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Good: SO got the all clear at his post-op appointment today. We are prepping for renaissance festival in two weeks - touching up costumes, buying some new camping stuff, etc. I'm making a list of things that we will need. Gotta feed my inner control freak somehow. :P I can't wait though! This is definitely my favorite time of year. Bad/Ugly: I'm happy to report that nothing bad or ugly has happened. Yay for small miracles! :) Spooky: We don't really do much for Halloween. I live in a pretty secl…
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 08:12 PM
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Good: My SO is doing so much better compared to last weekend! He's been home from the hospital for a while, but finally starting to feel more normal each day. This was a much needed lesson for everyone involved. Seriously, ladies, you never truly realize how much you love (or don't love) someone until you are faced with medical emergencies. Your response speaks volumes when things are completely out of your control. I surprised myself and my SO and it has forever changed our relationship for the…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 02:53 PM
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Thank you! I'm needing some positive vibes right about now.
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 12:59 PM
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I'm grateful for the wonderful staff at the urgent care center and the night nurses at the hospital for taking care of my SO while he was sick this weekend. I'm grateful for the great communication between me and my SO's mom when I had to leave the hospital for work, while she stayed with him. I'm grateful for getting a chance to interview at a new place. I have been needing to switch jobs for a while and this could be the ticket. So, fingers crossed. I'm grateful for my mom taking care of my ca…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 03:27 PM
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Great list! I, too, am a self-help book junkie. I own The Surrendered Wife, He's Just Not That Into You, and Don't Sweat The Small Stuff (had the one for teenagers too!). He's Just Not That Into You was a mind-opener for me when I was a younger and definitely kept me from looking like a desperate fool when I liked someone more than they liked me. I will have to check out the other ones you listed as there are some that I haven't heard of until now!
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 07:46 PM
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I tend to do nothing (at least nowadays). He usually tells me if he's hanging out with the guys or going on a ride (sport bike crew) if it's a planned thing. I usually just do my own thing - e.g., pick up the apartment, watch my girly shows, run my errands, spend a couple hours talking to my mom on the phone, etc. If it's a spur of the moment beer with the guys after work, sometimes he'll tell me and sometimes he won't. I (unintentionally) ran an experiment on him with this topic. In the past, I…
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 11:04 PM
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I was on Loestrin 24 for just shy of three years when I was younger. I got on it because I had horrible mood swings during PMS. It was decent in terms of effectiveness. Mood swings leveled out and up until I decided to stop taking it the only side negative effect I seemed to experience was bloating/water retention. Oh boy, was I wrong! I don't know how I missed it or how my mom missed it, but my hair got so thin (it's already thin and baby fine). It was bad, but I always kept it in a bob so I di…
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 02:29 PM
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My SO and I do word association. So anytime we hear a word or a phrase that reminds us of a quote or a song, we will start to say or sing whatever it is we connected to the word/phrase. The best part is when we associate the exact same thing and then say it outload at the same time. We have a lot of those "same wavelength" moments.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 04:19 PM
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Thanks. It's actually good practice for STFU and learning to not take certain things too personally when they do that.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 03:46 PM
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So much good over the weekend after a crummy week! Friday night: My SO and I had Fried Chicken Friday at his cousin's house with several of our other couple friends/family complete good wine and good times. Saturday: Mead festival with my SO and my mom. It was so great. We got to taste mead from 8 different meaderies, got some food truck deliciousness, and listened to some live music. Sunday: My SO's mom's birthday lunch/dinner. We spent the day with his family and it was so great seeing everyon…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 01:33 PM
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Good: It was a much needed long weekend. My boyfriend and I pulled the mattress into the living room and spent all three days glued to it while having a horror movie marathon with homemade Indian food, coffee, and cherry pie. We made a mess and spent Monday evening putting everything back to normal. It was a lot of fun! Bad: My body feels all out of wack from the holiday. And I couldn't sleep a wink last night. :( Ugly: This PMS cycle is a bitch. Enough said.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 02:03 PM
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We met on OKC. He messaged me first, but we didn't have our first date for about two weeks or so because I was going under the knife the week that he messaged me. I was not expecting for us to even meet due to the timing, but we did. It definitely wasn't sparks at first either. We had a very slow build up, but we have been together just over a year and are probably way too smitten for our own good. :)
