TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

capn_KC Archive

View 1 post and 105 comments by capn_KC on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
31

capn_KC/r/Divorce_Men14/02/21 04:39 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

Years later she told me she had gotten selfish, and yeah, she suggested maybe menopause was the culprit. I have no idea and I’m in no position to dispute her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 11:56 PM
4

Hard to say. My wife is diagnosed bipolar. Could be menopause. That's what my mother blamed it on when she came to her senses 20 years after she left my Dad.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 04:53 AM
2

That's fine. Two different perspectives. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 04:51 AM
1

If you're a woman of faith, I encourage you to read "Love & Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. I was that workaholic, and my wife never respected how hard I worked to keep the bills paid. I'm an entrepreneur so I work many hours, and I remember hearing my wife complain, saying, "come home from work". Now that I'm alone after 25 years of marriage, I can tell you that you CAN guide his loving behavior if you show him unconditional respect. That is a really tough concept in the modern world, but the bo…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 04:21 AM
2

Sounds like we're singing in the same choir, sir. Basically same story but add ten years to the marriage and the kids are basically grown. Definitely selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 04:13 AM
11

Wow, dude. Wow. I'm dumbfounded. I have no advice for you because I can't even imagine living through what you're living through, but I'll tell you this - as soon as I stop typing I'm going to pray for you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 03:56 AM
1

My wife didn't leave me for another man. My wife is bipolar. Something happened in her family and it triggered her and down the rabbit hole of despair she went, taking the rest of us with her until she decided to leave us all behind, myself and our two kids. And your inference is disgusting. Grow up.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 03:44 AM
3

Those stats are reported all over the place, from 60% to 70% (Huffington Post) to 80% (Good Men Project) to a whopping 90% (DivorceMag). Maybe men are more complacent? I don't know if complacent is the word. I have done a LOT of research on this type of thing, and here are some of the ideals I've picked up... and I can only speak to the way I consider things, as a man. If you watch two men having a disagreement, how do they handle it? They yell it out, sometime talk it out, and at the end they s…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 03:40 AM
2

You obviously have desire for women, and you have three kids. The world wants to tell you it’s okay to walk away because your unfulfilled, but I’m telling to rediscover why you fell in love with your wife and quit trying to find excuses to walkaway. I wish my wife would have worked as hard to make our marriage good as she worked to try to get out of it. Lust is not a healthy motivator.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 02:29 PM
1

Dude. Grow up. Her sister? Come on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 02:17 PM
3

Remember - Karl Marx thought the family was bourgeois, and a tenet of Marxism is the dismantling of family units, within which wealth would be segregated from everyone else, and inheritance would be privately owned rather than publicly distributed. Who among our population are falling for this faster than “educated” (indoctrinated) women?
/r/MGTOW230/05/21 11:39 AM
6

50% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of those are initiated by women. Mine was.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 11:07 AM
3

My 25th anniversary is June 1st. My dissolution is June 22, following 13 months of physical separation and 7 years of being a roommate.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/21 11:46 AM
1

Hindsight is 20/20. Looking back I should have dumped my wife when she cheated on me. Our marriage never worked well after that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/21 10:55 AM
2

That gets harder to do in your 50s.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 01:27 AM
8

My STBXW was about as interesting as a brick. I’m the one with the friends, the hobbies, the knowledge of wines and bourbons, the ability to cook and the sex drive. But she walked out on me. What the...? But I feel ya. I don’t feel worthless because I have God, but I sure would like a little female companionship.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 11:53 PM
1

Ah. I misunderstood. Sorry to hear it. Time to put the pedal down and get away from her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/21 07:21 PM
1

So, she’d rather live in conflict? Is she still trying to resolve differences in hopes of reconciliation?
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/21 10:54 AM
7

Wait. What does that even mean, that she doesn’t want the divorce to be over. Is she not done fighting with you?
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/21 01:18 AM
0

What an elitist attitude. Be cautious not to scrape your nose on the sky.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 07:27 PM
1

Do you realize what a forklift driver at General Motors pulls down every year with no college debt to pay off??
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 06:34 PM
3

Driving a forklift is good, honest work. A degree educated her, but didn’t make her smarter.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 11:41 AM
1

Mmmmmmmmkay
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 12:12 PM
2

I don’t have a nihilist vision for the future, personally. I’ll go where God leads.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 03:45 AM
2

You’re right about the timing. There’s a Chinese proverb; “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago.” I hope this info helps you while the two of you are still trying to work things out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 12:34 AM
2

