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If you have principles, and you choose to honor your word in the world, why cheat? Strange is just another set of private parts doing basically the same things. An orgasm isn’t worth violating how I perceive myself. The issue really has nothing to do with your partner everything to do with how you choose to be with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 05:11 PM
1

They’re not wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:00 PM
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The original assertion is men want women only for sex, which is simply not the case. We want way more. Whether or not we are actually able to get our needs met is a different conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:11 AM
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I understand “can”. The reality on the ground is men don’t. The exception proves the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:57 PM
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Most men get their intimacy from long term partners. If you think man is an island, and can exist without emotional and physical connection, that’s simply not the case. Men die from loneliness and isolation at an alarming rate. So, to your point, it’s not just about sex. We demand quite a bit more from our partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:45 PM
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That’s not the impression I’ve gotten in my life even from bisexual women. They prefer absolutely straight and masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:40 PM
6

No, this is real. There are men that make a game out of seducing women. Once they have the prize, on to the next. It’s sociopathic in many ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:36 AM
17

Most people are lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:36 PM
1

It’s easy for a person who is promiscuous to hit triple digits. What number makes you uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:14 PM
3

Even if this is true in a general sense, men wouldn’t be motivated to build without our other halves and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:14 PM
1

If you ask any male stripper, they experience a ton of cheating behavior during bachelorette parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:39 PM
2

It’s an extreme privilege to be able to not have to work a job and experience your children growing up. SAHMs are very fortunate. I’d 100% rather quit my job and raise my kids than work 50 hours or more making some sociopath rich. And yes, if you have several children, a SAH parent is basically required. If you can’t sustain a family on one income, it’s time to get a new career.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:18 PM
1

We wouldn’t have society without that difference. It’s not a problem. It’s a feature.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:11 PM
2

Mountains of evidence women aren’t as sexually motivated as men? It doesn’t even seem reasonable intuitively let alone by observation. That’s an incredible claim. I’m game though. What have the nerds come up with?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:55 PM
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When you’re the chooser, and have many options, you get to pick what’s best. Relationships are hard at the best of times. It’s easy for them to take more than they give. So, you have options and you are picky. Why choose a sexually and socially incompetent person to partner with? Men have to compete. That’s all there is to it. And I disagree women have lesser sexual urges. That’s simply not born out by empirical evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:40 PM
2

If you think these are just young guys living in there basement, you’re wrong. Many older men are carrying around deeply misogynistic beliefs and do just fine with the opposite sex. If anything it helps their dating prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:54 PM
1

It’s been my experience the financial burden is entirely on the man one way or the other. So, that’s not a good argument. What these guys don’t know is the federal government puts you on the hook for ten years to be obligated to pay for all federal services used by the wife they bring in. It’s a pretty common scam for the foreign bride to get pregnant and pull a false domestic violence situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:36 PM
1

Funds should strictly be used on only that child. Funds used to pay for housing, utilities, and other expenses shared with the parent should be on a sliding scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:16 AM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:03 AM
0

The funds flowing from the higher wage earner should be placed in trust and overseen by a financial authority. Receipts should be required and audited on qualified expenses related strictly to raising and caring for the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:39 PM
1

I meant do you really expect someone to be completely honest? And what answer is actually going to make you happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:16 PM
1

What would be the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:45 PM
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If love means not having a fulfilling sex life, count me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:37 PM
2

Here’s the thing, they love to give oral sex when they’re attracted to you. Cohabiting makes the man less attractive. Oral sex declines because it’s a mate retention activity for the most part. It’s not conscious. Keeping enough sexual tension in the relationship for her to want to give spontaneous oral sex is a Herculean feat in my experience. Your spreadsheet and rule idea is terrible. Trying to hold your partner accountable generally doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:15 PM
6

Most men will have sex and pretend to be your “friend” and not want a relationship. I believe most women will have sex and tell themselves the situation will evolve into a relationship. I don’t believe friends with benefits is actually a thing. And I don’t believe “casual” sex is at all fulfilling or satisfying and the culture of casual sex is directly harmful to individuals and society as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:02 PM
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One person at a time. On principle. Spreading your energy around does not make any sense to me. But I believe in the idea and actuality of love, and feel monogamy is the only right relationship model for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:53 PM
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Yes, it’s a dealbreaker. You aren’t truly capable of being romantically engaged if you’re getting railed out by multiple fwbs and randoms. It’s misrepresentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:20 PM
3

They may be more empathetic but not towards their partner. I have only my own experience to draw from. I’m not sure what the studies have actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:30 PM
6

In most heterosexual relationships, the man is expected to be a stoic therapist. The woman gets to openly spew her emotions and problems all over us for the duration of the relationship. Men are not allowed the same privilege if we want the relationship to continue. In an ideal world, women would have the same capacity to empathize with their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:55 PM
11

Those individuals I’ve met seem generally happy. Unfortunately, life isn’t fair. “Bad” people can do well in the short term and long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:00 PM
18

I haven’t found an age cut off. And it’s a wide swath of women across many different levels of education and socioeconomic status. In my experience. Mostly charismatic manipulators with masculine traits do well. If you extend your definition of competence, I could see a different argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:30 PM
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I’ve met plenty of men who I would consider a loser and generally awful in their behavior have incredible success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:24 PM
1

