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What’s unfair? Obviously he didn’t “settle” if he was previously happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:00 PM
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How fucking young are we talking? Because most 18-25 year olds who are intending to go to college will already have the loans by that point. So unless you’re planning on chasing teenagers you’re just finding a woman who has not even started paying off her student loans and is not yet established in her career.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:15 PM
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Then do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:29 PM
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Better check your post history bud
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:20 PM
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You don’t need a paternity test to take a family history, that is not standard practice. But now you’re wife has: cheated, got pregnant, decided to pass the baby off as yours, continually lied for years, watched her child get gravely ill, decided maintaining the lie is worth her child’s life. You really know how to pick ‘em bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:03 PM
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Lol says the guy who wants his own harem. Buddy, the writings on the wall. Stop projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:50 AM
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Do you understand that a paternity test is not the same as across the board genetic diagnostic testing? Just because your wife cheats on you doesn’t mean everyone’s does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:47 AM
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Yep every child can also go get themselves tested if they every feel the need when they’re old enough to decide. No way to test a child without accusing your partner of being a lying cheating whore. Which is fine if you’d like to do that, just don’t bitch about the fallout.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:23 AM
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Because how else did she get pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:51 AM
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You think it’s healthy parenting to accuse your wife of being a lying cheating whore everytime you get her pregnant? Do you think you have a low sperm count? Do you doubt your ability to get someone pregnant? Are you confused as to why your mistress never got knocked up and your wife did?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:49 AM
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Or… some people are better liars than others. And some people are better at perceiving liars than others. You can’t negate someone’s experiences just because you saw a random TikTok on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 05:58 PM
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Sounds like a bait and switch to me. Sometimes people value consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:04 AM
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I mean you just described a normal relationship? I don’t see the issue here. The sentiment being: life changes, people change, we adapt and overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:12 AM
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Nice try, not gonna fall for your lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 06:15 PM
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You’re right. All men are liars and will always lie. Unless you’re lying about men lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:13 PM
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Which is why we should de-stigmatize it! This is your call to action!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:59 PM
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Fair enough, but you have to remember that a lot of ‘average+’ women don’t use tinder or other dating apps, they just meet people in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:43 AM
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Lmao wow, this was incredible eye opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:37 AM
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Ya she was just letting you down nicely, leave her alone.
/r/seduction09/05/21 12:50 AM
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What preceded her saying that? Was it unprompted or did you ask her?
/r/seduction09/05/21 12:45 AM
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Like Uber or lift? Please don’t hit on women when they’re trusting you to deliver them safely to their destination. Using a ride share service puts the passenger in a vulnerable position, especially if they are giving you their home or work address. Try to keep the environment professional and meet women elsewhere.
/r/seduction17/03/21 12:10 PM
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I’d suggest definitely telling her beforehand. It’ll be awkward no matter what but at least she’ll know that it’s because you’re inexperienced and not just bad in bed.
/r/seduction17/02/21 05:36 PM
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She was direct? She told you she wasn’t interested, what she does after doesn’t matter
/r/seduction06/10/20 09:53 PM
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Truth or drink is usually a good one
/r/seduction04/10/20 03:32 AM
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Honestly I know you don’t want to hear it, but I don’t think you can save it. You asked your friend to intervene, which is not something you should’ve done as an adult and she gave a clear answer. The only possible route of a do-over is to leave her alone and start a conversation in person if you see her at a social gathering.
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:08 AM
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‘Vibing’ = easy conversation, comfortable silence and positive energy Isn’t inherently sexual
/r/seduction14/09/20 02:51 AM
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20F here, I think maintenance and accepting what you have is the best bet. If you’re not already, you should be taking supplements to support hair growth (collagen, biotin) you should be getting haircuts to help mask it. I have no idea what you actually look like but usually if you have thin hair, the longer your hair is the more obvious the thinness is. Also, don’t be afraid to shave it when the time comes, no hair is better than patchy hair. Hair is nice but it isn’t everything, just compensat…
/r/seduction08/08/20 07:41 PM
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Aha I’m 20, best of luck to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 04:07 PM
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That’s ok! Honestly reddit (and especially this sub) is pretty male dominated (or men LARPing as women) so I can’t blame you. I don’t think your ideal marriage will be difficult to find, I’m not sure how old you are but outside of Reddit you’ll find very few men who expect a 50’s housewife. I think our parents generational ideals are dying out in favour of partnerships and equal contributors.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 04:00 PM
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I am a woman lol I am painfully aware of how easy it is for women to assume the position of wife/servant, my dad doesn’t do his own laundry, doesn’t make his own meals and I cannot remember the last time he cleaned a bathroom. I would never imitate the dynamic my parents have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:53 PM
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That is interesting. What type of lifestyle/relationship dynamic are you aiming for?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:22 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 02:57 PM
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My parents are very traditional and conservative. They follow gender roles to a T. They got married at 21 and have been together for almost 30 years with many kids in the mix. My dad worked a 6 figure job, my mom was a SAHM. If anything growing up in that environment pushed me so far away from the idea of marriage. I hate their dynamic and I hated growing up in it, my dad is a ‘man’s man’ to a fault and our relationship is rocky at best and I resent my mom for tolerating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 02:33 PM
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I have never been hugged in a way that has made someone seem like a prospect, I have however been hugged in a way that made me cross that person off my ‘prospect list’ for forever. I’ve never really thought about it before, usually the moments fleeting. I treat hugs the same way as handshakes so I guess it’s never really crossed my mind.
