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Obviously, rules are rules and this subreddit has the right to make whatever such rules it wants to. That’s how it works. But I am really disappointed to see users here called the “f*mcel” slur when most of us agree that it isn’t a real thing and just another slur that men have picked up to use against us. Not everyone here flooded in from other subs, and to see people here called that kind of term is hurtful. I understand that you guys are frustrated, I just hope there’s not a place here for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:36 PM
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god, the total ineffectiveness of their usual insults makes them so mad. literally every time I see this sub mentioned elsewhere on this hell platform, it's a mixture of f**cel, cats, spinster, lesbian, fat, old, jealous, etc. Like... it's so tired. No one here cares. They can all die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:44 AM
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I'm sure there probably are some decent men from the Ivies, but I just personally have never met one lmao. And it isn't like I haven't had an opportunity to meet them, but I just think that the Ivy environment can be so toxic RE: men that even ones from less privileged backgrounds wind up sucked into it. Little masters of the universe. Whoof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:33 PM
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If a man really wants to see you, he will move mountains to do it. Pestering you about meeting you somewhere for his convenience just shows how little of a shit he gives. Tellin on himself with that low-effort 'princess' neg. He wants to be catered to and always get his way (every single Ivy League guy I have known is like this, even the ones from disadvantaged backgrounds. EVERY single one!!!). Self-centered and whiny. YAWN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:14 PM
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What kind of human garbage takes food from a child? Throw the whole man away, there is nothing redeemable about him. The fact that she 'doesn't hold it against him' that he loves food is also just plain fucking sad. No adult should have that little self control. If he can't control himself around something as simple and basic as food, what else can't he control himself around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:41 PM
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I'm so happy for you! Congrats on the new job and positive vibes for your life going ahead! We're all rooting for you here, sis! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:35 AM
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This man absolutely hates and resents her and if she stays with him his cruelty will only continue to get worse and worse. I hope she sees the writing on the wall because if she lets him, he'll crush her spirit down to nothing and suck the life out of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:43 PM
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Men out here giving themselves scurvy because no homo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:38 PM
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"Nice" is a performative action. Even a psychopath can and does adopt a facade of niceness, evident in what so many people say about serial killers in their midst - but he was such a nice, quiet man. Hm. "Kind" is a true personality trait - a virtue that is cooperative and understanding (not self-sacrificial). Kindness can't be faked. There's no pride to be taken in being called nice, because it's so surface level, but being considered kind is a high compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:49 PM
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Even if you look back on the pre-Scream slasher genre, those films were full of women leads who had full character arcs, whose motivations were rarely male-centric, and who often got to triumph over their challenges. Halloween, Hellraiser, Nightmare on Elm Street, and so many more kept a woman onscreen for nearly the whole movie. If you move even earlier into the genre with the giallos and the post-Psycho horror boom, women were so central to narratives whereas in most other films of the era, wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:44 PM
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Horror is the genre for women, because it's one of the only genres where women are usually the protagonists, consist of roughly half the cast, and allow women parts that show a full range of emotion. Whether consciously or not, horror tends to show that women who conform to society's expectations often find themselves in dangerous situations, and it's only by shedding performative niceness that they survive, escape, whatever. Contrast this with the other woman-heavy genre, romantic comedy. I'm n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:02 PM
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No matter what side of the abortion issue you are on, I think we can all agree that men have absolutely no business either speaking on it or legislating on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:41 PM
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I also want to make those reading aware that all of these can also be signs of actually physically cheating on you with another person(s). So if you wind up not finding any porn on his devices, this kind of behavior is all extremely in line with cheating behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:14 AM
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Honestly, it sounds like your sister needs therapy. She's working some things out pretty unhealthily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:35 PM
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"My girlfriend broke up with me because of you, so you owe me" We stan a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:01 PM
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It's truly revolting on every level. Unfortunately if you move in some of the circles that I do, you wind up coming across this shit. On one had, I'm angry that I know about these things, but I also feel like by having been exposed, men don't get to pull one over on me with their ~code~ or whatever they think their porn terms are. It's way more widespread of a term than I think a lot of women know about :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:51 PM
