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R/pornismisogyny r/loveafterporn
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 07:30 PM
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“listen to my stories that he doesn’t actually care about but will act like it, give me cuddles, rubs,“ If this is such a chore for him then he doesn’t cherish you. You’re going to have to figure this out on your own. I just hope you do it sooner rather than later and with minimal emotional damage. Best of luck
/r/RedPillWives15/02/24 04:36 AM
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I’m passenger princess right now so not looking at my book shelf, I can name Bringing Up Boys and Manning Up, I believe are the titles. I’ve also read Dare to Discipline, How To Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and 1 2 3 Magic but those aren’t gender specific
/r/ExRedPill15/02/24 01:59 AM
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He was asking for these things to make the relationship better. For him. And only him. In my book, if he is willfully neglecting your needs and actively avoiding ever accommodating for you, he’s malicious.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 09:52 PM
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OP do you know what negging is? He’s negging you. There’s a lot of toxic men in red-pill spaces who literally talk about negging their woman to keep her in her place. It’s a form of manipulation. Run. If you want a red-pill man, great. But please educate yourself to recognize the signs of the toxic men that try to use this mindset to manipulate their own gain without having any true regard for their partners.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 07:58 PM
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And especially not without collateral. Whatever is given as incentives to low income women to have children will not be ~free
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 04:00 PM
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It’s absolutely insane than RIC isn’t a top priority in the manosphere. Just proof that they’d rather have other men suffer than educate themselves/stand up for the truly innocent. The doctor that performed all the hospitals circumcisions was male and shamed me for not cutting my son. Who would have thought that this boys mother-a woman!-would be his biggest advocate. I have and still read books on raising boys specifically. Although my son is only 6 and this is subject to change, he adores me. …
/r/ExRedPill11/02/24 03:06 PM
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You need to stop holding yourself accountable to him and start holding yourself accountable to yourself. You’re quick to point out your issues and wrongs against him which is a good sign of self awareness and accountability, great qualities for building healthy relationships. You seem to have trouble holding him accountable and putting up necessary boundaries, a terrible quality for attracting a good partner. This dudes abusive and I’m not into victim blaming but if it will help you get out, how…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 03:57 PM
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I feel like teaching men how to have compassion towards women does help men? Imo the problem with the dating crisis is the disconnect we get from men. It seems like a lot of the problems that men face in the dating world are self induced and instead of accepting accountability and changing, men just get more in their feelings and say “wHaT AbOuT wOmEnS aCcOuNtABiLiTy???” Like we’re over here literally doing all the emotional labor for you, literally giving you guys detailed road maps on how to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:32 PM
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Fear of being alone. It’s ironic bc I’m in some of those women empowerment spaces in tiktok andi saw one that said “men think they’re competing with other men when they’re really competing with the peace that women feel while they’re alone” Married around 7 years with four kids, and it never hit so hard lol. I even show my husband these somewhat silly TikTok’s sometimes to try to explain how I truly feel so we can work through things clearly. Disclaimer, I get the other end of the spectrum on my…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:22 PM
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Anecdotal but I met a guy in college who claimed to be very traditional. I was in school for animal science but did confide in him that in a perfect world, i just get my MRS, in a light hearted way. He’d make jokes about how women belong in the kitchen in group settings and tell me in private that he truly feels that way. He was waiting until marriage as was I. I know he was very attracted to me bc he was very vocal about his big butt fetish and I was slim thick or whatever 😂 He never asked me o…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:30 PM
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I look at celebrities/influencers for wisdom of what not to do. Does that count? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:37 AM
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No only celebrities apparently lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:36 AM
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You’re arguing semantics. Guilt and responsibility are somewhat interchangeable here. If it’s not her fault then there isn’t quite much she can do about it, is there?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 12:34 AM
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I disagree with this. Many, many men inherently don’t want to commit. This is definitely putting all fault on OP and just the fact alone that she is looking inward for self improvement proves that it’s not all her fault.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 09:10 PM
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Agreed except the puny brains. I don’t understand how this ideology from women is faulty at all. Isn’t it biologically sound for women to desire a partner that is kind to them and their offspring but can/will defend them from potential threats? Just makes sense that this would be the ideal. Sure some women have double standards and unrealistic expectations but I don’t think this is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:05 PM
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Mmm the gaslighting comments aren’t it for me. He’s literally behaving in a way to make you feel insecure, OP. Trust your gut. This dude doesn’t want a conversation about it because he is getting something out of these relationships (sexual or not) and he doesn’t intend to quit and doesn’t have the respect for you to even communicate that up front instead so he just continually brushes it off. It’s okay to have “no opposite gender friends” rules. But if he isn’t on board, it’s a lost cause and y…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 01:56 PM
