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10	why do incels get angry when other incel gets a girlfriend I read a study once, sadly I do not have it anymore- but we often feel more contempt or envy most towards people we relate to. For example, by this idea, an incel would feel more contempt for his fellow incel for getting a girlfriend compared to a top celebrity. Some of the reason behind it is that we tend to surround ourselves with like-minded people, therefore, it can create some competition. Because of the perceived scarce competition I think this can create some animosity. Another reason can…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/24 03:44 AM
1	How do i get rid of this animosity towards women? Well for me in my heart I forgave a lot of people. Now I am in my 30s and I realize young people are figuring out the world. I know there were times I was not always nice to people and there were time people were not nice to me. Now that I am grown I feel I have changed and would not do or say some of the things today that I did many years ago. I think this could be the same for others. The people who were unkind to me I imagine have grown up and mostly all become wonderful people. Some people o…	/r/ExRedPill	13/06/23 05:01 PM
1	Good men should not have to pay for his girlfriend's bad choices in men. I.e I should not have to pay for what your ex boyfriend did to you. Sigh. Well I am a lesbian and it is very common for people to stay close friends with the exes. Honestly it just complicates things and having cell phones makes it worse when people can have secret conversations. We want to trust people and give them freedom, but we are afraid of losing the person we love. It is important to express that to them and let the person know 'hey I want to be the person you turn to with relationship problems'. My wife and I when we have an issue we talk it out, I don'…	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/22 12:43 PM
2	I have a question exredpill. How come my girlfriend can yell, scream, and curse at me during an argument. But when I tell her to stop because it's abusive it's "Too bad". Been there myself. Wanting love and belongingness. I can see why the red pill has appealed to you. But I also know how it is destructive. I struggled with alcohol addiction in the past and attended AA meetings. We have a prayer we recite often, for those who don't pray regard it as a reminder. It goes: 'Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference' It has helped me along the way many times. I say it several …	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/22 03:26 PM
1	How do I stop seeing my gf as a slut and resenting her because of it? I can definitely understand why you would feel hurt over your girlfriend expressing potential sexual desires with other people. It is important to have trust and loyalty in a relationship. I can see that since she has shared her theoretical desire for sexual adventure you may feel insecure and worry about losing her. I would definitely talk to her about this. Honestly if my wife came up to me and said similar things, I would be devastated and hurt. When you say 'combine this with a history of de…	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/22 02:18 PM
6	I have a question exredpill. How come my girlfriend can yell, scream, and curse at me during an argument. But when I tell her to stop because it's abusive it's "Too bad". I disagree. I think you would be taking care of yourself. She may look at you as the bad guy. Again we cannot control her thoughts or behaviour. It is just a matter of you deciding if you are going to stay with her or not. Breaking up with someone who doesn't treat you right is not inherently red pill. Staying with someone who treats you badly isn't exredpill either. How do you feel about leaving her? Do you want to? Do you love her? I almost sense that you place a lot of your self-worth on how …	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/22 02:08 PM
5	I have a question exredpill. How come my girlfriend can yell, scream, and curse at me during an argument. But when I tell her to stop because it's abusive it's "Too bad". First of all I want to say you are doing a lot to improve yourself. It takes a lot to go to therapy and relearn how to communicate and navigate interpersonal relationships. One thing I notice in your post is a similar pattern I experienced but in the workplace. I was in a supervisory position (equivalent to middle management). I had to let go of some control. I had to accept that not everyone's responses and reactions were a direct result of my leadership skills. Some of my coworkers have had di…	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/22 01:50 PM
1	Why is hypergamy overly emphasized? Women have to worry about cheating to if not more? Most RP dudes will say they can go out and have sex with other women and still come home to love and provide for the wife/kids. They say that when women have affairs she will become romantically attached and break up the family unit. Breaking up the family unit will cause problems for men as they will talk about divorce and its impact on men and children. Mostly they focus on men (e.g. finances, changes their connections with their kids). So back to the affairs- They will provide guidelines to m…	/r/ExRedPill	19/10/22 02:02 AM
