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/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:49 AM
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👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:17 AM
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For me, definitely an entrepreneur or a job in something tech, marketing or fintech. Politics, real estate, law and anything medical tend to be no goes for me. But if he’s great and we think in ways that complement and challenge each other then yeah, definitely I’d give it a whirl.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:32 AM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:36 AM
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Both. I think sometimes she attracts them and sometimes she is attracted to them. But when the inner work isn’t done, there’s no consistency or ability to understand why you’re doing what you’re doing so you sort of flail around in the dark letting your subconscious emotions dictate your thoughts and actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:31 PM
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I’m virtually applauding this. ❤️👏🏻 Your version is far from eloquent and concise than mine, but yes, you hit the nail on the head! Perhaps I shouldn’t write morning posts pre-coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:30 PM
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You’re right. My bad! Changed now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:08 PM
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It’s floated as a discussion. I stated something. You reply with your POV. The examples entirely relate to the opening statement as I believe both people are attracting the energy they’re putting out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:56 PM
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In high school I was a “jock”, but it never felt like I belonged there. I ended up there somehow. I was more interested in Gucci bags and interesting conversations about anything and everything. I still am inherently curious. Now I’m 30, someone jokingly called me an alpha female. I’m still mulling over what that means. Sometimes I feel like a walking paradox to others, but it’s who I am. I love feminine fashion (Alemais, Zimmermann etc), designer handbags and shoes, skincare etc. But I also lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:38 PM
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Just be honest. If you’re a decent person and deliver bad news with integrity and the other person flips out — then good news, you dodged a bullet. Don’t prolong it and just call her/text her and say “Hey <name>, I understand what I am about to say might be hurtful but I want to be honest and respect your time. I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, you are a <something nice and true> person but I don’t feel we <insert reason>. Wish you all the best and hope you <some nice well wish that’s genuine>. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:30 AM
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You hit the nail on the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:59 AM
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This this this! ❤️ Like attracts like. Also, I believe if you think there are no good men out there then you’ll struggle to see the value in a good man when he comes along. Perspective and mindset are important too!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:34 PM
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No. Our long-term goals and futures wouldn’t align so there would be no point in wasting his time or mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:07 AM
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I would like to exit this conversation with the dulcet sound of “biiiiing bong”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:08 AM
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Definitely. In the past I’ve felt myself be attracted to guys that aren’t “stereotypically” attractive, but they had such strong beautiful masculine energy that made them a leagues above the rest. That sort of energy lingers and is mentally stimulating which is a treat. For those men, nothing happened mostly because we weren’t compatible in terms of our life goals etc. Great guys and lots of them have since met lovely girls they seem very happy with. ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:32 AM
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Hahaha I fib not. TikTok told me it’s cool and obvs, TikTok is gospel. Bing Bong means nothing and everything at once; it’s basically Shakespeare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:23 AM
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Bingo! Or as the cool kids say, bing bong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:46 PM
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I mean, this. But I’d argue we’re most attracted to masculine energy; a man that’s rooted in healthy masculine energy with views, goals, actions stemming from it. That genuinely makes them more far attractive. Note: I say the above and I’m aware it’s really only true of women that have also “done the inner work” themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:36 PM
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I can’t stop laughing hahahaha this is gold. OP, you’re literally a real life version of Disney Hercules.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:16 AM
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That's a very valid point and I agree with you. If a woman is willing to choose a dysfunctional hedonistic man then chances are, she has some (or many) of those traits herself. Like attracts like. Thanks for the input!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 02:00 AM
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It is true. Chances are you’re either not ACTUALLY what I’ve described (ie. think you’re a good man with integrity but actually aren’t) or conversely, you live somewhere where the women don’t value that. For example, the women could be too young (yet to grow up so they value fun over a healthy relationship), superficial and value money/provision over integrity or you may even live somewhere where most women that find said attributes are already married. The world is a big place; there will alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:36 AM
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I’d argue that “average” men that work hard and treat women with respect clean up later in life. When women date men that look good but intellectually don’t match up or are emotionally childish, in comes the “average” man who can step up in ways previous “more than average” men couldn’t. Note: I say “average” but believe there’s absolutely nothing average about a man that’s purpose-driven, grounded, mature and ready for a life partner. He might not be model material but his other qualities will …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 11:12 PM
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TBH I’m just super curious what you look like now. 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 01:11 AM
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With all due respect, you’re only 21. Give it another 5 years and you’ll notice a shift. Priorities and values at 21 tend to focus on fun, not intellectual pursuits or an ability to hold a critical conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:23 PM
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You hit the nail on the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:53 AM
