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You're asking this like you're a male in this situation. Correct me if I'm wrong. I mean nothing by it. I honestly don't have an answer that goes across the board. Everyone is different. That's like asking why do men have so many side chicks that they get on well with yet won't date? Idk. People should be able to be friends without it needing to turn romantic. If you're friends with a woman hoping it will turn into something more, you're asking for disappointment. Same for the other way around. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:46 PM
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I understand you got cheated on and you're mad. Understandable. But honestly what are YOU going to get out of it by exposing him? There is no money reward involved. Internet clout, maybe? Which means nothing in the end. Just move on. Be the bigger person and move on. Drop his number. Drop anything that makes you think of him and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 11:24 PM
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I don't know if what I'm about to say is RP or what. I'm just going to say what I've experienced as a human being. Sex should NOT be the main thing that keeps a couple together. I love intimacy as much as the next person but that doesn't always mean it's in the bedroom. If he's going to cry and complain because you're not in the mood he's gonna have a hard time dealing when nature takes a hard ass turn and you have menopause. It just sounds like High Libido vs Low Libido. If 3 times a month is m…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 08:48 PM
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I would say start sleeping separate. I know it sounds unorthodox but it helps with a lot of couples that deal with the same problem. Either two separate beds or two rooms.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 01:59 PM
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He said he never hit a woman and then later said he has? That's a red flag. Pretty much lied first, told truth second. Plus it's from his perspective. Who knows what the true motive was for him to attack her even though he said it was lightly and self defense. I would back away from this one but that's me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 12:55 AM
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My husband snores but he also has sleep apnea. I would recommend seeing a sleep doctor to make sure he doesn't have it. It can contribute to it. If it's not taken care of he could stop breathing in his sleep. I didn't sleep a full night for months because not only did he snore he stopped breathing so I slept lightly and nudged him each time he stopped. It wrecked my nerves.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 12:32 AM
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I suggest you take time to step back and see what you are getting into. You love the man, but you're not loving the life you're about to share. His son will always come first. Remember that. A good parent will always put their children first. If they do end up going to court, if it's not spousal support, he will likely pay child support to his ex wife. So money is going to her whether you like it or not. You don't sound comfortable signing a prenup. That can be a deal breaker to many couples. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 05:26 AM
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(shrug) I can take or leave the holiday honestly. I mean if my man is showing me love and affection everyday, the holiday holds no real meaning outside of a reason to stock up on candy. Lol. My wedding/dating anniversaries are my Valentine's days.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 03:59 AM
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I wouldn't say that you're being dependent on him. I would assume he gave you money because it was you that went to see him. If he came to you, would you hand him gas money? I would take it as a kind gesture and nothing more.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 05:43 PM
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Was he showing this behavior while you were dating?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 02:24 AM
1

I highly suggest therapy for him. He went through a traumatic experience and unfortunately he's taking it out on you. I can understand the paranoia but it can get out of control if it's not handled now. Was he like this before you got married?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 01:57 AM
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From what I'm seeing, you're practically paying for everything. You don't want anything in return yet expect him to return the same sentiment. You're expecting something in return. He sells his stuff for weed money. Not rent money or bill money. Weed. He has no ambition to get a job. The future you're hoping for with him is a pipe dream. He wants to be with you but doesn't show actions to prove the words. Red pill or not, I personally wouldn't date him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 01:56 AM
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I guess it's his fancy way of saying he has a small penis. I'm quite sure as there are many sizes of penises there are many sizes of vaginas. One could feel tighter than another but that doesn't mean they are virgins or the town knob. It's just how vaginas work. I don't know what happens when a baby is delivered naturally through the vagina. It might tighten back up or it turns into a hat. Either way, it's just the way vaginas work. No you don't need surgery. Find a man with a bigger penis if it…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:39 PM
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I'm not sure if she is having a hard time finding the correct words but this is not making her son look good. He doesn't need a mom but a partner that will lead him. That screams a red flag that he can't do anything unless he has someone holding his hand. There is a difference between being supportive and leading someone around. It's like calling you the new mom without saying it. It great to see that he found a new motivation to better himself but at the same time it feels like his mom just sla…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 10:51 PM
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Sounds like he's cherry picking what's convinced for him. I wouldn't stick around but that's me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 08:59 PM
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That is a good question. I'm kinda in the same boat. It's like unless it's about something they are into they don't conversate
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 12:03 AM
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Might need a bit more info. Are you two going places like the beach or just anywhere?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 11:52 PM
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Look at it this way. It beats being with someone that doesn't want kids when you do.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/23 08:57 PM
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I don't have children but I have heard of colic and all I can say is your husband got no clue what you went through. I've heard people have lost their minds over that because of the constant crying. At least he got to go to work. You're stuck. You got the right to be upset.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 09:00 PM
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I don't think it's that big. My husband and I are 2 years and were in High School at the same time. Our visions are more or less the same
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 05:08 PM
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RP or not, don't jump into that lake if you don't know how to swim.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 11:06 PM
1

