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Seems like you are a stark believer of gender roles. I hope you keep your end of the bargain
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:21 PM
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Looks, Status, Money - in that order. Being a "good person" is useless when it comes to attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:50 PM
1

May. Mary is too religious Susan would be ideal if it weren't for the fact that she uses instagram a lot and has slept with 32 guys, which is a good indicator she'll cheat on you. (i'm ok with the 25% bad mood because i'd be a liar if i don't have the same) Jessica can only meet once a month, i might as well be single May doesn't have anything really bad going against her. She's not perfect by any means but compared to the rest, she's the most ideal for a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:08 AM
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Reasonable and also not hard to find, as long as you communicate your wants and not expect him to be a mind reader.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:54 AM
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Good list. I'd add that beta bucks gets only the family, serious parts of a relationship. Having fun, partying, traveling and finding what life has to offer together? That's for AF. Betabux gets to pay the bills - yay. At most he gets to have family board game evenings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:25 PM
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Social dynamics won't be affected. The men who can get real relationships will continue to get real relationships. The unwantable losers may use AI girlfriends to be less lonely. Men win by finding a cope to their loneliness, women win by not being bothered by ugly men anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:19 AM
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Right, i guess i misunderstood the thread. Yes, women have more of an issue with dating neurodivergent. I thought he asked why women have less of an issue with being (themselves) ND.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:54 PM
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Because most men don't find their partner's social ability important.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 10:49 AM
3

Technically yes because by simply being around more people your chances go higher than by being at home. Realistically, maybe not. My anecdotal first person experience as an autist (and admittedly ugly which very likely also influenced the outcome) who was most of his life an outcast but lately became more social, there's no real difference. I've been to bars, clubs, meetups, hobby groups, social groups, classes, anything you can imagine but there's just something "off" with me that makes me una…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:19 AM
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This is not gendered. Both men and women hang out with people of roughly equal attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:25 PM
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The replies in this thread have confirmed that no woman has ever found me attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:14 PM
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Because the hate goes away if he's handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 11:58 AM
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That's great! Hitting the gym and wearing nice clothes did nothing for me. I was still a short, bald man with an ugly face. Unfortunately for truly unattractive people becoming hot is not that easy and the bar for men to become hot is much higher than of women's.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 11:42 AM
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former There you have it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 11:32 AM
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I disagree. They really can't imagine what it's like to have absolutely nobody interested in you. Even ugly women have ugly men after them. Yes, they reject them - I'm not saying they shouldn't - but they are wanted, even if only by men they don't like. That's why you often hear "lower your standards". The concept of being completely unwanted is too alien for women to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:45 AM
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I still remember that compliment i got 7 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 08:47 AM
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It is wrong to assume there is a correlation between beauty and other traits. That's the halo effect at work. However, it is correct that beautiful people are more well equipped to survive because your assumption is taken unconsciously and unquestionably by the vast majority of people. Humans are as social creatures as they are visual, and an eye-pleasing appearance is the most powerful tool to be accepted in society. This makes them objectively more well equipped than ugly people who are more l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:41 AM
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Because more people than you think do not have those skills, both women and men, don't do those things. In men particularly, they are not skills that matter, more like a bonus. As long he is attractive, he'll find someone. Just being handsome is 20% of men, being attractive and having "adulting" skills is even rarer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:35 AM
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I guess being honest, helpful and supportive are not particularly desirable traits in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 12:14 PM
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Because the guys who receive no attention whatsoever from women are ugly. Even an abusive, manipulative woman wants a handsome (or maybe even at least average) but vulnerable man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:39 PM
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Where did you get approached? Not which countries but in a bar or a club or at the beach...?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:04 PM
7

The hypothetical woman in your post is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 10:44 AM
3

But women want the drinks that handsome men offer them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:38 PM
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Support each other. If she has a bad day at work, i would emotionally support her. If she's feeling bad whatever reason i would try to make her feel better. And, importantly, i would expect the same done to me. Acts of kindness; for example i would cook for her some days a week and she would cook for me sometimes. We'd spend time and do things together. Walk in the city, travel, do sports maybe, etc.. And lastly, we wouldn't let each other feel touch starvation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:13 PM
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Good points but i would actually like an attempt to change me towards something that i agree is better and, most importantly, supports me along the way instead of just nagging about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:17 AM
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But you are wanted for your money, not for who you are. If you are settled for, your partner is unlikely to want to do anything with you and will keep dreaming of that one hot guy she met at a college bar one night...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:38 AM
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It's still a new-ish phenomenon. Most people affected are under 40. I expect the number to skyrocket in 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 10:01 AM
4

Because instincts. Humans are more controlled by their animal instincts than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:43 PM
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So a man wanting a fat woman is a fetish but a woman wanting a tall man is a preference. Ok misandrist
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:36 AM
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Am i missing something? OP asked for subtle signs and these are as subtle as a punch to the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:59 PM
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"Oh i didn't realize this was job interview". Then i'd humor her and answer her and finally ask her the same thing. However, this question is a good indication that she's not interested in a romantic relationship, just my resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:06 AM
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People who can afford to have a physical type will limit themselves to that type. So women and handsome men will stick to their preferences, because there are plenty of interested people matching their criteria. Average men will take what they can get, as long as she doesn't make him miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:26 PM
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Well yeah, i can see from the poll results in the OP that some men want a virgin. But some is not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:15 PM
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As usual, the general response of a grey matter becomes black and white. Men will say that they wouldn't date a woman with 30+ partners. What women and bluepilled individuals understand is that they want virgins. This is the common flow of online discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:50 PM
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On one hand i agree with you. The sales of romance novels already show that women are more interested in text-based porn, which is what basically those books are. On the other hand, girlfriend AI bots, are more than just porn; they emulate the fulfillment of companionship and intimacy that is much harder for men to find. Almost all women can go out and find those things, if they don't limit themselves to top men. There's definitely more "loser" men than women. Finally, i believe that no matter w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:45 PM
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This is only an american zoomer thing. USA is the only country that still uses SMS and cares about iMessage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:48 AM
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Time and time i see that women struggle to find a man that wants a relationship; that all men only want sex. Usually because they limit themselves to dating apps. How about you try going outside? Join a club, a hobby group a social group or a local meetup? Cry "blah blah anecdotal" but from my experience of doing that for the past few years, any kind of woman can get into a relationship, be she slim, pretty, obese or ugly. Admittedly, I've never met a truly ugly woman. Just literally go outside …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:40 AM
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There’s loads of guys that think they’re good men because they have a job or they don’t physically abuse their partners, but they don’t see how this is literally the floor. Given that many men with poor jobs or men who physically abuse their partners are doing well, this is literally not even part of the floor. It doesn't matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:34 PM
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Not at all. There's however a lack of tall and handsome good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:41 PM
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You do you. But you can only be certain that you are involuntarily single only after repeatedly trying and failing.
/r/AllPillDebate13/11/23 10:43 AM
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I wish
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:40 AM
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Yes
/r/AllPillDebate13/11/23 10:33 AM
2

Then you are single and lonely by choice.
/r/AllPillDebate13/11/23 10:26 AM
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I'll give you the advice you would get if you were a man: Get over your social anxiety and ask men out. Until you do that you are voluntarily lonely.
/r/AllPillDebate13/11/23 10:22 AM
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How "good" you are is not a determining factor for success. Good looking good men are in relationships and stay in them because they are good. Unattractive good men are overlooked and remain single. The only thing left in women's eyes is good looking "bad" men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 10:30 AM
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Women were giving men a chance on OKC because they perceived literally less than 1% as attractive. It's either they try "less attractive" men or not use the app at all.
/r/AllPillDebate06/11/23 07:08 AM
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But people do say that personality is what is important first and firstmost. Nobody offline admits that looks is the priority one thing that matters.
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/23 10:24 PM
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I suspect this was made by a woman who either has no idea what men want or doesn't want to offend other women. Just look at how the developer thinks that men has a minimum height limit as if they were a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 02:24 PM
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The lie is that women are attracted to personality. Unfortunately, in reality personality is useless when you are ugly. Preferences may vary in that most women want tall and handsome, some are fine with short and handsome, some just want tall, sometimes handsome and bald is fine but if are a short, bald, ugly guy, you can have the most compatible personalities but it won't matter. Had i known this sooner instead of being lied to, i would gave focused on getting cosmetic surgery earlier in life.
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/23 02:20 PM
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Not really. It's human nature to want the best and women can afford being picky. What i resent is the dishonesty on what women find attractive and what not.
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/23 09:31 AM
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I can't even begin to imagine it
/r/AllPillDebate03/11/23 10:39 PM
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None at all. They'll never say hi to me first, let alone tell me I'm cute, they avoid looking at me, they did not approach me when i used to go to clubs. I always had to initiate any interaction and, of course, it never went well. I'm not shy, young or stay inside all day. I simply really am actually short, (formerly) bald and ugly. All 3 at the same time, not just one of them. It's not a personality issue, i don't get to the part where i can show that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:45 AM
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Your argument boils down to "You shouldn't feel bad because others have it worse". By the same logic, you shouldn't feel good because others have it better.
/r/AllPillDebate31/10/23 03:12 PM
2

I don't think there's an minimum age limit. I would do it asap if i needed it though. Being bald in your 20s is a death sentence. People, not just women, treat me better now and i wish I hadn't waited so long.
/r/AllPillDebate30/10/23 10:17 AM
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Yeah, it's been there for a while. It appears sudden to the OP because they took a look at some of them and now the algorithm keeps recommending more.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:09 PM
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From my experience, i was told i looked 35 when i was 25 before my hair transplant. Now that I'm 31 but have hair, people guess late twenties. So yes. I highly recommend one.
/r/AllPillDebate29/10/23 10:08 PM
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I don't know. I've followed all the common advice on how to make a good profile. Good photos, funny bio... I was told by some female friends that my profile is really good but i still get maybe 1 like a month, "somehow". I'm short and formerly bald btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:55 PM
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As someone who has participated in hobby and fitness groups of various interests for years, if those are the "best", then god help us all. The amount of women in those is already low (except for things like yoga where you will be considered a creep) and the few women there are 19 out of 20 times taken. Don't get me wrong, they are fun, i have made friends there and if you are a friendless man i highly recommend joining a group like that, but if you hope to find a woman there you'll be disappoint…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 12:24 PM
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Absolutely. We'd have the same hobbies, interests and beliefs, we'd both have a nice cozy job that pays well and leaves us a lot of free time to explore what life has to offer, we are both clean, active, can cook, have the same taste in decoration... Maybe her face won't be very pretty, but at least she'll be fit. Unfortunately, my female version would not date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:31 PM
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You don't really get to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:30 PM
2

