carverchile75 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
60	Misandist organizations	misandry	carverchile75	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/04/25 12:53 PM
48	Mad Men--tv show	media	carverchile75	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/22 03:21 AM

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1	Would you leave this woman? Lovely prompt. Short answer, if someone wouldnt do something with me that she'd done with someone else, I'd want a good answer why. Like, "yes, dear, my thighs used to be strong enough to submit 3 bearded Hungarian men, but age is a thing that happens and is no longer possible" Is different than "yes, I very much used to enjoy suggestively licking an ice cream cone while dressed like slave Leia for other men, but I won't do it for you." Like we want to feel special and loved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/26 01:59 PM
1	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Ugh. Do not like this take. Yes, of course, life changes with kids. Kids require energy and attention and take priority in the "kid needs something now, and we need to prioritize that" over sex or attention in the moment or whatever. But the relationship between the partners needs to stay important or you're pretty much going to guarantee a breakup or divorce or at least a miserable relationship. Guaranty that is going to be bad for the kids too. I'm doubting many of the women who prioritize the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 04:21 PM
–	women hate “choose better” because they dont like the responsibility of when their choices go bad. And it only applies to them. These conversations always end up all over the place and people talking past each other. When I was younger, I definitely had the experience of crushing on people, who weren't attracted to me and repeatedly dated crappy men and complained about their men and their guys in particular. It was absolutely irritating to hear--like, dude, own your tastes and acknowledge your role in picking bad men--common denominator and all. (Side note, I've also know guys with terrible taste in women--same comment …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 06:40 PM
1	If she wants you, the sex doesn't matter I guarantee that I have more sex than I would have if I hadn't learned what turned her on and do those things regularly. I'm a 5, maybe a 6, among my 50 something cohort. I don't think my face or biceps or pecs are making her swoon. She's attracted to me, yes, but part of the attraction is that I do put forth effort and skill. Become indifferent, and I'm guessing that attraction fades. Do some women give short term passes for attractive, selfish guys? Of course. But I'm guessing if they stay sel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 07:53 PM
2	CMV: GFs should not cook for their BFs I definitely think everyone who thinks that this is good advice should follow it, provided they tell their potential partners in advance. It identifies exactly what type of person you are and lets people steer clear of you. Personally, I'm absolutely thrilled that my live in girlfriend of 5 years made clear up front she had no interest in marriage. Sincerely-- The guy who cooks 80% of our mutual meals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 09:07 PM
2	Delaying sex strategy really works well for women. That's why men in this sub hate and despise this strategy so much. Dating strategies suck. I want a woman who is willing to have sex pretty early because delaying usually means (1) they have a low sex drive or (2) aren't into me. Nothing wrong with either of those things, but they ain't for me. Feel free to strategize your way into a toxic relationship--I won't be in it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 12:38 AM
1	What do you think of women who ask men out, propose to men and pay for men in the first dates or in all dates? I like assertive women, so yes, it would be nice. Not all the time, but not having to do all the load lifting and paying. Been in a ltr for years now, so not super relevant, but it basically never happened to me when I was dating. She'd sometimes get the "next" date, though it usually turned out that my turn was dinner and drinks, hers was coffee and a bagel. Lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 06:46 PM
5	Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enough I mostly think this is true, in both directions. Seems like most people feel they're entitled or worthy of a catch higher than they themselves are. Whether it's shallow women who feel entitled to princess treatment while bringing nothing to the table, or unmotivated guys who have a "no fatties" requirement. They hold out for something better than they deserve or will get and eventually will either settle (unhappily) for someone or will end up alone. I don't think that's a tragedy...that's just k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 07:03 PM
1	What is your relationship with masculinity like? I really don't know what "masculinity" means. It's this amorphous series of characteristics that people attribute to male behavior, but doesn't apply to all that well to men generally, and isn't applied by people consistently either. I don't feel at odds with some aspects of stereotypical masculinity--I like sports, beer, action movies, hard rock music. I have a decent beard, I like camping. I'm not a gun guy, but I admit shooting is kind of fun. I'm tall, but not especially broad shouldered. Bu…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/04/25 12:07 AM