Sounds like separation isn't enough.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 01:33 AM
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I personally wouldn't. You'll constantly be playing the "am I good enough" game throughout the relationship. No one needs that kind of mental corruption.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:24 PM
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Never had a gf but dated some girls for just months. As in his dating experience is only a few months old? I'm making sure I'm reading that correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 04:21 AM
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I would just step back and not do it again. You're human and anyone can make mistakes. You decided in a long run it's not right for you. So explain it that you will no longer do that until marriage and if he understands he will respect it. But remember, you did say he was less religious than you and may not feel it's that big of a deal to wait.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 03:41 AM
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Forget it. It's not worth investing into.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 08:02 PM
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Go with your gutt.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 10:17 PM
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Ok. I've been here before. Took me years to finally understand it so hopefully you can understand faster to save your relationship. Always remember that sex is a bonus in a relationship. Not the main dish. I went through this thinking that "men only want sex" and it nipped me in the ass. I almost ruined a relationship over it. Lucky we married. Lol. But he's right. The older you get the less sex really matters when it comes to being affectionate. If he's showing you love in ways outside of the b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 04:04 PM
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Sounds like to me he's missing the old life and wants to have his cake and eat it too. I'm not going to say he wants to mess with other girls even if it's only flirting. It's very hypocritical of him wanting to go out while he wants you home because "your safety is his responsibility". Because you drink doesn't mean you have to kiss the floor drunk. It also sounds like you're constantly together when it comes to off time which can be a bit much.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 10:37 PM
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Unless his boss needs him to go to a club or he networks, hanging out with his buddies is not business. What are you two doing for fun if it's not clubbing or things you did before you were a couple? Are you two doing things that replaces them?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 10:23 PM
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Sounds like he really wasn't in the mood. His libido isn't up where yours is. It happens. Honestly you were too horny to accept his no.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 02:40 AM
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Well look at it this way. Hot guy that could have a pick of the harvest and he chose you. That's not an insult. That's him waiting until the right girl comes along instead of just bed hopping. Lift that chin up.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 10:57 PM
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I think it depends on the crying. Like if you got into a fight with him and he's the reason why you're crying, it won't be much of a turn on..unless he's a psycho.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 12:18 PM
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I enjoy a morning text as much as I enjoy a good night text. Sometimes they just don't come because of net issues or conflict with schedules. Kind gestures shouldn't be treated as a "to-do" like you expect it everyday. When a day is skipped it gets turned into a "omg he doesn't like me" way of thinking when you know deep down that's not the issue. Don't expect it. Just be happy when he does do it. It would be a different story if he was ignoring you for weeks on end but this doesn't sound like t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 09:48 PM
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I would just drop that whole circle. Your ex is your ex. Leave him there. You and the girl don't need to discuss anything. If anything he was lying to her as well so she will find out when she finds out. As for the roommate, drop him. The message he sent to you was very dirty to say the least. On top of that when you asked if he had a gf he tried to erase his tracks as if he was worried you were going to taddle on him. Just drop the whole lot and move on with your life. You don't need them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:29 PM
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I'm not sure if you're suffering from depression or other things. If you are, rule number one is to not turn to other people to make you feel better or happy. That can set you up for disappointment. That out of the way. What I'm confused on is he wants you to cling to him for your every need. You do it while in an emotional state and he blocks you out. He gives off a vibe that he wants to be above everyone else including your family issues. I'm still fairly new to the RP mindset so I'm not sure …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 05:27 AM
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When I was 20 I wanted an Adonis for a man. Then I learned looks don't last forever. As long as he was in shape and cared about his health I'm happy. My husband is not close to what he was at 20 but he's alive, more or less healthy and able to provide for me and that's all that I care about. After 17 years of marriage and 15 of it being military, I want a live body type.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 10:15 PM
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I'm not sure where your tats are but you can wear a shawl if it's on your shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 01:19 AM
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The design he chose sounds nice and I would assume he picked it because it was something his family would approve of. "First impressions last forever," as they say. Plus he cared that the first color washed you out. That shows he cares about your appearance. Take his advice and stick to the navy. Look at it this way. If the family hate it, you can blame him. Lol. Also do you WANT his brothers to know you got a figure? That can come off wrong even when it's not your intention.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 01:18 AM
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If he wants to compare himself to a desperate animal that needs to mate in order to feel big, have at it. What concerns me is not only is he sleeping around he is also getting them pregnant? So he's messing around and leaving the girl pregnant at the same time. I say any man that thinks this is ok is not worth a second glance. Also someone like him isn't going to listen to your argument even if it's valid. He's gonna huff to himself and still think he's right because he's the man.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 01:21 PM
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Think of mined diamonds to jewelry as Starbucks is to coffee. A lot of money spent to show off. I got a lab grown and it's just as pretty. I don't complain. In the end you're married. That's the goal. The ring just shows your married. That is it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 09:53 PM
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Look at this as a red flag. If you let him do this now, he will do it in the future with or without your Blessing. I would rethink this "relationship".
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 05:19 PM
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I know this may sound silly and TMI but hear me out. I can't figure out how to explain without using some words. It sounds like to me you're a clit orgasmer instead of g-spot which is more common than people think. I could be wrong so correct me if so. I have to have clitoris stimulation otherwise I just don't orgasm. I've tried numerous times and ways to do it via g-spot and I'm just not built that way. So while having intercourse I rub myself so while he's getting there so am I. It doesn't mat…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 04:00 AM
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Don't feel bad. These things happen and I don't think he's solely blaming you. He has a blame as well. Just understand that his job comes first and text him when you want to. Just don't expect him to respond right away if he's busy or sleeping. The long sessions will have to shrink. Keep as normal just adjust to the changes. That's all.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 08:25 PM
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Right now my husband is in California for Navy while I'm in Florida holding down the fort. I WILL be DTF anytime and anywhere. There is nothing wrong with sex. It shouldn't be the thing that makes or breaks a marriage. I like to think of it as a bonus. We have a good sex life. It's just non existent atm. Lol. We don't always line up in regards of libido but when we do, yippy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 07:20 PM
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I barely touch Facebook yet I have FB messenger to talk to my husband. There are messenger apps that doesn't need social media connection. Just talk to who you want to talk to.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 02:31 AM
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I would recommend you taking a glance at r/BDSMcommunity I'm a little bit of a kinkster myself but I don't have religion in my blood. They might be able to help navigate your questions to proper answers.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 02:20 AM
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I'm curious on what standards did he lower? I know that us being human beings we can look at "outer beauty" before "inner beauty". Over time you learn to switch the two and prefer the inner beauty over the outer beauty because it will last longer. Does that mean your partner is ugly? No. But I doubt they look like a model. It's not much of a salvage, I know. Lol. I never thought I was good looking and told my husband that he had low standards all the time. Not a positive thing. I mean in the end…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 12:27 AM
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A) don't ever use people. It doesn't work out as great as you may think B) if you don't believe most things he's telling you like him being not married when you know he is or will take you to Dubai or Paris when you know he won't, what makes you think he will actually get you an internship? He could be blow smoke with that as well Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/23 07:41 PM
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You're only 6 years apart. Not 15. You two just have two different interests. That can happen with anyone at any age. Don't stress it. If you concentrate intensely on what you think is wrong you won't focus on what is actually fine in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/23 07:06 PM
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You could voice your wants and concerns in the relationship and also say that you wasn't very familiar with the etiquette of dating Japanese men. It's just a case of Lost in Translation and care to start again on the right foot instead of trying to read blanks. Culture differences can be fun to learn but a pain when you don't know how to read, so to speak. Take time to learn about the his dating culture and if he cares he will try to understand yours and you two can see where the bumping of head…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 01:07 PM
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That's the most boring round about way of getting engaged yet I love it. Sitting by waiting for a ring to appear was too much stress.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 10:35 PM
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You keep saying your circumstances were complicated and you couldnt leave. What made them so complicated to where you had to go this route?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 12:52 AM
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I don't like mind games. Not in any way shape or form. I wouldn't make a jab at my husband to see what buttons I can push before he decides a hand through a door is a way to communicate. We will poke fun at each other but know what not to make jokes about. We both know we are joking. If I was pissed at him, he will know about it. And visa versa. Last thing I want us to do is walk on eggshells. Plus if you do set a boundary and he says "well you're just sensitive", That's minimizing your feelings…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 02:13 AM
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Just asking. Are you two sexually in a rut? I just find it peculiar that he chose late in the marriage to tell you about these fantasies and want to do extreme stuff. Religion or not, it's just a sudden thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 02:48 AM
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Seriously? He's using sex to punish you. Look. You two are 17 and 18. Live life first before you two commit to something forever. As you can see he got a few red flags and he's trying to control what you do. It's one thing to let him lead but to make you earn an orgasm? That's what Doms do to Subs, not BFs do to GFs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 09:30 PM
