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Question for Womenchira-chira/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 12:34 PM
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Question for Menchira-chira/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:27 PM
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i don't believe that he is highly successful either, but we can agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 06:46 PM
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you seem to love him, but no. that absolutely does matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 06:33 PM
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i don't believe anything that you're saying about your friends, so... sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:50 PM
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so you're the bitter single friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:03 PM
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no, it's still true.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:46 PM
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guess we'll see 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:43 PM
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Women don't need men for security today. Women can carry guns. i seem to recall lots of women here also acknowledging this. i remember very few saying they got married so they had a protector, precisely because that's not so necessary anymore. i don't think even those that got married to someone they say makes them feel safe actually require that man to be a protector. Marriage provides no status to women. it offers status to both men and women. Women go through much of their young adult lives w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 02:30 PM
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it sounds like you're just upset that no one cares about the men who are eschewing marriage (who probably weren't marriageable in the first place).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 03:17 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 02:03 PM
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Yes it. It's still a process of divorce. There's still a procedure to undo a marriage. It's a pain in the ass for everyone. Without that, someone can just up and leave one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:19 PM
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But you can get all these benefits without marriage being a legally binding contract. ... you're definitely going to get yelled at for this. For you personally does the state have to be involved? Edit: like a commitment ceremony. yes. a commitment ceremony is nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 01:10 PM
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Maybe people are realizing that having a certain number of sexually frustrated young men is a potentially destabilizing factor. even if they do realize this, not any reasonable solutions to put in place, as far as i can tell (even after exhaustive discussions here).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 09:45 PM
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The Toronto attack sparked a newfound interest from the MSM uh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 09:36 PM
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it makes sense because of what inverses are. but, we can agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:59 PM
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because the inverse of one person being young and able to reproduce successfully is the other person being young and able to reproduce successfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:44 PM
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you're adding in the "it might change" as an "eh, maybe" afterthought to make it more palatable to her and to avoid conflict, but if you're this concerned about it and/or you really think you'll want kids in the future, stop doing that and be honest with her (and yourself) about how important that is to you. there's no guarantee she'll change her mind, you can't force her, and this is something you really can't waste this sort of time on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:42 PM
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cool, i don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:33 PM
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she can say that under automod. for future threads, please ensure that you understand the basics of how threads and discussions function here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 03:27 PM
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i don't see why it would be problematic; that's their personal preference. if both parties are on board and/or they can get what they're seeking, good for them. the only one that seems questionable is 1; his method(s) for taking charge are problematic if they harm one or both of them, and in the inverse, the woman doesn't say she wants charge taken over her (and i don't think that's what most women that say that mean either). while not 'problematic', i also don't think 3 presents two ideas that …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 02:58 PM
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which does not make it immune to criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 01:34 PM
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It’s weird to me how much women think you can just do nothing and have good things happen to you, I wish my life were like that in any way this piece of advice isn’t necessarily about you getting in a new relationship or having miracles fall into your lap, but preparing yourself to be ready to move on, have a new relationship with less risk of failure and disaster. you went through a fucked up relationship, so take some time alone/not dating seriously, if at all, to heal, readjust, and then try …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 04:27 AM
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i can't relate to going this far to find something to read and/or be upset about. i would never in a million years have stumbled upon either of those blog posts. why do you do this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 01:39 AM
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unexpected discovery from japan trip: their skin and haircare products are amazing. i've been using this moisturizer for a bit, and i like it a lot. i recently ordered this cleanser, and i'm excited to try it out (even though i hate the texture of oil). i used this shampoo and conditioner at one of the places i stayed, but it's a little expensive. i smelled this at a local store over the weekend and it was nice, and has good reviews, so i can't wait to get it once i run out of my current shampoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 01:37 AM
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just got out of a showing... so so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 06:43 PM
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i don't think focusing on mental health or 'social structure' is a bad idea (not that our government/president gives even one fuck about that either). but, iirc, you can't even have certain eating utensils or writing implements in rehab or mental health facilities, for obvious reasons. so if 'they' believe that there should be a focus on identifying and treating mental health issues, and understand that disarming people who are a danger to themselves and others is a Good Plan ^TM , it follows th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 02:59 AM
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ooh, kintsugi 😊 hopefully you’ll share pictures sometime!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 07:55 PM
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What hobbies do you have that you'd like to share with your friends, acquaintances and enemies on PPD ? Are you a sporty type ? A reader ? A baker ? A world class nose-picker ? risking naming something that others wouldn’t class as a hobby... i like collecting snow globes and toys, drawing, writing, and studying foreign languages. What hobbies would you like to develop/get into ? i have a cross-stitch kit gathering dust. learning an instrument would be cool. What hobbies did you used to have and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 06:15 PM
