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Your kids are lucky to have you. I guess the silver lining is that they are old enough that the mom can't kidnap them/keep them from you. Kids need at least one positive adult, and it sounds like you are doing what you can for them. Knowing you have their back(s) is worth so much in terms of their confidence in their ability to earn their own money. Providing emotional support and encouragement doesn't work as quickly to help them as money would, but the effects last longer.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:42 PM
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That's true as well.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 01:22 AM
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It's true, whenever MRAs say 'females,' I think of non-human animals, and then I care less about what they're going to say.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 01:37 AM
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Plenty of rhetoric mixed in with real problems discredits the whole thing. You shouldn't do that to serious issues.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 01:19 AM
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It's an unnecessary procedure where a healthy and normal part of the body is removed for no real purpose. The reason so many people in the US have them is only because it's a simple procedure and the doctor gets $200 after. The supposed health benefits are miniscule, and often blown out of proportion to justify the danger to the child.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 03:48 PM
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. . . And then has a discussion about how women can abuse too, but it doesn't get talked about as much. TwoX always tells people to stand up for themselves.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 03:37 PM
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I'm curious to know what's happened to you to make you so angry. All through this thread you just seem to want to focus on character assassinations and accusations.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 05:55 AM
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I think both groups need to put some genuine effort into understanding issues from both sides. If we did that, it would be easier to find solutions which at the very least don't cause harm.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 05:32 AM
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I could say all the same things about men, and frankly it would be equally as true. Why would you want to think of all women as your enemy? Why perpetuate hate? How does that improve your quality of life? Do you not see any value in trying to understand someone else's perspective, and trying to work to satisfy both sides? Regardless of how much you decide you need to hate women, and blame us for whatever you don't like about your life, you still have to live with us. And you make yourself easy t…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 05:18 AM
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That's certainly true. I think both sides suffer because of the idea that women are all supposed to be pure/virginal, and men are all supposed to be uncontrolable beasts. Imagine how much happier we'd all be without the bs.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 04:44 AM
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Good show. I come here for the serious issues, and some days there's just a lot of angry rhetoric to wade through. I think both sides are wrong when they get angry and try to blame everything on each other. The more I read, the more I think frustration men feel is understandable, but I'm just not sure how much it helps to get angry.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 04:32 AM
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If my personal feelings mean jack shit, then yours do as well. Feminism is made up of feminists, we are not some conglomerate organisation.
/r/MensRights28/08/12 04:22 AM
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I'm glad the Canadian Paediatric Society says it's not medically necessary and is not recommended. It really is weird how many Yanks think circumcision has health/sanitation benefits.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:19 PM
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This is a typical MRM mischaracterisation of current feminism. As a feminist, these are some changes I think our society needs: Equality in family court (probably the top concern) Greater understanding of how men communicate their emotions, and societal acceptance/expectation of more emotions from men, not just anger Male birth control pill Remove the assumption that men are all child molestors I also think men need to understand the effects of street harassment Women deserve equal pay Our socie…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 10:54 PM
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This kind of thing is reinforced by men too though. There are some men who seem to view sex as a competition, and are constantly egging their friends on, or hazing them for 'failing' with a girl. I'd like to think that it's mostly just a phase boys go through before they become men, but I've seen evidence that it carries over into adult life. Women shouldn't just accept the stereotype that men can only ever think about sex, but we are not the only ones buying in to the stereotype.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 10:30 PM
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You have to include the fact that enough men (maybe the minority, yes, but enough) go along with the idea of treating women like objects that nearly all of us have the experience of being street harassed to reinforce the idea that 'all' men are sexually aggressive.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 10:14 PM
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Part of the problem with only preparing women, is that young girls are easier targets for the type of man who target women in that way. I was aggressively street harassed from 12 - 16, at which time my response was to be terrified that male sexuality would manifest as rape. When I was street harassed, it wasn't always a man by himself, plenty of times it was a guy with a group of friends or co-workers laughing and encouraging him, so it was easy in my 12 year old brain to assume that most men we…
/r/MensRights24/08/12 09:59 PM
