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ADVICEcoca-cola-version/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 02:25 AM
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Oops just saw your post was directed at married women, sorry! Regardless, I was trying to give a perspective from a bit further out from just meeting the guy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/25 02:08 AM
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Not yet! I know he has a ring, but he really wants the proposal to be a surprise. We’ve been together about 6 months now, and have been talking about getting married almost immediately after meeting. In that time we’ve had every conversation we can think of about values, desires, goals, logistics, and have really discerned intentionally. Yes, of course I’ve learned that there are things about him that aren’t perfect, but still extremely compatible on a level that’s hard to find. Keep in mind tha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/25 02:07 AM
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Yes. I was in a similar situation. I still took a bit of time to get to know him, figure out how we navigate conflict and tough conversations together, but still checks all my boxes. Take it easy, but that’s so exciting!
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 04:19 AM
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He is now an ex boyfriend, thankfully. This old post of mine makes me cringe.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 04:39 PM
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Ah yeah, we broke up not long after this. He did not “check all my boxes”, I was under an illusion. Square peg round hole.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/25 03:10 PM
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Fellow aggressive/confrontational woman with BPD here. It’s tough, I know. Look into DBT skills. I also found therapy counterproductive until I started DBT - my life and relationships have been forever changed. I can be a nice girl now :) Your self-awareness puts you ahead of the game.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 04:14 AM
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You don’t have to be okay with porn. I even view it as cheating. You need to be honest and vulnerable with him about your desired boundaries — and I recommend that you be firm in this, because I’ve made the mistake of being too lax before. Ask him to step into your shoes, and see it from your perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 12:05 AM
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I’m in the flipped position - my man has a VERY high body count while I do not, but he is more than happy to wait until marriage for me. Either way, once a man decides you’re the one, I think they’re down for just about whatever it takes. It’s more about who they are/how they value your relationship than your past.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 01:14 AM
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How do you get better at not nagging? It is like a compulsive urge for me. I get so annoyed at myself while I’m doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 07:08 PM
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It’s not always so simple. I am being intentionally vague to retain some anonymity. At 24, I think my biological clock is perfectly fine. My mother had me well into her 30s. There is a timeline for a ring, I have no doubts.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:35 PM
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No, but again, you failed to thoroughly assess the context by reading my post. There’s no “lasting tension” - it was a low moment more than 6 years ago. He has never defended her, nor do I claim that anywhere within this thread. If I asked him to never see her again, it would happen without question. You cannot take this situation out of context. And finally, she does not hate me. You are committing many fallacies in your statements, and I fear that you may be diverting from the topic at hand. T…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 04:59 PM
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Thanks for your understanding. No ring at 28 due to financial burdens and family obligations, not from lack of desire. It’s promised, I am patient, and 4 years his junior. This is not someone who will remain in his life much longer, and there is no concern over trust. This was more of a question of how I can move past this insecurity and remain respectful to him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:35 AM
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I think there is room for nuance here that you are not acknowledging.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:29 AM
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This is great advice and a great reminder, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:12 AM
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Thank you again for your kind words. I think you’re right, and insecurity is something I will be working on going forward.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:10 AM
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My man is lovely enough that he is blessed with many good friends, not just this group. Still, I don’t care how good of friends he is with someone, if he’s been inside her, there must be distancing. I have the self respect to expect that, and he expects it in return. Regardless, if we are in agreement with the rules we set for each other, what does it matter? Sacrificial love is the purest form of love. We choose to give up certain things for the goodness of the relationship. Sometimes it sucks,…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:08 AM
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Absolutely! He already sees them less and less frequently, about once a month or less now, and in his own words, these are people that will fade with this season of life. I would also like to think that we are both handling it well as a couple. Internally, I definitely have some insecurity to address. I will say that he is a man that needs no training. Setting the boundary itself was not an issue, nor have we had other issues regarding this type of thing at all. if it weren’t for this group dyna…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 11:07 PM
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I guess the root of it is that it is an insecurity thing. Somebody else said to reframe it as a compliment. I think that is what would help me the most. It was never a question of whether or not I trust him, or if he would cheat on me,more just how to deal with an uncomfortable situation because obviously I am insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:55 PM
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I agree, being controlling is unfortunately something I have always struggled with. Journaling has definitely been helping.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:35 PM
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Yeah, definitely some retroactive jealousy. It’s insecurity, I was just looking for advice on how to move past it. Thank you for your insight!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:34 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate that you didn’t immediately suggest that I end the relationship. Of course this stems from my own insecurities, I know that for sure. I was more looking for advice on what the best response to this uncomfortable situation is, and your suggestion is wonderful! I will look into CBT workbooks. Also, apology already given 😁
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:32 PM
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That’s about where I’m at, you are correct. Although I have no doubt he would shut it down, I just don’t like the thought of it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 01:12 PM
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Yeah, she just happens to be at group events every other month or so. He ignores her outside of that. The long distance situation will change likely after the end of my next lease, we are both saving money to do so, but it’s not incredibly difficult at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 01:11 PM
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You are right. It literally pains me to shut up about things but I know I have to work on it. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 11:07 AM
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I think the boundary is more respectful than controlling. I have committed to not being in contact with anyone I have been with, but it’s also convenient that none of them are in any of my circles. There are things you sacrifice when you choose to be serious with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 11:04 AM
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No history of cheating. He’s an angel, truly. We see each other about every 2 weeks. There’s no set date for closing the distance yet, but he told me he wants to propose by next summer (and I’d frankly prefer a ring before I uproot myself). I won’t move in with him until I’m married, and we’d like to buy a house by then, so it’s a matter of finances. The thing is, if I asked him to never see her again, he’d do it just to make me comfortable. Even if it meant not seeing some of his good friends a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 11:01 AM
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My boyfriend always says he “doesn’t care” about his birthday, yet I know he secretly loves the extra attention. So I make a big fuss over him, of course! This year, he was having a pretty rough go around that time, and I knew he desperately needed a break from the issues and stress he had been dealing with, so I surprised him with a weekend away. Nothing too fancy, but I planned it thoroughly and put a lot of thought into it. He loved it. Truly, when it comes to men, I believe that it’s the tho…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 11:32 PM
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