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yeah, i’m sure zero bias is at play here. you’re wrong, but go right ahead and be that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 01:40 PM
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is this really spinning off the “tell us how terrible your man is” thread? because i don’t know how you could walk away from that thinking that “weakening the argument” is why women weren’t answering how that OP wanted them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 12:33 PM
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you could just put a little effort in to read it and make your mind up for yourself instead of coming here to make insensitive remarks at someone who opened up and shared difficult stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 10:01 PM
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ah, okay. it might help to add that in at the top, so people know why you're posting it (and maybe a TLDR of the conclusion you're presenting as a counter to that thread/experience to cap it off/because some people won't read it all).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 09:20 PM
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hey OP, thanks so much for sharing. is it safe to assume that you're posting this to suggest that the tradcon family/life isn't ideal, or did you have a different goal in mind for this thread? i'm interested in seeing replies, but it's not quite clear what's meant to be discussed or answered so having that 'goal' clarified might help discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 09:10 PM
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yeah idk what the government is even doing if they haven’t put together a plan to get these guys laid yet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 07:11 PM
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that anyone still unironically offers up thoughts and prayers at this point is incredible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 05:55 PM
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leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:53 PM
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i read the comment i responded to just fine so go make snarky comments to someone else. i wasn't answering you or your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:44 PM
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it's been a while and i don't remember checking extensively... but i seem to remember them being Indian or Middle Eastern. i still do language exchanges online so it comes up every now and then, but not as often. people from Japan or China, for example, may have had the same interests but were generally more subtle so i couldn't be sure if they were just enthusiastic to learn or talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:19 PM
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i guess the pendulum is swinging back on those that were flipping out any time a white man was a villain or a woman was in a leading role or of any use whatsoever in a movie. maybe you didn't; plenty who would be upset about this Lando development are undoubtedly in the same camp.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:17 PM
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articles or firsthand accounts of it anywhere? lots of us are out of college, but something like that would aid discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:14 PM
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i don't IRL... but i have gotten messages online like that. the OP is a whole mess of crazy so i don't know if they meant this was happening only IRL or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 01:01 PM
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I was looking forward to the movie, too you know, the movie isn't about Lando banging droids. you could forget about it entirely and probably enjoy it just as much because i doubt it'll have much bearing on the story at all. like dumbledore being gay. so what, BFD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 12:59 PM
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nah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 12:17 PM
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she’s just responding in kind to Lewis needlessly trashing her response to this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 02:43 AM
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did not look at the OP before responding. i covered this in the very comment you responded to; go back and read it. also, leaving this thread now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 11:54 PM
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i guess it depends on how often they think about this or how strong the fantasy is, and if the actual exciting part for them is betraying someone else. i always thought it was more the secret/forbidden fruit part that people found exciting, not hurting their partner (though obviously that would be a result of actual cheating). i also don't think celebrity crushes or thinking the local barista or whoever is cute is a problem, though similarly, i see the problem if it goes to an extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 11:32 PM
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husband hears laurel and i hear yanny. p. sure we’re doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 11:00 PM
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must be the pointy elbows.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:19 PM
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there's no one you think is cool or admire? not in history, or any other spheres?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:14 PM
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yeah, another good term: alt model. i seem to remember reading that it was because the things they did (piercings, tattoos, colored hair, getting naked in front of cameras, and so on) were at one point considered "social suicide" but the site and its userbase embraced them instead. not sure how accurate that is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 09:10 PM
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i didn't because i am at the place they are not safe for... but i bet i can on my phone, one moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 08:52 PM
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will probably edit more in later as they come to mind, but... wellest-known: probably krysten ritter or gal gadot. maybe evan rachel wood. on instagram, (NSFW) shamandalillie, charlottesomething, masuimimax, dametualma.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 08:50 PM
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the general vibe when UMC is brought up here (particularly when RPers complain or criticize about it) is that UMC are a bunch of rich fancy pants snobs off in a bubble of affluence (which is why they don't know anything and should be dismissed outright). clearly, not quite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 06:46 PM
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true; that was fairly old. a look at wikipedia seems to say mostly the same about income and values, though i admit i didn't look at their sources for verification.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 06:28 PM
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Really when they say umc, they man more UC yeah, based on conversations here and even the OP, it seems that way. made UMC seem like a way bigger deal than it is; i agree with those saying that it's probably quite a significant portion of reddit in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 06:26 PM
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interesting; thought the income "requirements" were higher than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 05:41 PM
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RP theories are correct for most of the population. RP advice works on most women. to cast the spell: light 10 candles in a dark room (one for each level of the HB scale) on a cloudless night of a full moon and chant it 12 times (once for each level of dread) and then shout BY CHAD'S NAME, TRP CONFIRMED and blow out the candles.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:20 PM
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hm. can you provide examples? i can only think of a handful of people who are UMC here, i think (and it's pretty even among reds and blues). you don't have to be UMC to marry a good person, live in a decent neighborhood, not cheat/avoid cheating, not divorce/avoid divorcing, not be a single mom, not be a CC rider, not hit the wall at 30. quite a few people here are middle/working class and still manage to do well for themselves without being UMC-level.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:06 PM
