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I was about to say something similar. I sincerely hope my friends (male and female) get laid exactly as much as they like to, and if I have an opportunity to increase the likelihood of that to happen, I do so.
/r/seduction30/07/21 05:43 PM
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At least not the ones you have while you are in the state I described initially. Those often tend to be emotional soul suckers who take you for all the validation and effort and emotional support you got. But that's not all women. It's just the ones I surrounded myself with because of the subconscious choices I made that lead to the situation I described. That's precisely why following this rule for a while can be so powerful. It forces you to keep connecting to other women, which in turn leads …
/r/seduction30/07/21 05:37 PM
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I wouldn't go that far. Ultimately, everybody should learn to relate to men and women (and everything in between). But in my opinion, only when one has learned to relate to women sexually is the mind free to do it actually platonically, without ulterior motives (which might be hidden even to yourself). So as a first step of breaking the prison, relating on a friendship level a lot more to other men is a very necessary step. In my experience, people like that (to some degree still me but it's get…
/r/seduction30/07/21 05:27 PM
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I can take it, but still your comment is very much appreciated! Have great day, my guy!
/r/seduction30/07/21 05:14 PM
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Yes, both can happen. All I'm arguing is: for men who had the same problem as me, this is a good rule of thumb to start the path towards healthier relationships with women. It's just a rule of thumb, and it's not the end-all be-all. But it's a good start. It helps you learn to move on. It teaches you to become clearer with your intentions towards yourself and the person in front of you. And, most importantly, if you keep following that rule for a while, it shows you that you don't have to accept…
/r/seduction30/07/21 02:41 PM
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You're making tons of assumptions, dude. No need to be so aggressive, when people explain how they feel and how a certain perspective helped them. ​ Your issue was your own, not their fault I never said they did anything wrong or bad. And I agree with you that a lot of that had to do with me not taking responsibility and being open enough soon enough with my intentions. But the main motivation wasn't maliciousness or being conciously deceptive. It was ignorance about how dating works vs. buildin…
/r/seduction30/07/21 02:23 PM
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I used to have a gazillion female friends who all rejected me and later came to whine on my shoulder over the guys they did end up fucking. All the while saying how I'm so great, why can't guys be more like me. I needed years to understand that this wouldn't mean they would ever come around to realizing what a great guy I am. I wasted so much time and - maybe even more importantly - emotional investment and self-esteem keeping those women around. Having a bunch of those women around is devastati…
/r/seduction30/07/21 12:04 PM
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Well it's like looking after your health. Optimally you start young, but better later than never. You can still profit.
/r/seduction25/05/21 08:13 AM
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As opposed to other advice here I would say: Get routine at it. Optimize your OLD so you line up one or two dates per week (You know, enough so it actually becomes a regular, not so much you forget the rest of your life about it). And go at it. Apply a similar mindset as if you're grinding a Dark Souls boss. You know: It can't really hurt you. Your actual worth has not changed one bit from before to after the interaction, no matter how it went. Except you maybe can be a little prouder of yoursel…
/r/seduction25/04/21 09:54 AM
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I would first of all check if all the negative things you are saying are even true. Value is not only having money. It's also being fun, sharing a unique world view, simply being present and so much more. From what you write, you sound like you have completely given up and are attributing everything to external circumstances. That's the one thing actually disqulifying you for the vast majority of women. But even then it's not impossible. But if you want actual advice it's: Take responsibility. K…
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:03 AM
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To all the people complaining about this post: This is a message people who struggle with connecting to women "that way" really need to hear. Yes, this also is true for guys. Yes, to a lot of people this is kinda obvious. But for a lot of men who struggle with connecting with women it is not. And furthermore, the belief system behind that is one of the main things why they are struggling. I used to really believe women were somehow better than men (or me). And I had a problem with my feeling of …
/r/seduction24/04/21 09:02 AM
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Getting laid is almost a prerequisite for getting a fiancée.