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I took a very similar red-pill approach with my husband and it bred a monster. Sure it can be chalked up to a character flaw in him, but it’s still an issue, and clearly a prevalent one even with men who get king treatment. I started exposing myself to some other types of content and came to the realization that I would be healthier without him so I told him I’m done. He was blindsided like I haven’t been lovingly and gently trying to bring up these serious issues for years. He immediately got i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 05:09 PM
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I can see your point but don’t quite agree. First of all, romance novels aren’t visual or as instant as porn. A woman still has to put in time and effort to read them. This could be an issue if the books are getting the time and effort instead of her relationship though. As a woman, I wouldn’t mind if my husband was reading romance/erotica IF it was inspiring aspects of our relationship instead of creating unrealistic expectations or standards. I think it’s a lot more common for a book to be abl…
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 02:23 PM
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Fair point. But I’d argue to say it hurts women more. Since society has glorified and accepted porn so much, most women aren’t even emboldened enough to say they aren’t okay with it. Of the few that are, how many actually catch their man in the act? Of those few, how many actually leave? It still seems to dramatically hurt the woman more than the man. My best friend left her husband over it. She’s gorgeous and now a single mother who can’t find anyone while he was easily able to find someone els…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:53 PM
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I think you’re absolutely right. I think you’d also be surprised at the amount of women hurting in marriages because their husbands won’t give up porn-even when the woman does everything “right”, especially women who are aging. The sexual revolution has made it so many men are able to get a real woman and still have a different fantasy on the side so still a win for them imo. The revolution didn’t force men to go to porn, but it has drastically reduced the pool of men available for women who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:26 AM
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But now regular guys have porn. So they still get to see all their sexual fantasies play out without having to improve themselves in order to bag a real woman. Now they get off without any background nagging or effort. So I’d say, still a win for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 11:00 PM
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I mean I’m happy to hear that. I’m 5’7 and even then, my personal experience is that I’ve been considered tall and men prefer shorter women. For what it’s worth, I’m conventionally attractive, above average, so I don’t imagine there’s other extreme physical issues and “tall” was just the excuse. I hear a lot about guys not wanting a girl that’s too tall. I don’t think anyone comes in here to “lie”. I think it’s a space to hear personal experience and outlooks from opposing sides. So I’m happy to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 07:45 PM
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Somewhat agree with this. While women nowadays technically choose who to marry and reproduce with, it was historically been the FATHERS who decide who their daughters go to. And I don’t imagine that the majority of their dads were factoring in “caring and empathetic” when choosing someone. They were factoring in what would be the most benefit to them, financially. I’m curious what the world would look like in 200 years if it was the MOTHERS who chose the husbands for their daughters and they wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 04:57 PM
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I don’t see the true hate for short men in real life. I feel like hating on short men is just counter culture to men degrading women for their looks? And I’m not comparing height to obesity. Like I understand a man not being attracted to an overweight woman. But I think you’d find a lot of short (and tall) guys who don’t want a taller woman than you’d find women who are actually vehemently against short guys. I joined r/ shortkings because I thought it was funny and my husband is short but I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 04:50 PM
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I mean, yeah. Being able to read that and be smug that a woman is being treated that way absolutely shows emotional and character flaws. Furthermore, going out of your way to spend your time egging it on rather than scrolling the fuck by shows further issues with your character. It’s totally reasonable to feel kinda bad for someone but not want to deal with the emotional effort of engaging in their problems, especially if they’re a stranger online. Nobody on Reddit owes me their emotional effort…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:46 PM
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All the “this ”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:25 PM
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Ah and here we have a perfect example of a “Red Pill Man’s” emotional intelligence and capacity for compassion. Thank you for further proving my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:21 PM
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Rip CatRat
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:27 PM
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I literally complained to our counselor about actual marital rape and she confirmed and used the term rape. Her response was “well do you ask for his consent when you hug him?”. Like no I’m sorry I didn’t think that was equivalent to forcing yourself in your 36 week pregnant wife who has a UTI to the point where it irritates it so much that she gets a kidney infection and has to be hospitalized over night to monitor the baby. Therapists aren’t just some paid hire to shit on men, and if it feels …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:25 PM
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I read an article about how a little boy fell and broke his leg because the house was messy. His mom was overwhelmed, and breastfeeding the youngest when she saw it happen. A dirty house also affects the children’s mental health. Their dads orgasms don’t (unless he’s a douche who lashes out on his family). Sure sex is important but what’s classified as lack of sex??? My husband never let me go more than two weeks PP without having to put out again. The longest he’s ever been without sex when I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:20 PM