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no one says that. we say that the shaved, oiled up mega buff guys posing in underwear for gay men are gay (which just so happens to be what some TRPers here try to convince us is what women see as the ideal man).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:57 PM
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this is terrible parenting. don’t do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 12:34 AM
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no can do, pal. 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 11:39 PM
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i typically don’t think about them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 10:26 PM
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i don't agree that that's a fact, but i'm sure it's reframing and coping of some sort, as i've been noting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:25 PM
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Idk this is kind of a wishy washy assertion IMO, like saying the CEO of a company is not a leader, he's just being delegated all of those upper level decisions by the droves of workers below him who have the real power. yes, this is precisely my point, that many of the men who boast about or claim to be the ones in charge, the ones in a male-led relationship "look at me, look at me", are probably deluding themselves either a lot or a little, with the same kind of thinking. because: the leadershi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:20 PM
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i don't think people believe that of leadership in general. i am certain that most, if not all here know that leadership in general is defined differently. that is just the relationship model some TRPers and manospherians highly covet, strive for, or claim to have. if he's not the one calling the shots, then he's the woman's doormat (how dreadful). RPW also touched on this in the past, with some women taking the coddling/ego-stroking that supports this mindset to an extreme. so, for this discuss…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:09 PM
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paging /u/belletaco
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:01 PM
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is one person making 80% of the decisions because they're the boss, or because those decisions are being delegated or assigned to them by the person making the other 20%? i think the concept of leadership in a couple is mostly pretty evenly distributed; men, here in particular, just like to think of themselves of being in charge when they talk about being in male-led relationships. i mean, some of them even compare themselves to kings. it's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:55 PM
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no, because that's not what's happening. on the occasion where he really wants to go to X place and says that, then sure, in that one instance you can say i'd be following his lead (if you so desperately need to) because he cares more about going to X place than i do. same is true if the roles are reversed. every now and then one of us craves a specific food or restaurant, so we go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:44 PM
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doesn't sound like a male-led relationship to me, it sounds like exactly what i described, but we can just agree to disagree 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:41 PM
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In almost any relationship I’ve been in, I have to plan all the cool shit we do, she might come up with some ideas but rarely will she run down all the details and make it happen so you do the work for her, and she reaps the benefits. I mean sure maybe you might say it’s “couple led” if you want to characterize like 30-70 or 20-80 as both of us doing the work. i wasn't talking about your individual relationship; my comment was in general. Anyway for me I don’t see it as being “in charge” as much…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:34 PM
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what a rapid change of story. but in any case, still sounds to me that you're acting on their positive feedback and encouragement but choosing to see yourself as the leader because of the actions it involves, despite how minor of a thing this really is (and doesn't seem to be actual 'leading' anyway). agree to disagree 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:31 PM
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so she said she wants you to do something, you do it, but you're the one in charge?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:24 PM
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or we just don't care and leave it up to the other party that will be eating and drinking with us, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:23 PM
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IRC Armada?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:12 PM
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being put in their place subtly leading probably because these are two different things, and also, only the man who thinks he's doing the leading will interpret it that way to make himself feel Good and Special.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:11 PM
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probably not that many. i'm sure most people would want a relationship where both are in charge of separate things, and both lead forward. i think this is likely pretty normal, though. i'm not convinced that all men who claim to be in male-led relationships actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:07 PM
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feel free to send us proof for each individual who is downvoting you via modmail and we'll address it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 05:44 PM
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just did training on this at work yesterday... it's pretty extensive. interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 04:27 PM
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someone's word is worth nothing if they never actually do what they say or claim. so do it. don't just say it. don't shitpost. engage genuinely and in good faith. or don't, and eventually be forced out because you can't help yourself. win-win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:58 PM
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I'm open to different interpretations. you are not, as your comments so far have demonstrated. you're dismissing them instead, and the comments above imply that this was just a "ha ha ha let's see who's lying out of those lying liar bloops" thread, which is NOT ALLOWED on top of being annoying as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:53 PM
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you were better off leaving it where it was. but you're intent on denying what we're talking about, either because you're oblivious to it or because someone committed the crime of criticizing men. either way, yawn. don't believe it, i don't care. it happens whether you acknowledge it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:42 PM
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if you have examples, you're welcome to ask about it in modmail (and/or you can just report a thread, though this only matters if a rule's actually broken). i haven't seen any threads that match this description recently so i'm not sure what you're referring to, but we can talk it out further in modmail if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:39 PM
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with the way so many men are in the west today... you'd be doing her a favor by equipping her with those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 02:19 PM
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Do you agree that young, naive women are particularly susceptible to RP tactics? If yes, then according to your standard, their quality does change over time. no, you're talking about something completely different. i said core character. Do you agree that women re-prioritize what they seek in relationships as they age? If yes, then values DO change over time, do they not? again, talking about something completely different. i said core character. reread my previous comment as many times as you …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:59 PM