1	Why is the RP community so against being friends with woman? Awesome!	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/22 02:19 PM
10	Why is the RP community so against being friends with woman? I don't think they are against it as so much as they don't believe men and women can be friends. A lot of RP guys like Cooper find women to be boring. As a lesbian I can offer some things I have observed. If two people are friends and one is attracted to the other then it can complicate things. I can be friends with lesbians, bi women, straight women, men, whoever and it is fine. But the second one displays interest in the other it is going to change the dynamics. And it really changes things if…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 06:38 PM
4	I can't leave the Red Pill because I have a redpilled friend that is insanely good with women Being good with women is different from being good to women. I want to know a little more what prompted you to post? Like why would you want to post in the exredpill subreddit? Why do you want to abandon the redpill worldview?	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 06:16 PM
1	Who came up with the idea that women like douchebags? Well I don't think someone came up with the idea as much as people observe their environments and they make impressions off of them. I think that women don't necessarily 'like' douchebags as much as they enjoy sleeping with him if he is good looking. I think you will see the goodlooking douchebag type having more short-term/casual flings or hook ups. They aren't really relationship material according to most women. Some might even be a bit domineering and I don't think that creates a healthy lon…	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/22 04:18 PM
1	Why would women nowadays want to be monogamous? Just because you can have it doesn't mean everyone wants it. Not everyone wants poly relationships. I don't think the majority of women want open marriages and think monogamy is controlling or boring. What I like about being in a monogamous marriage is having a steady person in my life. Life gets to be really difficult and there is a point in your adult life where you gain a lot of responsibility. Some people become parents together, or have increasingly demanding jobs, parents are getting older…	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/22 04:38 PM
1	Re-phrasing my last post Definitely an interesting topic. The hard part about these topics posted on the internet is that we all have our own pain/grief/trauma we are dealing with. Most of us are not trained psychotherapists so we don’t give those answers. Things can get super messy very quick. We come here to be understood and leave feeling worse at times. I think it’s important to note social differences between men and women. Women will call her friends out of the blue to say how are you doing what’s going on lately.…	/r/ExRedPill	28/09/22 03:38 PM
4	Ex RP’ers, I have a question Some RP folks address this. Basically they have this men against women worldview. They believe what is good for men isn’t always good for women. And what’s good for women isn’t always good for men. Therefore they don’t have a problem with ‘lowering a woman’s value’ via sex because it doesn’t impact them. RP don’t interest themselves in what they think is best for women. They look out for themselves. Even though they prefer virginal marriage partners they don’t care if they marry because they don…	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/22 09:21 PM
2	I'm immensely glad I found this reddit, but I fear the damage has already been done. It may depend on where you look for your information. I find that the blackpill and redpill often misrepresent evolutionary psychology, personality psychology, and attachment theory. The blackpill tends to analyze facial structure, such as canthal tilt or height to demonstrate their talking points. To create some form of rebuttal I would look into academic sources, more particularly peer-reviewed articles. I am not sure if you have access to any databases, though google scholar is available for …	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/22 09:07 PM
16	The wall for trans people. Well first of all as an ex-redpill subreddit most of us probably don't subscribe to RP content, even if that content has a teeny tiny aspect of truth to it. Most RP communities are not kind to LGBT people and usually don't have anything nice to say. The RP especially does not embrace the trans community and makes no exceptions. The things I have heard the RP say about the lgbt community are disturbing so if you go down the rabbit hole, proceed with caution. Black pill is either ambivalent at bes…	/r/ExRedPill	15/09/22 11:02 PM
