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I just hate coffee shops, okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 04:12 AM
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Yup. Absolutely. He knew he was one of a group. When we decided to go exclusive, I dropped them all and got STD tested. He knows everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 12:43 AM
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But not to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:46 AM
2

I mean. I was attracted to all of them. Some were short. Some were married. Some were old. Some were not conventional attractive. One was a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:23 PM
4

No one ever said it was hard for women to have casual sex. And I’m unattractive by this sub’s standard AKA I’m fat. I can clean up okay in IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:12 PM
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It’s called… we need money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:09 PM
2

Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:08 PM
37

Nah dawg. That was capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:07 PM
7

God. Some of the men here are gonna jump all over this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:06 PM
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There’s a lot of sadness and self hate in your post history. I hope you are able to get that addressed. Now on to you misconception. Feminism is about choice. If you chose to be a housewife of your own volition, that is perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:06 PM
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The red pill isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:59 PM
3

All art is political and influenced by society. That’s art history 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:58 PM
1

I live in a horrible puritan place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:57 PM
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And I have a lot of sympathy for men who have trouble dating. As long as they don’t create a hateful pseudoscience to explain their lack of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:56 PM
1

Amazon sells booze?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:38 PM
2

I just think all Star Wars protagonists kind of fallowing the same arc of powering up really fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:36 PM
3

And that’s bad? To make women and black people feel good? Also Wankanda was so technologically advanced. It’s not like Shuri alone was extraordinary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:32 PM
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To be fair. Isn’t Black Widow also not totally human?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:31 PM
2

I have. I’m good with it. Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:13 PM
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What if picking up a pitchfork isn’t unrealistic? https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-18373149.amp
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:06 PM
6

Truly. Like Luke Skywalker was such a fucking prize. Mediocre boys power up obscenely fast for no reason all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:03 PM
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I was going to argue with you but then I figured someone on the Internet has probably done it better already. http://fangirlblog.com/2020/01/mastering-two-worlds-concluding-reys-heros-journey-in-the-rise-of-skywalker/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:02 PM
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Nope. That is a (retired) porn star.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:38 PM
1

How could you possibly know?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:35 PM
2

That’s… more nuance then I expected when you said red pill. But I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:32 PM
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I think according to this Mulan would be unrealistic because there’s no way she would make it in the army.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:31 PM
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Counterpoint. There’s just so many stories where unexceptional men do extraordinary things. What about those?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:29 PM
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This TBH. When anyone says wokeness I’m just like… oh, so you’re racist, sexist, homophobic, or all three?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:27 PM
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In a general sense yes. I’m fat. I’m not a great beauty. I put in effort but not maximum effort. I can be cute. Some people like to look at me. But generally… I’m below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:24 PM
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Is that a bad thing? If it is, mine was a direct result of purity culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:23 PM
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I don’t think it needs to be a realistic grounded portrayal especially if there is supernatural reason or they're a “chosen one”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:19 PM
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Yes. In about 3 months. I had a lot of repression built up. LTR to marriage from around 18-26. Fun time. 3ish years with current boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:45 PM
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Sorry. Is it? I was virgin until marriage at 24. Then stuck in a sexless marriage. So I got divorced at 27. Had sex with 15 guys. And I’ve been dating one of them for 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:40 PM
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It was a really fun three months.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:25 PM
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She’s really nice. Thin. Hot. Blond. Lawyer. Owns her home. Really sweet. But yeah. I worry it’s not gonna happen for her as a 33 year old virgin waiting until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 05:12 PM
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I happen to think faces also matter. But yes. It’s a reasonable standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:47 PM
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I thought it was pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:08 PM
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So maybe I’m just saving the word from incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:03 PM
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Then no. I certainly do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 04:03 PM
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I have never posted a face picture on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:40 PM
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Well. They aren’t incels once I’m having sex with them at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:37 PM
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Ah yes. That tendency of people on this sub to scroll though my post history and see pictures of my stomach that I took after eating/bloating at unflattering angles because I have a fat shaming kink. Then assume a lot of things about what I look like in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:36 PM
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I mean. I’m not like a troll. Slightly below average face and fat. I’ve been lucky I’ve found two great partners that I’ve spent the last decade with. The only woman I know who are single are looking for very specific things like Christian virgin men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:32 PM
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I feel like on this sub fat plus not like shockingly gorgeous face equals ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:25 PM
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Still no. I don’t need them to be better looking than me. I just need to be into them. ETA: Unless you are implying no one is less attractive than me. In which case… don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:22 PM
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Ah. But the ones at gay bars are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:10 PM
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How could you possibly know?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:07 PM
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I’m fat and not a stunner. So I figure that will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:57 PM
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Sorry? Men are really horny. It was just like guys asking me to dance at bars. If you go a gay bar, I’m sure you could get someone to rub their dick on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:55 PM
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My time has come. Lol. 1. It has happened maybe 3 times but only in bars or at parties. 2. Yes, I was quite able to get dates on dating apps. Not sure how that was affected by the fact that I was explicitly looking for casual sex. 3. Of course not. But I don’t aim that high. I like nerds. 4. No? As long as I am attracted to them. That’s what I need. ETA: You didn’t ask. But I’ve been in two LTRs since I was 18 with almost no break. So I’ve never really been single as an adult except for like 3 m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:31 PM
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What is your proposal for making dating more humane?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:23 PM
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Ouch?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 10:35 PM
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I think this viewpoint takes all the power out of emotions and love. Personality is so important. Attraction is important but I don’t think it’s a rigid as you aka I don’t believe the 80/20 thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:29 PM
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Oh. Hm. I thought this would be not… academic exactly but not applicable to the real world. We shall see.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:27 PM
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Fair. I’ve talk to this person a bit more and backed off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:25 PM
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That all makes sense. Sorry to be clear, I did not think you were being racist, just that it could seem that way. And that what I mistook for condescension could have been your writing style. Truly sorry. There’s always a lot of pit walls when adapting a book with a deep mythology. But I do think color blindness can (but not always) work without much explanation. I am not familiar with this book series but am planning to watch the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:25 PM
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I guess the first bit. “I guess we agree to disagree. I think we have a difference of opinion on what the fantasy genre is about. It has fantastic elements, but it is not cartoon reality. In fact, since fantasy is typically set in back in history in terms of sensibilities, ideas about race matter more.” If I used condescending is that okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:19 PM
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That was very long winded for basic RP sexism. Yes, been here a second. Heard all that before. Clearly I disagree with almost everything you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:12 PM
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Personality can also be a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:07 PM
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Sorry. I’m actually trying to be kind and give you massive benefit of the doubt here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:05 PM
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Thanks for mansplaining fantasy. Don’t really dude. I’m a nerd. Maybe you’re just some kind of literary purist. But please know it just sounds like racism with more steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:58 PM
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Bridgerton gave it like… 3 lines. Not important and easily missable. But again, matters even less in fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:50 PM
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My standards are so fucking low. It’s all subjective. It seems like you want women to date men they are not attracted to. Which is terrific for both people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:45 PM
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Literally had a guy on here tell me that men don’t read that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:40 PM
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Colorblind casting isn’t a big deal in some more realistic shows (thinking of Bridgerton) and it’s even less of a big deal in fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:39 PM
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But we’re being honest here and being told that we’re lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:36 PM
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Temporary insanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:29 PM
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Everyone here said looks matter. Women just tend to be nicer. Looks matter to a point then personality matters much more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:28 PM
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I disagree. But I truly do know better than to argue with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:27 PM
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Because women are aren’t thin, conventionally attractive, neurotypical, able bodied, and 18-28 aren’t women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:26 PM
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They do tend to go together.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:23 PM
5

But no one said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:23 PM
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Everyone here is saying attraction matters. That doesn’t mean you need a 10 but just that you need to think they’re at least cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:21 PM
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I meant it as just. Literally someone I can imagine touching me intimately. I’m really not that picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:19 PM
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Is that now how you feel about unattractive/old women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:18 PM
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Thank you for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:16 PM
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I’m bored and I’ve got time. ETA: And you’re right. I will definitely regret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:16 PM
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You actually don’t. At all. I’m fairly sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:13 PM
3

And they use that to fight us? Healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:13 PM
2

Are there men that you are not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:12 PM
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I did. I asked for clarification on two. I’ll get back to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:11 PM
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But you are attracted to them, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:11 PM
2

But you were attracted to them, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:10 PM
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Even worse. I bet they totally have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:07 PM
4

No one here is saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:05 PM
3

You shallow bitch. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:04 PM
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It’s outrageous. Why ever ask a question for women if you don’t believe them, think their lying, call it virtues signaling, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:03 PM
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Oh my god. You guys could be hit by a bus and say it was a donkey. Jesus. Yes. You have to be attracted to your sex partner. Is that a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 05:01 PM
3

Should I date someone I’m not attractive to?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:57 PM
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Apparently having a threshold is a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:55 PM
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The threshold will depend. Personally, I think mine is quite reasonable. Men also have looks standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:54 PM
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Yes. Lots of men I think are cute with great personalities seem to struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:38 PM
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Yes. This is totally a gotcha. I already have a guy doing it to me in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:36 PM
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No. That’s not what I said at all. Yes. There’s a minimum threshold. But over that, personality is really more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:31 PM
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For a relationship? Looks matter. A really ugly guy can be ruled out. A really hot guy is a plus. But it’s not as important as personality. You have to speak to them. Maybe live with them. Etc. It’s so important to be compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 03:38 PM
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Okay. If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:22 PM
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You’ve posted on this exact topic many times. Also: “Normies are retarded” “I am unattractive.” “Here I am. With nothing and nobody.” “Not only suicidal, but especially mentally sick. Since 25 I have been dealing with Insomnia, panic-attacks, manic depression. Its one of the reasons I wasn't able to finish college.” I’m not trying to antagonize you. You have untreated mental health issues that need to be addressed. Is there any social welfare where you live? Free or low cost counseling? You seem…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:42 PM
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Looking at your post history… I think it might be more than the cashier thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:27 PM
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This sounds like a pretty healthy situation. People change. Sometimes relationships don’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:13 PM
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I dk. Sounds like you mentally can’t reject her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:10 PM
1

Intelligence is not always tied to education. You can be self taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:04 PM
1

Well then please don’t waste your money by going back yo college. If you really tried your best and failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:00 PM
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Could you please more clearly identify the two points?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:58 PM
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Sexual incompatibility was a big issue in my divorce two years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:54 PM
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You literally did. “And another questions, which gives bothers me, is hearing that women want intelligence. In a generic term, I don’t have that.” Where do you live? Soviet era Russia? (ETA: don’t drag me I just picked a place.) ETA: You are getting very defensive in your responses. What did you want people to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:08 PM
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Super Christian. I did not. I did make it to no PIV until marriage. Big regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:04 PM
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Actually kinda. I live in a big blue east coast city. So if a guy doesn’t automatically claim a leftist leaning, I probably would assume he’s hiding a right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:03 PM
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I find that in terms of low paying jobs (no shade) it’s one of the cooler. It’s a good skill. Sometimes a fun environment. And women like men who can cook. Especially if it’s a more upscale restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:01 PM
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Hm. A 4. I struggle with clinical depression and I’m just coming out of a rough patch and medication change (plus lockdown). Generally, a 7? I hate my job so that brings it down. I think everyone is less happy and men are socialized not to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 11:52 AM
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Genuinely. Then why did you drop out?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 11:47 AM
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You said you did not have intelligence. No trades? No entry level office jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 11:39 AM
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Like I said. I mostly just think it’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:23 AM
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Viewing women as purely sexual objects and not human beings. But I consider it just super gross more than misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:09 AM
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Even still… seems wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:02 AM
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No. Because I believe what I said. So to me, sexism against women is mainstream culture. Not lurking in the shadows.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:01 AM
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Maybe someone can explain Pete Davidson.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:38 AM
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Off topic but when I hate when I click a link and it’s a video and I violently slammed on the back button before it plays. Gets me every-time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:36 AM
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Totally agree. Can’t make it through an episode. The secondhand embarrassment is too strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:35 AM
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I could never let him touch me again after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:33 AM
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I agree. But I think a lot of people here disagree that women were oppressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:33 AM
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It’s a pendulum. Men (and society at large) have historically oppressed women. Now women have the freedom to speak out so they are. It’s easier to criticize those who have the power than to bag on the underdogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:32 AM
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I mean… would I date a cashier college drop out? No. But I literally know two men who work at grocery stores in LTRs. So you’re probably not gonna have a lot of luck with professional women. Sorry. Try other service workers? Also. I’m sure your job is a factor. But if someone asks what you do and you launch into this woe is me take… that probably isn’t helping. And the fact that you consider yourself stupid. Yikes. And since you have a steady job. You could look for another and try to slowly mov…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:28 AM
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But yet they still exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:59 PM
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Okay. Even if we assume yours intentions are totally pure. Not everyone’s are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:32 PM
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You don’t see the issue with comparing people you date to you’re young family members?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:22 PM
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The consensual kink? Good. Cheating? Bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:17 PM
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How did it become apparent?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:55 PM
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That’s kinda my thinking. Like you cheated a few times… okay, we might be able to work through that. But if you’re an idiot who barebacked her… not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:44 PM
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That’s definitely a two way street here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:31 PM
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I like to keep my kinks separate from the other parts of my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:31 PM
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For me it’s not about age. It’s about life experience and stages. 18-22 could be fine or it could be very bad. Just depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:30 PM
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I also cannot imagine wanting to date a high schooler.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:29 PM
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My parents went even further and said no kissing until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:27 PM
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I’d forgive cheating. I don’t think I’d forgive being stupid enough to get your mistress pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:26 PM
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You’re way too young to be worried about this. This sounds like it should be written by my almost 30 self. But if you’re really concerned. Get a good skincare routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:10 PM
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If you aren’t willing to if your partners wants it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:49 AM
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Those aren’t friendships. Those guys are trying to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 09:46 PM
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What fairy land do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 09:27 PM
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Hot sweaty sex I’m down with. The submission thing was gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 09:26 PM
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Americans are money obsessed because we have no social safety nets and it’s the only way to be secure in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:40 PM
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Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:38 AM
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If you met on a dating app, you’re both straight, and you haven’t said otherwise, she thinks you’re dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:36 AM
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But Dahmer was gay and killed men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:46 AM
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I just need to stop engaging with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:33 AM
2

Sure Jan.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:26 AM
3

Say you fetishize foreign women without saying you fetishize foreign women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:22 AM
2

Do you appreciate women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:15 AM
2

I’m going to Disney World.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:08 AM
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Regardless. The general premise is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:30 PM
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Yes. These are fucked up mind games.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:58 PM
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But most of the women that post here are in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:35 PM
1

Everyone has different preferences and priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:23 PM
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Honestly. Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:42 PM
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It doe seem like the men trend younger than the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:37 PM
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Weirdly formatted sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:28 PM
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Doesn’t this just apply to humans and not specifically women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:28 PM
2

Contacts suck though. And are more expensive. Maybe you should have suggested cuter glasses?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:25 PM
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I mean. Were these like gifts for occasions (Christmas, birthday, etc.)? Then they’re just bad gifts. There is a subset of just post high school men who have never purchased there own clothing (their moms shop for them) who really do struggle with this. Most grow out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:24 PM
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I would expect my Uber driver to do that. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:19 PM
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I mean. She was up front. You made choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:16 AM
0

You’re also very young. I’m getting closer to 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:15 AM
2