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don't post gotchas. it's shitty and in bad faith. i'll remove it if that's what this turns into.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:53 PM
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I assume most men want the best for their daughters, in terms of personal life satisfaction, relationship success, possibly career success, etc. there are men here who talk about their daughters like cattle being raised for the market; i think you'll be disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:52 PM
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2-5, depending on which tactic we're talking about. Quality and low quality. yes. though it's more accurate to say there are high quality people and low quality people. quality women don't have whatever quality described as AWALT AWALT is always described as negative behavior that a low quality person would exhibit. (so it AWALT doesn't exist) some men insist AWALT is true to an absolute degree; wrong. that it doesn't change over time. no, someone's core character and values typically do not cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 01:48 PM
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this thread has some decent insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 12:57 AM
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i'm sure there's nothing the women could do that you wouldn't class as inherent cruelty and disdain.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 09:58 PM
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At a primal level, women despise men who are prone to anxiety. Once it becomes known that they are dealing with an anxious men, they will do everything in their power to browbeat them, subjugate them and ensure that they stay riddled with anxiety. that's a weird thing to say. if they desire someone confident and lose attraction to the man with anxiety (going by what you've said, anyway), they're going to leave, not stay and do whatever you're claiming in the quote above.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 09:45 PM
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You imagined in your mind that he is some r/conspiracy nut his posts strongly have that vibe about them; she's not the only one picking up on it. plenty of people recognize his posts for what they are and respond with the level of effort appropriate for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 09:31 PM
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thank you; you guys are the best. i’ve been a little worried but this helped a lot, to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 11:54 AM
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can you make a small edit to your post? it can be just adding a period somewhere or something. that should make our automoderator comment show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 09:35 PM
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mainly because it wasn’t marked NSFW. if you change it i’ll reapprove, and didn’t mean to yell; it’s just a big deal (even though it’s not on the sidebar) to drop them out of nowhere like that since quite a few of us Reddit at work. the Q4M thread was one thing, but it’s different when it’s in a thread where that’s not really expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 06:15 PM
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how dare you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 04:06 PM
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they actually gave me xanax for a different exam and i hated it, haha... but it's better than nothing when they're poking at you with horror tools.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 03:17 PM
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must be lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 11:28 PM
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it’s unfair for anyone to suggest that only people saying what they agree with are being objectively honest. it just happens to be a thing that male TRPers and manospherians do here often.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 09:56 PM
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you can just say that you like that she shares your opinions and tells you what you want to hear. even the definitions of established things like “honesty” are so warped by TRPers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 09:45 PM
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thanks; it seems like that happens pretty regularly, so here's hoping.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 09:10 PM
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it does suck (though from further reading, i probably freaked out when i didn’t need to). i’m glad my doctor has no problem issuing anxiety meds for the procedure though. thank you for the kind words, and also wishing the best to your mum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 07:17 PM
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maybe TMI but got test results that mean i probably have to go in for a cervical biopsy in the near future and could not be less thrilled about it 😢 hung over after getting the news yesterday 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 07:02 PM
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just wrote a school report on this; fascinating and terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 06:54 PM
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multiple people mentioned both cooking and cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 03:19 PM
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no, and i think forcing yourself into that is a dangerous and bad idea. i think of it as akin to the idea that a diet with total deprivation of something is just going to drive you to binge on that thing. it’s normal to be attracted to attractive people, and if it’s just something like a celebrity crush or is something never acted on, i see no harm. if it really is an obsession/idolization or a situation where there’s risk of infidelity then yeah, i’d agree with that tweet. but just having a meg…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 01:57 PM
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most people today are not what they were at 18, and/or didn’t want to be married with children at that age (seriously, fuck that). did you make this thread just to get mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 12:06 PM
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oh, of course, that’s the dramatic response to a “down with women! down with women!” thread backfiring 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 08:07 PM
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interesting conversation, witty jokes/silly puns, nice snuggles, emotional support, mostly okay cooking, extra hands to help keep the house clean and running, extra money coming in and an excellent companion for adventures.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 07:59 PM
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me too! always nice to acknowledge how awesome the ladies on the sub are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 07:56 PM
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whaaa Rivka Galchen is super cute. i wish i could pull off that style but i just don't have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 01:58 AM
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given the variety here, i find that hard to believe. do you have a face
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 10:55 PM
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hopefully not incorrect on this, and probably my fault for making threads so similar, but... the Q4M version is here :) if i'm wrong and you are a woman, please disregard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 06:58 PM
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hm... it's not usually a part of these threads so i hadn't thought about it, but i think men and women alike specifically like some people for the characters they portray, which doesn't seem much less fictional... so sure! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 06:54 PM
