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48 Laws of Power! I own the book but haven’t read it yet. What are your thoughts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:54 AM
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If you are feeling suicidal PLEASE make an appointment with a psychologist or therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 04:01 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 02:26 PM
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OKCupid. But honestly, aggressive vetting matters more than the app, imho.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/20 01:24 PM
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Do guys ever try and dress according to Kibbe type?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 12:14 PM
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You should be totally authentic. And you should, authentically, always be trying to improve yourself. Every moment is moment to practice virtuous living ( as YOU define it). Be present, be grateful, dive deep into your own psyche. Feminine is a way of being, not a set of rules. You can do this.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 08:16 AM
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He never wears his ring?!?!?! WT actual F.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:46 PM
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Laugh a lot! Not joking :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 09:06 PM
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So helpful! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:23 PM
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31F, mostly the people I look up to are mentors (both female and male) that I've had throughout the years in my professional and/or spiritual life. In my personal life, there are definitely parts of my friends/ SO that I look up to and seek to emulate as well. And JBP does have a special place in my heart.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:38 PM
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AMEN. It does not get better. I once fell into the trap of thinking that he and I were "special" somehow. I could list 30 reasons why our situation was different and the rules didn't apply to us. Yes, we were special. And yes, in many ways the devil is in the details. But, no, we weren't so special that the rules didn't apply. Neither are you. Get out now because it WILL ONLY GET WORSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:47 PM
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The doctor who pioneered (and performed) the surgery that cured my sexual pain disorder was a man...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 02:00 PM
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I'd love to know your personal red and green flag list
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 11:59 PM
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For dessert: look up recipes for avocado chocolate pudding. Delicious and healthy
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 01:57 PM
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yoga class watch a comedy on Netflix hiking
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 07:57 PM
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It. Is. So. Hard. To. Avoid. Texting. And it takes so much bravery to risk vulnerability
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 02:10 PM
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Family therapist here. Patricia L. Papernow is considered a global expert on blended/step families. You may want to read her book: Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn't I realize you aren't married into the family, but many if the same concepts still apply
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 08:25 PM
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A lot of masculine traits are still prized in sports. Maybe get him into sports?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 03:19 AM
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I love to cook, and I would love to help, but "food for 2" feels too vague to me. What are your bfs favorite foods? Learning to cook the meats is important. Does he like American, Indian, Korean..? A beer & sandwich man? Or weightlifitng and paleo?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 02:48 AM
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Your husband sounds just like the man I was with for 7 years. I gave up my job, my friends, everything he told me to do. Surrendered during his tirades, verbally "taking responsibility" for not doing a good enough job of managing his emotions for him because he demanded that I do so. I thought I was so in love with him. It felt divine and karmic. I moved out 3 months ago and no one was more shocked than me to realize that I HAVENT HAD A SINGLE MOMENT OF MISSING HIM. Not one.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/18 05:57 PM
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Thank you! One day at a time.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 01:21 AM
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People in the office keep bringing in cookies, cake, soda, pizza, pasta...basically I'm surrounded by sugars and simple carbs while working in a stressful office with no windows. I'm trying to loose weight. And I resisted Every. Single. Thing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 06:35 PM
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I never said anything about cutting anyone off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 04:58 PM
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I'm female, 5'11. Always been self conscious about my height. For me, it's less "6 ft is perfect" and more... I just feel more comfortable with guys my height or taller. If I was 5'4, I think I'd be totally fine with a guy 5'4 or 5'5.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 12:29 AM
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I am in! I've never read the surrendered wife.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 03:24 PM
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TLDR; it is not "disgusting", but I'm a fairly brave and "take charge" kind of woman and I want my man to have more balls than me ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 02:59 AM
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I really like the blog "Art of Manliness ". It is helpful for me and appeals to a different sort of man. I keep reminding myself that TRP isn't ALL men.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 12:38 PM
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Am a woman non-incel/troll, can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 12:41 PM
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This!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 06:58 PM
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Yeah. I lived on the other side of the country from them for the past 8 years and the relationship was much better. I know how to have boundaries when I have my own place. But, like you said, it's harder when I am in their home where they set the tone. Unfortunately they live in the middle of nowhere and my ex-fiance got the car so I'm stuck here for the time being.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 03:10 PM