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Good men do. My Reddit is kinda where I whine about my husband since it’s anonymous so this comment may not be on par with most of my history lol but yes, good men do. My husband loves to smugly tell his coworkers that I stay home with the kids and he’s happy about it. Not in a controlling way but in an “I make it work for the betterment of the family” way. They all make the same wage and it isn’t much, so the fact that he’s willing to make sacrifices so I can stay home speaks to his character.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 07:03 AM
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I really like Chantal Heide-I believe her name is. She’s on tiktok. She has some books. She’s proclaimed “canadas dating coach” in case I got her name wrong
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 05:26 AM
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No he just straight up told us lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:51 PM
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I’ve been to a male strip show when I was in college and it wasn’t all that great. First of all, (imo) beauty is much more subjective in women, especially when it comes to facial features. I didn’t think any of them were “hot”. My friend did but she’s also a train wreck lol. Also, during the show, I found the women to almost be sexualized more than the men. The strippers would bring women up on stage and smack their asses/ect. I didn’t like it because I went to see men disrespected, not women lo…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 11:58 PM
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TLDR: women are community builders, men aren’t I haven’t experienced this. (As a pretty woman) I was miserable when I was young and single. All I wanted was commitment but the men were really boys and wanted to play around without commitment. I was lucky enough to find my now husband somewhat young but we were the first of anyone to get married and have a family, years before anyone else we knew. Women also have higher standards for intimacy and more emotional intelligence than men. Many women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:09 PM
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Her brought up the threesome thing on his own? First time meeting her? Did she act any way to point to this? That’s the biggest red flag I see here.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 03:48 AM
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I would go for the surgery because based off your responses, it doesn’t look like getting a masters degree is it for you
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 04:29 AM
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Even if you aren’t mutually exclusive, men who seek out that content are a huge red flag in and of themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 04:47 AM
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Depends on your level of self motivation and self discipline. I wasted my stay at home wife time and I still hate myself for it sometimes. Now that I’m a mom, I’m much more self motivated and disciplined to spend my time constructively but I have kids added in. So if you do go the stay at home route, make sure you cherish this time to create things and learn. Don’t just scroll, watch tv, and sleep, even if the house is clean and food is made.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 11:53 PM
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This
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:19 AM
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Yeah OP I was in pain reading these responses. I’m legitimately shocked that there are actual women that believe that’s the problem and solution. While no you don’t want to get into a cycle of perpetuating your victim hood-you do need to realize that you ARE the victim in this situation. You can either choose to stay the victim or choose to leave. But he clearly isn’t changing whether you take the “please him and don’t ever make him feel any uncomfortable emotion ever” approach or not. Please do…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:15 AM
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I don’t think a lot of women do. Peoples feelings have come in the way of educating about the inherent biological differences, like the role testosterone plays and how men have more fast twitch muscle fibers, ect
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 09:41 PM
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Well I’m married now and I subscribe to the mindset where it’s inappropriate to have friends of the opposite sex (that aren’t mainly spouses friends). But beforehand, men don’t seem to have the same emotional intelligence and depth as women so it’s not like I’d be making a friend to have a deep connection with. There wasn’t really any common ground or shared interests to begin with. Being the only girl in a group of guys is ostracizing and one guy in a group of girls is usually a toxic person, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:57 PM
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Woman here. I sure don’t want any male friends. I never have. I align more with how men view women in this quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:47 PM
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Breastfeeding mom here. I’ve heard many stories about women who went from an A cup to a full C after breastfeeding and never lost any volume after weaning. I know I won’t be so lucky. My breasts are extremely uneven now and I think they are sort of starting to sag. As for coping, it’s just something I accept comes with the process. Do I love the way my breasts look? No. But I also went from like a AA to a G so I’m trying to enjoy my body in every phase and let my husband do the same. I think ult…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 10:00 AM
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Absolutely this. I’d say the only deal breaker would be if the blood was from an STD he knew about but didn’t tell you about. Idk what STD would even cause that or if that’s a thing...but yeah just find out WHY the blood came out and give him a pass on everything else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 06:43 AM
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Seemingly only a problem in blue locked down states currently...but regardless, thanks again.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 01:24 AM
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Really loved these positive suggestions-thank you! I will definitely implement them. You make very great points all around!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 10:39 PM
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I never said it was. That’s why I said it was wrong of me and I posted online to a group of people whom I know would stick up for my husband where he needs it?? Like everybody gets pushed to their breaking point every once in a while, that doesn’t mean I’m not still trying to improve.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 10:37 PM
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Not currently, but trying there too! Just moved to this area and found a church-looking forward to when they have more studies/events when quarantine permits...
