cava99 Archive

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1	I have been told repeatedly that I look like a kid. What's wrong with that? No no, it isn't that you have to do to things to attract women, it's that doing things has the side effect of attracting women. The question is "how should I be better?" Since you've opened with appearance let's start from there: how can you look better as a man? start with a beard, well taken care of, workout, dress a bit more formal (eg. Jeans with a shirt), etc... All such things make you look better as a man. That then makes others perceive you as such, including women. This is the trap: you…	/r/seduction	03/08/21 02:40 PM
1	I wasted my teens and 20s focusing narrowly on savings money. I did not enjoy the process or experience much in life. I am socially a hermit and have never even flirted with a girl. How do I unscrew my situation? Start with losing the "wasted" attitude. That's your experience, that's your process, get familiar with it instead of being a victim of it, the good, the bad, the ugly. All of it. The same applies for sleeping. That's a difficult kind of thing to waste and people have differing needs, you might be one of those, test and calibrate. Boredom, however, is a sign that you're not doing something when you could be doing something, you're not getting somewhere, you're wasting time when bored. Boredom is…	/r/seduction	28/07/21 09:12 AM
2	Why does a girl I just met want to “decorate” my house? Oh yeah, definitely cook something.	/r/seduction	27/07/21 03:29 PM
1	Why does a girl I just met want to “decorate” my house? 1) she's passionate, so play along in imagination, take her on a trip out exploration, but don't take it seriously. 2) she's trying to intrigue you and impress you, so you're gonna have to try hard to fuck things up with her, play daddy. 3) she's trying to make it her own place, see 2, and don't let her. 4) she's trying to scam you somehow Be difficult, and extremely picky but not frustrating. Don't commit to buying anything. Remember to redecorate her insides.	/r/seduction	27/07/21 03:29 PM
1	How do I complement my crush without letting on I have a crush on her. TL;DR: it's the same as with everybody in anything else, just worth less depending on your actual, sincere goals. ... Why would you have a crush on someone who supposedly isn't available to you AT ALL? Get a grip, stop wasting time by deceiving yourself, and find someone else, you're expecting golden eggs from a pretentious rabbit who insist they're a golden goose, if only they laid anything at all. If you must insist, if every warning you're receiving is mistaken and false, good for you, just l…	/r/seduction	25/07/21 09:41 PM
1	The apology barrier Now that's a tough question... What you need to understand is that you have to tailor it to both yourself and each individual, in every situation, kinda like sex, you CAN just grab someone out of nowhere in the middle of the street and out of the blue for that but you PROBABLY shouldn't anyway. Also, keep in mind that while conscious effort is essential you cannot underestimate the unconscious part. So observe yourself, what can you invite someone to do to you that approximates danger but isn't?…	/r/seduction	25/07/21 09:41 PM
1	Being shy and being introverted are not the same. You can be introverted and still be extremely good with people. That's a fine point mate!	/r/seduction	25/07/21 02:55 PM
2	The apology barrier Invite her to take what she wants. Provoke her teasingly. Tell her you like what she did. Tell her that her apologizing is cute, but warn her it might detract from a sincere apology where needed.	/r/seduction	25/07/21 12:00 PM
1	How to be likeable/attractive from the very start? No one is liked or wanted by everyone, if if there's such a person I'll reject them just to prove the point, so yes, it is indeed too much to ask. That being said, what exactly do you mean by liked and wanted and everyone? Why do you care to begin with? What's your purpose?	/r/seduction	25/07/21 11:58 AM
1	Need help overcoming fear Well, overcoming fear is to simply put it in its proper place. You're unattractive, you're afraid you'll get rejected. Fair enough. Let it sink that being rejected, no matter how hardly, is by no means the end of the world. The same goes for "bothering women". You WANT them "hot and bothered", but of course being hot and bothered because she just ran 10 miles to get away from the murderous monster that is you is just about distinct enough from hot and bothered because she can't wait for you to r…	/r/seduction	24/07/21 03:50 PM
1	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? Again with the skin colour and insisting I'm white. You know what, you're right. You're too black for this.	/r/seduction	17/07/21 09:15 PM
1	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? You straight up called them racist for not appreciating your social skills and your being tall and handsome, preferring "average white guys", and outright invalidated advice from white guys, while insisting on presuming I'm a white guy, that's how. Drop that. All of it. Yes, his race matters. No, you're not entitled to be anyone's preference, yes, calling me a white boy is racist twofold: first for being so presumptuous, and second for discounting whites. These 4 paragraphs each serve a purpose,…	/r/seduction	17/07/21 08:57 PM