/r/seduction12/04/21 09:58 PM
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All the things you mentioned are good and important to develop. But not because you want to be alpha. In that case you're very likely to just become a conflict seeking douchebag who nobody really likes. A true alpha is elected by the group because the group believes in him. He (or she) doesn't just strut around bullying people into submission to defend their spot. That kind of person gets ganged upon and backstabbed rather sooner than later. Yes they establish order when necessary. And no, they …
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:35 AM
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And I would concur. 'I gotta be alpha' is a mindset that will not help you or anyone else in any way. Still doesn't logically necessitate that there is no such thing. My argument stands. I am not saying 'there are alpha males'. I am saying: People can fulfill a societal role without ever thinking conciously about it. Or in other words: The validity of the concept 'alpha male' is not bound to the question of whether people think of themselves as one.
/r/seduction03/04/21 06:09 PM
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While I agree that (loosely quoting Tywin Lannister here) "A man who must say that he is an alpha is no true alpha" I can't help but remark that people can be something without calling themselves that. And the other way around. True "Good persons" exist despite them very probably rarely ever calling themselves that.
/r/seduction03/04/21 04:21 PM
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Yes, because if you hadn't you would still be chasing her, be unsure and would invest more time and energy into always guessing about her. Her answer wouldn't change. You can't 'sneak' into a sexual or romantic relationship. Seduction is no magic spell. It's an in invitation to a game. If the other doesn't want to play, there's nothing you can do. You made a move and got rejected. That's normal. It doesn't say anything about your attractiveness. And probably also not about her sexual repression.…
/r/seduction02/04/21 10:17 PM
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I wouldn't be so quick di dismiss that. For me, Tantra masssages actually helped me addressing some of those issues. I needed to do more work, but they definitely were a catalyst. Just laying there passively and accepting all the attention and affection unlocked something in me. I literally cried the first time.
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:38 AM
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There are many points raised, I'll only address one: I consider myself a feminist, but I swipe left on women who write 'feminist' in their profile. Why? Isn't that illogical? I don't think so. I think it's similar to a guy who writes "I'm against rape" in his dating profile. It's like... "Yeah definitely, me too, but ... why is this a topic now and here? Something's up,." This just smells like trouble.
/r/seduction21/03/21 12:36 AM
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I'mma leave this ... just ... here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OB2Blb_DWFY
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:22 AM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:16 AM
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No, just a fellow dude who loves breasts and butts. And I thought If I'm gonna bother to describe Imma do it properly'
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:16 AM
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It doesn't feel like a sack of sand at all. That's how he's found out in the movie.
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:07 AM
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Depends a little on the woman obviously, but if I had to be really direct and unromantic: Soft skin and squishy content. A little like a butt, but an untrained soft one, not a toned one from someone who does lots of squats. And of course without hairs usually and with waaaaaay softer skin and smaller pores. Yes, imagine the softest, hairless skin on your body stretched over something squishy like your butt cheeks. Incredibly soft, probably softer than the softest skin on your body. And then, whe…
/r/seduction07/03/21 09:55 AM
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I mostly agree with you, but strongly disagree with the first point. That may very well work for women approaching women, but it almost never does between men and women. If y guy sends friendship vibes, he'll be sorted away as a friend and there's almost no changing that. A guy wanting to get into a physical/romantic connection needs to show that from the get go, or he will ruin any chances he had with that. Now there's a lot to be said about calibration and not coming on too strong or desperate…
/r/seduction14/02/21 12:48 AM
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I mostly agree, but: acknowledging that people are individual does not mean ignoring that there are general patterns of behaviour that have a high chance of being well receipted or not.