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 10:36 PM
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Trying! Just can’t get in anywhere with the mental heathy system overwhelmed with COVID. But we’ve downloaded a few automated apps to keep our communication better at the very least, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 10:34 PM
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I made this post because I feel like it’s nearly impossible for me to be feminine when he is always the one that is. I put myself in a position to serve him because I knew he hated cooking-yes I could have communicated better beforehand but I didn’t want him to think I was asking out of obligation. I just wanted to do it for him. I tried to keep a healthy line of communication after it upset him though. I have no idea how I didn’t “submit” to him about the Snapchat guy. Wtf was I suppose to “sub…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 10:33 PM
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Sounds like he’ll do what he needs to do to provide lol I’d keep him But serious, he’s a lawyer now. It’s not like he used to sell drugs and now he’s a factory worker-I don’t see him going back to that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:03 AM
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Thank you! Very well put. I know I have not handled things appropriately and I can do much better. I hope to bring your insight into my future decision making and reasoning. He truly is amazing and this repetitive behavior is out of character for him as a whole. I think all the points about apologizing/offering reconciliation up to a point and then being done with it are very valid. He took the kids out to a park today after our mishap and came back a completely changed man. I appreciate that he…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 06:02 AM
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Good idea-thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:55 AM
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Thank you. I appreciate this. Ultimately, I think you hit the nail on the head. He is really a great man-obviously nobody posts as much online about the positives. Typing this all out and getting input helped me get a better perspective on the situation and appreciate that he definitely deserves to be cut a break, especially given what he’s going through. I blocked the Snapchat guy and I’ll delete the whole thing completely as I’m truly never on there. I understand how it can look and how his br…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:55 AM
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Not helpful whatsoever but okay. We have 3 kids but I guess we’ll just get divorced bc his uncontrollable feelings deserve more sympathy 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 11:13 PM
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That’s a healthy approach. I like how you can still set boundaries while maintaining warmth. I hope to embody that better in the future!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 08:46 PM
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You summed it up so well. That really helps put into words why this is such a hard issue for us to address. I really appreciate that! Hopefully ignoring can help stop spreading the fire!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 08:45 PM
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No male friends as we’ve just relocated to a new area for his job. I truly think he has “irritable male syndrome” because he feels he has no purpose or value. He’s new to the navy and the ship he’s assigned to is deployed. In the mean time, his command has instructed him to literally do nothing. He’s not allowed to volunteer, moonlight, or do anything to “break quarantine”. I know he must be going crazy so I try to take that into consideration as well. I’m hoping things will improve when the shi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 08:44 PM
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Thank you. The validation does help. I know I haven’t handled things perfectly but it helps to know that I do have some validity in how I am interpreting things differently from him. I appreciate your sound advice on how to handle it and I thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:00 PM
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PREACH
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 07:19 PM
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I appreciate that. That’s why I keep arguing 😅 not to try to push dissent away but because discord genuinely helps
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 07:18 PM
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The reason women wind up with guys like that is because society has a problem of blaming women instead of supporting them when they try to hold men accountable, thus making women less likely to hold those guys accountable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 03:54 PM
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Regardless of if I should be able to do that (idk why we would agree to designate the smoker as responsible for the kids) It was agreed upon that I wouldn’t have to be before I got high. So regardless of smoking-we agreed that I would be in a ~relieved~ mental frame of mind. High or not, it would be pretty shitty to promise someone a break from responsibility and then berate them when they actually take it IMO.
