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Not the guy you responded to but figured I'd piggyback on this as I have Aspergers too and have had to work through these kind of feelings. You're making a common mistake in thinking that approaching someone is showing them a window to your soul and everything in between, it really isn't, it's supposed to be a bit of fun. Setting out with that kind of thinking leads you to believe that you're a loser because of lack of job opportunities/friends and therefore you project those feelings onto other…
/r/seduction06/09/16 05:39 PM
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If you were at a bar with your friends and a really hot girl came and "interjected herself into your night", would you feel inconvenienced? I have absolutely no problem with being out with my own friends and breaking off now and again to talk to other groups but the concept of being on my own and scouting around for groups of people I've never met before to talk to as my sole means of socialising is what makes me feel off about the whole idea. In the scenario you pose, I'd probably be questionin…
/r/seduction14/04/16 06:37 PM
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I'm in the exact same position right now, wanting to go out at weekends and do stuff but being dependent on the schedule of my one friend who hasn't moved half way across the continent/got a girlfriend/decided late nights at bars are too much like being a teenager for them now/faded into acquaintance status. I've gotten to the point where I'm starting to set up tinder dates just so I have an excuse for a night out. As much as it goes against the grain of opinion on here, I find the idea of going…
/r/seduction14/04/16 05:40 PM
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If someone cancels on me and doesn't show signs of immediately wanting to rearrange, I tend to not really give them a second thought and move on.
/r/seduction06/04/16 01:03 PM
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Well I consider myself distinctly average looks wise (been confirmed to me by close friends and girls so this isn't a case of poor self esteem) and I've had more success on tinder than I have on OKCupid if you can believe that. That being said the success on both has been minimal compared to my two good looking friends, one friend alone has about 900 matches compared to my 100 in the same area. On the other hand because I'm a bit more street smart about how to react in real life situations I'd s…
/r/seduction20/06/15 06:05 PM
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I'm sorry but we are talking about two completely different things here, yes what you are saying is true for real life situations but for online situations (the point of this thread) looks absolutely do matter. You honestly think a girl swiping in 3-5 seconds on tinder is going to know how you talk or how kind you are to animals? The reason I say it is a problem for average joes is that women in a sexual context have in most cases the final decision whether to let someone be with them. So if you…
/r/seduction20/06/15 10:20 AM
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Because in an online situation most of what makes a guy successful is his looks...there is no room for charm or solid game to overcome looks for the most part. So if you have 6's acting like 8's and thinking they deserve an 8+ guy looks wise, your average Joe is gonna have a hard time reeling them in.
/r/seduction20/06/15 12:42 AM
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Essentially the only guys who can be guaranteed a really successful time on online dating sites (especially OKC/Tinder) are guys that don't need them to get laid in the first place. For everyone else it really can be like pulling teeth as online dating really is a female market, with the top 80% of women going for the top 20% of guys (roughly speaking). The amount of effort taken for an average or below average guy to be successful with girls even around his level is unreal, you pretty much have…
/r/seduction18/06/15 08:25 PM
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You need to do one of two things in this situation: Forget everything, ignore getting women for a while and start working on you. Spend half your time doing things that make you happy (maybe discovering that hobby you will love) and the other half of your time doing things that make you proud (grooming well, exercising, eating well, being productive, having a sense of fashion etc) and you'll eventually find women will become a secondary goal in your life and in a strange way easier to deal with.…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:31 PM
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Learn to appreciate that the universal trend of "the worse the music, the hotter the girls" applies always. In my area there is a rock/metal club and despite playing some decent music, you'd be lucky to find one girl who isn't fat, ugly or taken. However in my town we also have "glam" nightclubs which play awful mainstream music with a beat through it, have incredibly sticky floors and overpriced drinks (mostly shots) but the number of hot girls goes through the roof. Same as places which play R…
/r/seduction15/06/15 12:40 PM
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I wouldn't be too down-heartened about it all, treat each day/night like a different event, get in the moment and stop worrying about whether you were 5% better than the last time. When I started out it took me about three months to get from the point of the most autistic approaches ever to making out with a girl and that was through night game whilst drunk...so doing daygame is even better.
