carminegardenia Archive

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1	Lurkers, we would love to hear from you! I've been aroundish for two years but haven't commented in months- I'm back for real now! Since I was last active I've started dating a new guy (just celebrated 6 months) and things are going well, but I know we can be even better. I came here originally through /r/new and I've really missed you ladies. Moving, starting a new job, school, and trying to nurture my new relationship haven't left much time for reddit this last year but I'm making a commitment to improving myself.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/15 03:27 AM
1	Christmas is coming! It's been awhile, but I'm back and yes please!	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/15 03:16 AM
3	Getting along with other females Small talk can be really boring- it's repetitive and predictable, but it serves a valuable purpose as social lubricant. Making the effort to acknowledge and be interested in others 1) gets you points and 2) more importantly, sets the tone for how others interact with you. Most people aren't giving by default, but they repay kindness with kindness. I like your comic a lot- I hadn't seen it before, but I have that same feeling so often at parties. Thank goodness for acquaintances. We're all alone …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/10/14 07:25 AM
2	Getting along with other females The herd is an inescapable fact- we can let it work for us, or work against us. We'll be participants even by saying nothing. Your presence, what you wear, your demeanor, are all part of your social score as are the words coming out of your mouth. The verbal is only part of your communication- make sure you maximize your strengths in the nonverbal areas since you know the verbal needs some development. Social points are useful- do you want to see a project completed or want to accomplish somethi…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/14 11:29 AM
9	Getting along with other females There will be awful coworkers anywhere you go- the thing you can control is your response to them. A female working environment is different from a male dominated one, yes, but you bring your skills, your willingness to learn, and your grace to any position you choose to take. Don't go in expecting cattiness and poor attitudes- that's all you'll get with that mindset. Women do follow the herd- it's how we're wired. You can bring joy to the workplace through reinforcing the positive actions of th…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/14 11:20 AM
2	Trouble with depression and bouncing back. Being interested in the world is work when you perceive your existence as empty. So, unsweet tea version- your job right now beyond wife and mother is finding something to be interested in. You want to learn? Awesome! Learn a new skill you can apply at home like gardening or sewing- the fine people of r/sewing can set you up with some cute mom and daughter pjs to start or you can start a container garden in an afternoon. Fresh herbs have never hurt anyone's cooking. The point is, you have to mak…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/14 09:58 PM
6	Discontent with husband's providing Maybelle- what are you doing? These comparisons do nothing but undermine your priorities- you're lucky enough to be a SAHM with a leader who's done a solid job of providing so far. If he's keeping a roof over your four heads in this economy, you can confidently say he's not a slacker. What financial goals have you two laid out long term for your family? Is your debt not shrinking as fast as you'd planned? Are you meeting your savings goals? You've talked to your friends about this, but make no m…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/14 12:55 AM
7	How much effort into appearance is going too far? No makeup to bed! That's wretched for your skin and will aggravate any underlying conditions. Moisturizing properly (have you tried an eye gel for your circles? I love L'Occitane's Precious Cream- it's the only thing that finally got rid of mine) and hydrating properly through the day will help your hair and skin be the best they can be. You've been going out for a month, but you're also going away together- at some point you're going to have to decide if you've chosen a good man you trust. Part…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/14 04:09 AM
27	My RP SO is not invited to my BP friends wedding Elle, this is unfortunate. But no matter how hard you wish for it, there is no magical way for everyone to get along. Your friend chose to draw a line- I understand you value your relationship with them, but bending to her wishes (since she wears the pants) shows you respect your SO less than a college girlfriend you're already growing distant from. Is that the kind of woman you are? Is that who you want to be? Throw them a wedding shower, write a note wishing them happiness, send them a thought…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/14 12:50 AM
15	"I am a strong and independent woman. You don't know my story." Why shouldn't we denigrate people who have made bad choices? Shame is an excellent teaching tool. If having stable, respectful relationships was an expected behavior, perhaps people would be more mindful in their choices and more willing to put in some work instead of hopping into bed then running off to the next potential candidate. It is an issue we face because single mothers and their children make up part of the society we raise families in. Their "independence" is all too often financed by…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/14 05:34 PM
2	Quitting smoking. 1) Remind yourself that you are not a raging fire breathing bitch. 2) Take a deep breath. 3) Find something to do with your hands- bust out some reps with some dumbbells to get your endorphins flowing, get to creating something awesome in the kitchen (spicy stuff has helped me get my mouth feel fix while trying to kick the habit- do you like ghost peppers? ), do something that gives you satisfaction because your brain will be screaming for that little boost it used to get from nicotine. Repeat a…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/14 11:21 AM
2	Dignified/graceful way to deal with a break up? You entered the conversation with a load of expectations and while it's a difficult task, remembering that no one is required to meet our internal expectations is a necessity. You fell apart because the reality was so different; managing your own mind before the conversation ever began could have helped you. It's wretched to find oneself in such a spot, but you don't have to again. Find a way to retain your outward grace; cling to that calm, say "I'm glad we talked, " and smile prettily. Your em…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/14 12:59 AM