You may be right. I’m a bit more cynical though. I think women unintentionally seek charismatic manipulators.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:00 PM
3

I believe women are adults and very aware of the manipulation happening to them in a relationship. I think the fact a person is aware of manipulation doesn’t change the effectiveness of that manipulation. And furthermore, I think being aware of that manipulation may in a perverse way make the manipulator more “attractive”. Again, even if what I’m stating may be true in some relationships, I don’t condone that behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:09 PM
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It’s been my experience women are most attracted to those who can effectively manipulate them and are emotionally unavailable. Of course to spark initial attraction, there are a constellation of masculine sexual characteristics including charisma, height, tone of voice, and muscularity. The men women are obsessed with however tend to be the “abusive” ex. And what that really means is a person who is completely consumed with their own selfish pursuits and treats their partner like an object. All …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:01 PM
1

It’s not makeup. It’s delusion and in-group bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:22 PM
2

Yes, many relationships have requirements and conditions. And I disagree about the reactive libido. I think many women get comfortable in the relationship and lose the spontaneous desire they had at the beginning of the relationship. Which means the man must make more effort than in the beginning of the relationship. The effort required typically goes up over time as comfort goes up in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:43 PM
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I think we can agree here. There are definitely lazy men not pulling their weight around the house. I’m not accustomed to two income households where the wife’s income was substantial. It hasn’t been my experience or the experience of many men I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 09:10 PM
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My point is what a partner considers “equal” changes over time to include more and more labor. The labor a man does do is eventually taken for granted and completely overlooked. There’s only so many hours in the day. And typically the man is paying the majority or all of the bills and working 50 or more hours a week. At least in my experience. So I need to pay for everything, take care of most household duties, hit the gym hard, have at least one hobby, take care of all external vehicle and hous…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:51 PM
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I would say in general, yes. Men are simply not allowed to rest on their laurels and to simply “be” in the relationship. Women constantly complain about “emotional / mental labor”, which is really a complaint about their partner not stepping up and taking responsibility for everything. For example: doctors appointments, household chores, vacations, bills, date nights, career advancement, emotional well-being, etc etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 08:35 PM
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In my experience, relationships require the man to constantly be evolving and taking on more and more labor. And comfort breeds contempt and being taken for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 08:24 PM
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He doesn’t have options. If he did, this wouldn’t be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 01:56 AM
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I agree with you mostly. Love is a series of choices. We make space for love even when a partner is flawed. We make choices for ourselves and our partner even when the emotion might not be present in the moment. We cope with anger and boredom and tough circumstances without considering being disloyal or ending the relationship. And sometimes we do what’s best for the person even if it means the relationship can’t continue. What people usually mean by love is new relationship energy and fear of b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:14 PM
2

If it were the case of one and done, then there is a strong case to not say anything. But it’s never one and done. If you got away with it the first time, as surely as our planet orbits the sun, there will be a second and a third and so on. Come clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:45 PM
3

My argument is humans need more than the basics to be considered healthy. As an example: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs was an attempt to address this observation about human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:11 PM
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If you’re stuck on the word “need”, then find another word. If your only definition of need is “required for physical survival”, your view is entirely too narrow. Human beings are far more complicated in what they need to be considered physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:47 PM
1

Why is submissive seen as a bad quality? Do you the same people that imply submission is “bad” also look down on those that practice BDSM. Or is submission in a sexual context the only “good” submission? There are many people that simply want a dominant capable person to take over the hard stuff. You see it all the time in the workplace. And submissive shouldn’t imply incompetent or unable to make their own decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:56 PM
10

B. The people from A will attempt to string you along because you provide some kind of utility in their life. People are rarely honest about these things. They will say their stressed out, or their not feeling good, or Jupiter is in decline, or any excuse to keep you around to keep paying the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:29 PM
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I don’t think “Average Adam” in your scenario starts out as average. The woman in this hypothetical is legitimately attracted to him and their sex life is great. But all of that is in the beginning of the relationship. Over time as comfort develops in the relationship, the man becomes less attractive in her eyes even if he hasn’t changed literally at all. It’s simply the nature of many heterosexual relationships for comfort to kill attraction. Having kids also seems to worsen attraction. The sev…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:31 PM
7

Promiscuous behavior usually pairs up with risk taking behavior like drug and alcohol abuse. In general, “extreme” promiscuity indicates psychological issues that haven’t been treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 01:38 PM
9

I think the issue is some people will settle. And then choose not to have a wild sex life with their spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:09 PM
6

By remaining silent, you are aiding and abetting a cheat. That makes you an accomplice to their bad behavior. The statement you are making is it’s fine to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:12 PM
9

Maslow’s Hierarchy. Many many human beings will be completely miserable without the intimacy afforded them through sex and relationships. And who doesn’t like to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:13 PM
8

The average men I know always have something interesting going on. They have a hobby or career or personality trait that’s in some way captivating. Are you thinking below average men? The ones that sit around and play video games and smoke weed all day? Even they have girlfriends because there are a lot unambitious partners out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:44 PM
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It’s been my experience many many women desire masculine men. And masculine men almost uniformly have a few “toxic” traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:23 PM
1