/r/seduction23/07/20 07:18 PM
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I disagree, movies are not bad dates! The best dating tip I ever got was turn ‘dinner and a movie’ into ‘a movie and dinner’! Movies are great because you’re able to check out each other’s vibes and attitudes without the pressure of making small talk. Gives you the chance to form inside jokes about what you’re watching and allows for a bit of whispered commentary. The age old ‘arm around the shoulder’ move is classic and allows for a bit of snuggling without an awkward lead up. Then go for dinne…
/r/seduction23/07/20 06:08 PM
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My best advice as a girl is to definitely ‘read the room’. Probably my rudest rejection came from being approached in a busy airport when I was trying to find my gate on the screen. Honestly just be polite, take the first ‘no’ as a solid answer and move on. Try to limit your approaches to be people who don’t seem to be in a rush/aren’t in a completely isolated area. Good luck!
/r/seduction12/07/20 09:36 PM
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Talk to my dad about my dowry
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:17 PM
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I was responding to the ‘to the girls’ section.
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:01 PM
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Girl here lol I’m not something to be called dibs on. I don’t know the dynamics between you and your friends, if you view me as a prize to be competed for, that’s on you. I’m just going to talk to my friends or whoever approaches me and has something interesting to say. If you talk to me for 15 minutes at the beginning of the night, I’m not going to pine for you and spend my time looking for you and swear off all conversations with any other person, I’m just going to hang with my friends and hav…
/r/seduction08/07/20 06:32 PM
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I’m not the OP of this comment thread you dumbass. I literally replied to a guy saying that he sees a lot of married guys on this sub who think of their wives as talking sex dolls in the context of this debate. Typically people who are happily married don’t think of their partners like that. So I decided to differentiate between happy and unhappy marriages in which a partner would feel the need to objectify their partner as such. another example in which people in this sub are very fond to point…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 01:58 AM
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I honestly think you meant to reply to someone else. Or you’re just looking for a fight because you’re just putting words in my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 01:46 AM
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What? I’m pretty sure you didn’t understand what I said... being in an unhappy marriage is a pretty common concept, it’s not even controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 01:42 AM
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Married and happily married are two very different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 09:42 PM
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This is so true, there’s such a big difference between confidence in oneself and confidence in getting somebody else! I once went on a date with a guy I met in passing and had texted for a while and honestly I thought we would end up hooking up cuz I really liked him! But the entire time he kept referencing how much he had ‘seduced’ me and ‘figured me out’ and even went as far as to say he stopped by the grocery store earlier that day so he could make me breakfast the next day! Keep in mind we h…
/r/seduction07/07/20 05:29 PM
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I’m really sorry you think everybody with a vagina is out to get you. All I know is that if my partner requested a paternity test for a child we willingly and chose to conceive, or even an accidental pregnancy following unprotected sex. It would be the end of our ‘intact family’. In the same sense of why my partner and I don’t snoop in each other’s phones or personal belongings. If there’s no suspicion, there’s no need. Also paternity tests aren’t a new concept lol, like I said, if you want one,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 12:59 AM
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It’s not at all an ‘intact family’ if you truly believe your wife is cheating on you, you were never in an intact family. If you want a test, go get one. But don’t try to pretend you were the good guy even the test proves the kid was yours and your wife is pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 12:43 AM
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I think your quality of life would improve if you found something else that makes you feel like that cuz honestly, in life, you will never have a constant access to sex. And honestly, if you write like this when you’re feeling bad I have a hard time believing that you don’t speak like this when you’re feeling the same way. I don’t really subscribe to trp idealizations because my lived experiences differ greatly, but I am a huge advocate for people to find their purpose or ‘mission’.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 07:46 PM
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I personally don’t give a fuck about your sob story. Im trying to provide real life examples of valid reasons of rejection, in the hopes that something resonates with you to help you shift the way you approach women and can help you find someone. If you conduct yourself at all like you portray yourself through your comments I’m not at all surprised you’re having trouble. I’m tempted to look at your profile to see if these comments are a pattern or if you’re just having a bad day lol P.S. just be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 07:28 PM
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I’ve never discriminated against anyone lol, you’d laugh if you saw pictures of how diverse my dating pool has been. I’m going to tell you two quick stories of what I’ve personally experienced with men who went through ‘glow ups’ 1) he was my biology lab partner in first year of uni, always seemed shy/reserved he was slightly on the chubbier side and had an awful scraggly beard. Interacting with him was always borderline friendly/flirty. I really enjoyed being platonic with him, but when we’d ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 05:37 PM
