charredwood Archive

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36	Feeling insecure being single at 28. Everyone my age or even younger has it better than me. So, you're either the most hideous, unlovable, inconsolable person in your area, OR you have the same options as all the people who've seen success. Which do you think it is? Thinking in absolutes like this is a toxic mindset that will propel you further away from the men you want to get and create self-fulfilling prophecies of failure. Instead, focus on the traits the people you admire have, and the traits the men you want will also like, a…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/25 04:26 PM
6	I’m A Real Life Beth March Happily married, yes indeed.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/03/25 07:00 PM
20	I’m A Real Life Beth March This is a really good point I totally missed. One of the best pieces of dating advice I ever heard was from Steve Harvey of all people, and he said if you want a certain kind of partner, you have to find them where that kind of person would be. If you want a man with a boat, go to boat shows. If you want a good christian man, go to church, be active in the community. If you want a man who doesn't drink or go out at nights, don't go looking in bars! It seems so obvious but when I heard it, my who…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/03/25 06:55 PM
5	I think I’m done done It's crazy how much in common we have. I also lived with a deadbeat porn addict who I was engaged with, living in a half finished home where he didn't want me to leave the house but also didn't want to work hard enough to provide. We lived in absolute squalor and I kept telling myself that we could do better, as the years slipped by and nothing at all changed. One day, 8 years in, after finding out he'd been watching porn again after the last time he promised to stop, I lost my mind. I screamed,…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/25 01:40 AM
2	Should I tell my fiancé that I don’t like my valentines necklace and that someone gave me nearly the exact same thing years ago?? Who among us has not received that awful tacky hollow heart in italics pendant? I think it's important to tell your man exactly what kind of jewelry you like and want. My husband is also not very good at picking out gifts and especially knows nothing about jewelry, so I've made it easy for him with simple rules like, "I like natural themes, like trees and flowers. I don't like 'item' themes, like high-heel shaped or teddy bear pendants. These are my favorite stones. I prefer silver to gold." M…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/02/25 10:50 AM
36	women, do you find other men attractive? I believe this is a person-to-person experience and not a gendered one. I've met people from both genders who earnestly claim they feel this way and I believe them, but the vast majority don't even pretend. For myself, attractive men are like passing by bouquets at the flowershop- they're nice to be in my vision, but I'm not here for them and it's easy to walk past without a second thought. I'm not with my husband just because he's attractive, so the bar is much higher than that and my husband k…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/25 02:07 AM
6	What is very unflattering for a woman? Loud, brash women. When women feel the need to be LOUDER to get attention in a conversation. These are usually the same as the ones who cuss too much, they all use this shock value to catch attention and I absolutely hate it. It reminds me of prepubescent boys. I also agree about ill-fitting clothes. You don't have to be slim and beautiful to be presentable. Buy clothes that fit, wear flattering cuts, take care of yourself so that your ankles don't bloat and spend like even a minute on your hair…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/20 10:16 PM
14	One bikini photo? I agree with the "in the line of sports or leisure or recreational activities" part. If it's a nice picture of you enjoying healthy outdoor activities, the bikini is clearly secondary. Slutty pictures for the sake of slutty pictures aren't cute but thankfully it's really easy to tell the difference between a well-meaning photo and lewds.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/20 07:58 AM
2	Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially? I chose my husband based on the emotional support, chemistry, compatibility, and importantly, stability. He doesn't make a lot of money, but he has a good work ethic and has worked every day we've been together, maybe calling out twice in 8 years (once for being sick, once when his mother died) and always willing to take extra shifts. We've never missed big bills and we have no outstanding debt, which to me means STABILITY. Would it be greater to have more money? Yes, of course, but not being we…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/20 03:23 AM
8	How do you deal with feeling unattractive? 1000 times this. You can't compete with instant gratification because you are a 3-dimensional human being. Luckily, there are plenty of men who are looking for a woman with such dimension, and those are the ones you should use your energy trying to find. This is not a hard and fast rule, but in general, I think it's unwise to find long-distance men online because they are already predisposed to this sort of mentality. They are looking for an "e-girl" to be at their beck and call (when they're ho…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/20 06:08 AM
3	Whats this? If you cared so much, you would bother to read it.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/20 11:40 AM
2	Is anyone else here "unconventional-looking"? If so, how do you cope with it? I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that you are unconventional-looking. While you may not appear as women on Instagram, there are many types of beauty. I think you have a very interesting and lovely face that could maybe benefit from a different hairstyle but that's totally unnecessary. You have the type of uncommon visage that I personally could look at for hours on end and marvel at how unique and wonderful it is. You especially seem to have pretty eyes. I have a feeling that you deve…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/20 09:30 AM