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DISCUSSIONcerahhh/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:12 PM
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DATING ADVICEcerahhh/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 01:01 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTcerahhh/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 06:33 PM
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DISCUSSIONcerahhh/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 03:13 PM
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I've never been with a man that was really into social media other than posting the odd picture and maybe a status or two but I'm not really into it myself. Being active or 'popular' on social media isn't a quality I look for. If anything I think I would find it a little off-putting as it would make them seem insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 11:09 AM
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My friend went this summer and kept sending me pictures, I was so jealous!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 12:42 PM
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I'm open to saying that. I have dated guys that have later shown they lack empathy so it would be a good way of filtering them out quickly. I agree with what another commenter said about moving the topic to something more positive though. I don't want to come across as hateful towards my ex or to be a negative person so I'd probably mention how the relationship made me really work on myself as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 12:39 PM
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I'll try that (not the forehead lines 😜). I dress maturely in the evening but I suppose during the day my style comes across a bit more youthful and it's generally during the day when I'm approached (at least in a more gentlemanly way than in a bar, haha). I also think I look more mature when my hair is tied back and I've been watching YouTube videos for ideas to vary ponytails and updos so I will give that a go as well. Thanks for the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:26 PM
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I am actually a total history nerd and I'm specialising in WW1 next year so I have been wanting to travel to the various nations that were part of the Austro-Hungarian Empire anyway so that's not a terrible idea.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:07 PM
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I agree about older men but I struggle because although I'm 25, I've been told several times I could pass as a 17 year old so it's difficult to attract men that are much older than me. I know RP insists men are attracted to youth but in my experience that isn't the case. I either attract men that are a couple of years younger than me or they're older but look young themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:03 PM
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Not all men obviously. As I said some are gentlemanly but they are rare. I like your advice though of going to where I guess my 'perfect other half' would be although I will have to give it some thought.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:00 PM
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I've never gone out looking for dates. I just live my life and accept them when they ask which is what the Surrendered Single preaches.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:58 PM
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A few through university who either have approached me after lecture or in the library, others through friends, one I met at a wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:42 PM
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Read Laura Doyle's 'The Surrendered Single'. She basically explains you shouldn't try to control your dating life. You can't will a man to be attracted to and if you tried you'd probably look desperate (I've seen women do this and it's seriously cringe-inducing). You can't make a serial womanizer a loyal boyfriend so you accept them for who they are and move on because that's not what you want in a man. You are the only person in this scenario that you have control over.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 05:21 PM
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I've been single for two years and I could've settled at many points but I've seen friends be in relationships simply for the sake of being in one and it's a sorry sight to see.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 11:43 AM
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My first LTR wasn't good at sex or foreplay and, as I was a virgin when I met him, I didn't realise it wasn't very good and I assumed I had a really low libido but now I realise it's really high. If you're not enjoying it, you don't want it unfortunately. Is there anything specific you don't enjoy about the foreplay?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:32 PM
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Oh yeah. I am a disorganised mess who loves to procrastinate and sometimes even forgets to eat when I don't exercise. Exercising regularly just seems to make everything fall into place. I don't really exercise at home as I'm one of those people that feeds off the space for motivation so I study in the library and exercise in the gym. It gets me out the house earlier, I make sure I have a good breakfast so I'm not shaky and weak when I work out, and I'm also very conscious of what I'm eating (nee…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 08:16 PM
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Haha, I know what you mean. I was like that when I first quit and couldn't bear being near anyone that was smoking but I'm pretty sure it's because my nose became super sensitive. All the healths websites say after quitting you'll 'smell the flowers more' but the reality is that the world is a stinky place. All I could smell everywhere I went was sweat, smoke and dog poo. If I worked as a florist things might have been different but sadly not.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 09:45 PM