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Unfortunately for those of you not in the know, "free use" is indeed a specific "kink" (god I have come to hate this word so much). It's exactly what it sounds like: the fantasy of a woman being free for anyone to use at any time, with no boundaries, no safe word, and minimal protest on the woman's part. Men are fucking depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:35 PM
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Yes this is a massive red flag. It's bigger than a flag. It's like an entire bolt of cloth. I was once told by an ex that someone had made "accusations" against him, and I thought that was sad and terrible. And then he assaulted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:06 PM
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Prostitutes are our sisters, none of us hate the women (largely, victims) in your industry. We hate the industry and what it does to you all and what it does to women in general. Love and healing to you, and I wish you success on your climb out from the life. Please do not hesitate to reach out to organizations and resources for those like you and please don't feel ashamed to have gotten ensnared by a lifestyle that the whole world is increasingly pressuring you to indulge in. There is a future …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:03 PM
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Why is a married man telling women on the internet how he prefers to date? 🧐 Because they can literally never shut the entire fuck up about things that don't involve them. See also: their pathological need to constantly try and comment here and their screams of indignation when they're ""immediately blocked and banned"" because they're too stupid to figure out our flair system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:44 PM
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So you need help kicking a man to the curb who repeatedly lies to you, cheats on you, and then crawls back because he likes triangulating you against another gf that he will NEVER GIVE UP? Sis this man is a cheater through and through. He will never change. He will never stop. Is that acceptable to you in a relationship? Why do you say you "can't" shake off your feelings for him? Yes you can. You're not some sad little helpless damsel to whom life happens and everything is soooooo out of your co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:33 PM
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Meh. The earliest women's liberation theorists were considered crazy and antisocial (and jailed or killed). The suffragettes were considered ugly and unfuckable and crazy and antisocial (and jailed or committed by their families to institutions). The second wave feminists were considered ugly and unfuckable and crazy and antisocial and dangerous (see: the panic over 'predator' lesbians and SCUM). We're in good company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:43 PM
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I mean, her father murdered her mother and had Elizabeth declared a bastard simply because he wanted to marry a younger (although, oddly, not by much - Jane Seymour was nearly 30 when she died in childbirth and Anne was probably only about 5 years older) and more docile/permissive woman who would never, ever challenge him on anything - something that Anne was famous for doing. Yeah. She knew. It traumatized her for the rest of her life despite being really a bit too young to remember Anne Boleyn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:31 PM
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On a site that hires predators and predator-apologists and allows subforums dedicated to so much evil that I won't even go into it (but you all know what I'm talking about) - I am proud to be part of one of the "most toxic subreddits". The absolute power that comes from being the enemy of depravity. This place is everything that the rest of reddit isn't. Which is a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:24 PM
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He's a cop, he has an ex he calls "crazy", you found him on OLD. Three strikes, he's out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:17 AM
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Men bring nothing to the table except stink, increased risk of STI's from their rampant cheating, and a financial drain. They are by and large our fucking oppressors, even the more mild and egalitarian among them because every last one of them benefits from the patriarchy they do nothing to dismantle. They won't even tell their dumbass friends and acquaintances to knock off the misogyny, you think they're really 'feminist allies'??????? Useless. The younger ones refuse to grow up and help make t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:44 AM
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It's crazy! All these scrotes who bring absolutely nothing to the table genetically or otherwise think they're all owed their own personal woman and brood, when in the rest of the animal kingdom it's fairly uncommon that every single male gets to breed and keep a female all to himself no matter how useless. More females in a species are always a positive; more females = more babies = more support for other females in the 'tribe' in raising their young - female felines, for instance, help raise e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:38 AM
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I love him and his seriously ridiculous instagram thirst traps. They're great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:59 AM
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lmao it is wicked hilarious how simply posting a pic of a man you think is attractive is "shaming". No commentary, no pointing out what he has that reddit scrotes don't, just... a picture. Their shame is 100% internal. As always, every single thing they say is projection. We're "shaming" because they feel ashamed (and they SHOULD lmao).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:22 PM