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If you can’t understand how social skills/attitude can affect how someone perceives you, I don’t know how to help you. Everyone loves to yell from the rooftops about how men and women are different so is it really a stretch to say that men and women interpret social cues differently? Also I’m going to assume that you’re not actively trying to pursue your guy friends for a fwb or ltr so that’s probably why they’ve never commented on your pickup habits. And no, I can’t blame a person for having an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 04:11 PM
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Because being checked out is obvious, there’s no ‘subtle glances’ it’s obvious and it’s gross. You should care about your lack of social etiquette the same way you should care about having food smeared on your face, realize and take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:08 AM
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This scenario is not comparable, in your situation you are deliberately coming after a person (faking the punch) and this attempting to elicit a response. This is not the same as a women walking down the street, sitting in a restaurant or waiting in line at the grocery store. If a women were to walk up to you and physically hold her breasts 2 feet from your face, I’d agree with you that it’s natural to stare, but responding to an uninvolved/unaware stimulus is not the same at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:05 AM
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For me, I’m entirely open to reassessing the situation. But knowing my history, I’ve never turned anyone down solely for looks so I’d be interested to see if the attitude/social skills had improved as well. In my experience tho, the person who underwent the ‘glow up’ almost always either becomes MORE insecure or becomes a massive douche bag (or both), so for me, the former can be worked with but the latter is a massive turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 02:45 AM
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As a girl who’s gotten this line countless of times, I appreciate your answer. This line has never worked on me and honestly the only way I could ever see it working is if I already wanted to go out with the guy who asked. What this line really does is make the asker go ‘bingo! So you don’t have a reason to say no to a date with me!’ (9/10 times in my experience at least, I just lie and say I’m seeing someone) Also, I’d steer clear of the ice cream joke...
/r/seduction21/06/20 12:04 AM
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Maybe she didn’t want your interest? This sounds like a tactic I’ve used to dissuade guys I’m not interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 01:04 AM
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Yes. If that’s a boundary, obviously you should be prepared to leave if someone presses on that boundary. Reading your post and these comments it honestly doesn’t sound like she’s going to be losing sleep over the fact that you lost interest, so you probably should just move on
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 01:02 AM
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Thank you, I’m glad we were able to see things the same way. I am Canadian so our laws are different, and I can only speak to the divorces I’ve witnessed, and local precedent. (This was a heavy debate in a law class I took, very interesting) Alimony is a good thing, but like all good things, too much is harmful and it must come to an end. I’m personally of a belief that women are not property and don’t need to dive into the next marriage for financial security, so they will not require alimony p…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 10:22 AM
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Ya bud, I know what alimony is. I also know (at least where I live) that it is hardly ever granted in any divorces, and if it is, it’s only granted for a year or two to allow the lower income spouse to get back on their feet. I don’t have a problem with alimony. Reason: my mom was a stay at home mom for four children that were spaced out so that it was impossible for her to go back to work until the youngest was in school full time, this was maybe around 15ish years. Why was she a SAHM? My dad b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 09:26 AM
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I was raised Catholic, and although I’m not as devout as my parents, I believe in the tradition of marriage. I could do without the big white wedding, but the paper is the important part. I’m not married (only 20) but I’m currently on track to a high earning degree and career, if all goes to plan, I’ll out-earn most potential prospects. I’d be happy to sign a prenup (to protect myself and whatever he has) but I would refuse to buy property, invest in any joint projects, open any joint accounts, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 03:54 AM
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I’ve never experienced being cock blocked or cock blocking someone that was not wanted. My friends and I use a signal when I or any of them is getting hit on and wanting to be saved. Usually because: - the guys creepy - we’re travelling as a group - don’t want to deal with the morning after regret - the guy is obviously just trying to get laid - they’re too drunk - we’re planning on crashing at each other’s places - the guy is too aggressive - we’re each other’s ride - preventing bad decisions -…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 08:16 AM
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Not one chance, but don’t make it obvious. Girls are constantly scanning the bar/dance floor etc. And it’s VERY obvious to see someone get shut down, then take three steps to the left and start anew. Nobody wants to feel like a second choice before even beginning a convo. If you get shut down quickly, get a drink, use the rest room, dance for a bit, play a game of pool/darts etc. Then try again.
/r/seduction27/02/20 02:03 PM
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