/r/RedPillWives25/08/16 12:33 AM
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I'm usually always with my SO or my family. He and I will go out with his friends sometimes, but I'm a homebody and it seems I've unintentionally turned him into one as well!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/16 02:27 PM
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Ugh, this is me to a frickin' T. I am a boss at picking up on subtle body/tone language cues from other people. I can't tell you how many times my SO has had a long day or week and maybe slowed down the loving or communication because he was stressed/exhausted/cranky and I would just be like "dkfjsdlkjf.....what does this meeeeaaaan?!?!?" Of course, I've never said anything out-loud to him about it because usually in a few days or by the weekend, he's back to his normal self. Plus, I know that i…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 09:48 PM
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I've heard that reading to children when they are young greatly improves their vocabulary and reading comprehension skills when they start to read on their own. You are an awesome mom for teaching your daughter to love books! :)
/r/RedPillWives14/05/16 08:11 PM
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My SO and I have weird humor, so bathroom type jokes crack us up. With that being said, we don't actually fart in front of each other (consiously lol). The same cannot be said for when we're asleep. If either of us has to go #2, then we've got to go. It's much worse trying to hold it in. I try to make it discreet, but we all know what we're doing if we're in the bathroom for 5+ minutes. A good diet can help a lot though. Also, he can make incredibly realistic fart sounds with his mouth though. S…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 01:10 PM
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Echoing the other ladies here. Some men are habitual cheaters. That's just who they are. Most of the time, you can't do anything to change it. It's up to you how you approach it/deal with it/where you draw the line.
/r/RedPillWives22/04/16 04:45 PM
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Thank you so much. :)
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:41 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree about the bad talking his parents. He knows my position with his parents, but I never call them names or say negative things about them. My opinion stays with me 100%.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:35 PM
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Oh definitely! I always ask him about his day and if he says "it was shitty/bad", I ask if he wants to talk about it or not. Sometimes he does and sometimes he'll talk about it a couple days later. But I always give him that choice and it actually allows him to open up to me more because he knows I won't pressure him to talk or anything.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:32 PM
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Holy cow, thank you for replying! I'm going to print it out and memorize all of it. This is exactly what I needed to read. This is truly going to be a test for us and I want to do everything I can to make it easier for both of us, but mostly him. I know that this is the time he's really going to need me on his team. Attitude of gratitude and trust is an absolute must! I'll have to make little notes to stick in places as constant reminders to keep this mindset in the forefront.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 04:26 PM
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I apologize for not giving more information on what I bring to the table! We don't live together, but I see him about 5-6 days out of the week. We both work full time, so our time is constrained to evenings and weekends right now. I take care of most of the household chores, like cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc. He gives me a grocery allowance and we buy food either together or I go by myself. I like to cook ahead so I don't have to worry about it too much during the week. Sex is pretty regular a…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 04:19 PM
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This is such a good reminder of gratitude and humility. I always try to be grateful for what my SO does for me because I know that he doesn't have to do anything for me, but rather he wants to do those things for me. Even if it's not something I would do/buy for myself, it's about the fact that he thought "Hey, classy_lassy might really like this." And I try to return that feeling ten-fold. Thank you and your mama for the words of wisdom! :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 01:03 PM
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Awesome! Thank you so much for the info and recommendations. :)
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 11:20 PM
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I'll have to check that out, thank you! Does it weigh your hair down at all? I have a hard time keeping my volume because my hair gets heavier as it gets longer.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 11:02 PM
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We both wear robes when we're lounging around together. I'd love to get a lovely silky one at some point for the warmer months. We sleep in the nude though. I only wear panties and pj's to bed when I'm on my red week.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 05:40 PM
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I don't really have a problem with split ends now. I try to keep it trimmed regularly to keep the ends looking nice and clean. It's actually looking better now than in the past when I used to mess with it/style it constantly! I do use sulfate free shampoo/conditioner and do an occasional coconut oil mask as well.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 04:47 PM