Absolutely! If you want to remain friends, that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:34 PM
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You don't really want to be ignored by everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:33 PM
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Are you one of those men who have an active social life where you meet new women in your potential dating pool every month or so? I am one of those guys yes. No, i am not passive, waiting for something to happen; but i usually do look for signs of attraction first and i am sure that being completely disinterested in talking to me is not one of them. I am not going for hot models, as you like to assume. My efforts to flirt and show affection are rejected nonetheless. I'm not blind, i can see the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:10 AM
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For the men who don't want to be single, the main reason is that they only use online dating and swipe on women above their league, while completely neglecting social circles, friendships, going out and socializing I really hate this generalization. As hard as it is for you to believe, there are men with friend circles and active social life that receive no romantic attraction from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:09 PM
1

But if you couldn't land a single date in your 20s, you will probably fare just as badly in your 30s, even if you "have your shit together".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:07 AM
3

Congratulations, you are handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:06 AM
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Being an adult means learning to compromise. Nobody's perfect and expecting perfection is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:03 AM
1

Well, that's the kind of men they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:59 AM
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Right. But if women who sleep around tend to also be cheaters then it doesn't matter whether she's a cheater because she slept around or because that's her personality. The end result is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:29 AM
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It's instinct. Humans and their behavior evolved over millions of years and the advancement of martial arts (and guns if i may add) is only a few thousand years old. Before that, a big guy was almost certain to beat a small guy. 5000 years is too short of a time for our base programming to adapt. Humans are controlled by their instincts far more than they want to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:23 AM
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This has been my experience outside as well. Don't fall for the gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 05:36 AM
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Yes, that is his point, good job for getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 07:20 AM
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“Self improvement years” for me? Yes. And the gaslighting comes from telling me that i did not treat women like people as if you know my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:21 PM
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I'm asking about you, not him. He never had trouble with women because he treats us like people. See what i mean by gaslighting?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 07:44 AM
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Did you meet him before or after years of "self improvement" that went nowhere and constant gaslighting?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:44 PM
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Because she chooses to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:45 AM
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You can work on solving your problem AND complain
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:50 PM
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But he's not handsome :(
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:49 AM
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It does. A 27 years old female friend of mine told me just this week how he had a first date with a guy who would only consider in a few years when she wants to settle down. Right now she just wants to "have fun".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:42 AM
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I’ve had plenty of men tell me they wouldn’t be attracted to me if I gained weight. Fat phobia is alive and well dw. You've put these sentences next to each other. What other point could you have been possibly trying to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:35 PM
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It's interesting that women's requirements for men are "preferences" while men's requirements are "fatphobia".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:44 PM
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A man so handsome he attracts girls through no effort of his own but just by existing. Personality or money is not relevant. He is tall, has broad shoulders, has a great face, usually a great hairline but sometimes he can really rock the bald look. He doesn't need to be funny or wear nice clothes; girls simply flock to him for his genetic qualities. Whether they leave him or not for being boring or poor is besides the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:38 AM
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Weight is also telling of one's lifestyle. Maybe the man is not attracted to someone who sits on their ass all day, eat a lot of junk food and/or don't have enough discipline to put the fork down.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:53 AM
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Gigachad is stealing Chad's women, so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:22 AM
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Physical attraction or loads of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:29 PM
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At least my ass will be clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:27 PM
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The bar as women often describe it is not the real, actual bar. Plenty of men who supposedly meet that bar get fuck all while plenty of men who do not meet the bar succeed. You'd think after some time of women complaining about "men not passing the bar", people would stop and rethink whether whether what the Bar™ entails is accurate for attraction or not, but they keep parroting the same old concepts even if they are demonstrably false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:25 PM
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Yep. All the talk about how hygiene, grooming and being able to take care about yourself is important is just virtue signaling. As long as you are attractive you can be act like manbaby all you want. And if you are not, the world's best hygiene and grooming can't save you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:17 PM
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Once again you hit the nail on the head. I can't be myself. Not if i don't want to be alone. Taking a few seconds to think before a response, being precise with your words and intentions, going for a minute without talking, making apparently weird reactions to things happening... people don't like any of that. I have to be snappy, i have to be chatty, i have to be witty, i have to ignore things most people don't notice... After learning how to do that i finally made friends when i was 25 or so. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:18 AM
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I agree. I started balding at 23, and had to shave it all off. I was usually at the bottom of the social ladder in social groups, left out of photos and never personally invited anywhere. When i was 30 i got a hair transplant and people, especially women, treat me better before i even open my mouth. Call it anecdotal, call it confirmation bias, but that's my life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:00 AM
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A short man will always be less attractive than a tall man through no fault of his own. A man with an ugly face will always be less attractive than a man with a nice one through no fault of his own. A bald man will almost always be less attractive than a man with a good hairline through no fault of his own. A neurodiverse man will always be less attractive than a normal man. While such men lament their unattractiveness, not blaming themselves doesn't mean that they blame others; it's simply a ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:36 AM
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From what i've seen in real life the men most successful were the tall guy in jeans and white t-shirt or the pretty boy with perfect hairline and broad shoulders. The shorter, less facially attractive but well-dressed and well-groomed men ate dirt. Everything you suggested matters little when compared to immutable genetic qualities. That said, in an environment where every man is equally genetically attractive, improving one's self with mentioned methods will also improve his chances. Unfortunat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:06 AM
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So is inexperience so he's fucked either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:59 AM
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if you are attracted to the guy, he's probably not a virgin. Unless he's a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:08 AM
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ND men*
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 10:27 AM
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I was bullied for being "different" but maybe that was actually coddling and my autistic ass misunderstood being punched in the stomach as bullying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:38 AM
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A lot. So let's talk about your hypothetical woman. I despise the "bimbo" look and mannerisms. Overly done hair, fake lips (ugh), expensive brand clothes that scream vanity and shallowness and, of course, the entitled attitude of expecting everything in life handed to her and main character syndrome. I also hate faces completely covered in make up. I'm not saying i like natural faces because I'm sure the women here would retort that "the faces men consider natural still have make up on them" but…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:23 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:18 PM
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This is my experience as someone who started balding at 23 and finally got a hair transplant at 30. Flirting was pointless, women didn't seem too happy to talk to me, no matches on OLD... After my hair grew back, a year after the operation, I've been to more dates in a month than my whole 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:25 AM
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Only if your competition looks the same as you. From my experiences irl and observations online, a poorly dressed but genetically fortunate man always does better than the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:59 PM
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Join hobby or social groups and treat them the same you treat other men. Don't expect the friendship to ever turn into something more though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:26 PM
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Check for local board and tabletop game groups on facebook. You'll find plenty of nerdy guys there. i hope you live in my city
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:23 PM
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It's the most important thing in getting a relationship. I'm not saying only 6 foot something gigachads with giant shoulders and jawlines so sharp you can cut yourself on get women but you need to have something going for you. Maybe you are ugly but you are tall. Maybe you are short but you are handsome. Maybe you are bald but you can rock the look. But ain't nobody wanting a short, bald ugly dude no matter his personality. At best he can self improve himself into a walking ATM. Certainly, the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:45 PM
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I wonder what prompted OP to make this pointless post.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:45 AM
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Yes, i have friends, a few good ones and a bunch that are closer to "hangout buddies". As for the transplant if it goes well then the hair will grow and stay as long as you keep taking finasteride. I think it's recommended to stop taking it after some age. So i have to take a pill every day but as someone who looks awful bald it has made a difference in my social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:59 PM
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Moderate. I know the things I'm good at (none of which make me happier), i know the things i like and i know that if it's something that doesn't need other people to be done, i can do it. I have no problem meeting and speaking to people and i do so frequently. I eat better and stay more active than most people my age. I have a good, well paying job, i know how to cook well, and i have a nice, albeit rented, apartment. I've been told i look like a catch when describing my personality online until…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:39 PM
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But i don't like valorant, or apex, or any other competitive online shooter, nor do i have a masculine voice. Guess I'm fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:58 AM
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Well, I've been playing in board game groups for years and none of the few women there also liked videogames. In MMORPGs, the few women I've came across were always the girlfriend or wife of a guildmate. In online communities it just never happened that one of the rare, single women would like me as more than a fellow community member, given that my interests are too niche within my niche. (For example i like videogames but not zelda). Maybe I'm the unluckiest guy in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:52 AM
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Where do I find women that play videogames? I've met a lot of women by socializing but only one of them plays videogames. The rest only like the same old dancing, going to clubs or festivals and traveling.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:01 AM
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Hey man just want to say you are not alone. I'm also autistic and short AND started balding at 23. I've learnt to socialize, i have social circles and made some friends but ain't no woman who wants the "weirdo" who also happens to be ugliest guy in the group 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:31 AM
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Nope. ND women prefer NT men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:27 AM
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What if what he enjoys does not put him in the presence of women? Maybe he enjoys hobbies at home. Or maybe he enjoys male-dominated sports/activities. How will improving himself in the things that he wants for himself help him get laid in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:18 PM
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How attractive you are determines how far you can go without being creepy. An ugly man will be labelled creepy just for asking a girl to dance in a club; an attractive man will seriously need to try to be creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 10:34 AM
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Women want it to happen naturally That's an illusion. It happens "naturally" to them because the man does all the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:34 AM
1

Do they explicitly tell you they are not interested in these average women or are your projecting your experience on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:30 AM
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Looks like you've never been ugly and tried to socialize. Always having to start the small talk and being forced to carry the conversation because they are really simply not interested in talking to you is incredibly tiring. It's like balancing on a tight rope making sure not to commit a faux pas because your mistakes are judged much more harshly than an average+ person's.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:22 AM
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They would answer the same but it'll be only virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:16 AM
1