7	Men's dress code in business in politics. The amount of time, money, effort to look good, variety of choices, fits, fabrics and styles that women have to think about and still be subject to behind the back criticism is not an area where I'm jealous of women. Unless you're in a very narrow field or geographic area, guys can get by with khakis/polo, dress slacks and collared shirt. I put almost no thought into it, and no one really cares. In the private sphere, when guys do try to Peacock a little, they're subject to pretty strong critici…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/04/25 06:26 PM
1	Are gender roles stopping men from being satisfied ? I don't think gender roles are stopping all men from being satisfied. Some like the protector and provider role, either because of innate tendencies or because broad freedom of choice can be daunting for some people. I do think gender roles can be limiting and make some men unhappy when those roles aren't a good fit for what they want. If i were king, I wouldn't outlaw gender roles (not that you could), but I would at least eliminate legally enforced gender roles (the draft, family law, criminal…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/01/25 11:53 PM
15	Two points about society not caring about the male gender here. Sure, it's always been this way--we generalize based on group type, and the left, being more empathetic in general (a good thing), has leaned into intersectionality and power dynamics (a mixed bag). Society absolutely weighs a speaker's identity when assessing what they say. The left is usually concerned with protecting what they perceive as the weaker group. In a different parlance, the left accepts that Punching up: okay. Punching down: not okay. I sort of get that as a concept (jokes at the e…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/03/24 09:28 PM
14	The "Men need women more than women need men" trope is a strange one This made me think of the most insane thing my ex said. I worked full time, cooked, cleaned, did dishes, house maintenance and yard work, while she worked part time (2-5 hours a week) and occasionally did laundry. I finally raised the issue of sharing chores more equally. She stated that my doing cooking, cleaning and yard work didn't count as chores because "you don't mind doing them." Holy shit, she was a selfish lazy nut job POS.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/01/24 10:04 PM
13	Thoughts on getting married (to a woman) Once married (15 years), once divorced (7 years ago). Fool me once.... Longer version...believed it was a lifetime together--ended up emotionally and financially abused in the marriage, and divorce laws doubled down on both. I hope to be with someone for decades into old age, but I'm not wagering all my assets and ability to retire on assuming she doesnt change and a legal system that is stacked against men. If things (or she) turns shitty, I want to be able to walk.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/05/23 03:04 AM
1	Does radical feminist thought infest the Education System before kids start high school? Eh, I don't see that as explicit; more of the misguided cultural and gender norms that are embedded throughout society. I doubt Biden goes to bed at night hating men or blaming them as the exclusive source for all society's problems; it's more that he assumes, as so many do, that women are more likely helpless victims and men are almost always the perpetrators. I'm sure Biden, like everyone else probably gets angrier when cute white women are murdered or kidnapped than when young black men are s…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/04/23 02:41 PM
30	A calm rant about the straight white dude experience in left politics I've dated and continue to date women who identify as feminists. Not radfems, but more egalitarian leaning. If you care about someone, I think you can disagree on things (even important things) and still coexist happily. I hate that we've reached a cultural standpoint where politics and political identity is so heighted that political agreement is almost mandatory in our friendships and romantic relationships.. BUT, for that to work, both parties have to be willing to agree to disagree at times …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/04/23 01:57 PM
10	Does radical feminist thought infest the Education System before kids start high school? In general, I don't see a lot of explicit misandrists among the dem candidates (implicit cultural assumptions are another thing, but that's both sides). And until the GOP moves off conspiracy theories and authoritarianism and embraces real governance, i have no choice but to vote blue. Still, it's absolutely true that parts of the most vocal left have really gone heavy into identity politics --and not just identity politics, but grievance-based identity politics and they're alienating white men …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/04/23 09:33 PM
12	Does radical feminist thought infest the Education System before kids start high school? I really don't recognize any radfem agenda from my childhood schools. I grew up in the 1980s/early 1990s in small Midwestern city. My parents were 1970's era liberals--ie, try not to see color; try to treat everyone the same, man/woman, rich/poor, black/white. The feminist stuff that I took away from that era doesn't seem radical--women were getting traction in the workforce, a few getting executive spots, sexual harassment at work was bad. It seemed a but more affirmational as well-women can do…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/04/23 08:47 PM