/r/seduction28/04/15 08:52 PM
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The ones you've mentioned are pretty much the best you're gonna get from online dating for the time being. Tinder as you said is probably the best, even though it is starting to go into decline, I think you tend to find a lot more "party girls" or girls you would meet on a night out and who would want to be sexual quicker than other places (not to mention they tend to be conventionally more attractive), though girls who want to date are on there too. OkCupid is a different beast, I notice the le…
/r/seduction28/04/15 04:05 PM
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I think I agree with the general consensus on this one that online dating should be a supplement for the main goal of real life interactions. I would add that in the case of average/below average looking guys that online dating (if you are invested in getting with high quality women) is much harder to pull off than night/day game simply because it's much harder to convey personality and charm online and girls (especially the attractive ones) have endless options. For example I consider myself fa…
/r/seduction15/04/15 10:01 PM
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I've been there plenty man. I'll never forget the countless nights of opening groups of girls only to have that look of ridicule seeping from their eyes, feeling like it was penetrating through me and heightening my insecurities. It's easy in that position to start believing things such as "maybe this only works for good looking guys" or something to that effect. What you have to understand is that when you approach it's an outward projection of how you feel about yourself, so most likely (if yo…
/r/seduction21/02/15 04:43 PM
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18 years old, was scared of women to the point of ridicule but was painfully unhappy with how unsuccessful with them I was, so after watching a few RSD videos I decided to go out and approach. I was drinking, and waiting in a queue at the bar when I saw a rather hot girl standing beside me and usually I'd ignore her but I thought to myself if I didn't do it then I never would. I did it and in all honesty was pretty horrendous as an approach goes, I was slightly drunk and I forgot almost every pi…
/r/seduction16/02/15 11:55 PM
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Any ideas where I might be going wrong? Not pushing for the f-close on the first date? Waiting a while before texting for date 2? Along with the usual smalltalk, I tend to talk about stuff I'm interested in at the moment, which at the moment is machine learning, automation and basic income; too nerdy or random for first date? Yeah I think your problem might be talking too much about your interests, which can be seen as lacking emotional and conversational intelligence to some degree. It's fine t…
/r/seduction14/01/15 08:04 PM
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You need to make them feel as though you aren't an easy attention seeking puppy who will run around following them about with a wagging tongue but at the same time actually still convey some sort of attraction. Hard act but it becomes natural after a while of trying. Break it into two parts, conversational teasing and physical teasing. Conversational means lightly digging at her and making fun of her but not for anything that will bring her down, so make fun of her for something that isn't going…
/r/seduction12/01/15 09:09 PM
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I gather the reasoning behind it was because they didn't want the people who have been posting clips of them trying to "expose" them to take anything out of context to make them look even worse. At least I think that's what Tyler said. Julien is a cocksocket who is better off gone from RSD in my opinion anyways but I've got a soft spot for some of Tyler's inner game stuff so I can see why he wouldn't want to be put in the same category.
/r/seduction09/11/14 12:42 AM
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Dude I'm in the same boat (aspergers and work in the IT field) and honestly I feel your struggle. Days go by where I feel completely disconnected from people in general and interacting and succeeding with beautiful women sometimes feels like a fantasy. Hell I'm even more inexperienced than you man (virgin with no GF's here, only a handful of makeouts and dates). In terms of improving our situations, I think half of it comes with accepting your condition as something you can't really change but a…
/r/seduction09/11/14 12:19 AM
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I'd be careful with that one to be honest, sure I'm being a little melodramatic when I say I'm well and truly screwed for effect but I'd disagree that looks don't matter. They don't matter as much as some think (i.e. it is possible to get with girls who are attractive even if you are not so yourself) but they do still matter to some degree. Especially when dating and hookup culture seems to be shifting more towards online (or as I like to call it "women centric") interactions. A hot girl in a ba…
/r/seduction08/11/14 09:39 PM
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I honestly read this thinking you were meaning the girl you were into wanted to get with 40 year old guys haha. The thing is unless she has some kind of fetish for or extreme preference for older guys then age shouldn't really be a barrier to you. Ask yourself what you actually mean by "mature", if you define that as having an older look then start hitting the gym, dress a bit more maturely (and by that I don't mean styling yourself as a businessman, just sharpen up a little), eat better and hav…
/r/seduction08/11/14 09:16 PM
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Holy shit if he's considered ugly as fuck then I am well and truly screwed.
/r/seduction08/11/14 08:36 PM
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you should be able to talk about anything without the need for alcohol. Hahaha good one...communication without alcohol, where do you people come up with these ideas?!
/r/seduction05/11/14 05:52 PM
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I've spoken about him before and he really doesn't sit right with me on two counts, the borderline sexual assault which you mention and the fact that he's just a good looking guy pretending to be "an average guy". When I used to watch RSD, him and Alexander really stuck out as guys that were just dishonest sleazebags who use their looks to get by. I have a friend who is pretty gropey himself when we are out in clubs and it does eventually get him laid by some girl drunk enough to take his advanc…
/r/seduction05/11/14 01:07 PM
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You'll probably get the usual "if you aren't doing it someone else is, ya shudda gone for it brah" but seriously I wouldn't bother my time with that shit. Fuck being the guy that further perpetuates the image of girls being unfaithful slagbags, seriously I doubt I actually want a relationship with a girl now because I keep reading this shit.
