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You need to sort out the differences between the public and private spheres.
/r/MensRights17/07/16 08:33 PM
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She didn't make one, and it's a little scary that everybody on this thread can read that story and conclude that she did. As far as anybody can ascertain, this woman told the absolute truth about everything that happened to her. She was violently raped while drunk and correctly identified her attacker - at least, he's confessed to the crime. While recuperating in the hospital, she dreamed about this poor bastard and told the investigators about her dream. The fucktards in charge of the case then…
/r/MensRights17/07/16 11:21 AM
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It means he'd be super happy to live under sharia law, if only his sexuality wouldn't result in him getting treated even more harshly than a female.
/r/MensRights17/07/16 11:09 AM
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Maybe you could form a Gay Citizens Council to push for nonenforcement of integration laws at the local level...
/r/MensRights17/07/16 11:03 AM
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The "will is there" for a lot of discriminatory behaviors that the state doesn't allow - like keeping your "queeny" ass out of places of public accommodation where most of the clientele "has no use" for you. Jesus, have a little perspective.
/r/MensRights17/07/16 11:01 AM
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WOW.
/r/MensRights16/07/16 08:59 AM
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For the love of God, don't suppress your natural instinct to be solicitous of your spouse. It's one of the things that makes your family life a refuge from the rest of the world. But that "coddling" is supposed to go in both directions - if you're distressed or upset, you deserve special attention from your mate. I'm not sure any of that has much to do with chivalry, which is more like a set of rules for public behavior. Even people who hate chivalry place a high priority on their wife's health …
/r/MensRights16/07/16 08:56 AM
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My husband is as well. I think the nondemonstrative trait is largely a result of socialization, and men who perform direct care for their young children easily unlearn it.
/r/MensRights16/07/16 08:46 AM
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It's not odd, it's quite common. It just wasn't your experience. Most little kids of both sexes are talky and huggy folk, and a naturally nondemonstrative can seem aloof or uninterested to them. It's great that OP had a chance to properly appreciate his father in adulthood - not everybody gets that chance.
/r/MensRights16/07/16 01:32 AM
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That''s a good plan, my friend. I wish you all the best. When dealing with a crazy ex, managing to stop visitation over such a relatively minor altercation (imagine my heavy sarcasm here) is a real victory.
/r/MensRights16/07/16 01:26 AM
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I'm glad that you and the kids are safe. Do not involve your ex-wife in the children's medical issues again. She should not know about their appointments as a matter of course, and she CERTAINLY shouldn't be providing the insurance, no matter what the divorce agreement says. You do not give a crazy person that kind of power.
/r/MensRights16/07/16 01:11 AM
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No problem. I'm touchy on this whole nonsonsensual polygamy thing. But clearly both the people in this marriage are assholes.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 05:07 PM
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Well, I'm biased on this issue since I'm a homeschooler and have a volunteer job in family court that requires a high degree of literacy and the ability to self-teach yourself lawyerly things. I didn't need the piece of paper (although I certainly might have needed it, if I did not marry) - but I did need the education, and I do put it to good use. I want people to get as much education as they're fit for. It makes society a better place. But the way we provide that education needs to change. In…
/r/MensRights14/07/16 02:44 PM
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Preach! That's always a head-scratcher for me, the idea that women as a group are somehow going to voluntarily mend their ways and all stop taking advantage of a biased system that privileges them. Has any group of people, ever, been so virtuous as to refrain en masse from exercising their social advantages, particularly in moments of stress and anger? You can probably get 80% of any group of people to change their ways through years of education and socialization. For the other 20%, you need th…
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:52 AM
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Young boys have nice hard cocks. Oh wait, that's a completely creepy thing to say, and a person who "replaces" their spouse when their body begins to age is a total piece of shit.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:42 AM
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It gets complicated when your husband acquires extra wives who live in different countries where bigamy is not a concept.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:38 AM
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Well, this guy went and married another woman under sharia law, so I think it can be argued that he has checked out of his Western marriage. The whole case is Lifestyles Of The Rich And Vapid. Interesting trainwreck to gossip about, but not really relevant to the divorcing UK population as a whole.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:37 AM
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These women stretch homemaking into a full-time job with activities far less beneficial than a second income to the family and certainly to her husband’s health and quality of life: preparing home-cooked dinners most nights, sitting with other moms watching a playgroup when a babysitter could do that, etc. It's amazing to me how low a priority most Americans place on eating healthy food and not handing their young children over to servants to be raised.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:25 AM
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This study wasn't about child abuse. At all. But who wants to miss an opportunity to slag mothers, amirite? /s
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:08 AM
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That was a great response, thanks for taking the time to write it :-)
/r/MensRights14/07/16 08:05 AM
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No, on social media. People who like to bash newly bereaved parents aren't usually brave enough to do it to their faces.
/r/MensRights14/07/16 07:45 AM
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Oh, I agree. But I don't discipline my children because that's what Jews do. I discipline my children because that's what socially responsible people do.
/r/MensRights13/07/16 09:42 PM
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A man with a UTI needs to see a real doctor. Different plumbing, yo. Male UTIs are often a red flag for a caregiver abuse issue or a systemic illness that is screwing up the immune response.
/r/MensRights13/07/16 01:31 AM
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Where I leave, many fundamentalist Christians DO claim that corporal punishment is a religious prerogative, and that they cannot raise their children to be Christians without using "the rod."
/r/MensRights12/07/16 10:30 PM
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Take that idiocy over to Voat.
/r/MensRights12/07/16 10:27 PM
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We're trying.
/r/MensRights12/07/16 10:27 PM
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It's an ongoing issue with schools in all developed nations. The schools want to do what they've always done - communicate with one household. Most children now come from broken homes, so noncustodial parents who are left out of the loop will ask the schools for extra copies of notices and report cards, extra phone calls and emails, extra teacher meetings. The schools will tell them to pound sand, they don't want to do the extra work. Sometimes, noncustodial parents protest this treatment and su…
/r/MensRights12/07/16 01:51 PM
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This is rudeness, not withdrawing consent - and the woman is bitching about the rudeness, not the withdrawal of consent. SJW sexual politics are stupid, whiny nonsense no matter who is spouting them.
/r/MensRights12/07/16 12:09 PM
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Hi! Sorry you got downvoted. I'm a Jewish woman and a feminist (although the MRM takes up all my activism bandwidth, since there is so much to be done), and I don't care what other people do in their own homes or at their private religious services. I have attended and enjoyed gender segregated events. But when public monies are used, all religious prohibitions need to be left at the door - that's your personal baggage and the State has no business carrying it for you. Orthodox Jews build gender…
/r/MensRights12/07/16 01:20 AM
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I have met this person, in person. She is not in the closet. She has a jaw like Gary Cooper, and everybody who sees her knows that she is male. I have never seen her in men's clothing, she probably looks pretty unremarkable walking down the street in khakis. I want her to live her life and be happy, but damned if I need advice on gender relations from someone with an all-encompassing, life-altering mental disorder.
/r/MensRights12/07/16 01:06 AM
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This is a barely-there statutory rape case, not an actual rape case, if anybody's interested. A young black man had sex with four white girls. He's in jail. Taking a statutory victim and her baby into care at the hospital is pretty typical, because investigations into the "rape" often yield exactly what you'd expect when a middle schooler has been allowed to run around with a much older teen - neglect, drug use, etc. But if Alabama is placing neonates and postpartum girls in general-population g…
/r/MensRights12/07/16 12:54 AM
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They do get warrants. Who cares? It's still unreasonable, and the state needs to lose some cases, make some massive payouts, and stop doing this shit.
/r/MensRights12/07/16 12:34 AM
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It doesn't work either way.
/r/MensRights11/07/16 01:24 PM
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The "young boy" is 42. The "unwanted child" is 28. The "rape" was a legal fiction. Calm the hell down. There have been some pretty egregious cases involving sex between adults and children in their care that result in pregnancy. This is not one of them. The original court case in Texas dealt with the matter very progressively (yes, you are the biological father, no, you don't have to pay because our laws say you were not old enough to consent). The Oklahoma case 12 years later dragged the whole …
/r/MensRights10/07/16 09:26 AM
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You've just claimed that women don't truly feel love. What response do you expect, from anybody who either is a woman or is loved by one, other than "fuck off, you bigot?"
/r/MensRights10/07/16 01:09 AM
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My comment from the original thread on this issue: This man is disabled with two minor children. He has no wealth other than this money that he has put in trust, and his ability to generate income is permanently impaired. A judge might not make him hand half of it over to the wife, because it's the type of thing that is often excluded from community property... but he's going to be expected to support his kids with the money he has, rather than giving it to a charity because he thinks it's "dirt…
/r/MensRights09/07/16 09:02 PM
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I don't think most posters read the story carefully enough to understand that. This man is disabled with two minor children. He has no wealth other than this money that he has put in trust, and his ability to generate income is permanently impaired. A judge might not make him hand half of it over to the wife, because it's the type of thing that is often excluded from community property... but he's going to be expected to support his kids with the money he has, rather than giving it to a charity …
/r/MensRights09/07/16 09:00 PM
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First, I picked a homosexual to marry. Then, I picked a chauvinist. Then, I picked a man who was already married and raising children. Aren't I just too cute?
/r/MensRights09/07/16 08:11 PM
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What about the guy who used sharia law to enter into a second marriage without his wife's knowledge? Model citizen? Nobody needs this kind of money to live, obviously, but damned if I'll feel sorry for the sheikh. He ain't starvin.'
/r/MensRights08/07/16 08:55 PM
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Absolutely, that's correct behavior with colleagues, clients and acquaintances - be presentable and interesting and project a problem-free facade. The guy you've quoted wants the women he sleeps with to keep up that facade in allegedly intimate relationships - the same narcissistic expectation that has been giving salarymen heart attacks for three generations.
/r/MensRights07/07/16 11:45 PM
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I really like how this article talked about sex workers of both sexes. They even made an attempt to point out the existence of female johns.
/r/MensRights07/07/16 09:50 PM
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The fact that we expect men to behave like that, even in their intimate relationships, sends a lot of men to early graves.
/r/MensRights07/07/16 09:48 PM
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Pretty sure Audie Murphy would do just fine on a modern battlefield. Any other war heroes you'd like to condescend to from the comfort of your home?
/r/MensRights07/07/16 05:28 PM
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Way more than you'd think, to hear my brother tell it. His first bunkie was a lard barge. The FOB had a freaking McDonald's and KFC where the troops could buy junk food to supplement the standard Army fare. All this in the heatstroke capital of the world.
/r/MensRights07/07/16 05:20 PM
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My brother led a predominantly female squad of convoy drivers in Iraq. It was technically a noncombat MOS, hence all the female drivers getting shunted into it, but they sure did do a lot of shooting, being shot at, and lifting heavy objects in hostile situations. He says "I don't mind working with females. I just wish they'd kick out all the fatties, they're fucking worthless in the heat."
/r/MensRights07/07/16 02:29 PM
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That woman is a class act. So many people think they have to scorn the stepparent or the adoptive parent to give proper importance to knowing the biological parent.
/r/MensRights06/07/16 01:39 PM
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I hear it all the time. Children are very clear that "mom" and "dad" are job descriptions. I tell them that I hope their mom or dad comes along some day, but that no matter what, they have the power to ensure that their own kids have a mom and a dad from the day that they're born.
/r/MensRights05/07/16 10:04 PM
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This is the approach that born-intersex adults are campaigning for.
/r/MensRights05/07/16 09:58 PM
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I always make it about the nasty parts of the Torah when I talk to other Jews. Unfortunately, most Americans practicing MGM are gentiles.
/r/MensRights05/07/16 09:21 PM
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It should be mandatory for children to have a guardian ad litem, with extensive training in abuse and aggression. Fuck it. That's it. I'm taking the training to work divorce cases.
/r/MensRights05/07/16 09:12 PM
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The researchers failed to find a relationship between an absent father and number of sexual partners. But they did find a link between an absent father and number of one-night stands. ... this in a study where 344 people are self-reporting. Crappy pop sociology, not worth reporting on or talking about.
/r/MensRights03/07/16 04:30 PM
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It's just you.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 07:47 PM
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In an intact family, one parent can generally curb the other if they're a generally decent parent who is going round the bend on a particular issue. Broken homes usually aren't that functional, so a serious disagreement between parents often winds up in court. Just one of the five million ways that children are hurt by divorce.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 05:09 PM
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The judge may well have spoken to the child in chambers, or received an affadavit from a counselor, and been persuaded that she was being pressured. Or not. We don't have enough information to know if this was a sound ruling.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 04:32 PM
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You're missing the obvious solution. Your nieces and nephews have two parents, and they need their parents to live in the same town and work together to parent them. Your cousin needs to move back to the town where he originally decided to raise children, or his ex needs to move to his new town, or they need to pick a third town to live in that meets both their needs. That way, their oldest can go to 4K without being deprived of one parent or the other.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 04:29 PM
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Agreed. I'd be willing as a court-appointed guardian to sign off on three simultaneous infant adoptions, but I'd walk into the situation wondering if I was dealing with a couple of nutters. The 50+ guy is a different case - his surrogate gave birth to triplets, which is not typical even when multiple embryos are implanted.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 02:24 PM
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I would be surprised to discover that somebody who deliberately saddled themselves with triplets was a good parent. It is a pretty stupid thing to do.
/r/MensRights01/07/16 11:00 AM
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It is not the first time a dead woman's eggs have been used. Typically, people know that they are dying and make specific provisions in their wills about what is to be done with their gametes, so it doesn't make the news.
/r/MensRights30/06/16 08:32 PM
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Lena Dunham is no butch. ETA: Perhaps you meant to write "bitch." That, she is.
/r/MensRights29/06/16 11:24 PM
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That's my daughter-parenting philosophy in a nutshell.
/r/MensRights29/06/16 11:19 PM
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In the future, the vast majority of humanity will be unemployable. I think the end result will involve a socialist paradise where people pursue recreational activities while robots clean their houses and bring them mojitos, but the transition will be rocky as hell.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 11:59 AM
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His situation may be what's clouding the issue. My brother has a three-month-old that he conceived out of wedlock. If he told me that he did not want to acknowledge my nephew and support him, I would lose my shit - even though I firmly support legal paternal surrender.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 11:54 AM
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My disagreement with you is not semantic. You've noticed something real (that males and females, on average, have differences that can be ascribed to their differing biology). That's an observation that most people make in adolescence or early adulthood, and you're right to be frustrated that it's socially taboo to discuss it. But you take this observation in a regressive direction. You've noticed that men and women are different, so you decide that it's impossible for them to be social equals (…
/r/MensRights26/06/16 03:11 PM
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I hear you. I've had two human beings exit my body via my vagina, so presumably it would be no big deal if somebody shoved a baby's head up my snatch while I was unconscious behind a dumpster, amirite? /s
/r/MensRights25/06/16 05:22 PM
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Oh look, another petulant college student. Men’s minds reel when they recognize that our society assigns two contradictory statements the same level of truth. They say: “Men and women are equal,” along with “Men and women are not the same.” No, men's minds don't reel. Nor do women's minds. Those statements are not contradictory. Immature minds of both sexes have always struggled with nuance of any kind.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 05:20 PM
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Yes. And if that guy had not been interrupted, he would have very likely done worse. I'm not trying to minimize what he did.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 05:08 PM
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My problem is that you are comparing apples to oranges. Totally different crimes commited in DIFFERENT COUNTRIES. We can be outraged about the light sentence for child killers in Canada without suggesting that the finger-banging in California was not a big deal.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 04:31 PM
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Welcome to my world. But /u/Northern_Dancer is correct that these parents were not adequately punished for their crime. Worse, they still have custody if their three surviving kids!
/r/MensRights25/06/16 02:30 PM
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Better yet, remove the children from the custody of their brother's killers and throw both of them in jail. For years.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 02:28 PM
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I'm sure this guy was very disturbed in his mind, etc. But I have no sympathy, ever, for people who will endanger the lives of dozens of strangers who have never done them any harm by staging their dramatic exit on a highway. That's not how you bring attention to bias in the family courts - it's how you announce to the world that the courts were right to keep your crazy ass far away from your children. The world is better off with one less person in it who would even think of committing such an …
/r/MensRights25/06/16 01:00 PM
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Men (and women, this is hardly a male-only behavior) who seek out sexual contact with people young enough to be their children are usually not happy to find out that their objects of interest find the idea revolting. I'm guessing that this has never actually happened to you. If you'd had the experience, you might feel differently about it.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 12:18 PM
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I do. Call child services. If she doesn't want them and doesn't want him to have them, they're either going to be pawned off on her mama or worse, continue to be abused.
/r/MensRights24/06/16 05:42 PM
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You're right, if the mother is a member of the household the BCC news coverage should have mentioned her stance on the issue. If they weren't permitted to talk to her, they should also have mentioned THAT. On the other issue, you're arguing against a point I'm not making. Of course there are females who endorse FGM, and females who perform FGM in places where FGM is cultural norm and females are permitted to train as medical professionals. I was objecting to /u/Sasha's characterization of FGM as…
/r/MensRights24/06/16 05:32 PM
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Men probably ARE more negative about it than woman. I'm just saying that the places in the world that are advanced enough to use sterile procedures and primitive enough to hack off bits of little girls are places where the doctors are mostly males. In contrast, hacking bits off little boys is an equal-opportunity barbarity.
/r/MensRights24/06/16 01:43 AM
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Untrue. The "lesser" forms of FGM are done by mostly male doctors using sterile procedures in hospitals. Infibulation by a female witch doctor using a glass shard in sub-Saharan Africa is very dramatic and awful and gets a lot of press, but the majority of FGM is not that. I believe that this girl lives in a household headed by a single father. The intervention by UK authorities was very well done - the child is still at home, but it's been made absolutely clear that she may not be mutilated.
/r/MensRights24/06/16 12:39 AM
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I like Scott Adams as a cartoonist. This blog post was incoherent. I am seriously wondering if he was drunk or high when he wrote it.
/r/MensRights24/06/16 12:29 AM
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It's not wrong to like younger women. It can be your preference. But seriously, don't dare to touch me. Talk to me, I'll tell you no, but don't touch me. It's the equivalent of the fat feminist woman to you. I shouldn't expect to be touched by anyone, but it's just worst with creepy old men to me.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 07:00 PM
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I'm much older than you, and it gets less upsetting as you get older, but it's always viscerally disgusting to be approached sexually by a man who is old enough to be your father. It's like they're longing to commit incest by proxy.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 04:55 PM
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From a creepy old guy touching her without her permission.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 04:50 PM
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That is such bullshit. I wish this myth would die.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 04:48 PM
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Or a man. Frankly, I don't think it's possible to accurately assess sexual attractiveness from a picture. How does the person move? What does their voice sound like? How do they smell?
/r/MensRights23/06/16 04:36 PM
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As long as we have enough fit volunteers total to fill the ranks, I guess it doesn't matter much.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 04:29 PM
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I'm actually more worried that 40 young guys failed to meet standards designed to be achievable by young women.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 11:52 AM
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I met a political lesbian once. She was obnoxious. I don't think it's a very popular practice, though.
/r/MensRights23/06/16 11:40 AM
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Oh, the humanity! A planned and wanted child whose parents obviously adore him! Seriously, if you are concerned about child welfare, there are lots of ways to help at-risk kids. Little Attics does not need your help.
/r/MensRights22/06/16 06:04 PM
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It's always surprising when you find out that a gay person has some of the same stupid ideas that one typically associates with uneducated straight people. Since gay is a state of being, not an ideology, it makes sense that it would happen - but it's really jarring. There's also the whole guilt angle - if you have suffered in some way due to being gay, and then your kid turns out gay, you feel bad for not doing something to spare them that suffering. I hope that your stepmom eventually pulled he…
/r/MensRights22/06/16 05:52 PM
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You are confusing this couple with another couple that the top commenter saw on a different interview.
/r/MensRights22/06/16 05:46 PM
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Exactly. One of my kids went through a racist stage at that age. Socially awkward? Fuck yeah. But we just soldiered on and corrected him constantly and it passed as his brain matured. 4-year-olds are not subtle thinkers. If they aren't being raised by actual sexists (or racists or homophobes or dog-fearers vegetable-haters or Creationists or whatever), a period of unreasonable bias is not anything to worry about.
/r/MensRights22/06/16 10:49 AM
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That website is a real shit show. I'm guessing that these two are going to do just fine with their kid. “When I catch myself trying to do these things, it ends up making me feel really retro and dumb about gender,” Michelle continued. “It just takes me away from the reality of like, him. Atticus. Like who is he? What does he want? And the sort of purity of the things that he’s interested in or delighted by.” That's not the mindset of somebody who's going to hate their boy for being a boy. He'll …
/r/MensRights22/06/16 10:27 AM
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It's definitely punishment to have to pay your rapist instead of being allowed to raise your child. The laws that currently exist in some states to protect female victims of rape were passed after convicted rapists sought legal access to the children resulting from their crimes. Most child support cases, obviously, do not involve either a rapist or a rape victim, and different standards should apply. I'm not opposed to the concept of child support, although I do think it's over-utilized and that…
/r/MensRights21/06/16 01:39 PM
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Pretty much every permutation of bigotry exists. I've met men who hated women, women who hated men, people who hate blacks, people who hate Jews, people who hate Mexicans, people who hate homosexuals... But I agree with you that misogyny is not a core principal of modern Western culture. We had a little flirtation with it in the Dark Ages (thanks, Christians!), but generally speaking, we've made steady progress towards giving everybody a fair shake. Which is how I'm able to spend my time and ene…
/r/MensRights21/06/16 12:58 AM
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Option 3 is usually not free, but I really recommend it if you can afford it. Visitation centers have seen it all, they tolerate no bullshit, and their social engineering helps avoid conflict. The one I send my clients to has the parents arrive 30 minutes apart, and will text the receiving parent to come on over only after the dropoff parent has left the premises. If that's not financially possible, you boyfriend has the legal right to designate a third party to pick up on his behalf. He can als…
/r/MensRights21/06/16 12:42 AM
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I was trying to point out that a person who is raped by an acquaintance, and a person who is battered in a nonsexual way by an acquaintance, both know exactly who did it to them. The government is supposed to presume the innocence of the accused. The accuser is not. In the case of stranger rape or other kinds of violence (which I DID address), if you didn't see the person clearly then you shouldn't believe that the police have found them until and unless they can prove it or the person admits it…
/r/MensRights21/06/16 12:22 AM
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Fair enough, but I wish you'd think a little bit more about your position. Most rapes are acquaintance rapes, after all, and most rapes are never prosecuted. If one of your friends was raped by somebody else in your social circle, would you really want them to conceal that from you, for months on end, quite possibly forever if charges weren't brought?
/r/MensRights20/06/16 10:29 PM
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You keep using the word "defame." It's not defamation to make accurate statements about objectionable things that other people do in public. In fact, I'm suggesting the glaring light of public scrutiny as a last-ditch alternative to illegal actions such as physical assault. The Constitution protects one's legal right to be a fucking asshole in a variety of circumstances. It provides no protection against the social consequences of assholish behavior.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 10:22 PM
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If you're assaulted (sexually or otherwise) by somebody you know, then there isn't typically any doubt. Stranger rapes? Sure, it's irresponsible to guess at the identity of your attacker if you didn't see them clearly. But stranger rapes aren't the norm. It's your body, and if you are hurt and decide to conceal the identity of the person who hurt you until/unless the state brings charges, that's your prerogative. But I think it's a very unreasonable expectation to place on all victims.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 10:13 PM
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You crazy dreamer, you.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 08:02 PM
1

You must realize that this is a matter of opinion, and that your opinion is not held by most people. Now, having a minority opinion doesn't automatically make you wrong - but it's worth thinking about. If 99.9% of the people you share this planet with are incensed at the notion of being filmed in public when they have explicitly asked not to be filmed, it's obviously "worth talking about." If what you're talking about is people who jump to unfounded conclusions and make public accusations on soc…
/r/MensRights20/06/16 07:57 PM
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At this point, I agree with you. I think that in the USA, progressive states will spend a generation passing laws that get knocked down by the state supreme courts and the federal circuit courts, and then eventually one will be upheld by the SCOTUS, maybe 50 years or so from now. Which is depressing as hell, but that's how progress happens.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 07:50 PM
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I'm Jewish, and all for tolerance when the religious practice is merely silly (kashrut/halal, weird clothing, praying five times a day, etc.) or when it's a practice that individual adults are free to accept or reject (polygyny, chastity, female submission) - but infant genital cutting is a human rights violations and cannot be tolerated in a civilized society. We've got to stamp it out. Everybody seems to be on board with this for FGM, why would MGM be different?
/r/MensRights20/06/16 05:27 PM
1

If somebody punched you in the face, you would presumably file a police report and cooperate fully with the investigation and prosecution of the crime (assuming it was ever prosecuted, which is something you can't control). I seriously doubt that you'd hide your attacker's identity meanwhile.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 05:19 PM
1

If your grey cell ever wake up, try and get it to explain how the difficulty of securing a libel conviction would indicate that victims of rape should keep the identity of their attackers secret. You might also ask it how the protection of free speech is pro-fascist.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 05:14 PM
2

What's your point? That people should be very sure of their facts before making public accusations, lest they be guilty of defamation? I completely agree.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 05:10 PM
1

You really need to learn the difference between criticism and emotional abuse. Despite what you may have heard on Tumblr, it's not difficult to distinguish between them.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 05:07 PM
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Treating other people with respect is NOT a "great deed." It's a baseline social expectation. If you don't live up to that social expectation, you may pay a social cost if other people find out what you've done. To feel entitled to the silence of the person you've mistreated is, simply put, stupid.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 11:10 AM
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Of course it isn't. But people who are hurt have the right to publicly announce that they've been hurt and identify the person who did it. Rape is not an exception to this.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 11:04 AM
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If somebody rapes you, I hope you shout it from the rooftops. If you lie about somebody raping you, I hope that you are prosecuted for libel. See how that works?
/r/MensRights20/06/16 11:02 AM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling the entire world, via social media or any other method, that you have been raped. Nobody owes their rapist anonymity. The problem is people lying about rape, which is a separate issue.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 03:02 AM
1

Not really. 34-year-old woman, 15-year-old boy. There are many tough decisions that family court judges are called upon to make. This one would have been easy-peasy if appropriate laws had been in place. Again, these laws already exist in many states to protect female victims and their children.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 02:53 AM
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No, you're lucky that you found a woman who understands that children need their fathers. We, the sane mothers of America, have various political, ideological and religious stances. Where I live, most of the women who alienate their exes are "conservative" and "traditional."
/r/MensRights20/06/16 12:39 AM
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What I am saying is that the victim, regardless of gender, should automatically be granted custody of the child that results from a rape. They can choose to raise the child or make an adoption plan. In this case, the convicted rapist was left holding the baby, and that is insane.
/r/MensRights20/06/16 12:32 AM
0

This is child abuse. Two fit parents means joint custody and two equal homes. And having her over to the house doing chores, having sex with her, tying her amount of contact with her children to those things? I truly, honestly hope that this guy dies tomorrow. His ex did a bad thing several years ago, and divorce obviously justified. He is acting like a monster right now, his kids would be better off disentangled from this web of lies, and the world would be a better place without him in it.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 07:55 PM
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I think rape victims should have the right to either abort (if female), raise their babies with all the access to public assistance and/or child support enforcement that single parents currently have, or make an adoption plan without requiring the rapist's cooperation. Meanwhile, the rapist should be in jail awaiting either the termination of their parental rights or 18 years of bills. This approach wouldn't help every victim, since most rapes are not provable, but it would at least cover those …
/r/MensRights19/06/16 07:30 PM
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Their job is to deal with the criminal, not advocate for the welfare of the criminal's children. I often have cause to be very grateful to prosecuters, and I rely entirely on the judge to assess my recommendations and act upon them, but at the end of the day they have other primary responsibilities and that's why judges appoint people like me. I am supposed to do what the judge would do if s/he had unlimited time and energy and could personally investigate the situation of every child whose fate…
/r/MensRights19/06/16 07:14 PM
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Why do you keep bringing up the authorities? People shouldn't require the threat of police action to treat each other decently - and that includes respecting their boundaries, even in public. Don't talk to people who ask to be left alone, don't touch people who ask you not to touch them, and don't take pictures of video if people who have asked you not. That's not ass-kissing. That's treating your fellow citizens with respect.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 06:34 PM
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Using that definition, you would be opposed to social media posts with a picture and a caption saying "OMG this perv was totally stalking me!!!" and not opposed to social media posts with a picture and a caption saying "This man was taking pictures of my children in Sunset Park on Friday afternoon. I asked him to stop and he told me that he had the legal right to do it. I told him that it made me very uncomfortable and he persisted." If that's how you feel, we don't disagree.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 03:10 PM
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Empathy is also part of the glue that holds our society together, since we all screw up repeatedly over the course of our lives. It's OK to feel bad about your choices sometimes. That's part of the process that leads you to make better choices in the future. And I'm pretty sure that Americans need antidepressants in record numbers because of radical changes in our diet over the past two generations - the same changes that have made us so incredibly fucking fat. Eat your omega-3s, and take negati…
/r/MensRights19/06/16 12:20 PM
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Yup. Reverse the genders on this case, and the victim would be getting financial assistance from the government if they chose to raise the baby, help with an adoption plan if they didn't, and the rapist would have had a jail sentence followed by either a child support obligation or a termination of parental rights.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 12:08 PM
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RIGHT?!? I represent at-risk children in family court. I literally do not give a fuck about the parents if their desires don't line up with the child's best interests. I cannot BELIEVE that this baby was left with its rapist mother. As far as I know, while the boy at least had a lawyer and a child advocate to represent him, the baby never had anybody assigned to protect its interests.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 12:06 PM
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I think you're applying a black-and-white worldview to a nuanced situation. In my opinion, legal justice and social censure both play important roles in our society. They are both powerful tools and can both be misused with tragic results. But they are both indispensible, no matter what the SJWs say.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 11:57 AM
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Yes you can. And he can record you doing it, and let the whole world know that you did.
/r/MensRights19/06/16 11:49 AM
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Wait, did you just try to shame me for believing in the social value of shame? ;-) Here's my take on it: any powerful social tool can be misused. There are people who spank their children and people who physically abuse them. There are people who acknowledge that obesity is unhealthy at the personal and societal levels and needs to be addressed, and people who go around telling individual fat folks that they are worthless. There are people who eschew obviously self-destructive choices such as ad…
/r/MensRights19/06/16 11:46 AM
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I wouldn't wish a seriously creepy/harassing experience on anybody, but if you ever happen to have one, I hope it helps you to believe me in retrospect.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 05:38 PM
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When did "shame" become a dirty word? Sometimes people do things for which they deserved to be shamed. It's part and parcel of a functional society.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 05:35 PM
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I understand that you sincerely believe you wouldn't be doing anything wrong, but even the completely unedited video without any editoralizing headline might have consequences way beyond what I'd be comfortable with if it happened to go viral. I hope that nobody ever puts me in that position by insisting on taking pictures of my kids. I don't think anybody ever will.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 12:20 PM
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The fact that she was on her way to submit to arrest may have colored the officers' and prosecutor's responses. Still good news though. I have a hell of a time getting my more violent clients taken seriously by the cops when they are female, especially when they are also young and white.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 11:54 AM
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Taking pictures in public is NOT illegal, though, and I don't want it to be. Most of the time it's utterly innocuous. Taking pictures of people (or their children) when they ask you not to is also legal, but obviously not innocuous. Anybody who persists in that behavior is a raving asshole and needs to be censured, not by law enforcement, but by their peers. Again, I have NEVER encountered such a person in real life and don't expect to. The man mentioned in this news story wasn't doing that. The…
/r/MensRights18/06/16 11:48 AM
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... and that conversation between us, where you explained that what you were doing was legal and I explained that it was socially unacceptable, would end up on social media, along with pictures of people who park like assholes and pictures of people who yank on their toddlers' arms and pictures of people who treat the waitstaff poorly. After all, in public, nobody has any expectations of privacy.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 11:39 AM
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Well, that's more reasonable, but what the heck am I supposed to do with somebody like that? Hit them? Illegal, and I can't win a physical fight with most people, I'm small and not athletic. Knock the camera out of their hands? Also illegal, and could start that physical fight that I probably won't win. Start hollering and attract a group of people to support me? That might turn out even worse - a real-life mob rather than an online one. I've never had to escalate and I really doubt I ever will …
/r/MensRights18/06/16 02:09 AM
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That's certainly not what I'm feeling when I deal with creeps, or what I intend to convey when I tell othe people about dealing with creeps. Actually being creeped on is a disgusting, terrifying experience.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 01:39 AM
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If it's OK for you to film people who ask you not to, then it's OK for them to film you doing it and let the entire world know that you film strangers in public and ignore requests to stop.
/r/MensRights18/06/16 01:34 AM
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Exactly. I have had to stop people from taking pictures of my children in public a few times over the years. It's not illegal, just as following somebody is not illegal, but it's socially inappropriate. I just walk up to them and explain that we prefer not to have strangers photograph our kids and offer to move the kids if they are in front of something interesting, and that's always been the end of it. Public accusations of creepy behavior are a serious thing. It''s something you resort to when…
/r/MensRights17/06/16 09:29 PM
1