1	I feel like people are becoming more traditional Also re: social media algorithms, if you spend time lingering on videos espousing traditional gender roles, your feed will give you more of the same--sometimes the most extreme and clickbaity versions-- making its presence potentially outsized relative to its popularity in the mainstream world. It's very difficult to assess how popular something is among society as a whole based on social media feeds. Reminds me of a discussion I had with my gf recently. During the trump/Clinton campaign, her so…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/04/23 01:57 PM
4	Why does the man that moves out after a breakup or divorce? When I divorced, she asked me to move out, and I said no--I couldn't have afforded the mortgage and an apartment. I think it is a bit of a cultural expectation that guys move out and she was upset that I didn't seem to agree. I was concerned about false allegations, so did what I could to protect myself from them. (Avoided her space as much as possible, recorded certain conversations, etc.) Eventually she moved out. Depending on the state, local law, and situation, moving out can create problems…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/04/23 04:02 PM
6	Do you think men are victims of DV at higher rates than women? All this stuff is definitional. In terms of domestic violence, as others have pointed out, most dv is bidirectional, and women are the instigator in sizeable, perhaps majority of cases. It's true that women are more likely to suffer serious physical injuries as a direct result of dv, hence I understand why that's the more public face of dv; however a "man bad, women helpless and good" reaches beyond a dangerous oversimplification into a downright lie, missing the actual causes, dynamics and most…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/04/23 03:31 PM
9	How to self-improve as a lonely male? Exercise is good for physical health, mental health and appearance. Learn to cook well. Women are usually pleased by my ability to make a good meal, and it's cheaper than always eating out. Keep on top of tidying up. An organized home is good for mental health. Also, a dirty house can scare women off. Same goes for personal hygiene. Enjoy some variety of media and/or hobbies. You can enjoy your obsessive interests if you have them, but hopefully not to the exclusion of a broader variety of topic…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/12/22 09:19 PM
10	Is there any hope for me? 100% agree. If you're not in a healthy place, no relationship is going to fix that. People are attracted to healthy partners. Don't focus on the relationship you don't have. Embrace your hobbies, learn skills, improve yourself and your conversations, but get comfortable and confident in yourself. When you're in a good place, a woman is more likely to be attracted to you. And if not...well, then you're in a healthier place for yourself anyway.	/r/MenSupportMen	01/12/22 09:28 PM
1	LWMA Lounge Maybe it's the gen-Xer in me, but I don't realistically expect my contributions to change the world in a meaningful way. It is what it is. I can be angry about it all the time and make myself miserable, or focus on the other things in life that make me happier. It takes effort some days when the double standards impact me personally. As far as what I do personally...avoid people who are toxic and aggressively hateful towards any group--conservatives, liberals, black people, immigrants, Muslims, …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/12/22 03:15 PM
3	A third of female daters are only there for the free meal Coffee for first date, especially if online dating--makes sense, low stakes, see if there's any chemistry and confirming they're not actually a 65 year old trucker dude named Bill. Can convert to a walk in the park/neighborhood. Had one gal say no, she wanted a "real" date, and I said no thanks. I always offer to pay but do take positive note when they offer to pay or split. I'm totally good with an agreement that they get the next one. Current gf makes about the same as me, but has fewer expens…	/r/MensRights	27/10/22 09:16 PM
3	A thorough analysis of covid-19 in the US confirmed significantly higher mortality for men. Yes, i think the jury is still out, but the thinking is that the immune system's genes are on the X chromosome, so with XX, women have a stronger immune response, but higher likelihood of immune-system related diseases. I doubt there's much of a sexism angle here, other than biological basis for what is dismissively called the "man flu".	/r/MensRights	13/10/22 07:30 PM
4	"Happy Wife Happy Life" is the relationship version of trickle down economics. Yes, I've always disliked this phrase. It seems to be saying that either (1) men's route to happiness is (solely) through women's happiness and thats their primary goal or (2) women who are not put first make the husband miserable. Neither rings very egalitarian or partnership-like. Happy spouse, happy house is a decent reformulation. As to counselors, i think it's very individualized. I've known bad counselors and good counselors. Only once did I run into a counselor who blamed me and that last…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/09/22 12:49 PM
1	Can someone give me the name of Yeah, you're getting downvoted, but louis ck's behavior wasnt cool. It wasnt illegal, probably not definitionally sexual harassment, but he definitely shitty behavior, likely encouraged by no one telling him no. (Common among the powerful) Someone needs to remind powerful people not to be shitty. Aziz Anzari was the worst example of a metoo overstepping/jumping the shark. Dude had a bad date with a psycho, and they tried to cancel him like he was harvey freaking weinstein. Aziz Anzari is probabl…	/r/MensRights	20/09/22 04:09 AM