To be clear. I would LTR a guy who made less than me. Just not that much less. It’s a lifestyle thing at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:14 AM
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Right. It’s a better position then renting. But I don’t own outright.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:13 AM
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I’d fuck him. I wouldn’t LTR/marry him. I don’t need someone to fund my lifestyle but I do you want someone who can at least approximately match it. I want to travel. I like good restaurants. I might retire. I own my own home (I mean mortgage but). I want someone who works during the day so we can see each other on nights and weekends. If we were talking like 50k with room for advancement or a plan of any kind. Sure. Different story. But if you’re planning to do shift work forever, it’s just not…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:06 PM
2

Is this… real?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:05 PM
0

But you can. Those rules are fake and only hold as much power as you give them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 08:12 PM
0

Socialize online? Discord? Get a World of Warcraft guild?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:54 PM
1

Do you have no friends or family? Or an overly personal coworker? Pay some support, therapist are mostly just people you talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:53 PM
1

But it truly is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:41 PM
1

Not sure the slurs were needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:38 PM
5

Oh boy. Is the whole thread gonna be like this today?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:31 PM
5

Get better people around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 06:31 PM
3

Society is a covert contract. Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:12 PM
1

Okay. Are you just going through my post history and picking things to argue with? I’m 28. You’re entitled to your choice. I just know that I would not cheat. I can’t prove that clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:35 PM
4

I don’t think it’s relevant to settling because even if they I’ll fuck anything, I don’t think they’ll LTR anything. Casual sex with hot men is fun and if we both have similar expectations, it’s fine. I can’t and won’t shoulder the guilt of the entire male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:33 PM
1

The MFM was with my committed boyfriend. So not really a concern for him. And I’m okay with casual sex so that’s not the threat you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:28 PM
1

Maybe I just have those realistic standards men here always want women to have? I’m kinda nerdy and not a super hottie. So I want a similar man. Makes sense to me. When I said toxic masculinity, I meant things like… not sexist, doesn’t get it fights, not jealous, not homophonic, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:25 PM
3

Preferences are fine. Being an asshole isn’t. Personally, I don’t do Republicans. I consider us fundamentally incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:12 PM
1

I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:08 PM
1

I mean. I am. I’m working on it. But like… still living my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:08 PM
1

I had a great experience online dating. Sure there were some weird dudes. But I met so many fun people. Most I only wanted for casual sex. But I met a few LTR prospects and eventually my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:56 PM
1

Lol. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:40 AM
7

She has a preventative mastectomy because she was BRCA positive. Jesus. Have a little… I was gonna say sympathy… maybe humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:14 AM
3

Sometimes they are just so offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:03 AM
1

No. But only because he’s Channing Tatum. It be a very good story. If he was a normal man who looked like that, I would say no. Something about him spooks me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:00 AM
1

It depends… I don’t think cuckold fantasies are gay and they involve two men. And I do think for some people FMF is a degradation thing. A lot of people find DP and spit roasting to be quite degrading. That said, I’ve had FMF and MFM and both were definitely quite a bit gay, but that was the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:53 AM
4

Channing Tatum. I can objectively see that he is attractive but he repulses me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:47 AM
4

Oh for fucks sakes. Teenagers aren’t adults (except for at the end, but still). And you really expect a 13-year-old to be an emotionally mature adult. People change. You feel pressured to like the jocks. Maybe you realize that the nerds are for you. This truly is just a re-skin of the women are children argument. I don’t hold a teenage boy to the same standard as an adult msn. And a teenage girl is not the same as a adult woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:44 AM
1

I’m currently asymptomatic. Thankfully. But you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:14 PM
1

Haha. These reactions are great. You’re the the second one today.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:12 PM
1

Define the hoe. If it’s not penis number, is it the attitude?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:55 PM
1

Sure. We’re all anonymous on the Internet. I have multiple sclerosis. I mean, I pay very little after insurance. Ergo why one of my primary concerns in life is insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:54 PM
1

I don’t happen to think that women who have had sex make bad long-term partners. I am one of them. And I am a great partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:50 PM
1

Would I prefer not have the chronic health condition and be a little more carefree about my career choices? Hell yeah. But I need $100,000 worth of specialty medication every year to not be disabled.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:48 PM
5

I’m a health insurance chaser. I used to want to be an academic but a chronic health condition turned me into a total sucker for health insurance and stability. Do I regret it? No. Do I like it? No. Do I think it was the right choice? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:44 PM
2

Why sad?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:42 PM
1

I mean. Some women are truly into feminine men. I’m thinking of Ezra Miller. But I think you have a point. When people call men like Timothée Chalamet or Harry Styles feminine, it does feel a little weird. I would call it more… boyish. But if everyone conflates if the same way, it’s kind of a distinction without a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:16 PM
32

Imagine thinking that maintaining your health is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:52 PM
5

It’s like the opposite of a red flag. A green flag. I mean if they’re like in intensive inpatient therapy maybe it’s not the right time. But normal therapy is good. ETA: I saw the post that you were referring to. Honestly it’s weird. The main argument seems to be that was too personal. I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:36 PM
40

Definitely the second one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:43 PM
1

Love it. That gets them every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:42 PM
3

This is such a bad comp. Being unvaccinated and being Jewish (or another subgroup persecuted by Nazis) are literally totally different in every single way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:41 PM
3

Sure Jan.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:24 PM
3

Of the US? Doubt but maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:20 PM
7

Doesn’t seem like a big deal. Here you need vaccine records to attend public school or go to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:16 PM
2

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:07 AM
1

So almost none because men are not a monolith?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:02 AM
2

Oh. A dog comp. Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:01 AM
8

Apparently 80%.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 09:56 AM
2

I mean. Piddly is like max lack of appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:48 AM
1

Ask him. Maybe explain how it made you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:47 AM
3

What about men who post like tank top workout mirror selfies?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:39 AM
3

You make things like laundry sound so unimportant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:26 AM
1

I have a problem with my partner was secretly masturbating more than having sex with me with his hand. Nothing to do with the toy. And women do. And it’s very silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:52 PM
3

I genuinely have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:51 PM
1

True. They are different sex toys. They are tools. A male sex partner is a person. It’s totally different. Am I supposed to be intimidated by a fleshlight?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:22 PM
2

He does. He’s great. He does all our dishes and trash. I do all our cooking, meal planning, and shopping (in lockdown, a lot). We split generally cleaning. And do our own laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:17 PM
4

It depends? Generally women do more around the house. Sometimes it’s men. I don’t think it has to depend on how much you work. It’s what you decide as a couple. The problem is when men weaponize their incompetence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:13 PM
1

So you separate what you offer sexually from the penis. And yes, there’s quite a bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:09 PM
1

Not the most. You could like variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:05 PM
2

IMO. Yes. You know what my boyfriends dick can’t do? Vibrate. So I like to have something that can. My boyfriend has toys. We’re totally chill with it. But men get really hung up. Particularly on penis shaped things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 08:58 PM
4

I think that replica dildo is weird. I don’t it’s weird to use sex toys in relationships or it means she gets more pleasure from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 08:46 PM
4

Anywhere. Parties. Bars. Restaurants. Concerts. I mean. I don’t frequent clubs. But.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:58 PM
0

I take it you disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:56 PM
0

Domestic relations court is very pro se friendly. So you don’t need a lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:20 PM
2

This is why sex clubs highly regulate the number of single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:09 PM
17

This is not my experience? But I’m a woman so maybe I know where to find them?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:44 PM
2

I’m bi. But the truth is… it’s not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:40 PM
55

Men spice up my social life? Nah. That’s my female friends. Again. Are we wild sluts who go clubbing constantly or see we prude homebodies?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:34 PM
3

Moving on and caring aren’t necessarily related.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 02:41 PM
2

Yes. They are both hypocritical. Most people are hypocritical about a lot of things. Own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:06 PM
3

Right? I loved these people. I cared about them. That doesn’t just evaporate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:05 PM
5

Oh? Do you mean no interest from the opposite gender? Huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:41 PM
1

Personally. I enjoy a good cuddle after casual sex. Just make sure you’re clear with your words that it’s only casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:39 PM
4

Are they gay? Or Ace? Don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:37 PM
2

Nothing honestly. It helps me get out some base urge to argue with people. I successfully quit for a few months and I was much happier. But I relapsed and I’m back here now. I’ll probably leave soon again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:36 PM
1

This has got to be “woe is me” right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:31 PM
1

I think it’s like penis size. If you’re on either extreme. You’re fucked. I don’t think men like very intelligent women. And I’d like to think that men don’t like very stupid women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:54 PM
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Right. I don’t think this question is even the issue because a lot of men here don’t acknowledge the existence of intelligent women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:43 PM
1

My boyfriend has been getting me into Formula 1 and I’ve been enjoying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:15 AM
6

Run.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:14 AM
3

We make each other happier. We do things together. It’s like living with a friend that I fuck. I always want to be there when he’s sad to cheer him up or hold him. Or when’s he’s happy to watch him laugh. I’m still excited to see his butt every time he takes his clothes off. I love cooking for him and that he never complains about doing the dishes after. We help each other with things. We know we’re never alone. We have threesomes. Someone will always be there to help. To bounce ideas off of. To…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:10 AM
1

Oops. I misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 11:07 PM
1

I mean. If you want a relationship you might have to put yourself out there. Online date. Seek out men. I’m less than 5 years from Gen Z, not like a boomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 10:57 PM
1

Oh. Love the subtle dunk there. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:30 PM
1

I’m a fat below average looking woman. You can get laid. Anyone can get laid if they are willing to have no emotion sex with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:25 PM
1

Okay. What country? College or not? If that is all so, you should be able to get a relationship if you want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:19 PM
0

Harder than sex. And I don’t really abide by SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:14 PM
2

I also knew a lot of virgins when I was 20 and was one myself. At 27, I know very few female virgins but mostly due to people married or in LTRs. It’s very easy for women to get laid if you don’t want an emotional connection or a relationship. ETA: But no. TRP is not right about most things. They take the worst women (or all the traits they dislike in women) and combine it with their insecurities to make a scapegoat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:09 PM
1

I mean especially if you factor in gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:59 PM
2

Third?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:38 PM
1

Bottom line is she should not have reproduced with this man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:55 AM
2

Paid maternity leave? By the government? s/ Sounds like socialism. But really in the US, that is not really a thing. It sounds like your issue is really with SAHMs. Again in the US, child care can be more then one parents salary. So being a SAHM can be cheaper. Is this a European issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:30 AM
2

I mean. Same. Love my IUD. Never had a pregnancy scare. Thankfully. But I love to know there’s a last resort.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:25 AM
1

I agree that there are benefits to marriage. In the US, health insurance for example is a big one. A lot of what you described could have been solved by a lawyer. But this woman is dumb for having multiple children with this man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:24 AM
2

Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:16 AM
2

Hark! An actually mens right issue and not wah wah I can’t get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:11 AM
3

Nah. It was college. And I still paid for the weed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 12:39 AM
3

But they do. A lot of my decision not to have children is based on my shitty genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:42 PM
2

Only embarrassing if the poetry was bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:26 PM
3

I don’t think free legal and easy abortions are bad for anyone. So it’s really not hypocritical. Well I am pro free legal easy abortion. Because women will still have abortions. They will just be less safe. Institutional racism as it stands in the United States of America benefits all white people. If you disagree with this. I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:16 PM
3

Like a lot of people who have children on purpose. Or child free people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:57 PM
3

I just feel like you’re trying to imply that it’s selfish in a bad way. Are you anti-abortion? What is even the point of this question. Racism benefits me because I’m white. Pretty simple really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:56 PM
13

Is that simping or stalking?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:52 PM
5

It’s pretty standard to hold political views that protect your own self interest? It’s why rich people have a lot of opinions on taxes. But then you add morals. For example. Racism benefits me. But I think it is wrong and I am against it. Abortion benefits me. But I also think that it is good for the world at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:46 PM
9

Oh god. Sadly, it was me. He lived next-door to me in my college dorm and I bought weed from him. I used to text him and ask him if I could give him a blow job.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:44 PM
1

Could be worse. Could be a baby shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:42 PM
1

A guys nice ass?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:37 PM
7

Keeping abortion legal is in my self interest in case I need one. But I also have empathy and I can sympathize with other women who need abortions. Bringing a bunch of unwanted children into the world doesn’t help anything. So I guess I wouldn’t call it selfish. But it is in my self interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:37 PM
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It’s dishonest. I would consider it a lie of omission. I have no problem with what you’re doing as long as you tell your “conservative” woman that your balls deep in three other chicks a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:35 PM
1

Oh. It’s even more of a shit show than I thought it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:34 PM
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I just find it hard to believe it never came up. They never ask you like what did you do last night? And you’re like yo I was balls deep in one of my three rotational side chicks?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:29 PM
4

The kind of women that red pill men claim they want for LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:28 PM
4

But really you’ve had a few casual encounters with a few different women like the week before you became exclusive with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:27 PM
1

No. You can’t. I meant hurt. Physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 01:57 PM
5

You see this all the time in forms where men talk about opening their marriage. They expect to get laid left and right. Then they try to close the relationship back up because they’re jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 01:48 PM
2

Interesting. The situation reminds me of me and my boyfriend. I am divorced and I went through a hook up phase prior to meeting him. He was a virgin. I try to be very conscious of this. And we seek out other sexual experiences together (sex clubs, threesomes, etc.) and he knows after Covid if he wants to try to have sex with other women that I will support him. Because I don’t want him to feel like he missed out on anything. I don’t think this has anything to do with whatever “women are wonderfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 01:42 PM
2

Yes. I am a woman. Maybe we’re working a different definitions of inhibited.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 01:36 PM
0

You can hurt us in real life. We’re probably scared of you. Or we’re at work and have to be pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:08 PM
3

I hate coffee dates just because I hate coffee and coffee shops. But I’ll do drinks or a park or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:04 PM
3

Really? I feel like women are though of as very inhibited.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:55 PM
1

I’m just really uncomfortable with all the fabric on the bottom of non-skinny jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:08 PM
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Ya know. When I’m not on Reddit. I do in fact live in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:03 PM
4

I thought about changing more of the details on my little edit. But it seems like entirely too much effort for this post. Maybe if I’m bored tomorrow I’ll do a more thorough rewrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 03:00 AM
1

Okay. Then this is gross offensive and self hating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:14 AM
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It's the very rare man that actually deserves Stacy, and if you really do, don't worry, she will find you. If Stacy hasn't found you, you don't deserve her. Truly high quality men radiate their quality are impossible to miss. "Where have all the good women gone?" really means "Why doesn't Stacy want a relationship with me?" The answer is, you're not good enough. Most men aren't. So get over it and find a woman that you're good enough for. You'll know if she sticks around. Alternatively, you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:11 AM
1

We were married. I wasn’t going to “just leave”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:30 PM
2

I think this question is gross and offensive to overweight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:05 PM
1

I would have sex with a man with condoms. But before we have unprotected sex we would need to be STD tested.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:00 PM
2

I’m divorced and I’ve been with my new boyfriend for about two years. There were other circumstances. My ex is also in another relationship and much happier now. It was amicable and I wish them the best. We are still friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 06:43 PM
2

I didn’t mean that he cheated. I just met the there is more to being a partner than being rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 05:09 PM
2

Not an arranged marriage. Just a dumb brainwashed Christian girl and a boy willing to wait. We dated for five years. We did hand stuff and oral. We had sex the day after our wedding. It was bad. It was in frequent it never got better. But the last year we were together there was none.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:43 PM
1