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That is really helpful feedback, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 02:48 PM
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Excellent advice. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 09:24 PM
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How did you get your teeth to be so white?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 05:49 PM
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Any gay guy blogs (etc) you recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 04:02 PM
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I recommend "The Art of Manliness"...it's a great blog
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 04:34 PM
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Depends on community and context. I grew up in a very conservative home...tons of sexual repression in my church community... But the circles I was in during undergrad and grad school were very liberal, and there was TONS of social pressure to "embrace your inner sexual goddess" which definitely meant having tons of one night stands just for pleasure/ just like men. Everyone was having threesomes and hooking up with girls sometimes too and then parading it around showing how "sexual orientation …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 04:25 PM
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I don't think it's either/or but both/and. You ARE an animal. You DO have higher consciousness. The truth is seeing both at the same time, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/18 02:04 PM
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Hmmm. Very interesting. In what ways would you say the 2018 ruleset is different than the 1950s ruleset?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 09:55 PM
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Since I hadn't heard the term TradCon before you used it, I search TRP for the term and read some posts. They seemed to be talking about women who require "saving sex for marriage" and aren't obedient to their husbands unless husbands meet certain criteria. Did I get that right? Could you explain your rational for putting JBP in "TradCon" vs RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 02:30 PM
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Did you watch the whole video?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 09:18 PM
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Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands ​
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 03:38 PM
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Dr. Gottman's 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse: contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 11:22 PM
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My guess is that you got so angry because, on some level, you were registering all the disrespect and red flags that you weren't letting yourself acknowledge on a conscious level. He sounds like a loser. Don't pursue men who make you angry. ​ That being said, it sounds like you have some work to do on yourself, too. Developing equanimity, poise, and more sexual modesty may help your life feel less like a dramatic roller-coaster.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:15 PM
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Dishes. I hate dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:25 AM
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Preach!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:32 PM
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Right?? The man revolutionized the psychology of myth and religion. Plus he speaks truth in a very simple way. I'll admit a lot of his followers are...angry young men who seem to be missing the point entirely...but JBP himself rocks, imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:31 PM
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Hmmm. That was a pretty intelligent answer. I'm still not convinced that communism is better than, say, capitalism, but I will definitely research your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 03:57 AM
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what??? ​ look I'm waaay more red pill and I do think feminism has gone too far but...that's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:44 AM
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I have a lot of goals this month... - Find fulltime employment with a job I have a good "gut feeling"/intuition about - Find housing that meets the same criteria ​ - Start the Keto diet ​ - Get back to daily yoga and meditation once I have permanent housing again
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 05:31 PM
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“When you tear out a man’s tongue, you are not proving him a liar, you’re only telling the world that you fear what he might say.” -Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 05:26 PM
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I can understand why victims of assault wouldn't report right away. I am a woman who did not report sexual assault, mainly because my overly-religious mother would have considered me "ruined" for not being a virgin anymore. That being said...I 100% agree that #Believewomen is wrong. Women are not somehow more morally pure than men. Women lie. How about #PursueTruth??? ​ The issue is the belief that thinking about something and feeling about something are somehow the same thing. I know lots of wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 05:07 PM
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Woman here, reformed SJWer, can confirm. ​ I recommend everyone watch this talk: https://youtu.be/aDRgMUoEvcg
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:42 PM
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China, the USSR, Venezuela...how many hundreds of millions of people have to die before we can agree that murderousness is part of the ideology not a "failing of execution"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:39 PM
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Yeah...point well taken. It's just that, right now, I'm turning 30 in a few weeks and feel like an old hag past her prime. I really want to be a mother and...although I'm fairly healthy and attractive (not a 10 or anything, but not fat or ugly either)...I feel hopeless about being able to find a high quality mate and have a family. I tried talking to my mom about it, but she was basically like, "I've been telling you for years not to have children because they just ruin your life" (It's true, sh…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/18 04:40 PM
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Good advice, thank you. And yeah, I'm not ready to date just yet. But thinking about this stuff is part of my "getting ready" process.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 02:29 PM
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AFTER I quit my job at his insistance to be a SAHW. "Our" house and car are both in his name. So I'm basically building a life over from scratch...and I turn 30 in a few weeks
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 02:10 PM
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Six years together and he canceled the wedding 2 months before the date...
