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5	It's so telling: I am shocked this is happening but none of my friends are. If the police are showing up, you need to be very careful. She’s going to set you up and file a false DV charge. She’ll get a restraining order against you and have you tossed out of your own home. Avoid her as much as possible and record every interaction with her.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/24 11:43 PM
1	Why would my soon to be ex wife lie and say "I don't even have any boyfriends."? My ex claimed that not only was she not cheating (she was), but that she never ever wanted to be in a relationship again. She was gonna be fine with being a reclusive cat lady who doesn’t want a man in her life. She was remarried within seven months, and then divorced that guy two years later.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/11/22 07:53 PM
4	May be joining the club soon. Haven’t seen it mentioned yet, so I’ll add: stop having sex with her. You don’t want a “surprise” baby on the way at this point.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/21 10:29 PM
7	My divorced husband wins a small victory Man, this is spot on with my experience. My ex initiated the divorce. There was no real obvious foundation for it..no abuse, no infidelity on my end, no drugs. I worked full time ,finished a degree during our marriage. We lived a middle class existence. Nice home in a good school district. Money would be occasionally tight, but never a crisis. I was a good dad and decent husband, and like everyone, I had my flaws, but there was nothing egregious. I loved and cared for her and my daughter like an…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/20 01:10 PM
10	I think my wife is cheating (long) Always trust your gut. If it seems off, it likely is.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/20 03:12 PM
2	Once is enough for me I think. The rage will subside when you decide to move forward with making positive change for yourself and child. When you start to see this objectively, and understand how crazy, fucked up this all is, you will see the change in you. This person is dangerous. An untreated mental illness coupled with significant addiction issues. She’s demonstrating to you that she is willing to damage you and your child with her own selfishness. Her unwillingness to address her issues by refusing to comply with medicat…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/19 12:49 PM
2	To move or not to move I tend to agree with your friends. When I divorced, I stayed in the home. Although it was a nice home, and I had put a lot of work into it, I found the memories combined with being lonely were too much of an emotional burden. I started to avoid being there as much as possible. A fresh start and a new environment that was solely mine went a long way in improving my emotional well being.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/19 09:34 PM
1	Aggressive Divorce Attorney Needed in Central Connecticut You need someone experienced with high conflict, personality disordered cases. Document everything. Record interactions if your state allows it. I would also recommend the book Splitting by Bill Eddy. Do as much research as possible and understand that you are likely dealing with a sick individual and that there was likely nothing you could have done to fill the void of a perpetually empty person. Do the work to heal yourself and you’ll feel more in control of the situation rather than constantl…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/19 01:46 PM
2	The grind - mostly a rant Brother, all I can say is keep moving forward. It’s exhausting. Something to watch for down the road: My ex also viewed me as a free babysitter in the initial stages so she could continue the party girl lifestyle that was so important to her. After she got tired of that life and settled down with a new dude, she tried to take me back to court to gain full custody. Didn’t work. Keep being the best dad for your kids. I know its cliche. I’m years down the road from that experience now and can tell …	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/19 12:43 PM
6	Should he disclose the affair? Well...this is fucked up. I don’t think you’re going to find much support here. There a lot of good dudes in here that have experienced the opposite of this situation. Dudes who are good Dads. Guys who got up and worked everyday, tried to do the right things, advance their families, play by the rules, and loves their wives. Then one day they find out that their wife is fucking someone else. Not because there’s something wrong with him, but something very wrong with her. And then guess what happe…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/19 08:09 PM
9	Any advice on the first steps Yeah...lawyer up and get out now before you are further entangled. Oh...and stop having sex with her so there isn’t a “surprise” pregnancy.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/19 12:54 PM
3	7500/m in support payment I think the disconnect here, OP, is that while many agree with you that half your income is exorbitant, that you appear as though you will land on your feet. For many of the dudes that find themselves in this situation, often through no fault of their own, they often find that they are struggling to keep a roof over their head, the lights on, and basic needs.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/19 08:23 PM
8	Opinions?? Tough one. Not because you have some sort of moral high ground you should take because at this point, it looks like you’re on the path to divorce. There’s risk on a couple fronts though. Banging someone you work with has a lot of potential problems that could bite you in the ass. And you certainly don’t want a new set of problems. Also, your ex could catch wind of your workplace girlfriend and make the actual divorce process hell just out of anger and jealousy. Nothing wrong with having the work…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/19 12:04 AM
3	Parents treat me like a son Nothing wrong with letting them you know that you appreciate them. Think I would refrain from providing too much of an explanation. You have zero control over what your STBX might say to them and my experience has been that blood is thicker than water.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/19 04:38 PM
2	dad is leaving town told kids its because theu dont see him Is there other motivation for the move? Better job opportunity? Larger support network for your ex? Maybe your ex feels like if he has other pieces of his life in order, he will be in a better position to be a better dad? Certainly not defending your ex here. Telling a kid that they are responsible for your unhappiness is a pretty fucked up thing to do. That being said, parenting a teen under “normal” circumstances is difficult. Parenting a teen who you see only occasionally, who likely doesn’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/18 03:48 PM