We were both virgins until marriage. We didn’t have sex for a year. Multiple times a week for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:58 PM
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I was the higher libido partner in my marriage. It’s really disheartening to beg your partner for sex and I did it for over a year. I bought lingerie. I tried walking up to them naked while they were playing video games. I tried Sexting. it broke me down and made me feel so unloved and really destabilized our relationship. We got divorced. There were more issues than that but it was an issue. And I know it’s something that I will never stay in again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:17 PM
5

It depends…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:15 PM
2

Not totally insane. Clean. Salary above the poverty line. But preferably over $40,000 a year. High sex drive. Over 5 feet 6 inches. A little bit nerdy so we share some interests. Smart enough that I don’t feel like I’m talking to a child. Preferably a beard. Left leaning. Not a total loner. Low levels of toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:10 PM
0

Maybe Jeff Bezos was a dick? Maybe he wasn’t very nice? Maybe they didn’t connect anymore? Maybe he was cheating on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:05 PM
5

The single men are just so loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:04 PM
4

Wouldn’t that make all the average men entitled for expecting women with above average looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:03 PM
11

The number of women on that sub Reddit who are truly like my partner is perfect in every single way except that he occasionally slaughters goats in our bathroom. It is truly baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:02 PM
2

OK. Maybe not attraction. But what about for an LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:01 PM
2

I agree. But that’s a hot take around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:58 AM
1

I mean. I hadn’t had vaginal sex. The general definition of virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:06 AM
2

Maybe I don’t understand what big dick energy means. I’m mostly thought it just meant confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:34 PM
1

I mean no one is saying it’s totally awesome to have a super below average dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:33 PM
3

I can say I’m HIV positive but I don’t have HIV. Do I have HIV?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:29 PM
3

Understand. Disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:17 PM
1

Of course average man have sex. I want every man on here to take a good hard look at their father or anyone else they know with a child. And tell me if their father is above average looking. Because hold onto your testicles man, you exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:17 PM
1

I tend to assume that anyone I see professionally on television would just look substantially more attractive if I saw them in real life. Don’t know if that’s wrong or right. But that’s how I view it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:13 PM
6

But most women can see the difference. they’re projecting confidence but that doesn’t mean it’s real confidence. What do you think you’re proving?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:12 PM
11

The way that women act and the way that they feel about themselves in private or not always the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:08 PM
9

How much of this is just jealousy that women can have more sex than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:00 PM
2

I feel like your title and the body text do not align.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:56 PM
1

I mean. That doesn’t make average sound too bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:54 PM
3

This is an important point. If someone is shaming someone else for their dick size it’s probably nothing to do with their dick, and just because they know it’s an insecurity they can poke at. Like when men are arguing with women and they call them fat and ugly. Nothing to do with the argument at hand. It’s just a sore spot to poke.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:53 PM
1

You realize that big dick energy has almost nothing to do with actual penis size right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:50 PM
1

That’s a very good point. What people considered average is probably pretty wild. You have to take all of the people. It’s a lot of people and they’re not all nubile thin 18-year-olds with long hair and symmetrical facial features.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:45 PM
10

It’s not entirely about age. It’s about life stages. Why would someone who’s been in the workforce for 15 years and lived so much life want to be with someone who is just exiting school? On a purely physical level I guess I can see why men would prefer 18 year olds (we’re not gonna touch on all the guys on here who claim they want them younger). But in between all the sex you have to talk to this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:42 PM
1

Interesting. I feel like most people I know struggle with self-esteem and would read them selves below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:37 PM
1

Woman. Probably better. Although I think I would forgive and move on. But the real thing that would hurt me if it was someone we knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:36 PM
2

I was going to say. Better than benzos.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:35 PM
2

It’s just such a fallacy. Average inherently means average. and below average men have sex all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:59 PM
2

I guess you’d have to ask FDS. I tend to think that anything that’s not on either end of the extreme is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:58 PM
2

How are you both a lottery ticket and being settled for? also I never understand how lesbians fit into any of these equations.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:55 PM
2

Hell yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:52 PM
2

No. Not nearly that exciting. I’ve been there on New Year’s Eve but I probably wouldn’t repeat that, too crowded. I will be there for Thanksgiving. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:52 PM
1

Wouldn’t that determination have been made before you see the penis?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:51 PM
3

I just had a man on here call me below average looking. And I was like okay. You can try to change the things you can change. But some things are really hard to change. But you can still live a happy life in a below average looking body.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:48 PM
1

He’s cute. Needs more beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:45 PM
4

Why is everyone so obsessed with what is average looking? I’ve pretty much does live my whole life being below average looking and it’s gone pretty much okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:42 PM
3

I’m going to Disney World!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:39 PM
1

¯_(ツ)_/¯ Just trying to live my life. Below average or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:34 PM
1

Not if you’d like literally can’t figure out a washing machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:01 PM
1

All you got was incels and women? That’s the people that are here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:24 PM
2

I remember living in a dorm my freshman year of college and I had to teach I think two men how to do laundry because their mother’s had always done it for them. And I was horrified
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:22 PM
1

So you got the population of the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:20 PM
3

My eyes just glaze over whenever I see hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:18 PM
1

Crying is fine. Like totally fine. Ugly crying. A normal amount of crying. depression is fine. My current partner and I both have pretty serious chronic conditions. So I guess that’s fine. Financial troubles get a little bit dicey. If it’s really out of his control then I would be understanding. If I felt like he wasn’t trying to find another job then I get frustrated. The attractiveness issue I’m not sure. But I think I’m pretty blinded by love so I’m not too worried about it. Did the dead bedr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:16 PM
1

100% it’s not intentional. I’m not saying women give good dating advice. But I don’t think there’s some grand conspiracy theory. I think we’re just not giving the advice that men are looking for because we’re coming at it from a different point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:13 PM
1

It’s really hard to read text with no vocal tone and have understanding. No problem at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:08 PM
0

Why? I’d love to clarify any points you think I lied about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:07 PM
0

Because I’m a woman. And women lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:07 PM
0

That I waited until marriage? I was raised in an extremely religious household and was told not even to kiss a man until marriage. I eventually did some kissing and a few blow jobs. But nothing went in my butt or vagina until two days after my wedding. Or that we had sexual compatibility issues in my marriage? We were both very submissive and it turns out that she was trans and I didn’t know. That I had a lot of sex? I am a woman and I was online dating with the explicit intention of having casu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:06 PM
3

Yeah. In the US it’s definitely really hard. I guess it was allowing for other countries that I’m not informed about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:02 PM
0

Oh my god he’s less than two years younger. It hardly matters. Also. Obesity epidemic. That is average baby welcome to the New World. I’m not proud of it. I’m not an HAES person. I am literally on medication to lose weight, a therapist, a nutritionist. I’m really trying. But sue me for living in the body I have now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:01 PM
1

Maybe we’re just working out different definitions of liberation. But I don’t think will come to a happy conclusion for either of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:20 AM
1

When I was online dating at age 25 I had my range set from 23 to 50. So yes. Although on the older end of that I’d be a little concerned about long-term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:15 AM
1

And you still haven’t addressed any of my other points. Also we’re not talking about privilege. The claim was sexually liberated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:09 AM
4

OK. Then health insurance is a big reason to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:57 AM
-2

Still happens though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:56 AM
1

What about all the other points I listed? And I’ve never heard the term small dick energy. Doesn’t sound great. ETA: I should’ve known that merely saying the name Hillary was going to trigger someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:55 AM
3

Maybe domestic partnership?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:46 AM
0

I would argue it’s a very biased source.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:19 AM
3

Just making sure. Flash light is a really fun image though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:15 AM
0

Every link in that article is to another of their articles. And the experts are from Match.com…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:14 AM
2

checks source New York Post. moves on
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:10 AM
4

Correction. Chad’s flash light. I love the imagery.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:08 AM
6

You do know it’s flesh light? Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:07 AM
4

It’s a lot of stuff you could do other ways but with a lawyer. POA. Will. Next of kin. Insurance sharing. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:01 AM
4

Yeah. I was with you. Then I saw the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:18 PM
7

She explained it quite thoroughly. Pasted below. Bottom line it wasn’t a dating app. This guy just cold messaged her. “I do freelance work and clients are often referred to me on Facebook so I do accept friend requests with a certain number of mutuals that appear to be industry related. This was a stranger to me, asking me to stop what I was doing and give him my company. This may be a generational thing that people my age call ignoring someone “not giving them the time of day” and back in the 8…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:49 PM
2

Female dating strategy. It’s a subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:45 PM
0

Haha. I don’t disagree. But I was a 24 year old virgin. And it was in fact a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:37 PM
1

I found the teaching to be rather fun. They catch on quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:36 PM
2

Churches. I would start hanging around the churches and Christian colleges. I was a virgin until marriage because of my Traumatic religious upbringing. and I know several other people who were.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:33 PM
1

Of course. But I felt that was so obvious I don’t even need to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:28 PM
1

Thank you for making my day a little bit brighter with this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:26 PM
4

Crop the identifying information out of the screenshot send it to her and block her. You were the informant. She has to decide what to do with the information. Check with your boyfriend first. See if he’s comfortable with whatever plan you decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:25 PM
0

If a woman brags about being a homewrecker around here she would be destroyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:24 PM
1

Are you telling me I’ve been doing all this cooking for nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:21 PM
2

Oh yeah. It’s fucking me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:20 PM
3

I mean if by criminal you mean like got a DUI once? A few. If you mean like a recidivist, none? And the ones I do know are (and this is not a dunk) let’s just say didn’t have the most opportunities in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:20 PM
1

An ounce. Geez. I’ll take that deal. Wish I could fuck my dealer for an ounce. My boyfriend would probably be totally down with the money we save.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:18 PM
4

Do you have anything to lose in the situation? Would you see either of these people normally? If not, just tell her everything. If it’ll hurt you, probably just back off, you did enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:17 PM
2

Normal people don’t think that. Some disaffected people want a series of virgins to fuck when they’re young. And then one super special virgin to settle down with later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:15 PM
1

As a women in the US. We’re working on it? But we’re certainly not there. The abortion bans are coming in left and right. I am pretty worried for the continued easy availability of birth control. I can still remember the horrible graphic sexist things that people said about Hillary. People are still fired for sexual preferences un-related to their job. Non-monogamy is still pretty non-standard and frowned upon. Religion, particularly Christianity, has a kind of sick stranglehold that really prev…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:13 PM
3

Is your argument that you should be able to have sex with 15-year-olds because people with mental issues are adults?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:10 PM
2

I mean some of us are the women you consider older and you seem pretty abhorrent. My partner is a bit younger. And I almost didn’t date him because of it. I can’t imagine anything under 24 being a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:10 PM
3

Is that the goal? Because I know a lot of people on here so they want young women. But I think most at least wait till they’re legal. ETA: even if it’s legal in your jurisdiction. Stay away from the 17 year olds if you’re 20 or over.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:08 PM
5

“Sexually Liberated West”. Cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:07 PM
1

Big gamble.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:02 PM
3

Wouldn’t a 31-year-old virgin to be a big red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:08 PM
10

I waited till marriage and I’m now divorced with sexual compatibility having been a huge issue. Then I had a lot of sex. My current partner was a virgin when we started dating. But I really don’t care if they’re virgin or not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 07:59 PM
6

How is that any different from red pill men, and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:25 PM
1

Ah. Yes. A circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:23 PM
0

Probably. I don’t know a ton about FDS. Seems like it sucks. Red pill definitely also sucks. I don’t really care if any of those peoples feelings get hurt. Also. Okay. I’be been dying to ask. Do you and OneAngryBlutbad know each other IRL? Or are the names just a coincidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:11 PM
1

I was agreeing with you..?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:05 PM
12

Ah yes. The startling revelation that neither man nor women want to date shitty people. Groundbreaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:02 PM
1

Yes. If you put three very attractive celebrity men next to each other one of them might be hotter. But if you put any of them in a normal room in real life they would all get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:19 PM
6

I feel like so many of the issues on here are just issues that stem directly from unchecked capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:16 PM
12

White people aren’t that precious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:15 PM
1

Right. But to pay the mortgage on a modest house you need a down payment and closing costs. Which are not cheap. And renting tends to be much more expensive especially in cities. And every child is just an added expense. I know that you can make it work I guess, just sounds like actual hell to me. ETA: In the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:54 PM
1

Where on earth do you live? Do they live on a farm?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:54 PM
1

I think it’s rooted in racism and unreliable. Might as well use horoscopes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:17 AM
1

I love it when people self select out of my dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:14 AM
63

Of course. I’m in love right now. I was here to hate read. Then I started engaging. Both were a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:26 PM
9

Truly. We said we wouldn’t date them and then this post was like… you sure?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:43 PM
1

You can see other people as attractive and still be monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:06 PM
9

Based on the ones here? They hate women (or I guess they call it “seeing women’s true nature) and for the most part only seem to want NSA sex with skinny 18-20 years old. As a fat 28 years old who wants a relationship, I just don’t think we’re compatible. Also an unfortunate right wing lean.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:05 PM
2

I love it. It’s just a time full of parties and family celebrations and cookies and lights and decorations and songs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 01:49 PM
2

You sure can hit on whoever you want. But you have to accept when they’re scared and it’s awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:42 PM
1

I think it’s really sad. I feel bad for them. That they feel so disconnected from the world and unhappy. That sucks. For a second, I even wish they could get laid. Then they talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:36 AM
48

No way. For almost countless reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 02:52 AM
1

The mascot suit is the problem for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 01:48 PM
7

It’s fantasy? They’re the chosen one. That’s really enough for most people. Normally the chosen one is a white man so I understand your confusion. You named two exceptions to the rule. And Xena and Buffy aren’t manly, they are strong. They both deal with being women: sex, dating, children, sisterhood, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 01:23 PM
5

Nothing I’ve tried before. ETA: furries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 02:49 AM
1

Well my strings were so short that they curled up into my cervix and then it was very painful to remove. So I guess too short is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:35 PM
10

Yes. Yes it is. Just presenting a counter anecdote to yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:02 PM
4

I just don’t see this playing out in real life. I think the bad boy trope is overhyped. I am not 30 yet, most of my friends are around my age, and they’re all locked down in relationships pretty much since college. I don’t think I’ve even really met a bad boy in my life. Also your post argues that things will categorically work out in your 30s. So don’t give up hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:07 PM
3

I prefer the left-wing agenda to the right wing agenda. That doesn’t mean I indorse every single tenant of it and don’t wish it was better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:03 PM
5

It’s the double standard. And don’t start talking to me about locks and keys please.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:02 PM
2

I also sometimes masturbate with pornography, mainly erotica. So it doesn’t really bother me. Sex and masturbation are different. They require different energy levels. They can be done in different moods. Sometimes you’re in a hurry. sometimes your partner doesn’t want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:01 PM
10

As someone who got divorced young, I thought people would care more but it really hasn’t been much of an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:55 AM
7

All just sounds like sex to me. If your only concern is STDs, that can easily be tested for. I can’t imagine someone who comes off as this homophobic in this post would date someone who pegged 100 men. Also. She would probably want to peg you too. You are totally allowed to not date women because they had PIV sex with a lot of men. You can also be OK with a woman having pegged 100 men but not been penetrated. You are totally allowed those preferences but don’t make some grandmaster theory about …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:53 AM
2

Same. All nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 02:00 AM
2

If the strings are too long then the penis may be able to feel it but you can get the strings cut shorter. I’ve heard after you have kids they kind of just go right in. But no you don’t feel it once it’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:50 PM
1

In my experience the pill is more common when you’re younger and then people move on to more permanent forms like the IUD or the implant or the shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:33 PM
5

Oh man. I love my IUD. Hurts like a motherfucker when they take it in and out but otherwise it’s amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:31 PM
12