/r/seduction29/01/21 04:41 PM
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Maybe. But more probably OP knows exactly what she wants and the guy who approached her wasn't it and that's okay. Even thought that was the case, both made the world a little better through their interaction.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:54 PM
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Yeah, but doing it imperfectly is literally infinite times better than not doing it.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:46 PM
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Dude, everyone has the right to go for what they want. Men heavily discriminate by age as well, just in the opposite direction.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:44 PM
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Rejection is not the same thing as embarrassment. And yes. The point of learning seduction is not to swoon 8/10 girls you meet. Because that's not possible. The point is doing it so much you become comfortable with rejection and can learn to celebrate the successes. And even having talked to her is great success! When a woman actually humiliates you for giving it a shot, she's a shitty human being, and you should be thankful she showed that so early.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:42 PM
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But he did it and she felt flattered. That's a damn good outcome compared to him feeling shitty and moping around beating himself up why didn't do it plus her not feeling complimented.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:39 PM
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Are you trying to say not all women think alike? Shocker!
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:36 PM
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Well, that might maybe work. But pro-tip: Compliment something she is responsible for. A fashion choice or her behaviour for instance. Maybe even the mask, if it's somehow remarkable or looks self-made or something.
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:32 PM
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That it didn't work for you once doesn't mean it never works. OP didn't even say that who approached her got farther than the approach. Just that she appreciated it and felt flattered. I think that's a beautiful message. Thank you OP!
/r/seduction29/01/21 12:28 PM
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Well.. some do, most don't. That being said, it's not like most men really (can) empathize either.
/r/seduction27/01/21 03:06 PM
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Weeeell scientists have a reputation to protect. So even if someone is a total PickUp god they would be very smart about it and do so privately. That being said, physicists aren't necessarily great engineers. But they still know the basics of why the shit engineers do works better than the engineers. Not how, but why of you get what I mean.
/r/seduction27/01/21 08:03 AM
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If a girl cold approaches guys and documents that and presents it to people like an experiment then yeah, that’s creepy. Depends on what they write for both genders imo. If you keep a public 'score' list about how many 9s you bagged this month, I agree, ew! If they reflect on themselves and the situation including the opposite's reactions privately, I would even encourage that. I mean, that's pretty much what a diary is. I think even sharing anonymous examples is okay, if you're trying to explai…
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:58 AM
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Except they totally are and it's completely socially acceptable. Have you ever read any women's magazine? Styling tips, flirting tips. Fashion. Make up. Push up bras. Barbers with ridiculous prices. There are several tens-of-billions-of-Dollars industries with the sole purpose of optimizing girls'/women's sexual market value. Granted, a lot of the mainstream advice for women is trash too, but still. It's just that a man raises his sexual market value very differently than a woman does. But for s…
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:41 AM
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Ironically, because you're trying to be honest.
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:30 AM
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Yeah but that you're not genuinely trying to connect is a thing other people assume, not necessarily the truth. It's backwards reasoning. People assume you're not wanting to connect because you use the PickUp lingo, when it's almost always the other way around: People use the lingo because they desperately wanted to connect and struggled for a long time. Now finally they have found something that helps (or at least promises to) and they are excited about that. But instead of seeing someone who g…
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:28 AM
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Well yeah. OP is on the way of discovering that. That's why this thread exists. But 1) I think OP is right in that it is a good rule of thumb not to discuss that topic with a lot of people in general and 2) The PUA lingo feels cringey. And I do support the shift in mindset between the two versions. But on the other hand.. The PUA lingo version is in a way a lot more honest and straightforward. The socially calibrated version is actually more deceptive. And that one version is accepted and the ot…
/r/seduction27/01/21 07:12 AM
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So first of all, I agree that learning modern seduction is essentially cognitive behavioral therapy. That you can improve by practicing as a principle. That there is definitely something like good and bad game. And that there is a lot of going through uncomfortable situations learning better behavior until it doesn't feel uncomfortable anymore. I also believe if you start out (especially as a hard case), having a rigid routine to stick to for the first approaches is great, because it is extremel…
/r/seduction27/01/21 06:36 AM
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In my personal experience, formulas don't work. For me, as long as I tried to form my outer game, I ran into a brick wall. What worked for me was really internalizing the handful of principles and then one by one letting go of limiting beliefs that were at odds with those. Apart from some very basic things (eye contact!), my outer game changes as a result of me having improved my inner game, not the other way around. I look at outer game techniques more as a guideline to reveal limiting beliefs …
/r/seduction27/01/21 01:28 AM
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True. And I would go so far as to say, that not only the terminology is a problem, but also the mindset behind it. It's still far better than the blue pill bullshit, but imho the PickUp terminology and mindset is only a starting place. The mechanical and logical nature helps to grasp the initial problems and give and incentive to start and take matters into your own hands. But ultimately it can lead into the manipulative area people are afraid of. The majority of the work for is inner game.