Read my post again. I wasn't talking about men. I was talking about PEOPLE, most of whom are female, who deliberately pursue single parenthood.
/r/MensRights17/06/16 01:25 PM
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"Treat your partner like you'd treat your best friend" - I've heard much worse advice ;-)
/r/MensRights16/06/16 10:56 PM
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This is some of the purest narcissism I've ever encountered, and I've encountered it on this subreddit twice this week. Children need their fathers. Children need their mothers. Anybody who is thinking of children as a commodity that they can "buy" or have as solely "theirs" needs to realize that they are unfit to raise a human and get a dog. I am willing to give gay couples a pass on this, because all the research to date shows that they do a good job with their kids and it's not as though they…
/r/MensRights16/06/16 10:32 PM
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Putting yourself in danger of a contempt citation is a necessary aspect of civil disobedience. I agree with /u/HiberniaSon that a massive act of peaceful civil disobedience would be an effective way to get this issue on the front burner of American politics.
/r/MensRights16/06/16 02:28 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to your friend. I've had pretty good luck helping my male clients avail themselves of the DV services around here, but the mere fact that they are all originally designed to help women is a barrier, even when the individual administering the services is fair-minded and compassionate. That's why I am an advocate for creating crisis intervention services that focus on male victims, rather than fully integrating the existing services. Traumatized men don't WANT to be surroun…
/r/MensRights15/06/16 03:32 PM
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I'm American, but I'm guessing the Canadian court procedures are similar: Rapid access to a free attorney is the linchpin of a successful (i.e., not dead and not leaving your kids behind) exit from an abusive relationship. You need a temporary restraining order and a temporary custody order, or there is absolutely nothing that will stop your abuser from picking your kids up at school or daycare and using your fear for their safety to force you back into the home, or from stalking you at work unt…
/r/MensRights15/06/16 12:33 PM
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"Sexist" is the word I'd use based on the information given. "Misogynist" would be more appropriate if the note had expressed contempt for female veterans in general, rather than the assumption that this particular female was not a veteran.
/r/MensRights14/06/16 07:35 PM
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Totally agree about the current laws being poison and a perverse incentive for family disintegration and parental alienation. This is where we disagree: You can gamble on Mom not being a total a-hole, or you can give yourself the guarantee of single parenthood. I don't think it's ethical for a parent of either sex to "give themselves the guarantee" at the expense of a child. A child who CAN be loved and wanted by parents, SHOULD be loved and wanted by two parents. I don't want to make surrogacy …
/r/MensRights14/06/16 07:33 PM
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I'm really sorry for what happened to you. You son deserves to have you in his life. But nobody can see the future, so I think it's wrong to START a child's life with deprivation when there are other viable choices available to the adult - the choice to find a partner, the choice to adopt a child in need, the choice to be childless. If you had the ability to alter the past, would you really erase the existence of your son's mother, or would you change family court practices so that your role in …
/r/MensRights14/06/16 05:07 PM
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Irrelevant. She's a veteran. She parked in the veteran parking space, not the "I support universal conscription" parking space.
/r/MensRights14/06/16 04:49 PM
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When somebody assumes that you aren't a veteran based on no information other than the fact that you are female, what are you supposed to blame? I'd be pissed as hell if I were her. Now, if she has an "I'm not a veteran" bumper sticker...
/r/MensRights14/06/16 04:47 PM
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Nobody needs to provide an explanation for not working when off duty. If we could drill this notion into our culture, it would benefit everybody, but working men most of all.
/r/MensRights14/06/16 04:43 PM
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I'm involved directly in that field, and I agree with you that there are lots of two-parent families that suck. Hence the overwhelming numbers of children waiting for adoption. Nobody's motives are ever pure, but if the primary imperative a potential parent is operating under is total control over parenting, to the extent that they'd willingly create an infant half-orphan, then that person has failed as a parent before they even begin. They are thinking of what they imagine is best for themselve…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 04:38 PM
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The difference is between a child who already exists and needs to be parented (better one parent than none, as I said above), and a child that does not exist and would be created to gratify a single adult's desire for exclusive control and ownership of their offspring. Now, single women do this all the time, as they posses the gestation equipment and sperm is easy to come by. I'm not saying that single men who rent wombs or buy infants are worse than single women who deliberately conceive childr…
/r/MensRights14/06/16 03:35 PM
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Anybody who is OK with deliberately creating a half-orphaned infant has severe emotional problems and should seek professional help. Now, one parent is certainly better than zero parents, so adoption of a waiting child (i.e., an older child, there are plenty of two-parent families waiting to adopt infants) can be an ethical solution for people who are determined to be single parents.
/r/MensRights13/06/16 08:38 PM
1

She's not wrong - his story sounds like total bullshit, and is not reflective of how drunk hook-ups usually happens. The whole behind-the-dumpster with an unconscious person and running away when confronted aspects are also atypical. Six months in prison is probably about right for this guy - I just don't know why people want MORE. She didn't get a disease, she didn't get pregnant, he didn't beat her up...
/r/MensRights11/06/16 10:03 PM
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I always did. But then, I was trying to get pregnant. This woman may well have have been trying.
/r/MensRights11/06/16 06:57 PM
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I guess so. But I'm honestly shocked at the number of men who try to drag me out of my book, and the persistence of their attempts. It's not a meat-market kind of place, it's a drink-after-work kind of place.
/r/MensRights11/06/16 12:03 PM
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You realize that you just shored up her point, right? I like reading, I like bars, I often will have a meal and a beer at Happy Hour in a bar that serves decent food and is close to where I need to pick up my kid. I'm always polite to the men who interrupt me, because they're never as rude as you, but Jesus Christ it gets old. Why anybody thinks it's OK to interrupt a stranger who is reading...
/r/MensRights11/06/16 11:56 AM
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James Bond's (and Jason Bourne's, and Ethan Hunt's, etc. etc.) extreme physical prowess has always strained credibility. There is no reason that a female Bond could not work. With the whole Mata Hari angle available, we could get some fresh plot fodder as well. I would give that movie a fair shot.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:45 PM
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The comedic actresses they picked are pretty analogous to the male actors who did the original. I don't mind that they cast SNL types as the Ghostbusters, I think that works. I mind that they cast four females instead of the four best SNL cast members and SNL veterans available.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:40 PM
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Good point. I also skipped the Total Recall and Robocop reboots, simply because the trailers looked so shitty.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:34 PM
1

To slag on women who don't want their children to be bastards.
/r/MensRights09/06/16 04:53 AM
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The judge doesn't have the power to do the former, but does have the power to do the latter. Also not sure how there can be any doubt that a person with a diagnosis of MS and such a bad case of PCOS that she's growing a beard "needs" healthcare. If we are going to put people in cages, we have to provide the basic necessities.
/r/MensRights09/06/16 04:47 AM
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I have no particular sympathy for this woman, but inadequate medical care for the people we imprison is a major civil rights issue.
/r/MensRights09/06/16 12:15 AM
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Nope, shame on her and on her parents. Want to live as a female? Fine, it's your life and your mental illness and your outfits and pronouns don't bother me. Come right on into the ladies' bathroom if you wish, your flavor of crazy is not dangerous. I hope you find some peace in life. But until and unless you take steps to alter your body into a facsimile of a biological female body, you don't get to play sports with the biological females. Obviously.
/r/MensRights08/06/16 03:14 PM
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Because he doesn't give a fuck. If there was one thing I could change about my marriage, it would be for one of us (doesn't matter who) to give a fuck about interior design. On the plus side, our space isn't cluttered...
/r/MensRights07/06/16 11:06 PM
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This is what I always tell people - mandatory assignment of legal paternity based on nothing but DNA can generate a (typically very small) monthly payment, but it cannot create a father. The kid is still effectively fatherless.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 03:56 PM
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Agreed. I'm all for people having families, but getting a high school girlfriend pregnant, except for the rare case when both kids pull their shit together and actually start a family, is a near-guarantee of a shitty life. It's also true that things like job loss or disability are treated as solvable problems in a healthy family, and jailable offenses in a broken family. Insanity.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 03:53 PM
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I also respect my husband, and he respects me. Both of us have have told the other to "take one for the team" at various points in the marriage, and that's not rape. If these comments on your Facebook group bothered you so much, it's probably because there is an overarching misandrist dynamic in the group. I have had to walk away from more than one social group over that issue.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 03:45 PM
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I think Amber Heard is a fucking liar who lies, but did you have 4.5 million dollars in the bank when you were 30? Yeah, me neither. She was doing exceptionally well in life until she pulled this bullshit caper.
/r/MensRights04/06/16 03:39 PM
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Injuries of that sort are sadly common in physical abuse cases. The sexual orientation of the perpetrator does not seem to be a factor.
/r/MensRights03/06/16 04:50 PM
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Hey, I had two married parents (still do), and when I was little we were poor as dirt. I don't resent them, and I do wonder if my own kids, who have so much more in material terms, aren't being led down the primrose path by the effortlessness of their existence. All that said, when a parent who has been well and truly abandoned by their coparent wants a judge to order child support, I support them. I'm working with a single father right now who is so ashamed to chase his ex-wife down for child s…
/r/MensRights02/06/16 11:41 PM
2

Well said.
/r/MensRights02/06/16 08:51 PM
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This is a subject that ranges beyond Men's Rights, so please bear with me... Primary and secondary education in the English-speaking world has deteriorated horribly in the past century. We're no longer trying to produce educated people - we're trying to produce cogs in the machine. A French philosopher put it this way: "We professed to make ideal citizens, super-tolerant neighbors, agents of world peace, and happy family folk, at once sexually adept and flawless drivers of cars." Educators have …
/r/MensRights02/06/16 05:12 PM
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Unless your father provided financial support under the table, you've just laid out the exact scenario in which custodial parents should go after child support. Your dad and mom had two kids together, then broke up. He went off and had some other kids, and saw you sometimes when he felt like it. You lived in poverty. If your mother had insisted that your father fulfill his responsibility to his first set of kids, you would had meat on the dinner table a lot more often, and perhaps your mother wo…
/r/MensRights02/06/16 12:11 PM
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If you personally know a father who blocked an adoption, why in blue blazes do you continue to pretend that it's a decision women unilaterally make, or that when I differentiate between birthparents who transfer their responsibility (adoption) and birthparents who seek to abnegate their responsibility (legal surrender), I am placing all mothers in the first category and all fathers in the second? I have personally chased down deadbeat mothers who were in arrears on child support, while their ex-…
/r/MensRights31/05/16 06:26 PM
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Western men have some of the oddest ideas about Non-Western women. Seriously, you've never see a Filipino couple arguing? Those ladies use kitchen implements to express their displeasure.
/r/MensRights30/05/16 02:49 PM
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I'd argue that the legal relationship between mother and child rests more on the fact of gestation than of the DNA link. After all, we knew about THAT part way before we figured out the exact mechanism of human reproduction. She's already invested a great deal in the child by the time it's born. Same deal with married men - they were investing in the child and caring for it by proxy by supporting the pregnant woman. Their role was fundamentally different than the role of a casual sex partner who…
/r/MensRights30/05/16 02:43 PM
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Absolutely, but if I understand the timeline, this child was abducted in infancy and the guy never really had the chance to parent him. If he has trashed his life chasing after the kid that his wife's boyfriend fathered and has been raising... it would just suck, is all I'm saying.
/r/MensRights29/05/16 09:46 PM
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It is absolutely true that the vast majority of adoptions in the United States take place with the involvement and consent of both birthparents. I'm not going to defend the putative father registry system as it currently exists, because in most states it was designed by conservative legislators to keep the fathers of bastard children from blocking adoptions, and it doesn't offer a reasonable chance for a man who DOES want to raise an unplanned child to take his case to court. But most adoptions …
/r/MensRights29/05/16 09:39 PM
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God, I hope that kid is really his.
/r/MensRights29/05/16 05:27 PM
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Rights come with responsibilities. Women (and men, adoptions require the knowledge and consent of the birthfather unless he cannot be identified or located, and that's rare) have ways of legally and safely surrendering their infants to other people who want to be parents, but until/unless they go through that detailed legal process and replace themselves with a parental figure that the courts deem fit, they are legally responsible for their offspring. If that's the deal men decide they want for …
/r/MensRights29/05/16 05:25 PM
1

What a tool. I'm sure all those lesbians and gay men who didn't use their gametes to make their child would be thrilled to find out that they aren't parents.
/r/MensRights29/05/16 01:05 PM
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I can see the appeal of that position, but I don't think it's logically consistent. Either the mere fact of the biological link between a man and the offspring of a former sex partner creates a relationship so important that we are justified in using the law to enforce it, or it doesn't. If it's that important, then it shouldn't be something that men can just walk away from. I personally think that fathers are incredibly important, which is why I got myself a life partner and conceived our child…
/r/MensRights29/05/16 11:51 AM
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I don't believe that the fathers of bastards should have any rights or any responsibilities, unless they reach an agreement with the woman who decided to have the child and sign a mutually binding contract. I think it was a poor legal and social decision to give the mothers of bastard children a means of extracting money from their former sex partners. But in this case, the woman who bore the bastard decided to name its biological father and decided to pursue him for child support, so yes, he ab…
/r/MensRights29/05/16 02:30 AM
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I've got bad news for you, then. ;-) Fundamentalists of any stripe are a poor choice to govern a secular state. I'm hoping that as time goes on they will become less electable. But it's the "fundamentalist" part that worries me, not the Christian part. Many Christians have served honorably as American statesmen.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 05:11 PM
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We don't disagree. But far better for everyone involved if he wasn't commanded to pay and thus never wanted to play.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 03:26 PM
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I don't think there are any saints in this story on either side. I'm not saying he doesn't have a right to share custody of this child, just that the turnabout from "get an abortion!" to "hand him over!" is something a sane (not saintly) parent would find alarming. OP, recognizing this, tried starting out with supervised visitation to demonstrate that really had changed and wasn't a danger. It was a good idea, too bad it didn't work.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 01:08 PM
1

I hear you. I wish you the best. If we're going to have mandatory child support for bastards, updating the calculation formulas would at least help the situation.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 12:22 AM
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If she really is mentally ill, then I hope you get custody. But Jesus Christ. You conceived an unwanted child in an incident of drunken adultery, and then railed against the pregnant women when she decided not to have an abortion. You must understand why she doesn't want you anywhere near her kid - no sane mother would want that. You didn't want this child to exist. The honorable action would have been to leave you off the birth certificate and disappear from your life, but the law does not requ…
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:37 PM
0

Yes, what a pity that it's illegal in most Western countries to covertly film people having sex. /s
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:24 PM
3

Are you kidding? If somebody raped me, I'd accuse them as publicly as possible. I hope you would do the same.
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:22 PM
2

Exactly. I'm not going to vote for either of them, but I cannot condemn the voter in a swing state who decides that Hillary is the slightly lesser evil. It's like that South Park episode where the kids have to choose between Turd Sandwich and Giant Douche.
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:12 PM
25

I don't care about the race, sex or religion of our President. At all. And my experiences don't match up with yours. People who have been properly raised can control their emotions in adulthood, and people who have been badly raised often cannot.
/r/MensRights27/05/16 06:02 PM
1

Well, I think that's absolutely crackers, but you're certainly not hurting me or anybody else by going your own way. It's your life and you should be able to live it however you choose to.
/r/MensRights27/05/16 11:34 AM
2

You don't want to defend Dalrock - he's a supernaturalist tradcon. He honestly believes that a guy in the sky gave him "authority" over his wife. It's appalling. To speak to your larger point, I fully agree that law and society now give wives the power to bully husbands, which is just as wrong as the bullying of wives that was previously sanctioned by law, society, and mainstream religion. The pendulum has swung too far. But we fix that by continuing to make progress towards a fair balance, not …
/r/MensRights26/05/16 11:59 PM
1

Different-but-equal I can live with, although in my experience the differences are largely an individual trait. As long as we don't insist on every male being good at X and every female being good at Y, I'm not at war with the concept of complementary strengths and weaknesses. It's a very workable template for a marriage. It's the mumbo-jumbo that gets me. We were never "raised." We did not "fall." We are a primate species that evolved over millions of years. There is no Supreme Sociopath who cr…
/r/MensRights26/05/16 11:51 PM
1

Yes. A men's rights subreddit. A place for people who care about men having civil equality in our society. Your fallen-human mumbo-jumbo, and your seperate-but equal mumbo-jumbo (although you don't quite SAY equal, I guess that word sticks in your craw) may be well received at your church, but it's not relevant here.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 07:57 PM
6

Agreed. First make it equal, and then make it obsolete.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 02:12 PM
0

If the choices are no marriage and no Christianity or the male-supremacist version of both that Dalrock is so fond of, then we're probably better off without either. But I am more optimistic than you. The married Christians who I see succeeding with their children (and I see a lot of them, I live in the Bible Belt) usually aren't peddling the male headship nonsense.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 01:00 PM
1

A diary would be a good idea, for both the parent being abused and any witnesses who might be called upon at some point to testify. Make specific notes about the negative reactions that the children have, and write down verbatim any comments the children make that support your allegations of abuse. Also make a note of each time the abuser is urged to seek mental health treatment. Verbal abuse can be awful, but is desperately tricky to prove. It's usually best to stand up to the abuser and see if…
/r/MensRights26/05/16 12:46 PM
0

A political action group starts changing its tune on a particular issue in response to changing social mores, and your reaction is "yay, female nature can be controlled, just like in the old days!" This is why I'm a feminist, even though the majority of feminists in the public eye these days are cringeworthy. There really are men who believe, with total sincerity, that they are superior beings. It boggles the mind.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 11:46 AM
2

I'd be equally contemptuous of a woman who expressed similar sentiments, and equally glad that she had removed her sorry self from the dating pool. The issue here isn't having the toy, or using the toy. It's envisioning the toy as a replacement for a relationship with another human, which this poster explicitly posits as a likely and desirable outcome. People who think that way shouldn't be dating other humans. They should be at home with their toys.
/r/MensRights26/05/16 11:30 AM
0

Just that there wasn't an argument being made here for the necessity of "fathers" as we have come to define the term (i.e., the guy who provided the other half of the kid's DNA), nor for the necessity of fathers having any actual right to assume the parental role. So I don't think it's a particularly relevant argument from a men's rights perspective, since we're focused (correctly IMO) on men being able to know who their biological offspring are and being able to have contact with them that isn'…
/r/MensRights25/05/16 11:10 AM
1

Well, it says that male parental figures are essential for the proper development of our young, without speculating on whether a genetic relationship between the child and the male role models is necessary. Which probably makes sense in the context of hunter-gatherer societies, because who the fuck knew who the biological father was?
/r/MensRights25/05/16 02:50 AM
1

I agree that it's impossible, with our current data, to make decisive statements as to which group is most inherently likely to be abusive. I'm not even sure it matters, because ALL adults are inherently UNLIKELY to be abusive. Most people don't hurt kids. I'm glad that society is now interested in protecting children from abuse, but I think we've become paranoid.
/r/MensRights25/05/16 02:36 AM
1

Morally wrong? No. I think his view of women as he describes it here is legitimately misogynistic, but that has nothing to do with his masturbation habits either way. I was being perfectly sincere when I said that it would be better all around if guys like this (and their female counterparts) had sex dolls. If you despise the kind of people you're sexually attracted to, then staying at home humping a piece of plastic made in the shape of the kind of person you're attracted to is the right move. …
/r/MensRights25/05/16 02:31 AM
1

Stepparents and paramours of the parent are the most frequent abusers. And NO demographic of adults frequently abuses children.
/r/MensRights24/05/16 06:59 PM
0

Thank goodness the inanimate object will never "get lippy" with him, or expect mutual pleasure, or cause him any hassle, or reject his advances. Sure does sound better!
/r/MensRights24/05/16 06:33 PM
1

Masturbating certainly isn't a bad thing. Mistaking it for mutual sexual enjoyment with another person isn't even a bad thing - there is no moral error, and the sex doll has to feelings to hurt, and won't until we make serious advances in artifical intelligence. But the kind of person (not just heterosexuals, and not just men) who can equate humping a doll with making love to another human is not somebody we actually want in the dating pool. I wasn't being sarcastic when I said that these dolls …
/r/MensRights24/05/16 12:05 PM
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You're the kind of guy these robots are being designed for, and it will be a good thing all around when guys like you stop trying to pursue sexual relationships with other humans and stay home jerking off into an assortment of silicone tubes.
/r/MensRights24/05/16 02:53 AM
5

There are five or six people of color in that picture. The part where they are all female and almost all young is legitimately disturbing, but they're not all white, and I don't see how you could look at that picture and conclude that they are.
/r/MensRights24/05/16 02:40 AM
2

They shouldn't have to, any more than interracial couples or gay couples who live in socially retarded states should have to "drive to another state" to exercise their civil right to get married. Everybody who CAN pull together the money and the transportation and the childcare and the time off work to make their way to another state and jump through whatever hoops THAT state has erected in an attempt to force women to gestate does so. Carrying an unwanted pregnancy to term is the port of last r…
/r/MensRights23/05/16 03:20 PM
1

The Knights of Columbus are installing these boxes. They are a conservative Catholic men's social group. They do lots of good things - including installing these boxes, Indiana is going to need them! - but they oppose both abortion and most forms of contraception, and their membership is politically active.
/r/MensRights23/05/16 11:02 AM
3

... and this is why we need the laws. Because people like you can't see their hands in front of their faces, and won't realize that the entire health and prosperity of their nation is tied to educated people having children. You don't need to like it. But wiser heads than yours are prevailing in your country, and you will be obliged to stop punishing working parents. Find another hobby. Tearing the wings off flies has been a popular pastime for socially maladroit British boys for centuries - may…
/r/MensRights22/05/16 09:52 PM
2

First off, that's hogwash. You are the first person I have ever heard suggest that the field of law changes so rapidly that a person can't afford to take parental leave. And while STEM is such a broad descriptor that it is nearly meaningless, one of the few things all STEM professionals have in common is the ability to keep up with the latest developments in their field via the Internet, should some groundbreaking event occur during their leave. And of course, nobody has ever suffered a lapse in…
/r/MensRights22/05/16 08:51 PM
3

Attitudes like yours are why legal protections need to exist for working parents. Everybody wants to make money, sure. Nobody needs to exploit their workers to the point where they cannot reproduce or parent their kids without suffering for it professionally. I live in the USA, where mothers have minimal legal and social protection from being exploited in this way, and fathers have ZERO protection. It needs to change.
/r/MensRights22/05/16 07:55 PM
2

I generally have little patience with students who whine about school dress codes and the penalties for disregarding them - and even less patience for parents who allow their children to act in such a brattish manner. But this guy has long dreadlocks and the school is fine with that, but his small well-groomed beard is a problem? I don't think I could bring myself to make my child follow such a stupid policy. It's clearly not about some notion of "professionalism," because how many professional …
/r/MensRights22/05/16 11:24 AM
1

TIL that supporters of men's rights are presumably comfortable with the notion of a Trump presidency.
/r/MensRights21/05/16 07:19 PM
4

I think that legally mandated shared parental leave, and almost more importantly the social expectation that both fathers and mothers will actively parent their children (i.e., pick them up at set hours, work from home when they are sick, etc.) would be a tremendous step forward for all involved. Shared custody is a very important civil rights issue, but honestly, by the time that comes into play the parents have already failed in the fundamental task of maintaining a stable home for their kids,…
/r/MensRights21/05/16 05:02 PM
1

I wish I had access to this whole paper. If anybody subscribes to this journal, I'd love to see the copypaste...
/r/MensRights21/05/16 04:55 PM
1

Still better than 50, which is pretty typical for "professional" full-time jobs here. My husband usually works 60.
/r/MensRights21/05/16 12:24 PM
1

What country were these people from?
/r/MensRights21/05/16 12:16 PM
1

Actually, these babies are fast-tracked for adoption. Their parents will pay for them.
/r/MensRights21/05/16 11:18 AM
3

It's really not true, especially in certain states, that young women and poor women have "every opportunity" to terminate unwanted pregnancies. Abortion is reasonably easy to access in many parts of this country. Indiana is not one of them. How nice of this Catholic men's group to provide baby deposit boxes, after they have succeeded in their efforts to deprive the women of their state of comprehensive reproductive healthcare.
/r/MensRights21/05/16 11:16 AM
1

"Embarrassed" is not the word you're looking for. These babies are usually evidence of a crime (incest, statutory rape, prenatal drug exposure), or they are born into families whose other nefarious doings make involvement with cops or social workers necessary to avoid. What do you think happens to the girl/woman who "tells" on her criminal family/boyfriend by allowing herself to be identified when she surrenders the baby?
/r/MensRights21/05/16 11:10 AM
1

If I were a Dane, I would happily send my 3-year-old to one of your excellent facilities and return to my 30-hour-per-week job :-)
/r/MensRights21/05/16 10:59 AM
2

Only the poorest people in the US get a daycare/preschool subsidy, and that is no doubt part of the problem.
/r/MensRights20/05/16 11:36 PM
1

I think our disagreement comes from the fact that I'm distinguishing between daycare and preschool, and you are not. I thoroughly approve of preschool, and preschool need not be expensive to be good, as it is a part-time endeavor and the children are toilet trained and can safely and happily be instructed in larger groups. I have been inside daycare of the rich, daycares of the poor, and daycares of the middle class. Some are certainly better than others. None of them are nice.
/r/MensRights20/05/16 11:34 PM
5

Clearly you've never set foot inside a daycare. I'm not harshing on the people who do an imposdible job at a low rate of pay, but daycares are holding areas for very young children whose parents can't or won't stay home to take care of them. They are awful. Stinking, noisy, chaotic, constant changes in staff, constant passing around of infections. Six or more babies lined up in rows of cribs like patients at a prison infirmary. Groups of 10 toddlers wrecking a room Lord of the Flies style with o…
/r/MensRights20/05/16 01:57 PM
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If she was spending days with her father and evenings with her mother, she WOULD be living with him. And also her mother. That's what shared custody is. People do view it as a backdoor method for the noncustodial parent to ultimately "get" the child "away" from the primary caregiver, and that's a huge problem. With shared parenting, there IS no primary caregiver.
/r/MensRights20/05/16 01:48 PM
0

You realize that Kevin Spacey is older, right?
/r/MensRights19/05/16 09:44 AM
2

I don't really disagree - but cock-washing? That one, I could teach. Contraception? Ditto. Sexual urges? I have them myself, I could at least try and ask my father and my brother to help.
/r/MensRights19/05/16 01:10 AM
1

Read an actual article about this. She was negotiatiating a new contract.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 10:07 PM
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It's Robin Wright. "Robit" is not a name in English. She demanded equal pay when her character had become an equal draw for the series. There is nothing wrong with this. She didn't demand back pay for the seasons when Spacey was a bigger draw. I doubt he has anything to say about his costar other than "thanks for doing such excellent work." Any American man, or male of another nationality, who does not want to "put up" with American women is perfectly free to leave us alone. Please. Go your own …
/r/MensRights18/05/16 10:04 PM
1

I feel your pain. I have generally voted Democrat (with many exceptions at the local level, because you know how that goes), would have voted for Bernie, and will literally write in Vladimir Putin or Yasir Arafat before I cast a ballot for Hillary or The Donald.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 09:58 PM
4

Jesus Christ. You are that fatherless guy my husband always posits as the person who needs to have a terper phase so he doesn't end up (in 99% of cases) isolated and unhappy or (in 1% of cases) actively dangerous in some way. I'm sorry you didn't get what you needed when you were growing up. I'm glad you're happy now. Frankly, that hygiene and contraception and urge stuff is not an esoteric male mystery, and your mom should have done a better job with it or enlisted a male relative to take point…
/r/MensRights18/05/16 09:51 PM
0

I see what you're saying, but in this elbow-throwing industry... I certainly wasn't upset when Chris Hemsworth pointed out that that he deserved more and had to fight to get it and, in fact, had not gotten as much as he believed he deserved.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 09:41 PM
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Not complimentary, but also not vilifying - just honest and realistic. It is not exactly news that you have to be incredibly pushy to get fair pay in Hollywood. If she had allowed them to underpay her, that would happily have done so. Have you ever looked into what people get paid for those Marvel movies?
/r/MensRights18/05/16 09:37 PM
1

As opposed to all those male actors who do the manly thing and negotiate for themselves, rather than hiring an expert to represent them.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 06:01 PM
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She threatened to go public about being paid underpaid, if they tried to underpay her. They decided not to underway her. I don't get the outrage here. She's not portraying Netflix as villainous, nor did she promise to maintain a ladylike silence in perpetuity about her salary negotiations. She's pointing out, correctly, that executives won't generally hand you a deserved raise simply because it's deserved - you have to assert yourself.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 05:59 PM
1

TIL The Princess Bride is a new nobody.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 05:53 PM
1

I'm not prepared to assume that anybody who gets into an Ivy League school and decides to attend does so in order to screw over an ex. When the father of your child has married and gotten his bride pregnant before you even deliver your own child, it's a pretty clear signal that you'd better move on with your life. But the child support laws do explain why Miller went so ballistic as to be willing to take a nursing baby away from its mother, instead of just visiting a lot and making a plan for sh…
/r/MensRights18/05/16 04:57 PM
1

NY is certainly farther along the path to equality than my state. I was bemused when Bode Miller went so crazy when a woman he had a brief relationship with moved to NY to attend Columbia University while she was pregnant - it was hardly the place you'd move if you were trying to prevent an ex from establishing paternity and having custodial rights to a bastard child.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 01:26 PM
5

It's kind of inspiring how people who get a rough start in life and relationships can really turn things around.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 11:13 AM
1

I'm in the Bible Belt. But there are several states outside the Bible Belt that have similar laws, i.e. no default custody rights for unmarried fathers even if they can prove biological paternity. Look up your own state's laws - you may be in for both an unpleasant surprise and a new direction for your IRL activism.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 10:50 AM
5

They really couldn't. Legally, it would have been like handing the baby to a stranger on the street... ... which is why changing Utah's fucked-up laws is hugely important. My own state has laws that aren't quite as bad, but near enough - an unmarried father has to go to court and petition the government for custody if the mother offers him the child to raise or dies or simply bails. It's insulting as hell, and a serious source of stress for fathers in already-stressful situations.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 12:16 AM
6

Well, in addition to his anecdotal experience as a shitty husband and father, he has a melange of ancient texts written by people who believed there was a guy in the sky who enjoyed animal sacrifice and ritual genital mutilation, and these texts assure him that men were created to have authority over women and protect them. That seems credible, right?
/r/MensRights18/05/16 12:06 AM
1

I'm eager to hear how much you and your friends donated. I don't actually solicit donations from anybody for anything, because I think it's tacky as hell, but when I talk about Vasalgel in a purely informative way, I am unsurprised to find out that the only people in my social circle who don't already know about it and support it are the apolitical types.
/r/MensRights18/05/16 12:01 AM
5

Also, he wants to set national policy based on the way his own particular kids turned out.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 10:19 PM
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You are not a faithful and loyal husband, and you are not a loving father to your daughters - because you cannot love a person that you despise. You are just another idiot who went in for a supernatural worldview that sets males above females and reaped the predictable consequences. Your sons have a lot to unlearn if they want real love in their marriages and to be fit fathers to their daughters. I do not believe in doxxing under any circumstances - but I do wish that your wife and daughters mig…
/r/MensRights17/05/16 10:17 PM
1

The people I know who are interested in gender politics on either "side" already know about Vasalgel. The people who wind up hearing about it from me (and hopefully supporting the research, although I don't presume to tell others how to allocate their charity dollars) are people who aren't much engaged with politics or public health. Besides, feminists have no particular onus on them to make male birth control a reality. This is our work to do.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 09:51 PM
1

It''s terrifying that you believe that.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 03:15 PM
14

Most researchers now believe that Fetal Alcohol Effects (what this article calls "foetal alcohol spectrum disorder") is a bullshit diagnosis, period. A kid is difficult or delayed in some way, everybody wants to find something to blame, they decide it was booze. Mom doesn't drink at all? Must have been Dad's drinking. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, OTOH, is a real diagnosis with clearly defined clinical markers.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:52 AM
1

That's not true. Twenty years ago, studies were showing that picking an old man to father your children increased the risk that your child would develop schizophrenia. Obviously, the quality of the gametes matters. How much, and for what? We're still figuring that out.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:48 AM
1

That's just reality. It's not pushing the stereotype to acknowledge the reality. Although I think I would have said "horribly sick people."
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:41 AM
1

God bless you.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:38 AM
-1

Why didn't you call your wife? In a similar situation, my husband would have called me and then taped the entire interaction with the kid until I got there - at which point he would have left and I would have taken the kid either home or to school, depending on whether or not there was a caregiver in the home at that time of day. The cops? Really? Do you know what can happen if you call the cops on working parents whose child has missed the bus? Please don't do that shit ever again. Your uninfor…
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:33 AM
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One person juggling multiple children on public transit wasn't appropriately grateful for your help. So that entire demographic group can go fuck themselves for eternity. Yeah, that's a reasonable response. /s When it comes to men and mothers, sometimes it's like trying to explain to a racist that not all Chinese people are bad drivers. "Oh, you had to deal with one who legitimately sucked? Sorry about that. There are billions of us, some of us are assholes. I don't understand why you find that …
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:25 AM
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No, he didn't. You can be complicit in the craziness or you can stand firm against it. Now, nobody can be strong all the time, nobody can do the right thing all the time. But we all need to acknowledge when we've knuckled under to the craziness.
/r/MensRights17/05/16 12:20 AM
2

Why did they start with a fat guy? Men can't be shamed into lusting after fat women, and women can't be shamed into lusting after fat men. While the American photoshop job is ridiculously hypermuscular, I'm at least grateful they they got rid of the repellant hanging gut. Many countries didn't. I weep for humanity. (I don't care if people have partners who they adore and decide to overlook their fat bodies. Human relationships are complicated, looks aren't everything.)
/r/MensRights16/05/16 10:53 PM
1