I would highly encourage you to go to savethemarriage.com and check out that plan. Dr. Lee Baucom is really good at what he does. He has a free podcast, and a GREAT book on Amazon for 99 cents Called Beyond the 3 Barriers. His plan focuses on the three Cs, Calm, Constant, and Consistent, and he added Courageous. The best way to save your marriage is to understand what's going wrong and to grow as a person yourself, with no expectations of your wife - focus on you. Go to https://www.5lovelanguage…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 08:23 PM
0

That’s fine for you. I don’t want to grow old alone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 07:00 PM
5

It happens like that. It comes on fast and once it’s started it’s like a boulder rolling down a mountain side. Luckily you’re young and will still have a good shot at lifelong happiness. Consider her your practice wife.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 01:51 PM
1

One possibility to consider in an uncontested divorce is a dissolution. You’ll still need a lawyer to protect you, but it removes the you VS her/ her VS you stuff. It’s just an amicable split where terms are agreed on and that’s that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 01:30 PM
1

Glad I could help.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 01:19 AM
12

If it’s about the stuff and not about you, don’t date them a second time.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 04:04 AM
1

Maybe I should go into business. :)
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 04:02 AM
7

When / how often did she ask for sex? How often did she tell you she was proud of you? How many times did she sit you down and say, “these are my needs; can you help to fulfill them? What are your needs that I can help fulfill?” When was the last time she showed you an ounce of respect, and make you feel she actually liked you as a person? When a marriage fails it’s good to reach down inside yourself and take responsibility for what your part in the crisis was/is. You work on those things and tr…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/21 03:18 PM
1

I’d rather be burned than dead inside.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/21 02:16 PM
2

I felt that. I still do some days. Other days I could be putty in the hands of a good woman.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 04:32 PM
6

Wow. You’re describing my life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 04:03 PM
1

Try not to use absolutes like “never” when you think about trusting someone again. That’s how to feel today because you’re gobsmacked, but you have no idea how the future will unfold for you. My situation is similar to yours. We had our 24th anniversary and 5 days later she informed me she was leaving. After that point all I got was contempt, when a week earlier she was kissing me goodnight. Only difference was there was no affair. Menopause, midlife crises, a triggering event that unlocks a men…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 03:59 PM
0

Not to sound all pious, but whether you believe or not, God believes in you. He's waiting for you, whenever you're ready.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 02:45 PM
1

I am a believer, and I totally agree with everything I read. But that’s me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 02:24 AM
1

The books didn’t work for me because it was already too late when I realized there was a problem, but I wouldn’t call them a waste of time. I intend to reread them over and over, now and when I have my next relationship. I learned a lot and I never want to forget what I learned.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 02:04 AM
1

I’m saying that the depression may be caused by guilt, or a sense of failure. Just one guy’s opinion that happens to be 100% pro marriage and anti divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 01:29 AM
-1

Have you done everything possible to rekindle your romance and save your marriage and keep your family together? If you haven’t, you have every right to have guilt. But if you can look yourself in the mirror and know that you’ve done everything, offered to go to retreats, shopped for an experienced SBT couples therapist (Solutions based Brief Therapy), talked to her about your unhappiness, read Divorce Remedy, the 5 Love Languages, and Love & Respect, and really put the hard work in to try to sa…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 01:17 PM
1

The divorce will cost you every gain you hope to recover. You’ll be drained of half of everything including your retirement. Consider the risks very deeply.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 07:52 PM
6

You’re only getting started. You’re going to go through this for months, and then it’ll hit you occasionally a year, two years later.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 11:29 PM
1

All the people who say that the kids will be fine are people who have bought into the divorce lie. "Kids are resilient," they say. Horsecrap. The mind of a child born today is just as innocent as the mind of a child born 200 years ago - it's society that has changed how long that innocence lasts. I would like to recommend "The Divorce Remedy" as a book that you read without the knowledge of your wife. Since you're non-religious, why don't you hit the brakes on a divorce and see how easy it is fo…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 06:46 PM
4

That's weird. They won't take a check?
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 03:51 PM
1

I understand. But what you’re going to get into with a divorce is expensive and WILL scar your kids. I was 18 when my parents split. They never fought, at least not in front of me. I’m 53 now and still have the scars, and tried like hell to avoid giving my kids the same scars but their bipolar mother decided to run away. This is going to sound pious and completely outside the norms of the “me first” 2021 society that treats everything as something disposable, but I’ve never believed that my happ…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 11:46 AM
1

This sounds a little warped, but if sex is the issue, would she let you find an outside partner (FWB) so you can keep the marriage and the family intact? That proposal is probably a ticking time bomb in and of itself and may be the dumbest suggestion I've ever made, but it's worth proposing. Maybe I minimize sex because I'm like you and have been conditioned to not getting any and being shamed for wanting it, and therefore have placed it low in my echelon of priorities.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 01:38 AM
1