This is a prominent thing spoken about on r/childfree. A lot of doctors will turn people down because they’re single or they think they’re too young or the doctor’s own religious beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:31 PM
9

Tubal ligation it’s just a much more invasive surgery with a higher recovery time and it’s all so much harder to reverse. It’s kind of just worse in every way. If you’re young it’s also hard to talk a doctor into it. I use an IUD, Mirena. I thought about trying to get my tubes tied as I have no desire to have children but I like that this takes away my period and is almost as effective. I’ve been on birth control since I was around 13 (I had weird fucking periods) so I don’t really notice any ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:29 PM
0

Two things. Doesn’t this go against the entire RP narrative that it’s impossible for men to have casual sex when they’re young? secondly? Is Adam Driver a sex symbol now? I thought that was a me thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 12:24 PM
1

I mean. I’m in a happy relationship and haven’t been single at all since I was 18. And I can get it in the lifestyle. I can just count on one hand the number of times I’ve been approached in public/bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:50 PM
1

Honestly. I think I’d rather they just never told me at that point. If they wait that long they are doing it for their absolution not anything about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:48 PM
1

Yes! It was raised in some hard-core Christianity and the only way to have a guilt free sex was to get married. If I had just had sex before and realized how bad it was I might not have gotten married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 09:10 PM
3

Horrible. We were both virgins. The sex was horrific. And sexually compatibility was a factor in our divorce less than two years after we got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 09:09 PM
2

Never happened. Thank god.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 09:08 PM
6

Depends. Was it like a one night stand? Or a long-term affair with a lot of emotions intertwined? I would be very hesitant to throw away a 10+ year relationship over one indiscretion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:31 PM
2

If you want to be trapped is it still a trap?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:29 PM
1

You don’t have to sleep with or be in a relationship with women who have had a number of partners that you feel uncomfortable with. But those women are human beings that you need to treat with respect. But I disagree fundamentally that women who have had sex with more partners are somehow less likely to be monogamous and faithful. I’ve had sex with about 15 guys and I would never cheat. And people who sleep around often end up in long-term relationships that don’t end in infidelity. And if women…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:29 PM
6

Then you should know what she likes. Maybe she’ll love your ass and you can show that off. maybe she’ll love it when you wear the color red. You won’t know till you get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:01 PM
5

I don’t really agree with anything you said. But I do think there’s a case that you should kind of know specific things that turn on your longtime partner versus the generic things that work on the masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 04:43 PM
1

Truly. Middling attractive fat woman here. And outside of on line dating. I never really get approached her head on. But all the posts here about how every single woman in the world has an army of beta orbiters make me feel like I’m the kind a freak.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:28 PM
1

I am not heard of this. And it is incredibly fucked up. I got outed to my parents as bi in high school. And it was extremely distressing for me and really bad for my relationship with my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:24 PM
14

Is this about attracting a long time partner or any random person off the street?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:21 PM
6

Gag at “amazing fake tits”. My criteria for a great boob job is that you can’t tell its a boob job.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:18 PM
34

Maybe you have a fetish for fake boobs? And to answer your question. No I don’t think having sex with hot people makes it hard to get aroused by less hot people. Everyone offer something different. And with long time partners all the feelings get involved which blurs things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:16 PM
1

Being bisexual is about attraction and not action.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:12 PM
3

I mean. Could still be bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 02:45 AM
10

I mean. Yeah. That’s an adult handling a health condition in healthy way. And does sound quite like my partner. But I’d be the biggest hypocrite because I struggle with depression myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:33 PM
5

I think it’s about where you are in life. Post high school and you shouldn’t be trolling high schools. Post college and you shouldn’t be trolling colleges. And it isn’t automatically a red flag but more like sometime to be aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:39 PM
7

Depends on what the man wants. Does he want a marriage? Does he want to fuck 100 people?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:36 PM
2

She can fuck whoever she wants and he can dump her for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 09:12 PM
3

Captain Marvel isn’t on Netflix.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 09:08 PM
1

It depends. For people who have been buried since they were in their early 20s it could be quite low. I know some people like that. Mine is probably closer to 20. I feel like I know a lot of men who have had sex with less than 30 women though. I think it’s really variable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:15 PM
5

I try to get away. I uninstall the Reddit app. I tried apps to block me from it. I was clean for a few months. But then I relapsed. I guess I’m just a masochist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:11 PM
1

I’m pretty upfront about it so sometimes I’ll just ask them to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:11 PM
2

But then if it’s easier for women. Why not give them a higher number?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:38 PM
1

Why the difference between men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:33 PM
2

Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:19 PM
1

How old are you? If it’s over 20 I’m scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:00 PM
2

It’s really sad how he doesn’t see how delusional this is. No amount of affection in the world would make up for these requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:59 PM
3

So her house also has to be close to yours. The house that she owns totally independently of you and before the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:58 PM
4

Yes. That is the one thing about someone with a high partner account. I would want them to get tested before we stop using condoms. I am by far the higher part of relationship and of course I got tested before we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:57 PM
0

Me: Female. Late 20s. Virgin. Married a fellow virgin. Bad sex. Divorced. Dated and slept with like maybe 15 people. Settled down with one virgin. I don’t think you have to count as long as it’s consensual enthusiastic sex. But guess once you’re in triple digits, that’s a lot. When I was booking up one guy claim to have slept with over 100 women. The sex was good and he could arrange an hour. I probably would’ve felt a little insecure in an LTR with that guy but if he validated me and said he en…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:55 PM
2

What do you provide to this woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:48 PM
1

Oh… is this supposed to be a FDS troll post?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:47 PM
4

How do you live separate lives (and in separate places) but she’s constantly sexually available for your high libido? Does she also have to drive across town to you for the sex she must always want?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:45 PM
5

I’m assuming this isn’t a marriage and you said no kids. So you want a totally independent woman who you don’t live with to be totally sexually and emotionally available to you? And she has to work full time (I mean, she owns a house) but be peppy and submissive to “elevate you”? And men say women have crazy expectations… ETA: Why not just add your physical requirements too?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:42 PM
1

I think friends help with loneliness. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:20 PM
1

Some of them? Yes. They have hobbies and friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:13 PM
1

I don’t expect anything. They’re not whiny incels who constantly complain about being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:11 PM
2

Yes. Me and my boyfriend are going as German people. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:22 PM
2

You kinda get used to the pain if you do it regularly. And the awkwardness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:21 PM
1

Throwing a Halloween party.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:20 PM
5

Cool. I’ve never lied on here. Anecdotes are fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:07 PM
3

I didn’t say he could fix anything. I said he could lower his standards. In any number of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:24 PM
5

I was being sarcastic. I care deeply about my male partner’s emotional health and I don’t care at all when he cries.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:39 PM
2

At least. I kind of stopped counting. not because the number got so high but just because I didn’t feel like counting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:38 PM
1

And what they want is confirmation bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:35 PM
14

Sorry. I am a woman. I am agreeing with you. I was being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:32 PM
10

I see a lot of people claiming that other people on here are lying or trying to make themselves sound better. We are on an anonymous Internet forum. What is the benefit of lying or making yourself seem better to a bunch of anonymous strangers on the Internet?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:27 PM
14

Right. The women on Reddit are different. They’re lying. They’re virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:23 PM
5

That’s not what they said. They said the people on here are being genuine and you’re just asking a certain demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:23 PM
1

Not asexual based on conversations about porn preferences. One guy, I legit offered to have sex with NSA and he said he was too self conscious. Which could’ve been to protect my pride but I think it was genuine. The others just don’t do anything that could result in them being exposed to women in any way. Like primarily work from home, primarily play video games with the same group of people, and don't online date. It’s a shame. They’re mostly really nice, well-off, decent looking guys. ETA: but…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:16 PM
3

This is a bad thread for me due to my extreme distaste for anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:09 PM
0

Women have always been rape and they have always been poor. This isn’t the threat you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:00 PM
2

Sounds like you had a lot of problems going on that did not at all involve feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:57 AM
1

I’m going to like make a song or a haiku about how much less women care about penis size than men think we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:55 AM
8

Concerned! I would be concerned about why my partner was crying. If he cried all the time I’d be really concerned and maybe eventually a little annoyed. But I’d also be concerned and annoyed if I cried all the time. And crying at a funeral is one of the most natural things in the world. My partner’s grandfather died and we went to the funeral over the summer and of course he cried. It almost would’ve been more concerning if he didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:52 AM
3

It’s fine. They don’t give a single fuck. Be clean and be polite. But it’s like going to the gynecologist they’ve seen thousands.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:48 AM
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have you considered lowering your standards? Not being sarcastic. I’m fat. So when I’m dating, I don’t go for super attractive guys. You’re kind of a little below average height, not gonna lie to you. But I was with someone your height for many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:46 AM
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All my male friends have been in long-term relationships since basically college. Or at least ones lasting a few years now. With the exception of a few guys from my World of Warcraft guild but they have literally never tried. I do live in an urban area. So there’s more people around to date. Maybe it’s just some demographic I don’t see that isn’t having sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:42 AM
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If your partner is freaking out wouldn’t you just want to help them? I don’t think it’s as manipulative as you’re making it seem. Also you make women sound like children but I’ll gloss over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:34 AM
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No. It’s just literally what the word means. Urgent: (of a state or situation) requiring immediate action or attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:33 AM
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Yeah. I can’t estimate size. And I don’t really think about it. No clue how big my boyfriends dick is. Don’t really care. I’ve had sex with like 15 people. None really stood out. I just really don’t care as long as we’re not talking about a medical condition. And I don’t know a single female friend who does either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:31 AM
0

OkCupid mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:28 AM
0

I didn’t use Tinder. No clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:27 AM
1

Hm. I’m a woman. But I found paying a little bit to see who likes you very effective. It really takes out a lot of time and guess work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:10 AM
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Puberty early-ish like 10-11. Sex late a la 24 and married. Don’t think it really was a factor. I think it was my crazy restrictive religious upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 02:42 PM
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Had to scroll too far to find this answer. You’re going to be miserable long-term if you’re pretending to be someone else. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 02:39 PM
2

I did quite a bit of online dating. Never had any success with Tinder at all. In my area it’s almost exclusively a hook up site. I liked OkCupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 12:00 PM
1

How is that related at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:57 AM
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I don’t quite know why you mean. I met my ex-spouse at a party and we were set up by friends. But the rest (hook ups and one LTR) were the product of online dating. Female.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 12:02 AM
1

What about lesbians? Or asexuals?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:57 PM
0

I think I said something really controversial like Disney princesses weren’t realistic women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:09 PM
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Female. No pill. I was banned from MGTOW when it existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:59 PM
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No it wouldn’t turn me on. Sex turns me on. It wouldn’t offend me but I might assume were incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:08 PM
4

Have known sock masturbators. Can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:07 PM
2

Even with the edit number one sounds like a murderer. So number two please.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:12 PM
1

We hate that too. It’s all on us. Remember to take the pill. Deal with the hormonal changes. The pain of IUD/implant insertion. I’d love some male birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:07 PM
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It can be a flag but doesn’t have to be. I’m an LTR with a man who was a virgin. I was not. He was 24. And it’s great. But he also has the rest of his life put together.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:05 PM
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I prefer them to be taller than me but it’s not a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:02 PM
2

They say they want a relationship. Never go outside, won’t online date, never socialize with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:58 AM
2

If it’s urgent… why don’t you do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:54 AM
1

I think you’re being sarcastic. But that’s a relatively common and normal kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:53 AM
0

Might be skewed. Isn’t Tik Tok like 60% under 30 and 2:1 women to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:45 AM
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That’s because women typically handle the domestic shit in heterosexual relationships. and I bet you like having toilet paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 01:20 AM
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Are you downplaying the importance of paper towels?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 09:58 PM
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I don’t personally know a fine who had a fake ID and you need to be 21 to even enter most bars/clubs. There were like 16 or 18 plus nights sometimes, but I don’t feel like that really counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:04 PM
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I mean in the US you have to be 21 to drink. So most 20 year olds wouldn’t have been here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:45 PM
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Right. I’m a city girl. This guy sounded pretty cool. But then. Nope. Whammy. No go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 11:59 AM
1

In the US? Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 11:59 AM
1

None. My friends have mostly been coupled off for our whole adult lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:16 PM
4

Don’t threaten me with a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:42 PM
4

An actual answer about something wrong with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:31 PM
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I mean. There is so much media with schlubby guys. “Unattractive” women are still pretty rare in mainstream media.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:30 PM
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Of course they haven’t betrayed anything. Feminism is about women having the freedom to make choices. Being a homemaker is a choice. If all women can be is homemakers, then that is an issue. Mostly people just can’t afford it. Doesn’t affect me at all because I don’t want kids and don’t date men rich enough to afford a child free housewife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:28 PM
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Well. Thank you. I feel like to the extent that I enforce it, it might be. It’s an automatic out from me. I don’t care if you’re moderator or apolitical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:35 PM
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RP4RP
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:58 PM
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I’ll let you know when I met one. I might know a few Jewish people who fall into that category. But Christians just tend to be so toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:55 PM
1

I was raised super religious and I can’t stand people who are faking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:52 PM
1

No. I’m not a manipulative bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:28 PM
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Hm. IMO you’re either devout or a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:18 PM
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Oh yeah. Religion is up there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:11 PM
1

Because love and sex don’t have to be related at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:05 PM
8

Republicans.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:02 PM
1

A foodie is someone who like to try new and unexpected food, learn about it, and maybe even cook it. Personally I just hate the environment of coffee shops. They are loud. Small. You can’t always get a seat. I don’t like coffee. Maybe drinks or cocktail hour would be more her taste? Or lunch somewhere cheap but trendy. Or just pick a nice place and tell her you’re splitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 05:31 PM
3

That second one literally made me flinch.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:34 PM
2

Sounds like a good reason not to wait for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:07 PM
2

It’s literally just insecurity (like his some men are insecure about sex toys) or that they think she “used to be more wild”. Although both my LTRs have been with virgin men so I haven’t had to deal with it much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:15 PM
1

5 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:12 PM
1

The problem with man butts is that men’s clothing doesn’t normally show it off. But a naked man butt. Oh baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:12 PM
2

Is 5’9”… short?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:11 PM
6

There are some really weird looking tall dudes. Face first.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:10 PM
1

Couple things. Opinions exists. For example I don’t like the body builder look at all but some people might. Some people like bald men. Preferences! And no being tall does not make you automatically above average. Has everyone on here never seen a really strange looking tall guys?!? It’s just pretty (not totally) subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:09 PM
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I waited 5 years as a virgin in a relationship and got married. It sucked. And and we got divorced with sexual incompatibility being a huge issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:06 PM
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Yawn. Snooze. People have always had non reproductive sex. So it’s just a bit easier now. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_birth_control I don’t want to have kids ever. Should I be celibate forever?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:00 PM
1

I kind of happened naturally. We just started spending more and more time and night with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:45 AM
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I mean. You kind of did ghost her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:41 AM
3

Oh. I love the body hair and beards. Their cute little butts. And penis sex is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:44 AM
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Please just stay away from children. Age of consent is a legal construct whatever. They look adult and fertile, gross but whatever. You want a virgin/low N-count? Join a church. Just don’t act on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:06 AM
0

Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:57 AM
0

I’m in. I volunteer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:17 AM
0

If this is all in college why are a bunch of adults so obsessed with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:14 AM
5

Genuinely, why? Even at 5’9” it’s a huge gap over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:06 AM
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Preferably taller than me (5’9”) but my ex husband was 5’6” and that was fine. Under that and I’d probably feel too tall in heels. Current boyfriend is approximately the same height as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:57 PM
2