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I've heard of it, but I'm not familiar with the details/process. My hair isn't color treated and I seldom use heat styling or product. I just feel like it grows sloooow! It's super fine and thin though. :/
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 05:30 AM
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On mobile, but I found these while out shopping today! http://i.imgur.com/oEYXpOf.jpg
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 03:56 AM
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There is really only one thing my SO won't compromise on. Hair length. He HATES short hair on women, which is okay because I don't care for short hair on myself. I'm currently working on getting it to my bra band. So close! As for my clothing style, I know he likes the classic feminine look. Lacy dresses, certain floral prints, classic cuts, soft colors. It's awesome because that's the style I've been trying develop even before I met him. I love dressing feminine and I'm really glad he is a fan …
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 02:39 AM
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Woot! Hey y'all. I'm classy_lassy from Texas. I was subscribed to the old sub, but didn't participate much due to the turf wars. I'm really looking forward to this new direction with this subreddit and I hope to be more active in this one! I'm already loving the content being posted in just the few days RPW has been active. A little about me: I'm in an 8 month LTR and head over heels in love with my SO. Ironically, I work in a family law office which just makes me see literally all the ugly thin…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 01:13 PM
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It's possible, but I don't think I do. I try to keep a constant check on my emotions. If I do LMR on my SO, it is never intentional or pre-meditated. Hmm, I'll have to keep an eye out for that now...
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:21 PM
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So true! I went to college right out of high school with no clue as to what I wanted to study just because I felt pressured to do something. Fortunately, I walked away with minimal student debt. Unfortunately, I got a completely nonmarketable liberal arts degree. I wish I had cultivated other areas and interests of my life before going to college.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:05 PM
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I actually prefer brunch over going out to dinner! I can only imagine how crazy the restaurants will be that night.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 04:13 PM
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It does take some getting used to, for sure! You feel like you're missing out and that's what sucks you back into it all.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 08:18 PM
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I gave up all my social media in November. FB, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. because, like you, if I didn't check it every half hour (or less!) I would be like "Must check Facebook!!!!". It was crazy and so pointless. I just saw the same stories over and over again, constantly compared how many "likes/comments" I had with other people, and just made me feel super vain in general. I have to say that I honestly feel better without it because I'm not in my head 24/7. I still get the twinge to check it …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:08 PM
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I have never observed Lent before, so this should be interesting. I'm thinking that I will give up coffee/caffeinated tea for Lent. I've given up caffeine before and felt so much better, but got right back into it after a few months. I think I'm going to try again and hope that it sticks this time. At least I have a concrete goal associated with it. I know I always feel better when I don't drink it for a while (more clear-headed, not so grumpy, decrease in depression/anxiety), but it becomes so …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:00 PM
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My SO and I are thinking of doing a brunch date and bowling/arcade games on Saturday. He doesn't mind celebrating Valentine's Day, as long as it's not on the actual day. No gifty-gifts. Just some much needed quality time with each other.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 03:49 PM
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Aw, that's sweet! And some hardcore dedication. The "I listen" response must be common among our men because mine says it too when I ask how he knew I liked a specific thing and then he surprises me with it months later.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 02:50 PM
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I once mentioned how much I love tea sets when my SO and I were watching Downton Abbey. For my birthday, he bought an entire DINNERWARE set specifically for the tea pot/set. I thought it was funny and super sweet when I found out. Now when I have tea/coffee I feel all fancy and feminine. It's a beautiful pattern and now I have matching bowls and plates for entertaining! :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 02:27 PM
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Me to him: Babe, baby, honey/hon, sweetheart, and handsome. Him to me: Babe, baby, honey, sweetie, honey bunny, and cutie. He mostly uses "honey" when he greets me though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 12:41 AM
