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Ok, good start. Do not worry about whose fault your relationship's end was because that way lies madness. You can grieve your marriage, you can make a list of the good parts, and the bad parts, and the things you learned from it but don't worry about whose fault anything is until you have had a LOT of time to gain perspective. It's very unlikely it was ALL your fault, anyway but it doesn't matter. In the meantime, focus on nurturing current relationships in your life. And, for the love of all th…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 08:47 PM
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What does your support network outside of your marriage look like?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 03:49 PM
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A woman who is treating her spouse like a plow horse is not doing it because he has made her feel safe and loved. Women are not different species. They treat their spouses like shit for exactly the same reasons men treat their wives like shit. End of story. Most likely, his wife feels disconnected from or ashamed of her own body and that is causing her lack of desire and he can try to work through those issues with her by treating her the way he'd like to be treated in that circumstance.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:30 PM
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Yes, unconditional love and gifts are definitely the problem.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 08:52 PM
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He called his wife unattractive. She doesn't want to sleep with him because she doesn't feel loved by him. But by all means, guys, read books written by men to help you understand women.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 03:19 PM
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There are plenty of male therapists and a therapist is not going to say that you don't need time to decompress.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 03:28 PM
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It sounds like you are co-habiting and co-parenting. You need to tell your wife you can't live this way and it's either go to couples counseling so she can work on her intimacy issues or you're going to think about getting a divorce. Don't let her just tell you she's going to change. Insist on counseling. A lot of people will tell you it's a waste of time but I suspect for her it might work, plus you both seem to want the same things- a happy, stable family life. The level of physical intimacy s…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 03:25 PM
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Out of interest, what are/were you majoring in?
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:13 PM
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You can file a formal complaint with both the police and the post office. The police likely won't be able to do anything because you won't be able to prove she actually did it but it should put the fear of the Lord in her and get her to back off.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 02:21 PM
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Do you really think it's a good idea for any of these men to date a single mom? Like she doesn't have enough problems? I come to this sub to remind myself not to get into a serious relationship again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:59 PM
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You sound like a truly good man. I hope you find someone who deserves you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 06:48 PM
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Right. If he helps support the child, as he should since he's the child's father, the courts don't need to get involved and she might continue to work with him instead of him fearing prosecution when he can't pay court-ordered child support. The kid is lucky to have two loving parents. He's not "bending over" he's stepping up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 01:57 PM
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I hope for your child's sake she's getting treatment. I am sorry you went through that and I'm glad you got safely out of the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 04:03 PM
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Maybe just focus on being a good dad and the best version of yourself. Women do not lose respect for someone because he "has lost his masculinity" and we do want our romantic partners to be our best friends (although that's not always the situation and doesn't have to be for us to be happy). Well-meaning people are telling you why she did things but you haven't provided enough information about how you treated her before the separation for them to really know. Women are not another species. We d…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 03:21 PM
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If she's as unstable as he says, I'm pretty sure a "better" man won't be willing to put up with her shit. Plus, now she has baggage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 02:06 PM
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Personally, I think you're right- the two of you should meet. That said, many people would - believe it or not- be horrified by the prospect that some random weirdo would want to meet them just because they have been in a relationship with the same person at one time. Reactions vary from: "Does this person not get that we are divorced and that's none of my business?" to "He just wants to rub my nose in the fact that he has her now and I don't." Also, if I were that guy, I'd be afraid that my new…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 02:01 PM
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If I were to hazard a guess, she loves you and wants to be with you but doesn't feel loved in return.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 01:15 PM
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Congratulations on eventually getting her out of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 09:48 PM
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She thinks you drink too much but she's letting you have the kids four days a week? I wonder if she'll use your drinking as an excuse to ultimately take the kids from you (once it's convenient for her) and get child support.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 01:19 PM
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I wonder if she deleted it or if it's just private now. Maybe you could ask her to send you a screenshot so you could save it? I know others are saying you should move on, and obviously, you should, but that is a part of your life as a father and your fatherhood is not over. You sound like a nice guy and I bet you'll find someone wonderful.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 01:29 PM
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I'm a woman and this infuriates me too. I agree, something is wrong. The judge is probably trying to make it easier on the kids but having a stressed-out parent isn't easy on kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 02:04 PM
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I bet he'll enjoy the hunting more. I can't picture a 15 year old who is super-psyched about a birthday party with his family. I think you win whether you go or not.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 02:04 PM
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It doesn't sound like you want a divorce and it does sound like you both need relationship counseling so that she can learn to respect your boundaries and you can learn to make her feel loved (or whatever). You mention an 11-month-old. I see that you had problems before you became parents but you have to realize, this time in a marriage is traditionally the hardest. It's tough being parents to a toddler and resentment tends to build up. My two cents, it's cheaper to keep 'er and get a couples' c…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 06:57 PM
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Couldn't that be the problem? It can't imagine it not having some effect since hormones are generally where libido comes from.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 08:11 PM
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Is she on anti-depressants or any kind of medication? That can change your physiological and psychological sex drive in a way you don't really understand until you experience it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 12:56 PM
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I'm assuming with all of his issues he has a therapist. Consult his therapist if you can.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 06:24 PM
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Perhaps justifiably?
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 01:31 PM
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Yes, there's a good chance they're going to see it as abandoning their mother in her "old age".
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 03:03 PM
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I wish I could give you a hug or some really good advice but, yeah, you just have to suck it up and do it. You're on the right track , though. Remember, her good moods don't matter because you know that bad mood is coming.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 03:35 PM
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I'm assuming this group chat is to coordinate logistics with the other adults responsible for your child. I do think there is a difference between your wife and the BF. I think the BF is trying to "step up" and your wife is trying to take steps to be more stable. I wouldn't want someone who might be temporary involved in private details of my child's life, but since this guy is probably privy to those details via your ex, you might as well add him and give him a chance. I would be just as annoye…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 02:56 PM
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If she were a man, people would be posting the numbers to domestic abuse hotlines for you. Congratulations on having the strength to get out. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 01:26 PM
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Not sure why the downvotes--it was an honest question.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 01:12 PM
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Me too and I also want to know what his wife has done that's so terrible he's fine with giving her half of all his stuff as long as he never has to see or think of her again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 11:10 PM
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She sounds awesome. Lucky you :)
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 01:18 PM
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Off-topic but, were you actually worried she was a ladyboy and how did you make certain she was not?
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 06:41 PM
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That is truly good to know. Kudos to your parents.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 03:19 PM
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Divorce seriously damages kids-- at least if you went to counseling you could look as though you did everything you could to save your family.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 08:51 PM
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Why can't she move in with your parents? Is it ill-advised from a legal standpoint or just unpalatable to you? What do think will make your child feel safest?
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 04:17 PM
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Why did she get to keep your dog?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 08:37 PM
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His family may be problematic and he's not ready to dump that on you. Or they might be strict about inviting people along after a certain cut-off point.
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