catchthecum Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Why do my dates feel great conversationally but not romantically? It’s easiest to start right away with a flirty/sexual frame. When you meet her give her a warm hug and tell her she looks sexy tonight	/r/seduction	12/05/26 06:24 AM
1	When she says “im going home” during night game Playfully misinterpret it as her inviting you over "Wow you're bold, I'm down, as long as you don't hog the blankets" Kinda cringe but something like that	/r/seduction	16/09/25 09:32 PM
21	First dates should always be on a weekday or Sunday? No, this is awful advice, it doesn’t matter AT ALL. Stop worrying about stupid little things like this.	/r/seduction	11/09/25 03:56 PM
1	Should you date with a girl who you don't find physically attractive in her pictures? No absolutely not, that’s not fair to yourself and her	/r/seduction	02/09/25 05:03 PM
16	How often do you get a haircut? It’s super easy to do a low taper on the sides at home and clean up the neck. I do that every 1–2 weeks, then get the top done at a barber about every 2 months.	/r/seduction	31/08/25 08:21 AM
6	I keep freezing when it’s time to kiss, and it’s making me sad and frustrated — how do I break this pattern? Just verbalize it “I wanna kiss you” or “can i kiss you” is even fine before going for the kiss. I almost always do this and it’s higher success rate since they expect it more and it takes the pressure off	/r/seduction	26/08/25 11:32 PM
1	23, shaved my head 4 months ago—dating confidence has taken a hit 23 is very young to be bald that’s rough and no matter what people say will limit your dating pool. Have you considered hair systems? They are amazing nowadays and you can diy from aliexpress for cheap. You can always go bald later when you’re like 30	/r/seduction	26/08/25 10:01 PM
1	Went on a date but girl didn't show up. (Need mental guidance) Did you confirm the night/morning before? If you don’t almost no girl is gonna show up. And if you don’t get a response don’t leave your house	/r/seduction	26/08/25 09:52 AM
2	Would you text back a girl who ghosted you for 2 days? Just message her now like normal like nothing happened, girls do that shit all the time it doesn’t matter, it’s not disrespectful, she doesn’t owe you anything	/r/seduction	25/08/25 12:35 AM
2	How do you deal with brutal shutdowns? Are they preventable? Your opener is weird asf, and trying to be as engaging as possible is making you weird asf. Do you have friends? Are you on the spectrum? You don’t seem socially in tune at all. Maybe stay away from high pressure night club environments and work on your social skills first in other settings first. Or if you want to do nightclub environments and talking to girls just have normal boring conversation. “Hey you’re cute, my name is x what’s yours” “Where are you from”…	/r/seduction	23/08/25 09:14 PM
3	Second Date, More Nervous then First Date. Sounds like she’s pulling back because she is feeling a bit slutty after first date sex. Not because she likes you less. Sex is very complicated for women emotionally. Go in not focused on sex and more on just having fun and getting to know her more. You will probably sleep with her again on the date if you play it right. To the period comment I would reply smth like “That doesn’t bother me at all i think you’re super sexy either way but i’m also just happy hanging out and enjoying each others c…	/r/seduction	18/08/25 12:51 AM
2	If a guy goes in for a kiss on a first date and she turns her head… Nope	/r/seduction	16/08/25 09:50 PM
-1	If a guy goes in for a kiss on a first date and she turns her head… It sounds like a calibration issue like you kiss her out of nowhere, doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. Don’t go for the kiss at the end of the date it’s weird and feels forced. Go earlier and escalate before kissing, like touch her hands and everything, sit close, and do a staring contest or something and if she is receptive then say I wanna kiss you and go in right after. Will be much more natural Also now it might be done even if she was interested. You don’t have to kiss unless you pull, onl…	/r/seduction	16/08/25 09:49 PM
1	Impulsive actions during date, and how to stop it You need to pause and really ask yourself why you’re making a choice. If it’s because you genuinely know something isn’t right for you, that’s fair. But if it’s just because you’re uncomfortable, nervous, or don’t want to sit in awkwardness, that’s not a solid reason, that’s avoidance. Like in your situation, ending the date because you weren’t interested would’ve been fine, but doing it just to get away from silence meant you let discomfort, not clarity, make the decision.	/r/seduction	16/08/25 06:29 AM
1	Do l need to ask a wüman about her body count or l find out on my own?😁 Her behaviour matters more. I’d rather a girl who had sex with 15 guys because she enjoys sex and had connection with the guys, than a girl who slept with 5 guys because she was lonely and wanted validation.	/r/seduction	14/08/25 04:36 AM
