chubbgerricault Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Thank You For Sharing Your Stories Hey man, wanted to say that the most important thing you know is that you’re enough. You are enough. When you know that, and a woman decides she needs more or something else, then you can reflect on things as more of a season of life. I think a lot of men here have come to the conclusion that “till death do us part” is a mantra that we take seriously, and the other side, perhaps not as much. If we can get behind “till death do us part” (and be miserable, refusing to pull the cord), we can get be…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/22 03:38 PM
3	Thank You For Sharing Your Stories Hi, this is a place for brothers. His comment was legitimate and earnest. Your response is too heavy handed and leans back into the inner work that was referenced as having value. Maybe not financially. Not with bagging women. But, you know, for yourself. In the most non-selfish way. Tons of men here have gone through grief, therapy, and inner work. You will most likely not get married as you state, so it won’t be divorce that craters your world. However, you can be sure that something will dest…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/22 02:44 PM
21	Harassment by YellowFever46 I just want to know who’s ex-wife it is. Ruining the vibe with all that ex-wife “you’re so wrong” energy. 🤭	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/22 02:15 AM
6	Wife says she doesn’t want my money Fair play sir. I see you’ve got everything figured out. Really dig the energy. Good day.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/22 11:42 PM
6	Wife says she doesn’t want my money Hey chill man. There’s a line between providing advice to a fellow brother and having a disagreement, versus really losing it and getting personal. This thread is for the gentleman suggesting doing it without lawyers. Another gentleman said he has done that and had no ill effects. And you’re right to state that these results are not typical (as OP has already noted). The rest is unnecessary.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/22 11:36 PM
2	Georgia Divorce If she gets the house and car and half the CS she's still gotten a huge annual raise she doesn't have to claim on her taxes and will qualify for govt benefits. The benefits thing will happen regardless of 50/50 or full for her. What you need to do is let her get a taste of what two weeks a month with no kids allows her to do. That's when they become all for it. And then you'll have the kids more like 60%, but you damn sure don't want to be paying her for full custody if you have them that much. …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/21 03:49 PM
3	Georgia Divorce You are correct, a lot of judges here don't believe in the 50/50 thing "in the best interest of the child." Really, that's code for, "we believe the mother has the better ability to nurture the kids while dad pays" is how I cynically view this post decree. We did uncontested. You can contest things with her draft settlement agreement if you haven't signed anything. My ex went to an attorney and just said she was trying to be fair, and honestly, from what I've seen around here I could say it was …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/21 03:38 PM
2	Georgia Divorce Do you want or have the ability to maintain 50/50 custody of the kids? If so, assuming that CS value is accurate (look it up and/or talk with an attorney), you can factor half that amount and possibly recoup more by way of the insurance premiums. What are the tie breakers looking like in the settlement? I'd strongly recommend getting 2/4 for you. They say the big ones are health and education; to balance, I took education and religion. She has Extracurricular and Health decisions. Because we are…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/21 03:26 PM
7	Did you get yourself a "Divorce Present"? I had the marital bed after moving out. It was a sleigh bed my mother bought with the matching set when I was 16 that followed me the last 17 years. I owned this bedroom furniture more than half my life. It's in decent shape, but I hated what it came to represent. So as I started furnishing with the kids room first, then the living and dining, finally made my way (10 month separation) to doing my bedroom. Bought a Drommen CB2 Queen Bed that is absolutely sexy and so happy I bought it. Ex filed o…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/10/21 02:47 AM
3	My wife has threatened to leave me every 18-24 months for 12 years. That's all we can do. I know that feeling, and right now you're probably wondering how your best isn't good enough for the woman who said "for better or for worse." But when you've done your best, you can hold your head up high. When this gets started, get a therapist and don't be afraid to tell your story. That's what they're paid for. Get some hobbies to keep yourself occupied. Not for nothing, but she may have said no to counseling in general, but that is a little different than you saying, "…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/10/21 12:44 AM
5	My wife has threatened to leave me every 18-24 months for 12 years. You got this, man. Her behavior is past what could be considered "acceptable retribution" for your earlier years. Like I told my ex, there is no getting even in a marriage - just getting right and going forward. Sounds like you got right, and she refused to move forward. It's gonna suck a lot. But you guys are past the halfway point with the kids, and as each one ages into adulthood, your financial life will ease just a bit each time. Yes you're gonna pay, but it won't be as bad as you're thinki…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/10/21 12:34 AM
4	Reclaiming my home /r/malelivingspace Great sub, you may feel overwhelmed at first but that's okay. There are tons of guys just starting that browse completed spaces and review the comments. Excellent way to start. There's also several great people to follow around YouTube once you figure out what you're into, and as budget allows. For me, I was like you - every decor choice was a "sure/don't care" response by me through the ten years. She kept the house, but that meant I started with almost nothing. And no design…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/21 11:35 AM
8	Advice - winning her back. Best of luck to you. I couldn't do it, but I think (and you'll see some say it) that the only thing that might stop her is if you keep going your own way. Don't tell her she's making a mistake, don't tell her you love her, don't plead. Just be like, "welp, time for strategy B." I couldn't treat this like a breakup or ex girlfriend because she's my wife and the mother of my kids. But in all honesty, if anything was going to work, it would have been to move on like I didn't give a shit. That's the…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/10/21 11:32 PM
13	Advice - winning her back. Bro, I've been lurking on here the past few months. First post. I've literally spent the last 9 months doing what you're doing. I had to go New Years Day, I'm the reason for everything, yadda yadda. I've put in a tremendous amount of work and I'm very proud for sticking to what I've done, and advise that if you're intentions are to become a better person for yourself, keep right at it. But don't do it for her in this misplaced hope that it's gonna turn around. Strange things happen, but you real…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/10/21 11:00 PM