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i didn't know who she was until one of these threads came up a while back, but totally agreed. i haven't read any of her books, but she seems all around awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:18 PM
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everyone is calm. well, maybe not you, but nothing about my comment was uncalm, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:44 PM
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of course!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:32 PM
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used to LOOOOOOVE Joel Madden from Good Charlotte and Adam Lazarra from Taking Back Sunday - both aged horrendously. same, and so true :( man, i had such a crush on adam.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:33 PM
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lol @ people downvoting this thread. the true haters of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 02:27 PM
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even with those cheekbones? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 01:59 PM
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billy was kind of annoying (even though i like jimmi simpson)... but always enjoy the man in black scenes on westworld. yay ed harris!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 01:55 PM
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and that's why i made the joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 01:34 PM
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i haven't either, but i've heard a lot of buzz about it. might have to check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 01:32 PM
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lakeith! yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 01:26 PM
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wouldn’t even mind a Q4All one (though would ask for NSFW tags/heads up).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:16 AM
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i think i was probably too young to appreciate (but looking now, i see why he was liked). i think the first guy that got a similar reaction, that i recall, was jonathan jackson.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:09 AM
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ew, no. also, don't circlejerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:21 AM
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the general mindset here seems to be that it's a successful marriage/family so long as it doesn't break up. i haven't bothered to research it myself, but interesting that studies contradict that. (not that i imagine even sharing studies proving it would mean much during arguments here.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:00 PM
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if you are not a woman, please post this under automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 08:06 PM
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chiming in, as i recently removed comments similar to what he's referring to... as TGP pointed out below, there's a civil way of pointing out the things you described above without insinuating that they're stupid. which, is exactly what happened in the instance where that comment was removed. person A didn't like that person B disagreed with them, so instead of engaging with person B and actually talking it out, person A just kept responding with jabs at the person's reading comprehension, very …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:37 PM
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no one will stop you from sticking your head in the sand if you so choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 01:25 PM
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Nor is it comparable to squiddy's comment.... or your "killing the men/women would be better" example ... because both of those violate consent and are arguably incitement to actual illegal violence. oh, i don't think the thread and the comment are the same; definitely different. the "killing the men/women" comparison was only meant for the comment, as well. And you only modded it away as you are all secretly biased against me, and red pill, and blue pill, and black pill, and non-pill culture. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 09:59 PM
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there's much more to read and take away from my comment than just my silly joke about gynocentrism. i really hope you didn't just stop reading at the gif, and actually paid attention to everything else that was said. if not, guess that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:23 PM
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It's more so the female moderators on here I just think women are inherently must be GYNOCENTRISM jokes aside, you're always welcome to ask why something is uncivil in modmail, if you're not sure (we don't do those discussions in threads because they're off-topic and can be lengthy for tangents). the civility thread isn't going anywhere, but there's always purge week or likely other debate subs where that rule is not enforced as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:09 PM
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and if we allowed everyone to post threads like that we'd just be accused of being evil feminazis in disguise, sneakily trying to turn the place into TBP sooo a lot of our rules are shaped by complaints and feedback from the community. guess that puts us all in the same fuddy duddy boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:04 PM
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the perfect lead-up to mother's day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:41 PM
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i think she was still speaking about comments she's happened to see around the internet rather than personal advice, but in any case, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:20 PM
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no, please stay on topic. that's not even tangentially related.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:15 PM
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this question is not relevant to either her comment or her OP. don't personalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:12 PM
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if you don't have any actionable advice to share, go to automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:13 PM
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i don't think you understand what moderators actually do or what is expected of them. you're not the only one, but let me clear it up: no, none of us were required to relinquish personal opinions, individual personhood, or the ability to participate in discussions upon our appointment. we're all still fully allowed to hold whatever opinions we please, and participate in discussion like everyone else, so long as it doesn't interfere with moderation (and given the times that i've stepped in to def…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 02:11 PM
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this is not how you get support in this community. any further complaints, questions, or pointless speculations can be sent to modmail.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 01:05 PM
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definitely thought this thread had something to do with beatboxing at first glance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 01:02 PM
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unacceptable. you've now been warned several times. when you come back... be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 12:41 PM
1

fascinating. go forth and do business! make those millions!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 12:38 PM
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this post will not be approved. i recommend waiting until a relevant thread comes up to post about it in a comment, or asking women on other subs if you don’t want to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 12:34 PM
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you know why. they won’t say it because they don’t want to admit it... but everyone knows why.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 12:30 PM
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that’s what you wanted, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 12:04 PM
