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218	What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive? They have vocal outbursts of anger over seemingly small issues; he can't get his pc to boot up, he spills some soup or drops a piece of toast. If you'd go 'ahh, bummer' and he slams pots and yells obscenities, that's a red flag.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 04:41 AM
37	Something I noticed about being gaslighted. . . If you start hearing gems like these, you need to run; "Gosh, you're so sensitive!" "Man, every little thing just sets you off!" "Every time I try, you always find fault" "I can never win with you" "You never appreciate when I do try" "Stop overreacting, it's not a big deal" "All these other women act normal, not like you" Now, these are the ones I finally started to recognize near the end. When it starts, it's so insidious you'd probably have a wee 'ding' on your radar but then they'd distract …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 03:41 AM
15	I did it, thanks to FDS My history greatly resembles yours. I salute you and give you (((hugs)))! You've got this and you're going to LOVE being on your own with no drama, no stress, no eggshell walking, no abuse! Congratulations!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 02:42 AM
51	Some subtle things LVM do when they’re interested in you Mirroring - They'll agree with all of your opinions on everything you divulge, all the while acting so surprised that you have so much in common. Mythicalization - They create a mythos around how you're both 'meant to be' and how it's 'love at first sight' due to all the mirroring. Condescension masked as compliment - Insidiously acting surprised in a seemingly pleasant way when you say something smart. A tactic used to make you think they're smart; but is in actuality to cover the fact that the…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/06/21 05:56 PM
35	Let's see how many of these we can come up with.. I'll go first. "He says he wants a woman to have long hair because it's feminine, meanwhile he's balding." 😂🙈 He says he wants a woman that is graceful and poised, meanwhile he can't even walk without slapping his feet on the ground like a duck.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/05/21 04:43 PM
55	This is why I'm divorced - I also brought home 70 percent of the family income when I was married. Yeah, I did 100% of the income with my own home-based business so I wouldn't miss my kids plus all of the myriad emotional labor. Him? He had all the best toys, played video games and gave a million excuses for totally abdicating any and all responsibility for anything. Never again! (Really loved when he would tell people 'We own our own business')	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/05/21 01:51 AM
58	"A Victorian magazine asked spinsters why they were single and some of the answers were brutal." I want this on a T-shirt, I swear! It's gloriously poetic.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/05/21 08:40 PM
7	Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing? "Nothing I do is ever good enough for you." "You always have to have the last word."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/05/21 10:36 PM
9	“Don’t keep score in your marriage! 🥰” is patriarchal propaganda. If we tallied and kept score, there would be millions of divorces. "Sheesh, you always bring up the past! I can never win!" Uhh, duh. That shitty ass thing you did 3 years ago? Well, you just f*$#ing did it again so... Yeah, I'm bringing up a prolific pattern of behavior. <jackass>	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 06:48 AM
28	'CoMpRoMiSe!!' Yes, please! I've tried to cajole, bribe, convince my adult daughters to read it. lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/10/20 04:54 AM
22	I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑 Well, I guess he can go alone and be 'out standing in his field.' lol </momjoke>	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 01:57 AM
12	Lundy is a HVM Yes! He should be required reading!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/06/20 12:35 AM