0	I don’t want to jerk off. I’m not at a point of my life where I can get hot girls. What do I do? Bro six figures at 21 is insane. You’re doing amazing. Play up your status on dating apps, get nice accessories and clothes, and post pictures on private jet, nice boats, fancy restaurants and luxury hotels. Even if it’s fake It’s congruent because you are rich asf for your age top 1%	/r/seduction	13/08/25 11:45 PM
3	How have you gotten an online dating match to come over directly to your place for a hook up? Yes loads of times, I don’t recommend trying it unless you are swimming in matches because you will turn off lots of girls who are even dtf. Also you’re gonna want to text more to build comfort first. It’s really not hard to just get a drink with her at a bar and pull after an hour or so.	/r/seduction	09/08/25 09:49 PM
5	I left my date because she wants me to pay “Yeah but let’s get the next round at my place. I’m 5 mins away I got a nice view from my balcony we can watch the stars” (or whatever excuse)	/r/seduction	06/08/25 01:43 AM
29	Does having a reputation as a fuckboy/horny man with a high bodycount work for or against you They generally don’t like it but they like everything that comes with it. that you can get lots of girls you’re preselected and valuable, you’re confident, and know what to do	/r/seduction	28/07/25 09:00 PM
8	In your opinion, where is all the focus in pickup? What do people focus too much on studying/improving and what doesn't get attention that should? Empathy should get more attention, making her feel heard and seen, meeting her where she's at, making it win win. I've fumbled many girls when I was younger by not reading in between the lines and realizing how she's feeling in the moment.	/r/seduction	27/07/25 08:44 PM
14	go raw + pull out in hookup with IUD? Iud is made for cumming inside why would you pull out	/r/seduction	25/06/25 12:58 AM
2	Dating app response times? Asap. The longer you wait the higher chance she’ll find another guy	/r/seduction	17/06/25 08:28 PM
1	Rule #2 is ALWAYS go for the Kill Even if all you want is easy sex this is retarded, you’re filtering out a lot of dtf women by going with this approach	/r/seduction	09/06/25 06:37 AM
1	Sudden Improvement You’re opener on dating apps is only as good as how you can follow up on it Think of a few openers for different kinds of girls and think of the most likely responses to each and see if you can come up with good responses to them	/r/seduction	23/05/25 11:33 PM
0	The Opener That Gets Me More Dates Than Any Other That sounds so cringe. All i say is “Hey you’re cute” and most respond because my profiles good	/r/seduction	23/05/25 07:03 PM
2	Results from Dating Apps, should I cold approach aswell? Cold approach is way more fun. Also being able to talk to any woman anywhere is an awesome skill to have and it’s always good to do stuff that gets you out of your comfort zone.	/r/seduction	17/05/25 07:51 AM
9	"Womanese" - a guide to basic yet complex things women say and do without telling you what they mean This oversimplifies things way too much, things aren’t black and white like that. It’s stupid to think that way. I’d have missed out on many great girls if I followed this.	/r/seduction	02/05/25 04:04 PM
1	Didn’t use protection I’ve had sex at least 500 times with the pullout method as only contraception and haven’t made any babies	/r/seduction	17/03/25 08:11 PM
2	girl playing defense Play dumb and flip the script make her the pervert	/r/seduction	08/02/25 09:59 PM
2	Very embarrassed I had the same thing a few years ago where I had a girl over for a date and I was super nervous and just couldn’t escalate. It was because she was way hotter than any girl I had been with so I put her on a pedestal and she was kind of boring to talk to so I thought she wasn’t into me. Keep it simple for these kind of dates, she picked you out of these 1000s of other matches to go straight to your house it’s a huge commitment on her, she already decided she is going to have sex with you. All you …	/r/seduction	24/09/24 08:20 AM
1	Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date? I used to think to try to sleep with a girl first date every time but tbh it’s usually better to sleep with a girl on the 2nd or 3rd date if you want to keep her around. Only kiss on the first date, no making out and no going back home with her. Lots of girls will sleep with you first date because they are submissive and they like you, but then they regret it because you didn’t build enough comfort and also you only connected with her sexually and not in other ways. And stop making out in public…	/r/seduction	28/08/24 06:57 AM
3	What should I say to an older woman when she said she worried that I am too young? No problem, I find confident women don’t have a problem with age, I don’t want to take you out of your comfort zone	/r/seduction	22/08/24 06:21 AM
3	What do you do if a girl doesn't have time for a date right away? https://imgur.com/a/OOEvG2U	/r/seduction	21/08/24 07:20 PM