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Ok. Just making sure which is mental and which is physical. It does sound like that your mental is going against your physical in regards to sex. I would continue to do what you're doing to reverse anything that made you think "sex is bad". I'm ok with no sex before marriage but studies showed that never exploring your body prior just leads to situations like this. Best suggestion I can tell you is explore. Just don't go jumping into the deep end of the pool before you're ready. Lol. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 02:30 AM
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Just curious. Do you produce lubrication when you're aroused or do you need to apply some? When you're not lubricated down there it can make penetration painful. Is that part of your problem?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 06:05 PM
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I do it one day at a time. I don't have kids so maybe that helps in regards to talking together. Right now he's in California while I'm in Florida. We didn't want to sell the house so now he's stationed out there. So our date nights are all through a video chat. It sucks but it's the lesser of the two evils as are as we saw it. But yeah even if it's just setting aside an hour or so a night or a few times a week to catch up, I think it will help.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 02:48 PM
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Military wife here. It sucks to feel second. Been that way for 15 years. Why not make a suggestion to have a family night or just a date for you two when he has the time? Even if it's just a few hours alone to catch up with each other.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 02:17 PM
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I was very much interested in Ken's side of the movie. Being a kid growing up in the 80s and 90s I remember hearing about men feeling like they are losing their role in society because women are becoming more independent and don't need men anymore. I mean, yeah we need them for reproduction, but I mean women don't need men to survive. To live for being with men. Ken was DESPERATE to have Barbie love him but unfortunately the relationship was doomed from the begining since she pretty much friend …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 04:05 AM
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Old saying: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Notice how there isn't a thrice. Dump him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 03:43 AM
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That is very true.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:03 PM
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Man. I never thought I would see the word "limerence" in this sub. I know the feeling. Wish I could give words of solid advice but I'm still dealing with my own issues with it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 12:58 PM
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When we're children we are told to apologize for doing something wrong. There is a difference between apologizing and being sorry. You can say "I'm sorry" until the cows come home but if you continue to do bad behavior it doesn't show how sorry you are. It just made it look like you don't care and saying it will sweep the issue under the rug and never mention again. I'm not talking about the soup didn't have enough salt and hubby didn't like it. I'm talking about nagging and belittling someone. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 09:42 PM
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Make a list of particular foods you like. If anything start with the food pyramid. Check off things that you like in each group. Then go online and look up recipes with those ingredients. Like if you like spaghetti, go look up a recipe and try to make a sauce from scratch. My husband has acid issues with the premade jarred sauce so I make one using tomato paste, tomato sauce, Italian seasoning and some extra stuff. He likes it. You can do something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 12:59 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm trying to understand what you wrote. You create conflict and then apologize. Yet you're worried that he's the bad guy? You left the relationship because of religious differences. What is his problem? I don't see the problem in him. I'm seeing it in you. What do you want from the relationship that's he's not giving you? From my side it looks like you're viewing this relationship very askew.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 11:41 PM
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This may not sound too red pill but let's see if anything I suggest is useful. You said you are going to school, which is good, do that. Don't toss on a relationship on top of the stress of doing school. And believe me there will be stress. And then toss the stress of a relationship on top of the stress of school is stressful. You're 18. You're just now learning how to be an adult. Yes, like most young adults, you want to be taken seriously. Not seen as a child. Most older people see a child in …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 08:45 PM
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Wife of a gamer. It was an uphill battle but we finally found a middle ground. I came to a conclusion that since he works all day and comes home, I'm not going to complain about him playing a video game if it's something that going to help him cope with the stresses of the day. In the beginning I did complain and it got me nowhere. If he's working and getting things done, let him have at it. If he's a lazy loaf that just games, then you got a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 04:02 PM
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I'm going to give an honest answer. Is it red pill or feminist? Idk so hear me out. The only time I've ever called my husband "sir" was in the bedroom. To me this is a term you use with a child or a boss, not a spouse. "Yes, sir." No, mam." Etc. I don't like it when parents use it on their kids but I'm not going to police parents. It just doesn't say "husband " in my eyes. And on top of that he gets mad and puts you on read when you fail to say it? You say he's emotionally mature but this passes…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 03:52 AM
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I'm not the best cook ever but I love the feeling I get when my husband says how good it is. I miss cooking for him. I miss him cooking for me. He makes great steak. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 01:06 AM
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Its actually normal. I don't see an issue with an adult living with their parents if they are earning a living and waiting for the right time to move out. You don't just hop out the moment you're 18. Plus I would assume you're helping out at home. That's a good quality.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 12:46 AM
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Good move on breaking up. You need to play Russian Roulette everyday wondering if his next snapping moment will or will not land you in the hospital. He needs to work on himself before he can get into a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 07:48 PM
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Ahh. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 06:33 PM
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The hell is lookmaxxing?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:56 PM
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If you two are happy then no it is not a bad thing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 06:56 PM
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I didn't really live with my husband before we got married. My husband lived with a roommate. When his roommate went on vacation for a week, I brought up the idea of "playing house" for that week. At the time I didn't have a job so I took advantage of the spare time I had. He gave me a key to his place and while he was at work I prepared a dinner. He came home and we had our first homemade dinner together. He said that my cooking was good and he could get used to this. I was sad to have the week…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 08:24 PM
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I think I have that book. Gave it to my husband but I doubt he got far. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 11:01 PM
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I just really hope the Barbies do what they say and don't go back on it. When women were able to do things outside of the house, they weren't dumb and unable to make decisions. The Ken's on the other hand, have no identity outside of being a bf to Barbie. They had power for a moment and had no idea on what to do with it outside of being bossy. Ken was paying more attention to aesthetic than being a real leader. He's a himbo. Lol. It's funny because Ken had careers but was completely overshadowed…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 04:44 AM
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Honestly I think it was a reversal of roles. In the Barbie world the men are number 2 where in the real world, women are seen as number 2 to the men. Ken saw that in the real world he can be looked at more than just a himbo and wanted to change Barbie world as such. Unfortunately he put the women in the number 2 place. He says to Barbie "how does it feel?" meaning he wasn't appreciating how the Ken's were being treated. But instead of working together the Barbies took back the land and put thems…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 09:30 PM
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Nope. End it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 11:43 PM
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Find someone better. Trust me, he is more insecure than you are.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:09 AM
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I'm more into having a nice complexion than caking my face with make up. To me make up is suppose to enhance beauty. Not cover it up. You want some blue on the eyes, add some blue. Want pinker cheeks, add some pink. Enhance beauty, don't cover it up. Skincare is hard to keep correct since it seems once a month my hormones want to turn me into a pizza face. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 08:28 PM
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Dude. This isn't healthy in any way shape or form. If you feel the way you do, it's wrong. No man should ever hit a woman in this kind of relationship. Yes, he leads but doesn't hit. Violence is never ok. You should never be ok with it. Your grandmother shouldn't have ever been hit by your grandfather. It's never ok. You don't get use to it. That's no longer submissive. That is a slave. No. No. No.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 01:14 AM
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I honestly don't know. I didn't at one point because I was smaller. Now I probably am a bit too big but I'm already on a diet so I'll check in a few months.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 10:46 AM
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Doesn't matter who is physically strong or weak. Don't put your hands on someone and visa versa unless it's for self defence. Never use physical to get a point across.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:17 PM
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Until he actually does something shady, just take a sip of tea and march your butt over there and join them in on the fun! Men and women can be friends. It's ok. I get it you had your issues in the past. It's ok. But he showed you a pic of everyone and told you that the girl is pretty much taken. In a complicated way but still. I don't see her as a threat. I get jealous too just to find out there was nothing to worry about. Seeing good signs so far.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 08:15 PM
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Even if he wanted you back someday, would YOU want him back? He just left you out of the blue for someone else. Last thing you need to do is keep yourself in a stable waiting to be taken out again by someone that doesn't value you in the first place. Dust yourself off. Throw on a new shade of lipstick and get yourself someone better while working on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 09:49 PM
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It's your money. Do what you want. My husband and I got tired of dumping money into rent and bought a house in 2019. Talk about biting a bullet before 2020....
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 06:39 AM
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I was head over heels to a fault. Yes there were red flags that I should've put my foot down to before getting married. We patched up things but it took wayyyyy to long to get the ball rolling in that direction. I had problems. He had problems and we were not helping each other even though we were fooling ourselves that we were. We could be living co-dependent or just very much in love. I'm at the point I don't know the difference anymore and tired of questioning it. All I know is if I lost him …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 12:39 AM
3