This is such a weird thing to think about an other person. She is not a slave to be purchased.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:36 AM
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Someone who has mostly average traits with one distinguishing feature. For example, someone who looks average but is 6'2 will be perceived as "an average dude". I've seen a lot of women claim that. Someone who is average height but looks like Brad Pit will be seen as average. You may say now "but if they have a distinguishing feature like that then they are not average!" but - again - it's all about how you are seen in the eyes of women and not about reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:07 PM
2

Because they don't have to not be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:25 PM
1

There is this sentiment from women here that men only want to date models which is, of course, wrong. Most men are happy to date mediocre girls if they vibe. I assumed you expected the answers to match this sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:21 PM
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Attractiveness is the sum of all parts; and my hot opinion is that it's enough to be at most average at everything to be perceived as below average. So let's say you are average height, average looks, average weight, average intelligence, average wealth - then you are a below average man in the dating market. You need to have something to make up for your average traits. Similarly, if have a lot of below average attributes then not even an excelling attribute can save you and the importance of e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:49 PM
1

If we share the same ideals and/or hobbies then absolutely. This is not the "gotcha" question you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:41 PM
2

Take the pillpill
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:39 PM
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So you agree with me that makeup works but men's solutions are a joke? Because the reason platform shoes and shoulder pads are insulting to suggest is not because they are considered "feminine" in masculine spaces, but because women will laugh at you and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:04 AM
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You either get on finasteride(with potential side effects when it comes to libido, erections and fertility, and even if you don't get those side effects, god knows how much it'll impact you if you take it for 20 years or something) or get a hair transplant.. If you get a hair transplant you still need to take finasteride. Otherwise the hair you transplanted would fall off again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:02 AM
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Not really, you could advocate men's platform shoes/boots, shoulder pads, contouring with powder for more defined. Then you take these off and she laughs. Good plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:01 AM
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No, because you can stop being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:56 AM
7

"Be yourself" "No, not this way"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:18 PM
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Delusional. Every man i know (late 20s, early 30s) would find someone that young insufferable for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:48 PM
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A part of being an adult is being able to see what's unrealistic and accept and be happy with compromises.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:46 PM
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If the man you "settled" with is abusive then you were probably attracted to his looks rather than his personality. When people say "pick better", they mean that you should have picked a man with better character, despite his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:16 AM
2

I'm sorry you had to find out this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:43 AM
5

Statistically unlikely. You are probably aiming too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:59 AM
2

oh ok
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:57 AM
1

I understand that you are backpedaling on your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 07:29 AM
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Why do you believe that women's preferences are the result of The Patriarchy™ and not just want they naturally like? You can't blame men for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:54 PM
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Being physically attractive is the base requirement, it does not need to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 09:43 AM
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Women are to blame how? This leap in logic from what OP said is amazing. Olympic mental gymnastics stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 04:25 PM
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It looks like your definition of "finer things in life" are things that are more expensive and luxurious. Which, after looking at the dictionary, it is a valid definition. Wanting this kind of things is usually what you get when you have a spoiled childhood. While i can't generalize for the whole gender, i suspect the women you know have always had a good, easy life and were given everything they wanted for granted. Whereas the men, such as your friend who moved to SF, had to work for themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:57 AM
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He defended a point that you challenged in a subreddit with "debate" in its name, and you discard it because it's a good argument and makes yours look wrong. Are you sure you are not the one with the concept of tolerance here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:29 AM
5

Very well said. This has been my life but you've put it to words far, far better than i ever could have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:23 AM
3

Watch out we got a pro-eugenics person here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 07:12 PM
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As a short, unattractive, autistic guy both choices are improvements for me. It's a tough choice but i think i would go with the short, unattractive neurotypical guy. Me being different has been a huge cause of problems and pain for me since childhood. 5'7 isn't short enough to be a huge hindrance and even if i'm still ugly, i imagine being normal is a hell lot better than not fitting in anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 07:50 AM
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Your search and browsing history affects your search results sooooo....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:05 PM
3

What? I'm not right wing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:58 PM
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Sex workers hate their customers because only ugly men use sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:35 AM
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Build your great cake of a life, enjoy it, have fun and women will want to be around you. From my personal experience (bla bla anecdotal) this just isn't true. I have my hobbies, a good job, a nice apartment, an active social life; i meet new people all the time, including women, but just having a good life doesn't mean women will want you. Sadly, as a man you have to chase women if you want anything resembling a relationship. Or be really hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:23 AM
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For most men it's a diplomatic way to say "no fat chicks" but for me - a self-proclaimed active person -, i mean someone who would join me primarily in cycling (and keep up with me) as well as other physical activities that i enjoy, e.g. bouldering or table tennis. Or in other words, by active i mean someone who shares a similar lifestyle. Coincidentally that excludes most fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:38 AM
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"People who want casual sex have casual sex more than those that who don't want casual sex" What an astute observation, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:25 PM
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It was a date with finally someone who didn't care that i was short. It went well until i took off my hat. She was shocked that i was bald and compared me to her mother who has cancer. Then she started being distant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:14 AM
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So, according to you, women don't do anything because they are insecure, just like some men. But how come that insecure men are shamed and told to step up and "be confident" whereas women can just wait until someone comes along? Why don't they ever have to step up and become confident too? Of course i understand why this is the case; men want women more than women want most men. But the cause doesn't change the outcome. This is women's privilege: they can stay as they are and it won't matter whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:10 AM
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I was with you OP, until this line: The type of guys to be perpetually loveless are the ones in their parents basement, hardly care for their appearance, addicted to porn, no ambition. I strongly disagree because those are mostly average men who simply do not try. Actually below average men - who are what i suspect to be most struggling men here - are autistic, suffer from childhood trauma and/or are just plain ugly. Usually a combination of those 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:24 AM
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It's not just youth though. It's also all the experiences you can have together while you are both relatively free of responsibilities, active and in your physical prime. Going to a far away country during the university break, partying in the night until the sun rises, etc.. People have more freedom in their 20s before their career picks up or have children. A lot of men cannot share those experiences in their 20s and only after acquiring money in their 30s are women willing to settle for them …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:59 PM
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Maybe context is everything and you don't have to be offended 24/7
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 06:19 AM
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Literally 7% of men are found attractive and 0% as very attractive. If they want to use the site, of course they'll message "less attractive" men since they practically find every man as below average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:30 AM
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It's low for men who already pass the physical attraction threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:35 PM
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Hey man i just want to say that I'm exactly in the same situation as you. What's funny is that despite being called a "cool guy" or "social butterfly", somehow we are "not their type". But everyone's sure we'll make a girl very happy one day. Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:32 PM
4

