civiestudent Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Would you be ok if your SO asked for nude pictures or would this strain the relationship? My parents raised me to never expect privacy when you share stuff, especially digitally. Not exactly the same, but it leads to the same result: no nudes of me for my partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/18 10:40 PM
4	Would you be upset if going into a marriage your SO asked you to sign a prenuptial agreement agreement to protect both of you? I wouldn't marry someone who didn't want to plan for an eventuality like this. It's like life insurance - people avoid it because they don't want to think about needing it. Then your spouse dies and leaves you with young kids, and you could've used that financial padding to fall back on. Pre-nups can prevent costly divorce battles and encourage partners to be honest about their finances and desires, so...no, I wouldn't get upset. I'd suggest it myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/18 10:35 PM
1	Q4Men: would you marry/ LTR a woman who doesn’t do her hair, wear makeup, or dress stylishly? Speaking as a woman who doesn't wear makeup, put a lot of effort into my hair or dress in-style - I've had no trouble finding men who're attracted to me. I've found that men who care about these things, care more because of the social significance of them than as a sort of personal aesthetic preference. Although makeup conditions men to have unrealistic standards of women's appearances, not all men care about their partner's flawless skin.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/18 01:18 PM
4	25 % of millennial men think asking someone for a drink is harassment. 33% of millennial men and women say that if a man compliments a woman’s looks it is harassment Also, what kids of compliments were they talking about? "I think you're beautiful" sounds a lot more creepy than "hey, I like what you did with your hair". Especially in the workplace. This is why I'm not a big fan of studies like this when they don't provide context or their questions. We can't know what the responders are thinking about unless the survey asks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/18 09:04 PM
1	Why is "blue pill" so obsessed with trying to avoid "red pill" guys? tbh I'd rather avoid anyone who spends so much time obsessing about theoretical relationships on the internet. It's okay to talk about abusive situations or unequal treatment you see, but at the end of the day you're responsible for yourself. I don't think highly of you if you panic at the very mention of some action or idea that doesn't involve you in any way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/18 09:16 PM
3	Why do women want marriage so badly? For some people, not being married makes it seem possible to up and leave whenever they want. But not everyone wants that easy escape hatch. It's easier to plan for the future when you have someone who's committed to going along for the ride with you. You have more financial resources to draw from. Owning property is still a benchmark for a lot of adults, and that's a lot more feasible with a partner. So while I understand the draw to staying in a long-term unmarried relationship, it's frustrati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/18 09:01 PM
1	On the gender mental health gap BRB, gonna "get over" my developmental disorder by changing my mindset. ADHD is misunderstood, not overdiagnosed. No one bothers to investigate the diagnostic criteria or talk to specialists and experts, because they think they already know all they need to know. In areas where ADHD is overdiagnosed, it's due to a lack of specialized resources and a system that encourages medication over therapy. Where ADHD is underdiagnosed (like in France), it's due to stereotypes about the disorder and the as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 05:41 PM
1	On the gender mental health gap Fun fact: ADHD doesn't actually have static subtypes (H, C & I). Every ADHDer is hyperactive towards the beginning, but they grow out of it by adulthood. What subtype you're diagnosed with depends on how quickly you grow out of the hyperactivity, where you are in that process when you're diagnosed, and the biases of your physician. Girls are discouraged from the kind of raucous activity that we associate with hyperactivity so they internalize faster. It's not the case that boys can't sit still w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 05:25 PM
1	On the gender mental health gap I don't know a lot about the other disorders/illnesses you mentioned, but mood disorders & anxiety are very different from ADHD, which is a developmental disorder that isn't caused by adult environmental factors. Women are actually underdiagnosed with ADHD, and therefore undermedicated, so I don't think ADHD should be included in your question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 05:16 PM
1	What is your opinion on asexuality [AskTRP] Not RP, but I am asexual. I'd be horrified by any pedestal-ing. Just because asexuals don't feel sexual attraction doesn't mean they're celibate or free of any other kind of attraction. They won't understand what the big deal is with sex and the obsession with it would probably turn them off from the community anyways. If they want to have sex they'll have sex, because they want to have the experience of it. Nothing more, nothing less.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/17 02:56 AM
1	What is your opinion on asexuality [AskTRP] Sounds like they're being an asshole. Not necessarily that they're asexual. Not to mention that depression sabotages a lot of relationships because your emotions are harder to work through. (That's what SSRIs are used to treat, after all.) My ex refused to get his recurring depression treated and he seesawed between "loving and emotionally sensitive" to "panicked at the thought of being emotionally attached to someone".	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/17 02:19 AM
1	Are sexual assault allegations preventing young men from developing the appropriate assertiveness that women find attractive? On a date it's normal/fine to make a move without talking through it, but by default people at work don't expect sexual advances. A coworker you like is probably gonna be more receptive to your moves when you're outside of work on a date. Tbh my opinion on "I did this and it ended our relationship" is that it's better to know that it's a deal-breaker, than not know and have a partner who's annoyed/uncomfortable with the thing you do. It drags down the relationship and you lose time to find someo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/17 03:58 PM
2	Are sexual assault allegations preventing young men from developing the appropriate assertiveness that women find attractive? I don't think anyone would have problems with a potential partner who's confident (secure) sexually and clear with what they want. But outside of a date...why wouldn't you just ask the woman before you make the move? "Hey, we've got a great vibe going, do you want to go on a date/can I kiss you/wanna make out in the supply closet?" That way you can know for sure before possibly making an ass of yourself. Sure, lots of women find sexual assertiveness attractive. BUT YOU HAVE PLENTY OF CHANCES AFT…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/17 01:04 AM