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I'm a huge fan but I do think you have to grow up with the films to appreciate them and even then it can feel weird watching the first two now I'm an adult. The third one was simply abysmal which is a shame because the third book is my favourite one. They do get much better from Goblet of Fire onwards but the books are undoubtedly better. Welcome to the Harry Potter world anyway! Also, don't read the play. Don't ruin it for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 08:58 PM
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Thanks for the kind words! Tomorrow will be a new, smoke-free day for me :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 08:27 PM
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Ok I've read The Surrendered Single and it's a good read and all but you should really be putting all of your energy into HP. 😜
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 08:26 PM
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September 2017 Quit smoking (disgusting habit, I know. I quit for 6 months before but I was a complete idiot and was curious about what cigarettes would taste like and now here I am having to quit again). Establish a more productive morning routine. Start meditating and begin by doing it at least twice a week. Start a plant-based diet. Don't bite or pick my nails If I complete all this, I'm going to treat myself to a mani pedi and maybe I'll get some highlights in my hair.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 11:55 AM
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I'm 25 and I look really young despite being tall. I CANNOT attract a man over 30. I'm not bad looking or anything but I only attract men that are younger than me or are older but look young (and even then the oldest guy I've ever been in a relationship with was only 3 years older than me). This RP notion that men are obsessed with youth is a load of nonsense. People generally go for people are closer to them in age and looks. I'm looking forward to being 30. I should be able to buy myself a dri…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 01:14 AM
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I don't agree with what people are saying in that you have issues because you don't want to wear a skirt and heels everyday. I think he's being unfair insisting you wear something impractical and potentially injury inducing on a daily basis. As someone who had to go to a physiotherapist because I wore a range of heels every day (even then, stilettos were a rarity) from the age of 15 to 22, I would advise against it. I've had to commit 40 minutes a day just to Pilates and stretching for a long ti…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:58 PM
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If you're interested in marriage, why are you dating two men? Dating two men does not necessarily mean having sex with two men, she's simply getting to know them in an environment where there's potential for romance. If a woman is looking for commitment, it makes more sense to cast a wide net as not all men are going to be right for her or may not be willing to commit and are just after sex. Having options is a good thing. I'm sure when she decides who she is going to be exclusive with she will …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 12:36 AM
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Isn't Marilyn Monroe the one that's usually credited for the idea of 'leaving before you're left'? Not much of a role model when it comes to relationship and life advice. If you don't want the vulnerability that comes with love then be on your own and don't bother with it at all. I wouldn't even say get a cat because they die and break your heart too. In fact, why stop there? Don't faff around with friendships, you might fall out. Don't bother looking for a job, you might lose it. And don't even…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:57 PM
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I want to be like my mum when I'm older when it comes to young people. She's a private tutor and is really popular with the kids (ages range from 6-21) because she treats them like human beings with hopes, fears, anxieties, etc. Rather than treating them like children that don't know any better. If she is remotely jealous or bitter about her age, she definitely doesn't show it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 10:57 AM
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I have the same problem. I read somewhere years ago that people can't tell whether or not you're looking into their eyes if you stare at the centre of their forehead. I've been doing it for years and recently told a friend that's what I do and they made me look at both their forehead and their eyes to see if they could see a difference and they couldn't.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 01:19 AM
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Women aren't banned for posting on TRP but they're not exactly welcomed there either. I checked your post history to see if I could see the post and I think you got banned because you began your post by announcing you were a woman. They hate that. Post it on here. You'll mostly get the female perspective but men do wander over from TRP fairly often so they'll give you advice too. Generally RPW take the male advice with a pinch of salt, sometimes a whole shaker of the stuff, but if you are seekin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 12:31 AM
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I just celebrated my 25th over the weekend just gone and now I'm back to studying which I hope will be very short-lived as I have other commitments which are, admittedly, less important but nonetheless more appealing My to do list is: - Research and write a 3000 word essay which I will hopefully finish tomorrow evening - Go to my friend's four-day-long hen do which is why it'd be preferable to finish my essay by tomorrow night as there's a spa day on Wednesday's itinerary - Detox at the end of t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/17 03:32 PM
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Thanks everyone for your responses. I do now think he probably didn't pick it up from the way I was behaving and was just making assumptions based on generalisations of human behaviour. I have a lot of female friends with similar problems so it's common. I have heard through the grapevine that he does have a crush on me so that could be attributed as to why (not sure though, he wasn't my type before and that put me off him even more despite him not saying it maliciously so I can't see how it's a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:23 PM