Been thinking about this a lot today. When you say "switch roles," are you talking about all the non-courtship aspects of life where we get to vote and have jobs and such? Or do you mean the fact that we can choose to initiate a courtship or choose not to, with some reasonable level of hope either way that we will eventually hook up with a male in our "league?"
/r/MensRights16/05/16 10:40 PM
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Facebook is nuts on the subject of non-sexual nudity. They take down breastfeeding pics all the time, even though pictures of girls in tiny swimsuits showing just as much tit are apparently fine. I'm glad this went viral, because I'm glad I got to see that picture. It's very touching. I have some similar pics from when my kids were little - big hairy guys with small children look like Hagrid holding baby Harry :-)
/r/MensRights16/05/16 12:07 PM
1

I truly didn't intend to attack a distorted version of your point, I appreciate that you are not attacking me. I don't think we actually disagree. Women gussy themselves up. Men approach attractive women (not just one woman) and take a swing. The men decide who approach and the women decide who to accept. HOW IS THIS A PROBLEM? How do both sexes not have certain privileges in this scenario?
/r/MensRights15/05/16 11:27 PM
1

I think there is definitely something to the notion that women like the courtship model because it flows their way. Who wouldn't? But I also think there is a biological aspect to it. Males of many other species engage in courtship behavior, demonstrating their physical fitness and ability to provide. Now, I'm not a whooping crane, and I don't think that a behavior being common in the natural world gives it an automatic pass in the civilized world, but... It is physically impossible for the avera…
/r/MensRights15/05/16 03:28 PM
1

Well, probably not unverifiable if true, but the audience certainly believed her without asking for any proof.
/r/MensRights15/05/16 11:51 AM
1

I honestly feel like you are taking an anti-reality moral stance, along the lines of being upset that women prefer tall men or that men prefer thin women. You seem to be saying that women should actively reject courtship attempts as some sort of social justice activism - all of them? Just the ones that involve X amount of money? What about things that involve very little money but considerable time and energy? It just seems depressing to me, for all involved. If a man can't court a woman he find…
/r/MensRights15/05/16 11:46 AM
-1

Same is true of women.
/r/MensRights15/05/16 02:11 AM
1

If that's how you regard the desire to be courted, then women like me aren't the right women for you. I have no problem with that, any more than I'd have a problem with a man who didn't want to date women who disagreed with him about politics or religion. This just isn't a question of right or wrong. People want what they want in romantic relationships, and all the bitching in the world won't change that. It just makes the person bitching look petty.
/r/MensRights15/05/16 02:03 AM
0

Thank you for giving those following along an example of why it makes sense to assume that men throwing around the prostitute rhetoric are assholes.
/r/MensRights15/05/16 01:56 AM
1

Yes! He can punctuate! Is second grade spelling your next goal?
/r/MensRights14/05/16 11:45 PM
1

it used to be clear. you intended to feed us a meal and pitch us on the notion of allocating our wombs to your offspring. times have changed. people need to be upfront when setting up dates. brush up on the mechanics of the english language please.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 10:59 PM
1

Absolutely. I have been making this very clear all along. This is a touchy subject where reasonable people can and do disagree. ETA: Which is why people should make their expectations eminently clear right from the get-go, and that responsibility is on men and women alike.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 07:42 PM
2

Wealth? You don't have to be remotely wealthy to initiate a first date and pay for it. You just have to be interested in courting a woman. If you're not, then don't. I do not disrespect men who want to do things differently, at all. Heck, I don't care if people want to put harnesses on their dates and hitch them to pony carts, or spend their first date at a sex club, or hike the Pacific Crest Trail together as a getting-to-know-you ritual. Whatever works for you both. I'm not saying no women eve…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 07:04 PM
-1

I didn't realize that she had managed a statistically significant number of all the females on the nursing profession. She must be very busy. There's nothing wrong with favoring individual employees who do a better job or cause you less drama, and that's probably what she does. But she clearly feels free to categorize her employees based on their genitalia when she talks about her workplace issues, in a way that she would not do if she had a group of excellent white nurses and problematic Black …
/r/MensRights14/05/16 04:08 PM
-1

In both cases, a manager who has a blatant bias against the entire group and a preference for workers from another demographic group is a real shit show. We're hearing this secondhand, so it's entirely possible that this particular manager treats her individual employees fairly and her bigoted statements in casual conversation don't reflect her actual behavior in the workplace - she slagged "women" and lauded "men," but was really thinking about Tina who is always causing drama and Randy who is …
/r/MensRights14/05/16 03:56 PM
0

You don't want to do the courtship ritual, that's fine. Your preference says nothing either way about the quality of your masculinity. "Real men" can ask women out or not, pick up the check or not, go their own way or not, be sexually active or not... and they don't deserve to be chastised or put down for any of those choices. Women deserve the same courtesy. Nobody is entitled to romantic success, but at the very least we could stop slinging around the scrub rhetoric and the prostitute rhetoric…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 03:19 PM
1

Huh? Why would he be fat? A cluster of negative reviews from men who were not supplied with synthetic testosterone makes me think "whining fatties," but that's got nothing to do with OP. Responsible doctors do not prescribe synthetic hormones to patients with an unacceptable risk profile - obesity, smoking and a history of certain cancers being the major contraindications. Are there lots of irresponsible doctors who assist patients into an early grave? Yes.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 12:42 PM
-7

You say she's not a bigot... and then reaffirm that she "favors" one demographic group over another, because of assumptions she makes about how they will perform in the workplace. I mean, it's nursing, so it would certainly be worse if her bias was against male nurses who are a vulnerable minority group in the field... but still, we need to get past this shit.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 12:36 PM
-8

Well, it's nice that bigotry extends to only half of the human race - although likely far more than half of the people she has power over in the workplace. Seriously, a person with a particular bias against young women working as a nursing supervisor is just about as stupid as a person who hates Black people coaching a basketball team.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 12:11 PM
2

Do not go to this poorly-reviewed doctor for treatment. Ask for another referral. Why risk it? There is a thing these days (or so I've heard from a male internist) with male patients pushing for testosterone therapy when it isn't clinically indicated. Obesity fucks with your hormones whether you are male or female, because the same amount of hormone is being expected to service a much bigger body. Taking synthetic hormones to address the side effects is easier than losing weight - but it's not s…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 11:31 AM
-8

How does she feel about Black nurses? Hispanic nurses? Are there any other demographic subsets of employees that your friend thinks it's acceptable to slag on in casual conversation?
/r/MensRights14/05/16 11:20 AM
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I'm not willing to watch children starve. But Jesus Christ, if it's this expensive to collect child support from unwilling fathers, let's just support the children directly and terminate the parental rights of fathers (and mothers) who are officially notified that they have children on the dole and choose not to support them.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 11:15 AM
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Every feminist I know thinks this is awesome. Are you asking why "feminism" isn't funding the research? Well, there's no Central Bank of Feminism, just like there is no Central Bank of the MRM. Individual feminists have doubtless contributed to the effort. But just like I wouldn't expect the MRM to make fighting antichoice legislation a central focus of their activism, I don't expect the feminist movement to take point on finding new birth control options for men. This is our work to do.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 11:06 AM
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I didn't mean that the OP was an asshole. He's discussing the issue in the abstract, not launching a personal attack on a specific woman who has socially normal expectations about courtship.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 10:59 AM
1

I never expect to be "treated like a man." That implies that men treat women badly, and the vast majority of them don't. I expect to be treated like a human being, and I expect the people around me to know the difference between a colleague and a romantic prospect and shift gears accordingly. You don't treat your colleagues like your rugby buddies, nor like the girl in your building that you are trying to seduce. Different social situations, different rules. I don't feel entitled to anybody's ro…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 10:56 AM
0

What you describe isn't remotely illegal. Nor do you get to unilaterally decide that corporal punishment or yelling or leaving the room are not OK parenting tactics. So drop that line of thought posthaste, it won't get you anywhere and it certainly won't get you custody. As long as she stays within the law, you don't get to decide how she disciplines your son - and she doesn't get to decide for you, either. That said, toddlerhood is a notoriously tough time for parents who have a short fuse. And…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 02:14 AM
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The subject of who should pay for dates in what circumstances is a touchy one, and reasonable people can disagree. I find the whole "prostitute" angle to be a massive red flag that the guy in question is an asshole. Ditto for a woman who labels a guy who won't spend money on dates as a "scrub." If you don't want to pay for first dates even when you've done the asking, then you shouldn't. Doing something you resent doing is a terrible way to begin a relationship. But courtship is NOT like going o…
/r/MensRights14/05/16 01:55 AM
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Me either. I hate, hate, HATE divorce. Stop fucking each other if you must, and get some on the side discreetly, but stay together in the same house and treat each other decently until you've raised your children, which is what you've signed up to do, and is in fact the most important thing you are likely to do in your entire life.
/r/MensRights14/05/16 01:42 AM
0

What confuses you? Right now, we have no need to have a list of draft-eligible young people. We are not going to institute a draft. There is no indication that we will EVER need to resort to conscription again. The Selective Service is bullshit. If World War III breaks out, then we might need to institute a draft - although we might not, because we are a huge country and enough people may volunteer to defend us. Hopefully they'd be a little more reasonable about taking people my age, since so ma…
/r/MensRights13/05/16 11:40 AM
1

Yeah, that Frederick Douglass, what an idiot, lol. He didn't know shit about systemic discrimination! /s
/r/MensRights13/05/16 11:23 AM
2

"Someone like Hitler" doesn't mean "somebody who is running an industrialized genocide machine." It can just mean "somebody who is annexing and invading their way across their continent and needs to be stopped before they set themselves up as Emperor." So, Putin maybe, but probably not, and no other current candidates. Anything can happen in the future. I am making no predictions that we won't ever have another massive land war.
/r/MensRights13/05/16 11:09 AM
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I think the participantion rate is something we honestly can't know until/unless the really bad shit happens. I'm certainly open to a (gender-neutral) military draft if the next Hitler appears and our citizenry does not line up to stop him.
/r/MensRights12/05/16 08:09 PM
2

Leaving yourself is the best choice, always. If that's not possible because you are the only one on the lease, then packing up her shit while she is elsewhere and dropping it off at her folks' house or a friend's house makes sense. Leave a written note that specifically mentions the physical abuse. File a police report that day - this is just to create a paper trail if you need to call the cops later because she comes back around. If you think your landlord will be reasonable, ask to change the …
/r/MensRights12/05/16 08:05 PM
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That 18 year old should be drafted NEVER. Nor should the 25 year old - who might be mentally tougher since they've had the chance to reach full maturity, but is also more likely to be a parent. The draft is bullshit in a country the size of America. We can meet our needs for soldiers through recruiting volunteers. If there is ever a massive global conflict where our survival requires a draft, then God help us all, and we'll reinstitute the draft if we aren't swamped with volunteers.
/r/MensRights12/05/16 07:43 PM
2

Again, do some reading. The science does not support your assumptions.
/r/MensRights12/05/16 07:37 PM
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Do some science yourself (or just read some), and understand that expecting women to abstain utterly from alcohol during all stages of pregnancy is an American cultural bias. As a free society, we aren't supposed to enshrine our biases into law. This never happened to me personally, but I know several women who have had drinks knocked out of their hands by strangers in public settings. Assault, in other words. One was a few weeks postpartum and still had a protruding stomach. One was participati…
/r/MensRights12/05/16 06:49 PM
2

Completely agree with you that FAS is horrible. But what the science tells us is that social drinking does not cause FAS. American public health policies around pregnancy are not based on a scientific assessment of the risks of drinking wine or eating sushi or taking a hot bath or whatever. I don't think it's wise for pregnant women to drink more alcohol than they do in Europe or eat more raw fish than they do in Japan, but it's none of the bartender or sushi chef's business. They are not the Pr…
/r/MensRights12/05/16 06:39 PM
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I have sons and daughters. Which ones I'd "choose" to send off to war depends a great deal on their temperaments and skillset when they are draft age. There seems to be a widespread belief that young males are inherently better suited to military life and more likely to survive a deployment. I do not know how anybody who has ever interacted with a group of 18 year olds could believe that most of the males are cut out for combat. My hope is that we'll end up doing the right thing for the wrong re…
/r/MensRights12/05/16 06:20 PM
1

Opposing forced fatherhood isn't a neutral stance. We have to acknowledge that at least in the short term, reproductive rights for men will have costs at both the social level (more bastard children on welfare) and the individual level (more bastard children living in poverty). It's not a pleasant thought, but many civil rights victories have some less-than-heartwarming side effects. In the long term, my hope is that women will choose to stop giving birth to bastards.
/r/MensRights12/05/16 06:10 PM
2

The word connoted a person of questionable character long before it became a nickname for the penis. For example, in the 1665 satire The English Rogue by Richard Head, an unsavory character is referred to as a "dick": The next Dick I pickt up for her was a man of a colour as contrary to the former, as light is to darkness, being swarthy; whose hair was as black as a sloe; middle statur'd, well set, both strong and active, a man so universally tryed, and so fruitfully successful, that there was h…
/r/MensRights12/05/16 11:35 AM
1

I'm sorry your quality family time takes place with your kids strapped in the car staring at the back of your head. Seriously, dude. You sound like those nutters on mothering.com. Kids ARE work. So is elder care, cooking, gardening, housekeeping, and a whole bunch of other stuff that is worth doing well if you intend to do it at all. Acknowledging that somebody puts labor into their childrearing and that it generally takes more than 20 hours/week to do a decent job of it isn't some kind of hindr…
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:58 PM
1

Obesity. Obesity is killing us. We are digging ourselves early graves with our teeth, male and female alike.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:47 PM
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Amy time when equality means screwing over a child, most people get squeamish. That doesn't mean we're wrong to pursue equality in reproductive rights.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:45 PM
0

Old enough to roll my eyes when people say "eeeew, don't use THAT word!"
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:40 PM
1

Huh? Can you read? I'm not having a hard time. I had a fairly normal time raising littles, and now I have four older children who are generally a pleasure to coexist with. But doing right by them, then and now, is not a 20 hour/week proposition. I literally spend that much time transporting them to and fro.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:38 PM
1

Think it was like? I lived it. One of my kids (no special needs, utterly normal human) clung to my leg and screamed like a banshee every night while I was trying to make dinner for a full year. Now, she helps me cook. But she was not an easy toddler. Another kid took three years to fully toilet train. Another woke me up in the middle of the night regularly until age five. Another was a goddammed Houdini with baby gates and door locks. Now, I have four kids, which is a lot of kids for a nonfundie…
/r/MensRights11/05/16 06:15 PM
0

Because it's a pejorative that we use here when we find it to be an accurate descriptor of a specific person's behavior.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 06:06 PM
2

... which is why you're useless. Worse than useless.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 11:23 AM
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Pretty sure the term "cunt" as a pejorative was invented by somebody who didn't exactly cherish female opinion. But it's still a useful word in certain situations.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:47 AM
2

I'm a female. And not useless. And if you really don't give a fuck, why are you here? I think you give a fuck. I hope you give a fuck, because you'll have a more satisfying life fighting for your civil rights than sitting at your keyboard hating on half the human race.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:45 AM
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Thank you for your succinct description of what it, in fact, the problem. Now, you may be 19, and 30 seems very far away to you, and you'll look back on the post a decade hence and think "WTF was I on about?" That's understandable. But we do have a problem in American culture, that does not exist to the same degree in other Western cultures, of fetishisizing youthfulness in females to the point where we waste a lot of perfectly good sexiness. 30 isn't the end of sex, or the end of beauty. Neithe…
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:40 AM
2

You realize that this is misogyny, right? And that it makes you look like an idiot and actively harms the MRM?
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:27 AM
2

I love my kids, and I love staying at home with them, and I don't think it's remotely comparable in terms of difficulty to ditch-digging or roofing or whatever. But if you had infants and toddlers who quietly hung out with you while you gamed or worked on a car, then you were pretty fortunate.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:24 AM
0

I wonder how he feels about Black people taking some of the "nice" jobs he's so obviously entitled to.
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:20 AM
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If we can use words like "bitch" and "cunt" here, we can use the term "mansplains." We could constantly type out "disagreeable woman" and "evil woman" and "man who talks out of his ass in a condescending way" - but why would we want to?
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:09 AM
1

It's not, but some of the propaganda that was flying around during the debate on the SF initiative was pretty virulently anti-Jew - which certainly didn't help the measure's chances of passing. Ain't nobody hate antisemites like an intactivist hate antisemites... people who normally wouldn't get involved on either side of the issue will show up and vote because they feel the need to push back against people who create filth like this: http://www.vosizneias.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/le4.jpg
/r/MensRights11/05/16 10:04 AM
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I'll take any allies I can get in the struggle to eliminate ritual genital mutilation, but honestly, JAC gets my back up. There have been many smart Jews, but no, Jews are not "some of the smartest people on the planet."
/r/MensRights10/05/16 09:12 PM
1

I didn't realize it had become THAT affordable. That's really wonderful!
/r/MensRights10/05/16 04:29 PM
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I remember that debate - it was more of a scuffle between public health experts. With limited funds available, some NGOs wanted to concentrate on preventing mother to child transmission and keeping the primary caregiver alive until the kids were old enough to survive on their own. Other groups argued that the next generation would just face the same problems once they hit puberty if HIV remained endemic in the community - which seems fucking obvious to me. Anyhow, retrovirals are not available t…
/r/MensRights09/05/16 08:35 AM
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Some societies currently restrict abortion on the basis of sex. I can respect their reasons for doing so, as the gender imbalance caused by selecting against females in previous generations has had such terrible effects. They need to get their demographic situation unfucked. The USA has no tradition of sex selection in abortion, and while we do have some tradition of racial selection (Black women being most likely to get abortions, Asian women least likely), there are no current predictions that…
/r/MensRights09/05/16 08:30 AM
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This. If she was a stranger he met walking down the street, I wouldn't want this case brought forward at all. A foster mom? She needed a harsher sentence. She violated a relationship that is more based in trust than most biofamily connections.
/r/MensRights08/05/16 03:03 PM
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At the end, that article took a sharp turn out of the gynocentric shit pile it was clearly intended as. Shared custody WORKS - if the parents treat each other like human beings. Nobody should need a court order to call their kids and have the call answered. Nobody should sign their kid up for a class without consulting the coparent. Coparents who live 10 minutes apart should, frankly, both see their kids every day. You made a child with this person - you can stomach a cup of coffee with them or …
/r/MensRights05/05/16 08:19 AM
2

I work in victim's advocacy. You are right that things went way the fuck sideways. I believe that they are coming back into balance - perhaps the first real balance they've ever had.
/r/MensRights05/05/16 07:16 AM
1

If you want useful feedback, then you need to include all the relevent information. Mom decompensating is a hugely important factor that you did not so much as hint at in your initial post.
/r/MensRights05/05/16 07:13 AM
1

If you want useful feedback, then you need to include all the relevent information. Mom decompensating is a hugely important factor that you did not so much as hint at in your initial post.
/r/MensRights05/05/16 07:12 AM
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Not weird. They've represented neo-Nazis before. They have an ideology they adhere to, and give zero fucks about defending unappealing groups or individuals. Once they finally figure out that men are being systematically disenfranchised, they are going to do a lot of good for the MRM.
/r/MensRights04/05/16 08:27 PM
1

Actually, people of both sexes who are willing to do some research can develop an entirely adequate understanding of the various kinds of FGM and MGM performed around the world. This lady obviously hadn't done that work - but in all likelihood, neither had her husband.
/r/MensRights03/05/16 08:52 AM
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Old enough, and married long enough, to have noticed that sex gets better in a good marriage when the nonstop pressure of childcare eases off. I'm sure there is some sort of slowdown coming up for both of us at some point, in sex as in all else, but my grandmother is 85 and says you're full of shit.
/r/MensRights02/05/16 08:43 PM
2

This is always the issue with marriage studies. I've seen very few that correct for all the variables that seem obvious to me.
/r/MensRights02/05/16 07:31 PM
1

For crissake, Phil. You're expanding your Death of Sex fearmongering to men as well? I don't get it. We now have drugs for this, if it presents as an issue for either partner in a lifelong marriage. But I doubt the sixty-year-old guy who was staring down my blouse on the bus today is taking Viagra. He just wasn't obese or otherwise medically compromised, and I'm not ugly, and whaddya know, he's still interested.
/r/MensRights02/05/16 07:29 PM
1

Actually, your next of kin (or another person you've legally appointed as your representative) makes the decision about whether or not to donate your organs. That checked-box thing is not binding at all.
/r/MensRights28/04/16 12:27 AM
1

Eh, it's a tough one. I share your opinion of the cops. I wouldn't call them over injuries like this. Very, very few situations are ultimately improved by invoking an agent of the government. But I'm a female, and my right to be taken seriously by the authorities if I am seriously injured in my home is not in doubt. For a male, it'a a different question.
/r/MensRights28/04/16 12:08 AM
1

Even if I loathed the Australian parent, I would still want those kids out of Lebanon.
/r/MensRights25/04/16 01:26 PM
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Because it's exactly what you'd expect if both sexes are capable of violence and mothers spend more time with the kids on average. Talking about who hurts kids more often in terms if their demographic group feels useless to me - because the vast majority of people in all demographic groups DO NOT HURT KIDS. Most moms don't hurt kids. Most dads don't hurt kids. Most stepparents, most poor folks, most mentally ill folks, most uneducated folks, most white folks, most black folks... pick any cohort,…
/r/MensRights25/04/16 09:25 AM
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I'm sorry you have had bad experiences, but making bigoted statements about "all women" doesn't help you, me or the inactivist movement - which is largely peopled by mothers whose original motivation for getting involved was empathy for their sons.
/r/MensRights25/04/16 09:15 AM
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I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. I do these visits sometimes (and it doesn't take me 10 months to get out to the house, Jesus Christ!) and I can't imagine caring about an actual basement apartment unless the walls were moldy or something like that. I'm looking for stuff like animal feces on the floor and guns lying around unsecured. Do you have any idea WHY your ex doesn't want you to have overnight visits? Is there a stepdad in the picture? I ask because getting the custodial parent to …
/r/MensRights25/04/16 09:07 AM
4

I don't understand why urinals are tolerable even if everybody in the room was born with a penis.
/r/MensRights25/04/16 08:46 AM
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Well, their sons are in no danger from FTMs using the men's room. They are accidentally right about that. I'm still trying to figure out what grave threat MTFs pose in the ladies' rooom...
/r/MensRights25/04/16 08:45 AM
1

I don't know what the broken link was intended to show me, but you need to calm your fee-fees and think about this rationally. Married parents both have custody of their children. Relocating with them is not de facto abduction. Relocating with them in violation of a court order, or refusing to return them when a court issues an order to do so? That's abduction. The mother followed the law and the father broke it. If Lebanon was a civilized country, the Australian government could have worked wit…
/r/MensRights25/04/16 08:42 AM
2

I was taught not to call attention to luxuries my family could afford in front of other children whose families could not afford such luxuries. My family was not affluent. We just weren't tacky.
/r/MensRights24/04/16 01:00 AM
1

Yes, you will.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 10:48 PM
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It's not my area of expertise, but people who work in Adult Protective Services usually have horror stories to tell about a "crazy" (mentally ill) person who was exploited for years on end by a relative. It's very horrible. I hope you are safe and happy now.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 09:05 PM
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I'm sorry for what you've been through.To be clear, I know the difference between regular crazy and danger-to-a-child crazy. It's not a subtle difference. They generally threaten/or attempt to physically harm the child when they are off their meds. Schizophrenics, for instance, and some severe bipolars. Regular crazy is a lot more common.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 08:09 PM
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Well, that one has got her head screwed on right.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 04:02 PM
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Mental illness cases are the WORST. The crazy person often has no criminal record, and if there is no guardian ad litem or the guardian is not conscientious, only people willing to testify against them are the other side of the family who clearly not impartial, as they are trying to take the kid. The only time I am ever glad about the bias against fathers in the family court system is when it enables me to demand that a dangerously crazy father be med compliant if he wants to have his kid unsupe…
/r/MensRights23/04/16 03:58 PM
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She was not a stepparent. She was the mother.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 03:52 PM
1

Straight men. Hate females. Blame women for their own fuckups. Oh wait, that's a hugely bigoted statement to make about a large and diverse group of people.
/r/MensRights23/04/16 03:49 PM
1

I'm in disbelief that you thought such a poorly written and blatantly sexist article was the right link to share here. Did no actual journalists or literate bloggers cover this issue?
/r/MensRights23/04/16 12:16 PM
1

That's not how it works. You need to stop conflating the law with your feelings. When parents of two different nationalities disagree about where to raise their children, the court system of the children's country of citizenship decides what the custody arrangement will be. Violating the court's order is a crime. Now, when parents have resided on one country for a certain period of time (maybe six months?), there is a provision in the Hague Convention that prevents either parent from taking the …
/r/MensRights23/04/16 12:10 PM
1

It's not, though. He didn't have a legal right to keep either his wife or his children in Lebanon - there was no custody order in place, and they are Australian citizens, subject to Australian law. He could have returned to Australia and petitioned the courts for joint custody, and he probably would have gotten it. Instead, he decided to abduct them. I hope that the mother hires a more competent team and retrieves her children.
/r/MensRights22/04/16 06:16 PM
2

They don't know yet. Same deal with artifical wombs. They'll probably produce some fucked-up kids in the course of perfecting the technology, but ultimately, both technologies will probably work. I suspect that sexual relations between a man and woman, followed by gestation, will remain the typical method of human sexual reproduction.
/r/MensRights22/04/16 12:13 PM
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It's more that I'm realistic about the consequences of making certain accusations/legal instruments so overly available and so overly prejudicial when used. Women are people, not angels. We respond to perverse incentive structures like everybody else.
/r/MensRights22/04/16 12:03 PM
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I was being sarcastic, but both parents freely admit to doing a snatch-and-grab with these kids. She repatriated them to Australia without his consent - this was legal, but not the way you want one parent to treat the other. He came to Australia and instead of going to court to ask for joint custody, took the children back to Lebanon - THAT was felony child abduction, but since his destination was Lebanon rather than a civilized nation, it didn't matter. The children are Australian citizens, and…
/r/MensRights22/04/16 01:13 AM
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So we should put both parents in jail then? That's definitely not what's best for the kids.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 10:21 PM
1

Yes, but that's in Lebanon. In Australia, he would probably be treated more harshly than a female who commited the same crime. The children are Australian citizens and no Australian court authorized their father to remove them from the country. I hope this woman goes back with a more competent team and retrieves her children.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 10:20 PM
1

Lots of weird assumptions there - about second marriages, child spacing, the value of extended family relationships, the length and scope of the maturation process... Who has more children after a considerable gap? Lots of people. In an intact family, an adolescent who suggested moving out of the house to avoid being inconvenienced by a new sibling is taken to task for being an entitled little shithead. The story is then told for years, about how Bobby didn't want Suzy to be born, and everybody …
/r/MensRights21/04/16 08:08 PM
4

Well, most people who perform circumcisions are men. But yeah, in this particular case where the hand that wields the scalpel is female, there is definitely a creepy sexual overtone.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 01:15 PM
1

It's not just a matter of "tone." Words like "bitch" and "asshole" are matters of tone, and I don't object to those. "Slut" - that's a behavioral descriptor. But thinking of another human being as being "used up" sexually requires a level of dehumanization normally associated with TRP - when it's directed at females.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 12:58 PM
0

Alicia Silverstone, Roseanne Barr, Howard Stern? I mean, good for them, but I'd love to hear from some celebrity Jewish intactivists who AREN'T socially marginal in every other way.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 01:32 AM
3

Preach. I don't really care about wrinkled and such, but most people I know who are my age, male and female, are clinically overweight or obese. WHY? If you love yourself, why would you destroy your body like that? This article is a perfect example of that. If this woman had EVER respected herself or her body, she would not have been horking down sleeves of chips as a chubby teen. Now she's a fat adult who has given up on health and attractiveness, and she and her fat friends sit around stuffing…
/r/MensRights21/04/16 01:14 AM
1

When a mother and child "meet" with a father to discuss how a child who has had two homes for the past 6 years should just stay with mom fulltime because dad's new wife makes the child feel icky, are you cool with that? If you are, you shouldn't be.
/r/MensRights21/04/16 01:03 AM
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The kids suggested leaving their mother's home, the father encouraged that short-sighted and self-destructive desire (assuming no abuse or neglect, and he does not allege any abuse or neglect). False allegations are never OK, but it's also not OK to cut your coparent off at the knees when your shared children are acting like, well, children, and putting their short-term desire to avoid transitions over the long-term benefits of forming meaningful relationships with their younger siblings and ste…
/r/MensRights21/04/16 12:12 AM
-1

It certainly wouldn't be an option that I felt was on the table. But I'd be extremely upset if my ex threw 6 years of coparenting under the bus and tried to take our kids away from me. I might go to court and ask for sole custody on the grounds of attempted alienation.
/r/MensRights20/04/16 11:02 PM
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Anecdata is not data. Your daughter's friend is likely telling the undiluted truth - and so is my daughter's friend whose father asked for joint physical custody and got her kicked off her soccer team by consistently refusing to take her to practice during "his" weeks. Bad people exist.
/r/MensRights20/04/16 10:59 PM
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So many women these days have very little real nurturing tendencies and most of them hardly even keep enough food in the house. You are delusional.
/r/MensRights20/04/16 10:19 PM
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Yes, babies are disruptive. They are also part of family life. These kids thought, with the narcissism typical of teenagers, that an appropriate response to changes at home was to disconnect from that home. BOTH of their parents should have shut that shit down promptly. Instead, the father enabled it by "having a meeting" with mom and suggesting that the whole coparenting arrangement be scrapped. That conversation should never have happened unless there was abuse or neglect going on. Getting a p…
/r/MensRights20/04/16 10:14 PM
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Go spend some time talking to teenagers who you know to have two fit and loving parents. Decide at the end of the conversation if you want the teenagers to make adult decisions. If you are a teenager yourself, wait until you are 25 to attempt this experiment.
/r/MensRights20/04/16 05:17 PM
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You are fucking up here. What your ex did (file for a protective order with no cause) is completely unacceptable, but you are the one who fucked up first, because you did not stand up for shared custody when your children tested you. Children of all ages often initially resist remarriage of either parent and/or the possibility of half-siblings stepsiblings. You haven't mentioned any actual concerns about your ex's new spouse, just that your teenagers were being pissy. Teenagers are narcissistic …
/r/MensRights20/04/16 05:10 PM
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I think I misunderstood your anecdote. I thought you had been approached by two women, one who accepted "no" and one who pitched a fit when you said "no." Contempt is a completely appropriate reaction when somebody doesn't gracefully take no for an answer. Having kids doesn't "use up" a person sexually. Far from it. And the whole concept of "hit the wall" as a way to describe aging in people of either sex is outright hateful. If you don't want to be mistaken for a terper, don't use their misogyn…
/r/MensRights20/04/16 04:57 PM
6

Are you insane? Men hit women "for no good reason" all the time. People are people, and some of them are complete shitheads.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 08:57 PM
1

If you were my brother or son, I would want you out of the apartment immediately, out of the county for sure, out of the state if possible, directly after filing a police report in which you deny ever hitting her and show the cop your wounds. Then you NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 08:55 PM
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This is not TRP. If you meet somebody who treats you decently, "post wall" and "used up" are not appropriate terms to describe them outside the misogynist TRP bubble. That woman was a human being, just like you. She doesn't deserve such extreme contempt for offering you sex and then taking no for an answer. She also didn't deserve to have her time wasted, incidentally, if you were not interested.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 08:51 PM
1

You reported a rich person for scrip? Jesus Christ, man. Fire them as a patient and move on. Those people will fuck your shit up. False accusations of all kinds, using their influence to thwart your career, screwing with your wife and kids... I respect that you don't want to write bad scrip, but the Hippocratic oath does not require you to put your neck on the block for this.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 02:43 PM
2

It was the OP who came up with the body-shaming interieetation, not me. But you are right, Trump specializes in specious lawsuits, why would this be any different...
/r/MensRights19/04/16 02:33 PM
1

I prefer it to the Trump one. But really, naked old people are not my bag. No doubt I'll feel differently a few decades hence.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 09:23 AM
5

This is utterly legal, and I can't believe Trump is threatening to sue over it. Also, the term "body shaming" needs to die a hasty death. Nobody outside agency can make you feel ashamed of your body. Anybody who can handle unflattering images of themselves is not equipped to be President. Hillary has not complained about her saggy-boobs portraits, and I believe there is an entire series of them.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 09:21 AM
2

http://sarah-sole.com/images/Paintings/MyPrivateHillary_AcrylicOnCanvas_72x48_2015_Sarah_Sole.jpg
/r/MensRights19/04/16 09:16 AM
2

It's a huge problem, and one of my particular areas of activism.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 01:32 AM
1

They have come up with several concepts over the years, but impotence and breast enlargement, while perhaps effective means of birth control, were not considered acceptable side effects. "Pills" as a method of contraception are probably a bad idea anyhow - you want to introduce a single point of failure into an otherwise functional reproductive system, not thow the whole thing off kilter. But this idea for a male pill might be a lot better than most, if everything else still functions but the sw…
/r/MensRights19/04/16 01:29 AM
1

Could help you take responsibility for your own body and its functions.
/r/MensRights19/04/16 01:26 AM
2

That is the current state of affairs, generally speaking, for unmarried men. The test is available but not required. There are some states where married men are put on the birth certificate even if they protest, and where random sexual partners can be put on the birth certificate without proper notice and a chance to protest or ask for proof. These are laws that need changing.
/r/MensRights18/04/16 10:37 PM
2