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Are they SERIOUSLY triggered by us posting pictures of men we find physically attractive????? lmao who knew that would be the thing to set them off (lbr, everything sets these overgrown babies off) I shouldn't be surprised. You should hear the talk of insecure straight scrotes in the entertainment industry who hate "classically" attractive men - in an industry which demands beauty - and do everything in their power to keep them away from their projects. I've had them browbeat me relentlessly abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:05 PM
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Men need women. Women do not need men. Think about every maybe a little too intense but completely encompassing female friendships you had in middle school/high school, where you trusted them completely and wanted to spend every single bit of free time together. Women, left to our own devices, form bonds and friendships that stand the test of decades and tend to outlast all the men in our lives. If we just kept that solidarity with each other instead of splitting off into our unnatural and isola…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:10 AM
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God, butt crumbs and the nest........ How can any woman have any attraction left for men after those stories?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:47 AM
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This woman has The Ick and doesn't realize that's what it is yet. This relationship is dead in the water because you never come back from The Ick. Hopefully she figures it out sooner rather than later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:56 PM
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Everything about our world under the patriarchy is unnatural. One-woman-owned-by-one-man nuclear families are not natural to the species. When will the scrotes get it through their heads that it's completely against our evolutionary directives to allow this many worthless males to live and breed? Most of them ought to be run out in the wilds to die alone, biologically speaking. Women should be raising children collectively, in groups, for their and the childrens' safety. Males are nearly always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:15 PM
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The good thing about male lions though is that only the healthiest and strongest are allowed to stay in the pride!! Even though you’ve got the one male who has breeding privileges, he’s basically there because the females allow him to be. They run the show, he’s just for babies + fighting other males or predators so the females don’t have to (but they absolutely WILL throw down if they gotta). Lionesses are badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:35 PM
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Friends support and stick up for friends when they’re being treated badly. The absolute disrespect she’s shown you by taking her indefensible husband’s side is not the act of an actual friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:23 PM
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This is by far the best way to vet men. As women, it is drummed into our heads to constantly be honest and authentic and sincere because that's feminine and anything less is hostile and 'masculine'. As such, it puts us at a massive disadvantage in the modern day dating arena. It obliterates our ability to vet and put down boundaries. Ladies, keep your cards closer to your chest and suss out the scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:17 PM
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I can back this up about a HVM ignoring your pursuit, I knew one several years ago I tried to pursue a little too much when I was still drinking the 'make the first move!!!! men love it!!!!' juice. Surprise surprise, he did everything in his power to show his disinterest in me romantically while still being a kind human who didn't want to crush me. Apparently he was already involved in pursuing someone else (who was massively different from me, which softened the blow a little). I was disappoint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:08 PM
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I think when we engage with the topic we're doing women (overwhelmingly, though not exclusively) a fundamental disservice by calling it "sex work". It's a whitewashed term and implies some very disturbing things, such as the fact that sex - a procreative function that in human society is supposed to be based on consent - can be work. So what the term "sex work" does is slowly conditions us to the idea that sex is merely an emotionless task that you can do, like building car parts or packaging sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:55 PM
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My rule is to spend exactly as much helpful energy toward individual men as they spend toward me. So mostly I do not help them out unless I am required by law or job description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:34 AM
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I actually love that this subreddit is less polite than other 'female-centric' subs and I regularly contribute to the tough love culture because I think we owe it to each other to take off the gloves and give each other a little shake every now and then. Anything less is infantalizing, and don't we get enough of that from the rest of the world? We're women living in a patriarchal culture. There's no well-intentioned criticism here that is rougher than anything that happens to me out in normal so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:09 AM
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The decline of western civilization
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:56 PM
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She might have said we're a dumpster fire, but I would not be surprised if lurking here is not what is making her second-guess the situation. "FDS is toxic/insane/exclusionary/hateful/etc" posts from people who come here and report back to other parts of reddit like they're intrepid war reporters is such a performative act. I don't think it often reflects what they really think about the place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:34 PM
