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I think what you are trying to say is they’ve miscategorized anyone who doesn’t fit their preconceptions as an outlier and they aren’t correct about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:42 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:03 PM
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Ya mine mostly is too, and I’ve scanned it a little out of curiosity. They are both mostly about hating the gender they are fixated on dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:40 AM
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Gross. I am always kinda surprised when people don’t like sex but I guess they are out there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:38 AM
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There are some things it their philosophy that make sense. The sub is largely full of hypocrites though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:36 AM
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While I can’t understand why anyone would put themselves in that position, it seems to be mostly men that are looking for it. I am not from a remotely religious area and it’s extremely high cost of living here though, so that likely makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:35 AM
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Yep. The uneducated stay at home mom is uncommon outside the lower and lower middle class, and the educated stay at home mom is uncommon outside the wealthy. In my middle to upper middle class life and upbringing the vast vast majority are families made up of 2 working and educated professionals + 2 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:21 AM
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Yep. I’m in that relationship and we have a kid together also. I don’t resent that his child is part of our family, no. I do wish there could be a better relationship between us and her mom though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:06 AM
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It was to a lot of the now-single moms so many here are constantly whining about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:05 PM
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The stay at home wife is pretty much only for the far ends of the socioeconomic scale anywhere I’ve lived. The middle class is pretty much two incomes to survive at this point. So if a guy wants to come home from his normal person job and get the 1950s primary earner with a housewife treatment, he’s going to be pretty much out of luck in most cases. Women aren’t going to keep bringing 50% of the household income, doing 90% of the house and childcare and also have a useless man sitting around wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:04 PM
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Caveat that when I was single I did start reading FDS to see if I could use anything there and very quickly realized it was not at all for me, in appeal or alignment. I think like everything else, the premise isn’t bad. If it were just at a highlight reel level a message to put your own needs first and find someone who aligns with those needs to add to and improve your life, then ya, that’s great. And if it were both ways, not just a “I take” message to build your relationship on. The need for y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:11 AM
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My partner says yes I say no. He is much more charismatic, likeable and sexy in life than in text. I think it depends on gender a little. Men seem to hate the apps. I was better on the apps than in person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:05 AM
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It’s an “all women are bisexual but bisexuals actually don’t exist, it’s just for the pleasure of men” thing. Long standing stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:56 PM
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Obviously less attractive people pair with less attractive people. There are examples of this everywhere. This question, as it always can be, can be answered very easily by leaving your house once in a while and looking at the people out in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:27 PM
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I had another woman try to interfere with a newly forming relationship by telling him I was in love with him (I’d known him for like a week at this point,) which possibly she thought was her and i competing for him. Had this flipped his attention from me to her I wouldn’t have cared, though. That would have just been an indication he didn’t really like me much, anyway. Oh well, why spend the energy on someone not interested in me? I can’t think of any reason I’d compete with another woman for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:23 PM
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It depends I guess, if by alternative you mean the guy who’s 40 and dresses like a teenage goth kid, not so much. But someone alternative who still dresses and behaves age appropriately, ya that’s absolutely my type. I actually really like more feminine men I’ve come to realize. I’ve liked the gym bros, I actually am a gym bro, I guess, but that’s not really my “type.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 05:44 PM
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Yea, the men who are secretly hitting up other men on grindr behind their wives backs are definitely lying. Obviously every man isn’t fucking their friends. That would be ridiculous. My point is that the statement that it’s not men who are experimenting is not the story men who admit their experimentation or who are gay /bi tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:35 PM
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Yep, that’s about right. Grindr is overflowing with “straight” married men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:08 PM
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Surprising nobody who has any friends in the LGBT community.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:49 AM
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Bisexual and gay men tell a very very different story about “straight” men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:45 AM
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Agreed, I think there are a lot of people who are poly or some version of open in their relationships but don’t make it their identity and still have normal friendships and other relationships. Those that are the most vocal seem to have being poly as like a main personality trait
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 10:57 PM
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I am guessing you are quite young? People have been staying single longer when they are educated, starting careers, etc for a couple decades now. Unless major changes to cost of living or income early in careers ever happens (which seems unlikely) I doubt it will start to skew younger. So I think this perception is just an age thing, once people hit their 30s they seem to settle, despite what many here want to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 07:32 PM
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What a weird thing to have such a strong opinion on. I can’t imagine what other peoples relationships have to do with someone not in their relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 07:06 PM
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Men need a lot more empathy and help leaving abusive relationships than they get. Calling someone trapped in that cycle a chimp is really really shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 06:24 PM
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That’s my experience also. Mostly couples, and some single women. Single men are generally not welcome so the numbers skew based on that for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 05:24 PM
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I don’t think most poly people would consider serial FFM threesomes to be poly, more open or something like that. It seems you are talking about fucking multiple people not maintaining multiple relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 05:13 PM
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We ya, removing the ethics from any type of sexual relationship, open or monogamous or whatever else is a guaranteed disaster for that relationship. I do find it interesting to differentiate poly relationships as not having a primary partner, I haven’t been poly but the poly people I’ve known have had a primary partner generally, they they referred to. Whatever though, these things are obviously completely personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:58 PM
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It’s a safety thing though, not a desire thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:44 PM
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From what I have seen, women make men seem confusing by trying to assign their behaviour (if men they like) to an elaborate variety of excuses and reasons. Usually it’s much much simpler and there is nothing to read into. He didn’t text back because he didn’t want to. The end. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship because he wasn’t. The end. That being said this applies to younger men and women, not people with life / dating experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:37 PM
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Is swinging male centric? Any swingers club or sex club I’ve been to makes a massive effort to be female centred (and achieve it)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:33 PM
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The ones I know of that work and are together long term started as poly Open or swinging, that seems to have been more often initiated by women that I’ve known of. My relationship being the exception I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:27 PM