The issue is she is into sex but just not with her husband. She doesn’t know why her sex drive died.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:48 PM
2

I’m treated like an object all the time. I’m an ATM. I’m a repair things appliance. I’m a therapist. I’m responsible for making the hard decisions. I’m expected to take responsibility whenever anything goes wrong. If I don’t fit the ideal male body type, that is tall, lean, and muscular, I’m simply not as attractive as other men my partner has been with. People don’t like being treated like objects because it’s dehumanizing. There is more depth to the person I am beyond the expectations placed u…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:48 PM
0

Yes. Frankly, it’s a pretty vanilla act.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 05:35 PM
3

Monogamy is far better assuming you two can maintain a healthy friendship and sex life. Usually people start to get bored after a few years. Which is unfortunate for those of us who prefer monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 02:04 PM
9

Your typical first responder is male.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 12:40 PM
16

They tend to go back and forth in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 09:36 PM
6

Exactly. That’s nonsense. If you want something that’s comparable, maybe going to the strip club. However, strippers have little to no actual interest in middle aged men hanging out. The I’m just here to dance is also baloney.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:23 PM
4

Bro time does not traditionally mean getting dolled up and dancing the night away with lots of single women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:34 PM
1

I stand by my assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:55 PM
16

For some reason, many people do not understand averages. There are a few people at the tails skewing the result.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:30 PM
3

Because as we all know one must be a dancing monkey to find love. I’m of the opinion many people are boring but don’t want to be with other boring people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:48 PM
0

Discovering yourself essentially means lots of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:09 PM
2

Without attraction, there will not be an opportunity to form a romantic connection. This is not always the case but works as a rule of thumb. It follows that a person should make all efforts to be attractive in general if they want romantic options. Seems like common sense to me. I agree fixing your most pressing concern is a good way to work your way backwards to happiness. This can backfire because romantic relationships are a cause of significant stress. I think this is the root of the inane …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:25 PM
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An act can be degrading but so what? Enjoying submissive or degrading acts has nothing to do with the character of the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:16 PM
8

I think the real issue is the beginning of the relationship is generally adventurous. And then over time your partner doesn’t feel like doing performative sex acts. If you look at patterns in cheating, many cheaters confess they do adventurous acts with their affair partners but not their spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:57 PM
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People leave for a variety of reasons. Very rarely is it because they’ve found someone better. Most people don’t introspect enough and actively work on their own issues. The problems in one relationship tend to re-occur in the next (after the honeymoon period).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:45 PM
3

It’s the last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:41 PM
28

You let the internet convince you love and romance don’t exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 02:54 PM
1

There are degrading acts. Penetration is not on the list. I think the porn you are referring is mostly about power dynamics i.e. dominance and submission. There are plenty of people that switch. Even if someone were into “degrading” acts, how is that a comment on their character?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:24 PM
0

Because only one person has to be active in seeking romantic connections. Having a decent haircut and being fit is tangential and won’t passively generate romantic success.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:02 PM
1

I believe the general argument is self-improvement does not affect romantic success except tangentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 02:40 PM
1

If you want a romantic relationship according to your own standards, how do you intend to achieve that result? There is at least one other person involved with their own needs and wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:40 AM
1

I can respect your sentiment. I believe human beings are complicated. And I believe if you want a certain result, you must adjust your perceptions and behaviors to achieve that result.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:26 AM
2

I think part of the problem is the notion of romance. Many people want to experience casual relationships without deep “romantic” chains. The reality is there are phases to life. “Romantic” love can mean many things. The infatuation and limerence of a new relationship never lasts. What matters most is compatibility on a psychological and physical level. Can your partner continue to respect and admire and be attracted to you sexually over time? For a younger person, what matters is a variety of e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:09 AM
0

Because your age is a reflection of your concerns in life. It’s not meant as in insult and I apologize if it came off that way. Your unhappiness is only a matter options. You feel like you can’t have romantic relationships in the way you want them or at all? If you had a romantic relationship, would that make you satisfied?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:44 AM
-4

How old are you? Use paragraph breaks. Young people cannot commit because of social media and smart phones. Navigate the landscape by being popular and attractive and physically appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:35 AM
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They lack height and visible abs. The problem is averages are a bad way to have this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:02 PM
3

How does compromise happen in an ideal equal partnership?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:57 AM
6

I appreciate your response and thank you for going into detail. There is an ideal of a partnership we might have for romantic relationships. I will admit I have rarely seen an equal partnership in heterosexual relationships. I think relationships tend to evolve over time and unstated roles and decision making will shift over time. Additionally, there is the notion of indirect power where one person believes they’re making decisions when really they are being completely influenced by another. Dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:49 AM
3

Why is it horrible for you, if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:19 AM
3

Did you read the word unilateral or simply react to the statement? A leader communicates and the decision making process is never absent of feedback. Leadership has nothing to do with gender and is entirely trainable. Surely you’ve interacted with individuals that command a room? The dynamic between two persons where one is a leader and the other follower happens to varying degrees in every relationship I’ve ever witnessed or been a part of. It’s never entirely equal. I think there is a knee jer…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:05 AM
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Make decisions for both of you in a way that your partner can trust your judgement. And be an example of a person that others want to follow. None of this is unilateral.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:50 AM
2