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actually, i don’t need to, and i’m free to judge as i please. this might work on someone else though. go try them instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:35 AM
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i'm sure you could research how. people organize and fundraise all the time; i have no doubt there are many guides out there for you to use. go forth and contribute!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 03:42 AM
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A new child would be so unfair and take so much away from my other children me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 02:30 AM
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this just seems like a rant, and your last thread saw zero participation from you. for now, i recommend spending some time here participating as a sub member before trying to post new threads. this one will stay removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 02:27 AM
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they do not care about other people beyond what they can extract from them or use them for. asking for anything more than that is wasted breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 11:39 PM
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Attention! You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message. For "CMV" and "Question for X" Threads: Parent comments that aren't from the target group will be removed, along with their child replies. If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view or if the question is not targeted at you, post it as an answer to this comment. Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion! I am not actually a bot, and this action is usually performed automaticall…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:07 PM
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ah, poop. you’re right. apologies; i will make one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 07:05 PM
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CMV responses must challenge, not agree with, OP. feel free to repost under automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 06:54 PM
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no further changes, so the comment will remain removed. if you have any further feedback or questions, feel free to send it to us via modmail.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:41 PM
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don't be disingenuous. try changing it to "someone" or a simlarly neutral term/phrase and it will be reapproved. as it stands, your intent is still to insult another individual in this sub, and that is what is against the rules. if you've been here long enough to have a sense of how conversations go, you've definitely been here long enough to understand the rules you're expected to abide by.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 05:13 PM
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don't call people out like that. if you disagree on a subject, feel free to do so, but don't throw in jabs at other sub members in the process. your comment will be reapproved this time if you edit that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 04:51 PM
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we don't have any rules against linking to archives, and i can't think of any rule it even gets close to violating. i would once again advise keeping personal stories like this private if you do not want people to read or remember them (the opposite of why you claim you posted that one).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 02:06 PM
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this doesn't seem like an honest question, and rather, an attempt to validate choices and seek pats on the back. your OP indicates that you already know what people think of fuck boys, whether or not something is wrong with them, whether or not the actions you've described are bad (and why), and whether or not it is really the guy's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 01:57 PM
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nope! don’t tell people what they believe. they’ll decide that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 03:58 AM
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you definitely have the option to delete it from your history; i've deleted comments of my own that are several months old, and the linked comment isn't even one month old. given how willfully it was volunteered in discussion, linking to these details doesn't strike me as doxxing (and i honestly don't know how anyone could find out who you are just from that), but if it makes you uncomfortable, please delete it and avoid sharing details like that in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 03:40 AM
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this is not an advice thread, and your comment doesn't challenge the OP (which is required for a CMV). please repost under automod, and review our rules for participation on the sidebar.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 03:29 AM
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this is definitely not the lowest shit that has been posted here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 03:10 AM
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sure, why not. make them non-sexual in some situations, and not in others. that’s how it should be with breastfeeding, so no reason that can’t extend to other settings too. i don’t believe nudity is inherently sexual, so, no big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 01:30 AM
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happy to entertain :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 12:17 AM
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it is perfectly relevant and it happens fairly regularly. it’s also pretty silly to express a worry over a woman getting in pregnated by another man and then get passive aggressive when someone points out that another woman can get impregnated by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:44 PM
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unless he cheats and knocks up some other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:10 PM
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don’t worry, it has been REPORTED
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:06 PM
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is it surprise purge week
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 11:01 PM
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this doesn’t quite challenge the OP, as it’s just a question about one woman. can you edit it to challenge the OP or repost under automod?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 10:47 PM
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please post jokes/circlejerky comments under automod (but remove the last line from this one as it attacks OP).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 09:54 PM
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edit: whoops, please disregard; we just happened to get another report about this comment, and i didn't see that a mod already addressed this here before i responded (it was at the bottom of the comment chain for me). carry on, carry on...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 09:42 PM
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don't. not you, not Lewis.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 09:30 PM
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thank you for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 04:04 PM
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is the view in the OP your actual, personal view or not? yes or no question, please answer honestly. some of your responses suggest that you are not arguing a view you hold which is grounds for removing your thread. if it continues and you don't bother to answer me or confirm that this is indeed your view, i guess we'll just have to take it down. up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 03:53 PM
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i explained how the two things being compared are the same. either these men and women are volcels, or they're incels; their experiences are the same. if you choose to see only men as incels even though they're having the same experience as women you call volcels, that is a feelings-based decision because they are indeed the same, but you only acknowledge it as a problem for men. it's clear to me and i've made my point, so i'll leave this here. hopefully, you'll actually think about this, though…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 02:01 PM
