cherales Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Can't live anymore This, exactly this, please seek some help It can be pretty grim, I’m six month in to a fairly acrimonious split, one that I didn’t see coming, and followed a really positive time in our up and down 24 year marriage. It was like someone had flipped a switch in my wife. For the worse. Even now I feel lost BUT it’s also been incredibly freeing - and I’m getting to know myself better now too. Christ, that sounds wanky, but it does get better and you will find the humour, love and light in life again…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/25 09:45 PM
7	It's not getting better “But always be moving through the storm” Love this line, thank you for sharing it - I needed to read/hear this.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/25 10:24 AM
12	It's not getting better It WILL get better, the good days will begin to outweigh the bad. Me? I woke up this morning feeling a little lost, but I’ve found the comments here and elsewhere to be helpful. I hope that over time you do too. Please accept the following in the spirit of genuinely wanting to help, just as others have helped me in ways I can’t begin to thank them enough for … x I’m around 5 months after a split after 24 years of marriage and nearly 35 years together. I didn’t see it coming at the time. Currentl…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/25 10:06 AM
3	Oh gentlemen, how I hate my life Thank you, that’s much appreciated - and the same to you in return.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/03/25 12:55 PM
5	Oh gentlemen, how I hate my life Christ, I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m four months (plus) past ‘bombshell day’ I hope it’s ok to say to you that at the outset I first told myself and then my wife - and then close family (dad) and close friends - that for me it was and would be: Children first and foremost We should do nothing to fuck each over financially To be transparent in all dealings wherever possible as we would have to work out how to co-parent for the sake of our children too To avoid using solicitors wherever possible…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/03/25 11:20 AM
1	This woman is about to announce she's divorcing her husband but he doesn't suspect - does this sound familiar? Cheers - and I’ve always felt there’s usually at least 3 sides to any story anyway 🤣 Whilst I’m new to these particular threads, I have been finding them helpful, hope you are too!	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/25 11:08 PM
2	This woman is about to announce she's divorcing her husband but he doesn't suspect - does this sound familiar? Hi, I’ve re-read the threads, at least, some of them. Are we reading the same from the links provided? After (several!) pages of comments I read the following exchange in the first link: “ForZanyAquaViewer · 27/02/2025 10:00 The majority of our comments, including this one, are stating that he needs to cook for himself. You’re not engaging with that. Why?” and the poster replies: “Sorry I’m struggling to keep up with the comments. I absolutely see now since talking to you all that he needs to so…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/25 10:27 PM
1	This woman is about to announce she's divorcing her husband but he doesn't suspect - does this sound familiar? Cheers, I’ll re-read what has been posted; have to confess I was reading it very quickly and it appears I have missed where she says that … apologies!	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/25 08:59 PM
8	This woman is about to announce she's divorcing her husband but he doesn't suspect - does this sound familiar? Tbh he does sound a bit of a twat; I wanted to be able to defend him, perhaps, but she works, cooks and cleans? Kids too? I’ve worked mentally demanding jobs in excess of 80 hours a week, but always helped out wherever possible. He needs to pull his weight, sadly, seems too late for either of them. That’s just my tuppence…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/25 08:09 PM
1	Telling the kids - anyone have an approach that "worked" Nowt wrong with a little Llama drama to spice things up! Yup, I’m learning to (try) and not to react to the stick prodding. Good advice and cheers. Here’s to better times for us all… 🦙	/r/Divorce_Men	03/03/25 01:37 PM
1	Telling the kids - anyone have an approach that "worked" Similar save for the (insert as appropriate, lol). More seriously, I have friends and family share their stories with me. There are those for whom it sadly still remains acrimonious many years later. Yet there are those where it started acrimoniously and become amicable (albeit many years later) and those where it started amicably but simply got worse and never got better. I’m working - as best I can - on moving towards an amicable resolution if only for our three children, even if I forgo any ‘…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/25 09:37 PM
2	Telling the kids - anyone have an approach that "worked" It’s like a light switch has been flicked; I don’t (fully) recognise the person I’ve been living with (separately but under the same roof) these past four months. However, I’ve seen how some friends / family were bitter / remained bitter - and don’t want that for my children or I even though it’s all a bit shit. “Legendary” though you say? Now that DID make me chuckle, cheers, and so I do have to ask you if you regret sleeping with her mother, her sister and, er, the neighbor’s dog 🤣	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/25 01:24 PM
1	Telling the kids - anyone have an approach that "worked" Shit, sorry, I see now your message was from 22 hours ago and said you were telling your son that night. Hope all went well all the same.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/25 12:53 PM
2	Telling the kids - anyone have an approach that "worked" Hmm, I was going to give a short answer, namely, put your children first in all you do and say - but your question has really struck a nerve with me. I hope the following helps you in some way: My wife of 24 years (together for close to 34 years) told me one morning she wanted to separate. Although I was blindsided I did say we need to speak and agree what we will say to our three children. She ignored all this and by early afternoon the first words she had told our three children was “You’re Da…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/25 12:51 PM
1	Struggling today.. Physical work / exercise seems to help me. I’m avoiding drinking too much too, not always successfully. I’m one of those poor sods with long COVID*, so can’t over do it like I may have done before, but I’ve been in the garden today preparing the family home sale … it’s just shit at the moment. However, whilst I thought I would feel awful the fresh air and exercise seems to have helped today. It’s all helped recharge my batteries, so find out what helps recharge yours? A few weeks ago I could bar…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/25 03:48 PM
1	Resentment and how the narrative solidifies More than welcome and again just a relativejy brief reply now, so that I can return to this later. Currently preparing our family home for sale, whilst working out what’s best for our children (youngest two turned 18 a small while after news was given with no prior discussion), and trying to keep matters as transparent - and amicable - as possible. However, OH isn’t being amicable - and it’s like a switch has been flipped. The sad reality of knowing the person you love / loved no longer cares is…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/25 09:30 AM
9	Just Let It Go, What the Fuck Does That Mean - a guide Currently feeling a little up and down. However, at the outset one of the things I told myself was not to let MY actions or thoughts poison MY future self. Some days I have slept a lot, once or twice it’s been a day asleep. Never done that before, but I accept it’s likely a depression response / the split is exhausting. Other times I can’t sleep, like now, so I’ll find music / movies I love, or do something practical like cleaning, or reviewing my ‘to do’ list for the children and I. Others time…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/25 02:55 AM
1	Resentment and how the narrative solidifies Thanks for sharing, a lot of what you have said has resonated with me. Whilst I’m only adding a brief comment now, I hope to return to this again later.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/25 02:36 PM