You will have a lot of catching up to do if you break 30 as a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:20 AM
2

It’s been my experience many people are attracted to charismatic losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:35 PM
1

At this point in my life, as a late bloomer, I know I’m never going to be someone’s sexual best. The thing that matters to me is the connection I have with a partner. It’s always the best in the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:39 PM
1

One month for every year is the metric I’ve heard.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 06:11 PM
7

Are they going to provide for me when I’m down on my luck? I’ll take being objectified any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 01:50 PM
1

I only have the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:58 AM
1

Basically, yes. Happens pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 08:27 PM
1

I’ve seen above average men completely run the show as far as relationships go. It all depends on whether they are capable of emotional and mental manipulation and whether they actually care if the relationship fails. The person that cares least generally has the power. The power dynamic can easily favor either party in a relationship. The amount of deadbeat bad dudes I know who have women cooking, cleaning, and paying for them is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:52 PM
1

It means there are a fairly narrow set of personality traits that are considered generally attractive to the opposite sex. Change yourself to be more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:21 PM
2

You’re nuts. Sex is pretty high on the list of priorities for both men and women. Intimacy for many is a need, and sex can be a very fulfilling form of intimacy. Not to mention the fact sex is fun when both parties have few hang ups and are willing to do whatever it takes to create an enjoyable experience. I will agree when either party loses attraction then sex becomes something to avoid. And yes, it can become transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:30 PM
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I mean their not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 11:41 PM
2

If you can’t see the parallel, that’s on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 11:56 PM
2

I disagree. But okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:15 PM
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It’s really not. The loss of attraction is the issue which happens in 90% of long term relationships. Sex goes from adventurous to mundane. This is the typical experience of men. I do agree the relationship should end when the other partner loses attraction. The problem is in my experience the other person will let the relationship ride for years after they lose attraction. And men will accept vanilla sex hoping to fix the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:40 PM
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Because it never starts vanilla. New relationship energy drives good behavior in all respects. Once you’ve fallen in love, and committed, then the frog begins to boil. It’s the ole’ bait and switch. It’s similar with men becoming lazy and not doing the romantic things they did to win her over in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:08 PM
1

It’s all about relative competition to the men in your area. If most men are making bank, that becomes the bare minimum. And why are you putting such an average salary on your dating profile? The guys that do well for themselves might post pictures of fancy cars and houses and baloney like that. Never your direct salary lol. It’s about lifestyle and fancy adventures. And it’s like anything else with dating. If your strong in one area, say money or fitness, that can make up for a lack of personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 03:04 PM
1

Most of us don’t have two relationships and then find a life long partner. You’re speaking as an outlier essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:22 PM
2

I stand by my statement, ma’am. And congratulations for winning the relationship lotto. I get now why you think love is magic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:06 PM
1

I ignored your question because it was irrelevant. Love is not magical and that view indicates a certain immaturity in how you might navigate relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:02 PM
1

Okie doke. What exactly is true love in your own words?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:57 PM
1

Frame of reference is the behaviors that tend to occur repeatedly while in long term relationships, and the knowledge that relationships tend to change and evolve in predictable ways over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:49 PM
1

Because they have no frame of reference for making a long term relationship work. They’re just happy they could get any woman to like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:26 PM
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I feel like we are having two different conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:58 PM
4

History suggests a certain reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:30 PM
35

A massive war where a large percentage of adult males don’t make it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:29 PM
2

Not less than exactly. But yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:34 PM
3

It gets worse. When you do commit to a woman that has this experience, she will wonder exactly what is wrong with you that you would choose to commit to her specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:51 PM
1

I have boundaries. They can stretch to a point. It has less to do with insecurity and more to do with the nature of human beings. But I get what you are putting down. And it’s not manipulation when it’s straight forward and an active conversation with your partner. If your partner simply doesn’t agree, then you go your separate ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 02:21 PM
1

At no point did I imply or say any of what you just said. That’s a problem we have. Miscommunication because of a fundamental difference in how we experience the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 12:01 PM
1

I disagree. But that’s the point of this sub right. I feel if we took into account our differences and similarities realistically peoples quality of life would go up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:57 AM
0

I meant likely not certain. And congratulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:52 AM
0

Says you. My experience and direct observations say otherwise. But fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:51 AM
1

If that’s what’s best for the relationship, then yes. Should work trump your marriage or long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:48 AM
0

Women and men. Milestones being certain years. Most people are familiar with the 7 year itch. I see many heterosexual relationships going south in year 5 to 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 11:44 AM
20

The problem is that it takes more and more work for diminishing returns.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:48 PM
-3

What does a work conference have to do with girls night out? Quit moving the goal posts. And to your point, I have been to many work conferences and there is just a damn ton of infidelity occurring in those environments. Maybe more so than girls night out. And even more to your point, there’s literally nothing you can do about the work conference scenario. At this point in my life, I believe the likelihood of infidelity increases exponentially as you reach certain milestones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:29 PM
0