I understand 100% what you're dealing with. I had to watch my husband fall on his face and what I mostly did was say "now what did I say??" It was an aggravating situation that cost us $10k. Life rule #427: NEVER EVER cosign for things for other people. Anyways. This was long before I was going into red pill. I wish I knew then how to handle it more maturely instead of pretty much saying "I told you so!" It did hurt our marriage but he knew he was in the wrong. But what he did learn out of it is…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 02:09 PM
-3

In a day? I'm jk. Lol. There is no number. I told people "I'm not a ho. I'm just sexually enthusiastic". Just don't sleep with married/taken men. It's not right. Hell people think you're a harlot if you sleep with people before marriage. Just keep yourself healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 07:04 PM
5

Sorry but it looks bleak. If he's leaving bread crumbs he's never going to give you the loaf. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 01:54 PM
20

Buy more batteries and heat up your blanket. God I miss my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 10:26 PM
1

I'm gonna ask you one thing. Do all the pros you listed override that he cheated and failing school? He could make a house look perfect and it won't mean a thing if he can't be faithful. I'm not religious so I can't put in my two cents in that but understand your worth.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 04:47 AM
9

There is a difference between testing your man by seeing how he would react in certain situations and being the cause of said situation. I've seen plenty of posts of people "testing" their man and it ends up blowing up in their face.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 02:25 AM
6

Ahhh I see. I would just ignore him. But never settle for a man that treats you bad.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:53 PM
3

Honestly the guy sounded like a dick. Was he trying to hit on you or just some random guy?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:50 PM
2

What did he say exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:48 PM
10

Keep your head up. I know it sounds dumb to hear but if you show pride in yourself you will draw in better people in general. Your parents failed in their marriage. That doesn't mean you're part of the failure. I got tattoos but I still dress feminine. You'd be surprised how nice a halter looks with a butterfly peeking out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:43 PM
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All of that is a red flag. He's trying to ruin any form of your self esteem so you don't ever leave. It's a horrible manipulation tactic abusers do. You will find love in someone that will respect you. Keep that guy as an ex .
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:12 PM
2

I don't recall what the official name is but I remember seeing ads for them on tv. I'm not very blessed in the area too but they do add to modesty. I like long skirts myself but sometimes you just want a change of pace.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 01:59 PM
7

I'm not sure what is short to you. I assume above the knee. You can wear knee length. Unless you're twirling fast like a top it shouldn't flair as much. I'm short so my dresses drop just below my knee. Still look nice. If you don't want to show cleavage, you can buy a cami piece to hook onto your bra and wear it under your top of it Vs too deep for your liking.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 01:48 AM
17

Rule #1: DON'T LOOK FOR GUYS THAT ADMIRE ANDREW TATE.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 02:49 PM
1

Well this depends. Is he subjectively wrong or objectively wrong? Subjective means it's an opinion and everyone is entitled to their own opinion whether you agree or not. Some can be made with a prejudice mind but that's when you enquire why they came up to that opinion. Objective means fact. So if he's saying false information, then I would fight it more and have Google handy. Lol. I agree with some people in saying "pick your battles". Anyone can say they are right but it takes a big person to…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 11:17 PM
6

Hmmm. I wasn't much of a gamer early in my marriage and still isn't but I do enjoy games. I enjoy non stress games like music rhythm genre. The new Theatrhythm Final Fantasy Final Bar Line is really good if it interests you. It took me a long time to really find a genre I can say I like. My attention span is short and so are my interests. I say just do your researches online and see what sparks your interest. My husband lives for RPGs. Unfortunately it's 50/50 if they are multiplayer or solo. So…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 12:40 AM
1

I haven't even finished reading this. I stopped at the suicide threats. That was too much. Let me ask you this. Were you happy at all in this relationship? Did you feel like your were walking on eggshells? Did you feel like no matter what you did it wasn't enough for him? The guy got issues. I saw the red flags the moment he starting policing who you talked to online to your clothes. He is controlling to a severe degree. Don't feel guilty for leaving. You knew you were in a bad spot and left. I …
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 05:58 AM
2

There is an old saying. "Do as the Romans do." It pretty much observe and do it. It's ok to sit back and look at the public and take notes on style. People still compliment others on their clothing and it's nothing weird about it. I would only find it odd if you were shadowing people without their knowledge. Lol. If they are wearing something you really like you could always approach them politely and ask where they got it or take notes and try to find something similar online. Just don't take p…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 07:07 AM
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You better never get pregnant, never stress out, eat perfect, and never have health problems that can add to weight. It's impossible to do. Some at some point nature will work against you. There is a difference between not watching what you eat and not able to get rid of baby weight because you body said "nope". You may end up lucky and able to keep yourself good but don't promise it. Just make an effort. But if he's going to make you promise that, he better hold it up on his end too and see how…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 06:15 PM
32

If he's on the register, and he should be, he shouldn't even be allowed by law to be near any children let alone yours
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:36 PM
1

She is an ex for a reason. You are the current gf for a reason. Don't let yourself become your worse enemy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 05:11 AM
1

Hell they came out to me out of the damn blue. Just random conversation. I guess I just got that face that says "you can come out of the closet to me". I say make an advance. If he turns you down, at this point it doesn't matter if he's gay or not. He shows he's not interested and you're barking up the wrong tree anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 05:58 AM
5

The difference between you and him is you're at the "I need to be married before I'm too old" phase while he has already been through that. It was a long marriage and it came crashing down around him. I only hope you two were really serious and not a rebound for him. Not saying he's a heartless creep, it's just people do things when emotionally vulnerable. He apparently didn't take the divorce well and trying to hop from being a husband to a boyfriend again. He may not be ready to jump the broom…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 04:07 AM
2

I love WhispersRed. One of the best voices I've ever heard.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 09:09 AM
7

Sounds like to me your ex was claiming to be an Alpha where in reality he was just a psycho that wanted you to feed his ego and beat you when it wasn't correct. Unfortunately a lot of "alphas" act like this which makes Red Pill men wonder why women are starting to pull away from them. A good provider is desirable. Not a egotistical abuser in a nice suit. Unfortunately they look alike. I wish you all the luck with your recovery and find love in the right person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 04:23 PM
1

That moment when you realize you're not really that hip. Lol. I'm American and have to question today's lingo. It sounds like he finds you attractive but his actions is showing other wise. I hope it's not the whole "oh if he treats you like crap that means he likes you". I mean if he likes you he has a mixed signal way of showing it. If you're not interested in the guy, shut it down the moment he starts flirting with you. Don't be rude about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 09:34 PM
2

Personally I wouldn't mention it to anyone. It's not really faking. It's letting them think what they wanna think. If they are wrong and find out later then I guess it's their fault for assuming instead of getting to know you. If they are going to judge you then they really don't know what being a feminist is really about. You can be a feminist and a housewife. Women want to be treated equally and respected as human beings by the man. If you want to work in the world, fine. Be a housewife, fine.…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 12:54 AM
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The moment Andrew Tate's name was mentioned I knew this was bad. The guy is a dick in the worse way. He is a "my way or highway" guy and then locks the door so the girl can't leave. Too much control on your husband's part. Imagine if your daughter grew up and married a man treating her the same. Would you like that? I doubt it. I'm not saying you need secrets. Be an open book if you like but for him to take your things and "punishing" you at the level of a small child is beyond ridiculous. I'm f…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 09:20 PM
3

Honestly? No. Hell no. Don't accept such a thing. Ask yourself this. Are you happy that he is doing this behind your back? Would it be better if he was telling you when he was gonna prowl the night like a cat in heat? He doesn't want to share you but wants that you share him. Where is the logic? Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too without you being involved. People are allowed to their own privacy but sex doesn't fall under this when it comes to marriage. He use to mess with couples bef…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 02:13 AM
3

It's one thing to like actresses and what not but a local girl? As in he can get to her easily? My god, no.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 11:17 PM
1

I wouldn't blame you. Dodged a bullet
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:42 PM
7

I didn't even get to the end of that first paragraph before I saw the biggest red flag. I'm not against foreign cultures. I've seen a pattern of men trying to convince their women to go to their home country to get married then the woman is in the most horrible situations. If this guy is playing the "if you love me you'd follow me" game, turn around and lose the number. I've never seen that story end good.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 05:57 PM
2