"He's different for me, I'm special!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:22 PM
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"Men have advantage in dating" what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:08 PM
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Just above 1h, 4-5 times a week plus cycling and the occasional bouldering. I also used to attend kickboxing glasses. I'm not sure if it helps my mood. I like cycling out of the city and climbing is fun, so yeah, that's nice but the weightlifting feels unrewarding even if i increase the reps or weight every time (i.e. make progress). I only still do it because i feel like i have to and feel ashamed / lazy if i don't. At the end of the day i still go to bed depressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:04 PM
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I guess my ideal would be a fit nerd - just like me. Unfortunately, those women can do much better than a short, smaller, balding, autistic guy. I haven't met a type of person that's into me yet. The disconnect? Have a guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:27 PM
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Because it doesn't fit the blue pill narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 07:56 AM
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As long as she can be financially independent, it doesn't matter how much she makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 12:12 PM
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I think the real problem here is that anything that implies that women do not choose men based on personality, and that they factor appearance and status as well, is immediately accused as misogynistic and controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:17 PM
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This is good advice for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:17 AM
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Sure. It's my looks + autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:06 AM
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You are not wrong that it's important, but you are wrong that I - and many men - don't do it. I do shower, antiperspirant, brush, groom and skincare. For way longer than 2 weeks (try years). I don't deny that haircut is also helpful- the behavior of people, not just women, against me changed after i stopped being bald from balding and got a hair transplant last year. Too bad i could afford it only after my 20s were over. However, you will be taken aback at how bizarrely ineffective it is. Unfort…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:57 AM
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I thought you were serious first but you got me with the hygiene meme. Good one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:30 AM
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This is actually kinda hard to answer for me and let me explain why. I'm a naturally ugly guy. No, i don't mean I'm fat, unshowered or have a bad haircut, i mean I have the worst possible body type: short, bald(ing), ugly face, narrow shoulders and so on. I have received 0 attention from women all my life. Despite of being given the worst possible cards, i bust my ass in the gym, don't eat what i like because it'll make me fat, have a skin care routine to control my skin condition, paid big bux …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:31 AM
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Not at all. I'm good at talking to people without strategizing or planning or lies. It's great for... making friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:06 PM
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That's what flirting is. Perhaps you are misinterpreting flirting as "whatever a hot guy says", which is a common mistake for many women, but flirting in actuality is charming the woman you are talking to and there's always disingenuousness and psycho tactics involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:52 AM
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But if you are doing so by lying, being disingenuous, or trying to use social experiments and psychological tactics on people So, flirting?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:13 AM
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Everyone knows this except the incels and autistics on this sub. This is the literally the core incel belief lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 04:34 PM
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When it's misandry, she's strong and empowered actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:02 PM
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Let me just go back in time when i was in nursery and ask to be taught confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:51 PM
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I have literally tried all those options you've listed. I'm not going to go into detail again, lest i write another woe is me comment but your advice only works for average+ men. I'm sorry but there are really men who are a combination of so many bad traits that they are invisible to practically every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:51 PM
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No. Just no. Every woman (and man for that matter) has a minimum threshold for appearance to pass. I'm not saying it's 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 inches, but if you don't have pass it then no amount of "being interesting" will make her actually interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:31 PM
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It is when you appear emotionally dead. For example, as much as i try to use normal body language, it's not as convincing as being natural. This puts women off, if they were not already put off by my body. It's not about having one flaw, it's about having so many flaws that you exclude everyone who would overlook one or two of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 01:02 PM
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Not really. I have friends i hang out and have fun with, and meet new people all the time. I even have female friends (imagine that). It's true i am unattractive but i don't think i'm not fun to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:44 PM
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I'm ok with being single if it means my only alternative is to be with someone i don't want to be with but the fact that my league is the barrel's bottom because i was born short, balding and autistic is a tough pill to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:21 PM
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I agree. I've found getting a job easier than getting a date. And for what it's worth, i keep getting spammed on LinkedIn with job offers from recruiters despite setting my status to not looking for a job. Dating women? I have a 100% rejection rate. The difference is that for a job your skills, experience and personality matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:31 AM
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I'm short and bald(ing) since my early 20s - among other things - so no, no woman has ever taken interest in me and all I've known is rejection, ghosting, being stood up and left hanging at the club. Ugly women don't want me either although I'll be honest and admit that i have never tried to hit on an obese woman; as someone who is in shape i do not find such women physically attractive at all, nor can i see myself being attracted to a sedentary person who can't stop eating like a pig and doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:23 AM
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We are obviously not talking about those taking treatment for medical reasons. Having or enjoying sex is not a right, sweety.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:17 AM
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If a woman doesn't want to take hormonal birth control so much that's a sacrifice she has to take 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:05 PM
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Damn, poor husband. AF/BB in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 09:00 AM
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Just don't have sex? You are neither entitled to it nor is someone forcing you to have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 08:48 AM
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Why is it not possible to do both?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:29 AM
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What about men who own a hug pillow with an anime girl cover? Asking for a friend, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:07 AM
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Are you a woman? Autism doesn't tank women's chances anywhere near as much as it does to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:14 AM
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Well, how about they get into a stable relationship then? It's not that hard if you start looking away from the top 20% men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:49 AM
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Thing is, i can't rely on looks to be attractive, i can't rely on autistic charisma and i can't rely on common interests or values, what is there for someone to be attracted to? Only my money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:30 AM
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That's not helping. I know that other people like different things. Problem is, it seems that every woman i meet IRL only likes dancing, partying traveling and/or hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:46 AM
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I'm not going to say I'm ugly since that would go under high women's standards so I'll go with Autism. I'm high functioning so it's not like i sperg in public and I've spent enough years to learn how to mask and make friends but... there's still something "off" with me. I don't get emotional, i don't understand why things like dancing or cheering in a stadium or seeing your favorite band live are supposed to be fun. Simply put, for the average person, especially women, I'm boring. I do have my i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:42 PM
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Absolutely. I'm 31 years old and never been in a relationship. I often get rejected out of the box for my height (i'm 5" below average) and possibly frame. If someone is ok with my height, they usually don't like i'm bald. I basically look like an old teenager, except even teenagers look manlier than me nowadays. If a woman, against all odds, doesn't mind that either, they are weirded out by me not being neurotypical and lacking emotion, or by me not being able to come up with fun things i did w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 09:03 AM
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Almost. Getting a job is easier in my experience; i've had more success in job interviews than dating. The interviewers are usually impressed by my skills, my sense of humor, laid-backness and low stress that will help me fit with the team and so on. Things people can work on. If i fail an interview, i can improve and go to the next. Dating? Skills and personalities are irrelevant. I can't fix my genetic flaws nor my autism. There's no way to improve for the next interview if you lack the inhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 08:53 AM
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Let’s be honest a guy who’s 5,4 or shorter is not going to want to be with a 5,5 girl You are applying female standards here. A lot of men would have no problem dating someone taller than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:04 AM
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I don't know about boring. I'm sure many women boring because i don't like clubbing and dancing but instead i prefer doing sports or playing games. If you think you are boring because you enjoy hobbies at home then you are chasing the wrong men. That said, i wouldn't date a party girl, not because i find that boring but because it also indicates a difference in values and character. I don't care about timid or not funny, so yes i would date a woman like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:33 PM
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Because men look for more than just looks in a relationship and it's not settling if she doesn't fit our physical ideals 100% but has a loveable personality. Difficult for women to understand, i know!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:20 AM
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Chicken, egg.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:10 AM
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"Average Joe" yeah ok buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:11 AM
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It's not that baffling. Women usually say that personality is more important than looks, which is contrary to what they actually do. If you took their words at face value and not just virtue signaling, you'd conclude that they don't realize how important looks are to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:41 PM
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This is a good way to make a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:27 PM
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It's obvious to everyone here but there are men who genuinely believe that their personality can overcome their ugly looks in the eyes of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:22 PM
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Because if you ever ask for dating advice as a man, the responses from women will be "be confident and respect us", mentioning nothing about appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:49 PM
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I somewhat agree with you but i just want to describe from my experience (yes, yes, anecdotal) that the chances of meeting single women interested in you through social and hobby groups is low. Let me just count numbers: I've met a total of 18 different people last week through various social and hobby groups last week; Exactly half of them were women. 2 of them were single. I have many weeks like this and 9 women, 2 of which single are good numbers. So in order to get together though social lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:00 PM
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Yes. I can fix her...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:32 PM
2

This sounds like a bot response.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:18 AM
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Whereas women tend to like tall men with broad shoulders, men have a varied range of preferences. Some like thin, some like fat, some like something in-between, some like short, some tall, big breasts, small, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:02 PM
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It's weird how people claim this, in my experience IRL it's always the opposite: if the couple is unbalanced looks-wise, it's always the man who's average and she's ugly/fat. Maybe it has to do with location.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:54 PM
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I'm 30 and never been in relationship but even in my situation i'm not so desperate that i'd like that sort of relationship. Single all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:26 PM
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This reads very tone-deaf to me. I don't believe most men feel entitled (i hate this word now) to a woman's attention because they were born more flawed than others and that is more often projecting on part of the reader who has always been privileged and therefore unable to imagine someone on a worse position. Most know that it is on them to improve and their situation and a lot have done everything reasonably in their power to change their fate. Unfortunately - as you noted - we don't live in …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 11:19 AM
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Also, she didn't struggle with man but women; she was a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 07:51 AM
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"It's because short men are usually unconfident, sweety"
/r/BlackPillScience13/02/23 08:41 PM
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That's weird, i know multiple single guys like that. Seems like this check list cannot be generalized as "women want".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:59 AM
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It does make you not-an-incel though. Not that it makes mass shootings for any reason any less abhorrent, but the leaning towards physical violence is general male behavior and inceldom-fueled shootings are only a drop in the bucket.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:57 AM
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Men who actively prefer a 6’ women are more rare… Is this something she said? Because... she prefers a lot taller than herself It sounds she is the one limiting her options in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 12:58 PM
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Or simply the kind that can be found outside. People (men and women) who are not social are more likely to stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:11 AM
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Good one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:13 PM
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That's a good way to make friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 07:32 PM
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Yes, money is attractive. Not the unattractive rich guy, he's just a nuisance needed to be dealt with for access to his money. The moment he loses his money, he becomes undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:41 AM
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He gets the illusion of being wanted as long as he is unaware that he's only a walking ATM.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:05 PM
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Rule 1 and 2 are key. All those places are good for meeting women if you follow those two rules and bad if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 04:55 PM
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Those are place for average people, not "not conventionally attractive" people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:14 AM
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This post is too real for this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:20 AM
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If they are still dating those men, then that's because that's the kind of men those women like. They could drop them for not cleaning or cooking or doing their laundry but they don't. As much as they like to complain, it's clear being orderly and hygienic is not important to (those) women and that there is something else that they prioritize. I wonder what could that be?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:28 AM
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Like other have mentioned, this must be a woman thing. I'm 30 years old man and i have no problem making friends - of varying closeness. Relationships on the other hand are impossible. To make friends all you need is to be proactive and pleasant to be around. Dating sadly also requires inherent physical attractiveness that some men lack.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 10:08 PM
7

The personality bar is in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 10:02 PM
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Yes and no. The more good looking you are, the more you can get away with and vice versa. Even the top men can be creepy but it'll take serious, legit axe murderer behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:05 PM
1

There's you on my screen if that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:25 PM
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I didn't say that; i said they are not allowed to have their own spaces to talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:19 PM
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That's because you are dismissing the fact that one affects the other and that both can be treated at the same time. Instead you chose to play the victim of objectification, so no wonder people don't agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:01 PM
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Not really, women define emotionally healthy men as either happy or stoic. There's no place for sadness and grief for men; that's an instant turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:52 PM
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I don't know how you came to this conclusion from what i said but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:47 PM
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Because reddit banned the incels, braincels and incelswithouthate subs. The latter of which was actually very moderate without the stereotyped misogynistic rhetoric; admittedly, its mood was closer to current ppd (what a coincidence). These people had nowhere to go but extreme sites full of trolls, feds and actually unhinged men... or tangentially related subs such as this. tl;dr blame the reddit admins
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:10 PM
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I have a hard time believing that any significant portion of women can be forever alone. I go outside and i see couples of an ugly or fat/obese woman with an average dude all the time (but not the reverse). You'd need to be severely fucked up to not be able to get into a relationship with a man - like bottom 1% fucked up. I know so many single men from hobby groups, social groups and meetups while i can count the amount of single women on my fingers. If you are a woman and not approached by a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:14 PM
3

I don't disagree but I hope you give the same answer when someone says that women's standards are on the floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:04 PM
2

Plenty of men like small breasts or don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:02 PM
2

A part of being an adult learning to make compromises. Much to many's dismay, the perfect man or woman does not exist. At some point you have to consider what is more important to you: looks, personality or something else? You only "settle" if you cannot come to terms with the fact that you cannot have everything. That said, i believe women tend to feel like they settle more because their ego is inflated by simps and other women, whereas men are more down to earth due to lack of support.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:52 PM
2

Unless they are held at gun point or have their friends and loved ones as hostages, a woman can say no if she doesn't want to. They are not children, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:43 PM
1

They probably assumed that's what you are into since that's 90% of women on OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 02:31 PM
10

This is the actual question. While every man has some standards, the average dude's requirements are very lax and will put more weight in personality if he's looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 02:30 PM
3