Right bud. It’s fun to gaslight people about their needs. Is sunlight a need? Is human contact a need? Is having friends a need? Is being validated in your existence a need? No these are “just wants”. There’s no way you won’t be a mental basket case when your “wants” aren’t met. What a load of crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:49 PM
1

If you want to act single, you should be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:44 PM
2

You don’t trust. You send her back to the streets. The whole men must trust thing is gaslighting. A girls night out is usually dressing up sexy for men other than your partner and getting hammered in a sexually charged environment. Unfortunately, monogamous relationships require enforcement of boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:40 PM
6

You keep telling yourself it’s not a need. I think that narrative is complete manure.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 05:16 PM
2

What would be the point? Companionship does have value but sex is a fundamental need for most healthy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:16 PM
1

Lol. The “incentives” certainly don’t outweigh the costs. There’s a very high likelihood the lower earner is going to take half the assets and also get basically perpetual child support payments.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:15 PM
1

For every one case where the circumstances present mitigating consideration, I believe there are ten cases where people simply got tired of their relationship and decided to break their vows. I already live in a society that punishes activities that shouldn’t be punished and let’s other activities go with a slap on the wrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:48 PM
1

I’m fine throwing rocks. I agree that it’s questionable how “morality” is encoded in law.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:07 PM
2

Similar to a DUI if I had my say. And certainly to have repercussions during divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:02 PM
0

Fantasizing obsessively is definitely a contributing factor to actually committing the act.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:46 PM
2

It should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:43 PM
3

The naturals I have known in my life easily hit a few hundred.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 06:32 PM
0

Because the more a man changes based on her whims and her ideas of what a man should be the less she will actually respect him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 02:29 PM
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I can definitely forgive cheating. I just can’t ever trust or be in a relationship with the cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 01:32 AM
1

Must not really like her all that much. Dignity is over rated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:42 PM
1

Most men in relationships and marriage curb what they actually want sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:30 PM
2

Tell her new boyfriend that’s life as a parent. No end to the love and affection and sex for the new guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:59 PM
3

I’m a single dad dating a single mom. What’s it to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:28 PM
2

My comment came from my own observations and had nothing to do directly with perel’s work. But thanks for playing. Moreover you didn’t address the points made. You simply dismissed what was said out of hand. But since it’s such an emotional issue, just for you I will remove the perel reference so others can actually attempt to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:45 PM
2

Did you have a response related to my comment or simply wanted to express an emotion about perel?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:41 PM
10

It’s unavoidable. Too much comfort kills attraction. Once the attraction starts to go, disrespect and controlling behavior follows. You see the standard set of arguments such as he let himself go or he doesn’t do enough chores around the house or he doesn’t romance me like he used to. Really what happened is the man’s behavior never changed. The requirements for being in a relationship simply escalate as the attraction wanes. I’d argue that even if you try hard to directly address all her concer…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:30 PM
3

Most likely you weren’t her first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:07 PM
1

I don’t understand why there can’t be a double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:31 AM
1

Why do you care so much what “society” has to say about anything? You give too many fucks. Yes, there are double standards and bias and prejudice and stereotypes etc etc etc. We navigate these as best we can while also trying to find deeper connections with other human beings. I agree many things aren’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:14 PM
1

It’s funny how standards go out the window when you meet certain people. Average men really can’t operate with high standards if they expect to be able to get into many relationships or casual situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:00 PM
3

It’s like trying to open a combination lock while you are blind folded with many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 02:55 PM
10

You’re insecurity is warranted. It’s the risk of boredom and cheating. Smart phones and social media and the memories of all those exes are what you have to compete against.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:43 PM
2

I feel what you are putting down. I know more than a few men with the same thoughts. Personally, I really enjoy having a woman in my bed. Feminine energy, when it’s working for you, is a must in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 02:12 PM
4

I think it’s difficult because I prefer to be in monogamous relationships. And I can’t help questioning when my partner is going to get bored and cheat or otherwise blow up the relationship. Only because I’ve been through exactly what we’re discussing. Yes, it’s not your “fault” that the other person cheated, but it is your responsibility to find out if you are a contributing factor for the circumstance to show up at all. I’m not talking about the typical blame shifting arguments brought up by p…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 01:36 PM
6

I’m of the belief that in long term relationships women start to see the men as siblings versus lovers. Hence, I love you but I’m not in love with you. It’s not intentional. It’s more like a natural phenomenon that simply happens. There’s a certain amount of excitement, anxiety, and tension that’s required to maintain a sexual relationship. Familiarity breeds comfort, breeds contempt and boredom. As much as I hate to say it, because it’s happened to me, have any of the men considered what role t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 12:43 PM
3

It’s pretty clear from Will’s behavior that he is not at all okay with what’s happening in his marriage. Honestly, I feel bad for him for not enforcing boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 06:13 PM
13

I only care how I’m being treated now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:00 PM
3

I don’t want a virgin or someone inexperienced. My ego isn’t attached to how many men have been inside her. I think you’re conflating sexuality with character. There is the deafening fear of being cheated on. Yes, I get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 01:38 PM
5

I disagree. The question is can she be loyal to one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 12:54 PM
4

