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Question For Mencheezits_christ/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:12 AM
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Cool, I feel the same way as a gay woman now. Y’all aren’t special. It sucks but if you think men are the only people who feel like this I’ve got a bridge to sell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:11 AM
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Shutting up would be smart of you. Manning up is optional. Have a swell day!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:18 PM
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Okay, so now we're moving the goalposts from "there is literally no equivalent phrase for women" to "well I'VE never heard it" to "well millions of people have heard and used it but it's relatively NEW." Just take the L, man. You were wrong on this one. Move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:38 PM
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Considering that this is a phrase people have been using since at least 2007 and Google turns up millions of search results for it, including widespread use on various shirts, stickers, signs, and even several book titles, that seems like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:52 PM
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Yet i've never heard an equivalent of "man up" for them or even a gender-neutral one. You've never heard someone say "Put your big girl panties on and deal with it"? Because I've heard that many, many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:56 PM
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I think there are a lot of people who just aren't good at saying no or who actually say yes to things they WANT to do, but then backtrack and ghost/flake because they freak out internally for a non-rational reason. It hurts and it sucks but it seems more and more these days like a generational problem that is fueled by the fact that most people you meet have more experience with mediated communication online/through social media than with regular humans. It's weird that these people you're meeti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:29 AM
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In addition to other reasons listed above (some I agree with, some I don't), anxiety is a huge driver here. If you're in your 20s you're going to be running into a lot of people, not only women, with just unmanageable levels of social anxiety - something like 60% of Gen Z has a medically diagnosed anxiety disorder of some form - and that's absolutely going to get in the way of dating normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:04 AM
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Exactly. When I've made a list of the things I've been tangibly, meaningfully rewarded for, none of them have actually ended up stemming from the way I looked. My friends don't like me because I'm pretty. I didn't earn the respect of my higher-ups at work because I have great skin or a high waist-hip ratio. Moreover, I don't actually like the social rewards that come with being a young, pretty woman in a room full of horny straight men - I dated a really successful and well-off guy for a few yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:32 PM
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With all due respect, I don't think it's my job to convince you that I might have felt worse in the throes of severe body dysmorphia and a debilitating eating disorder, both of which I indulged constantly because I believed my worth as a person lay in the way I was perceived by strangers, than I do now having mostly recovered from both the disorder and the thinking that fueled it. Nor does "most of my agency" depend on how I look at all. My life is great and fulfilling and none of the things tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:18 PM
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Inner peace and a reduced sense of inferiority and incompetence around other beautiful women. I did find both of those things eventually, but they came from, to use your phrasing, personalitymaxxing and charismamaxxing, rather than anything superficial. But personally, the more I focused on my outer appearance, the worse I felt about myself internally and the less time I had to focus on developing attributes that have longer-lasting value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:42 PM
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As a woman, a lot of the life and self-improvement advice you get has to do with your physical appearance and locking down a man before your eggs dry up. Being as thin and fuckable as humanly possible has not brought me much I'd consider rewarding, so I generally disregard this and focus on things that matter to me in the long-term: mental and physical strength and stamina, emotional self-regulation, building a strong personal network of friends and chosen family to replace the biological family…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:49 PM
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Look at how many women are saying the nerdy-looking pommel horse guy is their exact physical type when there are a million more "classically handsome," very jacked, very successful men competing at the Olympics (including one who knocked down the pole vault bar with his giant dong). There's a lot more variation in women's attraction than this sub is willing to recognize.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:21 PM
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I'm a gay woman who prefers older women with mid-sized bodies. Melanie Lynskey is like my #1 celeb crush of all time. Not sure what the eVoLuTiOnArY rAtIoNaLe is for that besides "sexy woman make brain go brrrrr."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 12:24 PM
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I’ve commented about this here before but as a gay woman, the split between bisexual women who are equal, engaged and caring partners versus bi women who see lesbians as diet men and treat us as such is wild, and it has given me a lot of empathy for what men go through on the dating market. What’s funny, though, is that the equal/engaged ones tend to be pretty involved feminists and otherwise “undateable” (less conventionally super-sexy by heterosexual standards, more assertive and outgoing, les…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:47 PM
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Precisely. Both men and women do the latter, for the record, but it presents in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:51 PM
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Sure, but it presents differently depending on gendered expectations and socialization that emphasizes passivity as a virtue for women and aggression as a positive quality for men. These are values that are inculcated in women (especially who grow up in high-control patriarchal religious structure, regardless of whether they hold onto those beliefs as they get older) and it’s up to the individual to examine them, reject them, and become a more normal and balanced person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:43 PM