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Thankfully, it wasn’t a fake sentiment; I explained why in another comment. I think finishing up therapy for some pretty traumatic stuff and not expecting to meet someone so soon after that is a fair enough explanation for feeling terrified. I also think it’s great for a man to share that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 10:21 PM
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Sad, but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 10:15 PM
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Yes because he wanted to get married before 30. I didn’t as I was younger and wanted to travel. We still occasionally touch base to say hello and are civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 10:14 PM
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Men can and should be allowed to be vulnerable too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 10:12 PM
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Negatory. We were young, I was 21 and he was 24. He had just finished therapy for some messed up family stuff (that I had no idea about) and didn’t expect to meet me so soon after dealing with that. We had friends in common and “ran in the same circles”. Everyone spoke highly of him and they had good reason to. My advice: go with your gut, you know when someone’s genuine vs spouting lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 10:11 PM
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Definitely FDS. When I was new to reddit I responded to a girl’s post in FDS. She asked “why do men pull away?” so I shared my story of my first boyfriend. There was a deep connection but at the end of the second date he said he felt he viewed me as a friend. I said thank you for being honest and went about my life as normal. A few weeks later he came back and asked me out again. His energy drastically shifted and we dated for four lovely years. He shared with me when we met he felt something fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 12:49 PM
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Thank you! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 08:42 AM
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This is pretty solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 08:42 AM
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Thank you 🥰 You’re so welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:20 AM
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30F here. My thoughts: Lacks genuine intuitive feminine warmth. She’s either overly dominant and assertive with an agenda (masculine) or overly weak and lacks boundaries (wounded feminine). Lacks solid morals and is unable to genuinely explain why she holds the views and beliefs she holds. Lacks emotional awareness. Often her emotions dictate her behaviour so she reacts Vs responds. Picks the wrong men for validation, control, company etc rather than picking a man out of choice because he’s good…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 12:39 AM
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Happy to be part of the 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:18 AM
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Mostly because it's interesting. It's like being a fly on the wall i.e. I get to listen to a myriad of men talk about things they wouldn't normally talk about in front of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 11:52 AM
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F here. I'd happily wait, but IDK if I could wait longer than a few months. In my experience, the longer you wait (within reason) the more build up there is so the better the sex is. Lots of variables at play, but assuming you've met someone there's chemistry with, you're compatible etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 08:37 AM
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If I could like this a thousand times over, I would. I'd also throw in the fact that as a female, I find the FDS energy really off-putting. It makes me feel unsafe like I can't be a vulnerable and strong female, but instead have to wear a "yo sis f^&k him you deserve a HV man" mask. If that energy puts other women off, then IMO it won't do any favours with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 11:20 AM
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It's a turn off because it makes me feel like unsafe i.e. I cannot be myself and in order to align with them I need to "be smaller" so it makes them feel comfortable. In short: it never ends well for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:43 AM
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Dang. I am genuinely sorry to hear that. I have many thoughts on the matter, almost that many IDK where I'd even start.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:36 AM
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It blows my mind that many people commenting think women who want to wait are prudes in bed or sexually blah. There is no direct correlation between waiting a month or two to see if you vibe with the dude and being a starfish plank of wood in bed. Nada. Zip. Zilch. If I were a man and a girl I liked said "Hey I really enjoy your company and I'm enjoying how you make me feel, but I'd like to take things slow on the physical front. Not because I'm not interested, but because I want something long-…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:11 AM
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There's a lot of truth in what you've written, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:21 AM
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This x100. It's a turn on for me even.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:49 AM
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Eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:09 AM
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May you and your balls have a lovely day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:21 AM
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Just an observation. No pun intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:08 AM
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Interesting question. I'd say the way he carries himself, his energy but most important is his eye contact. When a single guy sees you and is attracted to you, the way his eyes move and dance is very different to that of someone that's in a relationship/married but is creeping. I'd go as far as to say there's intent in a single man's energy and eye contact, whereas there isn't intent there if he's taken and just checking you out. He'll look–but not actually do anything and that energy lingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 05:04 AM
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30F here. Both of my last two serious relationships stemmed from Tinder, but weirdly, I had things in common with both of them which I didn't know of prior to us matching i.e. one did business with my brother and the other was a childhood friend of someone I know. A lot of girls like that "common link" when dating and chances are, birds of a feather flock together so it happens a lot i.e. "oh wow you interned at so and so? You probably know so and so? etc". It creates an added layer of social pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 04:52 AM
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Hahaha sure shoot me a message.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 12:23 AM