I mean. Isn’t that good? Better sex for everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 08:01 PM
1

Hm. I’ve thought about it. I love my partner. But it would be fun to have sex with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:58 PM
3

I dream of being a full time cleaning cooking sex slave for my partners. Genuinely. I’d prefer never to make a choice. Sadly, it’s just not economically feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:57 PM
4

I know some women who read hard sci fi? Is that pretentious enough for you or only non-fiction? Personally I read for escapism as real life is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:55 PM
1

Faking is worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:54 PM
2

Pretty evenly matched.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:53 PM
3

Right?!? That one seems a little outrageous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:51 PM
2

We’ve had an MFM threesome. It was great for both of us. I don’t know it like to repeat once Covid settles down. An open relationship, I’d be open to us having casual sex with other people but I need primacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:20 PM
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I’ve been called a nerd quite a lot, is that different? I’m a dungeon master and a Mythic raider in WoW. And I’ve spent a lot of time with men on those hobbies. But I also enjoy cooking and plants. I mean. I do tend towards nerdy men. I don’t think it gives me an advantage on whole. I met my current boyfriend on OkCupid talking about different kind of elves. So I guess it helps me with the guys I’m interested in? I have no interest in your car and would be incompatible with a gym rat. I’m rather…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:36 PM
1

True. I have a number of hobbies that might be considered for boys (dungeon master, mythic raider) but I don’t feel like that makes me not like other girls. I wish I was more into makeup and could do a better cat eye and I don’t think women who can are somehow other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:30 PM
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mentally prepared self to be roasted Just prepare him to be a smart, kind, interesting person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:28 PM
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Love men. Huge fan. Love my male partner. Lots of male friends. All bright, kind, upstanding people. But on this sub… yeah, I started to doubt. It’s honestly depressing. So many men claiming all these terrible things about women. It’s hard not to be defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:01 PM
1

I’m being a bit dramatic. My partner is really well adjusted and also has his mom and a therapist. But really not much of an emotional connection with his friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:23 PM
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You kinda did. Most people have one sexual partner at a time long term. And if emotional needs are met by your sex partner. That’s one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:14 PM
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As a women I’ve kind of just learned to accept that you will have to fulfill all of your partners emotional needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:09 PM
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The sex can get better with time with a partner. You learn how to turn each other on. You explore kinks. You have more trust. And this post just totally invalidates any notion of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:06 PM
1

I really think in this case, it’s a lot less than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 03:05 PM
1

And you feel this has no correlation/nothing to do with the quality of men? What’s men’s trajectory?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:55 PM
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There must be women who care. But I’d be shocked if it’s a majority. I mean I’m sure there’s a lower bound that is tough. But anything anywhere near average…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:54 PM
2

Hm. I guess. They just have had issues. If it protects the workers then I guess it’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:53 PM
1

Okay. I’ll bite. Shittier how?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:51 PM
2

I mean. Those women are idiots. When I go to a strip club I just tipped appropriately and bought a lap dance. Shitty people gonna be shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:46 PM
1

If the goal was any kind of cooperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:34 PM
2

I can see some women being really performative about it but some women are just into women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:30 PM
3

Maybe look for a difference service?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:30 PM
3

There’s no reason. Religion just has such s death grip on society and lingering effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:26 PM
2

What if it’s not a contest?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:21 AM
1

If it turned into a woman hating bitterness party again, yes. I used to lurk MGTOW and some posts genuinely were like about buying a treasured item or going on a long wished trip. No one is mad about that. To me a bachelor sounds like a cool guy who is choosing to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:20 AM
3

https://www.who.int/teams/mental-health-and-substance-use/promotion-prevention/gender-and-women-s-mental-health
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:14 AM
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It’s just genuinely confusing. I know some women like they described must exists. But I’ve just never encountered them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:01 AM
4

Women are not emotional driven creatures any more then men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:58 AM
3

I mean sure. Of course. But if you use don’t wear sweatpants as s ground rule, particularly for first dates, I think that’s gonna get you pretty far.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:55 AM
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Oh. I actively participated in my dating. And I’m a big fan of fucking on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:54 AM
1

We call it boring white peoples food. It’s a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:53 AM
1

I admitted that I was a little loose with the generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:52 AM
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But if I don’t have sex on the first three dates then I’m not into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:36 PM
2

There’s a point where you have to take what you’re given in life. There’s a lot you can change and a lot you can’t. Women can prefer whatever they want. I don’t know what else to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:05 PM
1

Why do people think that big words, text walls, and bullshit statistics make them seem smarter?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:04 PM
3

I have heard that the west coast is more casual. So this could be regional. But yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:02 PM
4

Not gonna touch the concentration camp thing. But. I see language about how women are ruled by instinct and base urges, we need to be controlled, we need to be bred, to know our place, etc. Its very like livestock.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:01 PM
0

Non exclusivity until it’s established.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:59 PM
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I’m not getting in a statistics war with you. Ya know. I did use some generalization. I’m sorry for that. Because they really aren’t fair. But I really need to stop thinking that I can convince one of you that women are just people and not evil incomprehensible monsters. So thank you for reminding me that that is impossible. I love men. So much. I think they are just the best and that their issues aren’t addressed enough. But every discourse ends in the same hateful way. So I’m done. You’ll thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:55 PM
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I’m just citing the 6 foot thing because it’s so common here. And I have a feeling you would’ve found yourself right no matter what anyone says. Or no matter what any woman said anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:31 PM
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I like to think they mostly stay on the Internet. But United States politics prove me wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:24 PM
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I’m good on this line of reasoning. This is not a gotcha that you think it is. Statistically most men are taller. The thing is the red pill is all about spreading statistics that are not backed up by anything and aren’t really statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:23 PM
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This is one of the best descriptions it I’ve ever seen. How are you supposed to be a virgin and a whore at the same time? It’s supposed to be impossible so they will always be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:19 PM
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And it’s crazy. Like Illuminati crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:15 PM
14

I mean we live in a society, yes. So abstractly, I suppose. Much less direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:14 PM
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No. My feelings are not hurt. But I’m a woman so of course you launch the attack there. And maybe that’s a hot take but, generalizations are bad. I have never met one of these terrible hellions men on here are always describing. And it think it’s more of like a social media or pop culture influence thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:13 PM
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Right. That are mad that we’re harder to subjugate. They want us back in a situation where we have to rely on men for survival. And in exchange. They get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:09 PM
14

I have never met one of these women that they describe. They are incredibly foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:05 PM
0

But it’s not. Really. A lot of people do it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:00 PM
12

No. It’s not at all. We are humans trying (or not trying) to find partners. Holy fuck, people who are generally attractive have it easier. I mean. Of course they do. Men are hornier and want more sex. It’s less risky for them. Men’s problem is that they want to have sex with women. And we are no longer obligated to for survival. And men here are so mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:57 PM
7

Cool. But it’s not 6/6/6. Or lookism. Or gold digging.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:54 PM
43

Honestly. Everything. Everything you think about women is insane and generalizing. It’s like you’re trying to dehumanize and study us but you’ve learned nothing. Yes. In general women prefer taller men. But men under 6 ft get laid. Yes. A financially successful partner is preferably, but not all women are gold diggers. Shitty people are shitty. It’s not a conspiracy of women to deprived men of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:49 PM
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No. It wasn’t a long window. We casually dated for like two months before it became clear that we were getting serious. We had a talk and. Fair disclosure. We have threesomes. There’s a pretty good chance that we will open it up (maybe just his side) at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:44 PM
4

Oh. Good to know. Maybe I’ll check it out. Guess it gets twisted here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:42 PM
2

And that’s sweet and amazing and I agree. But that’s not what it mean here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:29 PM
3

Hm. I’m 28 and I don’t think anyone I dated thought we were automatically exclusive. I was very up front that I was dating others. Once me and my current partner decided to be exclusive, we ended it with other people we were talking to and got STD tests. That’s how I mostly see it working.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:17 PM
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I didn’t respond to the main post because my partner is not a “HVM”. Because that term is outrageous. It refers to like a 6 foot, millionaire, handsome, who throws money and attention at you. It’s not a real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:11 PM
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That last paragraph is insane to me. 20 years? Possible kids? Because your wife didn’t sleep with someone 20 years ago. Are you sure? ETA: How old are you? Where I am geographically and at 28. Exclusivity is not the baseline. You start non exclusive and move into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:04 PM
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Oh man. My hero over here. I’m still getting the hang of normal steam buns. But that is such a sweet thing to do. My boyfriend craves like boring white people food (beef stroganoff, Swedish meatballs, etc.) so I make that for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:55 PM
3

This whole system is just so fucked up. All these acronyms. We’re all just people trying to do our best out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:34 PM
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It’s not going to offend anyone. And it’s not hard to pull off. My boyfriend dresses almost exactly like this most of the time. Just a whole closet of those button downs. Sweatpants would be a weird flex unless the date was like… sports or hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:24 PM
4

Solid look.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:21 PM
10

The outfit he posted is a bit casual for a majority of dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:19 PM
1

I feel like Scott really fed into that with his actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:17 PM
5

The look you crafted is a little too athlesuire for me. Decent sneakers or boots. Good fitting jeans. Nice V neck or a flannel. Love a watch. And beard if you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 07:13 PM
1

Neither of the things you listed preclude woman being human.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:33 PM
3

Male sex toys should be normalized. But this ain’t it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:32 PM
1

I wonder about this a lot. I see men say AWALT about their mothers. Does red pill rule out friendships with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:29 PM
2

Yes, they really do make us sound like unruly animals that need to be broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:21 PM
4

There just might be a middle ground and it might be a good place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:02 PM
1

I think it’s the nicotine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:57 PM
1

Sorry. Generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:57 PM
6

Of course men can everything women can. And some things we can’t do too. I just don’t think that cynically that I could be like “that thing is bad, let me do it”. But I know it’s viewed as just serving it back to women. It just seems very destructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:56 PM
1

I think you really gotta have sex. It’s just a lot more involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:54 PM
1

They are all objectively attractive but do nothing for me. I’d say men’s action movie type.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:52 PM
3

Tobacco? Nope. Just can’t take the smell. Weed? Only if it was occasionally and not in the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:49 PM
2

Honestly, I respect that as long as you’re relatively honest about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:47 PM
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I think I’m just defective. Because I truly cannot manipulate anyone. I do get that women do this. But it’s just so far from my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:46 PM
3

As I bi woman, this is fine. We don’t want to date you either. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:44 PM
1

Hm. Interesting. I’m not sure if I had to pick what I would say. Hopefully personality. But I’m no physical catch so I assume I’m getting along on my wit here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:42 PM
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It just seems that everything being that adversarial would be bad for ever having a relationship (if that is one’s goal). I mean. Of course I disagree with your blanket assessments of women but that’s neither here now there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:40 PM
1

Easy. Neither is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:32 PM
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Doesn’t that all make you just as cold and calculating as you would say women are?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:29 PM
1

Woman here. Board games. D&D. Cooking. My plants. Video games. Crafting. Hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 11:54 AM
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I mean. My boyfriend has literally seen me have sex with another man in an MFM. Also, if it was before the relationship was exclusive, jealousy seems excessive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 11:47 AM
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It’s hard to say because it’s just so much easier to date men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:39 PM
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I do. It’s not my full time lifestyle and most of my sex is pretty vanilla. But the highlights include things like MFM, anal, spanking, rough sex, bondage, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:36 PM
1

Genuinely. I hate making decisions. Where is the council of men who will make all my decisions for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:01 PM
1

Oh yeah. In the end the trans thing wasn’t what ended the marriage. And I don’t think it’s a bait and switch. It was quite surprising though after seven years together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:22 PM
2

Okay. I understand the take. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:24 PM
2

I was in a dead bedroom marriage. But I wouldn’t call it a bait and switch. The same partner turned out to be trans. But I also don’t see that as a bait and switch but I could see how you could.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:19 PM
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I just disagree with this conceptually. But what I meant was how do men decide if a woman is a slut or a prudish virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:13 PM
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Sure. But irrational fears are still real to the person having them. And the fear of meeting men alone is really drilled into women when they’re young.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:11 PM
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Live action role playing? I mean those are all things that happened to me. He didn’t have anything about politics on his profile. It didn’t come up in conversation before we met. And then we got there and it was very obvious and awkward. Probably my bad for an inadequate screening but a really bad date nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:10 PM
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Only a sith speaks in absolutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:07 PM
6

Right. That is how it works. But this person and some men on here make it sound like all women’s dates are amazing and all men dates are terrible unless they’re Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:03 PM
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I mean I don’t think it’s when every woman turns 30 she automatically has a hard time dating. I don’t think it’s that easy to qualify.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:58 PM
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Somewhere in between. You know, start with the kissing then move to the sex. Certainly not 30 minutes of kissing. But if there was no kissing I would think it was weird. ETA: I also don’t think it’s outrageous to expect some foreplay you know like oral on both parties or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:56 PM
2

That was a really high compliment from me to a red pill guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:54 PM
4

I don’t think it’s quite that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:54 PM
2

I don’t have the energy to go back-and-forth with you right now. But congratulations, this is more nuanced than I would think from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:53 PM
3

Working in the field of law I have very little faith in the court system. But yes I hope the judge is overseeing things well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:47 PM
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I mean it’s an option. The murder. Very slim chance. But bad dates and coercion are not that uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:46 PM
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I went on a date and the guy was alt right and yelled at the waiter, made fun of gay people when he knew I was bisexual, then tried to kiss me at the end despite my obvious discomfort. I’ve been on multiple dates where I got stood up. Where are worse things. There are worse things that happened to women on dates. Sometimes it’s all sunshine and roses. But sometimes it’s not all sunshine and roses.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:45 PM
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Do you see how you are also coming to conclusions based on little evidence? ETA: No horse in the Brittany race. It seems like an extreme measure. But yeah I don’t really know what’s going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:40 PM
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Yes. But but to be fair. They were both porn sub Reddits. So the user base was heavily male.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:34 PM
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This is actually pretty good advice. As far as dating sites go I also agree I really liked OkCupid and all the questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:30 PM
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I’ve moderated a couple subreddits my day. And I feel like it’s just easier to ban people who are being problematic because they’ll probably be problematic again. Sure you might cut down on a little bit of activity but you can cut out so much toxicity so easily. That said I don’t know if I’ve ever really been on a women’s sub Reddit. So I might just be talking out of my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:28 PM
2

Oh my God the man bun I didn’t know I needed. And that beard. Damn I might have to watch the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:21 PM
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I’ve been trying to figure out how they decide. But I can’t pinpoint the logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:04 PM
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I don’t know about this. I’ve gotten banned from some mens’ subs for saying some very non inflammatory things like women are humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:02 PM
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Mid 30s. ETA: Curious what answer you were looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:01 PM
4

Right? Are we all whores or are we all virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:19 PM
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Men on here can’t have it both ways. Are women degenerate sluts with high partner counts? Or are they uptight prudish virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:15 PM
1

Thank you so much. The size of my house is fairly comparable. And I live on the outskirts of a large city. So very helpful information.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:52 PM
2

I can tell we’re not gonna reach a compromise here. Just remember consent please.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:44 PM
2

Would you feel comfortable saying how much it cost? I’m very interested in something like that and I want to see what other people pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:43 PM
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Some women are more focused on body, some women are more focused on face, some like a good mix. I think it really depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:42 PM
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Okay. There’s some stuff to unpack here. First of all. Not all women want to submit to men. I am a bad example because it does happen to be my kink. But I’d prefer like a sir or a master or any other word that doesn’t make me think about my father.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:41 PM
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Maybe the two man I know are outliers. But I was also very surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:36 PM
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Oh see. I love being called a good girl. But I don’t like saying daddy. It’s so individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:33 PM
2