Most men do everything they to do to get women. "Toxic masculine" behavior such as arrogance and aggression is done because that is what women have been proven to like. The only difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity is whether the man is hot or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:20 PM
1

The effect of race on dating should be something that is allowed to be discussed even outside the purge. Unfortunately it is crystal clear that women overwhelmingly prefer white men and the mods are not very happy to allow posts that paint women in unmistakable and undeniable negative light.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:22 PM
3

Will that make me taller, cure my balding, heal my skin and change my facial features?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:55 PM
3

I just call it barbell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:45 PM
1

Just take a shower theory
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:33 PM
4

They do be having a better personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:20 PM
1

Seek therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:17 PM
6

Who hurt you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:12 PM
15

IIRC one of her concubines assaulted an other as well
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:02 PM
7

I'll have you know i am solidly below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:00 PM
5

It's called compensating for your shortcomings sweaty, you can't expect chad treatment for just existing. Stop complaining and go earn that $317000 more than other men :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:59 PM
17

The second from the right is probably doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:43 PM
3

You didn't contradict my statement
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:14 PM
2

"I’ve fallen for average or better looking guys after a good conversation, if they can make you laugh then your a winner" fixed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:11 PM
8

They are not complaining that women don't want to be approached by ugly men, they are complaining because women deny that looks are the #1 criterium for a relationship and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:29 PM
3

I used to hide my balding in my dating profile and i finally got one a date with a girl who didn't mind that i was short after 5 years on dating apps. Unfortunately i did the mistake of taking off my hat during the date and she told me that i remind her of her mother who has cancer and then three date went downhill. Moral of the story, the truth will come out and you'll be ditched or keep your hat on always.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:21 PM
67

Have a visit to the tall girls sub. They cry that men taller than them want short girls but then complain that they don't want short men because they "fetishize" them boohoo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:30 PM
1

Am i supposed to be impressed? You are a woman, the game is played for you. Should i brag about how much i masturbate?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:22 PM
4

Talking is enough if you are a woman but if you are a man you are going to need to do more than just "talk".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:20 PM
26

Poor womyn just fell pregnant, it's not her fault that the tall, handsome, overly aggressive, jealous and known womanizer abused or left her, there were no signs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:16 PM
3

But you are the one lying here
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:05 PM
1

I didn't read but women who are used to coasting through life easily will still kill themselves after becoming men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:04 PM
20

I used to read FAWomen for fun every now and then. I've found that: Most users are not actually FA but it has been a "long" time since their last relationship Most of them have had sex Some of them complain that they are not attracted to the men attracted to them Those who described what kind of man they want, described him always with one or more of then following traits: tall, lean, good hairline, broad shoulders (this is in contrast with male FAs who claim they just want someone to love them)…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:49 PM
14

Umm no clearly incels are undesirable because they don't shower and don't talk to women and being short, deformed, balding and/or on the spectrum has nothing to do about it because women are wonderful and only care about personality! Source: trust me bro
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:32 PM
11

Id be pissed but i am aware enough to know that a woman getting sex is as easy as a man masturbating. It's just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:45 AM
33

It's simple: If a woman prefers X in a man then it's a preference. If a man prefers X in a woman it's a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:39 AM
1

Don't be physically unattractive and talk to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:07 PM
7

From a technical point of view, killing yourself seems really easy. If women fail to do it I'd say it's because they don't really mean to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:54 PM
52

He can then be a very lucky girl's very own walking ATM, isn't that wonderful? ❤️
/r/BlackPillScience30/12/22 09:49 PM
2

Height: don't care Income: don't care, as long as she's not sitting at home 24/7 Race: don't care Body type: anything from athletic to slightly chubby but not fat/obese (i'm fit) House: don't care Kids: none ​ 30M - 5'7, middle eastern, bald(ing), physically active but small frame, comfy well-paying office job, in Europe. I know, my standards are too high for my stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:43 PM
2

You seem to have misunderstood something. None of the "pills" describe reality itself but each are a set of beliefs. The bluepill does exist but it's not a description of reality, it's only the ideology, much like redpill and the oh-so-forbidden blackpill. As for your belief that bluepill is bullshit, i agree. It's made up of feel-good lies that people (unattractive men and women that are not self aware) want to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:06 PM
5

Ok, it's not so clear to me through text but you are parodying the average redditor, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:26 PM
8

Whatever those women on Tiktok think the "bare minimum" is, i am certain they put absolutely no effort in the relationship themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:35 PM
2

No, i agree with you but the average person's world is not hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 12:55 PM
7

Your failure in logic is thinking about average looking guys. The world OP comes from is that of an ugly one's.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 12:40 PM
2

Ever since Match group (owners of tinder) bought OkC, it's been going downhill and becoming like Tinder more and more. Most features that used to be free are now behind a paywall but, most importantly, they changed the UX of the app to promote tinder-like swipe behavior based on photos by making the profile cumbersome to read. Thankfully, the site is now infested with too many women from poorer countries setting their location to Europe/US trying to scam a poor sap for residency to be worth usin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:53 AM
3

It's not about whether you are confident or arrogant but what you are perceived to be. There's a difference because the perception of your behavior is dependent on your looks. Halo and Horn Effect. Unattractive guys will always be perceived to be arrogant / creepy / stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:21 AM
4

Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:55 AM
3

So he googled for the proof be was asked for... and that's bullshit? Should he just had known one in his head or would it be enough if he had it bookmarked?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:29 PM
2

Actually, it's because he was confident enough to beat up a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:06 PM
1

Yes, but I won’t call them ugly because it’s not their fault. This is the wrong mindset. Ugly is ugly. Pretending they are not does more harm than good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:10 PM
2

if he’s obese, untidy, unhygienic and can’t wear clothes that fit him. This shows what your idea of an ugly man is. It's not really this. Sure, these are unattractive traits but not deal breakers compared to actual unattractive traits: short, bald(ing), narrow frame and lack of facial harmony. Stop propagating the idea that ugly = unkempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:43 PM
1

I'll not convinced, i know plenty of single men without such issues but have an undesirable face, height or - I'll say it - skin color. At the end of the day whether or not they have the aforementioned problems is secondary.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:13 AM
8

Hey it's me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:53 AM
3

I have no way to back this up but id say it's because they were positively treated in their life making them more positive themselves. Whereas uglier people tend to be more bitter since most people have a negative disposition towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 12:22 PM
0

This is a self made issue. Nobody is perfect. If you are limiting yourself to mr perfect (who doesn't exist) of course it's going to be difficult. Learn to accept men as humans with flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:14 PM
10

The difference is that a thin but otherwise average man will have a hard(er) time whereas a thin woman can find someone without a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:21 AM
1

How older are we talking about? 30s? 40s? Even older?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:05 PM
4

Those men might as well be invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:51 PM
1

Most incels are too spineless to do any violence. Objectifying women and violent tendencies have little bearing on a man's sexual success - if anything they contribute to their success
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:29 PM
15

If you are handsome, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:18 AM
3

So unless you're in the top whatever percentage of people, no one will find you attractive? As depressing as it sounds, yes. But we are only talking about physical attractiveness. Maybe "best they can get" is not very accurate, let me put it another words. They are sufficiently physically attractive to want to be together for any other reason and cannot expect for anything better. But i bet you if you gave someone a choice of a partner between two people with identical personalities but one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:30 PM
5

Her methodology is guessing the mate of the person. That's not an accurate measure for attraction as many people will end up together not because they consider each other particularly attractive but it's because they are the best they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:11 PM
2

No. As entitled as it sound, even ugly people want attractive people. It's just how biology works.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:04 PM
2

No, that's what non-incels want incels to want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:37 AM
1

Most men don't care about height as long you have a nice face and an otherwise feminine body and even that is optional. I would say the reason most taller girls tend to have a harder time finding someone is because they usually limit their options to men taller than men only; these men are already highly sought after. If you are one of those, try accepting shorter men - if you can stomach loving a man shorter than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:09 AM
1

An ugly man can build his value by becoming successful. But then it's not the man that's wanted, it's the resources he can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:55 PM
2

We let evolution fix it. Those people breed less, what they are, what makes them undesirable reduces as a percentage of the population. Probably at a quite fast clip. This isn't how it works for two reasons. 1. Uglier women have no problem procreating and making new ugly men 2. Even if the above wasn't true, attractiveness is always relative. Much like big needs small as a frame of reference to exist, so does beautiful need ugliness. If the bottom% dies out, the current below average% willl beco…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:54 PM
1

Maybe you are attracted to men with poor hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 01:11 PM
1

This is such a weird thing to generalize. Some men are lazy slobs, some are neat freaks and a lot are somewhere in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:11 PM
0

No. I've met a few women through common interests but none of them were interested in me as anything more than a fellow hiker/climber/cyclist/board gamer. I've met women that are together with men that don't seem to share any interests. Not common hobbies are the only thing that matters - they must paired for other reasons - , but it's not as important as people make it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:35 AM
10

He'll be laughed at as soon as he takes the boots off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:22 AM
2

Of course not being fat or too skinny is an improvement to one's looks. But, like you said, if you are still a short, ugly, bald dude it will probably not be enough to be considered good looking - nothing ever will.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:21 AM
5

lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:18 AM
3

There is no incel "movement". Incels as a whole are men, whose only common trait is their lack of success, venting to each other. There are no strictly defined concepts, rules or teachings apart from the fact that looks comes first. Some incels do say, indeed, some crazy shit but their opinion does not have any more merit than sane people's. It's just that the internet and media focused on the unhinged incels because people love drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:37 AM
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A lot of people already mentioned the hypocrisy of shaming men for having standards while praising women for having them but there is one more point about men who get rejected for immutable traits: their experiences are denied by other people. Being short WILL ruin your dating prospects but you try to vent about it a lot of people, usually people who are not short men, will scream at you that you just need confidence and to hit the gym. If you say your ethnicity has caused you to be repeatedly r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:26 PM
3

Honestly, i can't think of anything. A lot of people of comments say that they like women being more empathetic but i haven't met women that are particularly empathetic and i've had more support from bros. I can't think of a positive trait that is gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:04 AM
0