2	should I(female) die once I can't reproduce anymore? The RP sure has got a hold of you. You are only looking at your life through the RP lens. They only have a use for you until you reach a certain age. And since the RP is awful, why do you want to conform to their standards? I am a spiritual person which I know not everyone is. I like to think as humans we all have a seasons of life we go through. It is a gift to be able to go through life and to live. Live your life for YOU, not the RP. If you want kids then one day I am sure they might want kid…	/r/ExRedPill	01/09/22 09:55 PM
2	I wish I was a woman. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. That being said I understand some of what you are saying. Women do seem to have more suitors, it becomes more quality vs quantity issue. Women I talk to want quality matches because they know one bad decision has disastrous effects lasting a lifetime. I do think the 'man up' thing has to go away, I cannot stand that saying. And I don't think anyone is a loser for living with their parents at any age. It's none of anyone's business regarding who y…	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/22 10:32 AM
1	I feel like being the casual sex guy is better than being the relationship guy It feels good to get some of your thoughts out. What I appreciate about your view points is that you are willing to take sexual responsibility. In addition to that I think it is best to be upfront and not play any mind games. I am in alcohol recovery and I talk to an ex-member from time to time. The one who got me into recovery actually, she left the organization because of the toxicity within it. But anyway she is a strong, independent person who was a single mom ever since her child was born 2…	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/22 02:13 PM
10	Red pill has really changed my view on girls and it’s got to stop. I totally get being sucked into that downward spiral. It can be addictive and hard to put down. Here are some of my suggestions to you that you can take if you wish. Check out the Red Pill Detox's First Aid Kit posted on the sub. There are loads of resources to help you Delete apps from your phone like tik tok. People use these platforms to gain attention. The more attention they can get, the more popular their videos become and you end up seeing them. A lot of it is mindless watching/scrolling.…	/r/ExRedPill	26/07/22 09:26 PM
2	What do you think of the CBP channel? I don't think he is overall a bad guy. He doesn't have the same bitterness and resentment towards women like most blackpillers and redpillers do. He isn't toxic or mean from what I have viewed of his content. He stated before he became MGTOW before he knew it was a word- and his intention for doing so doesn't come from hatred of women. He does a decent job at criticizing the black and red pill though he doesn't entirely disagree with EVERYTHING they say. He tends to critique the redpill communit…	/r/ExRedPill	22/07/22 03:54 PM
2	"Men are not good enough the way they are", they need to make themselves valuable by being impressive, women are good enough the way they are, and don't need to do anything besides looks - thoughts? A point the redpill drives home is that men get better and women get worse. For example, looks. They say men age like fine wine and women age like sour milk. Another example, if something awful happens to a man he can improve. And if something awful happens to a woman it destroys her. Some red pillers say women can get better but they refuse to take the steps. Another point redpillers make is that women seek men for value (i.e. security). While men don't seek women for the same reasons. I don't …	/r/ExRedPill	19/07/22 07:51 PM
3	What do you guys think of sexual market value? PFFFFFFFFFFT. I wish it were true. I mean sure there is a hint of truth to it that the redpill and blackpill blows out of proportion. I say I wish it were true because you still get hit on in your 30s. I mean I am gay so I don't like attention from men obviously. But still if I walk into an AA meeting I still get hit on. Older men tend to be more bold in their approach and will come up to you no problem. Younger men I find take more subtle approaches and try to warm up next to you. I've been on …	/r/ExRedPill	15/07/22 05:43 PM
5	How was the perception of sex presented to you when you were younger? Sex can lead to STIs. STIs make you sick and diseased forever and can kill you. If you are diseased people won't want you and you will be alone. People will find out. Sex can lead to pregnancy. I understand teen pregnancy is not ideal conditions to have a baby and parents want to prevent us from having that experience so young. But also my parents would teach me being a young mother is bad because it is hard and the father will leave you and you will have nothing in life. No education, no home, …	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/22 05:40 PM
6	How was the perception of sex presented to you when you were younger? Sex was presented as dangerous	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/22 04:49 PM
1	My father is on the red pill and losing his mind. I can't wait to read it. LOL	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/22 04:08 PM