Daddy is really hit or miss. Some women do like it. Some women don’t. Personally turns my vagina into the Sahara desert.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:26 PM
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It’s certainly not the norm. I am a slut but not a cheater. I couldn’t get sex from my husband so I couldn’t get sex anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:17 PM
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Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:16 PM
1

But he didn’t say that at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:15 PM
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Sorry that I was dedicated to making my marriage work? Or are you implying that I’m ugly? Because in my mind that doesn’t really matter he knew what I looked like when he married me and it wasn’t a big change, we were only married two years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:14 PM
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I didn’t say it’s full proof. lol. I said give it a try. It’s certainly not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:13 PM
2

At least try shaving your head before you give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:56 PM
1

I did spontaneously combust as I wrote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:43 PM
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You can ghost any partner you don’t live with and stop anytime you want. Do you think committed relationships only exist when you live together?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:32 PM
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I think it’s sex outside of a relationship. So I would count consistent friends with benefit as a relationship. I feel like casual just have such a negative connotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:31 PM
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I mean to be fair we do a lot of good and bad things for and because of men. But there are some things that are just for ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:30 PM
1

Some Prosecco and canapés on the cock carousel. Paid for by our army of beta orbiters of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:26 PM
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Have you ever seen the meme about how men grilling works? The wife buys the food, the wife makes the side dishes, the wife makes or buys dessert. The wife prepares everything for the cookout, she prepares the meat and puts it on a tray, and hand it to the husband, and the man cooks the meat. The man gets all the praise for the cooking. What does this have to do with hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 03:11 PM
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Sorry. Maybe I don’t understand. I thought you were making it sound like it was bad to have separate standards for fantasy and real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:58 PM
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Married to a gamer. Begged for sex. Tried lingerie. Tried every single seduction technique. Couldn’t even get em to let me give an unrequited blowjob. so it does happen. ETA: Some guys. Especially younger guys. Sometimes do smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:55 PM
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I think you’re allowed to have different standards for your fantasy life and your real life. ETA: Like am I sure my boyfriend would rather be dating a supermodel? Probably. But that’s not how life works.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:45 PM
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Cool. I am very well-adjusted. I’ve been through a lot of therapy. Maybe I’m just not into super muscular men in real life. But thanks for telling me I’m wrong and lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:41 PM
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IRL. I actually don’t like big muscles. I don’t really think I mesh with a partner who spends that much time in the gym and only eat chicken breast. But if we’re talking about beautiful unobtainable men. I mean what do you want from us? And I don’t like a super cut look at all. I prefer a guy who is muscular but bulky in my fantasy life. ETA: me and my skinny bisexual boyfriend have a great time objectifying Henry Cavill together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:35 PM
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Those are the only two of these men that I’ve heard of. But yes they’re clearly all famous based on the availability of photos of them posing on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:32 PM
1

IMO beard and stubble are almost always an upgrade. There are exceptions, guys who can’t really pull it off, but I think it’s always worth a try.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:31 PM
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To be clear. I think men should default to being gentle. It’s more respectful and I think more likely to be well received. But yes you have to communicate. Even with a one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:29 PM
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The answer to that question is very very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:29 PM
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I rated them all relatively high. Because I can just tell they’re so attractive. It feels wrong to put them any lower. And if they want to fuck me I’m not gonna say no. But. Most of these men are not my type. I would describe them all as too pretty/groomed. I realize that based on this it looks like I’m just not attracted to black man. But that’s really not the case. Idris Elba is a snack. Michael B Jordan is so hot. Isaiah Mustafa.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:28 PM
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It’s insane. When I first started watching the Witcher, I though the wig going to be a turn off. But it’s not. He’s buff but not too cut. He’s always a little bit dirty. And Geralt is such a fun character. And that ass. 🍑
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:20 PM
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Henry was my favorite because he seemed the most masculine. Also I’ve been watching the Witcher and he looks so hot in that show. 🤤 I agree. His face is scary! I can’t pinpoint why. But something about it is really offputting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:18 PM
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I agree. I can see that he is good looking. But his face really scares me. I can’t quite pinpoint why though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:15 PM
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I like rough sex. So the kind of pounding and disregard of women that a lot of men are into kind of works for me. I think that’s probably it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:12 PM
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10/10 Totally my type. Totally beautiful. I prefer him in the Witcher wig and outfit. Lol. 7/10 totally beautiful. Not my type. 6/10 way too pretty. 7/10 6/10 4/10 objectively I can see that this man is good looking. But something about his face scares me. 9/10 I would consider most of these to be “pretty boys“. Is that what you were going for?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:11 PM
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10 years down doesn’t work until you’re 28. Legally most places.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:45 PM
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The Wall subreddit was one of the grossest places I’ve ever been on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:44 PM
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There’s a lot less of them. As everyone here points out if you’re a woman looking for men there’s a lot of choices. Not so much if you’re a woman looking for other women. So that’s the main thing. I was new to dating women and there was a different social navigation that I wasn’t super familiar with. And they are not as horny generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:30 PM
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What a lovely image. You’re really turning my perception of this around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:25 PM
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I went on a date and had sex a few times with this one man. He was quite a bit older than me, shorter than me, and not super great looking. We went out for one drink so it wasn’t a money thing. He was amazing and electric. He didn’t break eye contact for the whole date. He listen to every word I said but with somehow still completely in control of the conversation. We had a perfectly normal conversation that radiated sexual energy. We went back to his place and he said he didn’t want to fuck on …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:14 PM
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I really hate that term. I feel like it’s dehumanizing to the women having casual sex. But also the men. Do they really want to think of themselves as a carousel horse. Now I’m picturing like a carousel of men with erect dicks. Which is actually kind of fun though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:06 PM
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I loved it. I thought it was great. It was so much fun and I learned so much about sex and what I like in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:03 PM
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Do you think women are honest about anything ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:03 PM
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Sold! That’s a real selling feature.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:02 PM
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To be fair most sex I’ve had has been much better than that. But every once in a while you get someone who does it porn style. And it’s not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:54 PM
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I think women who are attracted to men are attracted to men. Is that a hot take?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:49 PM
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Right. You can’t be exploring something. You can’t be coming to terms with your sexuality. You can’t be trying something. Maybe you just thought women look nice and soft and you wanted to kiss them. No it has to be because you’re trying to make a dick hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:48 PM
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Traditional porn: a lengthy forceful blow job, maybe the man will smash his hand against her clit like three times and grab her nipples a few times, some jackhammering, and cum shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:47 PM
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It’s a big problem. I think some of it might be like residual worry about STDs/HIV that society associates with homosexual men. Personally, my boyfriend is bisexual. And I think it’s fucking great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:44 PM
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Yes. As long as he had a good job and was reasonably intelligent. Which of course isn’t tied to college education.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:54 AM
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Geez that scale is brutal. But if you’re using that scale I guess these are about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:48 AM
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My thought is that society at large views sexual contact with men as corrupting. Women who have sex with men are whores. Men who have sex with men are f******. It’s really fucked up. There’s so much stigma around homosexual and bisexual men. I also think it could be as simple as lesbians make straight men’s dicks hard and gay men don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:42 AM
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Sorry these responses are so mean. For a place that talks so much about sex. People here are very judgmental. I think non binary people fall wherever they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:36 AM
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Do we call bi women lesbian leaning now? Seesh. I am a bisexual women who is very attracted to men. In my social circle a lot of us identify as bisexual and, while we primarily date men (it’s a lot easier, I do sympathize with men to the extent that dating women is much harder) we’ve mostly all had at least some same sex experiences. In general I think it’s because of socialization. More women are open to sand sex experience because (and i don’t really feel like more nuance is need here sadly) m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:33 AM
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A little bit at college parties. One of which was adorable and later resulted in marriage. But after, not much at all. Twice at bars I think and just asked to dance. And some catcalling but that’s different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:27 AM
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It always seems to come along with a bunch of other insults towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:22 AM
2

Literally some guys on here are like… 18 or bust.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:19 AM
2

If that’s your conclusion then bless your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:18 AM
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Just FYI. I know two men who manage groceries stores and both are making well into the $100,000 range with quite nice lifestyles. Nothing about your point. Just a surprisingly high paying job.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:08 AM
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You can be fat at 7. Not really an age thing. I know it is affected by age. But really it can be any age. Next reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:27 AM
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Cool. Did I say it was? And if the bar is that low. It’s because men put it there. So. I plan dates. I always offer to split dates. I cook dinner for them. I learn about them and their hobbies and try to compliment them and ask appropriate questions. I like to get gifts for my boyfriends. Lingerie. New sex things. And yes some level of physical prep: makeup, extra shaving and waxing, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:26 AM
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30? Some people on here claim it’s like 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:49 PM
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My sex drive is plenty high already.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:47 PM
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That was my take away too. Is there a Kayla now to go with Chad, and Stacey, and Becky?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:44 PM
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Yes and I believe I corrected this, and clarified elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:28 PM
2

Yes but the only reason he’s been able to point out why it’s worse is that it ends relationships. Or that it’s done maliciously. But I disagree with him on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:21 PM
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It was great. I discovered so much about what I like in men and so much about what I like in sex. It made me a better girlfriend. It made me a better sex partner. And it was a hell of a lot of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:13 PM
1

This is troll right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:12 PM
3

I don’t know you. But this all really just comes off as you not liking/respecting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:11 PM
3

The physical transmission of STDs from women to men is much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:10 PM
2

Disagree with this. And if the man thinks everything is fine that’s a problem in itself. And if it’s because the woman didn’t tell him that’s also a problem. But they still probably shouldn’t be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:09 PM
2

Except according to the sub Reddit women are only throwing themselves at a very small amount of men. So according to that that wouldn’t be the case most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:08 PM
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I guess maybe I just don’t understand why you see it as malice. They’re unhappy and unsatisfied in their relationships. I wouldn’t call that malice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:08 PM
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I literally have no problem with men being horny. I actually love how horny men are. It’s just not an excuse to be an asshole. Women are physically weaker than men. But that doesn’t make them children. Most women deeply try to avoid cry in public by the way. And corporal punishment should not be done on either gender of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:07 PM
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If you can’t be monogamous and in love. Then you need to be in a non monogamous relationship. ETA: It’s really not that revolutionary. Go to a sex club. Have a threesome if you’d rather do it together. Let your partner go on some dates. Let them get laid. IMO if both partners are secure in the primacy of their relationship, it can totally work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:06 PM
4

And to be clear. What do you think the intent of cheating women and cheating men is?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:42 PM
1

Yep. He replied elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:40 PM
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I don’t think the effort issue really matters. If you want to cheat you’ll make it happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:37 PM
4

Genuine question. Not being sassy. What makes a woman not a potential slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:36 PM
3

Then it sounds to me like this relationship needs to end.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:32 PM
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That’s like the only potentially good argument for why it’s worse for women to cheat that I’m seeing on this thread so far. And OP didn’t even include it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:31 PM
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Right so it’s basically the same. If you’re a man and you cheat and you get an STD from the woman you’re cheating with and then you give it to your wife. If you’re a woman and you cheat you get an STD from the man you’re cheating with and you might potentially give it to your husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:29 PM
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To be fair you used incredibly loaded language. If a potential slut can avoid becoming an actual slut her whole life why does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:26 PM
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If the man feels bad why is he doing it? You keep saying women cheat more bad relationships, which honestly sounds really understandable. She has malice because the relationship is bad. Versus men who are cheating in these “healthy” relationships. which I would argue aren’t very healthy if someone is cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:25 PM
2

Ding ding ding! What a great way to phrase it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:23 PM
7

Oh. Because of misogyny. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:22 PM
4

OK. But then why wouldn’t the woman with cheating potential just be average instead of automatically low value? ETA: Also I predictably don’t agree with slut shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:21 PM
2

Sorry. I was trying to add clarity to my comment. “I feel like OP’s argument was basically men are hornier so it’s not as bad if they cheat. Which really just makes men seem like animals. But I agree with your post men also are capable of thinking about what they’re doing at the consequences of it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:19 PM
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So you think cheating in a desperate last leg relationship is worse than stepping out on your partner for no apparent reason just because you can?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:18 PM
4

I’m assuming the man is HVM because if he has the ability to cheat that means he’s desirable. Why is a woman with cheating potential also not just desirable then?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:16 PM
4

Again. You’re conflating “worse” with “the relationship ending”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:12 PM
5

Define switch OK for not as bad as when women do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:10 PM
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I feel like you’re using “worse” and “more likely to end the relationship” interchangeably. I think most/some people are going to read it as morally worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:04 PM
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I feel like OP’s argument was basically men are hornier so it’s OK if they cheat. Which really just makes men seem like animals. But I agree with your post men also are capable of thinking about what they’re doing at the consequences of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:03 PM
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I disagree. I’m not angry though. For starters you really gloss over being tired of the man shit. Sometimes being tired of the man shit is very real and intense and serious. Does it mean he hasn’t had sex with you in a year? Does mean he’s abusive? Does it mean all he does is play video games? Does it mean he just uses you like a flashlight and doesn’t care about your pleasure? I don’t think the fact that men can cheat and then go back to their SO like nothing happened is a good thing. Also re t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:57 PM
2

Men are so horny. And I say that with a lot of love but you guys are so horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:45 PM
6

I think this is the real problem. How boys are socialized.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:44 PM
2

I looked back very unpleasant way on the times that I’ve been sexually assaulted. Most of them are when I was technically a child. And I don’t have like a tragic backstory with a creepy uncle or father or teacher. Just boys who grab my breasts in science class. Or old men who grabbed my ass on the subway. I’m not calling any of that rape to be clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:38 PM
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Right. Because if you are going to have casual sex then you need to have no standards and have casual sex with every man who puts his dick in your way. Otherwise you’re a choosy bitch participating in “hypergamy” or whatever they love to yell about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:36 PM
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I’m truly sorry that you’ve been sexually assaulted. That’s horrible. And I hope you saw therapy for it. I’m not trying to contradict your experiences but I don’t think the general attitude in response to being raped is “yeah I get raped sometimes, it’s fine.” I actually agree that men’s emotions are not taken seriously and that men are not encouraged to share them. And I do think that’s very bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:33 PM
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Right. They want to have tons of casual sex with women. But they don’t think women should have casual sex. So who are they having the casual sex with? Or they want like separate social classes of virgins and whores and you casually fuck the whores and then marry a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:31 PM
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I’m not going to comment on that. But shouldn’t you at least read it before responding?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:30 PM
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If I tell someone that I’m casually dating a lot of people and they don’t believe me. How am I leading them on? I gave them every opportunity to opt out. When my boyfriend and I decided to be exclusive I texted every other man I was dating and told them it was done. And they all said it was great getting to know you, thanks for letting me know, bye. ETA: also on the dating site I used I put that I was primarily looking for casual relationships. And that was true. I just fell in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:26 PM
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Maybe you should’ve read past the title. They list some other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:23 PM
5

