| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 8 | Divorce feels for most men like a discharge -Robert Bly | clinicalbrain | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 03:26 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Dating after divorce - She sent the money backHard to say just from one out of context interaction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Why isn’t there a national support hotline for men going through divorce?Is there a national hotline for woman going through divorce? This seems captured by the general mental health hotline. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/25 08:19 PM |
| 3 | I want to understand what the hell happened.You have a unique opportunity here. Who are outside the marriage? What are your values and what’s important to you? The opportunity should you choose to pursue it is to create your own identity and direction for your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Stuck in the sadnessNo words here just acknowledging that I bear witness to your pain brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/23 10:15 AM |
| 2 | The end game :-(This relationship might be saved with marriage counseling. It’s up to you both if you want to save it or let it end amicably. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Have your views changed on the idea that women are more empathetic than men?Its both a combination of nature and nurture when it comes to emphaty in men and women. Are there clear average differences in feeling and expression when it comes to emphathy based on sex - yes. However, if you are asking why you felt that out of your 8 relationships only 1 seem to "get what men have to endure all day" that's mostly just not seeking to understand that we all experience the world differently based on X,Y,Z identity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Are these good enough reasons for me (31M) to divorce my wife (31F)?Yup. I’m with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 04:09 AM |
| 1 | It gets better for some, not for others.I agree with this. One of the things that makes a difference between the first and the second man OP describes is are you responding to life or are you reacting to it? This means taking what life gives you with all its problems and ups and downs and choosing to move in a direction that is authentic to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 04:08 AM |
| 1 | No warning at all!Yeah the way I read this seems like a plot to a movie or a terrible tv show except it’s real life. Being blindsided sucks OP and realizing you have little to no control feels even worse. I’d ask now that these things have happened. Have you accepted reality for what it is? And have you made any movements towards the life you want to live? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I’m being buried alive - help!Look into learning emotional regulation skills and interpersonal effectiveness skills through DBT. It helped me. Is the anger keeping you stuck and is ineffective in helping you achieve what you desire? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 04:00 AM |
| 1 | 31M, filed for mutual divorce. We knew eachother for 10 years before marriage but shockingly marriage turned out to be a disaster. Now I'm fighting loneliness and this seems to be a tough fight. Help me with what should I do?Read books on the power of silence and solitude. Solitude or choosing to be alone can teach us things about ourselves we didn’t know. The love you seek may have to start with you doing more inward work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Advice 2.0Damn. This sounds difficult. On one hand there’s your desire to end it while on the other the timing sucks for your wife. I’d ask what are your values here? Authenticity to your feelings and/or being emotionally available to your wife during this difficult time. What is your mind and your heart telling you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 03:51 AM |
| 4 | Divorce is just brutal.I would agree with the spirit of this reply but not the underlying assumption that you are aimlesly floating in space. You do have choice, you do have power, and you can decide, at least in part, the direction of your life. Are you responding or reacting to life? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 06:06 PM |
| 1 | A little lostLook at the top pinned posts in this sub, "wait at least 12 months before dating after divorce" this is the collective wisdom of this sub (you can take it or leave it). | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 05:51 PM |
| 11 | Divorce is just brutal.I'm hearing that divorce is brutal despite you having support. Now, all behavior has consequences so your marriage ending was at least 50% your responsibility with the affair. So if you take 50% of the responsibility and acknowledge that you were out of accountability with your wedding vows then how do you plan to move forward? You can't look back so how are you moving forward? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 05:41 PM |
| 10 | Considering suicide. Divorce destroyed my life.It’s like you forgot who you were before being married. Did she make you, create you, or give you all your strengths? No! You have power brother, claim it and move forward. It will be painful but choose your own pain now rather than letting others choose for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/23 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Chance of marriage ending in divorce 50/50. With odds like these why play the game?The article is from 2017. I wonder how the pandemic might have influenced divorce rates. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/23 10:15 AM |
| 10 | What does it mean to you to "become a better man" ?Living a life consistent as possible with my values/what is important to me. Look into Men’s work teachers as a starting point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/22 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone here divorced your wife (or thought about it) simply because you are unhappy in your marriage?You say you came to the realization that you never wanted the marriage in the first place and that is the crux of the issue here. Marriage takes two and if you are no longer willing to be committed (on all levels) then exiting is likely your only “real” option while understanding the subsequent consequences that will follow (relational, emotional, and financial). It is often that in marriage counseling the goal is to preserve the marriage if possible, but to do some requires that both people be … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/21 09:19 AM |
| 2 | I’m a retired attorney & new Men’s Divorce Coach. What topics would you be willing to be willing to pay for information on to get you through your divorce process or wish you had help with when you were getting divorced? P.S. I’m not trying to sell anything.that was a wild ride of a blog post. Not for me, but glad you found "the grail". | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/20 11:03 AM |
| 2 | 47/M two-year transformation storySo are you taking TRT for muscle gains or because your are low on T? I didn’t quite get the reason from your post. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/18 04:37 AM |
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