There’s plenty of dead bedrooms where the man does more than half the chores. This isn’t the real problem. It’s besides the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:20 AM
2

Most married men I know are in dead or semi-dead bedrooms. And they provide, do their half of everything around the house, play super dad, take their spouses on vacations and dates, and generally are stand up men. The garbage reasons that generally get trotted out is men don’t do enough chores, or communicate out the wazoo, or romance endlessly, or give her lots of her own time, etc etc etc. I think the original commenter in this thread was close to right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:11 AM
3

The issue in marriage is women very commonly lose attraction to their spouse regardless of chores being done. Many issues get trotted out to why this happens but really it’s most likely that familiarity kills libido. And once it’s dead, there’s no getting it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:02 AM
10

Women have plenty of sex with men that don’t help around the house. Chore play isn’t the real problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:46 AM
2

Thank you. And you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:46 PM
1

I make great money. I’m in the gym 5 days a week and in great shape. I’m handsome enough and can handle myself in most situations. Women do hit on me. So what? The one I’m with fits just right. I think what you are asking is am I playing second fiddle to her children? Maybe. She does the things I want and need as a man. And vice versa. I expect her to prioritize her children as I do mine. You are not required to justify your preference. Single and without children is definitely easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:42 PM
0

Eons it seems like. I don’t question what the universe provides. If you want to date endlessly in order find to ms. perfect, I believe you’re going to be disappointed ultimately.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:37 PM
1

I have my own child. I’m middle aged. At a certain point, every one has significant baggage. I’ve learned in the hardest way that kindness and a certain amount of compromise are necessary in my life. How many people am I going to meet that are actually a good fit for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:34 PM
4

I’m dating a single mom. She’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:11 PM
2

This issue comes to down to options. Your average joe really doesn’t have opportunities to cheat. I believe men and women are both settling in most relationships but for different reasons. For men, it’s a lack of options. Porn fills that void to some extent. But just like alcohol or drugs, porn can be and is harmful. Because men settle, they are very likely unfulfilled sexually in their relationships and unwilling to lose the relationship to have a satisfying sex life. And women shouldn’t be req…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:03 PM
8

You have a way with words, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 12:56 AM
6

Listen to the other commenters. She wanted new men. Whatever she says to you is only an attempt to belittle and emasculate in order justify her own bad behavior. You’ve been afforded the opportunity to actually be a better man. That has nothing to do with what did or didn’t occur in your last relationship. That has to do with reconnecting with friends, hitting the gym, taking on new hobbies and goals, and generally creating a life you can be proud of. The next time you engage in a relationship i…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 04:54 PM
3

Exactly how is being insulting forwarding the conversation? If you have a problem with what was said, why not give an explanation for your own beliefs?
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 04:48 PM
5

Let me add that what you did to get the girl initially will not be enough to maintain the relationship. Expectations will only rise. So, yes, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:30 PM
4

The problem is the sex is generally hot during the honeymoon phase. It’s the period after the honeymoon where the controlling behavior starts ramping up and the quality of sex declines precipitously. By then, you may be roped in with kids and marriage and obligations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:40 PM
1

Narcissists are generally successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 01:37 AM
7

It’s called controlling the narrative. It’s actually pretty brilliant that some do this instinctively.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 11:09 PM
3

Why are you assuming facts and figures mean anything? Most arguments are emotional and anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 09:43 PM
7

It’s fine if you want to invalidate my experience and the experiences of every man I’ve gotten close with. Family, friends, and strangers at the bar all report similar experiences. I would suggest you go outside and actually have a conversation with any middle aged man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:22 PM
6

You are unfortunately very wrong. My lived experience and the thousands of other stories you can easily find suggests otherwise. Being vulnerable is discouraged by direct experience with women. It’s not nice but empirically valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:16 PM
6

Most men have stories of being vulnerable to their partner and that being taken as weakness. Women tend to lost attraction very quickly. Once a pattern is established, one quickly learns not to be vulnerable so as not to ruin the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 06:13 PM
3

The problem I’ve seen is one party has to put in increasing amounts of effort to get less and less results. I think many people have a problem ending the relationship because of sunk costs fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:54 PM
3

That’s not my lived experience and definitely not from many second hand accounts. But fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:53 PM
3

The sex is generally good at the beginning of the relationship. Then the quantity and quality decreases over time. There’s simply no way to vet for lasting attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:46 PM
6

Sexual desire decreases regardless. Even if the man takes care of everything. I agree that women shouldn’t have to be mothers to grown men. But it’s an entirely separate issue from loss of libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:39 PM
1

I will read it. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:26 PM
3

I really wish they’d do a study on declining libido in heterosexual couples that have had kids. It’s been my anecdotal experience that mens libido seems to be a constant but women tend to lose attraction to their partner. The typical reasoning seems to revolve around caring for children drains the woman. However, I’m not so sure. What I’ve experienced and what I’ve gathered second hand is the moment the relationship ends, even if the children are very young, the woman has no problems hooking up …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:16 PM
1

Was he being an ass or trying to give you some tough love? The message has to be adjusted based on the audience. It’s easy for me to get into a period of self-pity, which is never an effective way to deal with circumstances. Tough love helps.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 02:49 PM
4