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Many women, whether due to socialization, personal temperament, or acting on poor advice from others, often do the absolute bare minimum in dating and relationship situations and expect their partner to cater to them with little reciprocation. I actually think a large degree of why many men become so aggressive and deeply off-putting is because the expected balance of effort in the mainstream contemporary dating world is so deeply skewed; however, women who put in more effort, date intentionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:32 AM
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This. And being able to see red flags in other people’s relationships is very different from being able to see them in your own. Plenty of people have great intuition when it comes to their friends’ and loved ones’ relationships because they’re able to see the effect the other person has on their friend, but you often don’t have that objectivity toward your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:43 PM
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“I’m just a girl 🥺🎀🌸” Okay well I’m a grown woman and I think you’re just a loser! Grow up!!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:21 AM
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It's very regional. Not at all a thing in the NY metro area.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:27 AM
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Yeah, I had two long-term relationships with men and went on dates with a smattering more. I will say that I don't know that I had a super typical experience with that, though, because I have a very assertive/forthright personality and I'm incredibly funny and charismatic IRL (not bragging, I lack in many other ways, I just rolled heavy on charisma), so I was able to punch above my weight in terms of the kind of men I had relationships with because I was fine with initiating conversations and as…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:15 AM
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This is where it just goes with whoever's feeling it! I think on my last good first date, I covered our first couple rounds (at a dive-y bar) and she suggested moving to a restaurant and getting dinner afterward, which she paid for. Though funnily, in my last relationship, because I dress slightly more tomboyish/masc and she was very classically femme, I was ALWAYS the one getting handed the check at the end. Gender roles come for us all, even if it comes down to "uh, one's in a sundress and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:01 PM
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Some are, some aren't. I think in general, lesbians are less picky than bisexual women because we have a much smaller dating pool - long-distance relationships seem more common and we tend to be more accepting of minor differences and incompatibilities that aren't dealbreakers, whereas bi women can be nightmares to date (not all of them, but many) because they have a vast sea of straight men all begging for their attention on top of women who have much less patience for flakiness and games and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:48 PM
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You know, there's not really any kind of set rule about this, but in general, you split if it's not going well, OR if it's going very well and both parties are insisting on paying. But usually for the latter, I turn it into "You get this one, and I'll get it next time" and set up a second date right there, so it's a win-win.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:37 PM
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Swiping through my app right now, here's a slice of what I'm seeing: Located hours away One-line bio, dull photos Oh this lady's actually cool and cites something I like in her bio. Swipe right! No match. Married to a man Married to a man "Looking for someone to show me and my boyfriend a good time 😉" Man (not a trans woman, a man who has set his profile to show him women interested in women. This happens constantly and I never know whether it's out of misguided high hopes or sheer confusion.) C…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:26 PM
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I mean, it's called being a gay woman and it's exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:21 PM
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Lesbian here. Here’s a rough breakdown of how my relationships have ended: She didn’t handle her mental health issues well and I needed a breather. She was bisexual and missed fucking men. Sexual incompatibility; nothing terrible. We’re still good friends. Her family was deep into some Nation of Islam/Black Israelite shit and she neglected to tell me that her dad and brothers believed Jews are subhuman and Kanye is right about us until we’d been dating for over a year. This was the one that hurt…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:55 PM
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I'd find that incredibly annoying, but I'm also one person and not someone you're trying to date, so who cares what I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:41 PM
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Making a big stink about not liking sports (unironically calling it “sportsball” is an auto dealbreaker). It’s just such a distillation of a more general inability to understand that sometimes people like things that you don’t and that doesn’t inherently make those people stupid. I like a lot of things that are both popular and widely impugned by this kind of person, so I think the sportsball thing is a good litmus test - don’t care if you like everything I like, just don’t be snide about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 08:31 PM
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This is so funny. Man, y'all really just live like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:14 AM
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As a gay woman who has spent a fair bit of time on the apps and in the dating world, the number of couples out there searching for a third woman suggests that it's actually very common. I disagree with the rest of your comment, but thanks for explaining your POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:00 PM
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So why are MFF threesomes considered normal requests in a relationship? ("All women are a little bisexual" isn't a valid answer, because they're not.) If a woman said "I want to have a threesome where you and another guy go at it and he and I don't really interact much at all, because I think men are hot and it's hotter to watch two men together," there's no cheating implied... so cheating isn't really a thing here either. You're just opposed to it because it turns you off. Just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:51 PM
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Must be sexually compatible (read, open to doing whatever he wants, every sick fantasy, every position, every hole he wants, compromise is not an option or it means she's not really attracted to him). But if she has sexual fantasies he finds unpalatable (MMF threesomes where he's in the middle, pegging, etc.) kick her to the curb!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:27 PM
