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Question For Mencinnamongrapefruit/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 10:59 PM
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My question exactly. How are the women wrong if they are “strong figures”? Why not blame the father for abandonment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:06 PM
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No. Feminism actually helped. It gave women more freedom to approach men and to be out in the open. The real reason dating is ruined is because of the internet and more specifically social media. Because of social media everyone has unrealistic expectations for everything in their life including romantic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:22 AM
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“Not everyone is evil” Is correct. But the issue is that too many people in the world are evil which is why we must keep our guards up and protect ourselves from getting hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:58 AM
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Glad you’re being honest because it’s the hard cold truth
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:56 AM
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I am literally an autistic woman so no. This is not true. I lie whenever I feel like it’s needed. Everyone tells a few harmless white lies here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:55 AM
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You’re being really dense. Women don’t covet sex in the same way that men do. Women won’t go to the same lengths to lie about themselves just to get favors and then ghost when it’s time to actually be a friend/emotional supportive. This is way more common in men and actually even scarier because there are men who won’t even become any woman’s friend unless he sees her as a possibility for sexual conquests. It’s way more common for women to become a man’s friend without anything being expected of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:54 AM
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Right? They act like we could just read minds. Like no babe I’m not going to just trust you. Sure you might be a decent guy but yes you’re going to have to jump through hoops just like the rest of them. Unfortunately there are so many men who are great at pretending to be nice until they get what they want and then a switch flips.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 07:42 PM
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This is exactly what my father taught me and yes it is correct. Never underestimate the lengths a man will go through just to have sex. It’s very true and I’m tired of us being gaslit about it. Even if they don’t lie blatantly they will bend the truth or lie by omitting facts about themselves to get it from women. My dad also tells me that if he were a woman he would never want to have sex. He told me if I knew how men really are it would kill my desire to have sex with most of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 07:02 PM
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Exactly. Being nice is just a baseline personality trait it’s not a predictor of sexual performance. Anyone who watches p*rn and practices could become good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:40 PM
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Not necessarily. Many women refer to men that they like or even their own significant others as sweet/sweethearts/nice/gentlemen. Also, literal whores use the word “gentlemen” to describe their best “patrons” lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:30 PM
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Whatever you say
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:09 AM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 07:07 PM
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And I was supposed to read his mind? He never directly answered me when I asked. Then he fell asleep when I asked if he wanted to continue because I couldn’t go in the thunderstorm. He’s part of the problem. If he responded with a clear answer even if it were a no it wouldn’t have been a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 07:03 PM
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I asked because in some cultures it’s normalized for mothers to do everything for their sons and those same mothers often wonder why women won’t date them. Sons of “Boy moms” are insufferable. I believe black mothers do this very often. At least in America. I had an Italian female friend who said it happens a lot in her culture too and the men are often very entitled about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:42 AM
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Average looking doesn’t always been an average person maybe she’s an amazing woman. Also average isn’t ugly. Average is the norm. At least average people could improve their looks. Ugly people mostly are too far gone most of the time. He sounds shallow. That guy got to know her and liked something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:55 PM
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Are you black too by any chance
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:53 PM
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I think sexuality is never anything to be ashamed of no matter which orientation. It’s natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:52 PM
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Being entitled is making sure you aren’t being used as a placeholder until the woman he wants to be his wife comes along? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:27 PM
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He doesn’t have a car either. We literally live in a place where it’s normal to not have a car. 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:26 PM
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Lol he wanted me to walk and bus to his house in a thunderstorm nearly two hours away. Driving or ubering would have only taken like 25 minutes. How is an Uber unreasonable? He could have even offered to come to my house but he didn’t. Not wanting a selfish jerk ≠ gold digging traits. It’s not like I asked him for an Uber on a bright clear sunny day because I wanted to fuck with him. I asked because he invited me over, actually kept begging me to, during a raging thunderstorm. You are genuinely …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:21 PM
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You’re only confirming my point that I should just wait for a man who likes me to approach. If initiating gives women one sided relationships what does that tell you about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:52 PM
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Did you even read my comments? Men don’t like max effort either 😂 I’ve been pursuing and initiating with men for years with zero success. Despite men saying women should pursue more, pursuing has only caused me to get cheated on, abused, and treated as a second option. Of course I’m bitter lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:07 PM
