chivelily Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Tea Time I just read this ebook on Amazon called Mini-Habits by Stephen Guise. It breaks down your goals into tiny bite size chunks of the day (like 1 push-up, or 1 minute of reading, etc) It's helping me a ton to deal with the overwhelm. Recommend	/r/RedPillWives	09/01/22 09:57 PM
3	Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to? I can relate. My husband takes medication that can really hit his sex drive. Some things that work for me: -Keep up your exercise! It helps a ton with confidence and sex drive. It does take time to work, but it'll improve your endorphins and feel-good hormones quickly. Encourage him to exercise with you without being pushy. -Buy beautiful underwear, lingerie, or clothes. Like clothes YOU feel beautiful in. You'll find a style that brings out your best self. Don't wait until you're the ideal weig…	/r/RedPillWives	09/01/22 09:48 PM
2	I can’t wrap my head around why I should have to clean for a man (not feminism) Or pick up their underwear. You'll miss these husband floor-drawers days after a toddler blowout or two	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/21 12:56 AM
2	Tomboy dress I really like the book Dressing Your Truth by Carol Tuttle. It doesn't tell you what to wear or point you to trends, it guides you along to find your own style fit for your personality and physique. I don't always agree with everything in the book, but I've seen it work wonders for many women in my local area. They all look radiant and all flavors of feminine to me. I like to keep a Pinterest board just for clothing, jewlery, and such. You can see specific trends once you pin enough things. (ex:…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/21 08:29 PM
3	I can’t wrap my head around why I should have to clean for a man (not feminism) You are in for a big shock if you have children...unless there's a maid or nanny involved :/ Just sayin.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/21 07:38 PM
1	Wanting to be better - where do I begin? I was in a mom's group for ten years and it seemed nearly all women who transition from busy work places to home have a rough adjustment phase of a year or so (myself included). I think it's normal. It helped me a lot to get out (I know covid is complicating this right now,but it really helps) and hang out with other housewives and kids. Look up "Mom's Club International" or the like for a local chapter. Or just visit a local playground. Try not to dwell in your head too much. Keep busy. If you …	/r/RedPillWives	13/02/21 08:50 PM
1	How to plan better as a SAHM I feel for you! I'm in a similar boat. My husband has multiple allergies and basically survives off of my custom meals. He can't eat out. He doesn't care about cooking and doesn't give me too much trouble on the variety and flavors. I'm not sure how to help there, except communicate and ask for him to lower his expectations...in my experience...be vulnerable, tears of frustration will get you further then anger and yelling. Tell him you're overwhelmed. Young children are a lot to manage! This st…	/r/RedPillWives	08/01/21 10:28 PM
3	Difficulty making female friends I have a lot similarities to you. I'm from a small town and enjoy those same activities. You're definitely not alien. I mostly made friends through my employment, mom groups from online (like facebook or meetup.com) , classes, etc. Just be sure to keep an open and approachable vibe and put yourself out there with like-minded people. It'll happen. I like friends with depth, and it can take time to build trust and a relationship. Years, even. Don't expect too much too soon and keep trying.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/01/21 09:18 PM
1	Struggling with roles (married 6 years, 1 kid) I struggled with this too. It was hard sometimes not to drown in the overwhelm that is children. The truth is we don't do it all..especially those early years with babies. Something has to give. It may be your sleep, your clean house, yes, sometimes your workout/makeup/hair etc, dates, friends, etc. But this is temporary. The days are long, I know, but the years are short. Children are much less work at about 4 or 5 and it will be easier to get back to your old habits. These disgruntled chats wi…	/r/RedPillWives	20/11/20 08:26 PM
1	Girly gift idea for MIL? Have you ever heard of the five love languages? Dr. Gary Chapman claims most people fit in these categories of "love language": Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. You can research it for yourself on google or read the book. When I am buying gifts for someone, I try to guess their "language" and respond accordingly. You may get more bang for your buck giving someone a nice letter or a girl's night out vs a physical gift.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/20 09:23 PM
2	Hi mom's, is there any red pill to raise your children? There are so many parenting books, it will make your head spin! It's definitely a way to learn about parenting, but you'll find a lot of fluff and conflicting advice. Parenting is a learn-as-you-go-job, and the temperament and habits of your individual child will ultimately determine what methods work for you. My advice is get involved with real children. Maybe volunteer or work at a preschool, babysit a friend/family's child, etc. I think you'll enjoy the relationships you build with the childr…	/r/RedPillWives	05/11/20 10:06 PM
5	Do you want children, and what age? I had my first at 22. Now I'm in my thirties and my two kids are school-aged. I love that I had my children in my twenties. Pregnancy was a breeze and I was still very playful and energetic with them. We romped, played, hiked, crafted, and traveled everywhere! Sometimes I did trip up on my own immaturity though. Anyway, it's a great age-range to be a mom! Go for it!	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/20 10:10 PM
3	I'm not sure I understand RPW I feel like my home growing up is the cautionary tale of when things can swing way too much into the woman's favor for doing whatever she wants. Everything was my mother's way or the highway. She was childish, difficult, lazy, and selfish. She contributed very little to our home..she didn't work, she didn't cook or clean, my siblings and I were often unfed, unsupervised, and undisciplined while my father worked long hours. He'd take care of us with whatever energy he had left when he got home. S…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/20 07:49 PM
11	Not even an unpopular opinion, just one that consistently brushed under the rug My husband and I are the same age, and I wouldn't have it any other way. We married in our twenties. I love that I was there for so many memories, personal growth, and accomplishments he's made and he for mine. It's definitely nice to tackle life with the same maturity level and life experience. I like 30 year old men the best..they're the sweet spot of youth and maturity, 20s next, then 40s. 50s is pushing it for me right now, but I'm sure I'll find them attractive when I get there.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/20 12:55 AM
5	How do I create a life for myself when I’m 23 and have never had a life? You are a real person and you do have a life, but you obviously want a more active one. I know we all have bad days and rant/vent sessions, but it may help to reign in your negative self talk. You do have responsibilities...to yourself! Don't wait for life to happen to you, get out, try things, and make it happen. Ultimately, only you can make yourself get out there and do it. There's lots of good ideas here to try. Good luck!	/r/RedPillWomen	28/09/20 05:51 PM
1	Field Report Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/20 07:13 PM
0	Anyone else have a hard time making male friends? Have you tried online dating? I know it's a crap-shoot sometimes, but I find it's a much more targeted approach then just hanging around a place waiting for someone to approach. I met my husband that way at your age and I weigh the same as you. Although I do have male friends from my job in the past, we don't hang out. I much prefer chatting, hiking, and video games with my brothers or nephews for male platonic interaction. Not everyone has that though, so I totally understand where you are comi…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/20 06:12 PM
1	Is not being college educated a dealbreaker? Hey! I'm new here too. I'm chiming in on this because my husband is a software engineer without a college degree. You know what? Best thing ever. He's talented, he makes people tons of money, so they don't give a crap about his degree. So why should I? He makes great money with zero college debt, it's been nothing but awesome. I also met him online....I have no idea what was on his dating profile any more. None. We've been together 12 years now. It just doesn't matter long term. I don't think a …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/20 09:34 PM