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I mean this kindly, but I think you need to look into therapy. Some of this stuff (intimacy avoidance, issues stemming from what sounds like a traumatic childhood involving living in filth, etc) goes much deeper than FDS principles and is more complex than most of us can help you with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:56 PM
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Men only love and care about other men and other men's approval. They don't even think of us as human, just objects... Some of them might not like how other men behave or speak, but because they only care about their approval, they won't risk being ostracized for objecting. In a lot of ways it's men who are the ultimate Pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:42 PM
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Marriage (for straight women) is only good if with a HVM, and even then women need to learn how to erect very strong boundaries, have their own money and own bank account (this is so, so important) and take into consideration his family situation, because a man - even a HVM - coming from a complete disaster of an origin family may be a ticking time bomb even if he is an innocent party in its explosion. You need to balance your love with the potential for future grief and frustration on his famil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:10 PM
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The whole concept of "masculinity" is so fucking dumb, it's a bunch of overly-gendered nonsense that has nothing to do with biological sex. And it's so arbitrary... What might be considered very masculine in one part of the world might be seen as feminine in other parts. I would like to remind any male lurkers reading this that they are the ones responsible for their ridiculous gendered ideas; since they like to crow about having 'built the world' or some stupid bullshit, they need to accept the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:03 PM
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Women be out here saving the human race from overpopulation of an ecologically fragile and resources-strapped planet while contributing to not passing on inferior genes from inferior partners, and somehow it's our fault because "the world needs babies". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:33 PM
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Hate to be a downer, but they don't get any better as they age. They just get sneakier about hiding what malicious losers they are... and physically they age like absolute shit because they put zero effort into any and everything. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:10 PM
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Because most of them are porn and/or game addicted losers, they have never bothered to develop hobbies and interests and inner lives. Yes, not every man is gonna be a handy craftsman hobbyist or a well-read introspective conversationalist. And that's fine. Not every woman is looking for one of those. But men are just so fucking lazy that they don't even bother to develop real personalities other than the bare minimum they need to pass as human during culturally sanctioned social times, like work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:58 PM
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If it's early in a relationship, please assume that he is if not just outright dating other women, he is trying to date other women. In my non-scientific experience, probably about 80% of men who are in a "dating phase" are juggling several ~possibilities. One of which is you. You are one among several. Don't sacrifice your health and mental bandwidth for someone who hasn't shown themselves consistently over time to actually be worth it. Low effort love bomby stuff is NOT it, trust that he's doi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:51 PM
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I will never be over how men set the most ridiculous beauty standards for themselves, because it's the patriarchy that controls beauty standards, and then have the audacity to claim that it's women who really care about these minor fucking issues. They aren't even things that most women fixate on or even care about. Height? Jawline? Who gives a fuck? Look, it's not like women often don't like a tall man with a well defined jaw, but a lot of us are happy to taken an entire nice-looking package th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:35 PM
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My two cheating exes basically did all these things, though regarding the social media point - one of them genuinely didn't have any social media he did anything with because he really and truly was not interested in it. He had PLENTY of other red flags, but that actually wasn't one of them. But the point is that a man only has to show one or two of these things and still be a cheater who is putting you at risk. If you are with a cheater, trust that you are always at risk. I'm not just talking a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:41 PM
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I stayed with a man who cheated on me repeatedly with multiple women, including a mutual friend (and neighbor, to boot). 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:05 AM
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This is.... not the cute story she thought it was. She sounds really young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:02 AM
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I mean... consider who is seeing it as deranged or controversial.... It's the pornsick entitled manbabies and the libfem-addled pickmes. Literally no one of actual quality would think it would be deranged to ""make" someone wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:15 AM
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gurl, i'm glad you're here love and healing to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:54 PM
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Women here are anti-marriage with LVM, who comprise the greatest percentage of men in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:07 PM
