chickenbutt00 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	It’s Almost Over Sometimes it takes some wandering to arrive at peace with these things. Good luck.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/09/22 05:14 PM
1	Reasonable Expectations At first I thought your response was harsh, but then I too looked up the OP’s profile. Yeah, that’s a very irresponsible thing to have out there when you are looking to get divorced and not lose everything.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/09/22 02:03 AM
4	Need Exit Velocity Very good advice here. I just went through something similar. She suddenly wanted to change, and stopped doing all the petty shot I have mentioned over the years that I didn’t like. Which initially made me sad, then angry. Like, “I wasn’t worth you changing your behavior until I said I wanted out? So you CAN change, but only if your cushy lifestyle is threatened,” We “tried” making it work for several months, but I know I was done. You can’t expect somebody to honestly change with the gun of div…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/22 01:20 AM
4	Need Exit Velocity I need to talk to you, and there never seems to be a good time for this. So, this isn’t working for me - something is missing. I’m not feeling it anymore. I feel like I have changed, my needs have changed, and I am not fulfilled in our relationship. I love you, and I don’t want to hurt you, but I feel like there’s another chapter for me. I have been trying to make this work for me, but it just isn’t. And I don’t want to pretend it is - that would be so unfair to you. I love you and respect you a…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/22 01:16 AM
2	Last Alimony Payment I paid alimony for seven years too. But about a third of what you paid. Holy shit. And I just let it end without any contact. Better that way, I think.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/22 11:23 PM
1	AP is a douche canoe Thanks for asking. My rule is to never use an acronym without first spelling it out once. Irritating when people use acronyms that could be freaking ANYTHING and never bother to clarify. #end_rant.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/22 04:26 PM
1	Fellas, how long were you single til you got into a relationship again or started dating? I feel like I rushed it because I got into a relationship after being separated. And I feel like it’s affecting the relationship I’m in now cause I never got to heal Yes, both adults (24 and 28). You?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/22 01:53 AM
3	Fellas, how long were you single til you got into a relationship again or started dating? I feel like I rushed it because I got into a relationship after being separated. And I feel like it’s affecting the relationship I’m in now cause I never got to heal “Even when I was single I was never really single”. Oof. I feel that. I WISH I had taken the time to be single for a while. I’m now thinking a minimum of a year or two. Otherwise it is too easy to avoid doing the work to define and know yourself as an individual, without that addictive (but fleeting) dopamine hit.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/08/22 11:48 AM
21	Fellas, how long were you single til you got into a relationship again or started dating? I feel like I rushed it because I got into a relationship after being separated. And I feel like it’s affecting the relationship I’m in now cause I never got to heal I started dating before my divorce was final. I never took the time to heal. The amount of time it takes is different for everyone, but I gave it zero time- just jumped in and enjoyed the dopamine rush of a new relationship. That covered up the need to work through the pain and learnings from my divorce. Eight months later we got married. That was seven years ago, and during that time I DID heal, and found out that I should NOT have gotten married so fast. Because what I want now is nothing like…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/08/22 01:02 AM