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We moved in earlier than we might have due to covid. At one point I thought I might try and wait until engagement but it just made sense at the time and honestly I have no regrets. I do think where you are in your relationship (not quite a year?) is a bit different than being a full 2 years in. He may genuinely feel like he has to spend more time with you, he may expect the move-in first. I think living together and being together longer cleared up some of these questions automatically in my cas…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 05:56 PM
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A year ago I was in the same position as you, my boyfriend and I have the same age gap. Shortly after I turned 25 and we celebrated 2 years together, I sat him down and said I saw engagement as the next step in a developing relationship, not as some thing that was age dependent. This was in the context of some people starting to wink at us and ask when we were getting engaged. My boyfriend also expressed this idea that he felt too young for that, and I just continued my perspective that it's not…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 04:46 PM
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I think you're looking for pants with minimal waist elastic and a stiff button closure. I got a pair from uniqlo. Some types of jeans are much looser and even soft in the material - better for the nether regions - but still a stiff waist to give you the "pants" feeling. I recommend mom jeans from Levis. Remember your top, hair, and accessories can make anything feel more feminine!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 01:42 AM
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Are you on feminine energy tiktok? That's where i find the intersection. Mainstream feminism says that fitting into a man's world is a good thing. RP "feminism" says we should basically reimagine our lives by centering what's good for us as women FIRST. ie, in a truly feminist world, society would revolve around allowing women to stay home with their babies as long as necessary. The work schedule would not revolve around the male 24hour hormonal cycle and allow for more flexibility around women'…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 05:15 AM
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Stick to many reps with low weights to build strength and endurance - aiming for higher and higher weights will lead to bulk. Do you look bigger because you've added muscle without losing fat? I also build up in my arms more quickly than i'd like, so sometimes I just cut my arm workouts short, or do it every other session.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 03:19 AM
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Lol Y2K means year 2000 -- it's early 2000s inspired clothing, sometimes with 90s and modern details.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 03:24 PM
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I could have written this post. I fake it. Being honest led to some scary moments in my career and friendships. PICK YOUR BATTLES. Every so often you will find a topic or a person where a little bit more nuance is available. That can be really satisfying. But it's not worth it to push it, IMO. One reminder I got from therapy that I found helpful: your friendships do not need to be based on social/political issues. In the woke art world that can be groundbreaking. But I've actually found that I s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 03:20 PM
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Behaviors descended from and exaggerating the differences between male and female. For example - women have less body hair than men. Shaving what we do have is an exaggeration of that difference and a feminine behavior. Biologically, women feed and nurture infants. Feeding and caring for the basic needs of others is a feminine behavior. List goes on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 10:37 PM
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J crew has classy and comfortable sets
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 06:37 AM
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As far as I know he thinks that it was an accident. I don't think my friend necessarily knew how he would react, but it just turned out that he is kind of treating it like a happy accident.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:50 PM
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Unfortunately yeah, I do feel like the entire friendship is being called into question. Which is hard since we go back to elementary school. That's what makes me feel like it would be impossible to end our friendship, but maybe that's what also puts me in a position to be able to speak truthfully to her without necessarily having to end the friendship. Also, added my TLDR for clarity, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:49 PM
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Yeah... i do. I guess it's been less of a big deal because the boyfriend was immediately on board. I don't think that makes her actions okay, just that it's less dramatic. He's not mad or fighting it, he just thinks he's stepping up. It's so hard. I know everyone else in her life is giving her a hard time so I feel guilty about reprimanding her. And also afraid she'll lash out and cut me off for being critical. And not only would that be sad for me but it'd leave her more alone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:33 PM
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Yeah I mean now is the point where she went against my values, by actively trying to have a baby in an unstable, non- married relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 06:48 PM
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Personally, I find purposefully having a child out of wedlock to be immoral - in the sense that you should do everything you can to provide a strong foundation to bring a child into. I totally understand this is not 100% the traditional, religious premarital sex rule, but I think among people who don't care about the premarital sex, this is still a moral value that is very strong. At a minimum, I know that she and I felt that way and talked about it often. I agree the trapping is super concernin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 02:00 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story! I'm so glad you had that friend.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 01:54 PM
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No, i'm okay with neither, i was trying to get everything in while trying not to make the post too long, sorry that wasn't clear!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 01:52 PM
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Whole heartedly second all of this!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 05:10 AM
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I also browse both this sub and radical feminist spaces. There's surprising overlap. Even if it's not "feminism", I have found a place where I believe in advocating for and empowering women based on THEIR best interest and biological fact, not a male-centric world. To me that means - acknowledging the biological feat and sacrifice that is childbirth, and embracing a system where women can take the time they need to heal and dedicate themselves to motherhood, and men do their part to provide for …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 02:57 PM
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Glad to know there's a wide range of women & approaches here!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:15 AM