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Well I can't find the articles I read that led me to find those figures, so I'll respectfully rescind them. The % of rapists is probably higher than you've estimated, since we can't forget priests and prisoners/prison guards in the US (men in the US are raped more frequently than women because of the extra shitty prison system there). Your comments about seeking abusers if you’ve been abused are not really relevant to my experience, although it's certainly well-documented in others. Only one of …
/r/MensRights23/08/12 11:53 PM
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Sure there can be solutions. For example, if a woman feels her husband is too emotionally withdrawn, it is useful for her to know if he's working a job he hates to make enough money to fill the traditional role of provider/protector. Working that kind of job can cause him to shut down emotionally, and she may not realise he's doing it for her. Understanding the causes and emotions involved allows her to re-frame her thinking about his emotional state. That is a step toward finding a solution. De…
/r/MensRights23/08/12 11:17 PM
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Objectification can add to the fear of an assault. That is the relationship they have. Refusing to acknowledge that people's feelings and perhaps misguided fears come in to play is to refuse to understand the problem, and in that case there can never be a solution.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 09:52 PM
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You would have to look at the statistics of daytime vs. nighttime muggings to figure that out. It seems like yes, you are more likely to be mugged at night when the perpetrator feels less exposed. Whether or not statistics indicate that this is actually the case, it has contributed to the rationale for our investment in public lighting. I have not said that objectification always leads to rape, and in fact I said that most men do not want to rape. But they are linked. There is a reason people ch…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 09:19 PM
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Assult and objectification, while not being the same, are related. When the objectification is visceral enough, it feels like a threat of assult. Objectification can add to the fear of an assult. I have had experiences of objectification turn into attempted attacks. AS OP says, rapists do not represent most men. I understand that most men (92 - 98% depending on which studies you look at) only want to have consensual sex. But there's no easy way to figure out if I'm dealing with a normal man, or …
/r/MensRights21/08/12 07:22 PM
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Your reply doesn't really make sense. Why can't you just be a regular person who wants to participate in society and have a positive effect on those around him? Why would you rather be a soulless cunt? How is that protection from going to jail? Being inconsiderate of someone's feelings can definitely allow you commit rape. Everybody who is raped would prefer not to be, and at the very least it's inconsiderate of their feelings to do so.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 04:12 PM
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Those discussions should include some women and people from other economic backgrounds. Isn't it always just old, rich, conservative men who have these talks? They're not very representative of the people it will affect. And you're forgetting that men in the US are raped at a higher rate than women, because of the prison system. There is wording in many places that says it's only ever a man forcing sex on a woman. What about when it's man on man, or woman on man? I would want the definition expa…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 03:53 PM
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That kind of reasoning is one way in which abusers convince themselves they're not doing anything wrong. Part of being in a healthy relationship is to try and think of how your partner will feel, and chosing not to do things you might enjoy that would really hurt them. Some people are more soft-spoken, and aren't always thinking about how to get their way. You have to consider the fact that everybody thinks differently, and not everyone experiences sex -or really anything in life- as a series of…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 03:43 PM
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Some people have complex emotions regarding sex. It's not always easy to speak your mind.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 04:01 AM
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Proving an abusive intent can be difficult. But I think all of Reddit saw the rapist thread, where one of the commentors said he frequently targeted a specific type of woman to victimise. He said that he was charming and good-looking, and not the creepy weirdo you might picture when you think of a rapist. Committing rape intentionally is a psychopathic behaviour. Psychopaths are able to do horrible things with no feelings of remorse, and are often very charming and manipulative. When it's really…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 03:56 AM
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My comments are not specific to his case, or to the women who have made the rape accusations. . . . That being said, I did find it suspicious that these women came out at the time they did. I was attempting to add to your understanding of rape generally, not to comment on the claims of Assange's accusers. Rape is just not as cut and dry as finding DNA after having only one type of reaction. It is certainly possible to rape someone you are in a relationship with, and I mean that for both sexes. T…
/r/MensRights20/08/12 05:19 PM
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I haven't really been following the Assange story, because I know that he will not get a fair trial due to his particular celebrity status. Even if he is guilty, and they find him guilty, it won't have been for the right reasons. But I'm not intending to comment on his specific innocence or guilt. My comments are not specific to his case, or to the women who have made the rape accusations. Every raped woman reacts differently. Some will try to convince themselves they were not raped by trying to…
/r/MensRights20/08/12 04:50 PM
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Stay classy, OP. As a woman I find it to be a horrible experience to have some asshole continue "putting his moves" on me after I've said I'm already with someone. If someone is going to be a loser and cheat, they probably wouldn't mention their SO anyway.
/r/seduction30/07/12 12:24 AM
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