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This is true. He's the sort of guy you meet at a party and everyone not so subtly avoids him, yet ironically, he's blissfully unaware as he's too egotistical. TBF, someone like Tom wouldn't really care anyway. He's shameless like that. Which again, does make you kind of like him haha. Such a paradox. I can't comment of any of what you've said so far as things really do develop as the episodes roll on and you might change your opinion on a few things. I'm a little further north than that, but it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:00 PM
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Hahahaha yes! Tom is such an interesting character. He's so fun to watch on screen, yet would repulse me in real life. I actually really like Kendall. At the start I was really unsure, but as the episodes have rolled by I've found myself loving how human (yet dysfunctional) he is. Granted, I'm only on season 2 so that could change. Highly recommend both for a plethora of reasons. Watch and you shall see! PS. You're just down the highway from me. Give or take 4 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:26 AM
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How much time have you got? Haha honestly, it's the sort of show you could pull apart with friends over a bottle of wine. The character development is fascinating. Do you watch Billions or Yellowstone? If so, this will probably be up your street.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:29 AM
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Haha I mean TBH it is pretty ruthless. Good viewing nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:37 AM
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Watch Succession. It's jam-packed to the gills with generational trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:02 AM
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One year. He had bipolar; our relationship was amazing and very healthy for 8 months then it fell apart. He hadn't told me about his bipolar and I found out when things went downhill. He refused to get help (medication or therapy) for himself, so that was it. It unravelled more, he got nasty and I grew a lot from it. Very grateful we aren't together now and I wish him all the best in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:01 AM
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Female here. Benefits include a never-ending opportunity for personal growth (pushed to be vulnerable, selfless etc), double-income household, making memories with someone and support with someone you enjoy having in your life. Also, regular sex with someone you love, trust and feel safe with; that's a huge benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:14 AM
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I'm feeling like I'm 16, we're in school studying a classic novel and both people have entirely different interpretations of the narrative at large lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 09:00 AM
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Bit of a blanket statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:45 AM
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I waited 2 months with my ex. Granted he was away a lot for work so that's probably the main reason, but I just wanted to get to know him first. My general rule of thumb of a minimum of 4 dates. Sex is really important, but I also feel when you have sex with someone you swap energy–or something I can't quite put my finger on. I want to be sure I am doing that with someone I actually am on the same page with, it feels safe and is going somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:44 AM
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Bad taste in clothes and lacking masculinity. I'm not after a macho man with no ability to display emotion (I love those things), I just find myself automatically lacking respect for a man that's overly feminine. IDK but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 02:26 AM
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A lot of us want nice, respectful and genuine but also want someone that'll pull us into line, ruffle us up and challenge us. It's the same as males wanting a feminine and warm female that's kind and caring, but not a pushover with healthy firm boundaries. Ying and yang, ya'll.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:01 AM
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I probably deserve a slap for reading this and feeling offended. Hahahaha. OP raises a good point nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:55 AM
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Bahahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:53 AM
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Actually, I think many women remain single because on a primal level there's a larger inherent risk for us. Sex comes with the risk of pregnancy and committing to someone comes with the risk of needing to rely on them should we carry their child (and all of the sacrifices that come with that). In short: we want to know we're partnering with someone that's reliable, of good character and in it for the long haul come rain or sunshine. Jordan Peter has a couple of good videos on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:51 AM
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There's a beautiful ying and yang when a man chases and a woman receives. It's a cycle. He chases and she warmly receives and entices in a way that encourages him to chase more. When she receives and softly shows him "he's on the right track" it's because her values, personality etc match with what he's looking for – it doesn't feel like a fruitless "chase". It feels like he's working hard to know and keep something of value.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 12:51 AM
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Super interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 12:48 AM
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This is a great list.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:26 AM
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Very important. I'm pretty mid-right wing and it definitely flows into a lot of my personal beliefs. Our worldviews need to be aligned, although I do love a cheeky debate sans anyone taking major offence.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:08 AM
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We dated for four years, he was a lovely guy but in the end he was older and I was younger with the whole world on my doorstep. I was only 24 and I wanted to move to Australia but he wanted to get married. I ended things with him and I moved to the other side of the world. I am now 30 and I'm on a time out with my current partner and have an eerily similar gut feeling that he too will come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:45 AM
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I just deleted a guy that did this with me. We had a few weeks of great dates, consistent talking everyday then he left and went back to the city JUST for a few days......and thus the breadcrumbing starts. I openly asked him what he wanted. He told me he needed time to think about it and would get back to me the next day. He got back to me 3 weeks later with a tale of being sick, mentally and physically not in a good place....you know, usual sob story tactics. I was very on the fence. Almost col…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:57 AM
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