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Thank you for your response. You sound like you'd benefit greatly from adding confidence building things in your life. This will mean stepping out of your comfort zone regularly and consistently. I have been meaning to do this. I was planning on signing up for some drama classes as a means of stepping outside my comfort zone. I'll look for other things as well because I believe you may be right. I do not know your exact situation, but I'd say in general some types of overthinking come from lack …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:08 PM
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Yes I do the same thing. Especially if they're not grasping the facts I'm giving them and like you said, basing what they're saying off opinions alone. I've been practicing listening to people rather than participating in an active discussion because I know how passionate I can get. It's REALLY difficult and I do fail a lot but I don't want to be one of those people who everyone thinks I love the sound of my own voice. Listening is a great skill to have and a lot harder than it sounds. If you su…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 02:39 PM
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Interesting. I have a similar issue that I'm working on in regards to coming across as argumentative and hostile so I'm in part commenting so I can return to this thread and read others' suggestions. No one's ever said anything to me but my mum acts in a similar way and it really bugs me how loud and 'shouty' she gets so I assume I'm doing a similar thing which makes me cringe. I only started noticing this after her and my dad split up about a decade ago so you may be right and it's to do with u…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 02:08 PM
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I'm a mix of an introvert and an extrovert. I'm also naturally submissive and my previous relationship was with a very dominant man who was introverted. Introvert doesn't equate to 'shy and quiet' just as extrovert doesn't mean 'loud and obnoxious', it just means introverts find over-socialisation draining whilst extroverts find their energy depleted after spending too much time by theirselves. There are outgoing introverts and shy extroverts.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 07:47 PM
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I think a good idea is to come up with a sensible budget with him if he's not particularly interested in the details. It depends on your income obviously but personally I believe starting a marriage with financial strains due to a large wedding isn't a good way to go. I think if you stick with an intended budget and come up with a sensible plan yourself you're showing him you're not frivolous with money (especially if he makes more than you do). Like someone else said, keep him in the loop parti…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 10:48 PM
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It’s something you should study intensely if you are a true sub bc it means that you likely posses many ‘super-traits’ that make you a glittering target for psychopaths, narcissists, and other abusers who ACTIVELY seek women out to hurt them and to drive them to suicide. Submissive woman here and can confirm they are out there and my ex is one of them. Men should never be trusted straight off the bat, especially doms. That was my error and I was on the verge of suicide because of it two years ag…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:14 PM
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Sorry to hear that. It's awful when one accident can impact your life like that and makes it harder to be healthy and fit. Well I do stretches and Pilates daily as my leg muscles are very tight. The physio said she thought I was born with tight leg muscles because I mentioned I had problems keeping my legs locked and straight from a very young age so my knees have never had a proper break (when your legs are bent the bones touch each other and when they're locked they don't touch). Wearing heels…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 02:08 PM
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I'd like to again warn everyone to consider the medical implications of frequent heel wearing. Yes, this is very important to bear in mind. I wore heels everyday throughout my teens and when I was 21 I started getting really sharp pains in my knees whenever I took a step in them. I had to go see a physiotherapist to recover from the mess they'd left my knees in. They are much better now and I can wear heels when I go out for special occasions but most of the time I wear flats (even when I do wea…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:56 AM
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I work on all of these but I can't bear my voice nor my accent :( I've checked out voice training exercises and I've been practising whenever I can and it always sounds drastically better and more feminine when I do what they say but it's hard to remember to talk like that everyday. I think I need a voice coach.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 10:48 AM
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Late 20s logistically is where most people have their best chance in life In my experience I have found this to be relatively accurate. I'm in my mid-twenties and I have a few friends with tendencies to date men in their mid-thirties and they've said these men are as scared of commitment as a twenty-one year old. Obviously, like you said, this is not an absolute. I was dating a man in his late-twenties and I at least believed we were going to get married - he just said it but meaning it is anoth…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 01:53 PM
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YES!! I'd highly recommend this to everyone as I've been doing this since the start of the year rather than trying to change my entire life instantaneously on January 1st. I found it easy to start small and work up: January - take off makeup every night February - drink more water March - go to the gym regularly April - eat better (my diet wasn't bad before but I needed a lot more daily protein for weights at the gym) May - Read every night before bed June - stop wearing makeup and give those da…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 02:12 AM