1	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? You're still not following. Please, take a step back and understand this: You are livid. It shows through the way you speak. This is not an insult, though it is actually a shitty thing you'd want to avoid, I don't point this to annoy you or to demean you and insult you, I'm simply pointing out what you're doing to yourself, and that it's wrong to do to one's self. You are confused, your are acting entitled, your are speaking as if you're poorly socialized, and the best you can reply with is basi…	/r/seduction	17/07/21 08:17 PM
2	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? You told on yourself, but you're presuming I'm a"white boy". Drop it, you're hurting yourself in your confusion.	/r/seduction	17/07/21 11:14 AM
2	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? You're clearly not nearly as good looking as you think, and you sound like you have the social skills of a 12 years old bully, drop it. You are by no means entitled to be anyone's preference, or even consideration at all, and you don't get to hold it against a person that they like their own, let alone alone a people, then call it a shitty world like you're entitled to them.	/r/seduction	17/07/21 08:58 AM
1	She sends me her photos, selfies, random tiktok videos ,but upon talking to her she only replies ''yes'' ''hahahahah' should I stop talking to her? You're being lured into simping. Don't. Move on.	/r/seduction	16/07/21 05:18 PM
2	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? I love me a good addendum 😆	/r/seduction	15/07/21 06:14 PM
1	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? Get a wingman/woman to observe you at a party or something, if you have family or friends you can trust and know won't give you nonsense just to make you feel better go check with them, troubleshoot starting from your appearance, posture, smell, and stance, then check your game if any.	/r/seduction	15/07/21 02:45 PM
2	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? TL;DR: don't get brainwashed with the soft bigotry of low expectations, work with what you've got. Making money helps, but you sound like you're actively working to sabotage yourself, and while being young and black might play a certain role to a certain degree you have to understand that there people who are patently unsightly while still shockingly successful. You're black, good for you. How might this serve you best? You're 25, odds you're also probably still a nothing and a no one at this po…	/r/seduction	15/07/21 02:22 PM
2	Do you think white men have an enormous advantage in seduction and meeting women compared to other races of men and what’s your advice to someone thats none white? :) https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/11/30/247530095/are-you-interested-dating-odds-favor-white-men-asian-women	/r/seduction	15/07/21 02:09 PM
1	I've lost the ability to have genuine connections That's great to hear, you go mate!	/r/seduction	15/07/21 05:43 AM
1	I've lost the ability to have genuine connections TL;DR: I feel you, we've been there, and you're being delusional. Boards, so medical? You're talking about an organism that's custom built for a biological imperative significantly differing from yours, keep that in mind while talking about "pretentious, superficial women", and especially when you're wanting a "special" woman. You're going through a rough time, if she's so special and not superficial and SO understanding she would've waited, and more, helped and assisted you, but she didn't when…	/r/seduction	15/07/21 01:15 AM
1	I've lost the ability to have genuine connections You sound like a reasonable man, but odds are you're being delusional in this particular area, for example, if she is so special and isn't so superficial why would she do what literally every other "superficial" woman would, instead of being there for you? You, my friend, sound like you've dodge d a bullet, and it's about time you learned the lesson here.	/r/seduction	15/07/21 12:56 AM
1	Where do you guys & girls find guys & girls to date? Rational, certainly. But why would you think they're rational at all? This is an error in your judgement, please correct it. We are not particularly rational and our reactions are largely instinctual and pre-determined, automated so to speak. A large part of game depends on figuring out the automation, what stimulus truggers what response? Of course we know little and there's no magic to it, hence it being a numbers game before all else.	/r/seduction	13/07/21 01:32 PM
5	Eye contact before cold approach? You might hear that eye contact doesn't mean a woman is interested, and that you should put yourself out there regardless, and that you should do what feels right. Nonsense, and worse, misinformation. Like someone said here, the conversation begins far before words get exchanged, so make sure you're an eye catch, and that you catch eyes, it makes things way easier.	/r/seduction	10/07/21 04:04 PM