Maybe think about not filing and going to that conference. Or reading the book. If neither of you want to split the family that’s a good thing. Take the steps to try to avoid it. I wish my wife would have been willing to try - it sounds like yours is.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 11:52 PM
3

Turns out I was married to one.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 05:32 PM
3

My wife never wanted sex either. It was that crazy cycle where she wouldn’t give me what I needed if I didn’t give her what she needed so she wouldnt... you get it. If everything else is good, it may not actually be and it’s something you’ll want to investigate before she suddenly announces she’s leaving you. Even if you’re not sure whether your marriage is in crisis, it’s time to act like it is - and if you’re on this sub, you need to get to work. There is a Love & Respect marriage retreat comi…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 12:56 PM
6

She sounds like a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 12:50 PM
1

I have to agree with everyone else. I’m very pro marriage but if she’s saying this to you, she was in crisis a long time ago. Although it’s new to you, it isn’t new to her. Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/21 10:01 AM
1

It wouldn’t be a nightmare if your needs were being similarly met. But yeah, even when a marriage (or relationship) is great you still have to be working on it. Both parties do. If done right I suspect it wouldn’t be exhausting, but rather it would be energizing. Maybe I’ll get a chance to find out again someday.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 10:49 AM
2

Ah. I see.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 07:16 PM
3

I asked my Ex that question. Her answer, "Why would I want to sign up for 20 more?" Be careful asking that question - the answer you get back may be pretty harsh.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 07:03 PM
1

Uh, I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 08:08 PM
0

If you have any desire at all to keep your marriage, you have to accept her feelings as genuine. I wish my wife would have told me when she was working on it because I never knew a darn thing. That happens a lot - one partner says they've been working on it while the other partner never knew there was even a problem. Take this opportunity to attend a marriage boot-camp together. I've hear they have greater success rates than a counselor who isn't well versed in couples therapy or in SBT (solutio…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 07:59 PM
1

Right. It's means to never let up. Always "date" your spouse. Always step up. Don't put your relationship on "pause" for the kids, the career, the degree, etc. After the kids are gone, the degree has lost its value and the career gives way to retirement, your spouse is all that's left, and without a carefully nurtured connection throughout it all, many of us won't even have that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 07:53 PM
1

Not caring about heirs does a disservice to generations that existed before, from which we all have an origin.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 07:50 PM
1

I see a lot of it when the kids hit 18. No custody crap.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 03:07 PM
1

No argument. Many women will stick around "for the sake of the kids". I've known many women who have waited until their kids were grown to dissolve their marriages. If a marriage must be dissolved, unless something terrible is happening like abuse (in any shape or form) or affairs, waiting until the kids are grown is the way to do it. The children of divorce will still be left with emotional scars at any age, but those scars aren't as deep after their grown. My opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 02:49 PM
2

I get it. You're not wrong, and I haven't said you are. You are just taking a very extreme stance that I can't follow you on. But my understanding of the differences between men and women are spiritually inspired, whereas yours are more secularly inspired, and perhaps also inspired by personal experiences and a reaction therein.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 09:21 PM
0

Yes, those are the points you raised before. I have the feeling you have all of this pre-written and you copy and paste as needed. You said, "My sons will make their own decision about their lifestyle, and I'll respect their decision. The difference between my generation and their generation: They'll make their decision with open eyes." They'll make their decisions based upon your influence, just as much. Hopefully you will respect them and their decisions should they someday decide to marry, le…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 09:07 PM
-3

So, exist, be wealthy, and die with no heirs. Sounds horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 08:49 PM
3

Remember, Eve lived in a perfect paradise, but it wasn't enough. She was still insatiable. That tells us the work we must do continually to make the reward worth the risk.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 08:47 PM
0

I once again agree with the truths of this post, but again find myself bristling at the nihilistic tone. Not every marriage results in sexual starvation, manipulation, and divorce... in fact half do not. I'm proof that not EVERY divorce has to destroy your finances and reputation - mine didn't. 25 years, and clean break with a dissolution. And yeah, being single is more expensive because now I can't be on her health care plan, and I'm self-employed. The taxes are more, the insurance is more, and…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 07:31 PM
2

Now THAT is a reply I can agree with, and that is scripturally sound, too. I understand what you mean about getting men to "wake up", and now I understand what it is you're trying to do. My approach is to actually try to help people SAVE their marriages by understanding the differences we're both proposing before it gets too late. But I see why you've chosen the approach you're taking... men can be pretty thickheaded.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 03:27 PM
1