Men do indeed not care about their partner's intelligence as much as women's but the fact that education, money and intelligence decreases a woman's chances is not because men do not like intelligent women, it's because women seek to date up and there's only so many wealthy, highly educated men to go around. If they were willing to date down then this wouldn't be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:34 AM
3

I hope you are not talking about yourself, OP
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:38 PM
4

I have some female friends, some of them attractive, none of them single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:32 PM
5

It sounded like people actually made an effort on it. The profile features were designed for web rather than a 'hot or not' swipe app. Ever since Match bought it, it's been getting worse and worse and progressively towards a "hot or not" swipe app. On the web is still kinda OK, although a lot of features were moved to premium, but the app tries to be tinder as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:42 PM
1

What i meant is that treating women differently than men for the sole fact that they are women is sexist. Women have been campaigning for equality for decades. Preferential treatment would reverse on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 04:47 PM
1

As a man you do NOT get respect and kindness automatically. You have to earn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 04:45 PM
1

That sounds like sexism to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:55 PM
8

Yeah, you are better looking than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:00 AM
4

How's your dating life if i may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 09:45 AM
0

I'm 30 and i guess i prefer (not demand) a woman slightly younger than me. I fear that women over 30 will want to rush into having a baby, before we get to really learn each other. Realistically speaking, i wouldn't turn down anyone though if a woman were miraculously into me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:52 PM
1

As someone with a fair amount of friends but has never been in a relationship, it hardly makes me feel less lonely even if i'm not alone. On the other hand I'm not sure if i would rather have a relationship but no friends. Unless my hypothetical partner is a carbon copy of me who enjoys at least everything i like, she wouldn't be a complete replacement for friend groups. I can't 100% answer since i don't know what being in a relationship is like but having no friends would be terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:28 PM
7

- They can get sex from a hot guy any time when they want sex - If they want a relationship, there are plenty of relationship oriented men and there's little competition for them since they are not as hot ​ The situation seems ideal. Problems only arise if they expect long term commitment from very attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:06 PM
1

Every time the idea being socially active leads you to relationship success, i wonder why is it not working for me. >!Could it be because I'm short, bald and ugly?!<
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:09 AM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:58 AM
1

Sure i'll wear a condom. Shame you couldn't accept your double standards. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:30 PM
1

Very small. I don't see why you are asking me and not the OP though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:21 PM
1

OK, i now want you to apply the same logic to cases where a woman was sexually assaulted after drinking too much at a party or was walking through a dodgy neighborhood, or was wearing sexy clothing or any other situation where "she was asking for it" and tell me if that's any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:20 PM
1

Now you are just victim blaming. The man being stupid does not excuse the woman lying and manipulating him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:52 PM
-1

The comment explicitly said "trapped" not unwanted pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:49 PM
-5

Sure you can get trapped. Maybe she lies about being on the pill. Maybe they use a condom but she picks it up from the trash later.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:37 AM
3

OP's perception of what red/blackpillers think a chad is is inaccurate though. Chad is simply the collection of purely physical traits attractive to the majority of women. Personality is not included in this collection because he looks so good, it doesn't matter whether he's nice or an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:00 AM
3

I'm sure there's plenty of men who read books. I guess you find reading books unattractive or the men who read books have other unattractive traits to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 07:39 AM
1

I have been working on that for 10 years. I have come leaps and bounds from where i started. I have a well paying, comfy job, i have seen therapists, i am active and yes i hit the gym (i even take showers, imagine that) They do not override me being short, bald and ugly unless i become a millionaire. I am tired of everyone assuming i have been sitting on my ass doing nothing. It's just that after a decade of working on myself I'm tired of going nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:23 PM
0

Need someone that is excited for you, even if someone else comes along. A nice notion but unrealistic for men on the bottom of the barrel
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:12 PM
3

But if you aim within your league you have a chance. Here's the thing. I am short, bald with a skin condition. Of course i wear nice, fitting clothes appropriate to the occasion but the blunt truth is that i am one of the least attractive men everywhere i go. Physically speaking, there is no reason for a woman to date me when everyone else looks better. Why don't women join your group? Do the thirsty guys chase them away? Do they not enjoy the activities you do? What do single women in your area…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:24 PM
14

They are average people, they think personality is all that matters and conclude that i must not be struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:34 PM
3

A lot of (bluepilled) men give the same advice, although that's no surprise i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:07 PM
11

What happened to "You shouldn't join events only to find women"? Men are unlikely to enjoy dancing, yoga, crocheting or whatever female-dominated hobby circles are. Mixed gender hobby groups tend to be sausage-fests.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:04 PM
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I'd first like to mention one thing about mixed-gender social groups that everyone leaves out: The majority of the members are men and the women are very probably are already taken. I've met 100s of people in the past 2 years, despite the pandemic, and let's say 40% were women; i can count the single ones on one hand. I've been on the lookout for signs of attraction by those handful of women and i saw them - but not directed at me. Usually they go towards the tall guy or the guy with the nice fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:59 PM
15

Bunch of things, i have multiple social circles. Going out to cafes, pubs, bars, sometimes clubs and generally hanging around somewhere outside Board games, sometimes in a board game cafe Bouldering Cycling Going to special events
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:41 PM
0

Being either tall and at least average looking or being average height but otherwise good looking plus going outside and approaching / talking to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:21 PM
31

Anecdotal evidence, yes i may be below average, but i can tell you these days i occupy myself with other people after work and that hasn't helped my dating life at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:18 PM
1

Yep, she should just take a shower, see a therapist, hit the gym and stop hating men, according to Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:21 AM
3

Interesting. Are "they" in the room right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 07:14 AM
1

Anger is a human feelings and venting about one's problem can help relieve the stress. Frustration don't necessarily come from entitlement but can originate from repeated failures or being lied to. Even if one objectively understands that "ok yeah i guess i wasn't mean to reproduce" it's a whole different beast to emotionally accepting that you will be alone forever. Those who struggle to understand this concept lack empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:55 PM
1

Where did this idea that romanceless men believe they deserve love/companionship/sex came from? It's pure gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:48 PM
14

Some men can pull off a shaved head, and some (probably most) can't This tbh. When someone asks if they like bald men they usually think of celebrities who look good bald but would look even better with hair. Most men are not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 08:52 AM
1

What constitutes as nice eyebrows? Thick? Thin? Long?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 08:41 AM
17

Have a cool hairstyle if you aren’t bald Thank you for remembering us bald men, if i had a penny whenever someone online told me to get a nice haircut I'd be rich by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:42 AM
2

(looking pretty optional)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:40 PM
3

Wasn't the inventor of the term a lesbian?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:28 AM
6

Is this a parody comment or are you being for real?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:44 AM
1

Case in point
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:39 PM
21

Yep. If you are otherwise above average looking, being 5'8 in the US is not that much of a handicap. OP would probably had different results if he was below average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:49 AM
1

If only those were the #1 priority in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:12 AM
6

Women are not willing to sacrifice their individual desire for the greater good; no humans are, men included. The reason we had monogamy was because men as a whole enforced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:57 AM
15

You are not wrong but again, the prerequisite is to be hypermasculine, which most men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:51 PM
71

What i hate the most is people who say "just shave it and rock a bald look" because these people think of men like Jason Statham, Kobe, and other celebrities but don't realize that these men are not handsome because they are bald but despite being bald. Most men look like chemo patients bald. I'm not saying balding is better, of course not, but no if you are an average man (actual average) even lifting won't make you handsome bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:43 PM
1

There are people who are inherently physically unattractive e.g. men with recessed jaws, short and bald men, etc.. Not everything is fixable by getting a nice haircut and hitting the gym. And yes, before you ask me - as most people do after i state this - i do hit the gym myself and take care to maximize my appearance where i can myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:06 AM
2

I was never obese - i was overweight for a few years at 85kg then i lost 20kg and worked on building muscle. It didn't improve my dating life one bit as i was still short and bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:09 PM
3

Because men think about all the men they've seen and come up with a score that really is representative of what's ugly and handsome. Women forget actual ugly men exist so everyone not at the very top is below average. Of course in the end, for straight men, only the women's score matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:37 AM
5

I've learnt that when it comes to measuring a man's attractiveness there's two scales: one as rated by another man and one as rated by a woman. For the latter you basically remove 2-3 points if the man is not rated as 8+ from other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:39 AM
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Said by clueless people who are in a relationship or have been multiple times and don't understand how decades of loneliness can fuck you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:49 AM
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Understanding the nature of something and changing your behavior to work with it is not the same as blaming. What you are saying is the same as blaming gravity that you fell down and broke your legs for jumping off a window. Nobody's blaming gravity of course, rather you should stop jumping out of the windows.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 03:26 PM
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Not sure about the first one. In a lot of european countries the average male height is at least 6'0. 5'7 is a big difference between the average (not tall) height.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:55 PM
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I'm not OP but i did that for years and still do. I've gained a lot of what i call "light friends" - that is acquaintances which are down to do stuff, but usually with a group. Socializing made me feel better and i enjoyed the activities - from paintball to just hanging out with drinks. I have no problems talking to people, be it man or woman, and can carry myself through deeper conversations. I can say my social circle has increased. People vaguely like me. I've been described as easygoing, fun…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:37 AM
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What an absurd take on OP's post. Most humans psychologically need intimacy. That doesn't mean they feel broken when they receive none, it means they are sad. Chemicals in your brain are causing that emotion because they don't get what they need. Your assumption that he feels to be broken based on the fact of wanting intimate relationships leers towards just world fantasy and, dare i say, misandry. Why can't you accept that some men struggle to find relationships for little fault of their own?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:22 AM
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The difference is that men don't try to PC talk and say creepy instead of ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:30 AM
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Source: your rear end?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:55 AM
2

Please stop gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:02 AM
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I don't know where you live but here younger women tend to have a self esteem high up in the clouds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:59 AM
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No, what I’m trying to say is that one’s relationship opportunities come from the pool of one’s sexual choices. People with more sexual choices have more relationship opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:09 AM
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Just have a “strong core” bro
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 02:16 PM
2

The vast majority of men have few sexual choices ergo fewer relationship chances. Sure, complete virgins are a (ever increasing) minority but only the top genetically gifted men can hold as many relationship choices as the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:32 AM
3