/r/seduction27/01/21 01:14 AM
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OP did say the exact opposite. The girls have a positive reaction until they learn that OP practices.
/r/seduction27/01/21 01:07 AM
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The whole point is to analyze your limiting beliefs and the resulting external behavior, so you can develop your personality and charisma. And duh, of course that looks awkward and fake in the beginning. Until you trained so much, it becomes part of you. Like come on, this isn’t an RPG. Except it kinda is. It's obviously more complicated, but the basic structure is the same. You can gain experience and acquire skills you didn't have before. You can go out there, follow your mission and fulfill y…
/r/seduction27/01/21 12:55 AM
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I don't think it's about hating on guys who can do that naturally. This thread deals with the phenomenon that it is very frowned upon to conciously try and improve in that area. Or more precisely, to apply logic while doing so. And there are a lot of guys out there who have all other areas in check. Who maybe aren't bossman CEO (even if they are), but make a very good living, are decent people, are hygienic, have friends in both genders and still struggle to even get a non-platonic kiss. I know …
/r/seduction27/01/21 12:32 AM
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Agreed on that one. Campus, work, hobbies: No places for pick up. Practicing platonic social skills, absolutely. Spend time, get to know people, learn to relate, try a little banter: yes absolutely. But moving into a romantic / sexual direction only indirectly, and only if you're looking for a serious long term relationship and even then: Navigate her out of the workplace first.
/r/seduction26/01/21 11:41 PM
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the same exact formulas that work in those fictions to turn them on, work in real life I beg to differ. A lot of the romantic comedy is part of the problem. The movies are mostly wrong about how attraction works. And so is most of the rest of popular culture. That's why places like this sub exist in the first place.
/r/seduction26/01/21 11:34 PM
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The ironic thing about it is: This system perpetuates the effect that the people who talk to girls/women are overwhelmingly the selfish jerks who don't give a fuck about the situation. And the more polite, well-meaning guys don't even try.
/r/seduction26/01/21 06:27 PM
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I think you're spot on with the analogy to a magic trick.
/r/seduction26/01/21 06:00 PM
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Admiration for the approach: Yes, also my experience. Mentioning how you got there, or even explaining the manosphere: Almost always backfires in my experience. For some reason, you are expected to just know and do the right thing.
/r/seduction26/01/21 05:53 PM
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My experiences are similar to OP's. Maybe it's shitty friends, but I also noticed that women get touchy about that topic immediately. They listen for two sentences before the instinctual reaction kicks in. They are appalled by the mere thought that the guy is even consciously thinking about that topic. They want you to do it "naturally", meaning nobody ever told you how, and you just know. Even with women with which I discussed the topic longer always said something to the effect of "Yeah I wann…
/r/seduction26/01/21 05:51 PM
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So close and yet so far off.
/r/seduction19/01/21 11:57 AM
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What kind of idiot downvoted? This absolutely a correct answer!
/r/seduction19/01/21 11:56 AM
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Since the punctuation was already mentioned.. (but for real dude, people are generous still answering such a mess. Use punctuation!). Aaaaanyway. Regarding your main question: No, I don't think you're an asshole for managing your time. You should have some female friends, too. But you can't keep everyone around who wasn't interested in you. Ain't nobody got time for that.