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 03:46 PM
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Fair enough. I never said I behaved perfectly though. And that’s something I would have handled better if I wasn’t high so I don’t think the weed is a made up excuse. If I was granted like 3 minutes to take a breath or asked “you seem emotion heredo you just need a minute?” I feel like I would have functioned much more properly. I’m very strong, independent, & capable and sometimes it presents itself in flat out shutting down when I don’t have a positive way to address someone who has met me wit…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 03:41 PM
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I already stated I genuinely appreciate dissension. I just also have to state my disagreement with it 😅 I was expecting mixed results, which I got, and which I appreciate. My disagreement is always up for debate as well. Maybe my reasoning is wrong in disagreeing and that needs to be called out-so might as well put it all out there? Sorry for any confusion
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 03:35 AM
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I couldn’t explain it because he got angry before I even got a second to. That’s my point. Was I capable of forming sentences and responding to him-yes, and I asked him if it could wait until the next day. I didn’t get blazed out of my mind-and even if I did, I don’t believe that I should have to live every second of my life a parent. I deserve identity outside of motherhood. When I schedule childcare (especially with the other parent), I expect to be RELIEVED of having parental duties. Taking t…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 12:29 AM
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Alright well each child & parenting strategy is different. I can’t be in a calm headspace to address what needs to be addressed when my kids aren’t supervised and that doesn’t make me a bad wife.
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 12:22 AM
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Thank you! Yes, what I worry about is the kids. Luckily we talked last night after they went to bed & I was able to express how I felt and I believe he understands, we’ll see if things get anywhere. I was very clear that they WILL get better one way or another, whether his behavior improves or I leave. Staying with this behavior isn’t an option. He’s scared to go to therapy since the Navy has a habbit of discharging members for saying the wrong thing in therapy so we’ll see where that goes... Bu…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 09:36 PM
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Well maybe someone who doesn’t smoke regularly doesn’t handle that as well. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 09:28 PM
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We have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. Do you have kids? Would you leave children that age unattended?? Also, I NEVER opted out. I just asked that it wait.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 09:24 PM
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Thank you, yes. I asked him to sort out a therapist for us and he had some roadblocks with COVID so he gave up. He says it’s now my responsibility if I care enough but I’m having trouble since it’s HIM that’s the service member. I’ll keep at it until I find a solution. And I understand the smoking. I will say, I verified that my husband was going to be the sober adult and I think it counts for ~something~. Everybody unwinds in different ways and if childcare is accounted for, the freedom to esca…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 02:27 AM
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Well we don’t have any other option to talk alone. He gets angry and loud when we speak so I don’t feel comfortable doing it after the kids go to bed. We have no childcare because we are new to this area without any support and nobody is accepting intermittent childcare or in person therapy because COVID. I do appreciate your discord, although I feel you are excessively harsh with me.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 02:24 AM
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Thank you, this really helped me feel better, especially with other comments (although I respect and welcome disagreement!) We’re about to sit down for dinner & this was a much appreciated validation I needed. Heck I’m sure I’m in the wrong in many aspects, but I feel like some validation in my feelings and handling of things is required in order for me to be able to better understand myself & how to fix MY own problems I may bring to the table. Again, Much appreciated! I’ll make therapy happen …
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 02:22 AM
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I think you make great points! OP still has the right to hold all her boundaries. I didn’t mean to imply she doesn’t. I mean, it may grant OP some sanity to know that MIL might not be aware. Boundaries should absolutely stay firm! I just mean to say that if the intent isn’t there with MIL, the impact may not get under OPs skin as much on a personal level...if that makes sense?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 01:36 AM
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I never said it did. Maybe mother in law genuinely doesn’t even know she’s violating boundaries. My guess is that MIL probably has no concept that OP even has issue with the way she is acting. I mean OP made it clear that MIL didn’t have very good social bearing-correct? All I’m saying is that it isn’t crazy to consider that MIL truly isn’t doing this intentionally to OP. She’s probably just extremely un-self/socially-aware.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:51 AM
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I completely agree with you that future MIL sounds this way and I’m genuinely sorry that you have to deal with it. I will say that her “You’ll have someone new to answer to” line, almost actually seems really accepting of you. Bare with me but it seemed like that comment was an acceptance of you being appointed to take over her role. She just seems very distasteful and obnoxious. Absolutely agree about the power struggle and control issue thing. Also, she probably did want to get you alone in or…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:40 AM