/r/seduction03/11/14 11:17 PM
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No problem, I like to help people in a similar boat. Just remember that you are human and you will fail but each time you do pick yourself up and you'll know why you fell at that point of the journey and be able to avoid it the next time. In terms of structure find what works for you and stick to it, your goals don't have to be "I want to fuck/date girls with model like looks" they can be as small as "I want to be able to look people in the eye when I speak to them" and then once you accomplish …
/r/seduction30/10/14 12:57 AM
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Spoke about this a lot before on here but I'll chip in again because I feel as though it's necessary in this case. Personally I suffer from a cocktail of mental illnesses (autism/depression/social anxiety) and I'm still a virgin who has bumbled through a few dates, so just as a disclaimer I'm not some Casanova coming to provide you with the cheat codes to being the supremely confident guy who makes girls panties fly off when they even sense your presence, what I can offer though is my observatio…
/r/seduction29/10/14 08:50 PM
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the "lance Armstrong of your dick." Pumped full of drugs and riding it? On a more serious note I'm still a virgin and I'm 20 (nearly 21) and I once thought that telling people in that situation would be a good idea but the more I ponder it the more I think how much of an awkward atmosphere it could create. Sex is supposedly more heavily leaning on the non-verbal side of things so maybe her finding out through your actions would be less awkward than actually announcing it.
/r/seduction19/10/14 07:07 PM
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If you want to be the kind of guy that girls talk about to each other when you walk past and the kind of guy that they eye-fuck without ever having said a word to then you already have to be at least a 7 or 8 looks wise. Then you have to get in really good shape, groom and dress well and act like someone who is totally comfortable being sexual with a woman. However lets be real here, how many guys are actually in that position? Not that many, sure some will be but they are in the minority. The m…
/r/seduction19/10/14 06:49 PM
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No. Girls on the most part respect fashion in a guy. Honestly why don't you try doing what I've been doing, wearing band tees and shit jeans for as long as I remember and see how well you do then.
/r/seduction17/10/14 10:56 PM
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Once every 6-8 months I hit the perfect combination of good exercise, diet, productivity and a sense of achievement which lasts for about a week. If I go out during that time I'm in state...not that being in state has ever done that much for me.
/r/seduction17/10/14 10:48 PM
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I'm much better at winging than I actually am at gaming (not ideal but that's life). Anyways, what I tend to do is gauge the situation of the group (sociopathic advice incoming). If there's a large group of girls (I count that as more than 4) and my friend is into one of them (usually one of the hotter ones), I will try and engage the undesired ones but not game them at all. I will forcibly throw in errors that would destroy any attraction whilst not being obtuse and causing them to think my poo…
/r/seduction30/08/14 08:55 PM
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Thing is I've barely been telling my friends about these girls, especially the one last night who turned out to be a bit tubbier than I'd have liked... That being said maybe its telling that I'm too embarrassed to share that kind of thing!
/r/seduction08/08/14 01:11 AM
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That is a good point, and as I said as I've been getting more and more comfortable each time and I would hope that would translate when I improve myself. But I'm worried I'd be going down a bad path by showing a lack of respect to myself which may stunt my progress.
/r/seduction07/08/14 09:27 PM
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Simply because I'm pretty fat/have bad posture/poor game/bad style. I'm getting very little interest from girls I find attractive so my only opportunity for any form of practice are these girls. I'm just torn because as I said I notice I'm getting more comfortable each time with dating but at the same time I have a niggling feeling I'm going down the wrong route.
/r/seduction07/08/14 09:10 PM
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Night game I'd say has its clear advantages and disadvantages. For me a lot of girls are a lot more open at night to being approached when out, but they demand a lot more quality (unless they are stupidly drunk and in that case you shouldn't be going there) in terms of looks and how you carry yourself as a man. Usually guys get rejected and think that women have their shields up at a club or a bar but in fact they will sleep with someone if that someone does the right things. On the other hand n…
/r/seduction07/08/14 07:15 PM
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The usual online avenues, POF, OKCupid, Tinder. I just changed my age by a couple of ages so they would be able to see my messages.
/r/seduction24/07/14 02:29 PM
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Well I can hardly use kino online haha
/r/seduction23/07/14 08:28 PM
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Yeah but even when I brushed it off they would continue using it as an excuse. One even said I was extremely persuasive but she still couldn't go that young. I'm quite an out of shape guy and I look younger than my age (I'm in my early twenties and people always say I look about 16/17) and whilst I feel that with girls my own age I can get over those hurdles by building rapport with them through humour and things we relate to that isn't there when it comes to older women. I feel as though I'd be…
/r/seduction23/07/14 07:53 PM
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I really like MILF's but I could never imagine actually approaching one of them like you did. I've tried from time to time online game with the intent of attracting them but I've always been rejected with the line "you are too young for me" so that puts me off cold approaching them. If you don't mind me asking what shape are you in?