I think it should be a civil offense, with lawsuit as the recourse. The reaction of the child is utterly predictable - children know who their parents are. But in cases where the father would rather have restitution for the lie than the child, or would rather have restitution for the lie AND the child, I think that should be an option.
/r/MensRights18/04/16 07:40 PM
0

I loathe and despise paternity fraud, and I think that a man who discovers at any point, through any means, that he has been deceived about the biological paternity of his child should be granted presumptive custody of the child. A DNA test can't change the fact that it's HIS child, the child he raised, and the mother is demonstrably unfit. I also completely support the right of men, including married men, who are worried about the possibility of paternity fraud to have testing done at birth, an…
/r/MensRights18/04/16 06:40 PM
0

I agree that social mores haven't caught up with scientific advances, and that this will probably be a less touchy issue 50 years hence. I'm open to social change on this issue. It's the government involvement that bothers me. I DON'T agree (speaking as both a biological and an adoptive parent) that a child's interest in knowing their biological origins is so great that we should have the government performing mandatory paternity tests on all newborns. A child's parents are the people who raise …
/r/MensRights18/04/16 06:16 PM
2

As things are at present, very few men would ask for a DNA test, even if they entertained doubts. The vote of no confidence in their relationship might well be terminal. This is the part I get stuck on. Should men have the right to ask for a paternity test before being put on a birth certificate? Absolutely. But why are we so keen to use the apparatus of the state to shield them from the possible consequences of that choice? Asking for a paternity test is tantamount to an accusation of adultery.…
/r/MensRights18/04/16 11:44 AM
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If you want men to take charge of their health, then work towards that goal. Public health officials have looked at the data and concluded that possibly the best way to get a man into a doctor's office is to convince his wife that he needs to go - and so the wives get messaged to. I can't argue with the tactic, because I don't disagree with their assessment of the social dynamics of male health care. But for young guys, living a postmom andprewife life, it would be great to develop an expectatio…
/r/MensRights18/04/16 11:28 AM
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Your lawyer is right. You have no say in who your ex selects to watch the kids during her parenting time. She has no say in who you select to watch the kids during your parenting time. If you are utterly opposed to any level of alcohol consumption by an adult who is watching children, then by all means, hire a teetotalling babysitter. Your house, your rules. Now, if your child ever volunteers any information that is actually worrisome, such as her grandmother falling asleep while she's watching …
/r/MensRights18/04/16 11:19 AM
1

I didn't think her response was funny either, but I can't figure out what the point of writing this letter was. Obviously the guy needs to GTFO, and he knows this already. Of course, most people who write in for relationship advice already know that they need to GTFO and are just spinning their wheels for a while before the breakup.
/r/MensRights17/04/16 09:40 AM
3

We homeschool. We go on camping trips. We have a large (by modern standards) family and hang out with like-minded large families. It seems to work. Of course, your son is going to face ideological indoctrination wherever he goes, including your living room. Human beings are wired to socialize their young. One of the pitfalls of homeschooling is that if you aren't careful, your kids end up spending most of their time in an echo chamber.
/r/MensRights17/04/16 09:31 AM
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We attended a couple of Boy Scout meetings with our sons. I wouldn't touch that organization with a ten-foot pole - and not because it discriminates on the basis of sex, I can live with that for children's activities. What I can't live with is the overweening religiosity and proto-fascist worldview. My husband was a Cub Scout, and doesn't remember it being either religious or political. Things have changed. I'm with Penn Gillette on this one, I blame the Mormons. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0805…
/r/MensRights17/04/16 09:26 AM
2

Oh, not at all.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 08:24 PM
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Nope. There was no custody order in place. Her father got one, but until the mother could be located and served, she was not doing anything illegal.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 08:04 PM
2

I'm just guessing based on what those words usually mean in articles like this. But it hardly matters, except to shore up my point that you don't have to be a Boy Scout to take effective legal steps if your ex abscounds with your kid.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 08:02 PM
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This guy, who reading between the lines probably has a criminal record and a history of some kind of substance abuse, got his kid back because he used the family court system correctly. He had a custody order in hand from the original jurisdiction. When he found out where his daughter was, he went to family court in THAT jurisdiction and got them to sign off on the existing order. This is how it's done. Very, very few men who have had a woman run out on them and take their kids know to do this. …
/r/MensRights16/04/16 03:00 PM
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I can see why you're confused. You're thinking of your household as a genuine social and legal entity. Remember, we're all supposed to be individuals with no permanent relationships or responsibilities. (vomits)
/r/MensRights16/04/16 02:55 PM
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Tooth decay is a natural state of being, broken bones happened quite frequently to our Neolithic ancestors... but when an agent of a government pulls teeth and breaks bones, we still call it torture. Forced birth is torture, and denying women access to abortion is a violation of their human rights. Period. I am sick and tired of histrionic men who can't tell the difference between things they don't agree with, and things that should be illegal.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 02:43 PM
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"Slavery" is a word of try to avoid unless I am talking about actual slavery, but yes, insisting that individual men contribute financially to the upbringing of children they didn't choose to create is tantamount to forced labor.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 09:21 AM
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Of course forced birth is torture.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 09:19 AM
1

It does happen. It has happened everywhere and everywhen, and thank science for the medical advances that keep mothers and babies alive when the mechanism that triggers labor at the right time is disrupted. I am so glad that you are still with us :-)
/r/MensRights16/04/16 12:31 AM
2

Massive progress was made on the civil rights front for nonwhite citizens in a time when the majority of legislators at all levels of government were deeply, profoundly racist. It was not quick, or perfect, or satisfying. But it changed our country for the better.
/r/MensRights16/04/16 12:24 AM
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It will absolutely happen. It's just going to take a long time and a lot of grassroots work and, frankly, some older people dying off. The MRAs in Florida did a solid job, and should be be commended for their efforts.
/r/MensRights15/04/16 06:11 PM
3

If his kids are grown, then no, I don't think it's wrong.
/r/MensRights15/04/16 06:10 PM
1

In general, I agree with this sentiment. There are very few people so evil or damaged that they should be separated from their children. The guy who shoots at me? Yeah, I'm going to ask the judge to put him in jail, and petition the court for sole custody, and move far away, and try to exercise better judgement selecting a stepfather than I demonstrated in selecting a father. I'm very glad that all this woman had to deal with with growing up was some pimptastic behavior and a lack of meaningful …
/r/MensRights15/04/16 03:42 PM
0

I'd have no issue with that. I wish TRP was the community you describe, rather than the community that it is.
/r/MensRights15/04/16 03:11 PM
1

If all a person had to go on was TRP, it might reasonable to conclude that all men, or at least all men talking about their problems online, were shitty. I was just thrilled not be lumped in with that group of knuckledraggers once again simply because I am an MRA.
/r/MensRights15/04/16 03:10 PM
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This author clearly does not believe that all men are shitty, or that all men are misogynists.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 10:27 PM
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Criticizing terpers is not "a screed against a particular gender."
/r/MensRights14/04/16 10:14 PM
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I think that argument can definitely be made. Certain strains of feminism are every bit as toxic as TRP, and attract similar kinds of people - no confidence, poor acculturation, unattractive physically and mentally...
/r/MensRights14/04/16 10:12 PM
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Well, it's not specific to one gender. It's specific to people who have gestated and delivered a baby. They should probably classify it as medical leave, though.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 06:25 PM
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I don't think we have the luxury of caring too much about WHY people do the right thing, when there is so much change that needs to happen.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 06:23 PM
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I agree with you, but another huge aspect of addressing this issue is to reduce our C-section rate, which is insanely high.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 05:58 PM
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Yeah, everybody knows than men have no interest in bonding with their infants, and infants don't benefit from having two parents who have learned how to care for them. /s
/r/MensRights14/04/16 05:56 PM
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Instead of culture, the world offers the boys of The Red Pill contempt. Instead of education, outrage. Sounds about right to me.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 05:54 PM
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What I've heard is that it's not even an issue of expat men wanting Asian women. They want thin women.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 11:46 AM
4

I have to disagree. I wouldn't feel right about participating here if people didn't know I was a feminist. It would be like lying about my gender or my religion.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 03:04 AM
6

Grassroots activism entails harassment. The MRM will either decide to endure that harassment with dignity and grace, or it will remain a predominantly online movement.
/r/MensRights14/04/16 03:00 AM
0

Well, no. Mature adults (who are not journalists covering breaking news stories) would never think of continuing to film a child after their parent has objected. If I am ever faced with a true social deviant who doesn't respect my family's boundaries, my only recourse is to publicize his or her deviance, because I am not willing to commit assault or destroy their property.
/r/MensRights13/04/16 10:46 PM
1

Breastfeeding data is hard to gather and interpret, for obvious reasons. But it is blatantly obvious even from our flawed datasets that most American mothers do not use breastfeeding as the primary source of calories for their children under one year of age. They don't need a private area to nurse, because their child is mostly eating "formula" and packaged baby foods, both of which they can supply without displaying their breasts. The majority of American mothers make some attempt to breastfeed…
/r/MensRights13/04/16 10:01 PM
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It would actually be fine. For whatever stupid reason, journalists are allowed in locker rooms. We can either let them all in or keep them all out.
/r/MensRights13/04/16 08:39 PM
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http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/data/reportcard.htm ETA some context: Nationwide, about 3/4 of mothers have put a baby to their breast at some point in time - but this counts people who do it for a few days after birth, or supplement with formula. Approximately 1/4 of mothers are still breastfeeding at all when their baby turns a year old, and only 16% exclusively breastfeed for six months in accordance with WHO guidelines.
/r/MensRights13/04/16 08:00 PM
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Most breastfeeding mothers eventually adjust to pulling out their breasts in front of men, but that's not a socially normal behavior in America. New mothers, in particular, need to be able relax and focus in order for their let-down reflex to operate. Since the entire purpose of a breastfeeding area is to get the baby fed, not to satisfy the desire of non-breastfeeding parents to have access to every corner of the child-tending room, a curtain makes sense. But making the entire room a "Mother's …
/r/MensRights13/04/16 01:02 PM
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Breastfeeding facilities are one of the VERY few places of public accommodation where segregation by sex makes sense. But any place that offers such a facility needs to screen off an area for pulling out titties, and a larger area where rockers and changing tables and a playspace where formula feeding parents can have a quiet place to tend to their children. This is a solvable problem. Curtains are cheap.
/r/MensRights13/04/16 12:42 PM
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You do realize that I have never even come close to having to film and doxx a photographer, right? Because they've all been decent people who respected my boundaries and stopped recording images of my children? If you insist on recording people against their will in public, you might eventually get recorded yourself and end up defending your choice in the court of public opinion. That's the deterrent that exists. That's the social corrective for your socially inappropriate behavior. And if you t…
/r/MensRights13/04/16 12:31 PM
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We disagree. It is not appropriate to take pictures of anybody who objects or whose parent objects on their behalf, and doxxing is the correct respose when people disregard this social rule. If you're so convinced it's not wrong, why do want to keep this activity a secret? After all, you're doing it in public.
/r/MensRights13/04/16 03:01 AM
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Again, I don't care WHY they respect my request that they don't film my kids. I only care that they stop. Many legal activities are socially inappropriate, and this is one of them. I would never physically assault somebody for ignoring my request, but I would absolutely tape them and doxx them. If what they are doing is OK, they couldn't possibly object to their public actions becoming public knowledge :-)
/r/MensRights13/04/16 01:47 AM
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No, children playing take precedence over adults who want to film. The adults will move. There is absolutely no reason for non-journalists to film any person of any age who has told them to stop. People who disregard this social rule are showing me that they require a social correction. Not assault, not destruction of property, not even calling the cops - just a verbal "no, that's not OK, stop."
/r/MensRights12/04/16 11:34 PM
1

If that were true, I would never have to deal with strangers photographing and filming my kids. It's entirely legal, and the only way to stop it is to apply a social correction - which, in my experience, has been 100% effective. Most people aren't creeps. Most people understand that when the parent says "stop," you fucking stop.
/r/MensRights12/04/16 10:55 PM
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I don't care WHY they do it. Respect? Fine. Fear? Fine. My children are not public property, even when they are in public. Anybody who disregards my request to stop recording my kids will get recorded by me with a running commentary, and that recording will be made publicly available, attached to their name. If there's nothing wrong with it, s/he won't mind the whole world knowing that they take pictures of kids when their parents ask them not to. I don't have pedo concerns, incidentally. I have…
/r/MensRights12/04/16 09:30 PM
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In my experience, mothers absolutely feel they have a personal stake in this issue. But among my Jewish friends, yeah, the desire of the father to circ sometimes approaches pathological, and the mother almost never asserts her legal right to stop it from happening. And I hang out with very liberal Jews :-(
/r/MensRights12/04/16 09:18 PM
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I love them,” Mikey says. “I’m a Buddhist now, and I believe in karma. It’s revenge for all those Gay Pride parades. You want equal rights? Fine. But don’t expect Satan’s legion, i.e., the bachelorettes, not to show up eventually.” I think that's the funniest, and possibly the wisest, thing I have read all year. When I was in high school, my parents wouldn't let me go to Pride because they were (legimately!) afraid that I might catch a beating from the fundies or the cops because Pride made them…
/r/MensRights12/04/16 09:14 PM
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It's legal, yes... but I don't allow strangers to photograph my children in public places. When I notice it, I approach them and tell them to cut it out. I have never had any response other than "sorry, ma'am" and moving away. They were never trying to photograph my kids as far as I could tell, just taking shots of something my kids were near. Nonetheless, it is socially inappropriate and requires a social correction.
/r/MensRights12/04/16 09:04 PM
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Good for him for being honest. Although I'll be damned if I can understand how he can treat botched circumcisions as part of his medical practice and not conclude that this particular ancestral tradition needs to be eradicated. I bet he has sex with his wife when she's on her period, and touches her in public. I bet his daughter read from the Torah at her bat mitzvah. Why, oh, why, is the dick-snipping the tradition we have to hang on to?
/r/MensRights12/04/16 08:59 PM
1

If I had some way to stop the terrorism, believe me, I would. But that's got nothing to do with gender apartheid in Israel. Heck, the haredi and Hamas agree on that issue.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 11:31 AM
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Mohel equipment and procedures (and ritual garb, and chanting) are exotic to gentiles, in the same way that Masai genital mutilation rituals are exotic to non-Masai. They are also far more likely to be recorded and publicly disseminated than the hospital Plastibell procedures. But the Jewish ritual is not hated more than the gentile medical procedure. They are equally loathsome to intactivists. It doesn't matter WHY you mutilate your child. What matters is stopping the mutilations.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 02:06 AM
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I'm an intactivist Jew. The vast majority of intactivists that I have interacted with are not anti-Semites. People who have educated themselves on this issue generally recognize that the ritual procedure performed by mohels causes less damage than the hospital procedure - but that's a minor point, since the central issue is bodily autonomy.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 01:32 AM
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It's bad diet. What we eat, what we can afford to eat and what our parents will allow us to eat, has changed drastically in my own lifetime. People didn't suddenly become more gluttonous - it's just that we no longer have any economic or social limits on our gluttony.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 01:23 AM
1

I certainly hope so. As you have no doubt discovered, it can be tough to meet the right partner when you are hyperfocused on work. We met each other very young.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 01:19 AM
1

Well, two of the kids wouldn't exist without him, two would have been adopted by other families without him... and I would presumably be married to somebody else and raising another set of kids. I was wrong to say that his life would suck without ME, particularly. It would suck without a partner who could balance him out, unless he changed his lifestyle considerably. His social needs are lesser than mine, but they're genuine, and if they didn't get met he'd be unhappy.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 12:50 AM
1

At least we're using words, not spittle and rocks and handsful of dirt - which is what the haredi scum use on women who dare to exercise their human rights at the kotel, on public transit, on the streets that those disgusting bullies have claimed as "theirs"...
/r/MensRights11/04/16 12:44 AM
1

As neither of us are clairvoyant, let's just sit back and see what happens.
/r/MensRights11/04/16 12:40 AM
1

I never cease to marvel at the difference in perception between people who have merely been children, and people who have actively participated (as parents, older siblings, aunties/uncles, godparents) in the raising of children.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 09:42 PM
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I hear you. The OP would need to assess the risk his child faces in the current situation, and research the Child Services people in his particular county. In MY county, a child pulled out of a drug trafficker's home would be placed with the other parent first, other blood kin second, fictive kin third, foster care a distant fourth. And most of our foster families are very decent people, if overly inclined to Jesus Freakery. But that kind if thing varies hugely, and some counties are real shitho…
/r/MensRights10/04/16 09:37 PM
2

My husband is also in a very time-consuming and interesting scientific field. To be frank, his life would suck without me, because I'm the one who maintains social relationships for both of us, and his children's lives would suck if they only had the amount of parental time that he can give them. Our family life is balanced and happy, and you could probably have the same thing if you found the right partner, but it's not fair to have all your happiness contingent on something that may never happ…
/r/MensRights10/04/16 08:40 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 07:15 PM
1

I live in America, where females under 18 routinely have IUDs inserted, because IUDs, like Vasalgel, are significantly safer than hormonal birth control and significantly more likely to prevent pregnancy than condoms. 80% of adults on this planet do not use condoms as their primary method of birth control. Probably because 80% of the adults on this planet are not idiots. You are going to be in the first generation of young men who have the opportunity to truly control their fertility. Instead of…
/r/MensRights10/04/16 06:49 PM
1

I have a womb, but I still had to find a partner who wanted to have children with me in order to have children - because I am not a complete piece of trash. I understand that women have the biological option to breed irresponsibly... but of all the battles I am willing to fight on behalf on my sons, the option to become a single parent by choice is not very high on the list.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 06:33 PM
1

Everybody I know who is involved with child victims, feminist or not, fucking LOATHES female perps. In the wider world, people who have had the experience of parenting a tween usually understand how fucked up it is for an adult to pursue them sexually, but people who only remember themselves at that age often don't get it - they think that sex without force or violence is inherently OK for any boy who is old enough to perform, because that's what they wanted themselves at a young age, or that's …
/r/MensRights10/04/16 06:24 PM
1

88% effective according to the CDC. Anybody who thinks that condoms alone can be trusted to prevent pregnancy is an idiot. They do serve a needed function in decreasing the spread of STIs. I think you really don't understand how the Pill and other hormonal methods work, because you seem to think they are awesome. They are not awesome. Vasalgel is a better, safer option by every metric. So are IUDs. Neither of us can know the future, but I'm pretty confident that men, and the parents of sexually …
/r/MensRights10/04/16 05:36 PM
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There is no way that 79% of girls surveyed in a British study were not overweight. Britain is experiencing a huge obesity crisis. Have they tweaked "BMI" in the same way they've dumbed down the A-levels?
/r/MensRights10/04/16 03:42 PM
1

Enduring unecessary pain would be masochistic, not sadistic. And no pain relief is recommended for either normal childbirth or IUD insertion. Condoms are better than nothing, and I used them until I had a permanent partner, but I would be very uncomfortable with any of my children relying solely on condoms to prevent pregnancy. They just aren't effective enough. Fortunately, IUDs are now allowed for teenage girls, and Vasalgel will (please God) soon be allowed for teenage boys, so my children wi…
/r/MensRights10/04/16 03:24 PM
3

That's an interesting approach. Israeli family courts will never send one of their citizens out of the country if they have the option of leaving them in the custody of a parent who is willing to reside in Israel - but a little pressure on the issue of their sexist rulings can only help. These men could have returned home at the same time as their estranged wives, made the same case in court, and STILL not been awarded joint custody.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 11:37 AM
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The only way to get enough good foster parents is to pay them properly. Caring for a traumatized child who has been literally dumped on your doorstep is a job, and it needs to pay like a job.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 11:32 AM
2

Welcome! You seem to have identified a lot of the core issues that brought most of us here to begin with. I doubt you'll find anybody here who wants men to have some sort of legally recognized role in abortion decisions, though. The MRM is very concerned with the lack of bodily autonomy and reproductive rights for men, which are not problems that can be addressed by taking away the bodily autonomy and reproductive rights of women.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 11:20 AM
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Two unmedicated vaginal births, including suturing. Two IUD insertions with no pain meds.Tell me again how awful that needle in your case deferens will be, with a local anesthetic. I'm not trying to dictate anything to you. I'm suggesting that people who aren't prepared to endure the medical procedures necessary to control their fertility are not ready to have the kinds of sex that make babies.
/r/MensRights10/04/16 12:20 AM
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I'm a female. I have used all the various options over the years. I have happily submitted to both a subcutaneous implant and an IUD in order to avoid the hassle and the nasty side effects of oral contraceptives. Minor pain. Very approachable. If you're that squeamish about having your junk fiddled with in order to control your fertility, then heterosexual partnered sex may not be something that you are ready for.
/r/MensRights09/04/16 10:13 PM
3

You missed the point terribly. It's fine to like the look of a carefully groomed woman, or a carefully groomed man, and to say so. It's fine to groom oneself with the intent of appearing attractive to others. It's also fine to not do so. But if your behavior towards a coworker shifts from totally ignoring them to making sexual comments about them because they show up one day nicely groomed, them yes, you are a creep, and yes, you are objectifying your coworker in a way that's not appropriate for…
/r/MensRights09/04/16 06:21 PM
2

My boys will be the first generation of teens to get it done, but I doubt that anybody will be willing to do it until they are 18... although nobody thought twice about jabbing me with Depo-Provera when I was 16. We are not used to males taking direct physical risks in order to control their fertility. We'll have to get used to it. The direct physical risk of Vasalgel is certainly preferable to the "indirect" risk of being saddled with an unwanted child.
/r/MensRights09/04/16 05:55 PM
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No real insight, just empathy and love. I work in family court in the South, and in the hope that it will make you feel better, I am going to tell you that I often see Black men treated fairly, and that female judges are more likely than male judges to see through a "pretty white girl's" lies. You had terrible luck. The world is changing, but you did not benefit from that change. Going forward, what you can do is exercise your visitation, refuse to be provoked by your ex, avoid all criminal acti…
/r/MensRights09/04/16 05:42 PM
2

I'm pretty sure the loss of his infant daughter had more to do with it, seeing as he had no idea that Welby wasn't his biological father when he entered the priesthood. Both his parents being staggering drunks during his youth probably didn't help much either.
/r/MensRights09/04/16 01:32 AM
1

I think that is a very likely scenario, based on the information provided. Nobody, of course, needs to be "shamed" into providing for a child that they want to parent. OP has been providing all along. He can't provide right now because he is unemployed, which sucks for all involved - but his support going forward will be documented and that will help him (as much as anything can help him) to get more parenting time.
/r/MensRights09/04/16 12:34 AM
5

Nothing that she wrote actually demonstrates malicious intent. She is actually offering to relieve you of your obligations towards your child - it's not "help" that she's "asking" for, it's something you have always been legally obliged to provide. She's telling you that she doesn't think much of your efforts to support your son so far, but that's not malicious. Nor is it malicious for her to get a court order for child support. In fact, paying your support through the courts protects you - ther…
/r/MensRights08/04/16 11:01 PM
4

That's not what the article says at all. Not even close.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 10:47 PM
0

Attractive naked people on television? Not a problem unless you are an insecure SJW ninny. I love the upswing in beautiful naked men on screen.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 10:45 PM
1

I see nothing that leads me to believe that the women sending out that message were significantly less wealthy than the men they sent it to. As you well know, if they are all single young professionals, the women are entirely likely to make MORE money. No, abortion is not affordable for all women - which directly affects the plight of poor men paying child support for an unplanned child. Yes, feminists and fundies are both obsessed with making parenthood a punishment for sex.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 10:30 PM
1

Try reading the article before you title the thread. If you truly can't understand the article, just post it with the title the author used and ask somebody to explain the numbers to you.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 08:05 PM
1

OK, so you are angry at the people doing b the fundraiser, not the poor women who can't access abortion care without asking for charity. That's more reasonable. I'm not sure where you got the idea that the bowling league is full of "hypergamous" women, or that asking for a charitable donation is equivalent to asking the guy to go die in a trench in France. Labor movements and basic incomes would certainly reduce the number of women who cannot afford abortions - but nothing short of removing fund…
/r/MensRights08/04/16 08:03 PM
0

8... and "keep your legs together" is not a reasonable expectation. I don't expect it of men, and I don't expect it of women. I wish that all forms of contraception AND abortion were available at no cost to the patient, provided at government expense. If we truly understood how much unplanned pregnancies cost society, we would already have male contraceptive injections and a full-service free clinic within walking distance of the majority of the American population.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 07:56 PM
1

Damn poor people, needing help. Let them have babies as a punishment for being poor, that won't hurt the poor men who fathered the babies at all or cost wealthier men more money in the long run...
/r/MensRights08/04/16 05:24 PM
1

You realize that this is a charity fundraiser where wealthier men are helping poorer women (and their partners) cover the cost of abortion care, right? Nobody is suggesting that they've had sex with these women. I think the fundraiser should include matching donations from the women running it, that's how I would run such a fundraiser. But I wouldn't hesitate to ask men who I know enjoy recreational sex to contribute towards a program aimed at helping poor people not get trapped by an unplanned …
/r/MensRights08/04/16 05:05 PM
1

If abortion was actually affordable and accessible to every woman in America, I would agree with you.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 01:43 PM
1

The average cost in a place that hasn't enacted every possible restriction to make abortion unaffordable for poor women is actually less than $450, because women who have proper access to reproductive healthcare often seek abortion care early enough that they can just take a pill. In places like Texas, where you have to travel literally hundreds of miles and have at least two appointments days apart, most abortions take place later in the pregnancy, due to the logistics of scheduling at one of t…
/r/MensRights08/04/16 01:42 PM
1

Are you under the impression that Jim Crow led to violence against Black men only? What a strange notion. Anyhow, telling people that their civil rights issue is "minor" is not a terribly effective method of getting them interested in your civil rights issues. The right to pray unmolested is not a "minor" issue for any Jew. And Jews who assault others Jews for praying in a way they don't like are an embarrassment to humanity. Caring about that doesn't mean that I don't care about issues facing I…
/r/MensRights08/04/16 01:31 PM
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This really isn't a male/female issue. It's a rich/poor issue. That ladies' bowling group is entirely correct that many states have onerous restrictions on abortion that artifically inflates the cost of the procedure. What do you think happens to the poor men involved when the poor women want an abortion but neither one of them can scare up the cash? I contribute regularly to an organization in Texas that subsidizes the costs associated with abortion in that shithole of a state - travel, hotel, …
/r/MensRights07/04/16 08:03 PM
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I know YOU'RE not saying that, but the author of the article is a bona fide "abortion is murder" fundamentalist fucknut.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 07:45 PM
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This is the men'a rights movement, not the anti-choice movement. Please take this garbage elsewhere.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 06:00 PM
2

Why would a touring musician request 50/50 physical custody of an infant? I doubt he did. Probably requested 50/50 legal custody. Either way, $54,000 per month is insane, unless she has to pay for her own 24/7 security people to keep his rabid fans at bay.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 04:08 PM
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Fuck you.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 04:05 PM
1

Common sense is seriously lacking here - which is why it's dangerous for a male who passes as a woman to use the "men'a room." That social dynamic isn't going to change if we rename it the "male's room."
/r/MensRights07/04/16 04:00 PM
2

If people were capable of minding their own business, that would work fine. But what would actually happen is redneck vigilantes accosting strangers and accusing them of being in the wrong bathroom.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 03:58 PM
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I'm glad to see this being studied - the 10% figure, tossed around the way that the 1-in-4 figure is tossed around for rape, drives me batty. But I dislike the complacent tone of the article. If 1% of women historically and currently had their babies switched on them without their knowledge or consent, we'd be reorganizing our entire society to eliminate the practice.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 12:02 PM
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LOL, I'm glad somebody else saw it the same way. I'm sitting here going "what about all the British men not raising any children at all?"
/r/MensRights07/04/16 12:00 PM
5

I have been told that it would not, since part of living life peacefully for a lot of trans people is passing as a member of the opposite sex in public. Also, how would we enforce that? Chromosome checks at the door?
/r/MensRights07/04/16 11:54 AM
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This. I have about fucking had it with this trans bullshit, but I don't want anybody who presents as male to have to use the women's bathroom, or vice versa. It's dangerous - for THEM. Just because I think they have an untreated mental illness doesn't mean they deserve to risk assault every time they pee in public. And they are certainly no danger to children - the people who are dangerous to children almost always present a facade of normalcy to the world. Give me a freak-flag-flying individual…
/r/MensRights07/04/16 11:53 AM
2

I'm not a natural-health type at all. Read the back of a formula container. Google some of the ingredients. Decide if what's inside is a food you'd willingly give a baby when real food is available to them. Also ponder the notion of overfeeding, and what it means for an infant creature that has evolved to match its food supply to its physical needs by suckling to have that entire mechanism removed and replaced by system where gorging until they vomit is the norm. If your sister is working at a c…
/r/MensRights07/04/16 11:46 AM
2

Whey solids and corn syrup. And fish oil. It's absolute shit, it smells like shit, it tastes like shit, and it trains the palates of infants to enjoy shitty fake food. It's also almost universally overfed, because the biofeedback between baby's suckling and mom's milk production isn't there. Baby cries, poorly paid caretaker or ignorant parent shoves a bottle of shit it its mouth. Generations of North Americans being trained from the cradle to gorge themselves on shitty fake food? You're right a…
/r/MensRights07/04/16 03:22 AM
1

We can't know what we haven't been taught. Feminists, corporate employers and the formula industry have been telling us for three generations now that breastfeeding is optional. If it's not a particular area of interest for a person, they can go their whole lives not understanding that formula is beetus juice.
/r/MensRights07/04/16 01:50 AM
1

I'm hoping that they will either reverse or uphold the decision of the lower courts in this specific case,without striking down the law and letting the legislature have a chance to write a new law that doesn't allow for the possibility that sex offenses are a nuanced issue. There are a whole lot of "sex offenders" out there whose kids and stepkids are well served by the existence of judicial discretion. Most of them are men.
/r/MensRights06/04/16 06:25 PM
5

I'm glad to see this being thrashed out in the media, but as usual, the most important part is left out. New babies need to be breastfed on demand. This is what is best for babies, and this is why educated people with sufficient resources arrange to have the mother stay home and breastfeed. Mothers who work by choice when they have new babies, fathers who pressure mothers back into the workforce when they have new babies, and parents who feed formula to newborns in the absence of an actual medic…
/r/MensRights06/04/16 03:36 PM
1

This is the Nebraska State Supreme Court, not the SCOTUS. But they would certainly have the power to change the state law - although it would not be a good change if it allowed fathers with actual problems to take children away from fit mothers who marry guys who pissed on a wall once in 1993.
/r/MensRights06/04/16 03:05 PM
2

There are some of those, for sure. But also some who use their wide powers of discretion for good. Family court is supposed to consider the best interests of the child, period. Since I have no information aside from the stepdad's criminal record, I can't compare the risks and benefits of residing in these two homes.The judge DOES have that information. Since the case is being escalated, hopefully the public will eventually have access to more information.
/r/MensRights06/04/16 02:28 PM
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One thing we have to remember is that the conviction may have been total bullshit based on no real evidence. The family court judge in the current case may have read the transcript of the criminal trial and concluded that the guy was railroaded. It would hardly be the first time. The escalation in the case is good news - SOME kind of men's rights issue is going to get airtime, either father's rights or the child abuse witch hunt. That said, I would not marry a convicted sex offender, even one I …
/r/MensRights06/04/16 11:09 AM
2

Hey, thanks for the calm reply :-) You and I have had very different life experiences, but one fact is indisputable - if I HAD been through the trauma of a divorce and made unwise choices in my subsequent partners and experienced a contraceptive failure, I would still have had options. I could have had an abortion. I could have done an adoption (since shoplifting druggies are not exactly likely to oppose adoptions). I understand why you couldn't just walk away when the accident resulted in a chi…
/r/MensRights06/04/16 11:02 AM
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I have never fucked a drug addict, never conceived a child out of wedlock, never lived in a different state from my children, and never made my love and devotion to my children contingent on any kind of reciprocity. The court system is absolutely skewed against fathers - but you, sir, are a hot mess. If you had been in daily contact with your first child during her early years, I hope and believe that you'd understand that your devotion to her isn't something that she has to earn. Perhaps, if yo…
/r/MensRights05/04/16 08:48 PM
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That's just the kind of stellar advice one would expect from a guy who knocked up a druggie, tried to fight for custody of an infant in Mississippi while living in a different state, and then knocked up ANOTHER woman out of wedlock after years of personal experience with how that shit can go down. Parental love and devotion isn't conditional. If you have dropped your older child from your will and your insurance plans, better go ahead and let her call her stepfather Dad.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:49 PM
1

That's true. I'd say the main reason for us is fairness since I've had 100% of the invasive reproduction-related procedures to date and adultery has never been an issue, but avoiding financial responsibility for bastards is certainly A reason and people should be more honest about that. Nobody ever wants to contingency plan for their potential mistakes, but boy or boy can it save you trouble later on.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 02:16 PM
2

Nobody is going to die because the junior doctors go on strike. The senior doctors are going to have to work the kind of hours American doctors routinely work until the strike is over - which will hopefully drive home the point that they don't want our system to become their new way of life!
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:32 AM
2

Yeah, I was just thinking "they have enough GPs? Wow." But America has the huge issue with the existing doctors deliberately creating a shortage in their profession, and the UK probably doesn't have that problem. I think it's obvious that specialists who have more training and work longer hours should be paid more and promoted faster.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:30 AM
2