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They don’t, they just love the fantasy they have that the women who aren’t interested in them are sitting home alone wishing their fuck buddy would marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:06 PM
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This thread is hilarious. Men cant get matches, women get too many to even respond to but for some reason we should include men we aren’t attracted to? Beyond “I wanna get my dick wet” why would you think we would do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 06:12 AM
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I’m not sure why men that are so worried about losing half their assets don’t set a standard with partners that things are 50/50 contribution. Ya if you want a kept woman you purchase then you risk having to support her after the relationship ends. So don’t have a relationship like that. Find an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 04:50 PM
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Compatibility in finances, sex, family and hobbies. You need to genuinely like each other and want to spend time together. No pill really. If I have to pick, blue I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 04:13 PM
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Go to SE Asia and take a look at all the old white guys who essentially purchased a local wife. This is not a new idea. I don’t know that I’d be so ok with the way the rest of the world saw me if I did that, but do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:55 AM
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That’s kind of funny. If they existed Id probabaly fuck a robot just to try it. I also think it would be hilarious to have a 3 way with a robot and my partner. As for using it as a threat, also hilarious. Enjoy….? This is the equivalent of the guy that hits on you in a night club and then when you turn him down he proclaims “I wouldn’t fuck you anyway.” Ok, I still don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:50 AM
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And someone finically competent. I made that mistake and luckily got out just losing real estate. We didn’t have kids though. And he had a lot of people he surely told fantasies about being the primary earner, otherwise I imagine he would have known he could come after my savings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 05:22 AM
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With the caveat that being a housewife would by pretty much my worst nightmare, I think any woman who doesn’t have a way to support herself in this day and age is extremely short sighted. I have never understood why anyone would want to rely on someone else for their safety, security, well being. We can’t predict the future. What if your husband dies or goes to jail or leaves you for his secretary? I also have no idea why any man would want to risk having a housewife though. Where I live it’s li…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 03:10 AM
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I guess I am a man based on the way you’ve phrased most of the above. I did avoid paying my ex husband out but we didn’t have children. None of that requires being a man, aside from the family court / custody biases which I agree are unjustified at this point and based on the a premise that pisses me off, which is that they basically assume I couldn’t support my own family without a man to help. Fuck that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 03:02 AM
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Go to any forum where fathers are talking about their rights and custody, courts, etc and let them know there is no bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:54 PM
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Right. There is no bias in the court system because women are better at child care and should stay home and receive money from their ex, right? That’s certainly not patriarchy. Dropping your preconceptions and doing 3 seconds of googling is your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 05:20 PM
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Mine too and I ordered pizza. It’s rainy season and apparently I’m in hibernation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:38 AM
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If kinda depends if you think success is just about money. I don’t know how many actual narcissists I’ve met but those with narcissistic traits are definitely not the happy or even kind of happy people I’ve known in my life. Successful people, as defined by more metrics than just money, seem to have a lot of friends and family they are close to and priorities that include caring for others and doing kind things. Those are not things compatible with narcissistic traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:36 AM
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How is this circlejerking?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:14 AM
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Haha emotional abuse is as low value as professionally scamming welfare for your income. This guy is delusional if he things he’s anything but trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:11 AM
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If you don’t know what is being referred to by “the patriarchy,” maybe don’t use the word?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:26 PM
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I have to say I don’t care and I’m not rude to men who hit on me that I’m not interested in, but their reaction to my rejection sometimes does require rudeness. To me it’s not so much a “stay within your league” thing, because who even has a definition for that, but no need to be rude or aggressive over a polite turn down.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:24 PM
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If that’s the case, why don’t they stop whining about how women’s standards are too high? Please go masturbate and leave us alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:05 PM
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Hahahahha now feminists are making men less attractive? Wow is there anything we can’t do? But ya, men tend to be more attractive when they aren’t fat (and when they have good teeth, that seems to be a major contributor to jaw line shape) I’ll give you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 10:49 PM
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Abusers tend to feel this way. So anyone claiming this might want to take a long look at themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:00 PM
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The abuser is at fault, there is no responsibility on the abused other than to leave the relationship. And 100% agreed, it is time to stop acting like men can’t be abused
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:57 PM
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Is this what women want??? I’ve never heard anything close to this. Based on what I saw in the recent threads the women responding didn’t care about their partners count, I didn’t see comments preferring a higher one than theirs. Dunno though, I completely don’t care how many people my partner has slept with so I’m not your target for this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:47 PM
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I see it here. It’s just very… made up seeming.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:31 AM
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Yeah but assuming you aren’t religious or socially conservative, if you consider those factors, how many of the republicans are in relationships you’d even want to be in?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:22 PM
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How is this conversation ever happening….. “so you like anal” “yep, into it” “IS THIS BECAUSE OF CHAD” “…..who?” The more I read here the less I believe the men writing these kinds of posts have ever had a conversation with a potential date.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:06 PM
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Excluding same sex hookups removes a lot of the open relationship dynamics I’ve heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:03 PM
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Exactly. The idea their description of that guy makes him somehow celibate is hilarious. The skinny, yoga doing, soft talking long hair guy is doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:53 PM
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Yeah that’s also fair. I have but not to the extent that I’d date someone opposed to LGBT rights or abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:39 PM
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right. We “discriminate” against men who support political candidates who would decrease our quality of life and safety in the same way men “discriminate” against women who are only after them for their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:59 PM
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Outside of thinking you can change someone I guess. You don’t need a whole lot of dating experience to find out that task is futile, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:48 PM
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I’m not American but it’s not far off where I am. But I doubt it will affect anyone it’s not already affecting. Left leaning men will continue to date and the right wing ones will continue trying to insult them over how they they see them as not masculine, or wherever other insult. The left wing men will continue not to care about this, nor will the women who don’t want to date right wing men. Life goes on I wouldn’t bother with dating someone who’s values were this unaligned with mine, I don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:14 PM
3