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I was merrily trying to shed insight, not undermine. This may be extremely in-appropriate but I make jokes all the time about how I’m so lucky my husbands mother died before I met him because I could never handle a MIL. (She ODed so she wasn’t anyone to want around my kids anyway) Humor is the best medicine, my husband actually made the joke first. Anyway, I just thought it was unhealthy for OP to so quickly develop such a vehemently negative stance of her future MIL. Absolutely justified for he…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:30 AM
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Nope, just extremely extroverted. I do have a son so I will probably be a mother in law one day. I’ve always told myself I’ll kiss her ass but who knows, maybe I’ll turn into a monster in law if DIL automatically assumes the absolute worst of me like OP seems to. Some people’s flaws show more than others. Some people misinterpret intentions or behaviors. Some people are completely comfortable with things others aren’t. OP and MIL clearly aren’t compatible which is okay, but I’m just saying this …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:25 AM
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Maybe I’m insane but you sound a little resentful of her without good reason. So you find her obnoxious, fair enough. But did she not insist on including you in your partners contest? She even offered to stay in the car WITH you and watch. She was willing to sacrifice going into the actual event so you could still be a part of the experience and not be alone. Sure she sounds like a proud, pompous woman. But nowhere in your summary of her did I get impression that she treated you as lesser, or th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 04:49 AM
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I never said there was. THIS specific guy can’t be with a woman who remained chaste but happened to be raped. That’s crazy.
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 08:56 PM
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Run far away. Clearly he has some serious problems of his own if rape was a deal breaker for him. He has an unheathy obsession with purity and the affect that can have on daughters is dangerous. Also, he seems like he has some serious alpha/confidence issues if he can’t stomach the idea of his woman being with any other man prior, especially since it was not consensual. A stable and confident man would have the mental capacity to understand and move past that with maturity. What’s this guys back…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 02:20 AM
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I know this is an old post (I used the search bar) But I just wanted to say that your child WILL grow out of needing you regardless. My personal take is enjoy this time feeding your baby at night and don’t force a separation that neither of you want (yet). I think I just wanted to get my word in because I feel strongly about this based off my personal situation. My husband, 3yo, & 1yo all share a king bed and we live in 400sqft. He gets to unwind while I lay the kids down then I sneak away and w…
/r/RedPillWives09/11/20 11:24 PM
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I’m in the subreddit RPW because it’s one of the few women based subs that don’t “hate men”. But I do NOT submit to my husband so there’s definitely a spectrum. We are equals although we still serve ‘traditional’ roles in the family. I’m pretty liberal and all about personal choices but it seems like not many other subs on reddit respect that some women genuinely like the ‘traditional’ roles. To each their own!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 04:10 PM
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I’ve never been one to advocate for leaving but for me personally, this is something I could never recover from. I’d leave and find someone who appreciates you and at the very least is respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 02:52 PM
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I signed up for the Ipsy bag & I love it! 12 bucks a month and they send you tailored samples. You can also buy full products for a fraction each month as add ons
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 10:47 AM
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Sounds like you’re a victim of “purity culture”. I’d look into trying to heal some of that as it’s something I still struggle with myself. I’m still happy I chose to wait as long as I did. But I’m also happy I had sex before marriage and found someone I’m sexually compatible with. (I’ve done other acts but only ended up having PIV sex with my now husband though)
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 10:49 PM
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Substance and a person and morals are different. People generally tend to behave terribly and outside of their usual character within a divorce. I’m not saying it’s justified but I’m saying it’s a more realistic way to look at things. My husband and I joke about this with each other. We love each other so much and feel so passionately that we know if something ever happened to where we’d divorce, we couldn’t help but be vindictive. We know we’ll never divorce, we just also know how humans work. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:51 PM
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That’s fair. Your post isn’t so bad but lots of comments and your agreement with other comments make you sounds hella douchey. So take what I say as insult but maybe you should be concerned with how you present yourself to others because from the likes of it, it didn’t seem to me like the character your presenting matched that of someone who has substance. You seem awfully defensive. Genuinely wishing you & future prospects the best