I would check out Amazon or wish. I got a few decent ones from there
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 06:28 AM
2

There is so special age to know better. It's just something you learn as life moves. Think of the things you learned and incorporate them into your future. You're lucky you made friends and didn't completely remove yourself. Most people end up isolating themselves from friends and family when they move and don't realize they did it until it's too late. Get yourself another box of tissues and have a few more good cries and move on. You're gonna be ok. Good luck, sweetie.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 02:15 AM
1

How to housemake. I suck at it so much.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 02:07 AM
77

Honestly. It wasn't you. It was him. He's the one that wasn't good enough. So you had an accident. It happens. The fact that he showed no concern for you is unbelievable. I don't understand why you had to apologize for having an accident. It sounds like you were trying to form yourself to be right for him and that's not right. It ok to want to be feminine and such but you're personality shouldn't have to depend on him. Be you. Even if you're clumsy. Be you. I couldn't tell you what red flags to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 12:44 AM
5

Not trying to minimize but you sure this isn't your hormones talking? I've never been pregnant so I can't speak for that but god when my period comes around my personality and opinions change drastically. To the point I'm not sure where I end and the hormones begin. I would just voice your feelings and concerns and have a civil conversation with him. Last thing I wanna see on the news is a pregnant woman slaps SO with frying pan because he breathes funny. Good luck on your pregnancy and try to s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 09:49 PM
2

Not sure how you're getting it into your hair but I'm not gonna judge. I would suggest to eat slowly and keep in mind what you're eating. If it's spaghetti or soup, don't slurp it up. It will splash. Don't keep your plate at the edge of the table but not too far away that you're reaching to cut. Take it slow. Glasses with cold liquids will condensate which can drip onto your clothing. Normally it's just water but can be unsightly. If all else, place a fancy handkerchief into your collar and remo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 01:17 AM
5

I guess the battle of career woman vs SAHM/SAHW is still ongoing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 10:10 PM
3

As much as I understand your curiosity, it would be crossing a line that he doesn't want you to do. If he's not comfortable talking of it, don't push it. Especially if this was something he needed therapy for, the questioning might trigger the behaviors and reverse the treatment. When he is ready to tell you, he will. If he prefers to take it to the grave, you will just have to accept it and respect it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 08:22 PM
18

Won't know unless you ask. You were right to turn him down to work on you. You can start by asking if he would like to go for a cup of coffee or something simple.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 04:46 AM
21

I might be an idiot and won't shy away from that fact but I don't see anything explaining. Did you delete it? I don't see it in the comments
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 01:31 AM
3

I've had days when my hair got thin or just flat. I would invest in some mousse, heat treatment spray and a good hair dryer. Oh and a round brush. Not too expensive and can work wonders once you get past the pain of holding up your arms for a long period of time.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 10:37 PM
1

Love doesn't have a height requirement. If a guy likes you, he will make it known.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 06:49 PM
1

This situation feels too familiar to me. Unfortunately it was the other way around. My husband didn't make enough so I was getting too scared to start having kids. There is more to that story but it's too personal to talk about. At first I was giving your husband the benefit of the doubt but now it just seems like he's pushing it and pushing it to where you either forget about it or it's too late to start. This just isn't fair to you and you need to make it known in a civil and mature sit down. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:49 PM
5

I get it. But look at it this way, hair grows back. You were sick and it was difficult to manage. Be happy it wasn't for cancer. At least you know how you like your hair most. I tend to want to cut my hair short in hotter months but omg I look too much like a guy and with my voice being deeper than the typical girl, ugh. I had complexes from it. I did to a wolf cut and it didn't come out too bad. Layers with length. I like it. Just a pain to pin the shorter parts back.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:30 AM
-7

You can sleep with one man you're not with and still will be looked at as a whore to whoever wants to shout their unwanted opinion at you. Society sucks. With that being said. You can explore the world of dating while also enjoying the world of sex. I can understand the curiosity. Just be responsible going about it. Understand there is always the possibility of getting pregnant and STDs. Even 1% is still a possibility. Not trying to discourage you. Just want you to know. When I starting having s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 01:40 PM
2

It can still be meaningful without him being a virgin. I do agree there is this double standard that women should keep their virginity while men can play the field all they want. If you think about it from a stand point it's mostly men that say that. I've been married for over 16 years. Damn that's surprising to say. But my husband and I weren't virgins when we met. Once upon a time I use to think that I should save it but at the time people kept saying that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Even…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 06:07 AM
10

May I ask why he must be a virgin? Like why is it a big priority?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 05:00 AM
2

It's the little things I look for.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 04:52 AM
9

Right now he's in California for the Navy. My husband today drove an hour to the nearest Target because he wanted to help me find a doll I'm currently collecting. He didn't find the one I was looking for but the thought that he drove all that way just for that is sweet....... Although the gas to get there and back. Ugh
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 11:15 PM
6

I understand the heart is trying to stay attached but listen to your brain on this one. You were part of his stable of Mares that he visited. Did he tell you you two were exclusive or did you assumed it? Either way he didn't respect you enough to date you while cutting off his other FWBs.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 04:39 PM
2

Well you just said "I don't care what they do" in regards of doing anything about it, why even care enough to tell them? Would it help the situation or make the situation work? What would you expect out of it?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 08:24 PM
2

Am I the only one that feels odd that he finds her condition a turn on? Just asking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 03:31 PM
10

From experience, FWB route is not the way to go if you want a HV man. It's like paying someone to be with you with sex instead of money. In the end most of the time you're gonna feel used and unwanted if in the end he doesn't choose you. But can you really blame him if you know you're in a FWB relationship? Up front you already know he's not looking at you past the bedroom. It's rare a guy will. But girls are guilty of it too. All I'm saying is if you want a guy that will see you past the bedroo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 07:35 PM
2

This is not a healthy relationship. Period. Don't bother trying to make it work.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 11:24 PM
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Not everything comes a second time. You chose the subject for a reason. I would take the opportunity while it's there. I would rather have a degree and not "need" it than run into a situation when I wish I had it. Starting young is good but think in the long run and what could happen. What if your husband is the breadwinner but something happens and he gets laid off or something worse? At least you will have the knowledge and paperwork to show for it and be able to take care of your family if pu…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 06:54 PM
4

I swear I feel like I was reading an old me. Lol My husband joined the navy at 25. I was 23 and kicked and screamed the whole way. Don't join if you have a bare minimum of what it's like. It's no damn picnic. I have a rule when it comes to wording. Never ever tell someone, especially your man that "he's lucky" to have you. It comes off as arrogant. You can be proud of yourself. I encourage it but just don't say "you're lucky". It doesn't send the correct message. My husband and I ended up moving…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 07:36 PM
1

This is why I said it is up to her whether it is or not since we are only given so much. If it's not, then she can disregard it. My main concern, however, is of her not knowing if she is in an abusive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 02:54 AM
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You might be dodging a bullet. It appears, from what you wrote, that he valued her over you. I'm all for allowing friends but when she is being inappropriate and he's allowing it to continue even after you told him how you felt, he still sat next to her in class. That screams volumes to me. He may have some issues to deal with that you can't help. If he's co-dependent on her and visa versa, I can see that "committed relationship" she's in deteriorating as well. I suffer from major depression and…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 09:31 PM
15

I have a sinking feeling that, even in a committed relationship, she is attracted to your bf. And you did exactly what she wanted you to do Leave.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 09:11 PM
10