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Ugly: This monthly cycle was the worst. Two days leading up to it, I had some serious depression. I was doing my best to not take it out on my SO and I think I succeeded in that. He was working A LOT this past week, so I didn't really get to "see" him until the weekend. While it was easier to not take anything out on him because I didn't get to see him very much, it was also difficult because I didn't get to see him very much! Thankfully, these only come every few months/cycles so I have some ti…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 05:51 PM
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Oh man, this would have saved me so much time when I was young and dumb. We are so quick to blame others, but rarely ever look at what we're doing to contribute to the interaction. Great quick read that really puts things into perspective! :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 05:40 PM
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Glad I'm not the only one then! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:02 PM
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When I come across articles, such as this, I try really hard to keep an open mind before reading it. Oh my. I know you're not supposed to read "tone" in text, but am I the only one who felt like she was writing things in a mocking tone of voice? Especially at the end when she wrote that a little spice doesn't hurt a marriage. Just like "C'est la vie! This is what you signed up for!" Poor husband. Such passive aggressiveness, especially with the second confession.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 05:37 PM
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Dealing with anxiety is highly individual. But some things that worked for me were/are... Repeating mantras to oneself. Particularly important when starting and/or during a tailspin. Constructive outlets for distraction. Writing, reading, exercise, whatever works for you. Reflection only when able to objectively do so. Also, addressing the causes not just the symptoms. The symptoms will subside when you deal with the root cause. Developing confidence, but not using it for external validation. Fi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 07:54 PM
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My goodness, what a read. These situations can really be a hit or miss. Given that your boyfriend loves to debate, as you say, I assume that he is used to various types of debate approaches (including the "I'm right and you're wrong" one). Out of all of that, my biggest concern was how much of a tailspin you went into after he left, especially since he did not even seem concerned by the whole ordeal (his positive response after the debate ended). Essentially, you let your ego take the reins on t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:10 PM
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I'm on mobile currently, but I wanted to quickly say that I do think there's some maturity that comes with swallowing the red pill. You stop seeing the world through rose-colored glasses, but you don't dwell on the negative either. In a way, it's almost freeing to not be held down by unrealistic expectations. Ignorance is not exactly bliss.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 04:24 PM
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That's fantastic. I love hearing everybody's perspective. I'm motivated by rewards from the challenges. I'm constantly challenging myself to be better in so many ways and I love when others challenge me to be better (there is a difference between being constructive and being downright abusive though). And I'm also a brooding sort of person, so I understand the whole evaluation of a relationship and whatnot. It's definitely what will bring out the best in you though. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 10:51 PM
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I have an ex-coworker/friend who is 45 and she easily looks 10 years younger. She works out, she eats healthy, she takes care of herself, and she has a great attitude toward life. Hitting the wall/aging is a part of life, but that doesn't give you an excuse to stop taking care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 10:44 PM
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That's so ridiculous. I like to flip the script on them and be like "Well, can you honestly say that you'd still be attracted to so-and-so if he/she gained 40 lbs?" The look of frustration on trying rationalize their way out of it is hilarious. The thing is, maintaining a healthy shape/weight/attractiveness level is an expectation for myself regardless of whether or not I'm in a relationship. Why should that change just because I'm seeing someone? Also, you are most welcome! :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 08:11 PM
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I definitely appreciate your response. Yes, the whole thing came about through a discussion on abundance mentality. Him saying that had nothing to do with me, but it made me think about the concept of being replaceable in a relationship (it does go both ways, really). The reason I felt a little hurt was that he's had many women and he's done more things for me than he has for all but one of those other women. So it did make me feel like a special snowflake for a while and then realizing "hmm, he…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 08:03 PM
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I'm so happy to hear that other women out there think similarly. I run into a lot of people who call my thinking backwards and I'm like ....uh, no.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 07:22 PM
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Absolutely! It does go both ways. Neither partner is obligated to the other, but sometimes we take our partners for granted. I think if both partners want to keep their current partner, then having a little bit of the replacement mentality can help to ensure you stay on your A-game. It seems to be more so for women just because of abundance mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 07:21 PM
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