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MOOD FOR LIFEciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:21 AM
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Story time ☕ciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:11 PM
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STRATEGYciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:12 PM
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How-To High Valueciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:35 AM
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How-To High Valueciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:34 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:05 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:00 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:41 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:53 PM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:53 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:49 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:13 AM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:19 AM
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REMINDER 👑ciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:21 PM
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DISCUSSIONciellavi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:47 AM
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I wrote a response but u/pascalines below said it much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:39 PM
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Yep, agreed. The concept of giving your girlfriend kids is screwed up and totally emblematic of Bay Area techie culture, but the sentiment of calling out the LVM is still good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:35 PM
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"Righteous resentment is poor compensation. Just go." Truer words have never been spoken! What an FDS statement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:31 AM
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Cool, thank you! What an interesting way to think about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:28 AM
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What is the difference between conditional and transactional love?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:54 PM
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I’m curious - the idea that men love conditionally so we should too sounds depressing! Is conditional love still worth having?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:53 PM
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Yeah. I wondered about that too. Not in touch with them anymore so we can only imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:01 PM
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Exactly what you said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:00 PM
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Sorry to hear about the ex, but lmao the cake throwing is funny. Hope that released some negative emotions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:23 PM
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You dropped your 👑 ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:40 AM
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Oh jeez. Glad you’re growing, girl! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:39 AM
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Sex can seriously, absolutely be amazing. Please don't sell yourself short by letting these slobs have access to your lovely body!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:19 AM
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Oh my gosh, thank you so much for all these considerations. Saved your comment to look at whenever I travel in the future. That travel agent sucks, I'm glad you stayed safe. I perhaps feel more protected than I should because my parents are totally in the loop about everything and I am completely financially independent of him and can hop on a plane back home any minute. But yeah your comment really helped me realize that even though I have travelled a LOT, I have not planned any trips of this m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:19 AM
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Thanks for sharing your view! Love it. I love travelling as well and those once-in-a-lifetime experiences are amazing. Congrats on the success you've been able to achieve :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:15 AM
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What did the deleted user originally say? I missed the comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:23 AM
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Ooh, thank you for this story. Goes to show that seeing someone under pressure is really important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:22 AM
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Thank you so much for the advice! And really great questions to think about. Let me get my own thoughts straight — - after reading so many ladies' advice, I'm totally going to shorten the trip. - we've done weekend trips, we love hiking so have gone on several lovely weekend getaways in a tent, socially distanced from others. Initially, these were with some of our respective roommates. Later, it was just us two. - everyone is right, it is too early to do a long trip. I don't actually know him we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:19 AM
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Thank you! Totally. We'll need to see what his approach is here. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:09 AM
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Haha, everyone has assumed an international vacation but we were talking about within the US — Florida, Hawaii, Alaska, etc... post-pandemic. Thank you so much for putting thought into this. Much love to you. It's true that in a vacation, one's goal should definitely not be to save money. Safety and comfort trump all else, followed by happiness! We live in a very high cost of living area which is why my thought above is even remotely possible. If we go to any less expensive state where I can hik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:25 AM
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Thanks for your perspective! Great food for thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:30 AM
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Oh wow thank you, this is a super good point. You're actually totally right. Cheers to wise financial decisions!! So the one thing here is, if the vacation is within my current cost of living — whatever I pay is less than what I currently pay — then I think it's justifiable. You made an absolutely great point about unnecessary expenses. I'll think more about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:27 AM
