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 08:09 PM
4	Women will always have an advantage in hookup culture and it’s completely fair. “Most hot girls would rather her boyfriend, her sugar daddy, or herself” What makes you think this? Hot girls hookup just like everyone else, difference is they’re one of the few groups to do it with people on their level. “What pisses me off even more is guys acting like Tinder, A HOOKUP APP, is taken so seriously” It’s not just Tinder tho,it’s every online app and real life. A chadfishing experiment on hinge went viral on Twitter earlier this week. 80/20 used to apply to hookups/casual sex, no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/23 05:48 PM
1	CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginities By clear competition I mean that you’re competing in the same spaces(classrooms, hallways, lunch tables, sporting events, parties, etc). Higher social risks and rewards, as an adult your sexual successes and failures don’t travel farther than you and the other person’s immediate friend groups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 05:57 PM
1	CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginities High school is a closed environment, you see the same people every day for 4 years. This means the competition is clear for boys and the social consequences of choosing to fuck the wrong guy are larger than they will ever be for girls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 05:36 PM
1	CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginities This is only really true in high school, taking the virginity of a 30 year old says more about them than you. Either you stuck around for long enough or were in the right place at the right time. The best sexual achievement for men is being able to have sex with valuable women without commitment. Alternatively, the best sexual achievement for women is being able to leverage sex into tangible benefits from men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 05:20 PM
–	Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than men Let’s be generous and assume that the girls from your example find about 35% of men attractive enough to date: 35% x 20% = 7% Based on your experiences, women find seven percent of men attractive enough to date them and not be embarrassed about it. Meanwhile most average men would have no problem being seen in public with at least half of all women. Great argument OP!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 05:34 PM
5	Dude ghosts girl after first date what can we learn from this? Fuckboys don’t really need to continuously date a girl.Take her out once and if you don’t fuck on the first date just keep in relative contact until she gets horny or needs to be validated	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 12:35 PM
5	Dude ghosts girl after first date what can we learn from this? There’s nothing to “learn”. Women allegedly want to avoid being pumped and dumped while men do everything in their power to be in a position where they could do this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 12:31 PM
1	As a man you should not date if you are broke Your first point of reasoning contradicts your overall argument. You say that you don’t advocate for gold digging but your first point is about how a broke man can’t pay for nice dates. I agree that financial stability can be a huge green flag. However in the western world it has gotten to a point where even those that have done things the “right way” aren’t guaranteed stability. Only 30% of Americans have an emergency fund and the cost of living is outpacing salaries. A college degree/trade cer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/23 08:43 PM
0	Why don't women get heat for dating career-oriented men and then complaining about how the man works long hours and is rarely at home? You can have all the care in the world but if you work from 9 to 6 and have a 45 minute commute, there just won’t be enough time in the day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/23 07:23 PM
16	Most dating problems are just men being horny, and women being selective Modern dating issues are the result of a sharp decrease in social interactions. The lack of “third places” has become an issue for teenagers and adults. Places like malls and movie theaters are closing due to the rise of online shopping and streaming. Groceries can be delivered or picked up curbside. DoorDash and UberEats allow for food from anywhere to be delivered. While these things are convenient and do make life easier, they are hurting society on the social side.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/23 07:13 PM
3	Why don't women get heat for dating career-oriented men and then complaining about how the man works long hours and is rarely at home? Expecting a man to have the same time/energy he had at 25 when he’s 40 is dumb, especially if he’s paying most/all the bills and has been promoted at least once.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/23 06:58 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? Arranged marriages would save American society	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 03:58 AM
2	Light-skin black dudes are the 1 seed, currently Stop looking at the attractive members of a phenotype and start looking at the below average men, think 45th percentile. The only 45th percentile men with a real chance at a normal sex life are white guys and thugmaxxed black dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 12:19 AM
24	Reminder 3: Nice guys are jealous of attractive assholes of because they themselves are assholes and upset they can’t find women to abuse. Nice guys are upset that they have to answer for the sins of the attractive rapists/abusers/misogynists. Women will look past poor behavior when the man is attractive, only to complain about it to all the average and below average men. Somehow every feminist can rattle off stories about all the misogynistic men they’ve fucked and dated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/23 11:58 PM
–	TikTok is the biggest source of red pills ever. Bad bitches never have to post stuff like this	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/23 03:43 PM
–	By the way this is who you are arguing with. Part 2 Are those balls? I’d be shocked to find a black woman here that doesn’t engage in race play/interracial Glad to see some people here have actual hobbies and interests Wtf Prayers to whoever wifed that	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/23 03:41 PM
1	Question for men: do you think your life would be better if you were less horny? No, sex has played a role in almost every major decision in my life	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/23 10:41 PM
3	Discussion : Whats the most eye opening real life example of TRP in action you’ve ever experienced? In high school some of my friends would leave school to go fuck girls. I didn’t believe them and swore they were lying since I was so unsuccessful. This was until one of them decided to airdrop his entire folder of sex tapes. Might be the most embarrassed/demoralized I’ve ever felt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 02:38 AM