I think it matters for casual dating and appealing to the widest audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:02 PM
6

Good luck nit picking a partner into changing that kind of behavior. You can “communicate” until the cows come home, but partners are not going to prioritize the same way you do. What hill are you going to die on? I think there is a qualitative difference between forgetful behavior and one partner attempting to limit the others social outings.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 11:50 PM
2

I’ve met more than a handful of men in their 30s and 40s dating significantly younger women i.e 10 plus years difference. These men weren’t wealthy. I haven’t seen the opposite scenario. Probably more social stigma.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:31 PM
2

Bless your heart. The pickings are thin on the ground when you’re my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:12 AM
4

What I don’t get is how is having someone literally inside your face less intimate than piv? I’m too old to play the consent game. Either it’s hell yes or hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:53 PM
10

I won’t ever be over her. But I will definitely find happiness and think about her less over time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 07:28 PM
17

I’m 40. Literally every woman I’ve dated lately has been “sarcastic” and playfully bitchy. Frankly it’s exhausting and a turn off. It’d be real nice to have someone do the pick me dance for a change.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:53 PM
1

It obviously can happen but has a shelf life. It’s been my experience eventually they cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:47 PM
1

I’ve heard too many graphic sexual assault stories whether I wanted to hear it or not. I’m old enough now that I really don’t care how many people someone else has slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:46 PM
1

I have never had a woman not hint or volunteer their past. It’s usually a way to filter out men that are going to be judgmental. It’s only a red flag if your potential partner is in the high double or even triple digits. And personally I really don’t want to know. The bigger problem is how much social media and smart phones have changed the dating landscape. There are just too many options for any long term relationship to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:28 PM
13

Under these circumstances, there is almost always another person. She’s been planning on leaving for awhile. Assume she has cheated and lawyer up fast.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 12:16 AM
5

She wanted the marriage and white picket fence. New relationship energy masks the real issue of not actually being physically attracted. You weren’t her first choice but here you are at just the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:19 PM
16

Go no contact. Delete from social media. You will relapse and text or call when you’re really feeling sorry for yourself or indulging in alcohol. Forgive yourself but remember she absolutely doesn’t care. She’s not your friend. She’s a stranger with terrible motives. The love you two shared is in the past. And anything she might say to you is only an attempt to make you feel worse or keep you as a backup plan.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:06 PM
36

Don’t listen to her nonsense. She’s creating a narrative where she is the victim and not taking responsibility for her actions. She behaved badly by cheating. End of story. Don’t let her gaslight you or rewrite history or deflect blame onto you. You move forward with the notion that the person you loved is gone forever. Grieve the relationship. Protect yourself. And start living as a single person. This process is a marathon and besides kids you are the most important person in this situation. L…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 05:56 PM
9

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 02:08 PM
2

Can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 11:29 PM
0

Beggars can’t be choosers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:47 PM
2

We’ve all made fools of ourself even well into middle age. Forgive yourself. You have another story to add to the pile. Do find a good outlet like the gym to give you some goals outside of thinking about the prior relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 06:28 PM
6

Happens to the best of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:31 PM
7

I think some men will have sex knowing their wife isn’t in the mood. I think some women will give sex without asserting that they really don’t want to. And I think it’s really easy to get into a routine or rut where sex becomes a chore for the woman. Then you get sex aversion. And resentment from both parties. Once the aversion is there it’s really difficult to turn around, and a dead bedroom is born.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:07 PM
2

So is the question that reflexively side eyeing a nice bosom is socially conditioned? What about the discomfort some women feel when they realize the guy they’re talking to can’t stop glancing down while holding a conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:22 PM
32

I guarantee some of those kids are not his.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 05:01 PM
2

If you’re being real here, your wife is telling you directly what the problem is with you and her. Constant conflict is extremely stressful. Give her some space. You’re literally being abusive. Why don’t you work on your conflict resolving skills and give the child thing a rest for a year. At your pace, you’ll be divorced very soon.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 03:27 PM
7

What did I just read? Excellent troll.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 03:25 PM
1

Why not? Sex is just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:29 PM
0

No. But I did like them as people. The sex was okay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 01:10 AM
18

Strangely enough, every woman I’ve gotten serious with has gone out of their way to try to cut me off from exes, fwbs, and “friends”. I happen to believe having an ex hanging around is a red flag. Unless they have kids together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:19 PM
4

Did you read my statement? Obviously you absolutely can for any reason at all. They don’t have to be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:52 PM
26

I’ve had sex with women whose only attractive quality is that they liked me. I’ve had sex with “platonic” friends and gay women. If I like someone, and they want sex, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:37 PM
1

My original argument was it sure would be nice if the orgasm gap wasn’t a thing. If that means men put in more effort or women become more assertive so be it. The gap exists the effort part is irrelevant. Unfortunately, at some point a mature individual needs to take responsibility for their own role in what happens in their life. If you’re agreeable, and not getting your needs met, maybe a little self examination is called for. I reciprocate because I enjoy the act. I find many women don’t actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:40 AM
1