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How is simply not being clingy minimal effort? To be clingy is to come off as kind of crazy. People with mental disorders and anxious attachment styles are usually clingy and some people whether male or female might not want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:51 PM
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Exactly. He was not serious. I was either not his first choice or he just wanted to make me miserable either way I wanted no part of it Fast forward to this week a different man wanted me to travel during a thunderstorm to get to him but when I asked for an Uber he was upset. * cough * losers * cough *
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:05 AM
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Because it doesn’t work with women. Society expects men to value sex way more. Therefore men are quicker to accept advances from women they aren’t attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:52 AM
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Why haven’t you pursued her if you wanted her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:48 AM
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You don’t put in the most effort for the women who are the most attractive to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:55 AM
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No actually. It sounds like they want us to let ourselves be used as a vindication for being hurt by a woman from their past. They’re projecting onto the wrong people and it’s misplaced frustration. Why would I continue doing something that obviously isn’t working for me lol a lot of men shut down or don’t know how to behave when you show them love. It’s the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:36 AM
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I’m not saying women have never done it to men but our culture makes it easier for it to happen to women more often. For example men’s masculinity is often tied to his sexual exploits. Of course he will then try to have sex with any woman who wants him. To many men if a woman wants him even if he’s not that attracted to her it’s a free ticket to vagina even if he has to wait a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:23 AM
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Women who initiate get treated like shit. It’s more than just not working out. A lot of men look down on that behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:21 AM
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Lol worked out meaning? Got married?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:16 AM
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Yes. I used to pursue as a woman, I’ve been the pursuer for as long as I’ve been dating. I also come from a culture where it’s kind of normalized for women to make the first move. This is definitely what happens. I have made a choice very recently to stop this. My first boyfriend: cheated multiple times. Second boyfriend: more of an fwb, never wanted to be seen with me, had another gf behind my back, kept asking me for loans and money yet never got me anything for my birthday or valentines, aske…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:08 AM
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Yes. So if I’m his #1 choice I’d be made aware of it by his efforts. Another reason why I quit pursuing men. Why would they try if I’m doing everything for them? I could still be his #1 choice this way, though it will be much more difficult for me to filter him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:56 AM
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I’m a firm believer that men exert the most effort on their best options.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:47 AM
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I mean this happens to me a lot and I’m still not in a relationship. I’ve been the pursuer since I was a teenager and I’ve noticed certain patterns within men’s behavior specifically. I have now decided to stop pursuing. It seems like it just doesn’t work when woman pursue. In my experience, men get the false impression to use me for sex or that they can drag the relationship on without serious actions. Last night I had a man ghost me for seemingly no reason after I asked him kindly if he could …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:43 AM
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If I’m his first choice then yes. I don’t want to be a man’s backup plan or treated like one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:35 AM
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I just gave you the answer why. And it’s very true women making the first move, initiating dates and planning for the relationship etc. almost never works out. Just ask the women who were used by their exes for sex, a place to live, a free cook…Lots of men will exploit the fact that a woman likes them, even if they’re not crazy about her just so that they could get relationship perks (mostly sexual) from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:27 AM
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Yes but also I am literally autistic so?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:23 AM
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Well at least we know we’re good at sex 🙃🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:19 AM
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When you envision your future partner arent there certain traits you want her to have both looks wise and personality wise? This is what I mean by that. Every man knows the type they want to marry. The type of woman varies ofc because not every man has the same personal preferences but every man has an example of a woman they think is their “wife material”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:18 AM
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Yikes yeah that’s brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:39 PM
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No it’s not? Those are just empty words. As soon as I agreed, if he were really serious he would have tried to agree on a time, day, and place instead of complaining about how far I lived…. All he did was complain about distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:37 PM
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Why’d you copy their answer
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:34 PM
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Because a huge chunk of men would accept a woman’s advances even if she’s not his dream girl or wife material. I used to do this a lot until I realized men are not like women. They are more likely to date and sex up people they aren’t all that attracted to. Then they’ll drag it along until they finally find the dream girl/wife because they like the convenience…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:22 PM