9	What makes you say no to a second date or a first date? Reasons for no first date: Super picky about food but had no suggestions Needed me to pick her up and drop her off, me paying for her Uber wouldn’t suffice She let me know I was apart of her “roster” Had a kid Unstable relationship with parents Reasons for no second date: Dressed poorly Dressed inappropriately Couldn’t handle her liquor Was late to both parts of the date	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/23 10:50 PM
13	When women say “be nice”… we aren’t holding out hope for you. “Sure, a tall handsome nasty person might get women to sleep with them, or even hook them in to an abusive relationship, but those men tend to have a couple of things you don't. Charm and being exciting. By exciting I mean risk taking, spontaneous, fun.” This yet again proves that “being nice” isn’t a determining trait for women. That man you described is getting women despite being a shitty person because he’s tall and handsome. It’s not because he’s charming, exciting, or whatever other subjec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 05:37 PM
1	Do most men really find slightly overweight women unattractive by default? Slightly overweight is the new skinny unfortunately	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 12:56 PM
18	N-Count Mega-Thread Most men aren’t asking about n count but best believe they don’t wanna marry whores	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/22 07:30 PM
18	The average man is better off paying a hooker for sex once a month than trying to date in the modern world Luckily I’ve been able to somewhat makeup for those other aspects with strong friendships. You’re 100% right about not missing what you’ve never had.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 02:14 AM
1	The only people that truly win in today's dating market are high value men TLDR: Women continuously blow a 3-1 lead in the finals	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 07:33 PM
0	Men who see prostitutes: What's your preferred flavor of sex worker? 4 and 7 are the best. 2 can be fun with the right mindset or if you do it with friends	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 02:30 PM
2	Lack of empathy for the opposite gender Give me one good reason I should be empathetic to women	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/22 04:00 AM
3	If "your male friends want to smash", how would things change if she said wanted you to pay for it? If I’m paying for pussy it needs to be from someone that does it for a living	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 01:33 AM
3	Most men don't care that they're not their girlfriend's "first choice", they're just happy to have sex and companionship Not being her current first choice leaves the door open to cheating	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/22 07:26 AM
1	Would you date a single mom? Why or why not? I’d casually date one but I’d never commit	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 02:50 AM
2	What are your thoughts on Young Men not dating till they are 30 and established? While there are men that do waste their 20s fucking around, focusing on your career isn’t automatically gonna make you successful or a high earner. Teachers are focused and get paid like shit. We agree on one thing, men shouldn’t chase women under any circumstances. In order for this advice to be truly effective it would have to be given to high school boys, before they go in debt or commit to a career.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 02:48 AM
1	What are your thoughts on Young Men not dating till they are 30 and established? Most men aren’t ever gonna make enough money to get models or to make up for their looks, and if they do it’s not gonna happen at 30. Assuming that successful men didn’t commit until they started to truly ascend shows me just how little you know. Marriage at the very least gives off the illusion that a man is mature, and that can go a long way in the corporate world. The best thing for a man that’s trying to build is to date women that like him and pump and dump the rest. If he really does have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 02:34 AM
2	Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating market Sounds to me like you’re mad that they didn’t want you then and don’t want you now. The majority of men don’t want to be single until their 40s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/22 08:09 PM
2	Never listen to men here whine about height discrimination. They don't care about racial discrimination against black women. Funny how you didn’t quote the second half of the sentence. A man can’t do anything to avoid being short, it just happens. Obesity and single motherhood doesn’t just happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 12:03 AM
5	Never listen to men here whine about height discrimination. They don't care about racial discrimination against black women. Black women have the highest obesity rate and the highest single motherhood rate, two things that aren’t genetically determined. Men don’t want to date fat women or raise another man’s kid. Crying to other races about not being desired is embarrassing no matter what demographic does it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 11:24 PM
2	My wife has great tits. They sit perfect	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 01:09 AM
4	PPD is a teen blogging sub. Anyone over the age of 20 doesn't belong here. You’re overestimating how mature and intelligent the average adult is	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 01:07 AM
9	Younger men are better It’s not a matter of should they date younger men, it’s a matter of if they can	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 12:56 AM
6	Would you help a female in danger? No, people in general are fucking crazy and women are “independent” Fun to see my city make it onto PPD tho	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 04:36 AM
-1	A guy being able to secure a ffm threesome says more about than a high notch count Fucking two whores or fat bitches at the same time is not an accomplishment. An ffm threesome is only impressive when you’d be willing to take both of them out in public	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 04:32 AM
4	the picture thread Total GigaTyrone	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 04:24 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread These women don’t have sex	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 05:01 PM
1	If a man uses his resources to attract women, does that make him a beta male? It depends on how many resources he has and what caliber of woman he attracts	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/21 02:49 PM