1	I have low smv. Okay so you are not living your best life. You have a degree but are working a menial job because you lack the experience you need to work in your field. Can you tell me more about your degree, the industry you would want to work in, and so on? Positivity is great and it is important to have in your life. As a person who tends to be a little negative I completely understand the mindset and when positivity doesn't work. Can you tell me more about the career counselor? Was this an actual counselor…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/22 07:34 PM
12	My father is on the red pill and losing his mind. lol guy goes redpill for 2-3 years and is now an expert and can write a book. Well there isn't much that can be done. The only thing you can do is set boundaries with him. You can tell him you don't want to discuss what he is doing with whatever flavour of the month. You can tell him whatever else you are not willing to discuss. It is difficult when you have a family member who does something you don't agree with. I am a bit of an eccentric person who does things or believes in things my family …	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/22 01:19 PM
5	How to get over my anger and resentment towards women I highly recommend you seek out therapy. There is a lot that needs to be healed and I don't know if anyone here can write a small post that will help cure all this. I think it is going to take a very long time to achieve your goals of letting go that anger and changing your worldview. A lot of redpill, blackpill and mgtow communities are extremely toxic. The videos/content is addictive and it changes the way you see the world- you interpret everything differently. From the songs you hear playing…	/r/ExRedPill	05/07/22 01:37 AM
2	Im not a big fan of being a man Well I love being a woman. I will say the grass isn't always greener on the other side no matter what side you are on to begin with. When you lack something in your life it is easy to look at other people or another group and think 'wow! being them would solve all my problems!' And while sure it would alleviate you of your current issues, you inherit other problems. While casual sex is more acceptable today, it still comes with a price. The consequences of sex tend to be greater for women than i…	/r/ExRedPill	10/06/22 12:25 PM
1	Is this sexist? A tall woman coercing a shorter man to date her when he refuses is not a violation of women's rights lol. I suppose if you were wanting to use your advantage of added height and strength to hurt her or put fear into her then that would be a big problem. But based on what you are saying I don't think you reveal any interest in doing that.	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/22 11:05 AM
7	Boyfriend has gotten into Fresh and Fit the past year... can this be undone? Yeah F&F is a really awful channel. I like to think two people together are a team and they work together. They decide amongst themselves how they want to do life and make changes based on seasons of life. It's funny how F&F criticizes women for being sexual beings while simultaneously encouraging them to do so. At the end of the day it is your choice if you stay with him or not. Not sure if F&F for him is a phase or something for life. Perhaps couples counselling may help if you are both open t…	/r/ExRedPill	23/05/22 07:41 PM
3	Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men? A lot of people weighed in on this and there are a lot of great answers. I think in the past it wasn’t socially acceptable for women to remarry but for men it was. Even today when women date again after their spouse died adult children can be very against their mothers dating again. Not as much backlash for fathers but still some is there. I think also society demands a lot from women as they are the caretakers in most situations. Being relieved of some responsibility is nice. A lot of women enj…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/22 02:04 PM
4	can someone explain to me why redpills say they don't want children but if they meet a woman who says she doesn't want children do they judge her? It is a little difficult to unwind and a lot of it doesn't make sense. They judge women who do not want children because they believe it is the influences of feminism causing it. They discuss the concept of 'the wall' and 'babies rabies'. They say women tend to 'hit the wall' or go through 'babies rabies' from about ages 27-32 depending on your sources. They also discuss the red and green flags of dating women. Red flags being things like tattoos, dyed hair, etc as they are viewed as markers of …	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/22 01:20 AM
3	I'm finding it difficult to argue against the points made in this video... I totally understand where you are coming from. Not wanting to sit in a pit of misery however there is some truth to the red/black pill. They didn't just come out of nowhere and they are worth exploring. I watched the video and I don't think the content creator unpacked his argument very well. He states all of the issues stem from the government but does not provide concrete examples. He doesn't even explain what he means by the government is replacing the father's role in society. To answer you…	/r/ExRedPill	13/05/22 02:12 PM