I respectfully disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:28 AM
5

As i said, most women. Very few women are so ugly they are universally undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:17 AM
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If a man is massively sexually unappealing then he has no relationship choices. On the other hand, a woman with a big pool of sexual choices (i.e. most women) will be presented with multiple potential relationships, even if the majority of men want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 07:19 AM
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I hate my body. Mainly because I’m short, balding with a below average frame and i have seborrheic dermatitis. I’m still relatively fit for my age (30) but i used to be better until depression really hit me last year. I think on that aspect i still look decent but in any case i would never complain about being fat since that is completely in my power. I would not deny sex if it was offered but not once in my life has it been.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:29 PM
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I've met hundreds of people, men and women, in the past couple years (yes, despite the pandemic) and i could count the ones with bad hygiene on one hand. While it's anecdotal evidence, i don't think anyone has ever done a scientific study on which gender is more hygienic. This is in western europe btw. If you ask me, i think women are grasping at straws on why a man could be a unsuccessful with women based on the very few smelly men they've met in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:41 PM
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Careful, this is getting too based for this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:20 PM
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This is the answer. Everything else is noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:26 PM
13

Men's doors are generally easier to open.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:49 AM
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By now i think it's a Hollywood invention based on the hormone-fueled puppy love you get as a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:24 PM
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I think maybe when i was in highschool - i used to look much better back then and had a massive glow down in my early 20s (lost my hair, outgrown by other men, my face flared up) but i was too dense back then. Ever since then i don't think i've met any woman sexually interested in me. I'm above average in fitness in my current age (30) group and still improving. I go out often and have met/meet many women but none of them were/are interested in me, at least not in that way. No luck with dating a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 05:22 PM
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Because a woman being sexually aggressive is more socially acceptable than a man being sexually aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:21 AM
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It already has. Defend a woman's point? Simp. Attack a woman's point even if deserved? Incel. That's all the words have devolved to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:02 PM
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This 100%. She's not wrong but the fact is, women will not notice the way he carries himself, his fashion and hygiene nor will she care about his character, morals and values if the man is visually unappealing. Maybe women don't find only 6'4, Norwood 0 gym bros attractive, as some proclaim, but it is entirely possible (and not too rare) to have a combination of traits that make you a non-option to all women you meet. Those men will never get to show their personality. Looks gets you through the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:50 PM
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My argument holds on the basis that those 100k men “should step up their game” as you originally suggested. You are changing your premise as you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:33 PM
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I edited my comment immediately after i posted it because i wanted to add something i thought after i pressed submit, not to make you sound dumber.Sorry about that but It just happened that you checked your inbox 15 seconds after you got a message. And no, that's not how it works. the top 1-2% will always be relative. If a hundred thousand people now "step up their game", then the new best 1-2% of those will now be considered good options.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:25 PM
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It makes your comment irrelevant, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:21 PM
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Point is, that 1-2% of men is mostly the same subset of men. That leaves hundreds of thousands of men as lesser options if you live in even a moderately sized city.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:19 PM
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They want to be told to do (something) and get results. They haveactually already been promised this... Get a good job, be a goodprovider and get results. But they found out that that wasn't true andthey're annoyed but it's all fine as long as we give them something elseto work and grind on and get result. This isn't only a RP thing (and i don't believe RP promises success anyway). This is exactly what BP men hear: be a nice person who treats women with respect and you'll find someone. Then, per…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:40 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:04 PM
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Why would this trigger incels?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:13 AM
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Looks open the door, social skills let you through. If the door is shut in your face, there's no way to exhibit your skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:02 PM
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This may sound narcissistic but I'd like someone like me in terms of lifestyle and personality, but female. In terms of lifestyle that means having a wife range of interests from cycling and hiking to watching anime and playing videogames, balancing an active life with a more passive one. Being introverted but without having problems talking to people. Have enough self-respect to not allow herself become fat. Generally, my ideal partner is someone with whom we would enjoy shared hobbies. For per…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:23 AM
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I think this is the core of issue. It's not that flirting in the office is unacceptable, it's that the standards for men have gone way up the past decade so only a small minority can hit on women, not only in the office but generally everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:51 PM
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Most of what makes a man physically attractive comes down to genetics. Height, face, shoulder breadth, hair. Above average looking men are born, not made. These men can improve their looks further with work on their own. Below average men tend to be short and ugly and balding, stuff like that. They can work on their body but they can't fix their genetics. And as the bar for attractiveness goes higher, they are left even lower behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:32 AM
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I see you've never felt hopelessness before.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:35 PM
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Both men and women would suffer at the LTR you suggest. Men because they are seen as utility objects rather than beloved husbands and women because they have to put up with a "not that sexually appealing" man while yearning for chad from her prime time. Maybe it becomes easier for the average man to get an LTR but is it worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:43 PM
3

How about you insult what they are doing and not how they have been born?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:06 PM
3

I gave up trying to defend to the original definition of incel, so yes, with the modern interpretation of the word all "incels" are misogynists. That said, they were made misogynists from their real life experiences and it's not the misogyny that makes women hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:42 PM
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And by doing so you help create more of those men who hate and degrade women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:55 PM
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Your mistake is not realizing that this lie has been making new incels out of non-incels every day. The existing incels have moved on and cope by posting misogynistic memes online.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:53 PM
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This isn't about helping incels - it's about helping everyone. But since you admittedly hate men there's no point arguing about this further.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:25 PM
3

Ah yes, whataboutism. I'm sure that will help things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:13 PM
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And passerby balding men who don't even know about the red pill (yet) will see those comments and see that balding men are hated. By insulting one's physical flaws like that you are popularizing the red/blackpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:08 PM
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I'm not the guy you were replying to but in my opinion a lot less genetically gifted men become angry because they were lied to by society about what women find attractive. That is to say, they were told to be a kind, nice, confident person and so on but nobody told them to not have recessed jawlines, not be balding or short, etc.. You can't negotiate attraction therefore it'll be doubtful if such men can ever be seen as more than a walking ATM. I'd say the best way to address it is by being hon…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:02 PM
3

If they are fathers then they are not incels by definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:54 AM
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And bigger men can overpower a short man but, while short men are often insecure when it comes to dating (i will not argue whether they are right or not), they are not afraid they are going to be attacked by strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:31 PM
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No, that was a meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:09 PM
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It's a nice dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 04:39 PM
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Press the arrow pointing down.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:03 PM
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The treatment others would give him if he looked like that would be enough to give him mental health issues again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:01 PM
1

no curly hair What about no hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:20 PM
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Other variables include: charisma, confidence, sense of humor, talent, ambition. All useless in developing attraction if the man is not physically up to par. And yes, you can say the is the same for men towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:24 PM
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Are you sure effort is sexy or is it success that is sexy? Would you find effort that had failed for some reason outside the person’s control sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:07 PM
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Nope, that notion still exists. People just selectively forget bumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:01 PM
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Anecdotal evidence but I’m at 14-15% body and there is no difference in my non existent dating life. That said I’m also short, bald and with a skin condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:55 AM
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if you are a man and get sexually assaulted while drunk just grow a pair and man up Great advice, I’m sure male victims of sexual assault will appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:47 AM
4

Why not Danny DeVito?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:08 PM
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OP’s point is not about how easy women have it on dating apps, it’s about how women complain that men on dating apps are trash while he found them to be completely fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:00 AM
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If it’s backed by hard science and statistics, Is this even arguable? Or are we at the point where we can’t talk about it in order to not hurt feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 08:51 AM
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So they are the ones who don't want an LTR. From the perspective of a woman who wants a marriage they may not be an HVM, but i'm sure any such woman would change their opinion if your friends stop playing around and want to settle down. That alone makes them high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 09:20 AM
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Do they have any trouble attracting women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:56 AM
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I expect everyone to *try* to do something about their situation. If women who claim they have no options never approached a man themselves then they are just lazy. But i know that's too much to ask of some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:53 AM
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Men love it when women approach first, have they tried that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:43 AM
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All women have options, it's just that FDS qweens, being low value themselves, only have low value options which they despise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:27 AM
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She's playing the pity game. I'm sure some man will read this and think "i can save her".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/22 04:00 PM
7

This comment is a good example why so many hate incels. Just plain misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:53 AM
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What kind of cartoon caricature of an incel do you have in your mind that the first thing he does is “spew hate” on the first meeting?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:35 PM
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I did therapy but it did not fix my face, I’ll try jesus now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:34 PM
6

He can become a betabux, great.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:28 PM
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In theory, women date upwards so no, incels cannot date someone similar to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:22 PM
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Neither of those is a choice though whereas everything in the OP is except being bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:17 PM
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Thing is, friends can tell their troubles to each other for support. Even if a woman claims to be your friend, If you, a man, make the mistake of venting your issues to her, she’ll tell you to man up and drop the friendship asap.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:04 PM
1

I hope you don’t expect commitment then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:05 PM
0

Then, if there are only few quality men that women choose from, are you willing to share these men with other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:08 PM
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You completely misunderstood the point. Women do not find " average height/looks/weight, college educated, middle class job, decent not creepy pics, ready for commitment, no red flags, and a profile with more than 3 sentences" as average on dating apps. You'll need to be in the actual top 20% to be seen as average.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:45 AM
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If you're average height, weight, looks, college educated, ok dressed, middle class job, no glaring red flags, pics that aren't low res flexing in a mirror, edgy filter, a face closeup, or a gun, you're already like top 20% of men on OLD. Lmao no. Remember that women rate 80% of men as below average. Men have to be extraordinary to be even considered top 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:55 AM
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Self-improvement is a tool of the patriarchy!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/21 11:50 AM
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30M, 0. Not for lack of trying but i am... fairly disadvantaged. I'd rather someone with the same body count as mine but i know at this age I'd have more luck finding a leprechaun with a pot of gold riding a unicorn at the end of a rainbow. In the hypothetical scenario with a serious partners, I'd prefer someone with a lower body because i would fear that i am just another number for a woman with a high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:53 PM
3

Now THIS is a bad platitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 11:32 AM
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Decency is a tool of the patriarchy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/11/21 08:53 PM
2