/r/seduction23/07/14 07:30 PM
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Basically it usually goes like this: Tinder Opener: Usually something fun like a "would you rather X or Y" 2nd Message: Usually teasing her about her choice and segueing onto something else usually topical (Like events that have happened nearby) 3rd Message: Ask her about her situation (i.e work or school, where you live etc), continue teasing her. 4th Message: Tell her about yours but keep it vague enough so that you actually have stuff to talk about if you go out. 5th Message: If its going wel…
/r/seduction16/07/14 03:36 PM
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I think again it just comes with the territory of women having an abundance of options. As you said some just go on it for the validation, some go on it to chat to people but not necessarily meet, some want a ONS, some use it to try and meet someone for something more. The ones that actually come into contact with you for more than chat/validation have an absolute tonne of matches (increasing with their level of attractiveness) so they'll firstly judge you by how attractive you are (especially f…
/r/seduction16/07/14 02:24 PM
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I cannot stress this enough, especially when on a date type situation. A good friend of mine said it best when he said "You can't expect to not touch at all and then just smash your genitals into each other". I would echo the advice of hugging early as it provides an instant physical connection also the eye contact thing is key, it shows you are both attentive and it conveys interest. Honestly the majority of times a girl loses interest isn't because you suddenly turn them off with your actions …
/r/seduction05/07/14 01:15 PM
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I've always been in two minds about RSD. On the one hand you have awe-inspiring stories about wild sex with hot girls (which can draw in complete beginners), the complete one man tornado of positive energy which is Tyler who both inspires (due to the "If he can do it, I can do it" vibe you get from him) and is relatable to flawed guys from his stories which transcend pure pick up and go into almost spiritual aspects of learning to love yourself and be present to the moment and a sense that some …
/r/seduction24/06/14 12:06 AM
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I've had a few girls like this and the only ones who lose interest completely are the ones you cannot meet for a period of time over a month (due to distance etc), flaking is inevitable at that point. A week though is fine, I agree with the advice to drop texts maybe a few days before the date asking what shes been up to. However even if you don't you have to remember that what's important is how you act on the day/night, trust me when I say you can turn a situation from no interest to complete …
/r/seduction23/06/14 06:54 PM
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I'm pretty certain Tinder combated this did they not? So you can't actually upload pictures from facebook that have that privacy setting on them. I think they did it to stop someone from taking five pictures of someone else setting them as "only me" and catfishing people on Tinder.
/r/seduction11/06/14 08:00 PM
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I think I read somewhere that your facebook account has to have over 50 friends for it to actually work. So the creating a new FB thing would be a little fishy. I don't even think it's just a Tinder problem because it happens in apps like kik as well where I cannot set a profile picture. What happens on Tinder at least is that I see all of my facebook pictures, I then click on one and it lets me focus on it and click "save" when I've given it what I want. What should happen at this point is I re…
/r/seduction11/06/14 07:57 PM
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My main problem isn't my conversational skills...that I actually have fun with. My main problem is the pictures. I have god awful pictures on my facebook and I hate uploading pictures to facebook, everything about facebook is just awful IMO. Even if I could get over that and suck it up and upload some, I then have the wonderful problem that for some reason...MY PHONE WON'T LET ME UPLOAD MORE THAN ONE FUCKING PHOTO. I've tried uninstalling the app, clearing the cache, deleting the data, changing …
/r/seduction11/06/14 06:37 PM
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I've been feeling this conflict too much in my head recently about whether I need to step back and just work on things like fitness, health, doing new things in my life and studies and building new friendships first before concentrating on women vs taking action and going out and hammering the concepts into my mind. I know the advice would be to "do both" but I can't seem to do that. Seduction always becomes my focus no matter how level a mental playing field I start off with and it becomes ever…
/r/seduction13/10/13 06:22 PM
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No of course not but I was just curious as to which one was yielding the most results for people and which one to spend most time perfecting.
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:25 AM
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This is something has been fading and reappearing over the time i've been looking at seduction and each time I developed how I dealt with it. So to begin with when I finally made the effort and started talking to girls, my main source of confidence in my appearance came from female validation. Simply if a girl told me I was cute, I would replay that in my head for a few weeks. Problem was I wasn't going out all of the time so this eventually ran out and I hated my appearance again. The second sp…
/r/seduction10/10/13 02:50 PM
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