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I think like many things, patterns are important to recognize. I have dated many men of other ethnicities, same ethnicities, local or immigrants, etc. There was never any hard-and-fast rule of "immigrants treat me better/worse" or "men of x ethnicity treat me better/worse". I know one of your questions is about whether Western men come to your country for the sole reason of getting laid, and I guarantee you that for many of them the answer is yes, and for plenty of them the answer is no (or at l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:44 PM
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It gets exhausting. I had a friend message me at all hours of the night “my daughter and I are unsafe, I will message you when I can, please don’t reach I because it could compromise our safety.” Fleeing from her abusive ex. Days later, “Well he is not usually like this, I love him and don’t want to give up on him.” Again and again. It’s stressful. I don’t lack empathy. I fear for her and her daughters safety, for hours or days until I hear back. I had to pull back on the friendship because I ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:07 PM
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LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣 "Single people make babies too." Is that how it works?? As a woman with a uterus I had actually no idea that single people can make babies, I am absolutely floored, and also desperate now to date this Happy Person who is nothing like the men in my past. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 03:38 PM
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I don’t understand. It sounds like his girlfriend walks around with the means to give others tattoos? Like she brought ink and the machine to his parents house, and gave his mom a quick little ink while OP and his dad were in the backyard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:49 AM
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This happened to my friend, almost exactly. She was even a wedding planner. Always dreamed about getting married. She's been with this scrote now for 10 years. They bought a house together. Had a kid. Planning on a second kid. She will go through periods of complete devastation because she wants to be married, and he will dangle the idea in front of her (has been for about 5 fucking years), like "What kind of stone would you want on the ring?" and shit. Then, she will go through periods of tryin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:11 AM
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It is hard. Take breaks, from FDS and from the whole internet, go outside, see people in person--especially at the beginning. Remind yourself that it's still ok to enjoy things. I struggled with that at first, feeling like I spent so many years blind to this horrible reality, it felt irresponsible to just enjoy a book or play with my dog. I found FDS during the pandemic around the time a situationship was imploding and I blamed myself for him disrespecting me. I couldn't believe that what I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:37 PM
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for example, let's say my partner and I live one hour away. I work 100 percent remote while my partner doesn't then is it okay for me to move a little closer for the sake of time saving, and convenience or is that considered too much? I think a good rule of thumb is, "If we were to break up tomorrow, would I regret this compromise?" If you move closer to him, and something happened and you broke up tomorrow, would you feel pissed that you left a good living situation or location for something th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:03 PM
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I think there's a point where fantasizing turns into obsession, a sense of "need" and desperation, and that is a problem. The idea that this person--crush, fictional character, etc--is the whole answer to what is missing from your life (the "royal you", as it were), can become a problem. Personally I really like the Netflix show The Last Kingdom, and the main character Uhtred is like so hot. I love his character's personality. I think "I want an HVM that inspires loyalty from others like that" a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:01 PM
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He's not lol. This is a line I've heard several times from different men, mostly in bar settings, and obviously I never progress anything with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:25 PM
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"iT wAs cOmPletELY oUt Of thE BLuE!!" 🤣🤣 I always thought it would be a great drinking game. I hear it all the time from men who were left for being shitty, it's amazing to me. My exes included. Wild. I have no idea why she left! Babe you were an asshole for so much of the relationship, I just spent an hour or two meticulously explaining your shitty behavior to you. It was completely out of the blue! No, baby, I've been crying almost every day for months if not years, I have tried to communicate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:09 AM
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Lmao they always say the same thing don’t they. Woman: I am breaking up with you for x reason. Man, and everyone they allegedly talk to: She is lying and obviously cheating, that is the only possible explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:52 AM
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23 and me says I'm part viking Lmfao my ex said the same thing 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:21 AM
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Male, 30s. I give women what they need, not what they think they want. I saw this advice on a YouTube video. I've also talked to women who stay with jerks, so I know exactly what keeps women sexually attracted to men. If you stop sucking my dick, I KNOW I've been too nice to you, so don't worry--I'll fix that. I'm not insecure about how nice I am and how that may affect our sex life. If you're having a bad day, obviously it's because I've been too nice to you and you're losing sexual attraction …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:16 AM