Sure. My current partner isn’t into those things and I don’t miss them. All bdsm related.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 02:31 AM
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Hahah exactly. Who is going “Neener neener I happily did atm with my ex but NOT YOU”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 02:28 AM
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Well I don’t remember the details beyond a claim of being able to make 300k and deciding to make 30 instead though hahah. There wasn’t really anything that I recall being in the list I’d be happy with in my partner, though. It didn’t read as “alternative” so much as lack of interest in actually accommodating a partner so this is defiantly not a person for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:18 PM
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You wouldn’t be compatible with me, but I’m sure there is someone who wouldn’t be totally put off by this list.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:54 PM
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Hahaha that leap speaks volumes. But No. I said you’ve removed yourself from a dating pool that doesn’t want you. The men crowing about the wall seem to be social conservatives looking for a virgin to be their housewife. What women who just spent the past 10 years working on her career, making good friends, getting relationship experience, travelling, etc wants that? None I know. But by all means, congratulate yourself for rejecting someone that didn’t want you in the first place if it makes you…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:55 AM
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Have you really not seen unattractive couples who have kids? Or is that point 2 in some convoluted way that puts 99% of people are unattractive? This seems obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:47 AM
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Yeah the cat calling was far more prominent when I was a very child looking 14 than actually in my prime. It’s been clear a long time it has never had anything to do with my attractiveness. This idea the “wall” is something we fear is just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:35 AM
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It’s not that we think your wall isn’t real. It’s that you are removing yourselves from a dating pool that doesn’t want you anyway and then claiming victory. You built a wall around your self and expect us to care that you did that. Ok, congrats. You did it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:27 AM
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Not in that context, it never occurred to me that someone would waste their time by pretending to want to date me. That would be a pretty pathetic move and anyone who does that deserves nothing but pity. But doubting someone’s desire for me, of course. Even in relationships with someone who wasn’t affectionate. Women get insecure, I’m surprised this isn’t obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:57 PM
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Hahaha no thanks. You are nuts if you think being a fixer-upper is an attractive quality in a potential partner. Who would want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:45 PM
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We have no patience for wasted potential. Don’t mix those up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 07:51 PM
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What the fuck are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 07:50 PM
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It’s hilarious that men seem to believe this. Covering a balding, sun damaged, spare tire having body in a suit does not make one “fine wine”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:42 PM
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If he tried something and didn’t like it, i wouldn’t want him to do it with me. If he just suddenly turned into a prude we wouldn’t be sexually comparable and I wouldn’t bother with being in a relationship with him. I assume that yes his past sex has an impact now as he’s very communicative and very good at it. Because of this I do a whole lot with him that I didn’t do after trying (as I didn’t enjoy) with previous partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:38 PM
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This subs claims are so far opposite to my experience it’s actually laughable. I don’t know if it’s my location or what but the men who were interested in me in my 20s vs my 30s are no comparison. In my 30s I attract men who have good careers, life experience, are actually settled and interested in relationships as opposed to the 20 something wanna be players and conservative mommy seekers I had nothing in common with. I guess my “wall” has had the opposite effect, the undesirables seem to be on…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:18 PM
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Haha yeah I learned in my early 20s it was always the finance bros showing up with a whole lot of coke.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:59 PM
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And probably don’t have a lot of dating experience, even where they claim to. There are many stories that seem quite invented.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:57 PM
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That there are no small number of bitter, insecure men who don’t seem to like women a whole lot still trying to date women. Lots of red flags to be aware of for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:55 PM
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I’m not that bad, but some indication of his being really conservative, religious, or “women are all blah blah blah” and I’d be done. That’s a sign of incompatibility and I’m not interested in wasting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:31 PM
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A normal conversation and a hey let’s hang out. If they are friendly, give some indication they looked at my profile, don’t go straight to “let’s fuck” and have something beyond “hey” to keep a conversation going (you are absolutely wrong that it’s just women who kill conversations like that), that’s about it. There isn’t some magic line or phrase. I don’t care enough about meeting some stranger who probably looks nothing like his pictures to carry the conversation from the get go. Sorry. Not wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:29 PM
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The op, who I figured was the only person who would be this dedicated to trying to convince a stranger his cheap clothes looked stylish. The post is deleted so it might have been someone else, no idea. It’s embarrassing enough a claim to have this level of a tantrum denying, so I get it, either way. Lol me as low IQ. Cute defence. Here’s a tip, if you want to hurt someone’s feelings it helps to insult them with things that are remotely true about them. But the tantrum route instead of trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 11:57 PM