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 02:02 PM
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I always thought of Julie Andrews as a poised, feminine lady, but thats mostly based on the movies I've seen her in and know 0% about her life as a real person.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/18 12:06 AM
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Can relate. BP friends have been backstabbers, RP friends live by an honor code and have had my back in hard times
/r/TheRedPill29/07/18 06:35 PM
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Woman here, can confirm. In general, masculine traits are better for running countries whereas feminine traits are better for running homes.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/18 06:32 PM
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I agree with basically all of your facts, but not necessarily with what I interpret to be your conclusion. It's true, for example, that DSM 5 disorders are just a cluster of symtoms, and they don't necessarily identify etiology OR (most frustratingly) effective treatment. Not to mention that some cluster symptoms are nearly identical (ex: BPD vs early childhood complex trauma...how to tease them apart?) There is, as you mentioned, a HUGE nature/nurture confounding variable, especially when consi…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 01:48 PM
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I'm sorry you went through so much hardship and suffering. I like the Yin/Yang concept, but would argue that while BPD is indeed the female extreme, the male extreme counterpart is anti-social personality disorder or sociopathology, not autism.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 01:30 PM
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That second to last paragraph hit HOME. Me & my fiancè irl.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 11:13 PM
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You do not get to define what a woman will consider high value. I'm pretty sure these criteria are based on averages, stats, and evolutionary psychology. I mean, sure, every woman's preferences are not the same. But if two standard deviations from the norm exhibit a, b, & c preferences and actions, that is useful information and it is reasonable to make assumptions based on that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/18 08:07 PM
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Please teach me how to actually enjoy cleaning. I love a clean home, but struggle to enjoy the process...
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 05:07 AM
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Honest question: Why do you think Dr. Jordan Peterson is cucked?
/r/TheRedPill17/07/18 12:30 AM
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Yay!!! Thank you, ladies. I'm looking forward to it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 04:20 PM
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This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/18 11:23 PM
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In my heart of hearts, I want to be the matriarch of a happy, loving family. Like the one I always wanted as a kid but didn't have. I also really need to be awesome at something. I already know I'm an awesome therapist. Being clean and on top of stuff around the house has always been a struggle for me, and I'm worried about spending all my time doing something I'm just mediocre at.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/18 03:22 PM
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You should've told her to get 100% sober or you were going to leave. Sounds like a lot of issues came from her drinking problem.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 07:00 PM
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TBH, to me it sounds like you have a low evaluation of yourself as a partner and woman. Maybe some attachment trauma from your ex or from the family you grew up in?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 06:41 PM
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Firstly, my man (of 6 years) gives me a LOT- just different things than what I give him. Secondly, focusing on oneself above all else - aka selfishness- is actually a recipe for misery in the long term
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 12:29 AM
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Gilead reflects patriarchy as conceived by feminists. This. Exactly. I also love binge-watching the show, since I have a weakness for female-lead dystopian dramas. But I see so many articles and overhear so many conversations where feminists argue "Gilead is literally our future unless we bring about the post-modernist revolution" and the collective groupthink circlejerk unanimous agreement is absolutely unreal. It's some kind of overly simplistic collective "darkest timeline fantasy" stoked by …
/r/RedPillWives12/07/18 12:35 AM
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I'm curious what other people will have to say. For me, one of the major characteristics of a high quality man is one who has honorable values and lives and dies by them. So when I was your age, I prioritized character first. But that's just me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 10:09 PM