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Ha! That is a perfect translation. My usual response is either a blank stare or "Well, they've tried." And usually these guys will also say "I have ## children from # women!" like they're proud of it. I'm not looking for a deadbeat baby daddy, sir, though your offer is shockingly difficult to turn down, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:00 AM
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I was thinking the same thing. Fuels the RP ideology that nasty ass old scrotes bang barely-legal babes and break their hearts as they hit the wall like the hardcore bachelors they think they are. And then the women will love and pine after their old ass dicks for the rest of time. And post about it on Reddit. 3 years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:00 AM
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I went to a single-sex university. Best decision of my life. Tragically, most of them are closing now because of lack of funding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:01 PM
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No way are you overreacting. You did not say “Man, I commute so far for work, I wish I could find a place to rent, or even a good roommate situation. Do you have any suggestions?” He thinks he can take advantage of a “desperate, struggling” young woman (which you are not). Any decent person would ASSUME a young woman would rather live with other women. Nasty ass scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:30 PM
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By that logic…the same applies to him, yes? “No reason to refuse” lmao. He must have read a tip online that says “how to get a woman to agree to anal - just LOGIC her into it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:18 PM
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I did not tell him off or anything, he was kind of crazy and I didn't want to risk him getting volatile and violent. I just said thank you for my things, no I don't want to get back together, yes that's it, good bye. Interesting thought on it being a powerplay. It was definitely timing--he mentioned something about how sad he was that it was about to be Valentine's, and if only we had worked out we could have spent it together. The item of clothing though, I'm not sure he would be strategic enou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:02 PM
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“Well, I mean, have you met…men?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:06 PM
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This was a great episode. Thank you ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:35 AM
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Actual recent conversation with a now-ex boyfriend: Him: "So...what turns you on?" Me: "Oh, like a slow escalation, lots of kissing, teasing--" "No, no, I mean--what turns you on? Like gets you really wet?" "...I'm telling you. Slow-escalation, kissing--" "No!" exasperated sigh "Not like that, like...what gets you off, like what gets you really turned on?" ".... I'm telling you. I understand the question." The correct answer, I'm sure, was something along the lines of "stick it in me without any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:48 AM
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Good lord. I'm so sorry you went through that and I'm SO GLAD that you left him and I am even MORE GLAD that you and your children are not starving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:39 AM
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But we know so many of them don't wipe (or wipe well) anyway. "Only 1 roll of toilet paper? No problem, I'll just go without." 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:34 AM
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The men's lawsuit alleges, among other things, that Fritz's social media criticism amounts to "inciting harassment and wide-spread hate" of them online. The hypocrisy kills me. "We are being harassed! Doesn't anyone how understand how emotionally damaging this is to us?? All we did was laugh about how much we enjoy harassing women!!" As if women are not emotionally damaged by being harassed by them? How can they be so fucking blind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:04 PM
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I'm so tired of libfems pretending like these "rules" are bulletproof, sustainable long term [...] This was my mistake. I fell all for the BDSM woo for various reasons, drank the koolaid around "rules" and "boundaries" and "communication" being bulletproof. After all, Setting And Respecting BoundariesTM is the how BDSM markets itself as a "safe, sexy" thing. But people who are into BDSM (especially these "doms") get "caught up in the moment/roleplay" and conveniently "forget" your boundaries, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:24 PM
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This is a great question, and I think like others have said, it takes time to kind of figure it out. I remember when I was a teenager, through my early-20s, I had similar feelings of "how do I figure out what physical traits I'm attracted to?" I was asked once at 19 what I like physically in a guy I was like "uh....legs? Maybe?" even though I definitely wasn't but I was trying to think of something to say. I have definitely fallen for men who are very (sometimes very) unattractive, because their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:34 PM
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I see a lot of negative comments about this post, and I want to comment to that. I was raised on Disney Princess films, and honestly I don't blame my parents because that's what was available at the time. By the time I was in preschool, I was dead-set on getting married and having babies. There was a boy at my preschool I fell desperately in love with, and would do anything to assure we would get married in the future. So this is like before 4-years-old. And to be honest, I don't really remember…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:31 AM