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Lol wasn’t it this point that had some claim you’re getting catcalled by women for wearing a leather jacket? Yeah, it’s clear you think those you interact with are dumb. Good luck in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 10:17 PM
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Hahahahha your defensiveness borders on cute, but that’s of course with the separation of not actually interacting with someone who communicates like this in real life. Whatever you need to tell yourself though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 05:18 PM
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…..your example was Walmart. I actually have no idea what shein sells, though. I’m talking about banana republic, H&M, etc. but whatever I’ve clearly struck a nerve. Wear whatever you like, as anyone will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:54 PM
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Lol you really do not need to get your back up so hard. I get all my clothes tailored too, I’d just never bother if they were some fast fashion throwaway thing, it’s not worth the investment for something that can be washed 5 times before it looks worn out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:41 PM
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Hahaha ok sure. Whoever the guy is that gets Walmart suits tailored probably looked good. I’d like to know more about this guy and what the rest of his life is like. Also you responded as though I’m a guy. I’m not. And yes style means well put together but pretending things don’t fit/drape and over all look better when you buy them even at a mid range store vs banana republic or H&M is ignoring a lot of what actually makes a person look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 03:50 PM
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It’s kind of hard to look stylish at 40 when wearing cheap clothes, so price point is kinda age dependent in my experience. I had men my own age in mind, which puts them in their late 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 10:12 PM
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Yeah, it’s not a far leap to go from caring about your appearance to caring about your career. But it can absolutely be smoke and mirrors and those fancy shoes might just mean credit card debt, so it’s never assumed as a given
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:25 PM
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The responses are especially hilarious when it’s from someone who wants a virgin mommy for them and their children. Like…. Ya, I know, you “wouldn’t fuck me anyway”. I’m devastated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:15 PM
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I think in my experience it’s because so many men are really visual, where I’d say it’s much less common for women to be. I know for me, for example, reading erotica over watching porn is no comparison, even if the scene were identical. The erotica is way superior to me. Most men I’ve come across aren’t like that. So I’d imagine knowing this about your partner would trigger the insecurity if they are looking at photos
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:33 PM
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It’s a pretty short term gain to pretend that you can handle your parter having a sexual history if you can’t. Being honest about it would save you both the time and conflict of trying to have a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:29 PM
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This is my thought. It probably does work in some cases. It signals who to avoid, to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:25 PM
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And let me guess, you have the audacity to not fuck any and every fat guy while having also ever fucked someone else in your life, right? 😵‍💫🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:19 PM
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This is why I liked bumble, height is right on the profile. I’m not so worried about dating a guy who is tall I just would prefer him to be taller than me, and I’m pretty tall. It’s good information to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:15 PM
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I fully don’t get doing this, as a woman. Why set yourself up to get rejected in person for lying? People are bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:14 PM
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Yeah, I’ve swiped on both genders on the apps. It’s really not hard to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:35 PM
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I do not in any way feel bad about my sexual history. Your insecurity is your problem, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:23 PM
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Why do you want to be with an arrogant narcissist anyway? I’d think you’re better alone than with that person. Id sure feel I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:21 PM
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There seems to be this attitude that men can’t find a woman and therefore women should change. Why would they? They aren’t the ones bothered. Bring more to the table if you want to be valued more. If, as the claims go, women are so negatively affected by the way the situation is working for them, they will reassess and change their standards, or be alone won’t they? It seems they are not bothered enough to lower their standards to include the PPD masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:20 PM
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Hahahaha right. I’ll absolutely shame someone to their face if they get their panties in a twist over my past sexual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:10 PM
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Share them all you want but don’t act like you are being “censored” if people think you are an asshole for it. That’s the hypocrisy of stating what’s just an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:08 PM
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I never understood the point of putting “no fat chicks” in a dating profile. You are picking someone mostly based on their looks out of a catalog, how hard is it not to pick a fat chick? All staying it is doing is making everyone else think you sound like an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:06 PM
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I can’t imagine those women are dating though, are they? This seems like a them problem, and why bother with them? If you consider them a 3 I imagine you don’t want to date them anyway so where’s the loss?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:36 AM
2