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University still gives you the opportunity to analyse and question the world around you. I personally enjoy learning so I couldn't imagine not going. I want to be a writer and my studies have taught me to how to research and write. It's not that men aren't attracted to intelligent women, they're not attracted to know-it-alls. They still like women that can hold a conversation and have the slightest clue about what they're talking about. If you can use your intelligence productively and socially,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 02:28 AM
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Thanks, I will give that a go
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:53 AM
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Yes I think the extracurriculars outside of uni are a good bet. I signed up to a lot at freshers including a few sports but most of them arranged maybe one or two meet ups throughout the year (some didn't bother at all). It is the guys on the campus, you're right. I've always been more attracted to older men (not even that much older to be honest) and they tend to have the confidence to ask me out. I will try look for clubs and things around.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:53 AM
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I'm British so no, afraid not. As I said it's very liberal and I think there was a more right leaning club in my first year that was eventually banned (v liberal way of dealing with it).
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:47 AM
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By that do you mean sleep around? I've never done that anyway and I don't intend to start now. I've always found saying 'no' pretty easy and it's a great way to make the guys that are only interested in one thing clear off. EDIT: to add, I don't think I would say no to a relationship if the right guy came along. The right guy would surely understand that I would have a heavy workload and there would be points in the year where that would have to take precedence. As my previous relationship was a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:44 AM
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Fair enough. I am still quite new to the sub and detoxing from my old ways so I am open to having my opinion challenged and taking in some harsh truths.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 09:51 PM
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That's surely still a compatibility thing though. Someone who goes to the gym a lot, plays sports, takes pride in their appearance etc. probably won't be compatible with a couch potato that loves nothing better than watching films/playing video games and has never cared about the way they look. There are obviously exceptions to this as I know a couple of people that are extremely athletic and tend to go for heavier partners that don't bother with any of it but they are exactly that: exceptions.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 09:47 AM
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I've heard women using the rating system which is what bugs me more than men doing it. I get what you're saying. Me and my girlfriends seem to want similar things on paper in regards to attraction but when they or I start dating someone, the reality of what we find attractive are very different. The guys they think are extremely attractive I wouldn't look twice at and visa versa. I don't think there is anyone on the planet, even Hollywood movie stars (although sometimes I assume people are lying…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 09:42 AM
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Exactly. My biggest pet peeve is when I hear someone (male or female) refer to another as a xyz/10.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:15 PM
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I think this whole league business should be thrown in the bin. If you're attracted to one another, compatible on multiple levels, and you put into the relationship equally, what is the problem if you or they are 'not in the same league' and who says you're not? Looks and attraction are entirely subjective.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 07:49 PM
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I enjoyed the link you posted so thank you for that! I feel less concerned (which is a strong word) about always wearing black but I can't help but want a bit of variation. I think I should have a google and, like you, find out what colours would suit me best as at the moment, most of my coloured pieces make me feel the same when I wear them: washed out. I always promise myself when I buy clothes that I will try and get some colourful pieces but then I see a nice top in pink and next to it is th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 01:17 AM
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Late to the party but thanks for posting this! At first I was a bit meh but now I've watched at least 20 videos, realised it's almost 2am where I am, so I've subscribed and saved for later. I particularly liked her moving on video. I've been struggling a lot to move on from a previous relationship and although what she said might not be considered groundbreaking, it's what I needed to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 12:42 AM
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I'm the opposite with tops. I find black tops are the easiest to find lately whilst colourful skirts seem to be more appealing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 05:25 PM
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Yes I agree about the canvas. If I am in all black (which is usually if I'm going out for the evening rather than an everyday outfit), it tends to make whatever jewellery I pair it with more noticeable and I feel I can be a bit more playful with my makeup such as a bold lipstick rather than neutral tones.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 05:11 PM
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