If it's their job to do that kind of stuff, then they shouldn't have asked you or anybody else who wasn't responsible for the closet to be involved in cleaning it.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:25 AM
1

That's how I see it.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:21 AM
1

You see two individuals with separate interests - I see a household with a joint interest in preventing unwanted children from being born. I don't have to sterilize myself to prevent an affair from producing a child - or, more likely, to prevent stress and hassle from specious claims that I have made a baby with somebody else.
/r/MensRights05/04/16 06:20 AM
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Any fit parent who sees divorce coming at the instigation of their spouse should obviously take all available measures to mitigate the financial consequences of that immoral choice. No argument there. I'm saying, it is both fair and prudent for married women to urge their husbands to get vasectomies once the family is complete. We've been taking drugs and going through pregnancies and childbirth, and we don't want our kids to be deprived of the time, energy and money that their father commited t…
/r/MensRights04/04/16 10:32 PM
0

I meant she was a cunt for trying asking you to do ANYTHING reproduction-wise when she wasn't planning to stay in the marriage.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 08:09 PM
2

I'm sorry for your trouble, but all the other married women in the world shouldn't pump their bodies full of synthetic hormones for decades on end because your ex-wife is a cunt.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 12:16 PM
1

You are a paranoid android, if you think that sterilization of either spouse has "nothing to do with family planning," but is always some kind of plot to keep the man from starting another family. As though most men WANT two families. Funnily enough, one of the major reasons my husband wants a vasectomy is so he can easily dispose with any false paternity claims in the future. And while I doubt he plans to cheat, if that should ever happen, it would be a lot easier to forgive if the cheating did…
/r/MensRights04/04/16 12:14 PM
0

The Jewish part only bothers me in the way that a Black person will sometimes get extra angry when they see another Black person acting the fool in public. I feel embarrassed by association. I guess I must be irrational on this issue, or showing my age or something... but every white person I have ever met who has affected this hairstyle has been a gross individual. Literally smelly.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 12:05 PM
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This kid absolutely has the right to wear his hair however he wants without being assaulted. Everybody has that right. But I gotta tell you, a white Jew with dreadlocks makes me want to vomit. I won't vomit on him, because that would be assault. But I wouldn't hire him, eat next to him, or let him in my house. I can only imagine how gross he smells.
/r/MensRights04/04/16 12:23 AM
3

How would the "core knowledge" of a misogynistic ideology help men who struggle with misandry in their daily lives? You can always convince socially marginalized people to despise some entire group based on a trait they were born with, and convince them than in a just society they would be dominant over that group. Historically, not awesome.
/r/MensRights03/04/16 07:36 PM
2

Totally wrong. But probably sincere. Hopefully the courts will come down on the side of public health.
/r/MensRights03/04/16 02:28 PM
2

In the USA. I was fingerprinted as part of my SLED check before I was allied to work with kids. It's extremely common, and totally legal.
/r/MensRights03/04/16 12:13 PM
1

It decreases male pleasure as well. For pete's sake, the head of the penis gets keritanized, and the entire mechanism for managing friction is destroyed. That may be more likely to actually HURT the female partner, but it's no fun for the man either. It doesn't detract from the bodily-integrity argument to point out that MGM and FGM also have a negative impact on partnered sex. That's something people care about.
/r/MensRights03/04/16 12:06 PM
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Whether you care or not, that's still the truth and most people in America, male and female, don't realize it. MGM, like FGM, causes sexual dysfunction. That's one of the three trillion arguments against it.
/r/MensRights02/04/16 11:27 PM
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How many fourth-generation American father-son child-rape duos do we have? How many American brother-sister teams are conspiring in child rape and murder? How many mothers are helping their boyfriends and husbands get away with raping their own children? It's a rhetorical question, but I'll answer it: about as many as there are Mexican immigrant families engaging in this behavior. Living in Appalachia, it always amuses me to hear people who think that statutory rape and incest are brown-people p…
/r/MensRights02/04/16 06:43 PM
2

Oh, totally agree. I was just casting my vote for "bad and stupid without boundaries" rather than "female pedo." Actual pedos are quite rare.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 09:45 PM
11

Nope, it's a human thing.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 08:26 PM
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A logical argument.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 08:17 PM
2

Yes, really. There is no cure for stupid, and people with toddlers who don't secure firearms are stupid. But I grew up in a home with a loaded rifle above the door and my parents survived, because guns are tools and I was taught how to handle them properly. It's not hard to teach. We lock up our weapons not because we are afraid of our kids misusing them, but because other kids are in and out of here constantly and at least one of them is bound to have asshat parents who did not train them prope…
/r/MensRights01/04/16 08:06 PM
1

You are not angry enough at the person who turned you in to social services. That person needs to never set foot on your property again, and never have any kind of access to your minor children. They put your kids at risk of going into the system. Cut them off immediately and permanently.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 08:01 PM
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Women making logical arguments are not "acting like men."
/r/MensRights01/04/16 07:36 PM
5

In my experience, most parents of both sexes who expose their children to sex stuff way too early are just trashy idiots, not pervs.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 06:10 PM
2

Weird that they are OK with the girls receiving English-language instruction. Fluency and literacy in English is the path out of the cult for boys and girls alike. I guess the boys, marrying and having kids later in life, have a larger window of time in which to drift away?
/r/MensRights01/04/16 06:01 PM
2

No, we need to socially censure people who deliberately create half-orphans.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 05:46 PM
1

Well, it's sort of a popular opinion ;-) Probably because kissing and touching enhances the stimulation provided by genital contact.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 03:55 PM
1

Oh, OK. I'm not saying you gotta do it that way all the time, I'm just saying that, in my opinion, it's more fun to have two active partners.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 03:31 PM
1

I just read the whole decision. My God, I hate divorce. These people have torpedoed themselves financially, both of them. If they had stayed together, they would both be well-positioned to retire in a decade. Now neither one of them is in any position to retire, ever. And their kids sound like assholes. Anyhow, he's already paying the minimum spousal support and the courts are deliberately imputing a higher income to the ex-wife because she is not earning as much as she could be. I don't know wh…
/r/MensRights01/04/16 03:24 PM
1

OK, I'm honestly confused at this point. Did you just ask me why people touch and kiss each other while they are engaging in sexual intercourse?
/r/MensRights01/04/16 02:54 PM
1

Because you are both moving your hips, and using your hands and mouths. It's good stuff, especially if the guy is much bigger than the girl or has a short penis.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 02:29 PM
1

Not too much sympathy for a guy who moves to Sweden and leaves his ex as sole caregiver for their two minor children, then tries to alter the support payment he agreed to based in the fact that the property division he ALSO agreed to has resulted in his ex and kids living in a house that is worth more than it used to be.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 02:19 PM
1

And good luck havin sex in cowgirl position. At least they do all the work, then. I realize I'm straying from the topic... but one or both of you really needs to watch some decent porn and take notes. Woman on top positions do not typically involve either party "doing all the work." They're tons of fun.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 02:09 PM
3

I'm just one woman, but it's certainly not an "experience" for me. Nor do the other women in the Wal Mart look thrilled. Recreational shopping is definitely a thing, but I think we might exaggerate the percentage of money that people spend for funsies. Most of our money goes to pretty basic stuff like food.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 02:01 PM
1

Ya think?!?
/r/MensRights01/04/16 01:54 PM
1

Kyriarchy?
/r/MensRights01/04/16 01:29 PM
6

I have never understood how buying the household items is supposed to put me in some kind of position of power. It's a chore. I'm the housewife, so it's MY chore. My husband buys sports equipment and stuff, but I'll probably spend a hundred thousand dollars on his toiletries over the course of a fifty years marriage. He's definitely not going to empower himself as a consumer by going shopping for his own toothpaste ;-) I DO understand why it makes sense to market consumer products to women, but …
/r/MensRights01/04/16 01:22 PM
2

I understand what you are feeling, but that approach doesn't generally produce the best outcome for the child. Most addicts don't have any "sane, safe relatives" - that's one of the reasons they are addicts. The best option is usually to offer rehab services. And then offer them again. And then offer them again. If there were fit and willing families lined up around the block to adopt the children of junkies, I'd probably advocate for a higher rate of removal. Babies are removed from junkies mor…
/r/MensRights01/04/16 01:09 PM
1

Sexual submission is a kink. I have no problem with people's kinks as long as they practice them with other consenting adults. SOCIAL submission, where one adult in a relationship allows the other adult to make all the decisions, is a pathology. Sensitive and artistic doesn't enter into it. The last true subbie I dealt with literally drove a garbage truck - but he was convinced that he wasn't fit to have an equal say in decisions involving his children. He was a nice guy - but not somebody you c…
/r/MensRights01/04/16 01:39 AM
2

YES.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 09:51 PM
2

Not at all. Assistance is available for male addicts in this region.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 09:46 PM
1

Yup. Other states are similar. We need to forge a middle path that puts the child first without completely throwing putative fathers under the bus.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 09:46 PM
4

I do it all the time. They go well or badly, depending on the individuals involved. Same deal with meetings where I am the only female. It's almost like gender is irrelevant. One thing is for sure - females who get off on all-girl workplace activities, and males who get off on all-boy workplace activities, are dysfunctional and best avoided. They are bringing baggage into the workplace that detracts from the mission.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 08:35 PM
1

Biology is gonna get you every time if you go down that road. We always know who the biomom is. We have to do extra work to find out who the biodad is, and that's work I very much want the federal giverment to do, but I'd never leave a baby in limbo just because the biomom can't or won't identify the man who contributed the other half of the DNA. The kid comes first. But we could certainly make policies that strongly induced biological mothers to make biological fathers aware that they had helpe…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 08:28 PM
1

Right, except when you are standing in an open space, it's not "manspreading." It's just standing like Tony Stark.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 08:22 PM
2

Totally agree. The rights of the child mandate that the window of time remain relatively small, because they need to be placed at birth with the person or people who will raise them. But we could do so much better than we are doing now with involving birthfathers in the adoption process. While a small percentage might prevent the adoptions and raise the child themselves, that doesn't hurt the child, and the vast majority are no more prepared to raise a child than the birthmother and would enthus…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 06:37 PM
1

Women frequently talk to me about the all-female professional meetings they have and how "elevating" it is. Whaddya know, it sounds just as stupid when you flip the genders. Some of the best individual-contributer devs have zero PM potential even after 20 years in the field, and some of the best PMs never learn to write code. If you have been in the industry for any length of time, you should know this already. I agree that quotas of any kind are stupid, but I think you may have some issues of y…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 06:04 PM
2

You said that addicts are absolutely, 100%, neglecting their kids. That is absolutely, 100%, naive and stupid. It's also naive and stupid to assume that taking the children of addicts away will result in them having a better situation.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:56 PM
2

They were absolutely created to prevent disrupted adoptions. Preventing disrupted adoptions is extremely important, but we could fulfill our obligation to protect adopted children AND help unmarried biological fathers learn about the existence of their offspring if we wanted to, by creating a national registry that all single pregnant women would be obliged to participate in if they want to get Medicaid coverage for their obstetric care. The states very clearly don't want to - which is insane, b…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:50 PM
3

No facts and logic allowed in this thread! Ideologically-driven outrage only!
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:41 PM
1

Correct. Also, suicidal males often (not always) require different therapeutic approaches than suicidal females.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:40 PM
1

Churches in my area run programs that specifically target homeless men. Since there are also adequate programs for homeless women, I have no problem with it.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:39 PM
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Congratulations on getting clean. Oxy and its molecular relatives are right up there with meth in terms of "things that I pray to God aren't mentioned in this new case file." It's so, so hard for people to get off that shit permanently.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:35 PM
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I could point you to a dozen addicts I've encountered in real life who are doing better than many sober shut head parents, and WAY better than many of the foster placements that their kids would be sent to if they were found out. It's just not that simple.
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:31 PM
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Mothers are particularly reluctant to ask for safer supplies because they fear they could lose their children if anyone knows about their addiction, Levergood explained. Instead, they choose to share needles, which increases the risk of contracting diseases. This squares with my experience. For most public health services including STD testing, I have way more trouble getting male clients to access the existing resources. For anything related to drugs, it's female clients who shy away, because t…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 05:28 PM
0

I hear some version of that pretty often - from both males and females who have cast themselves in the subaltern role in a marriage or romantic partnership. They come to my attention when they end up in court for failing to protect their children from abuse by the other parent/boyfriend/girlfriend. Now, your setup is the "traditional" man-is-in-charge model that isn't considered pathological by most people, but I see the damage it does regardless of the gender of the parent who can't/won't asser…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 04:00 PM
-1

Her dad raised a submissive. That's pathological no matter the gender of the partner who knuckles under. I have noticed that parents who select a string of abusive or unstable partners often often have at least one child who actively seeks a subaltern role in their adult relationships. It makes sense of you think about it - if you couldn't trust your primary role model growing up to make good decisions in relationships, how can you trust yourself? Handing over control to your partner can seem sa…
/r/MensRights31/03/16 11:38 AM
3

I think we're just misunderstanding each other. My reaction to the thread title "Women like manspreaders. Too bad feminists." was "Bullshit, we fucking hate manspreaders." I read the article and discover that the journalist has drawn a false equivalence between the kind of pictures women like in dating profiles (Tony Stark stance, very attractive) and the way they like men to position themselves on public transit (where anybody doing Tony Stark stance is being a fucking asshole if that means the…
/r/MensRights30/03/16 05:26 PM
3

I've never seen a paternity test come back "negative," but I have had multiple fathers of child beyond infancy tell me that they don't give a fuck and don't want the test done. I tend to work with families where the parents are already broken up in awful circumstances, so honesty between them is no longer a pressing issue, and while I encourage the father to do testing privately because knowing your biological origins is a human-rights issue for the child, it seems obvious to me as an adoptive p…
/r/MensRights30/03/16 01:39 PM
1

Did you read the article? The author makes a comparison that ignores context. Dating profile pics and crowded trains are wildly different situations.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 01:32 PM
1

"Womyn?" The article conflates the way confident men arrange themselves in their dating profile pictures with the way assholes sit on crowded trains. It's a ridiculous premise. Context matters.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 01:02 PM
0

Yup, and most all women don't commit paternity fraud. We're talking about the scumsuckers of the world here - and it's my daily pleasure to try and minimize the harm they do to their kids. Sometimes I WISH it was paternity fraud - but in 3 years I haven had a test come back disproving a mom's paternity claim.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 12:15 PM
0

Depends on who the biological father is. I support paternity testing at birth, but just because I don't want some guy entrapped by a false claim of paternity doesn't mean I want the kid to start spending weekends with Mom's drug dealer. Some kids will never have dads, only biological fathers. The best you can hope for in that situation is that mom cleans up her act for the baby's sake and eventually recruits a decent stepdad.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 11:33 AM
2

I fully agree that if there is no shortage of space on the train, taking more than one seat is not rude no matter how you do it - with your legs, your purse, your big fat ass, whatever. My objection to this article is the idea that because women prefer men who strike certain poses in their pictures on match.com, we also prefer guys who take up a lot of space on the subway, the sidewalk, etc. Context is key.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 11:23 AM
2

You'll notice that I said "people," not men. I just think the premise of this article is shit - taking up too much space on public transit is not the same thing as standing like like Tony Stark in your dating profile pic.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 11:17 AM
2

I am tired of this transgender shit. Tired, tired, tired. This is not a feminist or MRA position - it's the position of a person who sympathizes with mentally ill people but doesn't want to normalize their pathology.
/r/MensRights30/03/16 03:47 AM
3

How so?
/r/MensRights30/03/16 03:37 AM
1

I definitely like (in the sexual way, and also in the platonic way) assertive and confident men. I fucking LOATHE anybody who shoves their leg into my seat space on public transit. It's almost like your body language on your dating profile and your body language on a crowded train should different...
/r/MensRights30/03/16 12:35 AM
1

Money is the least dysfunctional thing in that relationship.
/r/MensRights29/03/16 09:50 PM
1

The givernment should pay for the test, because rectifying uncertainty about parentage is in the best interests of the child. My state does. I regularly see judges order tests when the putative fathers are willing to affirm paternity of infants. It's nice to know we're doing something right.
/r/MensRights29/03/16 06:40 PM
1

Never assume that anything you post on the Internet is anonymous. It just doesn't work that way.
/r/MensRights29/03/16 09:58 AM
0

Um, no. That's not what healthy relationships are like, and normal people don't need or want relationship "referees." Way back in the Jurassic Era when I was in college, I seriously dated (as in, planned to marry) a guy like the one described in this post. I still have nasty flashbacks to that relationship sometimes, when a minor thing goes wrong and I realize that I'm waiting for the tears and the gaslighting to start. I wonder how common this kind of abuse really is? I know women do it, but th…
/r/MensRights29/03/16 09:49 AM
1

Did I miss this somewhere in the article, or did you find a different source? Obviously, the government should cover the cost of paternity testing when a baby is born without a legal father and the mother attributes biological paternity to one of her previous sexual partners. My state is backwards in a lot of ways, but at least we've figured THAT one out. You'd think that New Zealand, which ratified the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child over twenty years ago, would recognize the governmen…
/r/MensRights29/03/16 09:31 AM
1

Thank you for explaining. In the English vernacular, "dowry" implies money given ONLY by the bride's family. When both sides of the family endow the newly married couple with assets to give them a good start, we call that "being wealthy." :-)
/r/MensRights28/03/16 06:53 PM
1

Serious question. Why don't y'all simply outlaw this dowry bullshit? I realize that it wouldn't change everything overnight, but outlawing caste-based discrimination seems to have been useful...
/r/MensRights28/03/16 03:35 PM
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I'm not selectively assuming anything. I'm pointing out that both the title of the article and your title for this thread are misleading. This is a story about the family court system working for a small number number of men in a very specific location during a brief window of time. You are the one who is trying to massively extrapolate based on a tiny dataset that you can't even be arsed to describe properly.
/r/MensRights28/03/16 03:10 PM
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I meant the title of the article, not the title of this post. But even the title of this post is incorrect - 11 men didn't decide to go for paternity tests. 11 men were named by women as the fathers of their children, denied the claim, and the court decided to perform paternity tests. The system worked, the men were protected.
/r/MensRights28/03/16 11:50 AM
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This could take first prize in the Misleading Title Olympics. Here's what really happened. Eleven men in a six-month period in 2015 were named as the father of a child in Harare family court proceedings and denied the claim. The court ordered paternity tests in these eleven cases. Eight of the men were found to not be the father and sent on their way. Three of the men were found to be the father, and those cases proceeded. This is an example of the system working to PROTECT men from paternity fr…
/r/MensRights28/03/16 11:41 AM
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If further investigation reveals that 1) the father is a fit parent 2) that he (not his mother or his auntie or some random Tulalip family) wants to raise this child, I will personally send the Tulalip Tribe a thank-you note for defending father's rights. But I'm not going to rush out and buy stationary. Baby Veronica's father signed away his rights in an entirely legal and binding manner - if the court system has judged him on his "white" DNA rather than his "native" DNA. ICWA is an outdated pi…
/r/MensRights28/03/16 01:44 AM
1

This article states that the birthfather has "an extensive criminal history." That's not enough detail, I also want more detail from better articles, but my experience in this field tells me that a guy who lives on the res pretty much CANNOT acquire an "extensive criminal history" without extensive violence. A res is like a very small town caught in a time warp. If you get hauled in by the tribal law enforcement repeatedly, it's not because you failed to pay your traffic tickets. It's because yo…
/r/MensRights28/03/16 12:36 AM
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That century-old travesty is hurting real kids today. When they made the law, they just didn't realize that most kids affected by it years later would be mixed-raced. Children age out of foster care rather than having families because nobody in "their" tribe wants to adopt a mixed kid, and the ICWA bullshit prevents them from being adopted by the families that do want them. The ICWA was once necessary. Nowadays, its only function is to create a further risk factor for already at-risk children.
/r/MensRights27/03/16 07:29 PM
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Good, because it is a pack of lies.
/r/MensRights27/03/16 07:23 PM
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http://mynorthwest.com/76/2938422/Renton-family-loses-adopted-daughter-to-Indian-Child-Welfare-Act A better article on the subject - although I have found no really good articles yet. Hopefully the media will keep covering this case. tl:dr Biological father does not have custody of the child and has never sought custody. Biological father is a violent asshole who neither the American government nor the Tulalip Tribe would consider giving a baby to. Tulalip Tribe is disrupting an adoptive placeme…
/r/MensRights27/03/16 07:22 PM
1

... and they should have performed it before, and the NHS will now be pressured to stop discriminating on the basis of age. The fact that they suggested sterilizing another person in lieu of providing appropriate reproductive healthcare to their patient is just the fecal frosting atop the crap cupcake. But it does speak to how little men's reproductive freedom is valued, that a person who had presumably passed his medical ethics courses would even consider offering a vasectomy referral to the bo…
/r/MensRights26/03/16 07:28 PM
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Custody of an angry 14-year-old he's never lived with? Good grief. Children are not pawns in a chess game between the parents. The suggestion that the OP ask her child's father to attend a counselling intake and then follow the clinical recommendations is a good one. If this father and son go to counseling together, they might be able to sort their shit out, regardless of how either of them feel about Mom.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 04:39 PM
1

I think that varies widely based on the nation you live in. I wouldn't encourage a French or Danish or Icelandic man to get married before having a baby if he didn't want to and his girlfriend didn't want to. If he was born and raised in Alabama and so was she? If she's not reserving her reproductive capacity for her husband, RUN.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 04:34 PM
3

Right?!? Can you imagine the MGTOWs agreeing on a spokesman? And why would they want to? That kin d of centralized messaging seems antithetical to their worldview...
/r/MensRights26/03/16 03:50 PM
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They tried very hard to force that option on her - they refused the procedure for 4 years, hoping that she'd pass the pressure on to her boyfriend. I understand that the NHS rarely sterilizes anybody under 30. This is the wrongheaded policy that this woman is trying to get changed.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 03:43 PM
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That's the thing - there is no them in a clinical context. She went to the doctor and said that she never wanted children. She is young and unmarried. Suggesting that her current partner be sterilized as a method of controlling her fertility is unethical. If the guy had gone to his doctor and asked for a vasectomy, and the doctor had said, "well, son, you react poorly to local anesthetics, so why not have your girlfriend get tied off?" I'd be just as irritated.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 11:04 AM
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Reason one million billion why most responsible people insist on marriage before procreating. Changing the laws so that any guy who had a birth control failure was automatically assigned "parental responsibility" would be a favorable change for guys like Penn Gillette - but the vast majority of men who are not Penn Gillette.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 10:42 AM
1

MASSIVE FAILURE on the part of the dead man'a attending physician to protect his family. This is an edge case, but it's certainly not the first time a man's unexpected death has left behind an unborn illegitimate child. If they had taken a DNA sample from the body, this legal issue could have been resolved cheaply, easily and discreetly.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 10:37 AM
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Neither are risky, that's not the point. If a woman wants to be sterlilized, neutering the guy she's dating should not even enter the mind of her doctor. They're both young, they're not married... you don't suggest sterilizing Partner B when it's Partner A who came to you and explained that she never wants kids. Total disrespect for both parties' autonomy.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 10:25 AM
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If the reports are true that she sought treatment including psych meds... then no, she's not a "murderous piece of scum." Nor is a man in the same situation.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 01:58 AM
0

Bullshit. Performing a sterilization procedure on the boyfriend is maybe the most unethical method possible to get a woman off of hormonal contraception.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 01:50 AM
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Statistically, women are willing to have children out of wedlock are NOT the women you want to coparent with. Exceptions exist, of course.
/r/MensRights26/03/16 01:25 AM
3

Who the hell still refers to this field as "computer programmer?"
/r/MensRights24/03/16 09:53 PM
1

Tumblr is that way...
/r/MensRights24/03/16 06:29 PM
2

Yes.
/r/MensRights24/03/16 06:22 PM
0

She also used a sex toy on them without their knowledge. But yeah, the worst part was the extreme stauatory rape, not the transfuckery.
/r/MensRights24/03/16 06:21 PM
1

You can vote your conscience, but you can't choose not to pay your taxes. If you want to live in a developed nation, then you are going to support children, old folks, disabled people, etc. That's my point.
/r/MensRights24/03/16 04:20 AM
1

Generally, I do not tell men that they are obligated to fight for women's rights - we are half the human race, we can handle our shit, and in most countries men need your help more. But if you are a Jewish or Israeli man, and you don'the fully support the right of ALL people to assemble peacefully in whatever garb they choose at a UNESCO World Heritage site... then you are no better than the haredi scum that assaults us for exercising our civil rights, and the cowardly police force than enables …
/r/MensRights23/03/16 03:07 PM
1

I'm a married woman who has never been on welfare. I pay huge taxes. I am happy to do so, because my children are not inherently more valuable than the children of people who have made poor choices.
/r/MensRights23/03/16 10:11 AM
1

I totally want this bitch fired. I just want it to happen in a way that does not establish a precedent that can be used to hurt actual innocent teachers. This was the first scenario that popped into my head: guy is accused of banging a student. Texts are subpoenaed. Turns out he had a convo with his wife or girlfriend that included "bad teacher" roleplay. He is acquitted, somebody in the DA's office leaks sealed records to the DOE, his career is over.
/r/MensRights23/03/16 08:35 AM
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You've identified an important problem - the conflation of criminal trials with academic sanctions. The solution is to stop the kangaroo courts at colleges.
/r/MensRights23/03/16 01:25 AM
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You certainly have the right to move to a third-world country. Buhbye. Send us a postcard, if your chosen shithole has an international postal service.
/r/MensRights23/03/16 01:21 AM
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I think that all single parents should work, but we need the next generation more than any other single thing that we collectively fund with our tax dollars. New lives have inherent value. That value can be enhanced or destroyed. I vote that we do everything we can to enhance it.
/r/MensRights23/03/16 01:04 AM
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Just think of the extortionate funds you pay for roads you don't drive on, schools you don't attend, firefighters who will never put out a fire at your house, and medical procedures not performed on you personally...
/r/MensRights23/03/16 12:31 AM
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Because we are a society, not a mob. If the State cannot convict you, they are not supposed to destroy you in the court of public opinion as some sort of booby prize. The DOE could have made their case to fire this woman without any faint reference to the criminal case in which she was acquitted. They had the right to interview the child, his parents, her colleagues, her neighbors, etc. The next time they are trying to fire a teacher, I hope they will hesitate to subpoena a DA. Criminal proceedi…
/r/MensRights22/03/16 11:05 PM
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Depends on your definition of "slutty." I don't find persons of either sex who aren't saving their virginity for marriage to be repulsive. People who lie to get sex? People who commit adultery or stray beyond the bounds of a monogamous unmarried relationship? Absolutely repulsive.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 10:25 PM
1

Fair enough. It may be that he would have preferred to be a primary caregiver... but if so, he does not mention it in the article.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 10:20 PM
3

Please God, no reporter is browsing this subreddit today.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 10:18 PM
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Read the article. He loves his children and has access to them, but their mothers (and/or the taxpayers) cover the vast majority of their financial needs.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 10:17 PM
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Jesus Christ, this is insidious. Jezebel puts out an article about how poor men aren't inherently deadbeats, written by an actual deadbeat. This guy has three kids he claims to love, two born in wedlock, and he is deliberately not providing for them, because he wants to have a "career" like Sidney Poitier rather than a "job that pays the bills" like an actual fit parent. He tells us all about his terrible life choices in detail. He lays out every single reason we should despise his narcissistic …
/r/MensRights22/03/16 09:38 PM
3

If you believe that "most women don't have much to offer even in a LTR" and you decide to spend your life scoring rather than having a relationship and/or a family, that's your right as an individual. But you cannot expect to look like a PUA, waddle like a PUA, quack like a PUA, and have normal people involved in a civil rights movement not find your ideology repulsive. My husband is forever telling me that TRP serves a purpose for young men who didn't have fathers, and that the misogyny thing i…
/r/MensRights22/03/16 09:25 PM
5

stupid is common among human. also subliteracy. the thought your autocorrect adjust to your moronspeak is shocking.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 09:14 PM
1

It varies from judge to judge, but generally, when a person is acquitted of a sex crime, the evidence is very often sealed. Imagine the kind of thing DAs dig up when trying to nail people for sex crimes, especially in the digital age. Tons of noncriminal stuff that is socially damaging - "anonymous" blogs and message board posts, sexts with consenting adults that describe acts similar to what the person was alleged to have done to a nonconsenting or underage person, etc.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 09:07 PM
1

As I said, if they can demonstrate to the judge that they didn't use sealed trial evidence, fine. But the fact that it wasn't officially turned over by Bureaucrat A to Bureaucrat B doesn't mean that it didn't make its way from DA to DOE. All of these people are fucking liars when their careers are threatened. The only thing that keeps their incestuous laziness in check is cantankerous old judges who periodically stomp on them.
/r/MensRights22/03/16 05:38 PM
1

I'm a Jewish woman. You know, one of those people who gets spit on by fundamentalist mobs and dragged off to jail by their thug enablers on the police force when we try to pray at the Kotel.
/r/MensRights21/03/16 04:27 PM
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I completely agree. But civil rights cases don't generally involve sympathetic victims. If the DOE had done their job correctly, this woman would have been fired WITHOUT trampling all over the rights of the accused.
/r/MensRights21/03/16 04:22 PM
1

The original post has been deleted, so I can't see everything you saw - but the bit you linked to wasn't misandrist or an attack on the OP. It was people who have been in his daughter's shoes telling him what things may be like from her perspective, and what he can do to stay close with her through her teen years without forcing her to visit against her will and creating a big resentment spiral.
/r/MensRights21/03/16 12:02 PM
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She didn't "blast" the firing - her issue is the improper use of sealed evidence. This woman was acquitted of the crime and the court files sealed. If the DOE did their own independent investigation and reached a different conclusion than the jury in the criminal trial, that's fine - but they need to demonstrate to the courts that they did so. They knew darn good and well that piggybacking off the court case wasn't allowed. This judge, by insisting that acquittals and the sealing of court record…
/r/MensRights21/03/16 11:45 AM
2

Ego driven? I'm neither a Mexican immigrant nor an SJW. I have no skin in this game. I'm just pointing out that editing a video to that extent is just cause for thoughtful people to dismiss it. Actual victims of poor treatment can show the WHOLE video and elicit sympathy.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:52 PM
2

No problem. I'm just grateful that all my kids can get immunized at the proper age and hopefully avoid cancer later on.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:48 PM
1

Honest question. What are the Australian women doing right? Different diet? Or do you just have a low-risk gene pool?
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:46 PM
3

4-6? WTF? 11-12 is the age range in which this vaccine is given in the USA.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:44 PM
1

No, it is the absolute truth that both boys and girls should receive the HPV vaccine prior to becoming sexually active. Most kids are straight. Most kids eventually have heterosexual relations that include oral sex. The way to control the nasty strains of HPV is to create herd immunity in every cocksucker and mound-muncher of the next generation.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:42 PM
2

Meanwhile, my sons just got the vaccine, fully covered by insurance and enthusiastically recommended by their fundamentalist Christian pediatrician, in one of the most backward states in the USA. But we've had protests about even allowing the vaccine for females under 18, because it might give them "permission" to have sex. Weird. Usually Canada is ahead of our redneck curve.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:37 PM
3

I presume an ideological bias because the video was heavily edited. I make that assumption any time somebody shows me a heavily edited video in an attempt to prove a point.
/r/MensRights20/03/16 07:30 PM
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I didn't intend that as an ad hominem. You make a lot of subject/verb agreement errors and verb tense errors, and you thought OP was trying to make a point about something he didn't even mention. I don't speak any other languages even close to well enough to participate on a message board - I have nothing but respect for you if that's what you're trying to do.
/r/MensRights19/03/16 11:39 PM
4

LOL, I just did three loads of "hobby" laundry? I am perhaps the last person on earth who is inclined to bitch about housework, but no, it is not a hobby.
/r/MensRights19/03/16 10:43 PM
2

Is English your second language? The OP wasn't talking about alimony. He was saying that domestic labor isn't real work and doesn't have real value. He explicitly compared SAHPs to teenagers. His analysis is flawed, because he fails to understand that money =/= value in the context of a functional household.
/r/MensRights19/03/16 10:34 PM
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You're conflating two different points. I will explain briefly, and then go clean my kitchen and make dinner for my family ;-) A functioning household requires both paid and unpaid labor. It is ridiculous to suggest that the person doing the unpaid work should get an actual paycheck. It's also ridiculous to suggest that only the work that generates a paycheck is "real" work. Being a SAHP is nothing like being a professional cleaner, a professional chef, a professional teacher, etc. You don't cha…
/r/MensRights19/03/16 06:59 PM
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They're definitely not out harassing peaceful protestors for holding Mexican flags. I mean, clearly the SJW is obnoxious, but two were playing at that game.
/r/MensRights19/03/16 03:27 PM
1

Sanitation work is highly automated these days. Any fit person can do it. Very few want to, because it's still smelly and dusgusting.
/r/MensRights18/03/16 03:33 PM
2

I guess I assumed that when she gave birth a week early so that he couldn't be involved with the birth, she also left him off the birth certificate. If so, he can fight a legal battle to get on the birth cert, and Florida is not such a bad place to he doing that. But until and unless he takes it up in their court system, he's not the father and it's not illegal for his ex to tell him to pound sand. It's WRONG, but it's not illegal.
/r/MensRights18/03/16 03:30 PM
1

This guy is not the father. He's the putative father. This is an important legal distinction.
/r/MensRights18/03/16 01:31 PM
8

