chowsmarriage Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option? Just substitute "nice" with another adjective or quality you esteem. "Nice guy" has horrible connotations that are inescapable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 06:22 AM
15	Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option? Yep. Another addition to C): unlikely to cheat on me, not out of integrity, but lack of opportunity because other women are not interested in him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 06:17 AM
2	escorts are the best option for a lot guys. relationships are risky and very likely to fail. better to fix some binds and tap on some shoulders. Remember to tip your fedora on the way out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 02:24 PM
–	escorts are the best option for a lot guys. relationships are risky and very likely to fail. better to fix some binds and tap on some shoulders. No. Ad hominem is a perfectly acceptable rhetorical strategy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 11:57 AM
–	escorts are the best option for a lot guys. relationships are risky and very likely to fail. better to fix some binds and tap on some shoulders. Your post history is full of bragging on hair loss subs that you 'have sex' (which you pay for) and weeb video games. Jesus Christ. You're a perfect example of why nobody should allow anonymous Redditors to inform their beliefs and life decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 07:59 AM
1	You nearly always know within 5 minutes if you have chemistry with someone Right? I don't need a friend or a housemate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/24 07:50 AM
0	Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop them You're reading something I didn't write. I said looks matter and virtually every man can do something to make himself more attractive. I never said men who get no dates don't put any effort into their appearance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/24 12:27 AM
0	Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop them Where did I state or imply that assumption?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 02:53 PM
5	Men's obsession with dating a women "at her best" shows their extreme vanity OP you sound like a femcel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 01:02 PM
0	Men's obsession with dating a women "at her best" shows their extreme vanity This is a psyop perpetuated by older women onto younger women. Don't believe it! Some of my exes had horrible body image issues expressed in arcane female beauty standards I'd never heard of which come from socializing as a woman from other women. I swear men are mostly oblivious. If you're attractive now (actually attractive, and not just carelessly buoyed up by youth), you'll be attractive in your 40s too. Take care of your presentation, your skin, your body (eat well, don't smoke or drink or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 12:56 PM
8	The best thing any man can do is to stop chasing women. This is the hospital effect lmao. I've noticed this when visiting a sick relative and getting obviously checked out or sparkle eyes-ed by half a dozen gorgeous, intelligent, skilled and hard working nurses and registrars. I believe it's because they're working long hours in a stressful environment, dealing with bullying and shitty management, not making enough, dealing with difficult patients, probably having difficulties with love because of their work schedule and so on, and so when you show u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 12:34 PM
6	Q4M: Would you choose a deep emotional connection with your gf? Or for just primal "Chad" lust? 1 is an oxymoron. There is no deep emotional connection without sexual intimacy and lust. I'm not interested in what companionship looks like when the lust fades away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 12:28 PM
1	You nearly always know within 5 minutes if you have chemistry with someone If by chemistry, you mean that visceral, libidinal attraction that makes you feel all woo, woo, inspired, hopeful, terrified, connected to the abundance of possibility within the world and yourself etc.,.., then yeah, I agree. Some of my best relationships in the past started this way. I do not intend on entering into any relationships in the future without this. For the time being, this means no OLD, because I will only entertain pursuing someone if we both are attracted and curious about each …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 12:22 PM
15	Men should have a go bag or escape fund for emotional abuse Both parties need the financial and material independence to leave it they want to. Nobody should be compelled to stay with someone because they're dependant, and nobody should be compelled to continue to provide for an adult dependant they no longer want to be in a relationship with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 12:50 PM
–	Women are allowed to blame their looks over bad dates or lack of them and its valid, but with men, it's always invalidated. He wears an expensive watch.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 12:47 PM
–	Women are allowed to blame their looks over bad dates or lack of them and its valid, but with men, it's always invalidated. You can definitely change being overweight. Check your fatlogic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 12:46 PM
–	Women are allowed to blame their looks over bad dates or lack of them and its valid, but with men, it's always invalidated. You can't use obesity to make the case for looks. This is like saying women definitely only want looks because they won't entertain a man who has deliberately covered himself in his own feces.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 12:44 PM
–	do your friends admit to you that they don't find their husbands physically attractive? Libido issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/24 10:37 AM
–	do your friends admit to you that they don't find their husbands physically attractive? how fat is she	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/24 10:36 AM
1	Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop them It's much easier to talk to someone (anyone, regardless of whether they're a prospective romantic interest) if they find you moderately attractive. This in turn makes it much easier to express your charisma, take social risks and learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. I believe a lot of this effect comes from within and the confidence you project and embody. I went through a glow up in the past few years and the difference is night and day. However, the internal work needs to be done as w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 01:59 PM