Fine. You win. Men are selfish and lazy. Women are saints. It couldn’t be that women are less assertive and more agreeable in general. And it’s been my personal experience blow jobs go away in committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:29 AM
2

I think women way over rate the importance of the woman’s look versus the man’s success. Looks always fade. I generally see average men with frumpy women. I see fit men with fit women. Etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:21 AM
1

I’m sure the sex is great but how much can you really have in common?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:17 AM
1

Probably because it takes less effort when you know exactly how it should feel. If I were so inclined, I’m willing to bet gay men give way better head than straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:05 AM
1

If our sexual function was more similar, we wouldn’t have all this resentment about effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:46 AM
1

Are we talking mens efforts or womens? I’d prefer easier for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:37 AM
20

I would close the orgasm gap. And make their sexuality more proactive instead of reactive. It would be a society of men and women being equally slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:39 PM
2

My ex literally didn’t do any chores and had plenty of time to herself. Got bored and cheated. Predictably and comfort and non-communication killed my latest relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:28 PM
4

I’ve had more than one woman “monkey branch” in my life. Perhaps it shouldn’t be described as typical but typical in my experience. Monkey branching as I’ve observed personally is having one foot in a “safe” relationship while attempting to secure another through various sexual antics. The men I’ve known closely didn’t behave that way in their relationships. They were more likely not to have any one on the hook when a relationship ended. I agree generalizing to the entire population from persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:29 PM
9

My relationship just ended. She cheated. I wanted to keep my family together. Now I have to square in my head that some series of men are going to be banging my ex and potentially traumatizing my child. The only thing I care about anymore is the welfare of my child. The ex did the typical monkey branching. The love I feel for my child is not like any other love I’ve felt. The way you stated your “questions” is pretty offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:50 PM
3

I’ve tried dating again recently. I’m stuck between wanting sex and not wanting to put any effort into any kind of relationship. I’m not over my marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 05:42 PM
1

That’s fair. I’ve heard good things about hinge.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 05:51 PM
2

Bumble.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 05:34 PM
3

Frankly it’s no ones business how you’re marriage ended. There are many divorced single dads out there looking for a good match. We understand marriages end for all sorts of reasons. In my opinion, at least at the initial stages, think first 3 months, I wouldn’t care about your past. If we wanted to get very serious, then I might dig and we can have an adult conversation. What I’m saying is that I understand your anxiety but it’s really not the biggest concern when dating as a middle aged person…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 12:32 AM
2

I’d love to pay off my bike.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 12:14 AM
3

I just made this mistake so can confirm with exactly that result. From my point of view, her love was like a light switch. One moment there and the next there’s another dude giving her attention. I’m sure her rationalization is the same as yours. Very poor communication on both our parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:00 PM
1

I agree with the women here. Men tend to want sex first and only then want to fall in love with the person. However, I do think when men love that their love is less fickle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:01 PM
9

The bigger issue is many people aren’t built for life time monogamy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 08:42 PM
49

She will change after the wedding.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 02:52 PM
9

I’d get married to she-hulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:31 PM
10

The other half gets half of everything when she inevitably cheats.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:27 PM
1

Do “traditional” women even exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:05 PM
2

The feeling is understandable. For my part, I want companionship. Is it possible to have a relationship where the love and intimacy doesn’t slowly but inevitably die and the disrespect ramps up to intolerable levels? No idea. Some might conclude the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 02:24 AM
3

Similar story here. This last Christmas no gifts. And I caught her with a burner phone she’d been using to text randoms. We’d only been separated two weeks. I feel you, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 04:25 PM
4

That’s exactly what happened with my ex. No spark and decided introducing random new partners into her kids lives is a good life decision. Let’s be clear what is meant by “spark”: new relationship energy. That’s it. The same bad habits and poor communication still exists and manifests in the new relationships eventually. But for a short while, you will get her best behavior emotionally and sexually, which is the hook. I’m still in the grief process. It comes in waves.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 03:47 PM
1

The federal government requires you to sign a contract to pay for any social services used by a foreign border even after a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 10:05 PM
2

Just because your happiness doesn’t depend on sex doesn’t mean the rest of us are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:56 PM
9

You can’t change your height.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:48 PM
2

Personally I don’t have the energy to date, and hooking up has always required a ton of time and money. And being in a relationship for so long I don’t have any game. I’m developing my social circle mainly. And getting my bodybuilding program back on track. I get what you’re putting down. My buds say the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:52 PM
2

Just happened to me. Mother of my child cheated. Does that mean I hate an entire gender? No. Does that mean I will avoid relationships until I can fix myself? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:34 PM
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Similar I think to women, I’d prefer to be lusted for based on the quality of my character and personality. But the reality is lust is visceral and automatic. Almost entirely subconscious. The conscious mind exists simply to justify after the fact what the body has already decided. When I’ve spoken with my buddies in long term relationships, the deciding factor seems to be unsolicited blowjobs. Oral sex from women to men seems to be a mate guarding and relationship incentivizer. Once those disap…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 12:12 AM
1

I found driving and listening to sad country music pretty distracting.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 11:52 PM
1

OLD has been working for you. I’m recently separated and have children (40M). Have any tips?
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 09:50 PM
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It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. This is gold, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 05:44 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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