The stock photo should have been different, but I think the article made it utterly clear that the mother was 100% to blame in this case. From what I've seen, most alienation issues, like most domestic violence issues, are biltaeral. You might have one parent who starts shit up more frequently, or the alienating parent might have a partial justification such as the other parent having poor taste in their romantic partners - but typically, both parents needs to make huge behavior changes in order…
/r/MensRights18/03/16 11:37 AM
5

Legally, she can absolutely take the kid out of state and refuse contact with the putative father. She can't ignore a court order establishing his paternity and custodial rights, and Florida really is not a bad state for an unmarried dad to petition for custody... but right now, he's just an ex. Nobody is obliged to let their ex-boyfriends come around their kids without a court order. I'm not saying she's doing the right thing, just that what she's doing is utterly legal and OP needs to understa…
/r/MensRights17/03/16 09:51 PM
2

LOL
/r/MensRights17/03/16 12:05 PM
1

We're mammals. We're not supposed to be separated from our children. It fucking hurts. Truer words you never spoke. ETA: Except you probably should have said "primates." Plenty of male mammalians have not evolved to care all that much about their individual young.
/r/MensRights16/03/16 11:12 PM
8

I know women IRL that this has happened to - adoptive moms.
/r/MensRights16/03/16 11:09 PM
9

Excellent behavior by the Toronto police. Respect.
/r/MensRights16/03/16 11:08 PM
1

Interesting point. I am, as you know, a female. I am a very respectable female and a good mate, but if I'm being honest, I think I was selected 90% for my looks and my IQ, because the very young person who selected me was thinking mostly with his dick and somewhat with a view towards the potential success of his offspring. I'm not saying it's an ideal model - but damn if we aren't happy twenty years later.
/r/MensRights16/03/16 11:02 PM
2

What is going to work long-term is what has ALWAYS worked - grassroots activism that starts in your community. Mentor fatherless children. Represent children in court to make sure they don't lose access to their fathers. If you want to be a father yourself, partner with a woman who understands that fathers are a requirement, not an option. Volunteer for a suicide hotline. Volunteer for a literacy or GED program. Speak up (politely but firmly) in your family, your church, your hobbyist group, you…
/r/MensRights15/03/16 09:48 PM
3

I'd rather have my child being raised by a wino than a WoW addict.
/r/MensRights15/03/16 09:37 PM
22

"Mesh underwear tumblr?"
/r/MensRights15/03/16 09:34 PM
1

"Moral of the story?" That's the story of my life ;-)
/r/MensRights15/03/16 07:49 AM
1

I'd be fine with a brief custodial sentence for the sexting, and I agree that it was a grooming behavior in this case. But the main punishment for low-level sex offenders like this is social notoriety and becoming unhireable in their fields.
/r/MensRights15/03/16 07:46 AM
1

Or, you know, three times as much, which is what the really fancy agency charged one of the women he went out with. The theory behind matchmaking agencies is sound. It really is worth money to meet people who share your goal of settling down and having a family. But the industry attracts so many con artists...
/r/MensRights15/03/16 07:32 AM
8

She never laid a hand on the kid. She should be fired and blackballed from the teaching profession, not jailed.
/r/MensRights15/03/16 07:14 AM
1

I find you suddenly attractive. Hypergamy!
/r/MensRights14/03/16 06:21 PM
2

People with textured hair really are massively convenienced by access to the right products. I mean, I wouldn't want to be rubbing Crisco into my hair. But that stuff really, truly is available everywhere now. Not the full range of a zillion products, but a reasonable selection. And if you want a very specialized niche product, and are capable of bitching about your oppression in a blog post, you are also capable of ordering online.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 12:20 PM
2

+14.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 12:14 PM
6

They are ban-happy morons, no argument there... but I don't think that article fit the sub. I mean, I don't post articles focusing on the problems women face here.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 12:06 PM
0

I believe that the writers of this skit DID intend to bring attention to the double standard. They certainly make the point that the kind of teachers who do this are absolute trash. I laughed my ass off when this aired. It is darkly hilarious and very well done.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 09:38 AM
3

Preach! Although, I don't insist he do it all with his own hands. Most single parents of both sexes avail themselves of paid childcare so that they can work ;-)
/r/MensRights14/03/16 09:33 AM
1

This is what the marriage contract is for. But we obviously need some other form of parental opt-in, since more than half the babies born in the USA these days are illegitimate.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 09:26 AM
5

Can we please call it "Legal Paternal Surrender?" Men do not get pregnant. Men cannot have miscarriages, abortions, or babies. They can, and are, assigned legal paternity against their will, and that is the problem we need to solve.
/r/MensRights14/03/16 12:16 AM
1

I am not a lawyer. My best guess is that your ex applied for some form of welfare, very likely Medicaid to cover her obstetric care, and the social workers told her (untruthfully) that she would not receive the needed benefits unless she identified a babydaddy for them to go after. The reason I think this is because they tracked you down so quickly. Child support proceedings initiated by the custodial parent usually take longer. But when the State is chasing you... ... the "good" news is, they m…
/r/MensRights13/03/16 10:17 PM
2

It's a lesson most people don't learn until they have to live in a poorer part of a big city and walk around for a couple of years miraculously unraped. I'll always be grateful for the temporary "student" poverty that taught me how safe I really was walking down the street.
/r/MensRights13/03/16 09:57 PM
1

Have you considered moving to a theocratic country? Because secularism is clearly not your preferred mode of public life, and both Israel and the USA are secular republics and will remain so.
/r/MensRights13/03/16 09:48 PM
7

I live in a state that Republicans always win, so I can vote my conscience without propping up either Hillary or The Donald. The Green Party is running Jill Stein. In a swing state... I'm honestly not sure. It might come down to which of those two assholes had been least assholish in the week leading up to the election :-(
/r/MensRights13/03/16 01:43 PM
1

I disagree with SC law as it pertains to unmarried biological fathers - I think they should have no financial liability or legal responsibility for their offspring unless they, of their own accord, go to court and establish legal paternity and ask for custodial rights. My own state has very similar laws to SC. They are terrible laws. But it's not the state that tracks down biodads in private adoption proceedings. It's the adoption agency and their lawyers. The agency and lawyer (husband and wife…
/r/MensRights13/03/16 01:04 AM
3

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAUGH.
/r/MensRights12/03/16 07:39 PM
1

I know somebody who worked on that case. There was a systemic failure on three different levels - horrible, but yes, rare. Very rare. The father putting himself on the registry would have been enough to stop the adoption in its tracks in the vast majority of cases - even in a state as tradcon as SC.
/r/MensRights12/03/16 07:34 PM
-5

That's a common misunderstanding. Most states make it super hard to disrupt an adoption, yes, because a child who has been adopted has the same right to stay with their family as a child who was born into that family. But stopping an adoption is not difficult at all. Simply making one's opposition known to the agency - no lawyer required - will result in the birthmother being dropped like a hot rock. And the agency will be actively seeking you out to get you to sign paperwork. We hear about the …
/r/MensRights12/03/16 01:38 PM
3

This is appalling.
/r/MensRights11/03/16 10:18 PM
4

We live in the South, my husband has had a couple of glaring incidents but nothing nearly as serious is what the poster from the UK describes above. The one that pisses him off the most was being asked by the hostess to show ID when picking our daughter up from a birthday party. (The hostess knew that my daughter has two custodial parents, not to mention that Daddy and daughter are practically clones.) I think she thought it was funny.
/r/MensRights11/03/16 01:27 PM
3

He's not getting those kids either way - stepfather, brief marriage, and older siblings already placed with their biological paternal family. But yes, this is definitely DV.
/r/MensRights11/03/16 01:10 PM
2

If you have hard evidence of her prostituting herself for pills, then you need to call child protective services. They will get the younger kids out of the house and place them with their late father's relatives. It's always scary for men to call CPS - but this is a really "good" set of circumstances for avoiding a false accusation being taken seriously. Your brother is already out of the house. He met this bitch in a rehab program that he was running. The late father's family will back up his a…
/r/MensRights11/03/16 01:08 PM
1

That's true for illegitimate babies in some states (including mine), but never for the children of married couples. But legal parental surrender (including maternal surrender) doesn't have to be to the state. It can be to the other parent. My state, which strives to be as backwards and tradcon as possible in all things, explicitly forbids parental surrender to the other parent even when both parties ardently desire it. The parent who wants the kid has to find a spouse and get that person to swea…
/r/MensRights09/03/16 11:08 PM
1

I'm so sorry. Are your kids in danger? If not, waiting might be better than a continued battle that will leave you broke right as they are old enough to 1) choose their own associates and 2) head off to college.
/r/MensRights09/03/16 09:30 PM
1

Nobody in the US has the right to abandon a baby. Women can surrender a baby in very specific and controlled services that guarantee the baby's physical safety. Legal paternal surrender should also be available in similarly controlled circumstances. I believe that if abortion were outlawed, domestic infant adoption rates would increase, but Safe Haven surrenders would not. Normal people who'd been forced to carry to term would want to choose their baby's parents. Crazy/evil people would continue…
/r/MensRights09/03/16 09:17 PM
7

Nobody studies Safe Haven because (in the USA) it's such a small program and the people who use it are so socially marginal. The middle-class girls who conceal their pregnancies and give birth at prom, etc. don't seem to use Safe Haven. As far as anybody can tell, it is utilized mainly by serious drug addicts and incestuous families. When social services started to get serious about punishing the hill people for incest and extreme statutory rape, forcing the victim to give birth at home and kill…
/r/MensRights09/03/16 06:33 PM
2

According to r/london, it's a hoax. Generally speaking (and this applies to every contentious issue in human society, not just the Gender Wars crap), any article or blog or social media post that hits ALL your hot buttons is probably coming from a troll, a clickbait site, or a mentally ill person. Exceptions exist. There is some stuff on Return of Kings that I'd swear was a sick joke if their front man didn't vigorously defend it in the media. And Andrea Dworkin really DID seem to believe that P…
/r/MensRights08/03/16 11:14 AM
3

This story is a hoax.
/r/MensRights08/03/16 10:46 AM
3

There is a theory (correct? incorrect?) that exposing johns to public ridicule is an effective method getting the business out of your town. The supply follows the demand, so if demand within Houston city limits dries up, the operation will move lock, stock and booty to one of the outlying communities. ... which seems entirely pointless to me. If they want to end trafficking, they have to legalize sex work. There is no other way to cut the racketeers out of the loop.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 09:11 PM
3

Why would you want to punish the hookers for a decision made by a third party?
/r/MensRights07/03/16 09:06 PM
2

Israeli Arabs are not particularly known for their egalitarian parenting practices. It's something they have in common with Israeli Jews. So I think it's important that this issue be resolved. Whatever the ethnic makeup of Israel twenty years hence, Israeli fathers deserve rights.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 07:42 PM
2

I understand your visceral negative reaction - I have had similar negative experiences in small towns in Missouri and Tennessee. I grew up in the North, and social segregation was a huge shock to me. But your theory is inaccurate. Most white women in South Carolina never owned slaves and never had domestic servants. 68% of the women in South Carolina today are in the work force. Slave societies had some incredibly privileged white people at the apex, but the majority of whites were poor as dirt …
/r/MensRights07/03/16 07:37 PM
2

That's all revolting, but none of it is material to the criminal case.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 05:35 PM
2

You're confusing moral and legal culpability.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 05:32 PM
3

I think people should be able to ask for help leaving the relationship and get it when verbal DV is as issue, but no, we should not prosecute one adult for saying mean things to another adult. Terroristic threats, if they can proven, have never been protected under the First Amendment. There is a sharp and obvious difference between "leave me and I'll kill you" and "nobody else will ever want you." The former is a matter for the police. The latter is a matter for your therapist.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 05:29 PM
1

Even if that racist paranoia was justified by the facts, what does it have to do with Israel's sexist custody laws?
/r/MensRights07/03/16 04:04 PM
1

Because free speech is not a right reserved for nice people, or wise people, or even sane people.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 04:02 PM
1

This case is terrifying. Free speech rights ABSOLUTELY extend to telling somebody they should kill themselves. These two kids were obviously damaged goods going into their relationship, and the outcome is appalling - but drop-kicking the First Amendment won't bring him back or fix her. He killed himself, nobody forced him.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 12:55 PM
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You are very lucky to have such a competent guidance counselor to work with. One of my kids DID go through a phase that involved some bullying, and the guidance counselor was an amazing resource. She could have had him suspended at age 8, but no, she got him into a weekly "how not to be an asshole" group session with the speech pathologist. I should probably send her a thank-you note.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 12:35 PM
0

From the point of view of "could this law harm anybody," the necrophilia one is actually an easier sell. But yeah, these kids are nutters - not wrong on any of those three issues IMO, but not remotely reasonable about how they pursue their political agenda. If you're going to fight for men's reproductive rights in March, don't fight for incest in January and necrophilia in February.
/r/MensRights07/03/16 02:02 AM
1

Oh, do you prefer to continue with the ritual genital mutilation? Seriously, chill out. You made a puppet account just to bash me? Over this comment? Please put your energy some place more productive.
/r/MensRights06/03/16 10:02 PM
2

I'm encouraged by some of the response I've seen to this in my social circle, which is quite liberal. It's no longer immediately shouted down when somebody suggests that the SJWs are damaged goods. Too many ridiculous things have garnered national attention.
/r/MensRights06/03/16 09:53 PM
1

Oh, it's definitely socially acceptable to a ridiculous degree for women to express outright disdain at the notion of marrying a man who works with his hands. But I think that particular flavor of hypergamous thinking is an artifact of our culture, whereas the desire for an unusually tall or unusually handsome guy or even an unusually rich mate is located a little deeper in the subconscious. A successful plumber is an absolutely fabulous "catch," and if such men held social status commensurate w…
/r/MensRights06/03/16 09:44 PM
1

I think it also leads to resentment of the people who are doing what you believe on some level you CAN'T do yourself. I'm only one person, but I was a lot less dissatisfied/bored with routine home upkeep when I added in some food production. My husband seems to do the same thing with fixit projects - he's got no problem hiring things he can do perfectly well himself (yardwork, painting) but if doesn't know already have competence in something (drywall repair), he's often happier spending more to…
/r/MensRights06/03/16 06:00 PM
16

This is probably a better argument to make about producers vs. consumers than about men vs. women. Class antipathy is alive and well in modern society, and I've always believed that a big part of that is insecurity on the part of the "upper" class. They can't meet their own physical needs, and they know it, and it bugs the hell out of them on a subconscious level.
/r/MensRights06/03/16 05:51 PM
15

My husband got interested in this case and looked into it a bit. Apparently, Charlie Sheen wanted, and was willing to pay for, a very specific arrangement where both his baby mamas lived in his neighborhood and he could see his kids every day while maintaining an extreme bachelor lifestyle in his own residence. He agreed to very high child support payments and purchased homes for his two families to live in. This worked out surprisingly well for a surprisingly long time, but mental illness has f…
/r/MensRights06/03/16 02:02 PM
2

I found that article very encouraging. I love the idea that all the potential problems facing my daughters are so exquisitely avoidable.
/r/MensRights06/03/16 01:40 PM
1

I just wish this wasn't coming from the group that wants to legalize necrophilia. Great message, lousy messenger.
/r/MensRights06/03/16 01:32 PM
1

Find yourself a real boxing gym. Even if MMA is ultimately what you want to do, trained boxers have a huge advantage in the UFC. Sparring is also a way to get that hit-and-be-hit "high" without fucking up your face or your ears. And definitely, don't waste any energy being ashamed of how billions of years of evolution have shaped you :-)
/r/MensRights06/03/16 01:05 PM
2

Clueless people of both sexes fail to grasp this basic concept. They also don't speak body language. Or maybe they do, and our obvious disgust gratifies them at some level...
/r/MensRights06/03/16 12:55 PM
0

That was a beautiful story about a group of friends... who in no way way needed some sort of NO GIRLS ALLOWED sign to enjoy each other's company. Cigar bars, like all places of public accommodation, admit females. Journalists have been writing stories about them for years. I think you missed the point, and frankly, I think the author made the same mistake. He looked at a group of friends who valued their bond and prioritized their time together and assumed it had something to do with escaping or…
/r/MensRights06/03/16 12:51 PM
1

(Sigh) Probably. But amenorrhea secondary to pregnancy or lactation and amenorrhea secondary to flooding one's body with synthetic hormones (and not at the naural pregnancy/lactation levels) seem very different to me.
/r/MensRights03/03/16 10:41 PM
1

I hear you, and I wish I lived in a culture that valued parents and children enough to provide ways to do right by our children while remaining employable at a level commensurate with our abilities. But I live in the USA.
/r/MensRights03/03/16 12:03 AM
6

It's a common response from men who are challenged to break the cycle of circumcision. I think it makes sense - if you, the guy, can identify no problems with your sexual function (i.e. your dick works and you have fun with it), then the obvious next question is whether or not circumcision is desirable/enjoyable from the perspective of your potential sex partners. Most people that I talk to IRL about this, with the exception of some pregnant and postpartum women who are jacked up on hormones and…
/r/MensRights02/03/16 12:29 PM
1

(Shrug) Not here. I'm not seriously complaining about razors, I have more options than any sane person needs, but those pink things with the built-in soap around the blade? As pricey as a Mach 3 and waaaay shittier.
/r/MensRights02/03/16 03:20 AM
2

Any woman who wants you to alter course when you notice them is a fucking idiot. We have to train them (and some men) out of this nutty perception that 1) strangers are the ones who are likely to hurt you and 2) strangers who visibly notice you and change their pattern are safer than strangers who toddle on their merry away oblivious to your very existence.
/r/MensRights02/03/16 03:11 AM
1

Seasonale. A nice option for women with abnormally painful periods or period-induced migraines, but it scares the hell out of me. If my equipment is designed to be flushed out monthly during my fertile years, what might happen if I stop that process?
/r/MensRights02/03/16 03:05 AM
-7

Well, in my state it means that the father has custodial rights. If I dropped dead tomorrow and had children by a boyfriend, he would have to petition the courts for custody even if I had put his name on the birth certificate (which I would not have been obliged to do). I have worked with unmarried men who had to fight very hard for custody of their own children when the mother either died or went to jail. A never-married man with a criminal record, even a very minor one such as marijuana posses…
/r/MensRights01/03/16 10:56 PM
7

Some do, some don't. They tend to be more expensive and harder to hold, since the handles are all "shapely." But compared to a fucking 2G phone, ladyrazors are downright brilliant.
/r/MensRights01/03/16 10:33 PM
-8

I'm glad you've found somebody who wants what you want. But I'm also exceedingly glad that my children were born to married parents. If my husband died and I wanted more children with a new partner, I would definitely marry again.
/r/MensRights01/03/16 10:23 PM
0

Welcome to homeschooling.
/r/MensRights29/02/16 11:33 PM
1

It's a major issue in both cases.
/r/MensRights29/02/16 11:23 PM
0

TIL that segregation in place of public accommodation is a "minor" issue. Quick, somebody tell the Israeli Supreme Court that they've got it all wrong!
/r/MensRights29/02/16 05:03 PM
1

There are lots of people fighting for the legal and social equality of men. Then there useless, pathetic people who hurt the MRM by saying moronic things like "as a female the part of the human brain that feels accountability doesn't even exist inside your head." I hope that someday you are able to feel shame for the damage you have done by associating the MRM with your misogynistic worldview. We don't want or need you help. Please return to the rock you crawled out from under.
/r/MensRights29/02/16 04:58 PM
1

This isn't just one crazy guy, though. It's a large and growing group of crazies that move to Israel (mostly from America, to our shame) and refuse to adapt to Israeli culture, which does not adhere to tznuit in daily life. The IRAC has been waiting for a case like this for quite awhile - the victim is Rosa-Parks-level unimpeachable, and an El Al employee was dumb enough to say out loud that the airline was attempting to accomdate passenger requests for segregated seating. This is not a "fuss." …
/r/MensRights29/02/16 01:13 PM
0

It seems to me that people who put themselves out there in that manner catch a lot of shit for it, sometimes to the point of losing their jobs :-( I know that's a cowardly answer. I do wonder if my husband and I might be able to achieve similar ends with less potential blowback by writing about egalitarian parenting. Because that's where most people learn how to treat their spouse - they look at how their parents treat each other. I didn't develop my distaste for segregated family life in a vacu…
/r/MensRights29/02/16 01:02 PM
2

Full credit for your half of the blueprints :-) (I did a unit on meiosis with my kids recently, it was a lot of fun to see people who weren't yet cynical about sexual reproduction getting all enthusiastic about the way human gametes work.)
/r/MensRights29/02/16 12:55 PM
1

Oh, now it's just "Western" women? That's actually quite a bit of progress to make in the course of a message board exchange. Just a few posts ago, you thought all women were inferior to you...
/r/MensRights29/02/16 12:53 PM
1

You (well, maybe not you, but normal non-bigoted men) can be assertive and masculine without pretending that women are lesser beings. Who knows, you might end up in a relationship where you feel comfortable masturbating in your own bedroom.
/r/MensRights28/02/16 11:53 PM
2

I think the baby/toddler stage can be extremely difficult no matter what, depending on the spacing and temperament of your children, but once they can talk and reason... yeah, easy work if you've established parental authority and unselfish habits. Awful and humiliating work if your child is a spoiled little shit who doesn't think they have to obey you - but whose fault is that?
/r/MensRights28/02/16 08:12 PM
1

I really hope he took more pains to conceal his jacking-off habits from his mother. ... and some people do prefer to be discreet about things like that even with their spouses, and that's fine, it's their sex life and their choice. But a man who is getting the message from his wife that he can't jack off in his own bedroom and watch what he wants to watch in his own living room - that is some pretty sad shit, and sadly common.
/r/MensRights28/02/16 07:59 PM
1

I'm glad the women in your life have seen you for what you are and treated you the way to deserve to be treated. You are a bigot.
/r/MensRights28/02/16 07:53 PM
2

Whaddya know, this "problem" sounds just as SJWesque when you flip the genders.
/r/MensRights28/02/16 07:50 PM
10

I see your point, but I think we CAN push back against the insane level of entitlement in the sexual marketplace these days. Low-value women (fat, ugly, multiple babydaddies) have never been all that likely to attract a decent mate, and they sure as hell aren't likely be selected by a breadwinning man who isn't hauling around some serious baggage of his own. Men don't have such unreasonably high expectations in the financial realm, but damn if they don't punch above (i.e. below) their weight cla…
/r/MensRights28/02/16 01:46 PM
1

Your "safe space?" Seriously? Read the sidebar. This is a subreddit focusing on the MRM. If you want a gender-segregated echo chamber, look elsewhere. And why the hell would anybody want to jerk off on the living room couch (or the "man cave" couch, or the "craft room" couch, or the "gaming room" couch, or fucking anyplace with a couch) when they have a bedroom to do it in? And a bathroom if they want to mix it up a little and enjoy ease of cleanup? I mean, jerk off wherever you want to, if you …
/r/MensRights28/02/16 01:18 PM
1

We both take alone time when we need it. We just don't need special dedicated rooms for normal adult routines.
/r/MensRights28/02/16 12:20 AM
1

If your living room isn't the place that you go to decompress, then I feel sorry for you for having a shitty marriage and a poor relationship with your kids. This isn't a gendered issue - plenty of married mothers also carve out spaces in the house where the rest of the family isn't welcome. But it's fucked up either way. I'm typing this from my couch, in my living room, where my sixth grader is cuddling the puppy and my husband is monitoring the primary results. When the dog has passed on and t…
/r/MensRights28/02/16 12:05 AM
1

Yup, that's the textbook-definition misogyny I was talking about. You have an irrational hatred of half the human race. I hope that someday you are able to accept accountability for that.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 11:49 PM
4

If either one of us had hobbies that required specialized equipment, a hobby room would make sense. But no, my husband does not need to hide in the basement or bonus room to watch his shows or clean his guns or play his video games. We have a perfectly good living room.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 11:36 PM
10

I have rarely seen a point missed so thoroughly. I loathe the entire concept of "man cave," not because I don't want my husband to do what he wants to do in the house, but because I don't want him to be doing it in some ghettoized portion of the house. The whole house is shared. His crap belongs in the living room alongside my crap. All the crap we don't want the kids touching (and there's not much of that) goes in the master bedroom.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 06:04 PM
1

That sums it up perfectly :-)
/r/MensRights27/02/16 04:42 PM
1

Could be an age/class thing. We can all easily afford the sandwiches/coffee/cocktails, so it's really just a social ritual.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 04:40 PM
1

When my husband and I first got a joint banking account, we were still in college. I'd fish my card out every time so he wouldn't have to stand up and remove his wallet, and our college kid friends at the table would be like: "Dayum, she pays for you. Respect." He enjoyed it the first couple of times but eventually found it irritating.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 02:31 PM
1

In the South, at least, gay men also offer to pay, at least for coffee and cheap lunches (I don't usually have occasion to eat dinner out with other men unless it's a group thing where we all pay our own way). But they are totally cool with taking turns picking up the tab, whereas some straight guys get stuffy.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 02:25 PM
5

The tragic, but inevitable consequence of dating a man who is not taller than you. It's a credit to her strength if character that she didn't start putting out hits on her son's relatives the first time she kissed her new boyfriend without having to tilt her face upwards. /s I've heard some ridiculous excuses made by family members in my time, but this one is special.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 02:13 PM
5

Damn, there are a lot of basic bitches on Facebook named "Hailey Martin." I think I lost IQ points just looking at their public pictures. The good news is, all the ones with sons appear to dote upon said sons. The same account that made this initial post claimed that it was a troll post: http://i.imgur.com/Q8jfl.jpg
/r/MensRights27/02/16 11:51 AM
3

I've been seeing this post for years now, but never with a name attached to it. I almost hope "Hailey Martin" really DID say such an evil thing, because the alternative is that some enemy of hers faked this up as an attack.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 11:32 AM
4

Exactly. This barely-legal young woman survived the foster care system and one of her first actions as an adult was to consent to sex with her father. There is no doubt in my mind that she was HORRIBLY sexually abused. That's not the issue here. The issue is that a DA heard the details of this case, saw the video, and didn't drop the charges against all the young people immediately.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 02:26 AM
3

LMFAO.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 02:09 AM
5

Wait - I bleed for a week every month and build entire humans from scratch, but I somehow have a lesser need for red meat? Better title: "Stupid Western Woman Brags About Depriving Herself On Purpose: Ethiopian Women Should Stew And Eat Her." Shove your hummus up your tight ass, you anemic cow.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 11:18 PM
1

I can see this being massively useful for muggings. The criminal can't destroy the evidence by destroying the phone, and there will be an impartial witness to any violence they choose to commit after the connection is made. It would be useful for preventing stranger rape as well, if stranger rape was anywhere near common enough for an individual woman to be worried about. Acquaintance rapists are going to wait until you aren't holding your phone before they attack you.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 11:05 PM
1

Oh, don't even get me started.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 07:51 PM
1

You're right. "Upbraid" was the wrong word. I've done some full-on shrieking in my day when serious and intentional assholery was afoot, but generally the exchange is much more polite and low-key and I get exactly the response I was hoping for, which is a simple "beg your pardon" and physical retreat from my space (or letting me back up on the sidewalk). But as you say, you have to speak up IN REAL LIFE or the person who has encroached is probably never even going to realize that they broke a so…
/r/MensRights26/02/16 06:37 PM
-1

Gee, I wonder why women treat you poorly. Maybe because "life is a two way street" and you are an actual, textbook-definition musigynist.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 06:30 PM
1

Correct. There are both roundneck and V-neck undershirt for females to wear under their fatigues. The Marine recruiter who told a female candidate with a tattoo below her collarbone that she was ineligible to join the Marines was simply wrong.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 06:28 PM
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Seek help.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 03:08 PM
1

I think reasonable people can disagree over whether or not shaving is desirable as a recruit training tool. But if we're going to keep doing it, we need to do it regardless of gender or religion. Beyond the recruit stage, all branches permit a variety of hairstyles, which seems fine unless you're actually going into a combat zone. There's nothing inherently unprofessional about hair in a bun or a Sikh turban or a hijab. They're just not appropriate on the battlefield.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 02:42 PM
3

Maybe renewed attention to the hair/headcovering issue will be an unexpected side effect of this little skirmish. Most armed services members, during most of their careers, just need to look neat and professional, and a wide range of hairstyles meet that criteria. But this bullshit of allowing long hair and hijabs and turbans in combat zones has got to end. Female? Tough luck. Sikh? Tough luck. Cut your goddamned hair and wear your helmet. Yarmulkes don't seem to me to pose any hazard, but if we…
/r/MensRights26/02/16 02:01 PM
1

The tattoo rules are real.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 01:54 PM
2

No, the uniform rules should change because they make no sense. It's utterly stupid for male and female soliders to sport different necklines in their working uniforms. Dress uniforms, fine, those have always been intended to put fashion over function.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 01:54 PM
3

Entitlement is OK in fantasies. After all, it's your fantasy, who else should be the center of attention? But I suspect that a meme about a man who wants to get several potential girlfriends together for a dick-sucking contest wouldn't be very kindly received.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 01:44 PM
-2

Gloria's doing just fine for herself, I'm not concerned about her being pulled from the campaign. I'm a little concerned about everybody else who works or wants to work for Land's End, who has just gotten the message that being openly pro-choice may be bad for their careers. Most Land's End clothing is not purchased by fundies. I think I might organize a boycott or a letter-writing campain to discourage the company from rolling over for the fundies in future.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 12:56 PM
2

Why ignore it? Correcting people who are inappropriately physical in a public setting is a public service - the asshole who gets upbraided for shoving somebody's arm off an armrest on Thursday is not likely to repeat that behavior on Friday. I always assume that somebody (not always a man, I'm a shrimpy little lady) who is willing to use their strength and size to edge me into a corner, cut me off on the sidewalk, sit in half of my seat on the subway, etc. is also doing that shit to kids and old…
/r/MensRights26/02/16 12:49 PM
10

Today, a teenager lagging behind the rest of his family group went out of his way to hold a door for me in a windy, cold parking lot. I said, "Thank you, sir." He said, "A pleasure, ma'am." You do what you want to, but I'm fairly sure that both that teenager and myself are on the right track.
/r/MensRights26/02/16 02:11 AM
23

Hooray! I vigorously support the right of academics to disagree with me on social issues. But you have to use your words, not "muscle."
/r/MensRights25/02/16 10:14 PM
5

This is an atrocity. This has got to be the riskiest way to collect semen ever. What utter psychopath commits rape to obtain something that is willingly offered in the parking lots of bars? I'm not sure I buy this "witchcraft" angle - I think this may be a case of rapists gonna rape.
/r/MensRights25/02/16 07:37 PM
3

Here, too. I don't doubt the raw data, but I don't think we can extrapolate much from it.
/r/MensRights25/02/16 07:26 PM
1

Yes. Elizabeth Banks (Effie Trinket from Hunger Games) did this after years of failed attempts to carry her babies. It'a an option, but there's still no guarantee of success, and doing it ethically is very, very expensive or requires very good luck - a sister or friend who is willing to carry for you. Most women who would go through that for their cancer-survivor or infertile sisterfriend are not willing to do it for their sisterfriend who couldn't be arsed to use her womb before it hit its expi…
/r/MensRights24/02/16 03:36 AM
1

As a citizen, you have a right to vote for politicians who share your vision for how the NHS should operate. You've been outvoted this time. If you object to this change, phone your MP and share your views. As a potential biological father, you have absolutely no legal voice in how and where a woman pregnant with your shared child gives birth. On a personal level, she may well ask for your input, and she may well take your advice. But ultimately, she's the patient and she makes the decisions.
/r/MensRights24/02/16 01:36 AM
1

There are bad apples in every profession, but midwives have consistently better outcomes than obstetricians, and homebirths appear to also be safer (much less data for homebirth than for midwife-supervised hospital and birth center birth). Probably the safest scenario is freestanding birth centers located near hospitals. Hospitals are crawling with pathogens that neonates have no resistance to. But thank God they're available when they are needed.
/r/MensRights23/02/16 09:51 PM
2

I'm glad it exists for women who get cancer before they've had children. But yes, it's basically fraudulent to tell a women in her early thirties that she can freeze her eggs and have any reasonable hope of conceiving via IVF in her early 40s. It should be a stopgap measure to give some hope to sick people, not a lifestyle choice for women and couples who find biology inconvenient. A poster here (who has since deleted his profile) once suggested probably the best possible strategy for men and wo…
/r/MensRights23/02/16 05:36 PM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/43urfp/men_aged_4559_are_most_fed_up_with_life_study/czm4io3 To be clear: if you're in a sexless marriage and you don't want to divorce (and there are many good reasons not to divorce, God knows), then I believe you are morally entitled to have an affair. "Monogamous" implies that there is sexual contact between a couple. You're not living a monogamous lifestyle, you're living a celibate lifestyle, and you didn't sign up for THAT. I took what you said…
/r/MensRights23/02/16 05:19 PM
3

Outside of very specific situation such as powers of attorney, no adult in the developed has any "right" to make decisions about another adult's medical care. That's not an MRM issue other than trying to make sure men aren't abused by the system the way you'd apparently like women to be, with spousal consent for vasectomy and such.
/r/MensRights23/02/16 03:01 PM
1

A woman pointed out that my dysfunctional sex life may be attributable to my individual circumstances and imperfections, rather than an inherent flaw in half the human race. Let the denial commence.
/r/MensRights23/02/16 02:55 PM
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"Control of birth services?" Who on earth, other than the pregnant woman, would be authorized to select her care provider or birthing facility? The NHS has a large problem with continuity of care in pregnancy, which can be dangerous. The provider who saw you last month is more likely to correctly interpret changes in your weight, blood pressure, blood sugar, appearance and demeanor. I don't know if block grants for maternity care will improve that situation - but it's got nothing to do with eith…
/r/MensRights23/02/16 12:49 PM
1