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 07:55 PM
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Forgive me for speaking in stereotypes for the sake of flow here, but you sound extremely out of touch and devoid of any real substance other than money. Rich girl here and I’m so happy I married a poor man. I under went a MAJOR lifestyle shift when we started dating but I have substance so I didn’t value that higher than love. He has so much more character and drive (ESPECIALLY in the bedroom) than any spoon-fed rich boy creep. I didn’t have divorce in mind whatsoever when I got married because…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 12:30 PM
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You don’t want a “tighter” vagina. You want to be able to control better. I use the Perifit kegel exerciser. But even before I started using that, my husband didn’t think there was any difference after either kid. Your vagina is SUPPOSE to “loosen” up for sex. You feeling tighter at point of entry is totally normal, expected. Being open and relaxed is what to expect physically during healthy intercourse. Weird question you don’t have to actually answer but have you ever had anal with him? Maybe …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 02:32 AM
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It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t reciprocate feelings, it’s totally inappropriate to keep a woman around that so clearly and obviously wants him romantically. If he doesn’t cease all contact with her, I’d cease all contact with him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:56 PM
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I am an avid believer in being able to be completely open and honest. Bring it up to him with clothes on and if he can’t communicate the problem in a healthy way, that’s a red flag in general IMO. I will say, cunnilingus orgasms are a whole new level. Idk if you’ve ever experienced one but keep in mind how hard it could be to enjoy monogamy with someone who just doesn’t share your same desires. Some guys just don’t like doing that, period, and that’s okay. I can’t enjoy it if they are doing it o…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 05:52 PM
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He's not a jerk for wanting more sexually but he's a jerk for saying "you get tired of the old and want something new". So He's tired of you cause you're old and he just wants a new piece of ass? He didn't offer any way to spice up your bedroom. He went straight to "you're boring me because you aren't fresh"
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 11:04 PM
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I think more activity would benefit you. I'm 25 weeks without and workout restrictions so I still do weights and cardio daily along with yoga weekly. I thought walking was enough exercise in my first pregnancy but I had a terrible labor and recovery, I think from not staying truly active. I highly suggest more physical activity IF it feels right and you don't have restrictions. I still challenge myself at the gym. That may be less than what I'd do if I weren't pregnant but I make sure I still fe…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 09:40 PM
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I married a Michael Thunder. My parents were very disappointment, I sure as hell am not. We are so damn poor but so damn happy
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 09:09 PM
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Maybe it was just all the women willing to put up with a Dylan that only cared about money lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:49 PM
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My husbands best friend's wife is somewhat like what you described here but he does not reciprocate. And she is very sweet to me, we like eachother very much. The big difference is I believe she is just that type of affectionate person and she only behaves that way WITH her husband around. The weirdest aspect about your situation to me is how they didn't greet eachother like this with her husband around, which implies he wouldn't be okay with it because it is simply socially inappropriate.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 12:53 PM
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My "lazy clean" routine is taking and old towel after a shower and just wiping/drying everything in the bathroom. It gets all the dust that accumulates in crevaces and keeps the tiles from getting dirty as quickly
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 12:23 PM
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I use tinted EltaMD sunscreen. It protects from aging and looks somewhat like foundation. $30 on Amazon is kindof pricey for us but it's my one beauty product I "need" (nothing prevents aging like sunscreen) and that I will wear daily without irritation. It doesn't feel heavy on my skin or cause breakouts, which everything seems to this pregnancy
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 12:18 PM
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I know you mentioned you aren't in a position to get a gym membership but I suggest putting yourself in that position. Our gym is somewhat pricey, 50 a month but SO worth it. I get up to 2 hours of childcare a day. I workout for an hour then I can shower or knit or whatever. My son is 20 months and LOVES playing there. Our gym also has an indoor pool, hot tub, gym, track, rock wall, weights, cardio, and group classes. I was in your boat but nothing did it for me like the gym membership
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 12:01 PM
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Probably because he is 38 so talking to an 18 year old is annoying to him. You have substance but I don't imagine a guy this much older caring to see it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 11:52 AM