Not always. Asking out someone from a social group you are in can result in worse things than a “no”, namely being ostracized.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:58 PM
1

They are bitching about attractive men not approaching them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 11:47 AM
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I don’t wonder how her search is going but i am curious as to what she’s thinking after her profile failed to find her a tall, handsome, athletic, rich mr. Perfect.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/11/21 03:47 PM
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Yes, there are a couple of redpill communities that make fun of overweight single mothers on dating apps demanding a 666 chad. Compare that to the hate chronically single men get on every social platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:24 AM
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Looking at the replies of this post it doesn't look like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:22 AM
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Social: 6 I put myself in social situations and make friends easily. If there's silence, i break it and i have no problem talking to strangers, including women. I give myself a 6 because, despite being socially affluent i am less interested in "normal" activities like getting wasted and going to the club - which i still do sometimes but i prefer games or sports or a chill house party. Unfortunately not being interested in common activities knocks a lot of points and it doesn't help that I'm the …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:07 AM
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It's interesting that when a man down on his luck is venting about not being able to find a partner is called entitled by the entire internet but when a woman is ranting about not being able to find a "high quality" man is considered simply having standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:38 AM
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I'm hoping someone will comment that they like shorter, ugly, bald men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 07:50 AM
9

Just give up your existing career, belongings and friendships and move to get laid bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:07 PM
39

Bluepillers vehemently deny it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:13 PM
1

Women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:24 AM
5

There are a lot of average (or better) looking or teenage self-proclaimed incels that maybe could benefit from a change of mind that therapy can offer but as someone who believes they are legitimately in the bottom percentage of men (6" below average height, bald, unfortunate facial features, below average body breadth, etc.) and has been to therapy for multiple (5?) years, i didn't find it particularly helpful in fitting in society. To elaborate on what we've talked about, in my case it was abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:12 PM
1

You are only allowed to express emotions from a short list of topics, for example if someone close to you has passed away or if you are worried about your close friend who is going through some trouble right now. If you express dissatisfaction with other life circumstances, e.g. work stress, how you were mistreated by someone today, etc. then "you should visit a therapist".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:02 AM
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Nothing is more blackpilling than copying your OLD profile but put pictures of chad instead of yours and watch your inbox blow up. Now you'll tell me that "attractive people get more attention, you only learnt that now?" and, well, most women and a large portion of men still don't accept this simple fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:46 AM
1

Now this is what i call toxic positivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:37 AM
3

I recommend an egg in these trying times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:05 AM
5

Plenty of boring and irritating but attractive men have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:40 AM
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She connected with his height and jaw.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/09/21 11:56 AM
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She gets all her knowledge about JP from tweets that are parroting other tweets but no poster bothered to look into the topic.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/21 06:29 AM
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You can do worse than board games, assuming she means enthusiast board gaming and not Cards Against Humanity at last friday's party.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/09/21 07:15 PM
9

35 tons
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/09/21 07:03 AM
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A lot of genetically gifted men are unable to realize their success is owed to their height/looks because they’ve been told that personality and confidence is what matters. As a result, they mistake the source of their attractiveness to be their behavior and not the fact that they have a nearly universally desired body.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/21 07:10 AM
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Biden is not my president. I’m not American
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/08/21 10:14 PM
1

Learn to read and don’t selectively skip words.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:28 PM
4

As I said, most men. Some have serious issues that can be resolved or helped with therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 10:54 AM
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It’s my belief that most men who go to therapy would be more helped with plastic surgery / hair transplant / whatever helps them overcome their unappealing genetics than talking to a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 08:38 AM
1

So instead of venting their frustration, it’s better to keep their feelings bottled?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:52 AM
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How come you feel empathy for the 60% of women who have chosen to chase the top and end up alone but not the 80% of men who had no say in the matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:48 AM
5

They were probably average.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 09:08 PM
3

If she doesn’t consider me attractive there is no way an LTR will last. If it does it’s because of what I provide, not who I am. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:36 AM
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Nope, unlike women who are wanted even if they look like a pig, albeit by less attractive men, ugly men are completely undesirable - that means no interest whatsoever by the opposite sex. From a female perspective It may be hard to imagine but that’s how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 04:58 AM
3

Valuing yourself in a way that everyone disagrees with is called being delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:05 PM
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I can definitely see an FDS qween posting this to boast how fast she shut this LVM (man who doesn’t want to give her free money) down.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/08/21 06:02 PM
3

Your value in society is determined by society, not yourself. Only hermits can assign their own value.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 05:44 PM
3

“He looked at me wrong HELP!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 09:18 AM
5

Most people think that the black pill is 100% lay down and rot but that’s not true. It is simply the acceptance that looks is the most important thing to have in any social interaction, especially dating, and improving your looks to the best of your ability (“looksmaxxing”) is a core tenet of inceldom. Hence people who claim they are ugly because they are fat are called volcels. The thing is, you still need to have good looks under that fat. If a man is short and bald with an average face he is …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 09:11 AM
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It's logical that women prefer more attractive guys, just as men prefer more attractive women. I'd say people are talking it about it more now than ever because social media and OLD have allowed women to filter for the apex attractive men in a wide area, leaving the average men behind; whereas before, a limited area - as well as more strongly culturally enforced monogamy - meant more men had a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 02:26 PM
1

You feel entitled to get something by someone who wants something else. Many women expect an LTR from the tall, super hot dude they match with on Tinder for a hookup but don't realise they themselves are not LTR material for that kind of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 12:11 PM
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Definitely. Baldness can make men more attractive by accentuating their masculinity *if* the other desired masculine traits are there - height, square face and broad shoulders. If you don't have those traits then you'll look terrible bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 08:39 AM
1

You mean a woman with worse looks. A man’s looksmatch can always do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 08:30 AM
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He's "only" 5'8 so he's not good enough for FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:00 AM
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There’s no point virtue signaling here, you can be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:29 AM
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“With the good women” is another good one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 07:07 AM
5

But the men ditching their children are?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 08:02 PM
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You misunderstood by what men mean by women having high standards. The standards have nothing to do with the personality traits you've listed or, indeed, any personality traits, at all. They are all about appearance - must not be short, must not be balding, must not have a recessed chin, etc. If anything, the fact that women's choices forgo those supposedly desired personality traits shows that they have other, higher priority requirements for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:06 PM
10

Most men look horrible bald or at least worse than if they still had hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 04:21 PM
1

Bald look can work if you are tall and have broad shoulders; it accentuates one's masculinity which some women find attractive. However if you are bald and short then you are completely undesirable. If you notice any signs of balding, you best try to stop it completely with finasteride, minoxidil and dermarolling quickly before you lose too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:36 PM
3

It may work if you are tall and handsome enough.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 10:01 AM
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Was any of your boyfriends 5'5 with an average build and face?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:51 AM
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Clearly you don't know what it's like to be an unattractive man and your idea of their experience is based on your experience. You can take care of yourself and dress well, you can attend class and charity events you can go bask in the sun all you want but there is always a more attractive man doing the same. Women will of course go for the better option, why wouldn't they? Case in point, I've done / do most of the things you've listed and more and I have been / am as undesirable as ever (yes yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:15 AM
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Of course it can... provided you are good looking. In my anecdotal experience, going to hundreds of social events/meetups thought the past few years (also while pandemic rules were relaxed), only the better looking/taller men received such attention from the already very few single women joining. Other men are just meant to enjoy the meetup. It's no different than online dating, looks are #1.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:47 PM
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It’s very likely she’s one of those Vietnamese/Filipino/Indonesian/etc. women who are looking for residency in Europe or the USA. OLD is full of them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/06/21 08:32 AM
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You really are clueless. That’s the women and top men experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:21 AM
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Prostitution won't give emotional acceptance and intimacy, which is what most incels want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 04:25 PM
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You think the average and below male can fuck around? Cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:18 AM
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Thing is, women rate 80% of men as below average looking, at least on OLD - although there is no reason to expect it's different IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:41 PM
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Were there even two "incel shootings" outside of the US? I know there's the Toronto van attack but i can't think of another instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 03:38 PM
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I don't see a contradiction here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:22 AM
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I have participated in all the now-banned major incel subs (sue me) and every time there was a consensus poll, the majority was non-white. And this is on a website used predominantly by white Americans. The idea that incels are white men was done to connect them to the far-right, further demonizing them - although in my experience interacting with other users very few were political at all.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/06/21 05:43 AM
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I used to talk with a 28 year old Chinese girl on OKC once. She kept telling me how her parents pester her to marry but she insisted that the men there are no good. She showed me how she has 70K likes in a Chinese dating app, told me about the arranged marriage meetings her parents organize and when i asked how is it possible that she cannot find someone she told me, i quote: "For starters, looks. Chinese men are like villagers". Meanwhile, from her messages it was obvious she had a white fever.…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 07:22 PM
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Fat, drunk, and stupid is no way to go through life girl Wow, how dare you shame her for living her life the way she wants to, you misogynistic incel scum!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 10:45 AM
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And favourite color is (dollar) green.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/04/21 02:50 PM
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And foodie aka "take me to expensive restaurants (and pay for me too)"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/02/21 11:41 AM
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As a man you need to be as perfect as possible to get attention. She doesn't.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/12/20 12:09 PM
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I believe that's just called "planning" outside the military. It's pretty obvious that you have to plan the time needed ahead but apparently it escaped at least this womyn's mind.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/10/20 02:15 PM
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Why can't your emotional closes offed-ness translate to your legs? I'm dying
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/20 10:22 AM
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That's why lady justice wears a blindfold.
/r/BlackPillScience14/07/20 10:29 AM
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When she wants to eat everything*
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/20 03:38 PM
21

No. Being fat is a choice. Being short is not.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/20 06:48 PM
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I don't understand women who post this shit. Do they think that making it clear they only want your money is attractive?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/20 02:47 PM
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When the husband cheats, he's the asshole. When the wife cheats, the husband is still the asshole.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/02/20 12:38 PM
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It's very impressive how you managed to completely misunderstand his message and feel superior about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:37 PM
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Prostitutes don't give you affection either.
/r/BlackPillScience27/02/19 03:14 PM
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