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Mmm great points thank you! Very insightful. Could you explain more what you mean by "if he's looking for cheaper places, who's keeping the spare money"? Yeah 1-3 months is a long time — I'm considering doing a shorter trip now if we are to travel. I definitely have complete financial freedom to buy a plane ticket back to my parents if I ever want to leave. There's no way I'm putting myself in a situation without an escape route. You're right about focusing on studies! Thank you! I'm a senior an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:24 AM
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Thank you for these questions! This is great stuff to think about. Love it. If he didn't exist but my best friend was around, I would totally want to do this with her. But if it's by myself, it would be less exciting haha. I think I will be better off. Mainly because I loooove travelling and living like a local in different places, but also because for better or worse, I can learn more about what he might be like if we live together in the long term! It's an interesting question why he wants to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:19 AM
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Thank you so much for these amazing questions! I'm excited about travelling with him because it sounds super fun and he's one of my favorite people! He's planning the trip while asking me questions like "what would your dream vacation be like?" and prioritizing where I want to go and what I want to do. On the vacation, if he behaves just the same as normal, I'm sure we'll have a blast. Work abroad sounds like a fair characterization, haha. Luckily we both enjoy our work, and this is a cool oppor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:11 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear about that terrible ex! What a horrible excuse of a human being. Thank you so much for sharing your warning story. I hope you meet the best of men in the future and never have to deal with anything like that ever again. We've been together 4 months, met at school. He pays for our dates, meals, and activities, as well as doing all the cooking, cleaning, helping me move into my new place, and making sure I'm happy. He is definitely high effort right now. But we've all heard th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:00 AM
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Thanks! :) He pays for our dates, meals, activities etc normally. And I believe he wants us to both pay at most what we already pay for housing. So if I currently pay $500 and he pays $1000 (imaginary numbers of course), then if we get a $1500 place I would pay $500. He said upfront that he can't afford to keep both his current apartment and rent a vacation place, so he's going to sublet his apartment. To me, it all does sound like he just wants to give us the best possible experience, within ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:08 AM
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Haha yeahhhh, my ex would do exactly that, and he was also a gamer. 🤡Thank you so much for the kind words queen :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:20 AM
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Aww, so sweet :) glad to hear FDS has been working for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:14 AM
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Aww queen that's so kind of you 💞thank you! My hope is that we can all find good men who make us the happiest we've ever been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:00 AM
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You're so right. When I think back, I'm like, why the hell did I ever put up with that, or that, or that, or that... I guess that's what they call growth 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:12 PM
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Totally agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:41 PM
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Hugs ❤️sometimes a princess deals with some frogs before she finds a prince! I believe in you girl! Just keep on being your best self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:41 PM
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You killed me with that line “his arms were growing out of his ass”. Holy hell what a description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:43 PM
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Wow, what a story. I'm so excited for your future — all your wisdom, energy, time, and money can go to people much more deserving of them, first of whom will be yourself! The birthday story made me die inside, by the way. When expecting a gift or card from a person you've known in whatever capacity for 5 YEARS is expecting too much. x_x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:24 PM
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You don't have to put up with being unhappy! I think this was the most important insight that helped me level up. I used to think that being unhappy was something I had to work on — like, there is something wrong with me for not being happy in my current situation. Luckily, through the help of FDS, I realized that if I am unhappy, most likely there is something wrong with the situation. Not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:02 PM
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Love to hear it! Take yourself out on the best adventures <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 07:36 AM
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My boyfriend took me golfing and mini golfing. At the driving range, the groups were spaced apart pretty well. If you’re in a golf course I can imagine it being even more socially distanced!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:32 AM
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Early stages for sure. The vetting never stops :) The age gap definitely makes me more cautious. The fact that we're both students at the same uni makes it more understandable I think, but we've all seen the horror stories and they make me very very careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:27 AM
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Totally. Thanks for the reminder! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:16 PM
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Absolutely. I realized just how gross and dangerous men can be. I don’t have a lot of dating experience but even I had an ex who was super into bdsm. Thankfully he was still very respectful of taking things slow, so I never had to indulge his kinks before I ended the relationship (this was before I knew about FDS and thought kinks and bdsm were acceptable). Surprise surprise he also lamented that he couldn’t emotionally connect with anyone (but thought I was different~~~ lmao) I don’t actively l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:13 PM
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