Oh no. You said men have privilege. I hope you’re prepared for what’s about to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:19 PM
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So you think friendship is a burden?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 05:21 PM
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I think it’s going to be a little bit harder. But my experience is that looks matter quite a bit less there if you have skills. A good dom is so much about the energy that they bring.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:35 PM
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Good conversation skills. Eye contact. Little casual touching like handholding and putting his arm around you. And that extra special thing is that they listen to you and try to do a little special things to make you happy. Like if on your first date they say they like sushi, plan the next date for a sushi restaurant. It sounds obvious but some people don’t do it. Early on when I was dating my boyfriend he had this horrid one ply toilet paper that I said I didn’t like and I think I fell in love …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:31 PM
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Is trying to be charismatic changing your personality? I see it more as putting some of your effort into being more outgoing. And I didn’t mention peacocking or virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:25 PM
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One women (and men) are not a monolith. The real answer is probably that people are individual is and you can’t generalize like that. Men can opine on whatever they want and if you mean sexuality in terms of dating habits maybe a guy who is dated a lot of women would have an edge. But in terms of actually understanding of women sexuality. You want to ask the woman herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:23 PM
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I think it takes a few dates. I met my current boyfriend online dating while I was dating several people. And after about eight weeks of seeing each other once or twice a week we decided to go exclusive. If you’re being honest and upfront about what you’re doing I just don’t see how it hurts anyone. I told every single man I was dating but I was dating other people and they knew that and none of them had problems and if they did I hope they would not date me. They can choose not to opt in to wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:10 PM
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You had a point. Then you compared it to being a rapist. And you lost all your credibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:33 PM
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It’s fair point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:32 PM
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Right. It’s one thing to not know. It’s another thing to have it explained to you and still not believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:08 PM
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Exactly. I don’t get why people here don’t understand this. You’re dating maybe a few people while you find one that you like and then you go exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:57 PM
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We just woo them differently in a way that men apparently don’t see as effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:57 PM
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The amount of times I’ve heard of man talk about a woman wearing no make up or myself wearing no make up and that woman is wearing mascara, eyeliner, concealer, and foundation is insane. Hell some men think a full face contour is no make up. I’m not saying that women having to wear make up is a hardship or anything but I do get amused by men who are utterly unable to recognize make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:50 PM
1

That point about not being insecure is underrated. The worst thing about short men is when they’re insecure about being short.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:47 PM
1

Honestly. A good DM/GM is sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:42 PM
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Woo. Therapy! Yes. I know it’s not a financial or logistical possibility for everyone. But if it is. Everyone should do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:39 PM
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Work on becoming very charismatic. And try to find a group activity or hobby that’s very mixed gender. I’d probably get really into being sexually dominant and try my luck in the BDSM scene. It would probably be pretty hard. But I think I could still live a fulfilling life. ETA: Was married to a 5’6” on his license man (so realistically a little shorter). Divorced for very non height related reasons. I’m 5’8”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:17 PM
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I probably wouldn’t have gotten married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:06 PM
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You can’t possibly think that’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:05 PM
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Most men on here who say they have trouble getting laid also said they won’t have sex with overweight women. So I do think that if you lower your standards far enough you can get laid as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:28 PM
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Then most red pill people need to stop talking about women like a monolith. Nuance is a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:23 PM
1

There seems to be some different opinions here. I don’t necessarily disagree with you. I also don’t see anything wrong with hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:17 PM
1

Thank you. We’re doing pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:16 PM
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Or. Men on here won’t be content unless every single woman is married to Quasimodo. Average has to exist somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:15 PM
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Is there some reason it can’t be both?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:14 PM
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Of course. Love is not the end-all be-all. Love does not always make relationships work out. You can love someone and be wildly incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:13 PM
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Cool story. IMO not what love is. This is just a nicer version of when men say that the olden times were better because women were forced to be in relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:13 PM
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I’m not gonna agree or disagree with your point. But the fact that men can’t do it doesn’t mean that women have these weird ulterior motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:11 PM
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I’ll take the optimism of believing in love over whatever the other pills are offering.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:11 PM
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I hope they mean they don’t believe in romantic love. Which is still incomprehensible to me. But I’ve seen men who hate women so much that they hate their own mothers and sisters.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:10 PM
2

Believe it or not. Societal beauty standards aren’t entirely based on what makes men’s dicks hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:09 PM
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A more innocent/less experienced man can be introduced to all kinds of fun hedonistic debauchery by a more experience woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:02 PM
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When did you first feel attracted to people or get a crush? Kindergarten. When did you have your first romantic experience or relationship? Freshman year of high school I had my first boyfriend. But nothing physical. When did you encounter pornography? Erotica? Probably 11. Videos? 13ish. When did you lose your virginity? 24 on my honeymoon in Mexico. When did you enter your first LTR, lasting at least a year? 17. Sophomore year of college. With the aforementioned person from the Mexican honeymo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:57 PM
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I am woman. No attention in real life. Wonderful boyfriend off dating site.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:19 PM
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SWERF? Never heard it. Sex worker exclusionary radical feminist? A play on TERF?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:02 PM
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Let the woman show you. Let her lead you into the debauchery.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:17 AM
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The difference is consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:11 AM
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Cool. “Modern Western Society” isn’t just men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:34 AM
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Lol. Of course. I’m so fat I eat people. Yup. That’s how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:32 AM
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100% true. I am madly in love with my boyfriend. And I was in love with my ex spouse. I still love them to this day. It just didn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:54 PM
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I have spent most of my adult life in two long-term relationships. Both average looking men. And if all the people on here who claim that they don’t believe in love or it’s just a transactional exchange or telling the truth. I actually think it is that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:53 PM
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RIP me. But really I almost think a bigger issue as far as standards right now is probably the airbrushing and retouching and the skin standards. Like according to the media women aren’t supposed to have pores.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:31 PM
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But you do. Men on the sub Reddit are constantly complaining about feeling like no one is looking to their emotional needs. And I agree that the emotional needs of men are overlooked. Wouldn’t emotional bonding then be preferred?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:26 PM
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There’s no way I can convince you that love is real. And I know I sound like some naive fairytale bitch. But my life has been far from a fairytale. And full of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:23 PM
2

This is a good analogy. When I was under aged I drank whipped cream flavored vodka. Now the mere scent of it would make me nauseous. When I was a teenager I used to think it was flirting with men were mean to me. And now I know those guys were assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:17 PM
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It’s kind of funny because this is exactly the opposite of what it means to be “dominant” and “submissive” in BDSM.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 08:05 PM
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It’s honestly tragic. I’m heartbroken for all the people on here who don’t believe in love or think it’s this horrid transactional exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:43 PM
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I know this is a really hot take here. But I actually believe in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:29 PM
2

Reminds me of high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:55 PM
5

I don’t disagree. But it is an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:43 PM
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Important to note that the Pink line was also specifically marketed towards younger women and was really popular when I was in like high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:41 PM
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Of course not. I just think they’re both fair standards to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:07 PM
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We all compromise it’s a part of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:57 PM
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But I also think it’s totally fair to say that men who won’t go down on you aren’t LTR material. It’s a two-way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:55 PM
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Do you remember when Dominos pizza totally change their pizza because everyone hated it? And no one called them out for catering to the people they were trying to sell pizza to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:53 PM
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I think it’s really funny how a lot of people are mad that Victoria’s Secret is “taking a Socio political stance”. They’re just trying to make money. It’s kind of a blatant cash grab to save their company.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:51 PM
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I feel like you said this to be controversial but that’s a perfectly fine take.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:48 PM
9

You could always use a dental dam.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:48 PM
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Even if they don’t love it, they’re normally willing to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:46 PM
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You know the semen doesn’t stay there indefinitely right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:25 PM
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I think it depends on the definition of a hook up. On dating apps sometimes you’ll get pressured to just meet up with a man at like his apartment for sex. And most women are definitely not gonna be into that. It’s dangerous quite frankly. But if you count a hook up as any sex that occurs on the first one to three dates outside of the context of an exclusive relationship. Then you’re probably gonna have more women doing that. So it depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:52 PM
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I think it’s subjective. Because you can just meet up solely for sex or you can have sex the first time you meet. And I am unclear on what side some people in this thread are taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:48 PM
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Do you think it’s a hook up if you get dinner/drinks first?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:47 PM
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Don’t have an axe to grind. Just a little bit bored right now. Lol. We’re talking about having sex with children not sexual thirst. ETA: but generally I have no problems with the sexual thirst of man. Big fan. ETA2: Wikipedia didn’t really lie to you. There are a number of states where the age of consent is 16. But there are often things like it’s 16 but if you’re more than X years older it’s a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:44 PM
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Did you get dinner or drinks with them before you fucked them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:42 PM
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But you still count that as a hook up? Dinner versus drinks doesn’t really matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:39 PM
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Serious question. I’m very confused on what the definition of hook up is. If she has sex with you on the second date is that a hook up?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:35 PM
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Is that a hook up though? If you go to dinner and hit it off and then fuck, is that a hook up? Or is it only a hook up if you just meet for the explicit purpose of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:34 PM
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But you so boldly claimed that you were correct that it was over half of the states. Do you disagree? Do you just not want to do the work to prove yourself correct? I don’t have a lot of faith in the legal process. So I think it would be better to change societal opinions than try to change every arcane laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:32 PM
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Oh. I’ve been living my life thinking I had a lot of hook ups. But I’m sure that definition none of them were hook ups. Yeah. Most women don’t do that. Honestly that’s dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:28 PM
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OK I reviewed the laws on this briefly. So I might be wrong here. But I see five states that would fit your definition. Which is not even close to half of 50. ETA: CO, MO, NM, RI, SC.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:27 PM
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I don’t believe you. But I’m looking into it now. And I’ll get back to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:16 PM
1

Which state has an absolute age of consent of 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:14 PM
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I think that make up is expected in a lot of industries in situations for a women to seem professional. I mean I can’t pinpoint exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:11 PM
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I don’t think it’s a hot take to say that there’s a difference between what is moral and shows good values and what is legal. Also the age of consent normally conflicts with statutory rape laws. So even if the age of consent is 16 that doesn’t mean you can legally have sex with a 16-year-old if you’re over 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:10 PM
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When I said she was mocked I was saying the same thing more tactfully. Because I don’t like calling humans repulsive or blobs. But. Yes. That. But I would argue then that she has very little to do with the beauty standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:08 PM
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I have some questions about what a hook up is. Is it a hook up if you have dinner first and hit it off then fuck? Or just a few explicitly meeting up for sex? Because I do think most women aren’t going to hook up before meeting and dinner at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:06 PM
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Oh man. I love it when people say fiat. Also all these points are quite good.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:26 PM
3

Advertising is a huge part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:16 PM
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Imagine thinking you could tell what’s going on in someone’s marriage by observing them in public. I don’t know why people on the sub Reddit refuse to believe this concept. If you’re young and you want casual sex, which not all women or men do. You have it. And then you realize that you want someone to spend your life for a period of time with. So you prioritize that more which might affect you being with different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:07 PM
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The first two things you listed are irrelevant to this conversation. And I’ve certainly failed on the third. But judging by this sub Reddit let me name a few more physical standards that a lot of men seem to have: long hair, good teeth, nice face, lots of opinions on body shape, tattoos or lack of, piercing or lack of, etc. I don’t think you’re wrong. I just think you’re simplifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:58 PM
3

Do you realize how it sounds like you’re describing all standards for women as attainable and all standards for men as unfair?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:53 PM
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That’s fair I guess. You just didn’t mention any of those. And re Tess Holliday. I feel like the consensus on her is that she manages to be somewhat attractive despite her weight. But I think more often she is just mocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:51 PM
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People on this subs seem to be convinced that any woman can basically quit her job and be supported by an army of “beta orbiters”. Which has not been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:49 PM
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Why do you think that the only beauty standard is weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:46 PM
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I work in a conservative industry in a big city. And I can’t imagine getting a job if I wasn’t shaved legs, full face of make up, heels, did my hair, and wore a skirt suit to the interview. Maybe a pants suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:45 PM
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Unfair and unrealistic are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:43 PM
3

Do you think the only possible standard is weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:37 PM
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The biggest ones I can think of off the top of my head are the hair removal and the pore-less look so popular because of filters and airbrushing. Also weight and body shape. I know body positivity is a dirty word here. And yes weight is controllable. Although I do think that when I grew up there was a level of thinness that was not attainable for a lot of women. Also, there’s some body shapes that you just can’t change. And I don’t mean weight. I mean like the size of your breasts and the way yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:34 PM
3

Personally. I really enjoy sex. It’s also a great form of bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:16 AM
1

To be clear I think men are allowed to want a woman who hasn’t had sex. But the term virgin is incredibly loaded with a bunch of stuff that I don’t think applies anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:12 AM
1

Dude. Virgin is one thing. But you took it to 15. That’s a child. I don’t care what’s legal in Portugal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:08 AM
1

🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:05 AM
1

Generally PIV. But it’s an outdated concept that shouldn’t really have a place in the modern world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:48 AM
14

How are all these women supposed to have sex with men on the second date and still only have had sex with less than five people?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:30 AM
3

I’ll bite. What’s the danger zone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:28 AM
8

I mean yes. If there’s no expectation of exclusivity then it wouldn’t be cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:40 PM
1

Fair. It may have been a very American reaction to something that is a very loaded phrase here. Apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:47 PM
2

My self-esteem is actually doing pretty good. I am in a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:01 PM
1

That seems like a distinction without a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:01 PM
2

This is a actually a super good point. The person with the phone is not the only person who’s privacy could be compromised. There are things that are said in confidence between friends that sometimes you don’t share with your SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:00 PM
3

Did you literally just “separate but equal” relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:17 AM
1

Yes. I was. 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:19 AM
1

Online. I guess. In real life. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:19 AM
0

Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:18 AM
1

No. But I probably wouldn’t stay home either. Having more money is always good. And a dual situation just seems better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:16 PM
1

I am average looking but fat. Reddit is the only social media I post on. So not a ton of online validation going on. But I’m not looking for it really. Almost 0 attention in real life. But again I don’t frequent bars or places that are good for meeting people. Some cat calling on the street. I do okay in sex clubs. I went through an intensive period of online dating about three years ago. And I did do fairly well there. I went on a lot of dates. Some of which were good some of which were very ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:02 PM
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I am average looking but fat. Reddit is the only social media I post on. So not a ton of online validation going on. But I’m not looking for it really. Almost 0 attention in real life. But again I don’t frequent bars or places that are good for meeting people. Some cat calling on the street. I do okay in sex clubs. I went through an intensive period of online dating about three years ago. And I did do fairly well there. I went on a lot of dates. Some of which were good some of which were very ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:01 PM
0

This is actually a pretty common concept. It’s like people reclaiming the word slut. Or the word queer. Or the fact that Black people can say the N-word but white people can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:55 PM
0

It’s a derogatory term for trans women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:50 PM
1

I had a long decline in my marriage and went directly into dating afterwards. But we had both been checked out for at least eight months. My ex also immediately started dating after the separation. So I guess technically I dated before my divorce went through and less than a month after my physical separation. If that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:46 PM
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Oh my. Wow. Most of these responses are disgusting. Let’s try respecting trans people. I haven’t experienced the thing you’re describing so I don’t really have a counterpoint. As a woman I am certainly not offended by what you described.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:44 PM
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Nah. Sex is awesome for the most part. Sure. Sometimes it’s not great. But most of the time it’s good. And sometimes it’s HOLYFUCKOMG good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:37 PM
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Honestly. TBH. I wouldn’t date you based on just this paragraph. I’m not trying to be mean but just honest. Using the word “trap”. Also like maybe have some standards. It’s great you’re open to more average women, but do you have to make it sound so sad? Again. Not trying to bully you, just saying maybe it could be a personality thing. Because yes, what you described physically sounds pretty nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 12:36 PM
5

That was me! Lol. I was the woman he was talking to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:46 PM
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I prefer that my partner not be a virgin. But it’s not a dealbreaker. My current partner was a virgin when we started dating. And the upper limit. When guys start to talk about numbers over 100 I get a little sketched out. But also not a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:43 PM
0