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Not at all. I don't feel particularly feminine or masculine and most of my most pronounced interests and character traits are things that I don't think are strongly associated with either gender in particular, but probably lean toward the masculine side. Same with my style and physical presentation (I really don't feel good dressed in a traditionally feminine style, and I don't think it suits me, but my personal style is more like what a lot of more femme gay men would wear than anything else). …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:36 PM
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I’m in a city where gender neutral restrooms are becoming increasingly common and I truly would not care. I’ve used the men’s restroom when the women’s had a massive line; I’ve seen the opposite happen; it has no bearing on my life whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:35 AM
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Respectfully, this is a thing that many lesbians have observed in our many varied experiences. This conversation has been had countless times on the lesbian subreddits as well. Many bi women do not reciprocate the effort we put in because they're used to the heteronormative dynamic in which women are encouraged to be more passive and not be upfront, straightforwardly express romantic and sexual interest, or take a proactive role in planning dates. Heteronormativity encourages women to be passeng…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:31 PM
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I mean, it's for sure not all bisexual women. In my experience, there's a pretty sharp divide between bi women who choose to date women intentionally and are therefore willing to put in a 50-50 effort and meet you where you're at, and bi women who are extremely used to the heterosexual dynamic, have never seriously dated women, and don't realize that queer dating dynamics are much more even and rely on equal amounts of interest and effort from both players. The former group are great. The latter…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:46 PM
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As a gay woman, no. That's just statistics. The dating pool is much smaller AND you have to contend with unicorn hunters and lame bisexual women who treat you like a stand-in for a man, assuming you'll do all the work and validate them endlessly while giving you nothing in return. It sucks because it's everything men have to deal with while also only having ~10% of the potential options, on top of everything that comes along with being gay in an increasingly politically polarized time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:52 PM
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Wearing makeup is still optional, my dude. I don't do it and I don't feel like I'm suffering in any particular way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:25 PM
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Well, income and educational attainment are also giant predictors of life outcomes. I would imagine that many single mothers lack educational and financial opportunities, especially depending on how young they were when they first become pregnant; broadly speaking, careers accessible and friendly to women without degrees largely don't pay as much as those accessible to men without degrees. It's not the single-parent household alone, but the confluence of multiple factors, all of which contribute…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:57 PM
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Good for you. I still believe that it's better to be in a single-parent household than having your cop dad hold his service revolver to your head every time he gets drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:45 PM
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A safe two-parent household is better than a single-parent household. A safe single-parent household is better than an unsafe two-parent household. I've done incredibly well in life despite spending most of it with a single mother who was, frankly, not a good parent at all, but at least wasn't an active physical abuser.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:38 PM
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Everyone knows a 2 parent family is best for a child. That didn't stop my dad from beating the shit out of both me and my mom when I was a little kid. People don't always do what's best for their children!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 02:49 PM
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I’ve actually been the average woman with a gorgeous guy - this was remarked upon by several people, right to my face, which felt terrible! I no longer date men but the blows to my self-esteem brought on by third parties trying to interfere in that relationship because they just assumed he could do better from looking at us have persisted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:34 AM
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One is fine (very career-focused, has dated a few women but hasn't found the one, has an excellent dog, we're still best friends and hang out all the time). One is probably fine but I don't keep tabs on her (she had a breakdown, lost her job, and moved to Atlanta a little bit after we broke up). One is probably fine but has been going through some career stuff that started while we were still together and seems to have continued apace since then. One is a hot mess but he's still friends with all…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:35 PM
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Woman here. Physically average (not the hottest person you've ever seen but decent-looking with good style and confidence) + mildly autistic and ADHD with other learning disabilities, but this has not been an issue in my dating life. I've dated men and women but only date women now and have been able to date very attractive people across genders, but I think it's more to do with my confidence and assertiveness than anything else. I also have a small circle of close friends, a great job where I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:35 PM
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I find older women more attractive than younger ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:26 PM
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So I kind of did this — I used to identify as bi and after a long period of introspection amid my last relationship with a man ending a couple years ago, realized I’m actually not really attracted to men at all. Such an improvement on so many levels, but I will say that many straight women seem to have an idealized vision of how easy it is to date as a lesbian that reflects their experiences in the hetero dating market, and it’s not that simple at all. You have to get very comfortable being asse…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:14 AM
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My ex was a spoiled rich kid who had never had to do a single chore or manage his own life. His mother made all of his appointments for him because he didn’t like talking to strangers on the phone (he was in his early 30s). Early in the relationship, he’d call his childhood nanny and have HER come over to clean his apartment before I came over. Then when I moved in, I was suddenly expected to fill both of those roles. I felt like I’d been baited and switched. This guy was 6’2”, incredibly handso…
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