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LMFAO. Honestly kind of makes me want to re-sign-up for OLD so I can practice FDS strategies 🤣 "Hey can I take you out for dinner?" Sure! That sounds nice 😊. "Awesome, can't wait to fuck your virgin ass with my tongue hun." Block & Delete "OMG WHY DO WOMEN GHOST?! Don't they know that's like totally disrespectful and hurtful, after all I said I would take her out for dinner?! WTF?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:32 AM
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Omg SERIOUSLY about OLD not being good for mental health. I was in the feeling of "this should be fun" and "this is harmless pandemic flirting" and it turned out to be all COVID deniers, gaslighters, and angry angry men, yikes. PROPS TO YOU for working towards your better job and your surgery! I just wanted to send you some love and good vibes, a lot of what you're saying resonates with me girl, and I'm so glad you've found this community ❤️ My favorite thing about working out is less around wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:16 AM
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I am loving all of these comments. Dumped my situationship last fall after finding FDS. Went on one other date as I was in the middle of reading the handbook. Long-time crush (anti-FDS sentiment, which I know now). He didn't pay. Block & delete, my first time. Not going to lie, he was beautiful, and I didn't want to do it (his arms, omg), I wanted to believe he was/could become the dream I had fantasized about (he was soooooo fine UGH WHY). But I literally came home from the date and read the po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:59 AM
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This reminds me of a heartbreaking cross-post that was posted here a few weeks back. This woman was adopted, and her dream was always to adopt a child herself. She used this as a vetting tool essentially to weed out men who weren't interested in adoption. She found a guy, he's totally all for it, they get married. He's helping her research the ins and outs of it, always has positive things to say about it. He does this for years. YEARS. Then she goes "Hey, so I think it's time, let's go out and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:39 AM
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In my experience women with children who judge women who are childfree do so, sadly, because of jealousy. They may have kids with an LVM who is not around, have to bear the burden of the work, or felt they had kids because that's what women are supposed to want. Women who feel secure with their partner and in their marriage would not worry about their husband scurrying off with another woman because she doesn't want children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:43 PM
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In the past, I have fallen into the habit of "auditioning to be the wife". Lots of these traits come naturally to me, more or less, but more importantly (to me), these things make me feel good. I enjoy helping people. I enjoy cooking and cleaning and hosting, I'm empathetic and enjoy caring for people. In past relationships, I have fallen hard and headfirst into the bad habit of assuming the "wifey" role--because I'm good at it, I enjoy it, I like helping people, and I want this guy to like me, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:20 AM
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But hold on wait--did you tell him in that exact way though? Like with those exact words? /s It has you flipping through the rolodex of your memory, recalling exactly verbatim word-for-word every conversation you've had--did you say it in that exactly most especially explicit way? Well, maybe you flipped a couple words around and perhaps you didn't intone at the exact proper moment and actually, did I say it just like that the last 27 times we've had this conversation in the past 6 days? "Well I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:39 AM
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I'm at a place where I am very angry and jaded as well lol, but I think it's a fair reflection of the current reality. Most men are complete shit. I have to take dating breaks every so often, because they are so shit. It's like watching too much of the news--sometimes you just need to take a step back from all that hopeless depraved nastiness. Then, after you've recharged a bit, you can go back in. I also really like "manifesting" what I want. I have a practice in the morning where I express gra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:34 AM
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I would recommend White Feminism by Koa Beck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:17 AM
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I think it's hard to convince someone who's not ready to hear it. Back when I was with my ex, I would have thrown FDS out the window. I was a hardcore pick-me. Literally every piece of advice I had received or read was about cOmMunIcAtIng eFFecTivELy with poor, silly, simple, stupid, hopeless men, the poor things. The whole internet couldn't be wrong right?! I stumbled on FDS when I was in the mindset of "Why do I keep picking shitty men? And why does it take me so long to leave them? How am I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:12 AM
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This rings so, so true. I often wonder the same thing, if I can stay myself while being in a relationship. My truth is that I always pedestalized my man. I wanted to take care of him and serve him and make him happy, super-wifey shit. I always put his needs before my own. I am a notorious self-sacrificer--it's how I've showed my love. So I started chipping away at bits of my identity to please him. I wanted him to like me, so I'd be careful not to laugh too loud because that's obnoxious, or I'd …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:57 PM