Ahhhh gotcha. Missed an option I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:42 AM
1

Oh for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:34 AM
3

Being purposefully obtuse is kind of pointless here. You know what type person I’m referring to or you maybe you just haven’t actually met poly people before.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:33 AM
3

Yeah True. The way they describe being poly sounds like describing a lifestyle so I used it, I don’t have a better word. Like it’s tied into their life, identity, and all of their relationships. That is the person I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:23 AM
5

Yeah there can be a very weird over statement of living this “lifestyle” that sounds a whole lot like over compensation. Or they tie it into their identity in a way that would raise flags if it was a 1 on 1 relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:12 AM
0

By the same definition that all women have decided to remain single, I guess. You don’t need to experience more than one like this to just go, fuck it, I’m way better off alone, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 12:59 AM
2

Yeah I have found the same. The want the on paper ambition and income, but then don’t like the traits that actually got me there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 12:23 AM
6

Yeah what a wild comment. Anyone wondering why some women would just prefer to be single, look no further. This is what’s out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 12:05 AM
8

I’d stay single. Man number one, I already dated that guy. No thanks. He’s tedious and it’s probably all smoke and mirrors. Man number 2 is just unappealing, I’m not interested in carrying an unambitious low income dependent. I want an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:28 PM
1

Yeah, I mean obviously someone who isn’t committed to and never will be isn’t going to be committed to you. Why would she be?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:53 PM
1

It’s hilarious they think they are somehow protected because they didn’t sign a piece of paper. Maybe it would be a good idea to look into the laws where they are, where I am no paper needed, your kid is your financial responsibility, as is potentially your ex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:51 PM
2

Ok. I’m pretty over caring what anyone else accepts as a standard for their own relationship, but if that’s not what you want, don’t accept it. I sure learned the hard way. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 03:07 PM
7

Of course not. I swiped because they had something interesting or attractive in their profile. I might get to know them based on whatever the next interactions are like, and meet them in person. I might sleep with them if I like them based on that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 04:43 PM
2

I always thought Reddit skewed younger than I am, and from my parents generation on the divorce rate has been…. Not low. So I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:32 AM
0

No sense of humor is an understatement!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:31 AM
2

You should do what works for you. Some people seem to be naturally monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:29 AM
4

Lol and they sure are mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:12 AM
10

He took complete advantage. No respect for any of our financial agreements, basically he treated me like an atm
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 10:27 PM
16

This doesn’t surprise me. When I started making significantly more than my ex, our relationship changed a lot. It lasted 3 more years but they weren’t good years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 07:24 PM
2

No. Not at all. It’s futile in my opinion and experience to keep a relationship going if you aren’t compatible. No one ends up happy. It’s better to find someone who you are compatible with in all ways, because then you will be on the same page as far as working on your relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 01:58 AM
8

Sounds like something someone might do who was still in high school. A grown man doing that seems pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 01:47 AM
3