Yup. I used to work for divorce lawyers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 09:28 PM
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People ignore this. Just because you file doesn’t mean you initiate. I know women who’s husband left them, so yeah, they filed. But I would say they didn’t initiate. In my divorce we mutually decided that I would file. It’s not cut and dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:28 PM
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Imagine saying AWALT/AMALT without irony. But. Sometimes you can sign a “pre nup” after you’re married. It’s just called a nuptial agreement then. And (screams into the void) not all woman “divorce rape” their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:18 PM
3

When you can swing this, seems really nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:01 PM
1

I also thought the question about the percentages of male anger/addiction was silly. And according to this sub all women can get laid and in relationships anytime they want. I think you just don’t like women and you wanted validation on that take.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:00 PM
1

These percentage questions are very silly. Because they are so subjective. How do you quantify affects her relationships with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:47 PM
3

Sure. But only if sleeping around is also a problem for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:22 PM
1

I mean sure. But that’s not how if works sadly. If takes time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:26 PM
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No. They are MTF trans. Who came out after 7 years together and 2 after we got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:06 PM
3

Thinking of animated porn as more ethical is interesting. Never thought of it that way. I’d be way more off put by a guy who watched hentai then a guy who watched regular porn. Something about it just skeeves me. But you gave me something to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:47 PM
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Mmhmm. I had just gotten divorced and was looking for casual things. Which is pretty easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:02 PM
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I’m not ashamed at all. No reason not to be honest. I think I’ve had sex with maybe 9-10 men. My ex spouse. Current boyfriend. MFM threesome with current boyfriend. And those 6 men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:10 PM
1

I don’t think I’ve ever made anyone simp. Lol. That I know of.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:06 PM
1

Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:59 PM
2

Quite possible. My circle does skew distinctly nerdy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:51 PM
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I mean. There are certainly other hobbies I don’t do but would be interested in. My boyfriend had made and plays a modular synth which I think is really cool. But his coding. Not so much. I’m just not sure it’s fair to make this broad sweeping judgements and assumptions. It’s probably incredibly case by case.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:50 PM
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I just wouldn’t have married her if I knew sex was going to be that bad. I’ve thought about this. And in hindsight you can try to connect dots and find clues. But no. Not really. Everyone was shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:48 PM
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That’s a hot take. My divorce was one of the best things that happened to me. And my ex. We’re both so much happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:40 PM
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I thought I was bi and they were a straight man. Turns out she was also a bi woman. We dated for 5 years and married for 2 with her as a straight man (as far as anyone knew). I had no clue she was trans. But I knew the sex was BAD. Even as a virgin I could tell something was off. And I spend 2 years begging her for sex and not knowing why I was being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:39 PM
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Hm. Maybe it’s just preference. I would have 0 interest in cars or biking. I would be polite. And if it was a partner I would try harder. But. God. Those sound boring. So maybe it’s just person to person?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:33 PM
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I mean. It’s in the past. It’s fine. But it was certainly a contributing factor to my divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:32 PM
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Me and my ex-spouse were wildly sexually incompatible. It was a huge issue in our relationship. Not the only one. But a big one. Yes you can talk about it before the wedding. But sometimes when you try to put into into practice, you realize it’s just not gonna work. We both tried to change. But it wasn’t enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:30 PM
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You can hold out for whatever you want. But if your super restrictive, you shouldn’t complain when you have trouble finding someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:20 PM
3

Most hobbies aren’t interesting to people who don’t share your hobby. Also. You just called it a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:18 PM
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And it was 100% a mistake that I regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:17 PM
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Movie watching can absolutely be a hobby if you learn about it. I think actually a very interesting one. I didn’t mythic raid in WoW to get men. Lol. But okay. I guess I see your point. But I do think it’s a hobby. Maybe just not a super productive one. But I don’t think hobbies have to be productive. Plus if you start to earn money it’s not really a hobby anymore, it’s a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:13 PM
2

I agree. But it seems some people think it’s too passive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:08 PM
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Agree to disagree. I think video games are much more interactive and even social.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:08 PM
1

Yes. I’d say 6 of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:07 PM
2

Hm. Agree to disagree. I think it can be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:36 PM
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Of course it’s rape. That’s like saying it wasn’t rape if the woman was wet. But I find it’s mostly men who say it’s not rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:26 PM
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Nah. It’s still dumb. And I waited for marriage for religious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:22 PM
1

Hm. Maybe that’s it. I don’t use any social media. Except Reddit I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:52 AM
1

I didn’t see them all every week. But yes, it was a point in my life where I enjoyed going out 4 times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:50 AM
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I’ve be de understood this criticism. I think it really just boils down to that men don’t think the things women do are hobbies. And women think men’s hobbies are boring. So we all just need to be a bit more open. Personally I DM a D&D campaign, play video games, have a lot of plants, enjoy board games, crosswords, cooking, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:46 AM
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So you don’t think video games are hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:36 AM
3

Right. Exclusivity is not the assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:41 AM
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How do I find the orbiters? Genuinely. I don’t think I have any.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:28 AM
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Yes. It’s overblown for average women. Yes. For about two months I casually dated like 8 men. They all knew I was seeing other people and were free to see other people as well. During the aforementioned period one of the men was my current boyfriend. We hit it off the most, agreed to be exclusive, and have been since. I didn’t think if it as a competition. But I certainly dated men who were dating around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:27 AM
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Community college should be free. At least.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:09 AM
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That’s what I’m wondering… I feel like here it just means dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:48 PM
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You’re not wrong in your comparison. I feel like so many things on this sub just add up to shitty people being shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:39 PM
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I think the original post is bullshit. No ones perfect. Everyone has flaws and problems. I don’t see how watching porn means you have no integrity. I don’t subscribe to the “value” system. Men are individual humans and some will suck. That’s just life. So this list just reads as a woman complaining she having trouble dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:37 PM
2

I see your point. I guess we could have had a theoretical conversation about sex. I just think there’s something slightly different about actually having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:29 PM
2

Then I will not attempt to convince you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:22 PM
5

Yes. But when I was a teenage girl. I knew a great deal of them. I don’t think the fact that teenage girls are very dramatic is a hot take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:21 PM
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Imagine thinking a teenage girl is less bullshit to deal with. I’ve been a teenage girl. They are the queens of drama and bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:18 PM
2

I feel a lot better about 20 then 18. But maybe a 25 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:13 PM
2

There were discussions. There’s just some things virgins don’t and can’t know. We were both so innocent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:06 PM
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Because at 23, you an hardly claim “the wall” or a higher partner count is the reason he needs an 18 year old. 23 year old women (god help me) aren’t normally considered old. So why would he go down to a high schooler if he didn’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:58 PM
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I disagree. But I know that will get me nowhere here. But I don’t think women really peak at 20. Sure. Some do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:18 PM
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I think even for the really hardcore there are some pre-wall women in their mid twenties. Those might be a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:16 PM
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Hey. I actually didn’t downvote you. And yes. That is the bottom line. They are legal adults and can do what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:14 PM
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That’s the main thing I don’t get. Why would anyone want to date a teenager if they aren’t a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:09 PM
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You also did not provide any legitimate reason. I think we’re on equal footing here. This stuff is very subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:56 PM
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Sugar relationships are just another form of sex work and I respect sex workers and people who visit them. So I guess they’re not losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:55 PM
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Well. That ideally wouldn’t be a normal college experience. And she can. I just think there should be a level of caution of his motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:50 PM
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I have nothing against consensual sugar relationships. It’s not love, but it sure is transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:49 PM
4

Is that the goal of life? Then yes, winners for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:46 PM
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An 18 year old (in America, for the most part): can’t legally drink, may not have had a job, still lives with their parents, etc. The 23 year old could in a totally different life phase. Of course there are exceptions. To be clear, I don’t think no 23 year olds should date 18 year olds. I think generally it’s not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:46 PM
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People at frat parties can for sure be predatory. I guess there’s an argument they are inherently predatory, but I don’t think that. But yes, five years when you’re under 20 is a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:41 PM
4

I didn’t consider lying. Interesting. But that almost seems like a separate issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:39 PM
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We’re both just spouting opinions. ETA: Sorry I called you angry. I guess I don’t know. And I did almost immediately edit my comment cause I realized I should have said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:38 PM
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I happen to the that a common base helps a relationship. I really didn’t think that was a hot take. But apparently it is. I also think happiness in a relationship is a decent goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:37 PM
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I think there’s more to college than sex but if you don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:35 PM
5

If it’s a bad argument. Why wouldn’t you present a counter argument instead of just calling it shitty? I’m open to argument here. I have beliefs that are set in stone, but this isn’t one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:30 PM
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It actually is a little terrible. She should be having developmental appropriate experiences. The horror! But really. It’s not necessary bad. It’s just a caution area.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:26 PM
2

Sure. But. 40 and 18 is still a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:13 PM
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No. It’s not assault. But if you tell them their ass looks good. Follow them a block and call them a bitch. Then it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:21 PM
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I’m not sure. But I know my male partner had a lot more trouble online dating women when he was more upfront about it. I think there’s an assumption that bi men are gay. Which is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:19 PM
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Less gender roles. More sensitivity. Better sexual options. You can objectify people together. Lol. I’m also bi. And it’s amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:15 PM
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I don’t think I need to justify this to you. But. We were both very submissive was the main issue. My sex drive was MUCH higher. We both tried to change. It wasn’t happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:06 PM
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18 and 23 is not that big of a gap. Except that a 18 year old is still in college and a 23 year old could be done with college. Hm. I think I changed my mind actually. That’s a bit gap. The thing is that age gap at 40 is nothing. But at 18… it’s not great. It can be fine. But it’s immediately suspect. And I would probably assume that man couldn’t find women his age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:05 PM
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Right? What do a 55 year old and a 18 year old have in common? Nothing. It’s all about the older partner wanted to mold the younger one. And what is attractive in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:02 PM
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Oh boy. This is gonna be depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:59 PM
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We were wildly sexually incompatible. I mean. I only did what you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:56 PM
12

Not all bi men are effeminate. And I’m gonna second. I love my bi boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:56 PM
9

Properly used cologne is a plus. Just don’t go too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:23 PM
6

Terrible or gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:17 PM
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The dry skin (and LIPS) on some men is terrible. Like moisturizing isn’t gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:13 PM
3

It only really matters if it’s really bad or really good. Really bad is bad. You look sloppy and like you don’t care. Especially on dates where I dressed up, did my hair, and put on make up. But really the bare minimum is just wear clothes that fit and aren’t dirty. If you own some good jeans, t-shirts, and a few button downs, you’re mostly coveted. I’m
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:11 PM
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A good t-shirt and well fitting jeans is a good look for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:03 PM
1

Two thirds of UK women' harassed https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-35753198.amp We can all find news articles!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:35 PM
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I agree. I think it’s pretty wild that all these (mostly men) seems to think men are more affected by this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:33 PM
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I was addressing: “And then in the next post they're complaining about sexual messages they receive from guys or dick pics. I've been tempted to ask them, what type of attention did they expect after posting themselves twerking in a thong in their bedroom? Lol.” You seems to think these things were the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:18 PM
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I think more exposed pictures on a dating site are fine. But it shouldn’t be the first picture. And I perceive mirror selfies of either sex as abhorrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:02 PM
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Right. Anything unsolicited is not okay. Which is the difference between a Snapchat story and a dick pic. ETA: Genuinely. Why is this being down voted? Do people not see the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:59 PM
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Depending on how they ask it. It’s a big sign on how they view women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:47 PM
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Women should do whatever they want. Including have hook ups. You clearly find then unsatisfying. That’s fine. Honestly with OLD there’s very little reputation issue as you can totally separate it from your social life. STDs can be prevented with dedication condoms use, but yes, it’s a risk. Sometimes it’s a bad experience, but sometimes it’s not. And yes, you can orgasm. Although IMO you can have fulfilling sex without an orgasm. Is this a religious hang up?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:45 PM
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You chose to receive her Snapchats. Not the same as unsolicited dick pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:39 PM
1

Probably! But that’s a few years away. And I’m working on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:35 PM
1

I would describe it as a kind of intensity that the sexual guys have.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:40 AM
1

I don’t agree. I think by and large women don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:38 AM
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I cannot strongly enough encourage people not to wait until marriage. I did. And jumped immediately into a dead bedroom of sexual compatibility. And sexual compatibility is so important. I’m not even advocating hook ups. But if you are going to get married. Please please have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:37 AM
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I think probably no. But of course it’s underreported and underplayed when men are. But there’s a lot of men in the thread who are like “I have been assaulted/harassed a few times.” If you count the low level stuff, it’s got to be more women getting harassed. It’s much more constant for women. I’ve had men follow me and call me a bitch for not talking to them on the street. Groped in a crowded subway car. Groped by a classmate in class. Those are just three, there’s countless more. And I think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:08 AM
0

It’s the honest truth. I have a very poor concept of size. They’ve all been big enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:16 AM
2

Actually. That’s not me. But. I mod a sub of a porn star. That’s her. I have posted lewds though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:14 AM
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No clue. Honest truth. No idea. I have no concept of the penis size of any of the men I’ve had sex with. I’m not saying size queens don’t exists. But they’re not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:08 AM
1

Right on. Just clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:55 PM
4

I don’t think women fixate on dick size the way you think we fixate on dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:53 PM
0

Are you quite young? I’m 28 and I don’t even want to talk to a guy in his early twenties. A 20-22 year old (especially one in college) just seems so young.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:43 PM
2

It depends on the guy. Some have a more sexual energy. Some are more romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:13 PM
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It depends, mostly on if it’s a hook up or a LTR. Hook ups, yes. I’ll talk about them in some details. My LTR, I’ll really only talk about if I’m having a problem, or we tried something really new and exciting. Also depends on the friend, clearly this would be closer friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:11 PM
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Cool. Different experiences. Maybe in my area the BDSM scene skews older. FYI, when I meant dom I meant like… safe words and negotiations not like… he’s a little rough. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:02 PM
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Cool. I’m not a gambler and I stand by my statement. -American female who paid off all her student loans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:59 PM
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In my experience, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:13 PM
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It might be because the sexiest thing to me is an experienced dom. And those do tend to be older.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:09 PM
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Oh yeah. I’m not delusional. I’m working on it. Just living my life in the meantime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:08 PM
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IMO, they are also, more often than not, better at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:35 PM
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To be attractive. To most people that’s the main purpose of women. Maybe reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:31 PM
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I for one genuinely wish men would try to show off the bulge more. I think camel toe is still generally frowned upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:29 PM
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Yes. I had just gotten out of my unhappy sexless marriage (that I was a virgin going into, and yes, I was the one demanding and being denied sex). I didn’t have a large friend circle. So I went on OkCupid. But I eventually met my boyfriend and we decided to go exclusive. Also. Fairly large city.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:11 PM
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Hm. I’m not ashamed of the number. I just didn’t count. Let me think. 8 men, including my current boyfriend, and 1 woman. ETA: looking back at my calendar probably closer to three months.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:08 PM
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An unattractive unsuccessful woman is a nothing in society. You failed at your main purpose and will just be ignored. An unattractive unsuccessful man will be very looked down on, maybe thought of as a threat, etc. So the woman is more invisible. But it’s probably worse to be the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:02 PM
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But no one said two weeks. It seems to be averaging more at like 8 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:00 PM
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Awesome. I really don’t want kids. Finally a plus for being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:56 PM
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Hm. I think the women are more invisible but the men are less respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:54 PM
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