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The thing is you are only an incel if women i.e. in the normal SM won't fuck you. It is a term meant for men. It was never one meant for women. doesn't matter. if the definition fits, it fits. I don't care about either party. They can rot and die for all I care. She is just using the definition wrong. With enough magic anything can mean anything. she's not. your personal feelings might make you believe so... but she's not using it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 01:53 PM
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"You're all arrogant bitches for answering the question that was posed to you." i am surprised i haven't seen this yet, especially now that more people are responding positively about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 01:09 PM
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i am cute, physically and personally. also, caring and relatively smart. typically easygoing, excited to learn and try new things, yadda yadda yadda. the basic things most people look for in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/18 04:04 AM
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no, i just think your response is unimaginative and clearly an avenue to whine. i don’t care about points, but i was hoping for more interesting replies to this thread as a member of the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 06:00 PM
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at least try to make this an actual response to the OP and not just your complaints about current mods.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 05:44 PM
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enough with the “reading comprehension” remarks. be civil. find a way to disagree without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 03:25 PM
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reapproved. it’s sort of rules 2 and 6 depending on how you go about it, and those have been in place for years. but, what i quoted was from the OP itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 02:16 PM
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do not use this opportunity to criticize or start witchhunts against specific moderators. edit your comment and it will be reapproved (and please, just let it go).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 02:02 PM
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pretty sure it was a joke. lighten up. no storms here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 01:10 PM
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those lookists will never take my black flair away. they can use the green flair if they want to feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 07:17 AM
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oh, stop stop. both of you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/18 02:51 AM
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But men are always like "I like natural girls" or i like feminine girls but purple hair gets me more attention. watch what they do, not what they say 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 10:42 PM
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it would be if people who complained about the rules here or wanted a 24/7 purge used it. i’d have to double check; there may still be some rules that get in the way of it being an outright purge where you can say anything to anyone, but it’s way more relaxed than here, in any case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 10:18 PM
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oh, enforcing in the thread is fine. i thought you meant enforced participation, which would be a nightmare to actually try enforcing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 08:54 PM
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OP: it’s been two hours, and you haven’t really been replying to people in your thread. if you don’t start engaging in your own CMV, we’ll have to take it down. there’s a three hour rule; you have one hour left to start participating in this thread. okay, removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 08:52 PM
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I guess I'd also be happy with some sort of enforced flipping of POV threads. If you actually go to a debate society then you have to argue for opinions you don't hold and against opinions that you do. I think it would be good for posters to have to research and understand the other side more because it's painfully obvious that a lot of people don't really understand the reality of life for people of the other sex and that bloops (even a number of long time posters or mods/ex mods) don't underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 08:43 PM
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we had (have?) a circlejerk sub with more lax rules but no one ever used it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 07:04 PM
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limit extreme hyperbole. hyperbole has its uses, but some people here go so far out of the realm of reality that their comments don’t add anything but insanity to the discussion. you just can’t talk to someone who’s already that far out there (and some probably do it just to ruffle feathers; they don’t even believe the shit they spew).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 06:25 PM
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please see the rules in the sidebar for more information about how CMVs are moderated. any further questions are welcome in modmail.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 02:08 PM
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quality contribution. 👎
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 04:16 AM
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even if it's discussed, there's no guarantee anything would happen. i don't think it would be required for very basic things like what you've described; i also think that would be a pain, and your example is a pretty well established thing. but a post like this one, or say, one asking why BPers hate virgins (which i think happened not that long ago) would be better with content supporting that claim. but, nothing even formal is happening wrt that (i haven't even brought it up with other mods, cu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 08:57 PM
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thanks; reapproved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 06:31 PM
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agreed; may bring this up with other mods. it makes it tough to discuss otherwise. of course, then that'll bring up the debate of if the person saying thing X or Y actually is remotely RP or BP... but i suppose that's nothing new :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 06:29 PM
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i don't know how to explain it any more clearly than i already have (edited in a final attempt though). you don't have to repost it under automod if you don't want to, but it has been removed so people won't see it if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 06:14 PM
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reported for personal attacks. now you're in real trouble! reminder to the reporting party: reporting people for rule violations they didn't commit does nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 06:12 PM
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it's not really countering that RPers don't want to pay for dates, or that they hate career women. the content of your comment isn't a problem, it's just suited for automod instead given the type of thread this is. responding to a CMV with a "yeah, so what?" is not challenging the views they expressed, it is agreeing with what they have asserted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 06:01 PM
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top level comments must challenge the OP's views; please repost under automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 05:39 PM
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top level comments must challenge the OP's views; please repost under automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 05:39 PM