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A younger guy can't provide what this guy does but they would give you a real relationship. Your impatience in wanting an already established man is hurting you more than helping. It sucks, I've been there. But isn't you somewhat using this guy to provide equivalent to how he's using you as a pretty maid? If you want substance, you are going to have to struggle a bit with someone your own age. I married for love and my husband is able to provide the bare minimum until he advances but I can wait …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 11:49 AM
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All I can input is my husband saying how he can't fathom dating an 18 year old like other guys do because he couldn't talk to them or make a connection, and we're 25. I'm not equating you to the average frivolous 18yo but a big age gap like that still leaves a lot of room for distance. You're at an age where most guys your age suck and most guys wanting to date a lot younger suck too. Not discouraging you from dating guys with the age difference but make sure you have a connection. This guy, spe…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 11:42 AM
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I was a virgin when I had sex with my husband (before marriage) and I regret rushing into it. I wish we had more build-up so I'd at least wait until 6 months after its no longer long distance
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 11:32 AM
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Oh yeah I check out that sub too. I haven't had time or energy to post about my mom but I enjoy reading the stories in a strange relatable way
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 02:19 AM
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No abuse here but I'd consider myself to have mommy issues. My mother is insanely controlling even into my adulthood. My father was deployed most of my life so never really there to stick up for me and if he did, she would legitimately threaten divorce over every minute thing. I don't think she truly loves him but just loves how he has been able to provide well. My mom has never had to have a job since she got pregnant with her first child, she never cleans, although she did cook but health was …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 04:42 PM
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That's fair. I think the reason many women get "so much" in the divorce is because many times, the man would have not been able to advance as far in his career if he did not have someone staying home giving quality care to his children, taking care of the house, running errands, and cooking meals. But that's all under the assumption that women/mothers behave perfectly in the marriage which is the problem. I'm fine with the notion that whoever sacrifices should get their share (given they aren't …
/r/MGTOW25/06/19 06:58 PM
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My husband never wanted any of the girls in his friend group because his friend group all slept with eachother. That's marriage material imo. Someone who doesn't mind continuslly3 seeing or being around people they/their partner has been with in the past either isn't being honest with themselves or has very low standard for relationship intimacy. I'd pass on this guy and try to find some more adult friends if you are looking for more adult relationships
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 02:32 PM
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I'm a firm believer that it's unnatural for men and women to be "just friends". I'm not saying it isn't possible as I've obviously been just friends with many men and vice versa worth my husband, but now that we are married, we don't have very close friends of the opposite sex. Maybe that's old fashioned and "Mike Pence-y" but whatever. I only read the TLDR but I don't think you're crazy. My husband had a female best friend since middle school and she was always very rude to me, he cut her off b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 02:22 PM
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I would really take her parenting into detailed consideration because this will affect your potential children greatly, especially the more time they spend around their half sibling. By beginning serious with this man, YOU will also be co-parenting with the mother as well as this would be your step-child. For me personally, I have a neice via marriage and I hate having my own children around her because I don't want them emulating her behavior or what is normalized for her being normalized to th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 02:09 PM
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Also BIG thing to remeber is that there are other ways to get off than vaginal intercourse. I say don't do baby making acts worth someone unless you are ready for potential consequence of a baby. There's so many other ways, including simply touching yourself with the other person. After the release, you usually think clearer.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 01:21 PM
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As someone who has only had sex with my husband, I'd make the same decision again. I will admit that I sometimes resent that he had sex with other women before me but it hasn't negatively affected us. I was just worried I'd be more bonded to him than he is me but we have talked openly about it and it isn't an issue at all. I was also intimate in other ways than intercourse with other men before him and I know they didn't leave a mark on me. I will say we had sex before marriage (but I planned to…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 12:03 PM
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These were good reads "The War Against Boys" by Christina Hoff Somers "Manning Up" by Kay S. Hymowitz "Bringing Up Boys" by Dr. James Dobson
/r/MGTOW25/06/19 11:12 AM
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Maybe she still wasn't satisfied because she truly loved your dad and she would have rather had an intact marriage than 1.5 million? Dad was verbally abusive and cheats at bars while all your mom did was nag? You aren't making the best case here
/r/MGTOW25/06/19 10:43 AM
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