Actually, it IS perfectly reasonable for ED issues to be exacerbated by a lack of attraction to your partner. I know guys in their 20s who can't get it up for women they dislike or are grossed out by. You have a BMI of 25, dude. Unless you're the most ripped oldster in the gym, you are right on the line for being overweight. You are also significantly shorter than the average Caucasian man in America - average height is 5'10". It's not exactly a news flash that most women of all ages do not find…
/r/MensRights23/02/16 12:39 PM
2

Fascinating, and sad. I wonder why all the chronic pain issues? Just another awful side effect of the obesity epidemic?
/r/MensRights23/02/16 12:35 AM
1

Wut? He's never suggested that his wife is a nutcase, merely that she's become sexually dysfunctional in her 50s. He seems to have decided that this is a fate that awaits all married men, and does not hesitate to spread that opinion on this subreddit. I have some alternate theories: 1) his wife has medical issues (lose weight, eat better) or 2) his wife is no longer attracted to him. The first is fixable, and if it's #2, then maybe /u/PhilWylie should contemplate some diet or lifestyle changes o…
/r/MensRights23/02/16 12:19 AM
1

Opposite reason, IME. One-third of all lesbian households currently have children in them, and now that equal marriage laws give both partners access to parental rights, the rate of lesbian parenthood is going to go up. Lesbian households divide their labor in all the same ways that straight households do, and one of those patterns in the breadwinner/SAHM pattern. Turns out that a woman who is motivated to provide like a 20th-century man can achieve that outcome in 21st-century America. I don't …
/r/MensRights22/02/16 10:36 PM
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This is absolutely beyond the scope of most mothers, most women, and most people.
/r/MensRights22/02/16 02:46 AM
1

I am not telling you to get married, merely pointing out that deliberately creating a human life for the purpose of single parenthood is inherently narcissistic and abusive regardless of the gender of the parent. You have other choices. If marriage is the only two-parent family structure that you can conceive of, stop guessing about your risk of divorce and do some actual research. I don't know anything about your background, or I would do it for you. 50% is an aggregate number that includes peo…
/r/MensRights21/02/16 10:43 AM
6

I'm a little younger than Pluckrose, but we seem to have had a lot of similar experiences.
/r/MensRights21/02/16 12:17 AM
7

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
/r/MensRights20/02/16 11:49 PM
1

I'm also terrible with the "typical" activities like raffles and book fair. When my kids were in public school, I volunteered quite a bit as a tutor and a field trip chaperone. There were several dads who were also regulars on field trips, and the kids loved it.
/r/MensRights20/02/16 06:11 PM
1

Children conceived by gamete donation are informed of their genetic origins, unless their parents are psychos. There's a mom and a dad (or a mom and a mom, or a dad and a dad) because two people are present and raising the kid. The presence or absence of a biological link doesn't mean squat - ask any adoptive parent. You probably want to do some research about your specific risk factors in terms of divorce. You keep presenting it as inevitable, which is far from the truth. Deliberately becoming …
/r/MensRights20/02/16 01:07 PM
3

I don't see that I had any choice. They went full retard.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 07:39 PM
0

Calm down, nobody's falsely accusing you. Or even attacking you for something you actually said. I don't doubt your portrayal of your own experience (wife losing all interest in sex), but I did find it odd to hear from some guy on the Internet that my body would return to a pre-pubescent hormonal state and my vagina would "hurt to have a penis in it" when I reached menopause. I called my grandmother to confirm that she wasn't lying to me in previous conversations. She says don't get fat and eat …
/r/MensRights19/02/16 07:37 PM
3

Anybody who thinks it's rape when they wake up with their dick in their live-in partner's mouth (or other orifice) needs to not have a live-in partner, or a sexual partner at all, until they grow the fuck up and shake off their SJW conditioning. You might not be in the mood for it, you might tell them to stop, fine, that's your prerogative. But the person who shares your life and your bed shouldn't need to get your "affirmative consent" before they initiate sex.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 06:02 PM
1

Completely terrifying. I believe that it's a risk I would take if I had been born a man, because I was raised in a happy family with a SAHP and I couldn't let my children have anything less, but I'd be nervous as hell a lot of the time.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 05:48 PM
1

Divorce isn't actually going up in any cohort, and a college-educated woman entering her first marriage has a 78% chance of avoiding divorce for 20 years (and probably longer, since the risk of divorce declines each year, but 20 years is as far as Pew took their study). http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/ It's almost like people who have demonstrated the ability to think ahead and delay gratification are good candidates for family life :-)
/r/MensRights19/02/16 05:39 PM
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Aren't you the guy who told me that I was going to utterly shrivel up and lose all interest in sex by age 50? Because I think that might be part of your problem. My grandmother, who is 87 and was widowed after 40 mutually blissful years of marriage, say 1) thanks to the guy on the Internet who inspired my granddaughter to call me and ask personal questions and 2) tell that guy to suggest that his wife achieve and maintain a healthy weight and increase the amount of fruit in her diet. Fruit? I du…
/r/MensRights19/02/16 05:33 PM
2

It's utterly Orthodox, actually ; -) Fundamentalist Jews (Orthodox, Hasidim, Haredi... I just call them "black hats") run shitty schools like this all over the world. There are schools in Brooklyn where both boys and girls graduate without being able to read English. It's insane.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 01:57 PM
1

Your mama cannot be your child's other parent. She is the grandmother. Your sisters cannot be your child's other parent. They are the aunts. Your theoretical future girlfriend can only be your child's other parent if you allow her to adopt - which would mean sharing control, which apparently you aren't willing to do. If you want total ownership of a living being, get a dog. If you want to be a parent but don't feel you can risk a partnership, adopt from foster care. But realize before you do so …
/r/MensRights19/02/16 01:48 AM
1

It varies amazingly by state. Unwed fathers in my state have NO custodial rights unless they go to court and fight for them - but they are certainly liable for child support.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 10:35 PM
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What you actually learned was that family life in America is becoming a class privilege. Educated, relatively wealthy men are fathers. Everybody else is a babydaddy or a genetic dead end.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 10:33 PM
7

It hurt my heart to tear up my NOW card. They had a pretty good run.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 10:30 PM
1

No, I'm saying that deliberately creating a half-orphan is a morally revolting notion. Death happens. Divorce happens. Deadbeat parents of both sexes happen. Mothers getting rid of fathers happens WAY TOO MUCH. Raising kids well is a two-person job. When circumstances dictate that one person attempt it alone, then I wish them the best. Deliberately creating that situation so that you can wield sole parental authority is sociopathic behavior. Renting an Indian peasant to further that agenda is a …
/r/MensRights18/02/16 10:22 PM
1

Oh, my bad. I see your point. I do know a woman (a single lesbian) who made a deal with a known donor (a gay man) who takes the kid on trips, sends him toys, is called Dad, and is saving up for college. I think that was a good decision on both their parts, and that the child is a lot luckier than many children born to unhappily married straights. But legally, the dad has no rights and no responsibilities, so it's a relationship based on ongoing mutual consent. I'm glad that my children have a le…
/r/MensRights18/02/16 07:20 PM
1

Seven months. Wow. My husband got a month and then got mocked for taking it when the baby was born, rather than during hiking season.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 03:46 PM
1

It seems so obvious, yet the majority of the world cannot seem to grasp it.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 03:44 PM
1

I'm an advocate of building a family with your child's other parent, rather than trying to do it on your own. It is in NO child's best interests to be deprived of one of their parents, unless one of them is a raving psycho, which is rare. There is no "legitimate" way to create a motherless or fatherless child. Do asshole women do it fairly often? Yes. Why would you seek to imitate those lowlifes?
/r/MensRights18/02/16 03:40 PM
1

They never cared that she was a female, but they got pretty riled up about her being a "secret Muslim." (Spoiler alert: she's not.)
/r/MensRights18/02/16 12:16 PM
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I put words in your mouth?!? You stated very plainly that you want to be able to decide where your child lives, where your child goes to school, etc., without regard for the wishes of the other parent. You want to be "on your own" with total control - a single parent by choice. That's a shitty deal for a kid regardless of the gender of their lone parent... but it's a far better fate than aging out of foster care, so it'a not like you don't have a way to get what you want without renting a poor w…
/r/MensRights18/02/16 12:06 PM
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A boycott of the system would be not having babies. This leaves plenty of options for parenthood, just no options for exploiting poor women to create a child that you "own." People who want to own another living creature should get a dog, not make a baby. A single parent can have a girlfriend or boyfriend who is fond of their kid, but a person who can be kicked out of your child's life on a whim is NOT a parent. Father's rights groups have been pointing this out for years. The argument is still …
/r/MensRights18/02/16 11:58 AM
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My husband, the whitest of the white with the same daily dress code and equally white little girls (one adopted but nobody could guess), has experienced the same thing on several occaisions. And we live in a state that glorifies Daddy-daughter "dates" and Purity Balls. I have no idea why. It sucks. He is older than you, and cranky, and will pick fights about it. But I'm not sure that's the best approach.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 01:35 AM
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The point of having children is to give them the best life possible. If you think that "regaining rights" by creating motherless children is the point, then biological parenthood is not for you. Adopt an older child who needs a parent.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 01:15 AM
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A child is not a tool for exercising your rights. By all means, do not marry Kate Winslet. But don't create half-orphans either, just so you can enact a male version of her sick game.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 01:13 AM
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Go look at the data.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 01:11 AM
10

I have noticed, in the course of my work with foster children, than non-Anglo communities are a hell of a lot less likely to indulge in pedo-hysteria. Also poor whites. So, basically any community where the kinship network reaches beyond the nuclear family.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 11:52 PM
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That's a popular myth on this subreddit, but the data isn't there to support it. Most first marriages, especially among college graduates, do not end in divorce. Most divorces, among all demographic cohorts, do not end in the father being excised from the children's lives. The stories of injustice are true, but there is a salience bias here. If you don't believe that, and are sincerely convinced that the "only alternative" you have is to rent a poor woman's womb and raise a motherless child, the…
/r/MensRights17/02/16 11:47 PM
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If what you want is total control and complete ownership, then parenthood is not for you. Even older-child adoption, which is an entirely ethical path to single parenthood since those kids would have zero parents otherwise, won't please you, because children are human beings with their own agenda.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 11:40 PM
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Yes, why reach an agreement with one of your peers and raise a child with two loving and involved parents, when you can rent a poor woman's body to deliberately create a motherless child? /s
/r/MensRights17/02/16 08:56 PM
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If he wanted a paternity test, he should have gone to court. I have great sympathy for men who never know that they might well have sired a child, because they were lied to about birth control or because the woman disappears from their life before her pregnancy is apparent. This case does not meet either of those criteria.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 07:57 PM
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Well, clearly it's possible, because here I am. But I'm not a patriarchy-theory adherent in the sense of believing that patriarchal structures limit women's participation in contemporary Western society.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 04:49 PM
1

I'm as cynical as anybody about changing the terms in an ongoing debate, but this is one change we really need to make for the sake of clarity. I know many people who are anti-abortion in the sense of their personal morality but pro-choice in the sense of not wanting to use the power of the state to enforce their morality on others.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 04:39 PM
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It's a protest over an antichoice law recently passed in the state. Unlike the antichoice law, which is very effectively blocking poor women and rural women from exercising their reproductive rights, the Viagra law is not going to pass and was never intended to pass.
/r/MensRights16/02/16 10:23 AM
1

In my state, when the parents are unmarried and either the woman or the welfare folks are seeking a support order from a putative father, the judge orders a paternity test even when the putative father does not appear and/or does not request a test. This is one thing my state does right. It's ridiculous that such things vary so much within a single nation. As to why I have an endless parade of pregnant young women and baby daddies who seem sincerely chagrined to be parents, I can't tell you why.…
/r/MensRights16/02/16 12:05 AM
1

Well, we homeschool for a reason. But the teens and young adults I work with, who have come up through the public school system, honest to God do NOT know how to access contraception and abortion services. They've got cell phones. They've got Internet access at school always, and at home usually. The sex ed curriculum in my state is "abstinence-oriented," which I'm sure doesn't help... but I used the goddammed Yellow Pages to find the clinic when I wanted to go on birth control, you'd think some…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 09:21 PM
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If the biological father could reasonably claim that the possibility of paternity was concealed from him, I'd agree with you. But by his own admission, he repeatedly had sex with the woman without using condoms in the appropriate time frame, and was aware of her pregnancy at the time it occured. He had all the information a reasonable person requires to conclude that they might have sired a child.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 07:24 PM
1

Have you considered Bob Jones University? It's the place people send their kids when the Christian college in my town is deemed not conservativate enough. It's co-ed, but with rigid parietal rules and (female) dress code. And a lot of young men who are snappy dressers and suspiciously virulent homophobes ; -)
/r/MensRights15/02/16 07:15 PM
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Nothing is ever perfect, but sex education used to be better than it currently is in most of America. Should sex ed include a discussion of the legal ramifications of paternity and the Iegal steps boys can take to protect themselves from paternity fraud? I think so. I think students of both sexes also need to be informed of their legal right to refuse an adoption. But for crying out loud, they aren't even teaching the biology part correctly anymore. I shudder to think what they'd do with the leg…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 07:03 PM
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We are all equally deserving of not being murdered.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 06:06 PM
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Don't downvote him, he's correct. This is still the law in many locales, and in India it is regularly prosecuted. This is something that men having extramarital heterosexual sex in India need to be aware of.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 06:03 PM
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Twenty years ago, actually, when "comprehensive sex education" was far more common because the Jeebus freaks had not yet infested school boards and state legislatures outside of the Bible Belt. I have lived to see sex ed and access to reproductive health care get WORSE. It boggles the mind.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 06:00 PM
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Well, school sex ed told ME that getting pregnant meant having a baby and either raising it or giving it up for adoption, which was a pretty serious lie that I might have believed if my parents weren't responsible adults. They wouldn't even tell us where we could get birth control. Years later, when I wanted some, damn if the clinic wasn't literally walking distance from the junior high school where my science teacher had pretended abortion didn't exist. You'd think a "matriarchal cesspool" woul…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 02:40 PM
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I hate TRP with the incendiary power of a thousand suns - but I also hate the endless campaign to shame men into developing (by magic, apparently) a sexual interest in woman who have destroyed their bodies with gluttony. Chronic overeating is our leading cause of disability and death. It's not socially acceptable, it's not something that nice people should overlook, and it's sure as hell not sexy. I would rather see a woman smoking crack on the cover of Sports Illustrated than a whale flopping a…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 03:18 AM
3

... and the cellulite, and the hanging gut fat, and the rash where her folds rub together when she walks... 5'9" and 200 lbs is not thick or curvy or having dat ass. It's an obese person. This woman is a gross cow and it offends me to see her held up to my daughters as an example of beauty. (My sons, I'm not so worried about. They are normally wired human males who have not been raised by lardbeasts. They will grow up liking some version of a healthy female shape.)
/r/MensRights15/02/16 03:12 AM
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I was harassed on several occasions while living in a very liberal city. Nothing a hearty "fuck off!" didn't fix, but you really don't want to have to fight while you're feeding your baby.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 03:06 AM
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My question is, was the legal father lied to? They were having trouble conceiving, she ends up pregnant... it wouldn't be the first time an infertile couple has tried to solve their problem this way. If there is a fraud case here, it should be the legal father against the mother. The biological father knowingly had unprotected sex, knew that his sexual partner became pregnant and had a child, and then did not pursue his paternity claim for eight years. Honestly, fuck that guy. If you don't pursu…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 03:00 AM
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I'd love to see the actual context for ANY of those quotes. Fucking Daily Mail.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 09:50 PM
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Roseanne Barr is literally crazy. She's mentally ill. I do not let that fact destroy my enjoyment of her excellent sitcom.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 06:18 PM
2

Your lawyer thinks you are going to get primary physical custody of a newborn in Texas? Does your soon-to-be-ex wife smoke crack? Is she shacked up with a felon? I'm not saying you don't deserve to raise your child, I'm just worried that a shyster is bullshitting you to extract maximum money.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 04:35 PM
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It'a a very marginal situation, but what the authorities are supposed to do in such situations is line up support services fmto help the struggling parent. This guy needs a subsidized apartment, food stamps, a mentor for his daughter, etc.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 01:22 PM
3

Ah yes, Russian women, famous though the ages for their piety and chastity. HAVE YOU EVER MET A RUSSIAN WOMAN?
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:52 AM
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Thank you for clarifying. I live in a town with a large evangelical college, many of their graduates marry at age 22. It's considered entirely normal. But the women don't wear purdah, that's no longer considered normal. If that's very important to you, you need to go talk to the Mennonites.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:48 AM
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B'nai mitzvah has never been the age of adulthood. It was/is the age when you were old enough to be responsible for obeying Jewish law. When an 8th grader eats a ham sandwich, we can't blame his parents, it's his own fault.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:44 AM
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Hi. I'm a nonreligious feminist Jewish woman who is very happy as a homeschooling mother (but very grateful to be employable if for some reason my husband was no longer able to provide). Step one: cool your jets, you are 17 years old. Step two: if you really want a wife who covers herself in a bolt of cloth, join a Mennonite church and court a woman from that community. Step three: cool your jets, you are 17 years old.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:38 AM
1

Voat has made antisemitism kewl.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:28 AM
2

While I'm sure you can find this somewhere in the Torah, this is not a practice that even the craziest of modern Jews follows. Just like even the craziest of modern gentiles have retired the rack and the strappado.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:27 AM
0

"Sympathetic female views" are not out of place in this subreddit. MRAs are not unsympathetic to females who live in actual patriarchal cultures.
/r/MensRights14/02/16 12:21 AM
3

I've always believed that the pendulum would swing away from gender feminism.
/r/MensRights13/02/16 01:53 PM
1

People say that in relationship books all the time. They're usually targeted at the evangelical market, but in America, that's a pretty big market. I Googled the first line of this book excerpt and what came up was The Rules (a shitty tradcon series of relationship manuals) and a website called The Veil of Chastity (fundie dating advice). But I think this book is actually a totally mainstream dating guide. Women who want to marry, as opposed to simply hooking up, are more likely to find a husban…
/r/MensRights13/02/16 01:46 PM
1

You think that's weird? One of my buddies is a libertarian antichoicer. Not just somebody who is personally pro-life - he actively lobbies the federal government to make laws about what other people can do with their bodies. Politics makes strange bedfellows - sometimes within an individual brain, apparently.
/r/MensRights13/02/16 01:24 PM
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If my other choice is not having a family... fuck it, roll out the barrel.
/r/MensRights13/02/16 03:54 AM
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It's the long-term planner who do best in the divorce wars, no doubt.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 08:35 PM
1

She says she's bi and enjoys PIV. I have no reason to doubt that, lots of women are bi and enjoy PIV. Either way, she's a terrible communicator and probably no fun in the sack for either men or women.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 08:32 PM
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I'm really sorry that you had to do that. Hopefully this situation will get resolved enough eventually that you can go back to using it for your medical issues.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 08:31 PM
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I am a socialist, but I generally enjoy the company of libertarians. They tend to have their shit together - which is one of the reasons they can be libertarians.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:44 PM
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If she accuses you of drug use, absolutely.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:42 PM
3

That's just not realistic. Even female parents have trouble getting permission to take the kid out of state at the time of the divorce.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:41 PM
2

Apparently letting my Cosmo subscription lapse in 1998 was a sound notion.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:40 PM
1

She's bisexual. She totally belongs in a conversation about PIV sex - but why the hell is she having it with the Internet instead of with the guy she went to bed with? This sounds like a pretty boring, unsatisfying sexual encounter. It's OK to give that feedback. But maybe not in blog form?
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:33 PM
1

Advocates in SC have been working on this for a long time, and their literature does not indicate that they are primarily concerned with female alimony payers.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:30 PM
2

I know plenty of pro-gun feminists. Some of them I'd even call "gunsplainers." They tend to be libertarians.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:27 PM
1

Seriously? Did she try it? Were you surprised?
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:26 PM
2

All excellent advice. Given your situation, you might even be able to get the Big Father's Rights attorney in TX to take you on pro bono, or at least turf you to one of his acolytes in the appropriate county.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:17 PM
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Is it illegal in your state? If so, STOP USING IT IMMEDIATELY. If you fail a piss test, you might even lose visitation rights. I have personally seen this happen, argued against it to the judge, and been totally ignored. Go get a gallon of water, NOW, and start drinking it.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:14 PM
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Buying the house when she thought she might want a divorce was pretty ridiculous. But disability often leads to divorce, especially permanent disability that happens when the couple is young. It's not "hypergamy" or female nature or whatever other nonsense. Men do it too. We, as human beings, have one life to live, and some of us can't face being tied to a disabled person forever.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:12 PM
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Irrelevant to the custody issue. Is she a fit parent? Are you a fit parent? That's all that matters. In some states, however, adultery IS relevant to the financial settlements. You could wind up getting alimony or a larger share of the marital estate, and that would be huge in terms of helping you stay in the area rather than going to live with your mother. You do need to think about the resources available in your current location and your mother's hometown. Do you need help with ADLs that your…
/r/MensRights12/02/16 07:08 PM
1

Grow up. This poster was complaining about a social change (free and compulsory schooling) that dramatically improved the lives of every non-wealthy child in the UK. Is it perfect? No. But working to improve outcomes for schoolboys in the UK is a great area of activism, whereas criticizing Winston Churchill for democratizing literacy is a the whining of a spoiled (yet literate) child.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 05:12 PM
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That would have been your perogative, but my dad seems happy with that path he chose. Of course, he really truly wanted the vasectomy, so the issue was medical-procedure panic. He's very brave about most things, but not that.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 05:04 PM
1

That's why you need to read the WHOLE post.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 01:35 AM
1

Try reading my whole post.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 01:21 AM
2

Mine is anecdotal, but any opinion on this issue must necessarily be anecdotal. No sociologists are studying this issue. I live in the Bible Belt, and I work in the court system, and I am relaying to you my observation that Jeebus-freak DAs and judges love to persecute homosexuals, and that the knowledge that they will be overruled in higher courts does not diminish the pleasure they take in their bullying.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 01:12 AM
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You've clearly never dealt with an evangelical DA. They will do it just to punish gay people, because Jeebus hates gay people. They will do it for FUN, and drag it out as long as possible, hoping that the circuit court judges are also Jeebus freaks.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 12:56 AM
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You could, but it won't be "simple" and meanwhile your whole life is turned upside down and you are the poster child for buttfucking.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 12:38 AM
1

I know an awful lot of women who would also prefer to work with their hands in natural light. Some make it happen by becoming farmers or animal trainers or glassblowers or carpenters. Most of them are sitting in cubicles next to equally miserable men.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 10:46 PM
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Fuck the guy who fought as hard as any man could against both Hitler and illiteracy? Calm down. The poor people in Churchill's generation lived in a state of degradation that you can hardly imagine. You are incredibly lucky to live in a society that insists you not be used as a mule until you've had a chance to develop the ability to make a living outside of a coal mine. You probably also enjoy not sleeping in the same room as your livestock. That said, the UK's educational system could certainl…
/r/MensRights11/02/16 10:39 PM
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This is a WEIRD case. Not the part where a girl from a broken home is easy pickings for predators, but the extreme youth and apparent normalcy of the sociopathic killers. Chilling. Honest to God, one of the reasons we do the SAHP thing is so our kids don't have any need of cell phones. Stories like this make me want to move to a deserted island with no Internet service until they are all of age.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 10:28 PM
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Anybody who says "I'm taking MY child" and walks out without the consent of the other parent is a kidnapper. Female kidnappers are far, far more likely to avoid prosecution than male kidnappers, but that doesn't somehow make it better when men do it or threaten to do it. Fleeing an abusive relationship sometimes requires extralegal action to keep your children safe, we all understand that. But "no sex until you get snipped" is not abuse. It might be a reason to initiate a divorce, but it's not a…
/r/MensRights11/02/16 08:17 PM
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I heard, years after the fact, that my father made an appointment for a vasectomy and then fled from the waiting room TWICE. My mother went on sex strike and he managed to keep his third appointment by bringing along a close friend who had promised not to let him flee again. and was very, very happy with the ease of recovery and the end of birth control worries. Having seen my dad in the waiting room of the dentist's office, I can only imagine what he was like at the urologist. Twenty-five years…
/r/MensRights11/02/16 07:28 PM
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Yes, and drunk sex is considered rape. Let's not hop on that crazy train.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 07:20 PM
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Yes, how appropriate, threatening to kidnap your shared children.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 07:18 PM
2

Jesus Christ.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 12:07 AM
3

Look at the other comments in this thread. People are pointing put that confidence and having your shit together are natural aphrodisiacs, successfully employed by smart and geeky men... but still recommending scummy PUA tricks rather than genuinely working on yourself so that you, too, may be a confident man who has his shit together. Does that make sense to you? Who would you rather be with, a woman who selects confident men who have their shit together, or a woman who selects men who treat he…
/r/MensRights11/02/16 12:05 AM
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I think it's an issue where reasonable people can disagree, but I feel strongly about PUBLIC slagging of the ex. Vent to your friends. Vent to your family. Every rando who follows you on Twitter doesn't need to know that you now despise the person you made a child with. And I think that goes double for celebrities. Now, talking about unjust custody and child support rulings is NOT slagging your ex. It's no criticism of the other parent to point out that you'd prefer to be treated equally in fami…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 09:21 PM
2

It's almost like trashy people are attracted to their own kind ;-)
/r/MensRights10/02/16 08:55 PM
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Great read, thanks. It is hard to tell if this is performance or not, creating a psychic uncanny valley not dissimilar to the effect of Donald Trump's... Exactly. I would attend an event held by this guy just for the chance to figure out if he's a smart person putting us on or an idiot who really means it.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 07:40 PM
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No. Decent people do not slag their child's other parent on social media, period.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 07:21 PM
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To be fair, complaining (publicly, of course!) because somebody took a picture of a guy pushing his girlfriend's kid in a stroller is also pretty spiteful. Being stupidly hostile to the new girlfriend/boyfriend is textbook assholery. These people ALL need to keep a lid on their family drama.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 07:19 PM
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I thought your therapist told you to stop posting here ;-) Seriously, you need to get some perspective. There's a lot of good wives and mothers out there, and I'm one of them. We disagree on this issue, that's all.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 06:15 PM
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No, my point was that "even the parade-throwing girl can easily get her point across if she changes her mind." Consent, no matter how recently or enthusiastically given, is not difficult to withdraw unless you are dealing with an actual rapist. Men are not stupid, not are they uncontrolled beasts. Saying "no" WORKS. But you gotta say it. And if there is a he-said she-said situation where the only other evidence is 15 witnesses that saw you trot merrily off to have sex, then you have no case unle…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 06:12 PM
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You're conflating proof and belief. I might be less likely to believe that a girl who just threw a "consent to getting plowed parade" changed her mind than a girl who I didn't see leave the party, but in the latter case, there is the possibility that somebody else at the party saw her being dragged/carried out in a state of extreme intoxication - and at that point, you might well have a solid rape case on your hands. My point was, even the parade-throwing girl can easily get her point across if …
/r/MensRights10/02/16 03:24 PM
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Cases like that are why family court judges need to be able to exercise discretion. But if her husband has made megabucks all these years and is now close to retirement age, honestly, she doesn't need alimony. She can take her half of the marital estate and live comfortably for the rest of her life. The problem comes with long-term marriages where the labor has been divided traditionally and the husband has NOT earned megabucks. You end up with two impoverished old people working past retirement…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 03:13 PM
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Most of the cases I work award "temporary spousal support" in much the way you describe - as an aid to transitioning SAHPs back into the workforce. But I work with poor folks. Time to expand this practice to divorcing couples in higher income brackets.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 03:11 PM
1

I was in high school when "Reality Bites" and "Singles' were in theaters. So, Bridget Fonda, Winona Ryder, Kate Moss on the runway... and part of it, of course, was being a stupid teenager who selected the women she looked least like and decided that they were the best-looking girls. No gentleman caller ever indicated that he'd prefer me more flat-chested and narrow-hipped.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 02:46 PM
1

... but the hot ones are OK?
/r/MensRights10/02/16 01:59 PM
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It doesn't make it unlikely that you can get your "no" across if you change your mind, but it DOES make it unlikely that you'll be able to prove rape.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 01:56 PM
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Judges get lied to a LOT. I think some of them reach a point where they just assume that every guy who stands in front of them explaining that he's had an involuntary reduction in his earning power is trying to take them for a ride. Which is pretty much insane, given the economic situation of the past decade.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 09:23 AM
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Most men are. Hell, most FGM victims go on to lead what they perceive as entirely normal lives and don't give their mutilation much thought at all. I've heard of several cases over the years where researchers claim to have detected long-term alterations in brain activity following circumcision. I think it's possible, but no proper study has been done.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 09:14 AM
3

It seems so simple. Home is a place where children and elders should be safe and protected, true. No family should ever be required to send all its potential homemakers off to war. Why the hell we would assign the role of homemaker solely on the basis of sex mystifies me.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 01:19 AM
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Well, we can't change our boob size without surgery or uncomfortable garments, and we can't change our hip-waist ratio at all without dramatically deviating from a healthy weight in one direction or another. I grew up in the Waif Era wishing I looked liked Winona Ryder and thinking (incorrectly) that I was fat. But I'll say this... none of my male peers objected to tits and ass. That was a fashion thing, not a sexual thing.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 01:13 AM
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http://greatist.com/grow/100-years-womens-body-image
/r/MensRights09/02/16 09:42 PM
1

How so? Men hardly have a lock on the sex pest business. I'm indifferent to other people's sexual behavior, as long as they aren't obnoxious to those around them.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 08:59 PM
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Some people are liars, some people are cheaters, some people are brawlers, some people are sex pests. It's OK to form opinions about an individual based on their behavior.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 06:34 PM
2

I'm fairly pleased with the "ideal" body types for both men and women these days. If everybody could look exactly that way, we'd hardly call it "ideal" - but a healthy young person can approximate the look just by giving their body the healthy food and regular exercise required to maximize their fertility and longevity.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 06:32 PM
1

I never tell people to emigrate because they disagree with Policy X or the current administration or whatever, because no government is perfect and we all have ties to our homelands that go beyond politics. But if I didn't want to live in a democracy - if my disagreement with the American system was that fundamental and profound - I really think I'd leave. I know exactly what a moral hazard is. I see it in action every day, when politicians from gerrymandered districts exert their stolen authori…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 06:23 PM
1

If you think that the right to vote should hinge on how much income tax a person pays, then you don't want to live in a democracy. Now, there are a lot of things MRAS could do to increase the male voting rate, such as reforming the laws that disenfranchise felons. But maybe those aren't the male voters you're looking for, since most of them don't pay a lot of income tax. The only moral hazard I see here is people who think that depriving their fellow citizens of the vote is a legitimate method o…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 05:25 PM
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... who had invited her over for a booty call, and who had made no public complaint about getting the sex he asked for. ETA: I loathe Amy Schumer. I'm not defending her as a human being. I'm defending adult, as opposed to SJW, standards of consent.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 11:49 AM
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Yes, by all means, let's seek to EXPAND the application of the SJW definition of rape.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 11:47 AM
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Waaaaaaaah. Female citizens have the franchise, and they exercise it at a higher rate than male citizens, it's not faaaaaaaaair... ... this is a particularly asinine response to the issue of legal paternal surrender. Do you think male voters are more sympathetic as a group to men who want to legally detach themselves from their offspring? Not that I've noticed. An individual voter's stance on legal paternal surrender seems almost entirely dependent on whether the problem of forced fatherhood has…
/r/MensRights09/02/16 11:43 AM
1

I suggest you raise your standards for personal relationships. If you feel the need to "make it clear that you will defend yourself," physically, you're dating an asshole. All couples argue. Couples in healthy relationships do it without fear for their physical safety.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 11:35 AM
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If you want to be with a woman who fears your physical strength, please stay the fuck away from women until you work that out in therapy. If you want to be with a woman who doesn't hit you because she knows it's wrong... then best of luck to you, that's what all sane men want. Incidentally, most of the bad IPV I deal with involves extremely "traditional" couples. Don't glamorize that toxic culture.
/r/MensRights09/02/16 03:49 AM
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Here's the thing, though - even if there was no risk of permanent damage to the body from delaying puberty, blocking the hormones disrupts the normal development of the brain. If you're in suspended animation as a sexual being from ages 13-16, I'd argue that you're in no fit state to determine if the butch/femme lifestyle is inadequate to your needs, or if you really need to fuck up your body in order to find peace inside your mind. Not that it will work - the suicide rate among transsexuals is …
/r/MensRights08/02/16 09:37 PM
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That's my understanding. No judge is going to force a parent who is the primary caregiver for a seriously disabled child to live without spousal support. That's an edge case.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 08:38 PM
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There's no amount on money that can restore your natural height, your fertility, or your bone density. How long, I wonder, before people under the age of 18 are allowed to hack off their balls if they convince their parents and a shrink that they are "really" girls? I have no hate in my heart for people who wish to dress and act in the manner sterotypically associated with the opposite sex. But people who encourage physically healthy children to damage their bodies as a way to treat a mental hea…
/r/MensRights08/02/16 08:27 PM
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It starts as normal for (most) females. Males who deprive their bodies of testosterone during adolescence risk short stature, subnormal bone density, permanently feminized features, and permanent infertility.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 02:22 PM
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If you were old enough to see the explosion in transgender "diagnoses," you'd be suspicious too. The butch and the femme have always been with us. Encouraging them from childhood to take powerful drugs that destroy their fertility and hack up their genitals so that they can have their biological sex legally reassigned is a new thing. I believe in gender dysphoria. I also believe in ADHD. The human brain is unbelievably complex, screwups happen, and we have to find ways to deal kindly and fairly …
/r/MensRights08/02/16 02:19 PM
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Solution: vote in a new government. Politicians of all stripes aren't generally thrilled to fund programs that help poor people defend their legal rights. The populace has to insist.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:44 PM
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Agreed, but do it PRIVATELY. You've raised him, he's your son no matter what, but if it became known that you got the test it might be used as a way to sever your legal relationship. Also, when you get to the point of snatching other people's phones and reading their journals, it's time to separate. Stop plowing money into your wife's future. Tell her you will assume all financial responsibility for your child and be the primary caregiver so that she can get a job to pay for her tuition and livi…
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:41 PM
1