12	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Absolutely insane generalization. If a woman is mothering her husband and he isn't busy as fuck with kids, work and contributing to maintaining the household, she married a deadbeat and it would've been obvious from early on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 08:58 AM
2	What some people get wrong about flirting Uhhh... It's pretty much a necessity for anyone who plays sports even recreationally but yeah whatever bro.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 02:40 PM
1	What some people get wrong about flirting Spoken like someone who doesn't lift. Are you picturing an enormous bodybuilder or something?It's pretty easy to read the lean musculature on someone's frame. Being fit isn't "overcompensating".	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 02:33 PM
-1	What some people get wrong about flirting If you're 5"4 and you don't lift, you're fucking done for. If you're 5"4 and do lift, at least you will be strong and in good shape with the one body you have to live in. Short guy victim complexes are pathetic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 01:55 PM
7	Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behave Attraction that isn't visceral is low-libido cope. I'm not looking for a primarily verbal or intellectual connection in the absence of visceral physical attraction. Experience has taught me that's not a recipe for a happy or successful relationship. This is called settling. I ask you to consider what you're getting out of a relationship in the absence of visceral attraction. Maybe it's worth it to you. Not worth it to others. Some people need to feel desired by their intimate partner... Crazy I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 08:48 AM
6	Women should consider how the economic status of a man affects who he is No scrubs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 07:51 AM
17	Women should consider how the economic status of a man affects who he is Being broke isn't a virtue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 07:29 AM
1	The expectation for men to be completely self-actualized before even entering the dating market is absolutely ridiculous. Aye. You need to live life for you and connect with your own values and self-worth. Develop and practice self-respect. Take smart risks to push yourself out of your comfort zone. This includes setting boundaries and standards. It's easier for me to say this after divorce, just entering my prime, and experiencing a spectrum of what relationships can be. But it's very true. Women can be shitty and abusive. Just as men are socialized into awful behaviors, women are as well (they are different and I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 06:19 PM
3	Q4M: What goes through your mind when you hear "The sexiest thing a man can do is XYZ"? What goes through my mind? If it's not something traditionally sexy but not sexual like: fix shit, be passionate about something, demonstrate expertise in an area, stay calm and solve problems, be reliable... Stuff that is expressing confidence and competence... I just assume that woman doesn't have much of a sex drive at all and their hubby, present or future, is going to be a sexless nu-male who is gaslit into believing he needs to be the perfect husband to be eligible for dry sex with a grown…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 06:04 PM
–	How "find a hobby" people think that cities are / How it is in real life You need to stop whining and find a hobby. Language classes online? Great, meet some people on video call, learn a language and save commute time. Or find a classy plan your week and commute there like everyone else. Boxing gyms. No, nobody claims they're everywhere. People who train do so out of commitment and structure their routine and life decisions around training. I know people who drove 2 hours a day multiple times a week to commute to/from training. I drive 20-40 minutes each way to trai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 12:02 PM
–	"Cold Approaches" Should Be Reconsidered, but Not Done Away With I'm not protecting anyone from criticism at all, let alone criticism of any kind... Good luck in life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 11:04 AM
–	"Cold Approaches" Should Be Reconsidered, but Not Done Away With What am I white knighting for? I think you're generalizing to the point of distortion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 10:53 AM
–	"Cold Approaches" Should Be Reconsidered, but Not Done Away With "a chick thing and those with low IQ".... Yes the problem is "the women" and not you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:30 AM
1	All the excuses used by age gap haters to interfere with age gap relationships can equally be applied to bigots trying to stop gay / lesbian relationships, as age gap haters use the same kind of infantalizing rhetoric, concern trolling and "we're doing it for your own good" gaslighting. I agree.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:55 PM
–	"Cold Approaches" Should Be Reconsidered, but Not Done Away With You sound like an angry guy who spends too much time parasocially interacting with women doing a bit (like, Guardian columnists) online and not enough time interacting with women in real life. Absolutely unhinged man. Imagine a woman ranting about "all men" and basing her judgements on RP influencers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:52 PM
2	Would you rather a man has a mask on while getting to know you in the early stages or that he is unabashedly himself and genuine? Financial security? How do you wear "masks" for years/decades?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:48 PM
1	Would you rather a man has a mask on while getting to know you in the early stages or that he is unabashedly himself and genuine? The mask is a balaclava. Infiltrate for sex and codependency or at least familiarity before revealing who you really are. Whether or not that's premeditated, it's a stratagem that's used consciously or not to avoid rejection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:47 PM
-1	All the excuses used by age gap haters to interfere with age gap relationships can equally be applied to bigots trying to stop gay / lesbian relationships, as age gap haters use the same kind of infantalizing rhetoric, concern trolling and "we're doing it for your own good" gaslighting. 7 years is differently freak-out territory on Reddit if the male is older and the woman is younger than 30-35.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:44 PM