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Yep, I was gonna say.... age gap red flag. This relationship was probably never that great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:06 PM
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He sounds like a malignant narcissist, honestly. And the sudden dumping? The love-bombing? The 'my ex is crazy'? Classic mixture of cheater qualities. You dodged a bullet in the end, though I'm sorry he managed to get in your head at all. But now you know what are HUGE red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:07 AM
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I used to think that this kind of thinking was regressive and outdated, but I am beginning to see what my foremothers meant when they set their warnings. That being said, there are also a lot of shit fathers who are married to the mothers who then make their wife and children's lives a living hell... especially if she attempts to divorce him. So while I do think that there is something to be said for not having children with a man who won't marry you, marrying the man isn't necessarily a great i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:17 PM
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Yeah, I'm ready. Ready by never dating a man again. I thank nature profusely that she made me bisexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:45 PM
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I just feel sad for her. She’s following the normal teen pop star trajectory, there’s nothing new about any of it. There are hardly any of them for the past few decades who start out underage who don’t do this kind of thing right after they‘re legal adults. She’s no different than any of the ones who have come before despite all her “woke” language (newsflash: those old pop stars who decided to take off their clothes after their 18th birthday ALSO spoke in the cool teen-approved parlance of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:11 PM
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Your intuition saved you, trust. Even though the entire world keeps trying to tell us that we are “crazy” for having gut feelings and acting on them, it’s cultural gaslighting. I cannot tell you how many times ignoring my intuition has fucked me over. If I only would have listened, or listened earlier, I could have saved myself so much grief. He was lying, sis. I don’t know about what or about how much, but it doesn’t matter. If they lie about one thing, they absolutely will lie about worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:55 AM
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Never sacrifice an inch of your dignity because men will never let you forget it and will forever hold it against you. Let's be honest, in general men have zero respect for women anyway (except maybe saintly Madonnas, but what they feel isn't really "respect" for them, either, it's just another psychosexual cage), so why make it easier for them to excuse their behavior? Dignity is a human right that women for too long have been gleefully urged to abandon in pursuit of being laid back, fun, easyg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:08 PM
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Any highschool-aged girls lurking and reading this, please listen for a sec to one your skinny jeans-wearing elders: YOU DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND IN HIGH SCHOOL. Yes, I know, there are nice young guys in high school who might make an excellent boyfriend (I had two good male friends in HS who grew up to be HVM and treat their wives and children wonderfully well, but I was never interested in them romantically and the feeling was mutual). Yes, I remember the pressure to 'fit in', both from peers an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:05 PM
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Where to start This isn't the cute story you think it is.... "Hubby".... waaaa laaa... Texas Roadhouse..... Oh, sis. I would be so embarrassed to post something like this. If you have to trick your stingy-ass spouse into feeding you a dinner a low-tier chain restaurant, why are you even bothering? What value is he bringing into your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:05 AM
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This mentally and spiritually hurt me to type lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:37 PM
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The last time I heard someone say this, I asked them what movie or TV show taught them that, and the dumbfounded look on their face when they realized they were just repeating some stupid entertainment trope was priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:09 PM
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To any male lurkers: hey, just calling them how i see them.... :))) i'm very blunt!!!! what, sweetie, can't you take a joke???? i have a 'dark' sense of humor ;)))) i don't apologize, i am who i am!! don't like it, move on!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:07 PM
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It's just boring old garden variety homo(particularly lesbo-)phobia. Yawn. Because if women aren't enjoying being men's mommy bangmaid punching bags, we're OooOoOoOoo SCARY lesbians. It's just homophobia. Doesn't matter if it's the right or the left saying it, it's all misogyny and homophobia, same as it ever was. Scratch a "woke" ally and see the misogynist underneath. At least the alt-right hates us straight up on the surface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:03 PM
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Men are so fucking PATHETIC with their fixation on high school. Like, seriously, I have known/dated multiple men who are so fucking emotionally stuck on some random-ass girl in high school. It's so childish and just so completely pathetic. I don't think I've ever dated someone who wasn't mad about a high school gf/crush. And I've dated men from 20s to early 40s. It just seems like they all do it. Like why can't they grow the FUCK up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:02 AM
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Man's rotting from the inside out and she feels bad. Sis.................