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Yeah, it's actually the "develop and hold a perpetual victim mindset" that I think has done the most harm to women. What's more disempowering than being a helpless victim with no escape other than complete upheaval of the entire fabric of your society?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/18 02:05 PM
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Marriage and Family Therapy Edit: I should add that I have undergrad degrees in research psychology and socio-cultural anthropology. Also, my GA position had me working as a mentor for undergrads across many disciplines, and they were all under the spell of what another user aptly called the "Stalinist Hivemind". Interestingly, my only undergrad who still seemed able to think clearly was a history major. So maybe some credit to your chosen field?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 02:57 PM
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IMO, it sounds like you've mostly been exposed to shitty, immature men. In my close circles, there aren't any men with the mentality of "women should cook, clean, and child rear while also working" or who continued to play video games all the time in their late 20's. I'd also challenge the notion that men have been putting themselves first for decades. Men who were historically working to support their families frequently went to work when they didn't want to, or took jobs they didn't like, for …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 02:44 PM
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You are so right! Your eloquent counter-argument has revealed the holes in my analysis /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 01:52 PM
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I think a little bit of warrior spirit is good in a woman. Not TOO much, but a little. A woman with a backbone will Mama-Bear your children, go to bat for you, and is more likely to actually live according to your shared values rather than swaying every time the wind changes direction. Edit: Also, because I'm more RPW and adhere to the captain/first mate metaphor... yes, once my Captain makes a final decision I follow him. But he picked me to be his first mate partially because I'm observant and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 01:30 PM
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Personally, I blame third-wave feminism for this. Third-wave feminism tells women that it's time to start putting themselves first, start focusing primarily on maximizing the pleasure of their own experience, and quit taking care of other people (because care-taking is gender-based oppression that women are victimized/socialized into doing). But, unfortunately for everyone, selfishness, narcissism, and naval-gazing is actually a recipe for unhappiness. There's tons of evidence that - for men and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 01:26 PM
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I think there's this idea out there that women should be able to go wherever they want, whenever they want, dressed any way they want, and should always feel 100% safe. If they don't, it's gender-based oppression. But the thing is: MEN don't feel safe going wherever they want whenever they want. Walking home alone at night, a single guy walks past a group of shady-looking men...that single guy is going to feel unsafe. Statistically he is MORE unsafe, because spontaneous beatings/muggings of stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 01:14 PM
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I was describing archetypical feminine and masculine, not women and men, and especially not lowest common denominator women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 10:54 PM
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Boring people are bored with life...they don't have deep and meaningful interests (plural). Do you have multiple deep and meaningful interests of your own? Can you get yourself to be interested in what your guy is talking about, be it about himself or his interests? If so, you are not boring.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 04:48 PM
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Firstly, that came off as a bit rude. Secondly, it's very unclear what point you are trying to make. Do you disagree? If so, how and why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 02:10 PM
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Right off the bat, I disagree with that definition of femininity. Being feminine, to me, is not about getting ppl to care for you. The feminine cares for OTHERS. The feminine is nurturing, enduring, and receptive. The strength of the feminine is it's ability to HOLD (on every level). It is adaptability and flexibility. It is connected to the earth. It prioritizes the family and community, even above masculine ideals which prioritize the Platonic, the national, or the global. The feminine holds, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 01:24 PM
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Eeeeexactly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 10:00 PM
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Hmm. I DEFINITELY run cold
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 10:24 PM
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I didn't know that! Thanks for telling me!