The improve yourself gets lots in favor of acting like they already improved themselves. They just moved directly to demanding others recognize they fit the description of someone who improved themself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 01:46 AM
1

The sex negativity is really blatant. It reads as people who don’t like sex looking down on those that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 01:29 AM
6

If it works for them, power to them. Hopefully it makes them happy. Men who fall for all that shouldn’t complain that this is the person they got into a relationship with though. The writing has been on the wall the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:16 PM
1

Lol sure champ. Whatever you need to tell yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:41 PM
1

Nope. But I thought this thread Im replying to is about some arbitrary and apparently manipulative behaviour. I guess it’s more whining about how women who have had one night stands before aren’t into you enough to have one with you. Lol you guys are so self fulfilling in these theories.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:58 PM
3

At my last company I can think of quite a few couples. Everyone is mostly in the same building, but the couples were never in the same group/team. It’s like an engineer in one part of the company with an accountant in some other, or a project manager in one group with a project manager in some unrelated other group. Where I work now I don’t know so many people yet so I’m not sure. But the company is bigger than the last one so I’m sure there are people dating/married in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 08:40 PM
2

I probably wouldn’t date someone who acted intimidated by me, no. Based on your description, the initial attraction wouldn’t be there so we wouldn’t get off the ground. Age isn’t related though. My SO is younger than me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 08:37 PM
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It depends, I work for a company with a couple thousand people working for it. Dating someone I work directly with would be dumb imo but for the same company, it doesn’t seem like it would be a big deal, really. You’d have to formalize it with HR which would be kind of weird I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 08:35 PM
1

I am a chick. I have never even heard of this happening, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 08:29 PM
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Yeah, if my partner turns me on im going to be more open. I’m not generally going to have sex with someone I’m not attracted to though. That article seems really sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:09 AM
2

This is a Reddit philosophy that I have never once heard of in real life. It is so wild to be so fixated on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:00 AM
1

Lol yeah based on internet rating standards I am pretty much a bridge troll so I answered. Based on real life, people don’t seem offended by how I look.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:27 PM
2

I’m fine looking but I’m no way going to be confused with a model. I was being catcalled and “hit on” in public as a very young looking 13 year old. Looks have nothing to do with that. Easy in the sense that if I dropped my standards I could get laid. Date, no. Sleep with, usually. I have a more attractive partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:25 PM
2

My SO is for sure you the primary parent in my house down to taking the bulk of the parental leave. Find someone who wants the same thing as you do. They exist. He’s back at work now because we are both professionals and didn’t want to financially struggle in the most expensive city in the country, but if we lived elsewhere we could have kept the single income thing going. It’s possible even with some girly job like I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:24 PM
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This is it, it’s not “feminisms” fault OP can’t connect with one of these types. This sub is full of men whining they can’t find a woman to mommy them and their kids. I’m sure there are a few of them around in real life, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:17 PM
1

I’m happy with the medical advice I revive from people who know what they are talking about, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 03:06 PM
3

Haha ok. I guess you’ve never met an adult who grew up with a stay at home mom if that’s your take.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 10:47 AM
14

Lol a lobotomy is probably the only way I’d become a housewife
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 04:22 AM
3

The beauty of the way my life is set up is that I will never be trapped with anyone nor will they with me. I have for my entire adult life been, and will always be a highly educated working professional. My children will be better for it, because of both my ability to educate them in school type topics and in life so they will also never be financially dependent on someone else as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 04:15 AM
5

That’s really sad. I hope you find someone to talk to about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 04:11 AM
8

Saying this is basically equal to saying women who want to be stay at home parents want to be subservient dependents to their husband and children. In other words, it’s ridiculous and not true in almost any circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:17 PM
8

I’d rather end up old and single than old and having been trapped in an unhappy marriage for 20+ years because I had no financial options.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:15 PM
3

Talking about “feminism” as a nebulous blob that says or does a thing is really only used in blaming it for things. If you separate the loud, specific highly opinionated from the mix you’ll probably find most people who identify as feminists want women to choose to live their lives in ways that keep them safe and make them happy. Often being completely financially reliant on another person is counter to that, so to me, being a stay at home anything is completely off the table. But as a decision …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:13 PM
2

Yeah, some of these peoples views of sex is wild and seems so pointless and toxic. But I’ve always been self sufficient so maybe that’s why I don’t get it. I’d rather hire someone to move a couch for me than have bad sex with someone to get him to move a couch for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:49 PM
1