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this has been flaired CMV; CMV rules now apply. top level comments must challenge the OP, and OP must engage with people responding to the thread within 3 hours. OP: it would help if you added some examples to support your claims that RPers hate professional women instead of just insisting so. if this turns into nothing but an opinion-based RP-bashing thread it will be removed. even just a few site or blog links/reddit comments/threads would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 05:20 PM
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that comment broke multiple rules: uncivil, circlejerking, invalidating/telling someone what they believe. it has been removed; please follow the rules when engaging in discussion here. they apply even if you're the OP of a thread. if you have further questions, feel free to send them to us via modmail.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 05:17 PM
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i don't know who keeps reporting various comments from BiggerD as personal attacks, but unless he's actually personally attacking someone, that does absolutely nothing and is a waste of your time. if you disagree with what he's saying and you've got a counter to it, use your words instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 03:40 PM
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don't call people trolls just because you disagree with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 03:22 PM
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no, sorry. honestly, the whole comment's not okay, so it won't be reapproved. it wouldn't even be allowed under automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:49 PM
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second warning. stop insulting people. if we have to keep warning you, you're going to be temp-banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:45 PM
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this comment breaks multiple rules: uncivil, circlejerking, invalidating/telling someone what they believe. it has been removed; please follow the rules when engaging in discussion here. they apply even if you're the OP of a thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:43 PM
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this comment is uncivil and breaks our rules. edit out the first line of insults and it will be reapproved (but please don't do it again).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:41 PM
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be civil, both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:35 PM
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blech, this whole chain of advice from you is terrible. nothing would be accomplished with this, but sure, whatever. agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 11:42 AM
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she's already tried that route, getting him to change. if he didn't do it then, he won't do it now. this is how you really drag out a breakup to its miserable end. no. she needs to make a clean break with no loopholes or "outs" that he can try to exploit if he doesn't want her to go. "i'm leaving."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 03:05 AM
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yes or no is fine, but you need to add to the “maybe” and “depends” responses. they’ll just be removed starting with this one if you don’t, as they don’t really say anything. edit: this one has been reapproved; future ones will simply be removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:04 AM
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understood! thanks for clarifying; i had no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 12:58 AM
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based on what men have said here... fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 09:37 PM
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calm down; you don't need to shout at people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 08:55 PM
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can you provide some examples? it's not clear what this thread is about, or what is meant to be discussed. i've removed it for now, but if you edit it to be more informative and include examples of what you're talking about, i'll reapprove.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 08:53 PM
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you know you can just reply to each other within threads without having to post entirely new threads just to "get" each other, right? the entire sub doesn't need to be involved in spats you're having with other users.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 08:32 PM
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are your expectations the same at 2years vs at 3mos? yes. it's not just the length of the relationship, though; if i'm living with someone after 2 years but not after 3 months, then that's another reason some expectations will change or grow (because living together is a major relationship change). do only public declarations of commitment made in front of friends and family matter? not to me. are declarations of monogamy made between two people invalid unless publicly witnessed? not to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 08:19 PM
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I would tell him that any relationship requires compromise and, since in your opinion he seems unwilling to compromise enough, that you believe that you need to find somebody who is more compatible with yourself relationship wise. the response that an unwilling dumpee will give to this is going to basically be, "i didn't know it was so bad! i'll change! i'll do what you want, i swear! i'll never upset you like this again, i'm sorry!" that is the out that the breakup you proposed would give the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:41 PM
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thank you; reapproved.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:12 PM
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be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 06:23 PM
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surely, you can do better than that. (this isn't a civil manner of response, so please don't. it doesn't really contribute to discussion either.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 06:08 PM
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i don't think you're being cruel (and i wouldn't take that criticism too personally), but it is sort of a long time to drag it out. if you already know that's the conclusion you're headed to, i would do it now. i think the comment advocating the "we want/need to do different things" is probably the best way to go about it. i'd also advise making it as clean a break as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 04:14 PM
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oh, don't do that. you can disagree with someone, but please be nice and don't tell people what they do or don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 02:49 PM
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love you, bot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 01:50 PM
3

finally listened to the whole michelle wolf speech, and it was hilarious. sad to have such a humorless administration, especially since she did exactly what they hired her to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 01:47 PM
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this has been reported multiple times, and hasn't been removed since it doesn't violate our rules. but, tone down the jokes etc.; it's borderline circlejerking and if it continues, those comments will be removed. also, please read our rules before posting again; this is the second time in as many days that a mod has had to step in on your comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 01:38 PM
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well i've noticed that both men and women DO, as they should, so, cool?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 01:14 PM
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i mean, both partners should be signaling or outright indicating happiness or unhappiness to each other, especially if it is the kind described above. as for the question in the subject, whoever wants to move forward in a certain direction should be the one to do that, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 12:49 PM
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