/r/seduction18/01/21 12:34 PM
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Weeeeell... you should never expect sex. In my personal experience, expecting sex is an almost surefire way to not get any. Buuut. In my experience, if girls said stuff like that, and I took it at face value and was bummed out, maybe got insecure about whether she finds me attractive at all (expectations) it meant there wasn't going to be any. Even without me verbalizing it. If, however, my inner reaction was "Ha, so it's already on her mind. Jackpot!" there was bound to be sexual stuff happen v…
/r/seduction18/01/21 11:22 AM
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Not consciously, probably. But every girl/woman I got with ever did shit test me at least once. Very few people are consciously mean. It just seems to be a subconscious instinct to poke at his self-esteem now and then to see how he handles social pressure.
/r/seduction18/01/21 11:04 AM
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1) It's their job. They're not doing it for the sex, they're doing it for the money. They have the same fears, but enough motivation. 2) In that setting, there's usually some form of protection. Other people in porn shoots, or a pimp lurking around somewhere.
/r/seduction17/01/21 09:43 AM
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No. For attraction, being able to tease is the single most effective technique there is. If you are actually playfully teasing, there is no wrong person for that. And almost no wrong situation. The only, and I really mean the one and only circumstances where I can imagine teasing/poking fun hurting you, is if you use it to defuse sexual tension because you can't handle the pressure. Then yes, but even then it's not the teasing itself. It's releasing sexual tension the wrong way. Or not acting on…
/r/seduction15/01/21 05:13 PM
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Yes, definitely helps. Why? Because it shows you're not afraid of consequences. You're not scared of her. She is a normal human being to you, instead of an idolized god-like figure. All very attractive features. EDIT It should be your common understanding that you're just poking innocent fun though. Negging (i.e. actually trying to subconsciously attack someone's self-esteem) - apart from being in my opinion unethical - often doesn't work. And if it does, you are setting up a very toxic dynamic.
/r/seduction15/01/21 01:19 PM
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Other girls hovering around you are definitely a turn on. Social proof is pretty much the most effective thing for attraction. If there are a lot of girls on your pictures, it signals they are comfortable hanging around with you, which is always a great start. Depending what you are looking for, you should control what those girls in your vicinity are doing though. You having your arm around another girl every picture pretty much always helps (if they look happy). Them kissing your cheeks should…
/r/seduction14/01/21 09:51 AM
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I agree with your point of the importance of learning to read IOIs and which women even like you in the first place. Being smart about approaches instead of brute forcing the entertainment strip. But: In order for a woman to be open to seduction, she needs to be lacking something in her life or be in some sort of affliction. ​ "A woman who is happy and satisfied is nearly impossible to seduce" That is a toxic and incorrect world view. Of course there is a chance that someone who is unhappy is ea…
/r/seduction09/01/21 12:38 PM
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Shittests reveal something about the person doing them as well as the person addressed. If she tests me by comparing me to other guys in the very beginning, I'm already out. This is exactly the difference between a tease and a neg. If you allow people into your life who do that, you're building a shitty environment for yourself. There are some people not worth "winning". ​ EDIT If you want to pass the test, u/chocolateegg1233 's answer is the way to go. Exaggerate and amplify. Or, if you like dr…
/r/seduction03/01/21 05:46 PM
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Personally, mostly the latter. If there's any lesson I learned within the last five years, it's that I need to let go of the illusion I can control the outcome; protect my ego from every single bruise. Instead, I have to throw myself at the world and deal with the outcome. It is a lesson I still struggle with adopting fully, but the more I do, the more successful I become. And that not only applies to seduction. It's a lesson about life in general I am learning. Counterintuitively, having tried …
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:29 PM
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Hmmmm on Tinder you're right.. But in the real world I'd say a lot of sexual options reveal themselves more or less actively to the women. But not to men. Because women usually don't reveal themselves actively. And coy men who want to be conquered aren't a lot of women's type. This gives a perception that average women have all the options and average men have none. But it's just a perception. As a guy, you need to actively pursue your options and you need to keep your shit together while you do…
/r/seduction03/01/21 10:10 AM
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with anyone they want That part is not true. While even average looking women usually have multiple sexual options available, it is very possible she doesn't desire any of them.