I’ve had this conversation so many times. If you set a standard for your behaviour to “get” a woman, be that spending money, or whatever else, stop complaining that this is the kind of women you have. You literally did exactly the thing on purpose that you now resent doing. I don’t feel sorry for you. She didn’t manipulate you, you are the one that thought somehow that her expectations were temporary. And ya, wah wah wah, “then I get no women”. Ok? So you make the decision that you want to “have…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:44 PM
2

Hahaha these responses. But seriously, dude. You don’t have female friends. That’s not friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 06:11 PM
2

Ha this was part of the issue when I was married. And I fucking tried. I hired someone to clean, I bought the pre made food boxes… but ultimately i know I was a massive bitch about it because now I’m supposed to be both the primary earner and the housewife? Fuck allllll the way off with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:29 AM
1

If the child only lives with the mother, this is true. In most cases that’s not what happens so the father bears the extra costs that land on the mother and on his own house.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:06 PM
5

Except somehow we are also huge sluts getting high n counts (somehow the counts are high even though we are all banging the same guy)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:39 PM
1

Yes it’s hypocritical where both are working and intend to continue doing so. If someone wants a housewife then imo they should support that person as though that’s their “job” though. (I can not in any way relate to agreeing to that arrangement from either side of the relationship though)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:29 PM
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The wealth transfer where I am in spousal support. It’s insane. My parters child with me is third in priority in the eyes of the court. His first and second financial obligations are to his first kid and her mom. She decides not to work or do anything to support her child and he and I and our kid get to bear the financial burden. Electing not to work and support your own child is negligence and it’s horrific that the courts reward this instead of do anything to stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:12 PM
2

Ya I don’t know. Child support, whatever, it’s like $700 but the spousal is atrocious. I loathe women who “prove” we are just out to fuck over our kids fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:15 PM
2

Sorry you are going through that. Unfortunately it’s not uncommon, I’ve learned. My partner is going through similar and my preconceptions have been blown wide open seeing this whole thing play out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:06 AM
1

This is the major problem. Making the dads who want to spend time with their kids fight, pitting parents against each other and further destroying the relationship between two people who have to parent together for sometimes 18 years ahead, while acting like the thing causing the rifts in the first place is just child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:18 AM
1

It’s weird to me to care how much or little sex someone else has had / wants their partner to have had, but I wouldn’t consider dating someone who expressed those views to me. They wouldn’t ever know my body count or be given the opportunity to reject me over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:14 AM
6

Lol I think the error is thinking there is any win for us in “winning” with red pill men. If they don’t like me, I’m doing my life right I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:48 PM
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I’ve often wondered that about those women. Don’t they want to be around people their own age? I never dated anyone long term who was that much older than me, but in the short flings the compatibility was not good because of life stage and priorities. This was me at 27 vs them at 38 though. I feel like that’s a different kind of gap than 21 to 31.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:15 AM
1

You probably want to look at the laws where you live. Where I am living together = marriage for the purposes of joint property, support, etc. Especially if you have kids. I got out by the skin of my teeth from losing investments, etc to my ex. I did lose my property. Sign a prenup of better yet get together with someone financially competent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:00 PM
1

Ya exactly. And I’m not saying any of those are things to be ashamed of! They are the ones says that. They are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:56 PM
3

I don’t think I’m hot. But I have standards. “Negging” doesn’t change those standards
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:27 PM
4

The idea that women thinking they are “too hot” is somehow affected you is hilarious. You think she thinks she a 9 but she’s a 4? Ok you probably don’t want to fuck her anyway, so who cares that she thinks she’s hotter than you think she should? You think she’s a 7 and you do want to fuck her but she thinks she’s too hot for you? Bad news: you taking her down to the 7 you think she should be still isn’t going to make her want to fuck you. Here’s a theory: women would rather just not get laid at …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:21 PM
1

I’m actually not at all opposed to casual sex, but it’s going to be with someone I know at least likes and respects me. I don’t need to be exposing myself to stds to sleep with someone who doesn’t even care if I orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:55 AM
10

Yeah I’ve lurked there. So many posts from women who would immediately be labelled low value / ghost him if it were the description of a man. And it seems to be backed by how to demand more from men, nothing about self improvement or improving your own circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 07:46 PM
3

Not a change. They wouldn’t want to date me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:56 PM
1

Holy fuck you people are delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 08:01 PM
1

As you get older neither of you care. I don’t know my SO’s, I know the range. Same him of me. It’s not a big deal in our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:26 PM
1

Then don’t date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:24 PM
4

I dunno some people don’t value sex as much. I wouldn’t be in a sexually incomparable relationship but there are plenty of people who are and seem to stay in them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 03:47 AM
1