5	I don’t know what i want from dating anymore The red pill indoctrinates it’s audience with the idea that they shouldn’t seek out deeper human connection. A lot of its content creators believe men should spin plates and get as much sex as they can get. I watched a video of a man seeking RP advice. He was able to have lots of sex but desired a deeper human connection. The RP guru thought he was an idiot for complaining about his situation and dismissed his desire for intimacy. I think that it’s important that you look inside your heart and a…	/r/ExRedPill	11/05/22 07:50 AM
1	I can't stop thinking about the black pill. I'm very tired. You’re welcome. I wish you the very best. I hope you find your peace and can move forward in a way that makes sense.	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/22 04:20 PM
3	I can't stop thinking about the black pill. I'm very tired. It’s not about stopping thinking altogether but to shift your focus. I learned this through the app Calm. They have some insightful meditations and as thoughts come into your mind they guide you in releasing them. It takes a lot of practice to do this effectively so if you decide to try it remember it takes practice to achieve this. I learned through this app to use my 5 senses to refocus when intrusive thoughts enter my mind. It has helped me a lot in managing my anxiety. Head space is also a g…	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/22 03:12 PM
3	I can't stop thinking about the black pill. I'm very tired. When you see the world with a particular lens it is hard to drop it. Like you said, you see it wherever you go and it impacts your well-being. I have some ideas that may help you. As we say in AA recovery: take what you like and leave the rest. You cannot change your height and you need to make peace with it. You don’t owe people what they want (eg height, looks, and so on). Don’t let your insecurities society casts on you to force yourself into hiding. Go out and enjoy your life and all the thi…	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/22 02:19 PM
2	Trying to understand what is so appealing about RP to men and if some men are more susceptible to it I watched quite a few of Richard Cooper's content out of curiosity. I understand some of his frustration in the dating world. He was struggling after a divorce/some kind of break up and was a single father. He dated a single mother who would get him to do all these things for her and he did not feel he was appreciated or a priority. He started to stand up for himself but then took it in another direction. He refuses to do anything for women but expects them to serve him. A green flag for a woman…	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/22 10:10 PM
6	Anyone else have suicidal thoughts increase due to Redpill/Blackpill content? These communities are incredibly unhealthy and are not helpful to their target audiences. You can become a confident person who can assert themselves in a relationship without being a a jerk. Instead of looking at the 'pill communities' for advice, try looking for other sources of help. There are channels on youtube that can teach to give advice to people on how to be assertive. Therapy can also assist you in this process if that is an option for you. Please if you having suicidal ideation seek …	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/22 03:03 PM
2	Why there is no lot exfeminsts as there is exredpill Feminism is definitely not without its criticism and has been bashed many times before. Sometimes rightfully so and other times wrongfully so. My guess is that in male extremists tend to be more violent than women extremists. Not that women are not capable of violence or doing wrong, it just doesn't have the same numbers compared to men. It is important to understand why movements arise. Men will blame the downfall of society on feminism when there is a reason why feminism arose to begin with. R…	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/22 03:53 PM
5	What’s this obsession with 18-19 year olds? I’ve gone down a ton of YouTube rabbit holes on the red pill. I was never really Red Pilled so to say I am ex red pill now is false lol. It more so intrigued me to explore the whole Red Pill, incel community online to understand what it’s all about.	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/22 01:58 PM
42	What’s this obsession with 18-19 year olds? 100% agreed with this. I also would like to add in regards to the OP's friend- if he is red pill meaning he identifies himself as such and is involved with the red pill community, they idealize this age group. They will pull out the charts to indicate that a woman's SMV is at its height when she is around 21ish years old. So they wanna get in on that and are encouraged to do so by the community. I find people who like younger women for whatever reason will eventually complain about the lack of m…	/r/ExRedPill	26/02/22 05:37 PM