Interestingly, a friend of mine is going through the exact thing you’re talking about ... partner had an affair, gaslighting, took custody of their minor child ... but my friend is a woman whose husband is being exactly as you describe. It’s not just women who manipulate, lie, and gaslight their ex-spouses. Men do it do, and in my friend’s case, it’s brutal. Is the complex of law skewed in favor of women? Yes, that’s undeniable. But a black pill stance while a person is trying to figure things o…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 02:09 PM
0

But understanding women doesn’t have to be “us against them” as your post implies. Another tactic towards understanding women is to do it from another point of view, which is something I got from the Love & Respect ministry. It masterfully describes the differences between women and men without demonizing either, or putting one over the other. No need to lump every well-intentioned man or woman into a box with a label.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 01:41 PM
-1

That’s full on MGTOW (men going their own way) black pill (nihilistic) shit. You’re angry and I get it. Other men are angry too. Ya know what, I am too. But bitterness towards women is not this guy’s solution while he’s still in the middle of it. Now is not the time for him to join the “He-man’s Women Haters Club” with Alfalfa and Spanky.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 01:12 PM
1

Friends that tell you to leave do it because they don’t want to see you in pain. But after they’ve told you to leave they go home to their spouses. Therapists tell you to leave because you hire them to help you have a happier life, but you don’t know the baggage they’re carrying, and they may not be pro-marriage. So. I recommend reading Divorce Remedy and then Divorce Busting. Busting was written first but reading in this order was good. Then read The 5 Love Languages and finally Love & Respect.…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 12:17 PM
2

I'm telling you, don't. My wife and I did that exact thing - we had one weekly dinner, but anything other than that was seen as "pursuing", and if one person is pursuing, the other person is pushing away. The dissolution of our 24 year marriage is impending. The way to work on a marriage is to work on the marriage, not put it on pause. You can have a happier marriage, but you're going to need to learn how to do it. Start with Divorce Remedy, a great book by Michelle Weiner-Davis. Then read her f…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 08:13 PM
5

If you have any hopes of staying together, do not separate. CONNECTION is the key to a relationship and if you’re separated there’s no way to maintain or enhance the connection. Furthermore, what if one of you decides they like living on their own better? If you separate your marriage stands very little chance at continuing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 05:50 PM
5

I need to add, that you and your wife, should you wish to continue counseling, should seek out a family counselor with experience in SBT, Solutions Based Short Therapy, which helps you see what's going on in the here and now, helps you fix the here and now, and gives you tools to continue to do this in the future. It doesn't go into the past, try to psychoanalyze you, and dredge up resentments long festered, but rather it says, "what can I help you with today?" I hired an SBT life coach for awhi…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 04:15 PM
4

It's my belief (after doing a lot of self-study) and there aren't enough marriage counselors who are experienced in counseling couples as an entity in and of itself (as one flesh). I read Divorce Remedy and Divorce Busting, and those books weren't particularly gracious to counseling for the very reason you state. So, what I can tell you is this - if she says she doesn't feel like a priority in your life compared to your other priorities, than that's how she feels. It's not wrong, it is what it i…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 04:11 PM
1

Thank you! We CAN stop the cycle of divorce and show our kids that life isn't as disposable as people would have you believe.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 03:30 AM
1

My ex told me that she’d been considering divorce for ten years. I told her I wish she’d have spent that time putting energy into making our marriage better rather than spending it trying to find a way out of it. You can make your marriage better, but it’ll take work, and you can do it alone (at first). Read Divorce Remedy, Divorce Busting, The 5 Love Languages and especially Love & Respect, which was revelatory for me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 01:48 AM
5

Thanks for the tip. This is interesting.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/21 03:20 AM
4

I’m in the same place. I don’t owe my ex a damn thing except the cold shoulder.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/21 02:49 PM
1

Therapy, prayer and drugs, and that may not even work.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/21 12:02 AM
1

The one that leaves has been in marital crisis much longer than the other has any knowledge of. By the time the other realizes how bad it is, the one that leaves can’t be brought back. Just the way it is sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/21 11:46 AM
11

Your absence will scar your children far more than your divorce. You’re depressed. I get it. But no - fight for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/21 11:40 AM
2

Sorry your relationship didn’t work out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/21 11:51 AM
5

It is just the way I read your story. Did you get into a relationship to rescue someone, and if so, why? And why are they unworthy of rescue now?
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 10:00 PM
6