/r/seduction02/01/21 08:28 PM
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Well, then you should. Fill those spots with people who answer enthusiastically. At the very least they should send funny gifs.
/r/seduction31/12/20 02:08 PM
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Don't base everything on this one detail. Can still be platonic theoretically. But I sure as hell would end up sitting to someone I don't like all the time.
/r/seduction30/12/20 12:37 AM
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Physical proximity is definitely one of the signs of flirting. Can still be something else, but getting close to someone I like and seeing if they stay close is definitely one of the first things I would so to check someone out.
/r/seduction30/12/20 12:35 AM
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The article you posted does not support your claim whatsoever. And 'some dude from youtube' is not a trustable scientific source. So...
/r/seduction21/12/20 02:27 PM
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I don't think you have to actively hide your good deeds. Just don't obnoxiously brag about them and don't do them for the public acknowledgement. But apart from that yes, I concur. But for most people coming more from a nice guy angle, I would emphasize the being a warrior part a lot more. You need to be able and willing to kick the ass of people who threaten you or your group. Be it verbally or physically. You don't have to flash it around, and it's good to avoid unnecessary conflicts. But you …
/r/seduction19/12/20 06:50 PM
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I disagree. If you are in for a long term relationship, you should become her confidante. But that is weeks and months in. Especially one shouldn't trick oneself into believing you can "buy" any attraction from her with that. It's what naturally occurs while people build a meaningful connection, but it's not what fuels attraction in the first crucial hours.
/r/seduction18/12/20 03:50 PM
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Although I concurr with your general sentiment, I have to say there are more reasons for not knowing how to naturally escalate than inexperience.
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:33 AM
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From experience, having banged my head against a ton of "unsolvable" riddles like that myself I can tell you the surprisingly simple answer: People lie. A lot! To everyone, including themselves. They want to be valued for more than their looks by a guy who ticks all their boxes. And frankly, that is not very different for men.
/r/seduction15/12/20 02:45 PM
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Define "work a little". What exactly do you mean by that? What is chasing in your eyes?
/r/seduction03/12/20 12:17 PM
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Nothing against your personal taste but unless we mean totally different things by chasing that if you're not worth a little chase to him , then you might not be worth much to him to beginn with. Is some bullshit. For me it's about respecting a woman as a person, her agency and my time and effort. I give her a chance to get to know me by being proactive, approaching, inviting her, making me intentions clear. She is free to choose and if she chooses to not reciprocrate I respect her choice. Why w…
/r/seduction03/12/20 07:46 AM
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Early rejection doesn't bother me that much. Wasting time on women who aren't really interested in me for me does.
/r/seduction02/12/20 11:05 PM
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You know how r/AskWomen always slaps you with 'women aren't a monolith'? It's same with men. There is no contradiction, there's only different men with different preferences. I for one don't like it when women make it unnecessarily difficult. For the right woman it would be very easy to get me. She simply has to exhibit what I want and keep exhibiting it. I want a woman who treats it the same. What I mean by unnecessarily is: Say, she has some trauma from being harassed / molested. She needs me …
/r/seduction02/12/20 05:32 PM
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Does this exact mixture exist but without the sarcastic asshole part? Or is the being sarcastic and bratty a necessary component of that blend?
/r/seduction02/12/20 04:42 AM
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That's very insightful. I have trouble reconciling that with recovering from being a nice guy push over who never asks for what he wants. Paitently waiting for women who don't intend to ever give me what I'm looking for but like to keep me around. But it still sounds very true. Thank you for taking the time to put this all down.
/r/seduction02/12/20 04:16 AM
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Attention is always nice. Having options is nice. Why ruin that? Doesn't even matter if man or woman. A high quality woman won't fuel the fire actively, but she also can't actively stop every idiot making a fool of himself. And by the way, as long as you are worried about her orbiters, you are still very far away from being "alpha". Honestly, drop that term bro. Do you remember Game of Thrones? Any man who must say 'I am the alpha' is no true alpha.