5	what are your thoughts on people saying feminism benefits men? Feminism may help men as an incidental byproduct of loosening gender roles. It probably had opened that conversation some. But feminists' primary goal is about increasing power and money for women. It's not bad thing--many advocacy groups are advocating for political power for their members. But they're not advocating for male rights or against male discrimination, point blank. If they say they are, its a lie and likely an intentional one. Unfortunately, they've been a little too convincing in t…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/09/22 03:44 AM
13	An Interesting tumblr conversation about ale undersexualization and how it affects the discussion around female oversexualization That is well thought out communication. I've had similar thoughts but never so articulate and clear. Kudos to all involved.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/09/22 04:28 AM
2	The Red Pill Raw Files – Is Male Disposability the Fault of Patriarchy? – Dr. Warren Farrell & Paul Elam My lens is this: regular men are disposable labor cogs in the machine to make money for the elites. Regular women are the baby making cogs in the machine to make more men, which, in turn, make money for the elites. Women need to be taken care of so that they can raise strong cog labor boys, and the elites are happy to make sure non-elite men bear that burden. The elites make the laws. Its utterly unshocking that elite women are exactly the same as elite men in law making and they dont benefit re…	/r/MensRights	15/09/22 03:09 AM
10	Mad Men--tv show No, i agree 100%. I think the show itself is brilliantly balanced that way. But, from what I've seen, the commentary about the show focuses almost exclusively on the way the women are treated.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/22 03:39 PM
2	LWMA Lounge Im on board with that.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/22 03:01 PM
6	LWMA Lounge There's a lot of misandry out there, and its propagated by self-identified feminists, so i understand the antipathy. I would even say that the most visible feminism out there today is pretty anti-male. But agreed that what i and many think of as "feminism" isnt inherently anti-male, but rather is about women having equal opportunity and bodily autonomy, neither of which requires tearing men down. It would be nice if the egalitarians fought a little harder to claim that territory back from misand…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/22 03:43 AM
6	how do you practice empathy/understanding towards women and their issues even while you aren't shown any towards your problems? Youtube and reddit and obnoxious articles by thinkers arent the world. Talk to real women about their real experiences. Ive sat in meetings where women are talked over by sexists (not a daily occurence but also not nonexistent); spoken to brilliant women who were told to be nurses instead of doctors; seen girls softball fields get a fraction of the funding that boys baseball teams get; talked to women for whom abortions probably saved their functional lives; talked to physically abused women. Th…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/22 03:10 AM
6	We have to really discuss ways to improve our movement. Dating. I struggle with the dating content here. I definitely see guys who come across as entitled to women and angry that they don't get them, or at least the ones they want. But like, that's the dating marketplace. Do some women have an inflated sense of self and unrealistic expectations of guys? Absolutely. And would you want to date them? Uh, no--that's avoiding a bullet. And those women will likely be lonely until they correct those expectations. As long as men chase women, women will feel …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/09/22 04:01 PM
4	should we be attaking feminism? Or just misandry? Sure, but online discourse is largely a toxic echo chamber, and many of the real world advocates who negatively impact policy are those at the top. I've known a lot of women who identify as feminist because they're pro choice, want to be accepted in traditional male workplaces, and don't want to be sexually harassed at work. Are they blind to men's issues? Generally yes, because there's little dialog about men's issues (generally), and they've been told their whole lives that they're the victims…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/09/22 04:41 PM
13	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? On the hobby piece, I personally never really found luck with that. I think I have it so ingrained that women dont want to be approached in public spaces, that I never felt comfortable doing so. Online dating has always been fine for me, since I can be confident and select people with whom I'm likely to have mutual connection. (I'm not a huge stud or anything, but I have enough to offer to be attractive to some). I do think there is a rise of lonely people generally--not exclusively men or women…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/22 02:45 PM