/r/RedPillWives21/06/18 02:37 PM
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Thank you! I'm going to look up a few recipes and see which one sounds good to my fiance ;)
/r/RedPillWives21/06/18 01:14 PM
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yes exactly! haha
/r/RedPillWives21/06/18 01:13 PM
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Laugh at his jokes. Practice channeling feminine energy in the rest of your life - ballet classes, 2nd chakra work, whatever floats your boat - and it will naturally spill over into the dating world. I strongly recommend reading the book "The propper care and feeding of husbands."
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 12:18 PM
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Sorry!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 06:32 AM
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Oooh. I hadn't heard of her. I'm going to look her up, though! Any books you recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 05:40 AM
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That's a great point, actually.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 04:43 AM
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For myself, I almost always opt for the classic French tip.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:47 PM
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deep breath This is weirdly difficult to write about, but I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and questions, so I'm going to give it a go in case you might have some helpful insight. I was diagnosed with a condition where I had 10 times as many nerves in my vagina as I was supposed to. A majority of said nerves were clustered in my vestibule, so after about a year of attempting less invasive interventions that did nothing, I had a vestibulectomy. For physical therapy, I've seen several PTs w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 01:10 PM
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My cat is a grey tabby. He is a total lap cat / cuddle bug inside, and a fierce hunter outside! He's also lived with other cats his whole life and is an expert at getting "cats who hate other cats" to play and groom with him. (Proud mama!) He just turned 10 a few days ago, but looks and acts like he's 5. If you are thinking about doing sourdough...OMG DO IT!!! It's amazingly fun, and there are so many different KINDS! I really recommend the book I've been using: Local Breads, Sourdough and Whole…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 01:59 PM
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niiiice. thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 01:47 PM
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This is a good idea, I will give it a try!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 01:47 PM
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My doctors and I have experimented with a bunch of pain meds over the years. I use some now to take the edge off, but nothing has really been the "cure-all". Great suggestion, though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 01:47 PM
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Vermicompost, permaculture food gardening, avid cat mom, I read several books a week. Lately I've been getting into fermenting things, like making my own kombucha and sourdough starters from scratch. This was inspired by my fiance's love of pretzels.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 03:42 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 02:26 PM
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I think it's more that I cannot view myself as a sexual being. Like in my fantasies when I orgasm, I'm not "there" either. Do you have any suggestions for starting to see myself as a sexual being?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 12:28 AM
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Yes! I give lots of blow jobs, although not every day so I could certainly "up" my game in that area. Any tips on not gagging while swallowing cum? I know it's a huge turn on for him that I swallow, but the idea of cum (like the idea of sex) just grosses me out. So I gag if I think about it, especially if he's dehydrated and extra viscous that day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 11:54 PM
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Do you have any recommendations? I've honestly tried 4 different sex therapists and they have all been super..."feministy". Like trying to say it's on him to be more patient etc etc
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 11:52 PM
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I can get off masturbating just fine...but my fantasies are...weird and don't involve him. Specifically, they involve people in situations I would NEVER want to see him in because I love and care about him...?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 11:51 PM
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My understanding is that marriage and LTR are becoming less and less common for folks with low SES. Check out the book, "Life at the Bottom: The Worldview that makes the Underclass" by Dr. Theodore Dalrymple if you are interested.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 08:47 PM
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Yes. Take chicken and literally any chopped veggies. Place on a baking sheet. Coat in oil, then salt & pepper & garlic powder. Bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Done.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 04:40 AM
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Thank you for posting this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 03:53 AM
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Good idea!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/18 10:17 PM
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Thank you!! Also its almond butter on the peppers :)
/r/RedPillWives18/04/18 10:17 PM
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Almond butter!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/18 03:46 AM
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Thank you for doing this!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 04:07 PM
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Preach!
/r/RedPillWives12/04/18 02:04 AM
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I also really enjoyed the proper care and feeding of husbands
/r/RedPillWives12/04/18 02:01 AM
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Preach!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 01:50 AM
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