/r/seduction01/12/20 11:54 PM
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That's too unspecific. I am 35 now and I wish I had read this post when I was 15 or 25. Because I think it is spot on. I threw away my 20s and the first half of my 30s trying to make it work with someone who was a 50. We were both good people and we both really tried but it just wouldn't work. We matched on a lot of stuff, but not on my most important needs. I was miserable the second half. All the work and emotional labor and pain I went through.. Now I have to do all the work in my 30s, when m…
/r/seduction01/12/20 11:38 PM
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Could you elaborate on that?
/r/seduction01/12/20 11:33 PM
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Don't try to bring her down. Elevate yourself. Try to fight your own sense of insecurity and not being deserving.
/r/seduction27/11/20 07:51 PM
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That's right, but that's not what you posted. You posted the old "Just be yourself" trope (originally with a beautiful example of someone embodying that). "Just be yourself" gets downvoted, and rightfully so (not by me btw), because it simply isn't helpful advice. Everybody knows that being yourself and being authentic is attractive. What people don't know is how to get there, especially when they probably have experiences which taught them not to be okay with themselves.
/r/seduction03/11/20 12:14 PM
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The problem with this advice is not so much it's validity, the problem is that it is not actionable. If people knew how to be themselves or accept themselves or love themselves they would just do it. It's like saying to a person with nerve damage in their arm: "Just straighten your arm". People are painfully aware of their lack in that department. Reminding them that their arm isn't working doesn't help at all. Maybe even puts you down more, because people obviously don't even understand your pr…
/r/seduction03/11/20 11:48 AM
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For a lot people this approach simply doesn't work. And that's probably why we have problems with attracting (at the least the desired caliber of) women in the first place. Not everyone who has trouble attracting the women he wants is some unaccomplished fat slob living in mamas basement without any social skills. It's just some people have a problem feeling good about themselves no matter what they actually achieve in life.
/r/seduction03/11/20 11:23 AM
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Nah man OP is right. I have overcome so many hurdles in my life, I have surpassed statistical expectations in so many areas. I got buff, it. I good a (very good) university degree as the first one in my family ever. I beat suicidal tendencies. I even had two threesomes with two attractive women (not models but definitely attractive) in my twenties. It all doesn't translate to confidence with women in general for me. Not even a little bit. Or at least only very, very short term.
/r/seduction03/11/20 10:50 AM
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ITT: People who tilted after the third sentence and haven't even read the full post.
/r/seduction22/10/20 10:18 PM
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I don't. The general behavior is as always. Unfazed, light hearted. Calling her if out she oversteps a line. Basically: You know it's an act, you understand, there are just so many guys bugging her. But personally I don't deal with that. I know why they do it, but I don't like that personality trait. I'm looking for someone who is kind. I don't reward people for being mean, not even if they look hot.
/r/seduction03/10/20 09:22 PM
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There's a biiiiiiiig difference between "Hey that guy's kinda cute, and he's looking at me" and "Oh I'd sooo cheat on my guy".
/r/seduction28/09/20 12:54 PM
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Well to be fair she did specifically mention saying good morning/good night.