Do you ever love it when an OP says their man is this wonderful person yet got a red flag redder than the Chinese flag? I know we don't try to encourage a break up unless it's on the extreme scale so I'm not going to suggest it. I can see you have attempted to change your way of thinking. I understand. I use to be like this too. Thinking relationships are one way when they are only far in between ever are. Blame TV for that. However, at this point it sounds more like a HIM problem now. He can't …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 05:22 PM
2

This is just a guess so take this as you will. Since he has experienced child bearing in the negative, hence being a father before he was ready let alone without his ok, he may view it subconsciously as something negative and doesn't want to do it again. Just because she said it was ok to cum inside don't mean she took a precaution to avoid pregnancy. This is something he learned the hard way. Not only that, she cheated on him after 6 years. Honestly, I think he's just not ready. It's not to be …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 07:15 PM
0

I'll toss in my two cents but keep in mind I am writing tired. Unless I'm completely missing something, and that can be it, but it sounds like he wants a business partner and not a girlfriend. I mean he probably does want a girlfriend but the whole "mentor" thing sounds like he's treating you as a child that needs to be lead into the adult world. It just sounds really off to me. I could be reading into it wrong but that's how it looks. And the whole "what can make your dad proud?" really sounds …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 03:33 AM
8

Personally, no. But I would check with your local laws before jumping that shark
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 01:57 AM
3

Sometimes it is like driving on vacation. Most men hate being told where to go yet they got no idea where the destination is. That's one of the best ways to help each other. My husband is always the driver because I don't have a license (I'm currently trying to fix that) and I always map out where to go. I'm not ordering him to take my route. I'm helping him to drive to the destination we chose to go to together. Sometimes he knows more than me and visa versa. Eventually you learn to use each ot…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 03:18 AM
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I pretty much had to let go of my hang ups. You can be an intelligent woman and still be able to follow. You just need a strong leader. That's how I see it at least. The problem is most men aren't taught the correct way at leading. They just think "Man lead. Woman follow." Not given any healthy guidance at how to run a home with his wife next to him. I had to help my husband to have confidence and encourage him to succeed. He second guessed himself a lot. That's when I had to help him know he wa…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 01:23 AM
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Sounds like Lance is just a quiet type and attracted to his wife's personality. Opposites can attract. If he's not complaining then I don't see a problem. I've dressed the same way before but it was for my husband's eyes. If the friends stared then it was a them problem. It's not like people could tell what color my panties were. Around my family I would dress more modest but that's me. I don't think it's the matter of the husband taking her seriously. I think he does. He just doesn't voice much…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 09:15 PM
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I would ask what his routine is. If he neglects to mention legs, you could make a suggestion that he adds it. Doesn't have to be anything rigorous but having strong legs can help when he has to lift or keep up with his cardio. If he has bad knees, like my husband does, he can look up routines that can work around it. In the end, reassure him that being buff isn't all you find attractive of him. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 01:18 PM
2

Good guess. I don't know why I was drawing a blank. Normally I can figure those out.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 12:26 AM
3

Ok I'm an idiot. What's a MC?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 11:44 PM
5

Sweetheart. You're doing fine. Just be a proper young lady and shut out your mother. Once you get yourself enough money, get out and move into your own place. Please, don't jump into the arms of the first man that says he will take you away from your abusive mother. He might be trying to use your weakness against you. I am sorry you have a terrible woman figure in your life. Just use your mother as an example of how not to treat other people, especially your children. Write down the things your …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 02:53 AM
4

I am part of the kink community so maybe I can shed some light. Sometimes some couples do it to add some spice and keep the marriage happy. We don't really swing but my husband and I have encaged in things similar. It's not much different than someone suggesting to change how to dress or how to go about certain chores in order to keep the marriage stable. My husband and I don't get in deep emotionally with the other people. It stays in the bedroom, so to speak. We started more out of curiosity a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 05:08 PM
2

That depends on what you want. Most department stores are having sales on dresses and spring apparel that are very feminine. Just go to your local mall and take a look. I'm a sucker for a nice floral design that's not over the top. Gentle pastels are nice. If you're not big on skirts, you can buy wide leg pants that can give off a flowy skirt appearance. I would pick out colors that help bring out your skin tone. If you're light skin I've heard that cool tones like greens and blues can be nice w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 02:15 AM
1

I think mirroring is when you do the behavior back at him. In other words complain as well. That might work but not all problems have cookie cutter answers. I would just flat out ask "why do you always complain about everything?" Or record him talking and play it back to him to see how he's acting. I don't have a solid answer that will make him change the behavior. When they have done it for years and show no sign of change, it's likely to continue until they die.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:35 AM
5

It can work for some but not all. If you're not ok with it, don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 07:44 PM
4

Sometimes you need to watch them sink and see if they get it in their head that THEY have to get out. It's like they are begging us to say "hey. It will work out. Just wait and see" when you know damn well it's bad and shouldn't be happening. It's like if you're gonna settle for a jerk, don't complain about it later. I once asked a girl if her husband was so rotten then why was she with him. Her answer was "he was the best I could do". In honesty, no he wasn't. They were in their early 20s not l…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 11:58 PM
1

I say keep going with what you are doing. At this point you're not only doing it for you but also for your children. Your husband is going to do what he's going to do even if it ends up not benefiting him in the long run. My husband likes to shrug as his answer to most things so I just shrug back and say the hell with him as far as health goes
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/22 08:43 PM
8

We don't really celebrate Valentine's day, pur say. We started dating on the 11th so we celebrate that instead. Normally with a nice dinner at a restaurant and have a good conversation reflecting on our years together and discuss what can happen from here. We've been together for 20 years and we still don't make much conversation. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 02:45 AM
3

Navy wife here. I'm gonna be straight. Just don't bother with this one. I have no clue what his history is and got no clue where he thinks he's going in life but to be honest it doesn't seem far. My biggest red flag is the weed smoking. Not that I'm against it but the military is Hell No on pot smoking. He gets caught with it in his system, smoking it, distributing it, his military career is toasted. My second red flag is the belittling. I don't know how you looked but I don't see how belittling…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:51 AM
3

This is just a perspective so take it as you will. I understand that you want a man that will provide for you spiritually and emotionally. What woman wouldn't? It reminds me of the movie Coming To America where Akeem wanted a wife to want him for who he is, not what he is. I did sense a few red flags but those are flags to me. Someone else may see it different. The small jokes about being a house husband. I would assume it was just a joke and nothing more to him but he doesn't seem to catch on t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 02:56 PM
3

What makes you sexually attracted to someone? Is it that his body doesn't turn you on or sometime about him mentally? Do you think he could do something that could get your motor running or feel he's better as a friend. Sex doesn't have to make the relationship but it helps when you want intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 02:25 AM
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Maybe that's why I hate it when my husband says "I get it" or "I understand". It does feel like he doesnt mean what he says. Kinda like said to make me feel better where it feels like I just talked to a wall.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 12:39 AM
6

Don't feel guilty. You're looking at what you invested into the relationship and was looking for it to come back. Like a business. You're thinking "I've invested this much, it would be insane to pull out now. It will be out of the red in 6 months". 2 years later and you're still in the red. It's a bust. The next time he decides it's a good idea to kick the hell out of you he may kill you, intentionally or not. He covered you mouth to avoid screaming for help. The flag couldn't get anymore redder…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 03:38 AM
7