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So true!! Thanks for the reminder it's not just about behavior. I came to red pill because I wanted a way to acknowledge existing biological needs and tendencies of women while still feeling empowered.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 12:45 AM
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Yes, i think it's this thinking about the concept of "the red pill" that led me to this question. Sounds like maybe it's the "true reality" for some - women esp who want to be mothers in heterosexual relationships - but for people in other situations, it is not necessarily THE reality.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 06:39 PM
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Amazing, thanks for answering!!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 05:48 PM
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Thank you! Sometimes it seems like people are very all in to one mindset but I might be overlooking other posts. I'll keep an eye out.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 05:48 PM
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Not looking for that level of trad life -- my bf could support me now if I wanted. I just plan to be a SAHM once I have kids. But thanks for your well intended support!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:58 AM
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Thank you for your thoughtful advice! I will try to remember that he isn't half doing it on purpose.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 03:21 AM
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Fair point!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 04:58 PM
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This is how my boyfriend would describe me when I'm holding it all in. But eventually I become exhausted and I break and start asking him to help.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 04:43 PM
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Thank you for these tips and resources! I do struggle with giving instructions like he's a child, but maybe combining these approaches and starting with bringing the problem-- "I'm so tired during the week, I can't keep up with housework" --- lets him be more of the leader in stepping up, and then I can give more specific instructions about what I need, without sounding like mommy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 02:29 PM
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I got my long term boyfriend some underwear in fun prints. It's meant to be sexy and fun but also he needs new underwear lol
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 07:57 AM
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No problem! We met on Hinge. And as someone said earlier, it did take a lot of trial and error, I went on a lot of dates that didn't work out. But I believed it was a numbers game and eventually (8 months) it worked in my favor. I liked the apps because i could filter out the wrong guys pretty quickly based on their profile or a few messages.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 05:07 AM
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I consider myself more liberal than not, dating a somewhat conservative man in NYC. We have a traditional committed relationship, met when I was 22 and he was 23. Please ignore the people stereotyping NYC. There's still plenty of more conservative people in the nyc area, especially if you include the outer boroughs, long island and those commuting from jersey. Avoid liberal areas like NYU and hipster williamsburg. Be clear about the type of person you are - it's totally okay to ask "Are you look…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/22 03:39 AM
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Can you do a domestic partnership to get the same benefit?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 12:01 AM
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Thank you for this helpful reply!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 01:52 PM
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Thank you! This is direct and firm as it needs to be, but opens up in a way that isn't "So when are you going to propose to me?"
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 12:59 AM
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That's fair! Depending on who you talk to, that kind of exactness can sound crazy, especially when I was younger. But now it's feeling reasonable to say that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 12:54 AM
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Thanks, I'll look for it! We have talked about together future things like "When we look for our next apartment" or "We should do a trip to Italy" or even "Maybe we'll move across the country someday" but when it comes to future family it's usually more like "when I have kids I will..." A couple times, we have talked about scenarios about us as married parents, it was like "if we had kids, they would be tall" or something like that. Just random hypotheticals; not very deep. And if anything, I fe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 09:10 PM
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The Sweat app!! Every type of fitness class available, by women for women. Sign up for a 12 week program or pick any workout a la carte. $20 a month. App keeps you motivated. Decent instagram community too. So worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 01:50 AM
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Remember teaching is a separate skill from knowledge! It's one thing to know something. It's another to have the communication skills to break it down and explain it to someone who doesn't even know where to begin, explaining multiple ways for multiple learning styles, plus being encouraging and accounting for all of the above when it's a child. Plus, most of the math we learn after 8th grade is not used past high school, unless you studied math and science in college. I don't think anybody woul…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 07:31 PM
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Thank you! That's the balance I was looking for between having enough for him and falling into the clear the plate trap. Makes sense theres no one size fits all and it will take trial and error!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 06:10 PM
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Thank you for that guideline!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 02:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing that estimation, we are about the same size! I don't count calories really, but I guess that's what it comes down to. 3600 is more than I would have guessed!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 02:02 PM
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Good call! I said I don't like to over cook just because I hate waste, and if we don't plan for a recipe to last 2 full nights, leftovers sit in the fridge... But I'm going to try making a bit more for seconds. Now that you mention it, family growing ip was more like your relative, so that's probably part of my thinking here.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 05:23 PM
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Oh this is great! He's always so polite and wants me to take what I want first, but I'll do it this way so I can see what his appetite is. Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 05:17 PM
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