/r/seduction27/09/20 11:20 PM
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Compared the time and effort you put in, with the nutrition and sleep and training and all, muscles have the worst return on investment of all the things you can optimize. You should do that only for yourself. Honestly, when I was trained a lot better, the only comments I got were from men. It can help your discipline and your sense of accomplishment and that can help. But as a bargaining chip in seduction, it's a really bad investment. EDIT I should probably clarify: Looking like you move now a…
/r/seduction21/09/20 10:59 PM
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Verbalizing intent is worlds better than hiding it completely, but it's far from optimal. Optimally, you embody intent. You don't say it verbally until very late (sometimes never). Instead, you show it. With a smirk, with a pause in the right moment, with a well-placed innuendo. With a short brush of your hand against hers. Or a telling smile. By taking her hand and leading her somewhere. The thing is, us guys who have problems with seduction often have huge fears of showing our desire, we activ…
/r/seduction21/09/20 10:03 PM
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Does it turn a guy off if a woman initiates? On one hand, my guy friends always say it's a turn on when a woman initiates and isnt always on the guy to make the effort, but on another hand, some other guy friends say it takes away from the 'chase' guys like if the woman is willing and always down to get dirty. Depends on the guy. For me personally I love it if a woman is open with sex and shows that she genuinely wants it. I want to like the woman and sex is a lot better with an emotional connec…
/r/seduction21/09/20 09:30 PM
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Be honest but not unnecessarily graphic (depends on the girl of course what is too graphic.). But generally, just be honest. You liked what she looked like (maybe something specific she can control), you wanted to get to know her, maybe a date, let'se see.
/r/seduction21/09/20 09:18 PM
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Completely fine, completely adorable. I feel like I have to do the work always, sometimes I feel like I'm just bothering people who don't want to be. So almost any move towards me is highly appreciated.
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:42 PM
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First of all: She's gone for now. Forget about that with her. Very unlikely something comes off this. 95% of the time, not looking for anything right now means not with you. And even if it's the 5%: She told you she's not interested right now. She's made up her mind. Move on. And generally: Don't make your intentions clear in some big verbal profession months into the encounter. You need to establish "If this is going to go somewhere, it's gonna be a man to woman thing" early on. But don't be so…
/r/seduction15/09/20 07:51 PM
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It's good. Shows you are pleasant to be around for girls and if they even share intimate details they feel very secure and comfortable with you.
/r/seduction15/09/20 07:34 PM
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Just because it wasn't as openly as it is now doesn't mean it's new.
/r/seduction15/09/20 07:13 PM
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That women, like men, don’t usually save sex until marriage anymore? Are you just being mean or can you really not relate? It is not about one woman doing something surprising. It's not learning about sex before marriage at 30. It is about discovering that a significant portion of your beliefs are completely wrong. That you have been operating under a completely false set of assumptions about the world and wasted time and opportunities and heartbreak because of that. And to make it all worse, a …
/r/seduction15/09/20 07:01 PM
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You just got red pilled. Welcome to the club. It sucks the first few years, you will go through a lot of pain and anger. Allow it to vent out. You are right to be angry at all the people who lied to you. Grieve for the loss of the world. And then - like in the Matrix - fulfil your mission. Adapt to the new circumstances. The beginning is painful as fuck, but if you don't give up and really accept what is the reality, it won't suck forever. It will become good again. Depending on how far you go, …
/r/seduction15/09/20 05:30 PM
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I don't know how true this is but it would be so ironic since guys are always trying to figure out how to get with her. You gotta realize: The urge to try to get with women we find is hardwired into us. It is an incredibly strong urge. But at the same time most of us want to be good people and not bother someone who doesn't see us in that way. Also, we have a lot of experiences where we thought there was something but when we made our move, there wasn't. So we fight it. We constantly shut down t…
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:20 PM
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But please don't fall into the trap that is this subreddit. I don't intend to, I replied specifically to you. That being said. I am in no way offended when a sub isn't meant for me. If by 'not meant for me' you mean I am not the target demographic and people don't want me writing there. I am not critizicing that they don't want me writing there. I don't think that it is sexist per se. I am criticizing that they write hateful things which will only deepen the problems they're (often rightfully) c…
/r/MensRights29/07/20 01:07 PM
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I'm not a regular of this sub. I'm just here because I saw the crosspost. After a few times I did, I made a rule for myself to never comment again in r/TwoXChromosomes for several reasons (mostly because I actually agree with what OP asked for - a safe place to vent is an absolute fair request). This post seemed to be specifically directed at men, so I made an exception. In between promising I will continue to be just lurking and take things in, trying to understand and empathize I tried to shar…
/r/MensRights29/07/20 11:53 AM
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