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I feel a lot safer, less vulnerable and a lot happier this way. Same, same, same!! Women I know who are married? Stressed and upset. Women I know with kids? Stressed and upset. Women who are divorced? Happy, content, never plan to marry or live with a man again. I think I'll skip the whole get-married-then-divorced bit and just stay single and happy 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:43 PM
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I have friends who definitely identify themselves as a unit once they are in a relationship. Like they don't not do anything together, it seems. It gets frustrating when I plan a girls hang out. And one of them brings the bf, and it's like...um why? I did not invite him? And now the energy of this entire hang out is different? So then my invitations have to be more specific: "Girls only, no boys" (which seems ridiculous to specify for our age, to be honest; just don't bring an uninvited plus-one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:38 PM
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I read somewhere that sharing the bed started in order to save costs on small living spaces for those who couldn't afford otherwise. Where I learned that...I have no idea. But it has stuck in my head long enough because I don't get good sleep when I'm sleeping next to someone else. Also because I thrash about in my sleep and another body would just be in my way lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:31 PM
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Brilliant explanation, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:08 PM
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How interesting, I always thought it meant...castration lol. But the dictionary agrees with your definition as well, so I appreciate you clarifying! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:25 PM
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Do you mean "neutral"? Or maybe I'm misunderstanding the lingo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:16 PM
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“I never said that“. So I show him his words in a screenshot. Him: Rages Yep. I was pretty attached to my calendar. Took notes just to keep track of plans and things. Kept a journal. Our texting conversations. Always had evidence. And yet still. Why did it take me so long to stop questioning myself lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:19 AM
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I was out shopping and overheard these guys, I'd guess early 20s. One guy was trying to get his girlfriend a gift, he was mulling over the card and whatever gift wrap to get, trying to get extras and make it nice, and his friend goes, "Bro, just get whatever. Stop being such a simp, it's embarrassing." Cue the shameful, "You're right, you're right. I'll just..this should be fine, it's whatever, let's just go." Fucking sad. Be sure to vet their friends. They WILL do or not do things to impress th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:54 AM
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snap snap snap Beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:46 AM
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I literally broke up with my ex after he threw a psycho temper tantrum like this over a video game, yelling at me and shit. That was my ah-ha moment. Six years with this guy, we lived together, talked about getting married and having kids. I realized "Holy shit. I cannot have children with this man." Left him a couple weeks later. When I see videos like this, I realize how close I was to having this be my future. Never, ever, ever again will I ever date a gamer. This is their alcoholism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:07 PM
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I always broke up in-person, thinking it was the "right" an "respectful" way to do it, and yet I have never once in my life had a man say, "You know, I am super grateful that you decided to break-up with me in person (or over a phone call). This was much more respectful than a text. Thank you!" Instead, they have: Been violent Always taken 2+ hours explaining why my reasons for breaking up are wrong Telling me I am actually very happy in the relationship, I must just be on my period Insulted me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:10 PM
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I feel like they should to be honest with you!! It should be part of sex ed in schools! How else are we supposed to learn?? Pornography?!--pfft please. If it was approached in an academic context I feel like it would be more openly accepted. Like everyone knows the mechanics of how pregnancy happens and we learn that from schools. Don't see why the female orgasm should be any different!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:25 AM
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Haha to be honest I guess I didn't even have my own skillz down yet to know what was good from what was not? Nobody had skillz in this situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:23 AM
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You know, biologically speaking, men (and all of us) should be squatting to take a shit instead of languidly sitting on toilets scrolling through memes with their shitty hands. But I have yet to see a man who is screaming "bUT mY bIoLoGy" about toilet designs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:54 PM
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Yes, please! I would love this. I keep coming in and out of focus with investing, but I would love more conversation about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:45 PM
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From the research I've done, just staying in touch in a normal friend way and occasionally telling her she doesn't deserve that, she's strong enough to leave him if she wants is the most successful strategy in many situations. Thank you, I appreciate that language!