2	Are you transparent about wanting casual sex? TL;DR: he's got a point. I'm at an ultra conservative community, ie. Where we'd get literally shot or stabbed or killed some other not-so-fun way for so much as hanging out a bit too casually, and I mean literally. Still, that's what I do, and 95% sounds about right if I'm not dropping game. Maybe it's not hyperbole to me because they think to themselves "might as well get killed for going the whole nine yards instead of just hanging out at his place", so they're already filtered for high risk t…	/r/seduction	09/07/21 07:35 PM
2	How to meet new girls. I don't think you'd stop it even with healthy women and wives, it's just a different game for those. Life is game. Think game theory fundamentals.	/r/seduction	07/07/21 04:14 PM
2	[deleted by user] Treat them like nerds, but without the bullying.	/r/seduction	07/07/21 11:24 AM
-2	Anyone else feel like their just building and rebuilding their roster? Dunno about "connecting on a deeper level", however, I firmly believe that marriage is about children, not romantic ideas like "deep connection".	/r/seduction	05/07/21 01:49 PM
3	Anyone else feel like their just building and rebuilding their roster? Yup. Men are the romantic sex, and ironically, we seem to prefer having a base THEN go hunting for side chicks. Just don't fall for it, it's a trap. Marriage ought to be a calculated move, not something you do out of need, especially nowadays in the west when you can be raped by court at her whims, and whatever happens check how useful a prenup can be for you. Like one of the guys said, focus on yourself, go for a fast if you have to, get with the boys, go for a jog, whatever you do, focus on yo…	/r/seduction	05/07/21 01:45 PM
10	Sexiest thing a woman can say Just finished with a gal, after some 2 hours of foreplay she whispered "Fuck me" and man, did that make me Fuck her alright. Broadly, I think for me it's what reflects desire and want, the more intense the better.	/r/seduction	04/07/21 06:41 PM
1	How do you react to hints ? Many ways... Hint back, so long as you're actually getting somewhere (smile, gaze, approach gently) mild confrontation, mixed with hints and suggestions straight up confrontation and banter (yeah, you got the hint, and you're getting over with it). Understand that even those with rape fantasies still need to feel secure, so even if you're being aggressive you should not be threatening, that's a game on an entirely distinct level for a very specific set of girls.	/r/seduction	04/07/21 09:41 AM
1	What do I do if she wants to bring her older brother on a first date? Play this like a game with her brother and you should be good. Just make sure you're clear he's not to sit at your table for more than 10 minutes total, if he does then you hit the bathroom, stand behind him and mime something funny while also telling her to tell him off, if he isn't at another table by the tim you're back give it 5 more minutes, then excuse yourself and leave them both with the bill if they do desperately want to be together. If she's traumatized and her brother is actually the…	/r/seduction	03/07/21 12:27 PM
1	24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated Yes, I think I understand. If you're hurt it means you're vulnerable, weak, needy, etc... whatever it is, it is a flaw in you because in such a situation the other person cannot hurt you but with your own hands, through your own mind, with your permission and even cooperation, even if you'll say otherwise, even if it's a sort of "conspiracy" so to speak (Jung says hi) I think you need to do something akin to fasting, even when you get the opportunity you must reject it, kindly, even if you are b…	/r/seduction	02/07/21 10:20 PM
1	24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated Hurtful? No. I'm new to game, what I do know is you shouldn't be hurting, and you need to reset.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 08:28 PM
2	Girl is coming to my place tomorrow. Keep photo up or take it down? Aaand he -may or may not- scores!	/r/seduction	01/07/21 04:01 PM
2	Girl is coming to my place tomorrow. Keep photo up or take it down? If you actually care for it and you know it'll show while you talk about it, keep it, that's a good way to make her even more comfortable: she'll know you "see her like art". Hell, if you pay your cards right you'll get to make her into a work of art.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:44 PM
2	If I wouldn’t even date myself why would any self respecting woman date me I once had a dream where I was in a very dark, damp, and cold place. Long story short, by the end there was an intense warmth, a light, shining from me, and I understood that the dark place was me, ribcage and all, and I felt that warmth inside me even for a short while after I woke up. So a little trick: imagine you're someone you intensely love and care for. Then ask yourself how would you take good care of someone you intensely love and care for like so. Do it to yourself. Just make sure it's…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:41 PM