Ah. In American family court, you appear with your attorney and your attorney does all the talking for you (unless you take the stand). Even so, nobody should be walking into court in the UK to deal with something as important as child custody without having first discussed their case with an expert.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 12:38 PM
2

Because we pay more in the end by allowing poor people to go into family court without competent representation.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 11:10 PM
2

I have a friend who avoids hiring women because of a (blantantly, demonstratably, indubitably) false accusation of sexual harassment that caused huge problems in his small organization. My husband is also a software engineer, and works with a lot of women, and has not had any serious issues related to gender politics. He does think that women who can't handle vigorous criticism of their ideas do not thrive on the typical development team - but that's equally true of wimpy men.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 10:22 PM
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Solution: give everybody going through the family court system a public lawyer unless they specifically reject that help and appear with a private attorney.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 10:13 PM
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Get outta here with your logic and reason ;-)
/r/MensRights07/02/16 10:07 PM
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It was a girl passing as a boy, being harassed by a teacher who doesn't know when to avoid making a shitty situation worse.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 10:07 PM
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Oh, those are really important details. If she was able to leverage the house into an income source AND the government provided some support due to the special needs child, she should have been able to survive on those income sources.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 08:36 PM
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One kid getting cancer, one kid with Downs Syndrome, and one kid rehabbing from opiate addiction are probably not bad reasons to seek to modify a divorce settlement. Since she was solely responsible for the children's care, I can see how it might have proved impossible to hold down a job with all that going on. EDIT: She had other income sources (a rental apartment and the Canadian version of SSI.) She didn't need to take him back to court to survive. It WAS ethically bankrupt.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 08:34 PM
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...I'm never ever going near a baby's diaper. Most people feel just a little bit uncomfortable announcing that they plan to be unfit caregivers. Even if you don't have kids yourself, do you really plan to let your young relatives sit in their own shit because you're too goddamned dainty to wipe an ass? Are you also too dainty to care for your aging parents? Another newsflash: your loved ones don't see your affection as offensive, so who gives a fuck what "the world thinks" about it? Grow a backb…
/r/MensRights07/02/16 01:40 PM
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If you want Indian women to desist from sex selection in their pregnancies, then get to work fixing Indian culture so that having a daughter before you have a son is a rational choice for an Indian women to make.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 12:51 PM
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Well, people certainly had the "idea" that recreational sex without fear of unwanted pregnancy was, like, far out, man.
/r/MensRights07/02/16 12:46 PM
1

If your sister wants to raise her kids rather than having a daycare raise them, she's right to hold out for marriage. That's the only way she can secure her stake in the household fortunes if she leaves the paid workforce . Her boyfriend is free to refuse to marry her... and she's free to find another guy who thinks having a family is worth the risk. Your sister probably loves her bf even more than she loves you... but she also loves herself and her potential children, and she'd be a fool not to…
/r/MensRights07/02/16 02:25 AM
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My husband said that he was willing to take the risk of paying money to a hated ex in exchange for the probability of a lifelong, fruitful marriage. I don't think most men who get married consider the issue that closely, though. I don't mind people taking risks, but it makes me very uncomfortable when I think they don't know the risks.
/r/MensRights06/02/16 10:10 PM
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Absolutely. But it's not necessary. You sister and her husband already know that your role in their daughters' lives is decided by them. If they didn't want you around their kids, you wouldn't be coming around their kids. You seem to understand that, so wherein lies your problem with me? Aunts and uncles can be a wonderful part of a child's life. My own children have very involved aunts and uncles on both sides. But the guy who posted this idiocy - "she loves me more than her" and "when she grow…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 08:41 PM
2

There is a great deal of FGM being performed in England. Your government is fighting the good fight, but FGM, like first-trimester abortion, can be safely done by any trained person who doesn't mind breaking the law for a hefty fee.
/r/MensRights06/02/16 05:53 PM
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That might be what he meant, but it's not what he said. He doesn't "have to" do a single thing for any children other than his own. If he's asked by the parents to be involved in raising their child, as the OP of this thread has been asked, then he may well have to deal will the kind of bullshit the OP had to deal with, and that's wrong. But it's also wrong to assume that you have the right to a relationship with other people's children. None of my brothers or brothers-in-law are the kind of twi…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 05:07 PM
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Parental rights aren't a matter of opinion. This deluded guy thinks he will "have to play a bigger rule" in his niece's life as she grows up. That's nuts. It's neither his right nor his obligation to be involved with somebody else's child, even if that child is a member of his extended family. If this child doesn't have a father in her life, and her uncle wants to do his best to fill that void, then I applaud him - but that's an offer that his sister is free to refuse or accept, as she thinks be…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 02:30 PM
2

This is a huge area of interest for me, as we live on a single income so that our children can be homeschooled. (There are other benefits, but that's the big one now that they are all school-aged.) Real wages have indeed declined over the past 50 years, but IMO that's not what is stopping the middle class from living the one-income lifestyle. We just consume so much more than our grandparents did - starting with the square feet per person and the number of bedrooms and bathrooms in the average h…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 11:53 AM
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She uses the Uber app to request a driver. If that car was not the driver assigned to the pickup, it was an attempted abduction. I have a couple of friends who let their older kids use Uber routinely. I knew this shit was going to happen eventually - a teenager, standing at the same place at the same time a couple of days per week, meeting a different Uber car each time... it's a pervert's dream come true.
/r/MensRights06/02/16 11:36 AM
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FGM is most effectively fought at the grassroots level - therapy for victims is the best way to prevent another generation of victims. A mother who has worked through her own trauma, and internalized that fact that FGM is not socially required for females to have a respectable life in Britain, will be far more likely to resist the pressure to have her daughters mutilated. Would services for mutilated men also be useful? Yes, but they'd look a lot different. With FGM, the goal is to heal the vict…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 11:15 AM
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No matter the age or sex of the target, impersonating an Uber driver and trying to persuade a stranger to get into your car under false pretenses is miles and miles beyond "mild sexual harassment." It's attempted abduction.
/r/MensRights06/02/16 11:08 AM
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The whole situation was absolutely ludicrous. If you are on the pickup list, you are on the pickup list. (I'm assuming you are in the USA.) The way this situation was escalated by the principal was insane. I have a male babysitter, and he always carries a signed and dated note from me when he does pickups, but has never had any problems. He does go into the office/dance studio/wherever and introduce himself if he hasn't picked up there in a while, to give the staff a chance to look him up if the…
/r/MensRights06/02/16 11:03 AM
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I'm sorry, what? You have some very skewed perceptions about your role as an uncle. Essentially - you don't have one unless your sibling wants you to have one. You have no right to be around your niece. If you want the privilege of a relationship with her, then grow the fuck up. I'm sure she loves you, but if she loves you more than her mother that's actually a huge problem and your sister needs to get her shit together and work on fixing her relationship with her child. If you love your neice, …
/r/MensRights06/02/16 10:53 AM
2

You're both wrong. We are not a nation of cucks, and we should not all crawl into a corner and die alone and without offspring. Women will give up alimony when alimony laws have hurt enough women - either directly because they are the payor, or indirectly because their husband is the payor to a previous wife.
/r/MensRights06/02/16 02:05 AM
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They did a similar thing with nonwhite applicants in several major cities in the USA (both fire and police) - and applications from nonwhites did increase. But there was a complicating factor of extreme racism and nepotism at play there (the "Irish Mafia," i.e. good luck being considered for the job if you don't have an uncle on the force to recommend you), and I couldn't say if there is a similar issue among Australian firefighters.
/r/MensRights05/02/16 06:49 PM
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Preach, sister. Not only do I not have to worry about losing my kids or being stuck with the bill for a child I don't want, I can also provide that same security to another human being just by honoring my marriage vows.
/r/MensRights04/02/16 09:56 PM
1

It's not really to do with any modern gender-rights issues, IMO. Neolithic humans formed tribal societies - groups where every adult member knew every other adult member personally. Women who managed to survive their childbearing years always did reasonably well in such groups. Patriarchy was a later invention.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 07:50 PM
1

I've been saying it for years. While no amendment can change a culture with the stroke of the President's pen, the ERA would be a huge step forward for egalitarianism. And my homegirl Alice Paul knew that.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 01:51 AM
1

You and I (and my husband) are in the same age cohort. Horrible things have happened to you. Great things have happened to us. All of our experiences are anecdotal, and none of them would imply that OP is "spot on" with his misogynistic screed.
/r/MensRights03/02/16 01:23 AM
1

No contact in over a year? That's grounds for terminating her parental rights. Fuck the money. Get this bitch legally detached from your daughter so that your daughter has the chance (if you are lucky enough to meet the right woman) at having a real mother someday. ETA: even if you are absolutely certain that you will never meet a woman who you want as your daughter's mother, pursue the TPR. If you die tomorrow, your ex gets your child. You need to address that.
/r/MensRights02/02/16 10:56 PM
2

Adopt. No, seriously. It's better for a kid to have two parents, but there is some kid out there with ZERO parents who deserves all the kindness the world can show him. Meanwhile, you have a pile of cash and the only thing that makes you truly happy is taking care of your family. Time to enlarge that family :-)
/r/MensRights02/02/16 10:46 PM
5

Came here to say this. Andrea Peyser is, IMO, a total asshole, but some of the nicest people I have ever met, with seemingly perfect ethics in every other aspect of adult/child relations, are absolutely nuts on the subject of the bris. They grew up seeing it done, they had it done themselves or their husband has it done and they enjoy a good sex life, their adored parents and grandparents who have led them on a wise path their whole lives want it done, and they will not hear reason on this subje…
/r/MensRights02/02/16 11:42 AM
4

Same thing happened at my husband's old place of work. You got a month's paid leave any time in the first two years after the birth/adoption. The guys who took it at a convenient time for their team and went on a cycling trip or whatever were lauded. The guys who took it when their child was born and actually did some full-time parenting were looked down on. Insanity.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 08:54 PM
1

At what point? The point where the two parents can't agree on screen time and dietary choices and spanking? Hell, married parents often have extreme disagreements on those issues. Calling in somebody from the government to make the decisions for you is an extreme solution.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 08:49 PM
1

True, the execution of the law may still be sexist. But in my state, the actual laws are explicitly sexist, and it makes my work very difficult sometimes. I'd love to be able to tell a social worker that they were violating the law by refusing equal acoomodation to single fathers and women with older male children.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 08:45 PM
6

Not as weird as siccing Child Services on your child's other parent for behavior that isn't actually illegal. Children deserve to be raised in an intact family, no question about it. Even in the case of divorce, good parents manage to negotiate shared rules on the important stuff. But when people absolutely CAN'T get their shit together to coparent, but are otherwise fit and loving in their own ways, the best you can do is insist that they don't try to dictate what goes on in the other parent's …
/r/MensRights01/02/16 05:39 PM
1

The DC Municipal Code only offers their individual sections as PDF downloads. Basically, any homeless person in DC has the right to a bed, and any homeless family has the right to first priority in family shelters - the gender of the parent/grandparent/guardian and the age and gender of the children are immaterial. As laws go, DC is doing all right. Their implementation is shitty - the motel thing is a colossal waste of resources - but at least they're trying. A homeless dad in my state has no p…
/r/MensRights01/02/16 05:34 PM
1

Men, including single fathers, are explicitly allowed to participate in the DC motel program. There were just no men interviewed for this article.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 01:06 PM
1

Her oldest child has a different father than her three youngest. The father of her three youngest children watched the others while she gave birth to the baby, and provides in-kind support (diapers, clothes, etc.) I'm thinking endemic poverty is the bigger problem here, for this particular woman and man.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 01:04 PM
1

It's not involuntary, it's not undesired, and it's not a sacrifice. The entire premise is flawed.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 12:44 PM
9

It's more common than you'd think :-( But "more common than you'd think" is still extremely rare, which is why I rage so hard when people say "call Child Services" when a poster complains (here and elsewhere) that their ex feeds the kid too much junk, doesn't monitor electronics usage, spanks etc. No. Call Child Services when the kid has hammer marks on them or comes to school filthy every day. If that's not happening to your kid, thank God for it and stop trying to make rules for households oth…
/r/MensRights01/02/16 12:36 PM
1

That article raises an interesting point, which I suspect is also applicable in my state. At a recent training (I'm training to be my state's version of a custodial evaluator), there was a lot of attention paid to Parental Alienation Syndrome, false accusations, etc. It was really encouraging to see that side of things not being ignored by the panel of judges, attorneys and psychologists who were training us. The world is starting to wake up to these problems. ... but when somebody asked a quest…
/r/MensRights01/02/16 12:24 PM
0

That's the thing, though - I also think lacrosse is bullshit, but if it's an activity the kid truly loves and excels at that one parent thinks is not worth the time and expense, the other parent can explicitly take ownership of that and have the courts back them up. As I said above, you have to see how it works out in practice. Maybe it will be even worse than the current setup. But I doubt it.
/r/MensRights31/01/16 10:29 PM
4

Exactly. That argument should no longer work unless the party making the argument comes from a throwback social subgroup. Both men and women who belong to such groups can reasonably claim coercion in circumstances that you and I would not find coercive in the slightest
/r/MensRights31/01/16 08:07 PM
1

IMO, it's better than the current system in most states, where the parent with primary physical custody makes all those decisions by default. When you give the opposing parties 17 different things to prioritize, you find out very quickly who care most about lacrosse and who cares most about having a bar mitzvah. Those are good things to find out - because the parent who cares the most abput Topic X is typically the one who is best suited to take point on it. There are going to be issued with fun…
/r/MensRights31/01/16 07:38 PM
4

That wouldn't have been necessary. The judge could have accepted the argument that an unmarried pregnant woman was placed under duress when the only way to spare her child the stigma of bastardy was to sign a legal agreement that was against her own interests. I'm sure that her lawyers advanced this argument. But in the 21st century, it's not an argument that the courts should accept unless the parties belong to a social subgroup where bastardy is a huge, huge deal. And most rich people do not b…
/r/MensRights31/01/16 07:32 PM
10

The courts in every state have been totally clear that unconscionable prenups and prenups signed under duress will be tossed out. Everybody with a good lawyer goes in knowing this - which is why this rich guy's lawyers advised him to provide housing at the level his children were accustomed to for as long as they were underage. Having his fiancée sign the agreement while pregnant was a risk, but she didn't persuade a judge that she was under duress, and that's what you get for not taking respons…
/r/MensRights31/01/16 04:49 PM
1

Exactly. A ROLE. She is PRETEND, and it's stupid to be angry that an adolescent male played her originally, or that non-white women sometimes play her now. It's fiction/legend. Such things alter as the culture that created them alters.
/r/MensRights31/01/16 04:41 PM
0

I'm offended too, when they want to make James Bond black or Ghandi white or Martin Luther King white. Black James Bond (and female Jesus and female Thor and transsexual Mohammed) are reimaginings of legendary fictional characters. Shakespeare's Lady Macbeth was originally played by a male actor, are you offended when females play the role in modern productions? Gandhi and MLK were real people who lived quite recently, I can see how it would be weird to do cross-racial or cross-gender casting fo…
/r/MensRights31/01/16 01:49 PM
2

You never know how these things will work out in practice, but on paper, it seems like an improvement to me.
/r/MensRights31/01/16 01:39 PM
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Actually, the notion that alimony should be tied to the relationship status of the receiving party predates the modern feminist movement. In this day and age, it's beyond stupid to for the courts to assume that 1) a nondisabled woman cannot support herself or 2) that her new boyfriend/husband is willing or able to support her. I've dealt with a couple of men who ended up in family court because they violated their divorce settlements (one had agreed to pay alimony for 3 years, one for 5) when th…
/r/MensRights30/01/16 10:36 PM
1

Unless you are Genghis Khan and can implement the strategy on a continental scale, rape is a TERRIBLE method of passing on your genes. None of your victims is likely to conceive, and each act of rape exposes you to the risk of getting caught. In a developed society, you go to jail and your victim (if she wasn't using birth control, and most of us are) aborts the fetus. In a primitive society, you get executed and your victim is sometimes killed, sometimes ostracized, sometimes married off to a l…
/r/MensRights30/01/16 08:22 PM
1

I worry more about the BMI of a theoretical future conscription pool than I do about their genitalia. Hell, most of them might be so fat that only the doctors conducting the draft physicals are 100% sure of their biological sex.
/r/MensRights30/01/16 08:08 PM
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Most military jobs are not combat jobs, and simply require you to be smart enough to learn new skills and dumb enough to be willing to submit to a regimented existence. Typical, non-Sarah-Connor women can definitely be useful in a draft situation, and they should be required to make themselves available for conscription. ETA: not running down successful soldiers at all. I am nowhere near too smart to flub it as a cog in the military machine, and that was even more true when I was draft age.
/r/MensRights30/01/16 03:12 AM
5

Harper Lee is female.
/r/MensRights29/01/16 05:43 PM
-4

Some men.
/r/MensRights29/01/16 05:38 PM
1

I agree. Short Barbie, fine. A Barbie who looks like a heavily photoshopped obese person? No thanks.
/r/MensRights29/01/16 01:17 PM
1

Bang on. Beyond the baby/toddler stage, which can be legitimately awful when you've got multiple kids, it's just not hard to be a decent SAHP. Not perfect, not Donna Reed, but also not a frazzled mess who needs immediate help when the working spouse walks in the door. Simultaneously, if my husband can work American entrepreneurial hours and still take point on sports and backyard physics and algebra homework and Manly Movie Night (Daughters Also Welcome), a person working 40 hours a week in an o…
/r/MensRights28/01/16 10:26 PM
1

You're right. I got pissed off and sunk to his level, and that wasn't constructive.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 09:59 PM
2

There's nothing to get. Thatcher was a hawk, yes. Gandhi and Meir both assumed office at a time and place when ANY leader was going to have to be agressive as hell or get their handed to them. The gender of a leader just isn't significant compared to the geopolitical situation they inherit.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 08:09 PM
2

The arc of the moral universe is long... but I think we're about to hit that downward bend towards justice on the issue of alimony. Equal custody, which is even more important to most men who have children under 18, is going to take longer. But it's coming.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 06:52 PM
2

Internet safety (and IRL safety) conversations are very important. Despite many such convos, we still caught our son inadvertently giving out details in a game chatroom that could absolutely have been used by a remotely intelligent pervert to know what he looked like and where he was on a given day at a given time IRL. If we didn't have a keystroke logger on the kids' machine, we never would have known unless we had happened to look over his shoulder while he was playing this very innocuous game…
/r/MensRights28/01/16 02:28 PM
2

Agreed, some parents really need to get their heads out if their asses... and realize that their children are carrying a computer in their pockets that can be used for dangerous, unethical and illegal purposes, and that allowing them to have such a device without proper supervision is neglectful :-) That said, obviously you can't keep an iPhone that belongs to somebody else and not expect to eventually get hauled into court for theft. But his offense was against his ex, the owner of the phone, n…
/r/MensRights28/01/16 12:08 PM
3

We have no idea how she reacted to the initial discipline. All we know is how she reacted when her ex refused for months on end to return an expensive electronic item that she had purchased for their child's use.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 12:01 PM
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I come into this sub because I'm an actual Men's Rights Activist. Journalists read this sub. When knuckle-dragging buffonery like this gets upvoted, it makes us all look bad. Think about it for a second. This shithead referred to two elite female athletes as "grunting pseudo-males." Currently, fourteen other shitheads have upvoted his comment. That doesn't embarrass you? You don't have a problem with somebody who is new to the MRM, or who is covering the MRM for a media outlet, scrolling through…
/r/MensRights28/01/16 11:50 AM
0

An inverted heart is a fairly nice shape for a female derriere ;-)
/r/MensRights28/01/16 03:31 AM
-14

No, just revolted. There's not much real sexism that the average Western woman has to put up with in her daily life, but female athletes are stuck with a never-ending parade of creeps like you.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 03:29 AM
-44

Wow. WOW. You're damaged goods.
/r/MensRights28/01/16 01:41 AM
1

When none of the adults involved is a violent or a druggie, there are ALWAYS better alternatives than than going through the legal system. The most common thing I hear from clients of the non-violent, non-druggie variety is that they wish they had sorted their shit out between themselves rather than going to family court, because they both spent money and wound up with a solution imposed by an old guy (or gal) in a robe who had never even met the child and certainly didn't love them.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 10:57 PM
1

I understand your concerns, and I share them, but I really urge your friend to do some unofficial investigating before he drags the State of Oklahoma into this clusterfuck and winds up paying child support plus arrears. He should go there and meet the alternative caregiver. Lots of very decent people who aren't legally savvy never bother to draw up guardianship papers. It may well be that this individual, if he meets your friend and determines that he is really the father and not a psycho rapist…
/r/MensRights27/01/16 06:12 PM
1

That's how it works, but I cannot in good conscience advise a convicted rapist to go down this legal path unless he investigates the situation and determines that his (putative) child is in danger. He's not going to get the kid, and he IS going to get a child support order.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 06:07 PM
1

I agree - women can be every bit as stupid as men, it's almost like we're human beings first and gendered second! That doesn't mean it won't be a feminist and/or leftist group that finally gets this in front of SCOTUS. They did it a generation ago and lost. Next time, I think they'll win.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 06:05 PM
1

I'd have no problem with that, in this highly specific and unusual circumstance.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 03:21 PM
2

This is the sexist attitude that will keep the draft male-only until a feminist/leftist organization successfully fights it in court. I have large disagreements with all such groups, but they are the ones who are going to fix this. I have large problems with conscription as well, but it has to be a legal option in times of crisis.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:32 AM
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Calm the fuck down. Men are not being groped and raped at public events in Germany. This particular crime wave is comprised almost entirely of immigrant men targeting German-born women for sexual assault.
/r/MensRights27/01/16 01:20 AM
1

Bingo. If the alternative caregiver is unfit, then your friend has no choice but to roll the dice and hope to achieve a better outcome by getting the government involved. But if the alternative caregiver is a fit custodian and the child is loved and valued in their home, then a convicted rapist putative father is in no position to improve things. If he's not being assessed child support, he should stay far away. He won't get the kid, but he might very well get a child support bill. It's really t…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 10:32 PM
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MMORPG's are yet another category, IMO. There is the huge social element. Putting all these different groups with different tastes under the heading of "gamers" is fundamentally stupid. The PC guys aren't the "real" gamers, the smartphone jockeys aren't necessarily "casual" gamers, and the roleplayers aren't stock characters from The League. It's a big diverse world IRL, and it's a big diverse world online.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 06:46 PM
19

Constitutional Boot Camp for college presidents, deans and ombudspeople. Mmmmmmm.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 06:08 PM
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Most "gamers" of both sexes are "casual gamers" - they play Candy Crush and stuff on their phones, a little Mario Kart or Dance Dance Revolution with their friends, etc. I have no objection to such games, but they seem to me a very different thing than classic PC gaming. I play Civilization. Not obsessively, but consistently enough and for long enough that it's not a "casual" thing. I've enjoyed the addition of more female and nonwhite world leaders over the years - but I liked the older version…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 06:04 PM
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I love this guy. That's how you get action. No pandering to either side, no explaining how deeply you are opposed to sexual violence (because that goes without saying), just "You're fucking up at the Constitutional level. Unfuck yourselves or we'll hurt your pocketbooks for sure, this year rather than the Feds hurting them maybe, years from now."
/r/MensRights26/01/16 05:36 PM
1

Gennifer Flowers - liar or idiot? I have never been able to tell. She parlayed the story of an affair into a nice sum of money, which seems like the action of a smart-if-unscrupulous person... but damn if she hasn't always appeared to believe that a globally notorious philanderer had special feelings for her. Bill Clinton could give lessons to Don Juan.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 01:15 PM
1

Of course she will. This kind of attitude is incredibly common in first-time expectant parents of both sexes. Realizing your error BEFORE your child is born is actually getting off to a great start We've always had cases of "gender disappointment" with young parents. The fact that it is now a subject for books and articles and endless message board posts, rather than something a person talks about with their parents or grandparents or older sibling and has their delusion pointed out to them and …
/r/MensRights26/01/16 04:21 AM
0

No, no, don't you get it? Disagreeing with somebody's moronic ideology means that you HATE them PERSONALLY, not that you've examined their arguments and found them to be specious. Birds do. Bees do it. Little terpers in the treeees do it...
/r/MensRights26/01/16 04:02 AM
0

Sweetheart, nobody's trying to impress you. Why would I want to impress somebody who gets their knickers in a twist over an SNL skit? Life has a lot of dark spots. Human beings frequently treat each other in awful ways. You can let that give you an ulcer, or you can cultivate a sense of humor about it. Your call.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 03:54 AM
4

That's the case around here, for sure. (Source: younger, single friends.) They also tend to have a close personal relationship with Jesus, who has apparently told them that having multiple bastards is OK as long as they make sure to express sufficient scorn for homosexuals.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 01:55 PM
3

1) Title gore, no threats or stalking are alleged by the woman interviewed for this article 2) Daily Mail This is really gross. Tracking down a dying woman and making it sound as though she thought she might be Bill Clinton's one true love? (I doubt she believed any such thing, as she had the chance to observe his behavior over the next 40 years.) It's hardly news that Hillary Clinton has tolerated a lot of cheating from Bill. This is muckraking, not journalism.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 09:44 AM
0

No, he's saying that there is a large difference between statutory rape and forcible rape. It's mostly men who suffer when that difference is ellided.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 09:27 AM
0

Look up "magnanimity" - nobody's talking about that here. If anything, we're talking about the opposite set of traits. You may not share my dark sense of humor, but that doesn't mean you can't learn to use words properly :-)
/r/MensRights25/01/16 09:23 AM
1

I really don't. You and I may be very different people, but if you think I don't appreciate dark humor, you are not familiar with my posting history. For pete's sake, I upvoted a rape joke you made a couple of days ago where the punchline was "bacon."
/r/MensRights25/01/16 02:18 AM
1

My apologies. Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm is a character from a 19th-century children's book who is so relentlessly naive and cheerful in the face of completely shitty circumstances that she became a cultural trope. I have no idea what you mean about my interactions here. I am by no means a humorless poster.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 01:55 AM
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His cabinet is highly qualified. I wouldn't care if they were all white men. I don't care (and wouldn't even have noticed if there wasn't so much bitching about it) that half of them are women. The INDIVIDUALS are qualified.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 01:50 AM
0

My husband and I adopted from foster care, twice. If you don't have more than a nodding aquaintance with the Dark Side, that kind of thing will destroy you. Don't assume that just because a person is older than you, or female, or happily married, or conservative in their personal habits, or whatever, that they are Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 01:42 AM
1

Here's what I looked at: how are the teachers being portrayed? They were portrayed as total trash. I have a pretty dark sense of humor, so as soon as I realized that the teacher characters were also along for the ride, I really enjoyed the skit. Keenan Thompson did a particularly good job as the enabling judge. It was funny as hell.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 12:11 AM
0

Trump is the one at fault here, not the Twitter user who pointed out that it's utterly reasonable to expect men raised in a Western culture not to rape women. Even young men. Even poor men. Even lonely and sexually deprived men. Even men under extreme situational stress. The only way you can turn a normal man into a rapist is through brutal indoctrination beginning in childhood.
/r/MensRights25/01/16 12:06 AM
1

THANK YOU. I knew that Feministing was a "real"site, but I avoid Valenti like the plague and couldn't figure out how a bunch of satiriststuff might have gotten hold of her baby.
/r/MensRights24/01/16 01:48 PM
2

How about we all ignore the irrelevant opinions of people who were are not fucking and never plan to fuck, and just focus on searching for (or enjoying the company of) romantic partners who meet our personal standards? I know a Southeast Asian woman who usually dates Black men - not thugs, regular guys who work in her field and share her interests. She finds them physically attractive. The amount of appalling social feedback she gets is incredible to me, in 21st-century America. If she can ignor…
/r/MensRights24/01/16 01:44 PM
1

I try to treat other people the way I'd like to be treated, and I'd far rather have my child approached by a concerned fellow citizen than by a cop. Yes, they're "supposed to" be trained to deal with delicate matters like this. And I've actually met some who are. But I'm not not going to take the risk of calling the cops until and unless my own intervention doesn't yield satisfactory results. They simply have too much power and too little accountability to be used as a first-line option. It's OK…
/r/MensRights22/01/16 01:35 PM
1

Are you an American? If so, you trust our police WAY too much and you need a reality check. When a situation requires good judgement and the ability to consciously resist society's misandric narrative, it makes no sense to summon a person who is almost certainly dumber and more white-knighty than yourself, who has a gun they haven't been properly trained to use and the authority to drag people off to jail on specious grounds. Cops are not your friends. You call them when you have absolutely no o…
/r/MensRights22/01/16 11:07 AM
1

... and don't adopt their obnoxious behavior and become equally obnoxious yourself.
/r/MensRights22/01/16 10:59 AM
2

Nothing. Just as there is nothing wrong with not dating or marrying a virgin. That was my point - this comic portrays it as somehow problematic that an unusual sexual history is generally not an asset in the dating world. It's not problematic.
/r/MensRights22/01/16 10:58 AM
1

Of course not. I meant "you" in the general sense.
/r/MensRights22/01/16 10:55 AM
1

You are going to be traveling quite a lot to North Carolina in the next year, so give your boss a heads-up and figure out where the money for the trips is coming from. Meanwhile, call the social worker managing your child's case and be incredibly charming and DON'T say that you "want full custody." Ask him/her what you should do. Do everything they ask you to do, promptly and cheerfully. Make no criticisms of your ex. Keep everything entirely child-focused. If you are on speaking terms with your…
/r/MensRights21/01/16 07:55 PM
1

It's a mixed bag of cases. The networking event? Perfect target for a lawsuit. The Mother's Day hats at the ballpark? Stupid and petty and makes us look bad. I love what they're doing, but I hope they'll pick their targets more wisely moving forward.
/r/MensRights21/01/16 04:16 PM
2

Ableism? Jesus Christ. Virgins of either sex don't make me feel icky. Promiscuous people of either sex don't make me feel icky. But neither do I find it unacceptable when other people are put off by a potential partner who has an unusual sexual history. If your sexual behavior is way outside the cultural norm, it's a fairly decent indication that you may be fucked up. Both the feminist and the terper in this comic are being completely unreasonable. Look at your own examples! Autistic people and …
/r/MensRights21/01/16 04:12 PM
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I think the comic does not make a valid point.
/r/MensRights21/01/16 12:45 AM
10

Wise women know: If you are offered a product at below-market value, then YOU are the product being sold.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 10:59 PM
-10

In this case it would be "women don't find me desirable, so obviously sooooooomething is wrong with theeeeeeeeem." If you are a thirty-year-old involuntary virgin (of either sex) living in the developed world, then the problem is you. Not the matriarchy, not the patriarchy, not the media or the dating apps or the Chad or the Staceys. It's you. Nobody owes you their attention, and nobody is going to give you any attention until you stop being so flagrantly unappealing.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 10:56 PM
-2

Always make sure. A good parent/uncle might be a little irritated, but they'll go home and reflect on the matter and realize that they, too, would err on the side of caution. What you DON'T do is call the cops, not unless you are very sure that something bad is happening that can't be fixed by your intervention.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 07:55 PM
-10

This is the menrights subreddit. Take your terper whining elsewhere.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 07:50 PM
1

Sexually abused children frequently make allegations against an innocent party, using the details of their actual abuse while changing the identity of the perpetrator. Nobody knows why for sure. It is theorized that children who are terrified of the person hurting them hope to get other adults involved so that the real abuser can be identified, and decide to name a person they trust, who they believe would never hurt them no matter what.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 01:52 PM
1

Just to be clear, Jews For Jesus =/= American Jews (or any kind of Jews). They are a Christian sect known for their obnoxious proselytizing. I can understand why other countries would prefer not to have our obnoxious proselytizers visit. But my preference would be for the parts of the world that have decided to embrace free speech to tolerate tourists who pose no security threat, but are merely irritating.
/r/MensRights20/01/16 01:08 PM
3

I loathe and despise PUAs. But goddamnit, as long as they are not advocating anything illegal they should be free to travel throughout the Western world. Mormons can go to Australia. Jehovah's Witnesses can go to Australia. Jews for Jesus can go to Australia. They are clearly willing to let nutters come into their country and elucidate their warped worldview. PUAs shouldn't be singled out.
/r/MensRights19/01/16 10:38 PM
1

You know what makes my blood boil? When children are raped starting in second grade and have so much damage done to their reproductive organs by age 11 that a clinician can attest to the fact that they have been repeatedly violated. It's actually fairly common for sexually abused children to accuse somebody in their life who is NOT abusing them, even though the abuse itself is real. A competent investigation of this case might well have sent the right person to prison and spared an innocent man …
/r/MensRights19/01/16 10:18 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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