Sorry for the tough love here, but your post paints you as someone who is completely self absorbed, possibly narcissistic. You made these decisions, but if you’re considering breaking up what you chose to do, make sure that you’re not going to do it again to another girl down the road. You need a heart and soul that knows gratitude and humility, or you’ll never have a successful relationship. I’m glad you reached out, and I’m glad you at least recognize that leaving your wife would destroy her. …
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 06:34 PM
3

Spot on. You’ve just described me too. And yet, my wife left and we’re divorcing. It’s definitely not how I saw my life going, and the truth is I’m happier without her, but for the sake of the family I’d have stayed with her as I promised myself, her, our families and God. A commitment is a commitment. I still believe in it, even if she doesn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 01:37 PM
2

If I may, you’re on what Emerson Emmerichs calls “the crazy cycle”. Your marriage might be saveable, especially if your wife was surprised and hurt, which means she’s feeling something and she cares. Don’t get me wrong, it may be over, or she may be dealing with mental illness and in that case your efforts may not matter. But if you value your family, and understand that your kids will be scarred by divorce (it’s out of your control), then read “Love & Respect”. In the meantime, continue on with…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/21 12:55 PM
3

From my view, the kids know you’ll always be there, but they can’t say that of their mother. Maybe they’re fearing her abandonment and are gravitating towards her because they’re afraid they’re going to lose their relationship with their mom. Just a thought.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/21 11:03 AM
14

Answers to what? Maybe if she reads through these notes she’ll learn something.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/21 01:57 PM
2

Just like your Dad, it’s not what I would have wanted, expected or hoped for, but I’m going to be okay. Your Dad will need your support, and you’ll want to keep an eye on him because suicide risk is very real. I can attest to that, and thankfully I’m past all that. He’ll need friends, and he’ll need to be able to talk about it, and his feelings. I highly recommend that he starts to journal. Mine is up to 120 pages, but it’s been very helpful. I also started walking so I could think things throug…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/21 04:17 AM
9

Your Dad is living my pain. I’m going through the same thing. I’m been married 24 years and have been separated 8 months. I got papers for a dissolution last Saturday in the mail. I do not want a divorce because when I got married it was a commitment I made to my God and my family as well as my wife. It doesn’t matter that I haven’t been happy, it doesn’t matter that she cheated on me, it doesn’t matter that she doesn’t even like me because I like being married and I like belonging to someone an…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/21 03:29 PM
3

You’re looking at faith backwards. Happy to explain more should you be interested.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 02:06 PM
1

Not true.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 02:04 PM
1

Take a gander at this sermon. Anyone who doesn’t understand the importance of sex in marriage should watch it. https://subsplash.com/cedarcreek/message-archive/mi/+bp2nfg9
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 02:02 PM
1

My STBX is bipolar-depressive. You can love the hell out of her and it won’t matter. You can be the best mate ever and it won’t matter. You can evolve and grow, and it won’t matter. It’s not her, it’s her brain, and it’s nobody’s fault. I love the promise of family, and security, and having someone to grow old with, but unless she gets it under control (and it never really will be, not completely), that promise does not exist in a future with your child’s mother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 01:55 PM
1

Just an observation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/21 02:43 AM
0

That’s depression talking.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/21 03:35 AM
0

Read Divorce Remedy. Put your passions on hold. We don’t begin a marriage just to end it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/21 01:32 AM
1

If you’re not a Christian you’re not yolked in the bonds of matrimony the way God intended. If she’s a Christian, even with everything else going on, you’ll never be yolked unless you come to accept Christ.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/21 07:29 PM
1

You’re smarter than me. It took me 25 years.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/21 01:56 PM
2

All people in or out of relationships can learn from their experiences. They can grow and prepare for tomorrow. When my ex walked out, I started reading. I was desperate to save my marriage and read a dozen books, from Divorce Remedy, to the 5 Love Languages, and a bunch of others. I went to websites and listened to podcasts and soaked up as much relationship knowledge as I could. In the end, as much as I tried, she didn’t grow or have any interest in saving it so it failed. But I’ve personally …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/21 01:53 PM
9

What in the world are you talking about? I do not live with my ex, nor have I bought her flowers. I haven’t seen her or heard from her since Christmas. For those of you reading this who are not douchebags that I have blocked, sorry for the commotion.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/21 02:31 AM
5

Thanks gents. Valentines Day hit me a little harder than I was prepared for. Now I know to stay off of social media on days like this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/21 02:23 AM
2

Pray for the new guy in her life. If she’s anything like my STBXW, she hasn’t learned a darn thing and will drag all her garbage into the next relationship, too. Work on yourself, make yourself a better, upgraded version. Pray.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/21 04:32 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter