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Hanging out with women isn't necessarily boring or a pain; the process of getting women who don't know you to become interested in you romantically can be a painful slog.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 01:00 AM
5

The process of getting dates is not fun for me; being in relationships are fun, I'm in one now, but the process getting there was a slog. Didn't matter how much I liked women or how many female friends I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:47 PM
4

Dating IS a slog burden to get the fruit; if you think it's fun, good for you, but I'd call you lucky / privileged.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:10 PM
6

That is what reddit thinks female friends will do for guys, it's pretty common in all the dating subs. Very dramatic on your part to call it 'unpaid work'.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:05 AM
2

I have women friends, can't say it ever helped me get dates; they vouched for me when I finally got dates myself and my now girlfriend appreciate that my friends like and respect me, but the friends themselves never helped like reddit always things female friends will.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:02 AM
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Earning attractiveness is real; if something is fat, sloppy, unkempt, unfashionable, unfit, etc and they do the work to become the opposite of that, they will be more attractive and they will have earned that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:03 AM
1

Yes you can and it is not an opinion; unless you define 'earning' attractiveness very specifically (unreasonably)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:54 AM
-1

You can absolutely earn being physically attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:20 AM
1

I don't know what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:35 AM
1

True enough; I go to metal concerts and all the majority of alt women both beautiful and even not tend to be all taken, it does suck. Eventually started dating a girl out of salsa class / Latin dancing social where there's lots of women because I had to broaden my horizons beyond lifting, anime / manga / sci fi / fantasy, and metal music otherwise I was going to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:50 AM
1

Luck is definitely a thing, but it's not a strategy. You can improve your chances of getting lucky, but banking on luck is probably going to get people nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:43 AM
1

When you say 'just live life', you're implying they don't have to do anything to get dates; don't have to initiate, don't have to ask people out, don't have to flirt, etc. That's a plan to fail romantically and fail hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:38 AM
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It's not exceedingly obvious; I joined salsa dancing primarily to meet women and I did meet my girlfriend that way, in the year plus of doing salsa dance classes and going to socials was I called out for being there for 'ulterior motives'. This is one of the things redditors sweat will happen but never does IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:33 AM
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Lot of women at the D&D meetups in my city; not all them are single, but still. Lots of women love bodybuilding and powerlifting, again at least in my area, but alot are also not single.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:28 AM
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No, it would have to be case by case dependent on the state of the individual fetus, which would entail measurements along the development cycle of abortion is elected for. This is obviously easier in a single payer / Medicare for all system, but it would have to be what it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:28 AM
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Abortion is fine for me up till to the point where the fetus' body is developed such that its brain is present and / or the point where it can feel pain; before that is fair game imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:04 PM
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So is the use of spermicide and fetuses are not people; the thing that makes people say the opposite tends to be religious talk about people's souls being installed in their bodies upon conception. It isn't true and women get to dictate what they do with any symbiotic life forms attached to their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:15 AM
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Consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy and one group's moral dilemma on the matter (often stemming from their personal interpretations of their religion) shouldn't dictate policy for a country / world as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:41 AM
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Never said there was.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:37 PM
2

Cold approach does not mean instantly asking a person on a date out of the blue, what out of the blue portion exists is starting the conversation with a stranger. You still actually have to have the conversation and check the vibe first before asking them out. There's also nothing wrong with filtering the people you want to approach by how attractive they are to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:25 PM
3

It's hard to be more wrong than this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:15 PM
6

Paying for sex is uniquely degrading; depending on the person it can be better than nothing, but the sex doesn't mean much if the woman doesn't actually want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:13 PM
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Theory in science is not an educated guess or hypothesis like you're suggesting. Theories in science are models that have been shown to make accurate predictions about the real world. The most high fidelity models are the house hold names like gravity, electromagnetism, quantum mechanics, etc. Gravitational theory applied everywhere in the universe btw
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 06:07 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with doing things for the sake of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:11 PM
1

There's nothing at all wrong or invalid with 'type' meaning 'highly attractive to me'
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:09 PM
1

That is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:07 PM
1

Having a high paying career and a high status job is also selfish lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:37 PM
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Having kids is also selfish, just in a different way. I also don't mind being selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:02 AM
9

There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:53 AM
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I don't think they're necessarily trashier on the apps, it's just harder to get women to pay attention to you because of the effort needed to make a good profile for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:56 AM
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5'10; tall short man or short tall man, either way definitely not 6'5 blue eyes in finance lol. Lots of really skilled non-white short kings at those dance socials though and the women seem to like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 09:41 AM
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I met my gf doing Latin social dancing (Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, etc); this was this year not last generation btw. I was interested in learning dancing a bit for its own sake, but I make no bones about the fact that it's pretty easy to meet lots of different women at big socials and that was my main motivation. It's a sort of cold approach asking them for a dance, but the pressure is off since the unspoken understanding is saying yes to a dance doesn't necessarily mean anything romantically (it…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 09:38 AM
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That's ridiculous; there was 'patriarchy' long before there was capitalism; you could easily have a matriarchal capitalist system just as easily as you could have a patriarchal one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:00 PM
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Because they are absolute twats
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:08 PM
1

There's nothing wrong necessarily with being hedonistic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:06 PM
1

I'm not red pill at all and way out my 20's, but being able to have consistent sex with random attractive broads is a pretty big flex. Depends on the context in which that sex is happening, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:05 PM
0

When guys complain about being invisible, it's in a Romantic and sexual context
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:47 PM
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Buying prostitutes isn't the same as wooing a women, even if it's just for a casual thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:19 PM
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Not really, I'm not saying you need to push for actual sex super early on but I think one should make it clear one is looking for sex / romance and being pretty direct up front instead of being wishy washy and coy and calling it flirting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:07 PM
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I'm not single at any rate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:44 PM
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That's an opinion you can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:59 PM
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Yeah I don't think it's a need, but the point still stands
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:43 PM
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The idea that masturbating meets the desire of sex / orgasming is ridiculous is why.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:39 PM
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The idea of being more forward is to make it clear intentions are romantic and / or sexual and not platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:30 PM
0

I never said it was a need
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:26 PM
1

Masturbating isn't the same as sex and you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:24 PM
-1

Not really
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:20 PM
2

Okie dokie smokie
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:46 AM
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Not the comeback you think it is. It obviously still means something to you since you have that handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:38 AM
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Pretty much. Plus it seems to be a theme with the more blue pulled crowd that since 'most' men are in relationships that there's essentially nothing to figure out since it's just so 'normal'. Others say there's no advice that can be given since actually putting thought into dating is 'disingenuous' or 'fake' somehow. I don't like using the 'check your privilege' sort of arguments, but it certainly fits here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:37 AM
2

Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:45 AM
7

This idea that having some scripting to your speech to get the ball rolling (ie small talk) makes you 'not human' is ridiculous nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:25 AM
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You literally have the purple pill label
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:21 AM
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Define 'normal'
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:21 AM
5

That's not true, depends on where you work; in my organization there's 3 months paternity leave paid
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:10 AM
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Only women can get pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 06:51 PM
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In no way, shape, or form is the food argument broken on its face. I'm not human just because I'm a clump of cells that sprang from another human. What makes me 'me' are the memories and experience that are stored in my brain, no brain developed to feel pain, close enough that there's no human being killed or made to suffer. They are a part of the mother's body, the fetus can't survive outside the mother's body, and the mother gets to decide what to do with her body. Don't like it ? Too bad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:58 PM
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Having children is a selfish act, a lump of cells isn't yet a human being regardless of its capability to do so or what your preacher tells you. Consent to sex isn't consent to pregnancy, it doesn't matter if it comes from a 'selfish' place, the woman gets to decide what is or isn't done with any extra biological presences in her own body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:49 PM
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Up till only certain points in the pregnancy, it absolutely is a sound 'excuse'
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:30 PM
2

Consent to sex isn't consent to pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:54 AM
0

Selfishness is a normal part of being a human being; yes being able to do good can be it's own reward, but people take this idea of wanting things being some inherently toxic trait really too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:49 AM
0

Aura is a thing, Piccolo from DBZ farms all of it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:23 PM
2

Too ugly to love is a super overly dramatic way of phrasing that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:47 PM
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No I wouldn't; I'd like to know exactly what's wrong with me so I can correct it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:46 PM
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It's not fucked up, it's honest; I'd be very appreciative of anyone phrased it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:39 AM
2

The mental gymnastics are pretty good there chief
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:15 PM
0

The friend zone absolutely exists; it's gender neutral and not malicious, it's the placing of an individual in a purely platonic place by their romantic interest because of the lack of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:14 PM
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Hitting on and flirting are two sides of the same coin, it's a distinction without a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:11 PM
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I think that's because the dichotomy is made by human; women in this subreddit complain about being approached for romantic purposes because they think someone noticing them for their looks is 'dehumanizing' (paraphrasing here but you get the idea).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 04:43 PM
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You watch too many Instagram gym reels, in my near 25 years of going to gyms across the country I've never seen a shirtless man on the gym floor
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 04:36 PM
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You and I have different definitions of what 'strong' is; being stronger than an average woman who probably doesn't exercise (not railing on you for it just saying) isn't 'strong'. By your standard, the average man who also doesn't exercise would be strong and they're really not. Gym can be a person's hobby that they're passionate about, not just a means to satisfy their narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 09:42 PM
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In order to actually be strong, a lot of guys are going to have to train as much as a gym rat; those also come as a spectrum by the way, as the women like to say, 'we aren't a monolith'.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 09:31 PM
3

Approaching a women you don't know is not harassment, and that isn't an opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:38 AM
6

Maybe, just maybe, less men are getting these 'invitations' than you think and have no choice but to approach anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:26 AM
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There are guys who don't get non-verbal ques though, what do those guys do then?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:01 AM
1

I probably go out and do more hobbies than you do, it's still the case that you and anyone you know who had an easy time getting partners (and what those words actually mean) is different from the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:59 PM
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This religious insistance that your lived experience is the norm is wrong; I don't think you're lying about what you're seeing, but you're absolutely wrong about what that means for the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:44 PM
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You BP people are always trying to blame people who disagree with you for actions of people they have nothing to do with. I'm not red pill, black pill, incel, pick your poisonous community and I'm not with them. The point still stands that anyone who finds romantic partners easily is not the norm and has advantages and privileges that the average person does not. The bar is much much much higher than not being sexist or a harasser; that doesn't mean one has to look like Henry Cavil or act like A…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:35 PM
2

The degree to which you are out of touch, privileged, and don't even realize it is pretty astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:17 PM
2

You live in a fantasy world if you think that's the actual bar
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:59 PM
6

What is delusion for $500 Alex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:41 AM
2

More men that travel, have friends, have high paying careers, have hobbies (even social ones), and are parts of several groups (social ones again) struggle than your preconceived notions allow you to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:41 AM
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It's a passive strategy by definition since it's the exact opposite of an active strategy also by definition, and for alot it's an abject failure of a method. The one limited in thinking are people who think the only appropriate dating strategy is to not consciously pursue dating when one's desire is to date. Freaking wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:28 AM
1

In other news, water is wet
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:33 PM
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Didn't help mine at all, so yeah YMMV
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:05 AM
1

My experience is there's more men than women at these sorts of things, it's a bit like a dating app but not that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 06:31 PM
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Define some ways we make it more complicated than it needs to be, since you're so in touch
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:42 PM
5

That just shows you're out of touch
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:38 PM
2

Couldn't have picked out PhD without reading your comment...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:57 PM
4

It's really not that simple, socialize is part of it but there's so much more that's glazes over with overly simplistic advice like 'just socialize bro!'
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:47 PM
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Approaching strangers is not PhD level social interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
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Approaching strangers is not PhD level social interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:42 PM
2

Dating apps are expensive double edged swords that can be a crapshoot but they can be really useful especially for those who don't have lots of time to be out and about IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:30 AM
1

It's not creepy and ok to hit on someone who hasn't given an explicit invitation, most guys don't get explicit invitations
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:41 AM
1

You can express sexual interest without being creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:53 AM
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It's absolutely treating them as people; but you'll see posters on this and other subs who say trying to make conversation more romantic or sexual with the conscious interest of those things happening as dehumanizing, it's wild AF
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:51 PM
0

I don't think you do, personality does exist in a vacuum, it's how that person reacts to the world; it can be shown in how they dress and whatnot but a representation of a thing isn't the thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:56 AM
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I have 4 tattoos and they're either about Greek myths, anime, fantasy books, and I'm going to be getting more about sci Fi books and such. I don't necessarily have some grand story to tell, I just like the stuff and I think tattoos look cool; your read if people's personality can be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:51 AM
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No, looks equals face and body only; personality and vibes are something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:46 AM
1

As if liking attractive women is something to be held accountable for
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:49 PM
1

Women can look all sorts of ways and classify as attractive in my mind; but the same can be said for the mid and unattractive ones. Yeah I don't want to date those, there's nothing wrong with that. Most men are not like women where they're not attracted to strangers and gain sexual attraction after x amount of time together. I know off the bat if a woman is physically attractive, I don't know if she's dating material off the bat
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:47 PM
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I don't think women should date men they're not attracted to; and I will not be dating women I'm not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:44 PM
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You're mistaking me for someone else, I've never written that women have too high standards on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:45 PM
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Which is normal ...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:42 AM
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Generally really good advice but I've never found the 'talk to absolutely everyone!' part of the advice to be useful and I have lots of hobby interests. I like going to metal concerts for example; the vast majority of women I'd be interested in there are partnered. Are there single women there? Probably, but my luck has been that they're either too young, too old, or age appropriate ones aren't physically attractive (this is important to me) or they are physically attractive but they're there wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:37 AM
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This theory is incorrect, I am the counter example; lots of female friends, no dates
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:33 AM
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Cold approaching isnt the same thing as street harassment, you can cold approach someone respectfully without it being the same thing as going 'hey hottie!' at random women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:30 AM
0

Still not identically equal to harassment and all that that word entails
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:05 PM
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You'd have to try pretty hard to be more wrong. Social and romantically attractive are related but they aren't the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:55 PM
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Your assumption that being a man is easy, it's not easy being a woman but the grass is not greener.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:50 PM
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Those are some impressive mental gymnastics; I have no idea where you get this from my quote, I also have no idea how it's even a response that makes sense to my quote. I want women that I'm attracted to both physically and personality wise at the same time; one without the other is a non-starter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:16 PM
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I mean those are decently wide umbrellas if you include being introduced by friends and family as a sort of warm approach. There aren't that many options.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:38 PM
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I have multiple hobbies, I go to events like concerts often, and I'm quite social in person; from what I can tell about your assumption, you would think I'd be swimming in easy options but I haven't had a date that wasn't a speed dating thing in more than a year and I've met no women that were single nor was I introduced to friends of friends of friends through my hobbies. It's not as simple as you're making it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:35 PM
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Your assumptions are delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:29 PM
-1

Cold approaching =/= harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:26 PM
2

You assume men haven't already tried the singles event, friends of friends, internet group connections avenues
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:26 PM
0

What is delusion for 500 Alex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:18 PM
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I think the OP is badly pushing back against the idea that all women have an attraction style that doesn't start from the get go and needs building over time. Women in this sub have said similarly and that they're not attracted to strangers, this IS different than men; speaking for myself I largely know if I'd like to have sex with a women just by looking at her regardless of how long I've known her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:05 AM
2

Great explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:51 PM
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Not having any hobbies in common with a partner sounds boring as fuck, I'd rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:22 AM
2

You know what's also natural? Death, disease, dementia, etc The whole Natural == good idea is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:13 AM
2

What is delusion for 500 Alex?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:52 AM
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I disagree with the notion that you shouldn't workout to look better; the process of working out can suck but it doesn't have to, I have fun when I go to the gym and lift
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:28 AM
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What is shitty advice for 500 Alex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 07:57 PM
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Everyone is shallow to some degree
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:48 PM
1

Ridiculous nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 03:11 AM
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You are an exception to the rule
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 03:03 AM
1

Maybe if you repeat it enough times it'll become true. Maybe. Probably not though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:21 AM
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If you repeat it enough times maybe it'll become true. Maybe Probably not though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:20 AM
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No it's not. Basic is 'Hi hello how are you? I'm good, how are you?' and proceeding small talk to deeper stuff that is not romantic. It goes beyond basic when you're trying to have someone go on romantic dates and be physically intimate with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:00 PM
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It's not true
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:57 PM
2

Lookup Mark Manson or Harris O'Malley, both wrote books on the subject that includes presentation topics like fashion, flirting, and approaching; all of which are not as common sensical as you think. You might never get to your 'best light' without examples outside of your personal self to emulate first
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 10:40 AM
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No one said anything about forcing love either, but people don't choose what they're attracted to; the feelings are there or they're not. It's not trickery for a guy to try to present himself in such a way that it's more likely those feelings get illicited in the women he's attracted to The same woman could reject or not reject the same guy depending on how he presented himself. Trying to find better ways to present oneself isn't some inauthentic manipulation tactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 10:30 AM
2

Nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 10:11 AM
4

Being a normal human being is basic, being successful romantically is not basic
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 10:08 AM
5

No one said anything about 'tricks', you used that word not anybody else. Wanting some kind of guide about actionable things to do to increase chances of success in dating does not mean you want tricks for manipulation purposes. What does a guy do if no woman finds him attractive in the first minute of meeting him? Lie down and die or find some advice to work on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:56 AM
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You can increase your chances, I don't see how 'chemistry' is definitionally this purely random thing that can't be consciously worked on either.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:25 AM
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Give actionable advice on how to present yourself or flirt etc such that it gets created, certainly better than saying 'dating is organic and if it needs to be explained, then it doesn't count'.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:07 AM
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The sexual attraction part is what makes it different to other relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:44 AM
3

I think that's wrong, Dating IS a skill. What happens DURING dating is a connection, but it takes skill to make someone (for lack of better wording) want to foster that kind of connection with you. All the self worth in the world won't matter if you don't know how to present yourself in a romantically attractive way, there's only so much overlap with general social interaction. You can talk to people and listen to people and they might generally like you but they could at the same time not want …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:10 AM
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Standard everyday social interaction doesn't mean romantic chemistry; a lot of my luck has been some mix of that my female friends are not interested when I asked them out, are not single, they're not physically attractive to me, are not straight, and/or don't have people they could introduce me to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:57 PM
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I don't necessarily agree with OP's complete position. Some of what you're categorizing is a straw man but some of it is kind of on the nose No one said women owe men anything, at least I didn't. People getting hung up on exact wording; as of desiring some written out ideas for dating advice is wanting the same thing as video game cheat codes is absurd. The lack of empathy bit comes in when non TRP people are saying that dating is something that is supposed to be just known, 'basic', 'organic', …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:26 PM
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Approaching is literally the same thing as striking up a conversation, people who think those are different things are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 10:25 PM
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Surprising lack of empathy, the vitrial might be directed at Andrew Tate types (which is deserved on his part) but still pretty wild IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 10:18 PM
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There's a percentage of the population for whom dating is anything but an organic social interaction. I can socially interact with people of all genders and ages just fine, it has never 'organically' led to romantic dates. What comes natural to you may need detailed written out explanation to another person, that doesn't make it stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 10:14 PM
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Distinction with no difference
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 10:02 PM
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It is a person's personal problem but there's nothing wrong with needing to be told how to date if all they're experiencing is failure for whatever reason that might be and they can't improve. I've hired coaches for weightlifting before because I couldn't figure out why I wasn't progressing in the gym. The social aspects of dating don't make that different. The fact that people in this thread think dating is 'basic', 'natural', or 'organic' and should just be known is fucking wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:52 PM
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That 99% number is coming from you, idk the extent to which that's true and different cultures do dating differently (standard western culture vs one with arranged marriages have different difficulty levels in getting a partner, wouldn't want to live in the later kind though). Again lots of people just get lucky in both the preparation meets opportunity sense or the sheer dumb happened to be at the right place at the right time sense. If that isn't working for someone; they'll have to put more c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:26 PM
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The fact that a good percentage of the population can bungle their way into it doesn't make it basic. I'm not sheltered, alot of the population with respect to dating are lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:14 PM
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Dating is a step way above basic human interaction; if you can say the opposite with a straight face you're just privileged
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:05 PM
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Makes sense; but I have familial support, friends, other sources of validation, entertainment, but being single at my age (38M) sometimes means I go out with a decently small friend group or just plain alone. That doesn't imply in trying to use the women I'd like to approach as a stand in for those things. That also doesn't really address getting the opposite of welcoming signals in social spaces with shared interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:53 PM
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I'd like to think women would be happy to chat in those locations but I experience the guarded anxiousness directed towards me even in social spaces with a shared interest (conventions, concerts, etc). Is your first paragraph saying one would need obvious friend groups to return to to increase chances of being given benefit of the doubt? Could be biased, but Can't say that's my experience either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:38 PM
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They don't experience welcoming friendly women in the social spaces so they shoot their shots wherever they can. Idk about the OP and I'm not saying cold approach is the perfect solution to this, but I rarely get welcoming friendly women in social spaces. More often than not I experience very guarded anxious women (when they notice me not like if they're there with friends or such), they look like they wouldn't appreciate my approach. I'm probably biased but that experience can make one desperat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:02 PM
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Cold approaching=/= catcalling
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 04:52 PM
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You must be fun at parties
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:44 AM
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Saying 'its bad' or 'its creepy' with no qualifiers is making an absolutist statement implying that it's bad and creepy every time it's done regardless of how it's done and that all women would think that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:49 AM
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Good for you, don't allow it if it doesn't make you comfortable, but you don't speak for all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:39 AM
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Only a sith deals in absolutes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:35 AM
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It's not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:33 AM
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Cold approaching doesn't mean you're asking a person on a date out of the void, it's literally striking up a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:30 AM
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This is the definition issue people have about this issue. A cold approach is the same thing as striking up a conversation with a stranger, it does not mean you're asking the person out on a date right from the get go (though the idea is to get the conversation to the point where you could reasonably do that if the vibe is there). Conversations even in a socially acceptable setting don't immediately make the interaction warm either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:29 AM
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