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Why did you feel sorry for him? Was she still sleeping with you behind his back? This happens to me but only when I make it clear that I can’t engage with them anymore. For example a former fwb became really livid with me when I told him I no longer wish to continue. This is a man who told me he never wanted feelings or commitment. He had no right to throw a tantrum. It had to end at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:18 PM
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Coming up with that conclusion based off of what a few women online say is like learning sex from porn. This is goofy. Everythjng you see on the internet is just an exaggeration. Of course the ones who say the most outrageous shit get the most attention, clicks and engagement = more visibility. The more outrageous you behave, the more visibility you will receive on the internet. The top 1% will never represent the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:21 AM
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Women will always have sex with these types. It’s not dating if you can’t afford it tbh. It’s just sex or fwb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:15 AM
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My point is that feminists have advocated for men but men are resistant to that change. Even in real life I’ve made a few controversial comments stating that men can be abused and men can get sexually assaulted. And yeah, even still, a few people, both men and women have tried to argue with me against this. These comments shouldn’t be controversial at all, yet here we are as a society.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:10 AM
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Have you ever seen the comments from men under a post of a woman talking about male r*pe victims? It’s a shitshow usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:45 PM
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Men on dating apps are not high value men. Either that, or they have a problem with social skills for example severe autism. I vowed to never use them ever again when I realized that most of my inbox had been full of cringey and disgusting messages. I’m getting too old for that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:42 PM
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This is why as a woman who initiates I switched to waiting for sex or just stretching out the talking stage because the more we talk the more I’ll be able to sniff out the BS. I had to cut a guy off recently, for being a serial liar and a gross toad. It only lasted a few months. Rushing it to sex and a possible child is life ruining.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:14 PM
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I have no problem buying things and paying for a man that I’m committed to. Although my problem with the 50/50 culture is the fact that it fails to address the elephant in the room it is not a reflection of the real world. In corporate America it is very common for women to get lowballed compared to their male counterparts for the same amount of work and experience. I’ve had friends who’ve caught companies trying to cheat them out of paying them what they deserve, only to offer a man way more mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:01 PM
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Your initial stance was that only women care about what other people think when choosing their partner. This isn’t even true. Women get with what you’d call “low value” men all the time as long as they are conventionally attractive. Same with men, lots of men with get a “low value” woman with negative personality traits just as long as she’s conventionally attractive because looks matter in this world sadly. Both man and woman are valued more if they are conventionally attractive or have a conve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:21 PM
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What does “player” mean to you? A player to me is a man who does not want a committed relationship but is deceptive about this. They love having multiple options at their disposal. They might not even be having sex with them, they just enjoy the romantic attention of women without ever committing to any of them exclusively. In my opinion some players hate women. They have psychological issues stemming from their mother so their refusal to commit to one woman has more to do with the trauma. They’…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:06 PM
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Women want men that have the skills to keep the human race going because that’s just biology. So of course other women will subconsciously approve of it. Doesn’t mean they literally want each others’ husbands. It just means that there are a few basic personality traits that are required to connect with a woman. There’s a reason why social skills are so important. If someone has great social skills it’s a marker to everyone that they will band together with the tribe for survival. Good social ski…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:22 PM
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Maybe it depends on the demographic of women. Most women that I’m familiar with will not flex to their friends because other women desire “their” man but because the man they chose makes them feel special and he’s generous with them. And of course this is because a woman is a lot more forgiving to a man’s bullshit when he’s generous with his resources. A man could look like a supermodel and have women falling over it but if he’s full of shit he’s never going to be committed and probably has the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:06 PM
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This is not true at all. Many men worry about where their male friends are and would think when choosing a partner. Men absolutely worry about their image when choosing. Maybe it’s not all but definitely some…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 07:45 PM
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I disagree that women prefer men with limitless options. When it seems to me like a guy has too many options, I immediately start losing interest in him, even if I am attracted to him physically. It’s because I don’t want to compete with his other options and refuse to waste my youth on chasing something that won’t come to fruition. I would also much prefer the company of a man who makes me feel good when I’m around him even if he is considered less conventionally attractive than the man with “l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 07:42 PM
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It’s true. Looks could negate a lot of bad traits. For men and women. Not to say that personality traits aren’t a factor in a relationship but being hot will make a lot of people overlook bad traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 07:30 PM
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