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:33 AM
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Mrs. America was a good series. Not every woman was a feminist ally or likeable, but they were all contending with the same social toxicity, and reacted in different ways to it. I don't really think it made someone like Phyllis Schlafly sympathetic, but I do think it put her life into context in a realistic way. That being said, attitudes have both changed and remained the same since the 20th midcentury. Women make more than they did then, but still less on average than men. Women can have their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:40 PM
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Fiction writing at its scrotiest :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:46 AM
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Glad you got picked, sis!!!! Get back to me in 2-5 years when he ruins your life, credit, health, and sense of reality as he gaslights and cheats on you repeatedly and you've burned every bridge defending and supporting his broke ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:59 PM
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All this "sex work is work" rhetoric from comfortably middle class white women sounds to me like "poor women? go get in the brothel." Because if sex work is really work, let's take that to its logical conclusion. Can your job shift your job description now to designated office prostitute? Can you be denied welfare because you don't want to suck dick for dollars and refuse employment? What is going to happen to your healthcare premiums when suddenly a brand new class of workers joins the pool who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:53 PM
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Decriminalization is tricky because decriminalizing prostitution is one part of the Nordic Model which has had a great deal of success in harm reduction across various countries. However, it shifts the criminalization to the purchasers of sex which apparently NYC is not doing. So while on one hand the decision benefits (overwhelmingly) women, it's immensely halfassed because it's not going after the people who create the demand for prostitution in the first place. All a halfassed implementation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:37 PM
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She's shown you what her personal beliefs are, and you're not gonna be able to change them. It sounds like she wants to help you conform to the Pickme state society expects out of you instead of doing the hard work to break free from that conditioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:08 PM
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SWERF is such a morally dishonest term, it turns my stomach. Nearly everyone who is anti-prostitution is literally the opposite of being "exclusionary" of sex workers. We are trying to include them in a safe and fair society which values them as human beings, not objects for abuse and dehumanization. I don't want the Belle du Jour sugar baby Onlyfans feet pic girls to be abused and dehumanized, either. I want them to be able to live their lives free of the threat of violence and abuse and exploi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:06 PM
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Where are her parents? This is a literal child. The adults around her have failed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:45 PM
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Yeah, that's why I assumed that "20s" means either 20 or 21. lol. She sounds....... young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:33 PM
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Girl that's not a "female friend" that's a "female friend with benefits you know nothing about and never consented to". Listen, I understand, she's 20 years old and VERY inexperienced and naive in the way normal 20 year olds are. I don't envy her finding out the truth, which will happen in due time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:29 PM
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A fat man minding his own business and living his life on his own terms is whatever, I'm not fussed. But fat men seem to have a difficult time understanding that their dating pool might be a great deal more limited than if they were a more average weight (a fact that fat women have long understood). And if they don't personally feel like they're at their best and they want to improve, then they aren't entitled to a gf RIGHT NOW who will possibly, someday, if they ever get around to it, find them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:25 PM
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All that anyone needs to know is that bth No Strings Attached and Friends With Benefits were directed by men, and the latter was written entirely by men. No Strings Attached was written by a woman (not entirely her story, she shares credit for story/concept with a man), but.... this woman is also responsible for the Pickme and LVM hell of the New Girl TV series so I think you can get a gist of the type of person she might be. Movies and television aren't created in a void, and so I always ask pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:16 PM
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At the end of my last relationship my sociopathic, cheating, narcissistic ex pretty much outright admitted this was true. At nearly 40 he was still so mad that his "perfect" HS girlfriend dumped him that he likes to chase after women like her and treat them horribly. Men are vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:52 PM