Leave. Do not ask any further. Just go. I know this sub is big on not suggesting this but sweetheart, this is abusive behavior. He doesn't want to see your parents because he doesn't want others to see his behavior. He can't keep up a facade when around them I guess. He moved you across country to keep away from them. He's cheating on you with multiple women. Even if it's just emotional through a phone, it's still cheating if he's trying to keep it from you which he sucks at. I look at it this w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 03:35 AM
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How often does he get into these bad moods? Does he call you bad names like stupid and retarded even after you ask him not to? Does he make it look like all the problems are your fault? Does he take the blame for anything? Does he criticize what you do? Such as how you clean, how you dress, discipline the children. Does he help you with the household chores or expect you to do it all to his standards? Does he want to seek out of the marriage for sex partners because he feels he's not getting wha…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 04:00 AM
8

Odd friends. I don't know any girl that's cool about talking of other women to their man like that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 12:44 AM
2

It happens. Stick to your guns and find out who are your friends early.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 03:53 AM
6

Ok good. I would triple check that before you commit to the date. That was my first issue because every red flag that could pop just from the ages alone were blowing up. But I was a 16 year old dating older guys that I probably had no business being with so I'll be honest. Don't let him push sex onto you. If you're not ready, that's nothing to be ashamed of. If he tries some "oh I promise I'll be careful" and whatnot, nope. Stand your ground. Do it when you feel ok. If you're waiting until marri…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 02:20 AM
6

Uh. I'm not sure what country you live in but I'm going on a limb and assume USA. Please correct me if need be. I understand the need and want to get a head start on life experiences but this one I would wait. First, you're 16 and he's over 21. Most states find this illegal no matter how non sexual it is. Church or no church. He should wait until you're 18 if he fancies you. I'm sure you're a very mature young lady but can still be taken advantage of because of you being inexperienced. We can't …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 02:07 AM
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Sounds like he's not fully on board with the "family" part, I'm afraid.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 02:06 AM
4

Compromise isn't going to work in everything. You want it to but it won't. With that being sad. As long as you have a respectful partner, you can do a push and pull when it comes to getting what you both want. It's a hard art to master.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:05 PM
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Well my husband is in the Navy and is going to live in California for a few years so we're trying to get in as much sex as possible since it won't be easy to get until I visit him. So we're doing it more than I'm used to. As in to the point my sex drive dropped. Lol. I would say under normal circumstances it's about twice a week if I'm lucky. When I'm getting near my period I'm horny everyday but he's opposite which makes me want to claw plaster.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 12:57 AM
1

Act like the conversation never took place. Keep being the nice person you are
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 10:38 AM
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Hmm. I was once 15 and I had the same feelings you had at that time so I'll chime in. I never bothered to tell anyone. Not because I was ashamed. I guess I felt it was no one's business plus I wasn't sure if I would change my mind later because, well I was 15. Lol. I too wanted to get married, have kids and be a housewife. I wasn't expected to become a housewife. Although once I found my husband and got married, I was bombarded with "so when are you gonna pop out a baby??" to the point I started…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 11:08 PM
6

To me it's a red flag. It may have emasculated him but I would be just as concerned since he's rambling on about an investment while in the meantime you're picking up tabs hoping it will pay off. To me that's like a guy with a garage band waiting for that big break. Investments can fall through. I've been watching videos about how people invest in properties just for issues to occur. It happens all the time and it's not always a dust yourself off and try again situation. My question is, if he's …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 12:52 PM
2

I don't know a thing about your culture and how things go. I wouldn't fall head over heels right away but I would say that for any man. Tell him your side of things and let him decide if he thinks you're still good enough. I'm sure he knows quite a bit already to even consider you at the moment
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/21 01:19 PM
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It happens. I have ex's with very common names and I do think of them whenever the name is said. Does it mean I want to get back with them? No. A lot of times I want to wipe the name out so I don't hear it and get triggered with some bad memory. I got dumped on Cinco de Mayo. Still hate the holiday but don't want it gone from existence. I wouldn't dwell on it. You could ask him if he still think of his ex whenever the name is mentioned. He may take it as being jealous or overthinking it which I …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/21 06:48 AM
1

Well think it over and then talk it over with him before you make any hard decisions. I know most the women in here look at me funny and that's fine. I'm a work in progress.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 01:54 AM
2

Well. Ask yourself this. Is he worth cutting off people for? Me, personally, I got issues with jealous people. I know that sounds redundant being a jealous type but hear me out. I don't ask my husband if he's messing around with other women since he can't get any sexual release for 6 months. I trust him even though I get a nagging feeling. That's my insecurity. Nor does he ask me if I'm sleeping around since I'm home alone and men tend to love the "lonely housewife" fetish. We've been together f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 01:18 AM
3

Told you I'm the unpopular opinion (points at downvoting). The thing is with most men in this they feel that you should be the purest thing ever while they were allowed to test the cars before they buy let's say. I figured this out watching a TV show that featured men like this. They went out and messed around with other women and then once they found one they liked, they wanted the woman to cut off all men and then take them self off the market. The thing is most HVM are going to vision you as …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 01:06 AM
1

Unfortunately that's going to be often with most men. I personally don't see the disrespect of hanging out with friends. I always find it funny how guys get jealous of other men but never think for the moment that we just might kiss our girl friends. I don't see a problem but then again I'm normally the unpopular opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 12:32 AM
1

Oh my god. It's an Ex for a reason. Keep it that way. I got low self esteem but damn not that bad. And if he got the nerve to say he got a free pass card, tell him to go and shove it up his ass and twist it. You deserve better.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:28 PM
3

I am terrible with cleaning. I think my depression adds to it. I still want to do better though.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:12 AM
13

I can see the debt being a problem if it was spending sprees. That can also be a sign of a spending problem that may need more than a financial advisor. But if it's situations out of your control like medical and auto then that's a "life happens" thing and you're trying to get it paid off. So it's not like your irresponsible with your money. If he finds it a problem, just sit down and work it out on how it will make it not a problem. If all he sees is money then maybe the relationship isn't wort…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 02:45 PM
2

Thank you for saying so. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 03:26 PM
2

You'd be surprised how some people get upset over how they have a record and deserve a second chance. While I do agree with that if they have actually learned a lesson and have changed their ways. If not, then slide.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 03:38 AM
12

I'm going to try to say this in the best way I know how. You know how people say "dress for the job your want"? Use that same energy for the guy you want. If you want a man that high value, dress like you're high value. Nice clothes. Nothing up to under your butt and plunging cleavage. It will get you a man but not the one you're looking for. Leave that style for the lingerie in the bedroom. I'm not saying be a prude. I'm just saying leave that side in the bedroom. Don't sell yourself short. A r…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 11:55 PM
3

I am more or less friendless. My friends and I communicate over the net because we live far apart. That's military life for you. After a while they feel "fake". Like they aren't real. I keep in contact but I just end up feeling disconnected. To take my mind out of that direction I would take up some hobbies, mostly crafting. I would recommend joining a club/group that allows physical contact within covid guidelines. You don't have to make friends right away but at least you are engaged with peop…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 01:32 AM
5

Keep you eyes open for red flags. Most 20 year olds, male or female, tend to know what they want but not too keen on how to get them. Don't go looking for wallpaper patterns yet. Give it time and see if he's as great as he makes himself out to be. He could be one of the rare ones that got it together at 20.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 02:39 AM
1

It really sounds like this guy has some inner demons and taking them out on you. He might need some counseling or just needs to understand what it means to really be alone. I don't know what you're culture is but it doesn't sound to me you were brought up just to accept things as they are and endure the abuse. I'd say go back to your home country and just stay put and focus on you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 02:31 AM
20

I so would.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 02:53 AM
6

I'm in tears with your response. I was second guessing my answer and was hoping I wasn't offending anyone since I'm still new to this lifestyle so I was wondering if my opinion even mattered. I have noticed as well that most men feel they have the God given right to go out and have mistresses and then get pissed off when their wife gently flirts with their friend calling it disrespect. I didn't mention it because I've seen it from RPM to Rich guys to guys in general so I didn't want to slap a "a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 03:07 PM
12