/r/askFDS09/02/21 09:01 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate this. We've talked about it a lot, and there's definitely a part where she feels trapped, I know that for sure. I've tried to show her that she's not really trapped like she thinks she is, and there are avenues available to her. It makes me wonder if I'm being played, honestly. If she's just acting like she gets it to appease me, but actually has no intention of getting out of the situation. It's just so hard to watch him get worse and worse, and see her seem so close to …
/r/askFDS09/02/21 12:00 AM
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I also used to believe Cosmo was the bible. Started sneak-buying it in late middle school/early high school. Was pretty sure I was LITERALLY the only girl mature enough and wise enough to stumble upon such important life secrets that older women knew. I was going to be the coolest dream girl ever. Ugh. Good lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:13 PM
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One suggested edit: Remove from the last paragraph the words "It's nothing great, but" Excellent post :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:52 PM
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I am an avid hunter and I am currently learning how to ice fish. Oh my god! You are so freaking cool! I was just thinking about how I want to learn how to hunt and fish (for food not for sport). Talk about maximum independence. I'm not sure what the circumstances are when these men make these comments--like if they are out hunting with you or anything, but all I can see is this transpiring: Man: "Pfft shouldn't you be in the kitchen? Where's your boyfriend?" You: calmly aiming the gun at an undi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:38 PM
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Buying flowers and chocolate for my BFF! I'm a giver, heart and soul, and I feel so much fulfillment in giving gifts. So I'm making sure from here forth I only give to those who are deserving 😎 And then for myself, I'm going to take a nice bath with some bath salts, burn some candles, pour myself a glass of wine, and probably set up my laptop on a stool (awaaaay from the water) so I can watch a movie as I soak. It will probably be Pride & Prejudice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:51 PM
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Oooo can I ask where from?? That sounds gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:48 PM
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But you know...FEMALES are the REAL "crazy" and "clingy" ones. Amiright? 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:40 PM
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Caught him taking a video of me during sex. After telling him, several times, that I wasn't ok with that sort of thing. We had been seeing each other for quite a while, almost two years. He liked taking it from behind. I have no idea how many times he videoed me without me knowing. He was so sweet and kind to me. But there were so many flags. It was a FWB situation. I dropped him immediately. If I had found FDS sooner, I would have dropped him waaaaay before he'd had the opportunity. I have a ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:20 PM
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Oh my god. This is brilliant. Two of my exes DEMANDED I tell them the TRUTH--that I was breaking up with them because there was another man, someone I had been cheating with. There wasn't, actually, and I told them--coMuNiCatEd to them exactly why I was leaving them, because of their behaviors, etc. Was told "THOSE REASONS AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH, I KNOW WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON HERE." Complete, absolute, and utter projection. They cannot fathom the concept of leaving someone unless they had someone el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:38 AM
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Generally no, no guilt. Plenty of things I see as clearly manipulative now, lots of compliments to me, "you're so mature for your age", and "I never thought I could get a girl like you," type things. I remember one saying something like "I know we shouldn't be doing this but I just don't have the same connection with her like I have with you" and things like that. She wound up finding out and divorcing him. He and I reconnected years later and I saw him for what he was. Classic pseudo-philosophi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:47 AM
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Confession: I used to be this type of pick-me. (cringe) I was in my early 20s and my boyfriends had always cheated on me, same with my friends' relationships, and even some women in my family were cheated on. At the time I thought, "Well, seems like there's two options for women: be cheated on, or be cheated with. Being cheated with seems like the more powerful position." So I would flirt almost exclusively with men in relationships. Would it surprise you that it wasn't difficult? Not because I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:05 PM
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