3	I just met this girl on the weekend and have a question.. Yes, people who have a rule “never double text” just don’t have an understanding of how woman operate and are missing out on so many dates and easy sex. And the hottest girls require some level of persistence. I have many times sent a second text a day or two later and they were like “Sorry I forgot to respond, I’m free tonight let’s do something” and then date and easy sex. If I never double texted I probably would never hear from them again	/r/seduction	20/08/24 07:36 PM
1	Every other time I go out I get “you look familiar” or “where do I know you from?” from men and women. What does this mean and how could I use this to pull? “Oh did you dream about me?”	/r/seduction	12/08/24 09:03 AM
1	Suggestions here please? Move on	/r/seduction	12/08/24 08:56 AM
8	Got ghosted after getting her phone number and exchanging a few innocent texts Dude. If she was expressing that much interest you should’ve seen her asap. Strike while the iron is hot. You should’ve said “What time do you get off work? we should grab a drink after your shift” Now it may be done, she may be in a different mood now, found another guy, got annoyed because you couldn’t recognize the signals and move the interaction forward, whatever. Text her “let’s grab a drink tonight?”	/r/seduction	12/08/24 04:06 AM
2	Can you a lose woman by taking too long to respond? Yes 100% it’s so important with women to strike while the iron is hot. Don’t wait 30 mins respond asap when you see the text. After you had date and sex it doesn’t matter	/r/seduction	10/08/24 06:02 PM
25	Best way to contact a girl you haven't talked to in a yea? Send at least a few texts then ask to catchup. Definitely don’t ask in the first message.	/r/seduction	10/08/24 08:38 AM
25	Girls being selfish with sex? Because you let them. You see sex with them as the prize. You are the man, you come first and you should always be willing to walk away (without sex) if she does not go with what you want. I had girl she was so annoying and she gave me a bj for like 30 seconds and then demanded I eat her pussy. I just ignored her and went on my phone and told her “I’m not really feeling it, lemme get you an Uber” of course she was like no no no, and was super nice the rest of the night and did whatever I wanted …	/r/seduction	08/07/24 09:17 PM
2	How could I screw this up... Every guy has done that before	/r/seduction	27/06/24 05:48 AM
1	If a Girl Suggested a Dinner Date, is it Low Interest? “I’d like to get to know you without food as a distraction, plus dinner makes me sleepy, let’s grab a drink first see how we vibe?”	/r/seduction	13/06/24 09:08 PM
40	Women ghost me just because I ask for a phone call The way you ask is weird “it’d be nice to hear you a little before we meet” sounds weird. Just say “How do you feel about a quick phone call to check the vibe?”	/r/seduction	13/06/24 08:39 PM
12	Dating app opener tip What’s your profile look like to get away with this? Won’t work for 95% of men	/r/seduction	13/06/24 04:27 PM
1	How to use use money to improve my attractiveness? A photoshoot from a photographer that knows how to take good photos for OLD	/r/seduction	08/06/24 05:50 AM
48	Pretend she paid you $8000 to act like you’re her boyfriend She’s agreed to go on a date with you, she already likes a lot about you, and she wants the date to go well	/r/seduction	26/04/24 03:41 AM
1	How to make a girl respect you Good advice but most likely she was just in a different mood when you texted her the 2nd time, maybe her other options fell through she was bored, lonely, whatever, probably has nothing to do with you	/r/seduction	20/04/24 01:00 AM
7	Shit tests do not exist. They are just situations where you feel insecure / inadequate and you project those feelings onto the women who are 'testing' you. Stop deluding yourself and be better. Shit tests don't exist when you're worth something. Of course shit tests are real and there’s nothing wrong with women shit testing, she’s testing to see if you’re a creep or an insecure weirdo and if you’re someone she’s gonna feel safe sleeping with.	/r/seduction	06/04/24 03:05 AM
2	What to do when a girl says she has a boyfriend I will give you a few minutes to call him and breakup	/r/seduction	24/03/24 07:56 AM
1	R seduction is the best reddit and heres why? Me too pls	/r/seduction	02/03/24 05:32 PM
1	Sometimes when I ask for a girl's number, she would reject me but insted offer her social media info. What would you do in this situation? If you have decent social media just take her social media. You can say you're on a break from social media or you don't really use it much. You can make a joke, say if we don't hit it off you can send my number to all your guy friends to spam me with dick pics.	/r/seduction	04/02/24 11:55 PM
7	"just move on" is NOT good advice It’s good to operate with the mindset of “Fuck Yes or Fuck No”. If the women isn’t saying fuck yes to spending time with you early on then there’s no reason to waste time on her. I know guys convince themselves that she’s the one but there are literally millions of other girls out there who are just as special and who are super receptive to hanging out with you. And don’t you want to spend your life with people that actually want to be around you and like you? Why would anyone want to be around …	/r/seduction	06/10/23 02:32 AM