1	Have you ever been a feminist? I go back and forth...the term is vague enough and means different things to different people. I'm egalitarian and against ceding the term feminist to the hateful and anti-egalitarian. I'm feminist to the extent that I want women to have power and right to enter into any traditionally male sphere or break traditional gender roles without judgment. I'm not feminist to the extent that means demonizing/silencing men or their issues, pushing for rights without responsibilities or otherwise unequal t…	/r/MensRights	20/08/22 04:00 PM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support Side note: if men aggressively went after alimony, i think it would push changes to the system. If middle class women were regularly forced into poverty by having to take care of their able-bodied ex partner, i think you'd (rightfully) see legislative changes. Women just make a more sympathetic public face, for better and worse. Some of the bigger changes to alimony have been pushed by women--the whole second wives club largely curtailed permanent alimony because society didnt think it was fair …	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 11:06 AM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support I don't think a man should have a say in whether a woman carries a pregnancy to term. Bodily autonomy. But a legal abortion--ie, allow a man to disclaim legal rights and obligations to a future child, does at least allow some equal-ish rights in parental choice.	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 10:36 AM
1	WV rep wants to ban child support I'm good with the concept of a legal abortion.	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 10:23 AM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support Micromanagement is a challenge. And money is fungible, so simply showing receipts for food, rent and utilities likely makes this point moot. I get the idea that men justifiably are mad about the mom benefiting from money that should be directed towards kids, but im not sure there's a great solution in practice. If 50/50 and no child support except for extraordinary expenses, it would be much easier to track. At the same time, i appreciate the idea of putting some burden on the courts. Judges are…	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 05:06 AM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support Eh. Kids need to be raised and if you create a kid, you have an obligation to take care of it. There are tons of defects to the system that should be fixed, but fundamentally, if you willingly create a life, you gotta take care of it. I get that when i got married, i should have known that she could unilaterally quit her job, refuse to work, refuse to cook, clean, or do anything but play on the internet, and when i got fed up and ask for a divorce, she would be entitled to the the lifestyle to.w…	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 03:41 AM
1	WV rep wants to ban child support Thanks, now theres two of us. Spread the world and we'll get it changed in no time! 🤣	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 02:27 AM
1	I absolutely get disgusted when I think about how my son has to grow up and accept being born into a world of misandry. Feel free to message me. I'm somewhat moderate ...think of myself as kind of a 1970s liberal, try to be color and gender blind and treat everyone equally. I really didnt think about men's issues until the last ten years...partly personal circumstances but the dialogue seems to have shifted. I'm sympathetic to a lot of women's issues; I just wish there were more space and understanding in the public conversation for men's issues as well.	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 02:24 AM
1	WV rep wants to ban child support We're told time and time again that homemaking is incredibly important and valuable. If it were so, then the homemaker should have no problem providing value either as a new wife, or professionally as a maid or nanny. I think a "divorce plan" would take the place of alimony and require a transition to independence, while removing the crueller edges. 18 months is way longer than any unemployment I would get if i lost my job. I work full time; in addition, I cook, i clean, i parent my kids, i repa…	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 02:06 AM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support https://www.forbes.com/sites/emmajohnson/2014/11/20/why-do-so-few-men-get-alimony/?sh=628a408c54b9 I've seen it in the ABA but this is the first reputable source I found.	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 01:49 AM
5	WV rep wants to ban child support Depends on the state. Lots of factors and discretion by the judge. Generally speaking, large disparity of earning capacity is the biggest factor. Men dont seek it as often, sometimes from pride, sometimes because they know or are advised that men who are low income (or un or underemployed) are looked down upon whereas women are viewed as helpless victims due to gender stereotypes. A few years back the ABA found that 97% of alimony cases are men paying women, which is way out of sync with the per…	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 12:27 AM
10	WV rep wants to ban child support Alimony abuse is ridiculous. I believe its reasonable to have a transition plan so that a housewife isnt homeless the day they separate, but permanent or indefinite alimony is just indentured servitude by another name. My personal theory is to mandate a divorce plan similar to bankruptcy plan. Say, not longer than 18 months to transition to independent lives and both sides have to abide by the terms of the plan if they want its benefits.	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 12:21 AM
2	WV rep wants to ban child support I think its the right and obligation of both parents to raise their kids. Presumption of 50/50 custody with no child support. If one parent won't or can't do their share of the raising (and arent bearing their half of the expense and burden), then child support is appropriate. I think there should be some discretion for unusual circumstances of 50/50 custody (i get that kid's shouldnt unnecessarily suffer), but should require scrutiny by the court (because the other parent shouldnt be benefittin…	/r/MensRights	04/08/22 12:02 AM