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As an American, no, marriage is not respected by men. The only reason most of them get married is to acquire a mommy bangmaid and/or to "lock her down" so she won't fuck other guys. It's a rare man here who really values and respects the institution. They are rampant cheaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:33 PM
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Both of my grandmothers were midcentury "career women" (one owned her own female-centric business) in a time where that kind of thing was a bit side-eyed. And it's not as if their husbands were lazy and didn't work, and it's not like they were so poor that they absolutely needed the money. They wanted to, and worked until they retired at normal retirement age with their own money and pensions and never gave in to anyone telling them that wouldn't they be happier staying at home with the kids? Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:01 PM
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It's definitely a lose/lose situation. If we conform to expected behavior and are friendly and placid and welcoming - we're harassed. If we don't do those things - we're harassed. In both cases there is a risk of violence and death. We can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:21 PM
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I'm still ~friendly~ and people-pleasing enough that I can't bring myself to just not answer questions from strangers in public smalltalk. The degree of uncomfortableness for myself is just too distracting because I wind up thinking about it all day long. So I've learned to get comfortable with lying lol. They're strangers and infringing on my privacy, I don't owe them the truth! Ideally I could just tell them it isn't appropriate, but frankly I fear violent reaction after bad experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:15 PM
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It's revolting to me that the "kink community" (whatever the fuck that is; considering that literally everyone calls themselves ~kinky~ these days, there's not really a community) comes up with all these cutesy terms for abuse and PTSD. It sincerely reminds me of the grooming tactics of pedophiles. I think doms and pedos are the exact same type of people, just with a variation in their tastes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:45 PM
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A pretty convenient fact they decided on to scare women into settling at a younger age. Considering the predominance of men in science at the time they were making these "discoveries", no one can tell me that biases and ulterior motives were not at play. The patriarchy manipulates absolutely everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:55 PM
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Men are (largely) writing, directing, and producing these movies, so we know what their agenda is in that regard. Some of the poor portrayal of women is sheer ignorance, but a lot of it is just garden variety misogyny. The publishing industry situation is a little more thorny; despite being rather dominated by women (nearly 80% of the industry), it has undergone quite a transformation over the last 15 years and in many cases is barely hanging on for various reasons. They pick up what sells. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:32 PM
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To be honest, all kinds of things can disrupt your menstrual cycle - some serious, some really not. Just a bad cold with a mild fever will disrupt mine. Changing to a more high intensity exercise routine. Being unpleasantly shocked and surprised. Honestly, the menstrual cycle is supposed to have a little flexibility. I don't think it's very useful to hyperfocus on this particular, wildly necessary and socially responsible vaccine disrupting a cycle. Any kind of additional stressors can throw it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:16 PM
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Why did they give the villain these lines? Because this movie was directed by a man (Stephen Herek) and written by a man (John Hughes, oddly enough).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:31 AM
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I honestly understand what some of them want out of their community. I do. I myself love many "typically feminine" things, and I think many of these women who are involved with bimbo tiktok are beautiful and quite funny and pleasant. It's just a shame that they are taking that energy and putting it toward something performative for male tastes and the male gaze instead of actually pursuing real liberation and community and uplifting each other instead of this Pickme hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:23 PM
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I'm a simple woman. I see Andrea quotes, I upvote. Ladies, if you're truly looking to have the rose colored glasses ripped off your eyes - quick and maybe a little painful but ultimately necessary, like a Band-Aid - read Dworkin. Her work is maybe even more necessary today than when she wrote it. Violent sexuality is not enlightened or special or unique, it is grindingly boring misogyny - the type you encounter every single day. There is nothing special about it. Your bf/husband cannot be "cruel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:19 PM