I feel there is a double standard when it comes to the RP men. I'm not saying it's actually how RP mentality is, I'm still learning it myself, but this "my way or the highway" mindset isn't it. If you ever venture over to the RP men subreddits they act like women are props to a set. Nothing more, nothing less. They expect you to be wholesome and pure but at the same time feel they need to fill their royal oats before settling down. So if you're not a virgin when they get o you, you're at the lev…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 09:22 AM
2

Sounds like he doesn't like the leash. He probably thought he knew what he wanted then realized he's missing out on something else and not ready for a commitment. I'd bring it up with him and have a long hard conversation. He chased you and gave you things but in the end he still wants his cake and eat it too where this isn't going to happen. At this point he is disrespectful to you and the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 06:08 AM
1

Personally I'm against violence unless it's for self defence. And by that I mean they are actually harming him, not poking an arm. What people tend to forget that words can hurt as much as physical harm. I would sit him down and try to explain it in child talk that the girls are just doing it because they know he can't do anything because he's a boy. They are cowards that will never be better at being human than him. I have done the ignoring in the past and it either works or don't. Depends on t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 01:42 AM
3

It's not that I'm against marijuana but my husband works in government and got a 100% zero tolerance in it. Can't even be medically prescribed. If he wants a job in the government he needs to stay away from the stuff period. I can clearly see your frustration though. I would suggest a better calming coping mechanism to avoid going to the edibles. But in the end, it's up to him to make these choices
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 11:08 PM
4

Sounds like he needs to replace that bed all together. I would seriously take his hygiene in consideration. Not saying he's a slob but he could be overlooking something and not notice it or was never educated in it. His friends could be the cause of the problem, hate to say. Not saying he should dump his friends. Just not let them lay on the bed or anything in his house for that matter if they are dirty to the point of spreading bacteria.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 08:15 PM
2

I like these. I have a hard time understanding full views of what writers try to say in their books. This helps a lot
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 04:22 PM
1

I wasn't a virgin when I got married. Not saying that you don't have to be. I was a curious teenager and fulfilled that curiosity at 15. Am I ashamed? No. Am I regretting? No. Do I wish I had waited? No. It never bothered me, really. The thing with "virginity" I think people get stuck on is it's suppose to go to your soulmate. Your spouse. Your life partner. Ok, you find your future husband and get married and have sex. What if later you find out he wasn't really the soulmate you thought he was …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 07:33 PM
7

"you make me happy" and "because you love me for me" are his go to when he doesn't want to sound like a pig. When I ask him about my body he'll say "I like your ass". Take that as you will.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 10:31 PM
4

True. I will keep this in mind. Thank you for your input. Also thank you for not taking away my commenting privileges for making a suggestion that wasn't a good one. This community is better than most I'm part of. I truly mean that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 07:41 PM
1

I understand and will try to discourage it as a suggestion in the future. But I personally feel a red pill woman can't succeed if she has a weak man. Not saying that we all don't have flaws. As you can see, I do. I don't see the full picture which is why I asked questions. She wouldn't have asked for help if she was sure of her relationship. I do hope he does find his way and becomes stronger with her help. We also have a reality to face that in today's society we can't follow a man that doesn't…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 07:19 PM
6

How old are you two?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 03:51 PM
2

Oh I'm not having this problem. I was referring to what you were saying. I have known guys like him though. I came to a conclusion that he wasn't for me. I'm happy with my husband. He's not a full Red Pill but but it beats being extreme
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 03:50 PM
2

I get it. And I'm totally seeing it from your angle. This is just what I am seeing from what you wrote. It sounds like he is trying to control who you talk to, which is the opposite sex, because he feels your heart may float that way even if its totally not going to happen. Insecure people hardly ever seen it as "ok. She made a friend. Good for her." I think the film When Harry Met Sally had a quote that said "men and women can't be just friends" and thats true for some but not all people. You d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 06:03 PM
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Not saying he is cheating but I remember years ago someone once said that who ever accuses the other of cheating the most usually IS the one who is cheating. So in other words if he's trying to control how or who you are talking to while not giving himself that same restriction, he's talking to those girls not caring if you're jealous or not. This is a sign of jealousy on his end. If this is a constant thing then he's trying to keep you under his thumb. I would bring this up. If he continues to …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 08:46 AM
2

Being humble is one thing but to be honest I think he is insecure about you. If he's playing ghosting or hard to get game to see if you reach out like someone desperate, hes not worth investing into emotionally. If your compliments are genuine and he doesn't believe it then he's not going to believe anything you say, true or false. I'd move on but thats me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 02:57 AM
4

Don't feel bad. Same thing happened with my breasts. But then again when I was overweight my breasts aren't really proportional to my body. Always smaller. So when I lost the weight they looked more correct but I was still pissed at the deflated look. Its like I could never win in this. My husband even offered to try to save up money to I can have a job done because he could see how bad it made me feel. After a while I just said the hell with it. I was never "comfortable" with my body. I just ac…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 01:02 PM
4

Learn a lesson and try to be respectful to the next girl that comes across. Too young for marriage? Then don't date RPW until you are ready because RPW want to court more than date. Dating is more for people trying to get their feet wet in catching a lifetime partner. Courting is when you skip that and is looking for marriage and want to see if you fit their bill. Watch old black and white movies to get the idea. RPW arent about men being cavemen and will slap their wife when the chicken is cold…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 08:14 PM
7

If you think of it from this point of view, back in the 50s or even older, women were allowed to work. Even though it was not career level, it brought in some extra cash. This was throughout their 20s. Not all women did this but it was more common amongst the ones that hasn't married yet. Then around mid 20s to 30s or even sooner, once they get married they would leave their current job to become a housewife. Japan still do this lifestyle however they are too trying to do their own woman's lib. …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 03:45 PM
1

Last I checked the redpill for the guy's was under quarantined. Might be on its way out
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 10:18 PM
2

I am so not a fan of cold weather. I try to go with "feminine" colors like pinks and purples. I am a sucker for rose. A splash of color on the face doesn't hurt. It seems during the winter months it gets drab and monotone in color and looks depressing. So adding color to your outfits will help feel warm and inviting. Sometimes personality can help. Even in an oversized hoodie I still try to hold a cheerful smile for my husband on our outings
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 09:17 PM
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A little encouragement with a slice of homemade pie should help. I know it sounds cheesy but it helps with my husband. Sometimes he gets depressed in his job and sometimes a loving snuggle with some encouraging words can help lift a spirit here and there. Letting him know that it won't make you leave can be reassuring too. Don't kiss his ass. Just be there.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 05:33 PM
5

Try getting a different job or maybe a hobby that can turn into a mini business. Like crocheting. Until you're married, try to bring in some income on your end. If you break up or worse came to shove, you still have money in your pocket. Plus it will keep you from going nuts trying to make use of your time.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 01:22 AM
8

The best of luck with your channel. I will make sure to check it out. Please post a link when you get it launched.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 01:28 AM
1

Well they do say "admittance is the first step towards recovery". Try making a list of what you're hard headed about and feel entitled to and all that and see what is opposite. Sometimes it takes practice to get use to the lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:52 PM
1

Well I learned a new word today. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 02:25 AM
4

Apparently your bf got a lover that wanted more than just a lover. I'm not sure if he said up front to her that it was just a sexual relationship and nothing more. If all its going to do is ruin what you two have and make you very uncomfortable, it maybe best to split up until he figures out what he want. Not all men want a side chick.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 04:21 PM
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