I don’t see a whole lot of reason to do it if you don’t culturally value it. If you live with someone for a set amount of time where I live, separation is treated the same for marriage or just common law. Child care separation stuff doesn’t require having been married. For my own divorce (I’m a woman), the only thing being married resulted in was the massive waste of money for the wedding and the few thousand for the divorce papers. And actually I think the agreement behind it would still have b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 03:36 AM
6

Not really, you are talking about a few different things. It wouldn’t matter anyway if it were me, fixation on sex id had with other people would be a massive red flag. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 01:46 AM
5

The problem may be you are bad at it. 🤷‍♀️ not sure this is much of an issue anyway, at least for me a fixation on sex acts i did with a past partner would be indicative of a whole lot of other bullshit I’m running fast and far from.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 01:44 AM
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If she enjoyed them, she’d do them with you too. Unless you were bad at it. You’re probably delusional, but maybe just bad in bed if this is perceived as happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 04:31 PM
13

If she liked it she’d want to do it. Why do you want to fuck someone in the ass who doesn’t like it? It makes no sense. It’s kinda self fulfilling, if someone used that logic on me I wouldn’t be into them any more anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 04:30 PM
27

No to choking and probably no to most degradation. It’s weird to fault someone for being open and adventurous enough to try something and find out they don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:55 AM
1

Hahaha very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:50 AM
5

I mean, I’m no prude but having an easy time attracting and having casual sex doesn’t make it worth while. It’s not about capability, it’s about risk/reward. I’d say there are a very high number of women who have had bad sex with a one night stand (and let’s be real, it usually is ok at best) just don’t do it again once they realize it won’t be worth it to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:49 AM
2

Ya, I have no idea what the demographic of this place is but something makes it very different than my life experience
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:24 AM
6

I have never felt the need to wait to have sex. If I like the guy, I’ll do it. If you wait for month, do you get the new relationship energy starting at whatever point you start having sex? Or do you not get it? I’m kinda surprised at all the answers where women waited so long, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 12:32 AM
5

I am so very into my boyfriend getting attention from other people. It’s a big turn on. But my sexual habits and inclinations would have FDS sicking rabid dogs on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:02 PM
0

One of the greatest appeals of my partner is that he wants to take an equal parenting role. For us that means 1/2 the parental leave and now we get 18 months here if we can afford it (and planning now for it, it shouldn’t be an issue.) I’ll go first due to the biology of it but then he’s up for the second half. I never even wanted kids before meeting him because the majority of the burden falls to the women in almost all of the relationships I’ve seen and that would make me absolutely miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:27 PM
2

Ya, same as anything. If you can’t tell it’s done it’s probably way over done
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 11:39 PM
18

Men who say they want an equal partner but what they actually mean they want is a equally financially contributing partner who also does all the homemaker tasks. If you want a housewife, fine, but you’ll probably have to pay her bills. It you want an equal contributor, be one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 11:39 PM
5

Lol I’ve never met a man who says he doesn’t like Botox that can actually identify when a woman has had it done. You probably mean fillers. But again, unless they are bad or overdone, most can’t even tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 11:34 PM
1

I think there is a lot of us who put it off until we could afford it and that day never came. Now I’m close to 40 and chances aren’t looking good. It was never super important to me to have kids so it makes it simple just to go with it. If it happens at this point, great, but if not, I’m ok with that. I wouldn’t really call myself child free, more child indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:12 PM
4

Yeah, and so have the socially awkward ones who won’t let the conversation fade out if we aren’t interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:08 PM
2

Yep. And if that’s who men choose to date, they know what they are getting. Don’t complain a year later when she’s still the same
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:10 AM
4

I was reading a post there once that was a single mom who lived out in the far suburbs of some city, all indignant about trying to date men who wanted her to meet them somewhere not way out in the suburbs. They of course needed to pay for everything including child care while they went on a date. Ok good luck with that. 🤷‍♀️ if you date that person, you know what you are getting. I can’t get too bent out of shape about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:28 PM
0

I would prefer to revers this. I’ll buy him flowers and dinner. He can show he loves me by cooking, cleaning and fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:30 PM
1

I’ve met bitter resentful men who tried to use red pill techniques and then acted put out when they didn’t work. I’ve definitely never met a FDS type woman, or not one that talked about it at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 10:22 PM
1

IMO it is, but it’s something harmful that men do to one another as opposed to being toxic to the opposite sex, which everyone is very capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 10:17 PM
1

I don’t know if women know men feel this way, I didn’t prior to my current relationship. I do care, I was just wrapped up in my own self. Once I realized I’ve made every effort to care and be more considerate and make him feel desired. This probably isn’t all women, but at least some of us feel this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 10:15 PM
1

This is a good reason to chat about it before and make sure it’s ok with him, consent is always needed from everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 10:12 PM
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