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I got into it with some of ya'll here on this subreddit a while about bimbo tiktok because I called shenanigans on the trend and I think this community maybe hasn't been exposed to it so much. But this was the kind of stuff I was talking about; it's not empowering, even if it a ~purely feminine~ subculture. The narrative among tiktok bimbos is that they are taking back the word and being "non-judgmental" and such, but what they don't realize is that bimbo is and always has been a slur, and we as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:09 PM
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That's basically the long and short of it. They are shitty, selfish people and they have zero introspection. They don't see their "addiction" (and I am hesitant to use this term because I think porn/sex addiction is less a true addict situation and more just malignant narcissism and selfishness) as a problem until someone seems to judge them. Then all hell breaks loose and waaaah, they are now the victims of other people's judgment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:50 PM
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I'm proud of you for facing your addictions and owning up to them. It's incredibly difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:08 PM
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I legitimately just do not care about the male perspective in art. It doesn't speak to me, it more often than not dehumanizes me and it crowds out an equal and worthy female perspective. It's not as if men are less human and don't experience profound artistic sentiment, but the very existence of the patriarchy and their own intellectual and moral laziness have dominated art and entertainment culture for far too long, and the fruits of their labors are becoming as deep as a shallow puddle. Why sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:04 PM
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"Stop wallowing" is such important advice. It's tough love from us to others, and from us to ourselves, but just because it's not soft and sweet and comforting doesn't mean it's not for the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:59 PM
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Sadly this is true, but not in the way she intended it. These scrotes don't care until they have to face the smallest amount of consequences for their deplorable behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:53 PM
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That's a lot of words(alad) to say "I'm a full grown woman with a professional career but I still wanna get picked". The sad part is that this is actually fairly close to getting the point in that you can't do couples therapy when the guy has a "porn/sex addiction" because the problem isn't the couple, it is 100% him. Yes, his poor wife/gf is the victim. No there is nothing she can do as half of a couple to fix it. And if he doesn't think that there's a problem, no therapy will help. But of cour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:51 PM
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Getting a new number or getting rid of your phone is not really going to help you, because they are not actually treating the disease. They are a symptom of Pickmeishaisis. What you need to do is work on learning to say no to those urges because you want to, because you think you're worth more than being some scrote's picked gf. Just tell yourself 'no'. That's it. You don't have to rationalize it. Be your own firm but fair parent: no. No you can't have a texting conversation. No you can't look a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:06 PM
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I get what you mean, but I am done giving a single solitary shit about what men think and I am definitely done changing my speech and ways of thinking just to soothe their hurt fee-fees. Fuck 'em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:37 AM
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Scrotes popping back into your life isn't cute or flattering. You're absolutely right that anyone should consider themselves lucky that no one has ever tried to rotate back in on them. Oftentimes you will get a full discard from malignant narcissists who sense you have seen behind their mask and are terrified of having to be answerable for their shit awful personality. Take it as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:24 PM
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There should be no shame in having mental illness - I certainly don't judge anyone for it - but you have a responsibility to learn how to function and behave in "normal" society. If you've worked diligently via therapy and medication and you have your shit together, that's great. But you cannot expect that everyone will be comfortable with your illness, and you especially aren't entitled to relationships when you are an unmanaged, disordered mess. No one owes you anything. Mentally ill men have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:30 AM
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Their only insult is “enjoy being single/alone”. Thanks!! I can and I will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:12 PM
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As long as you're a woman, you can't win. The amount of scrotes who "demand" a skinny, fit woman to date are also fetishizing larger women and trying to hook up with them. If you're confident, pleasant, and attractive (and MOST women are, lbr, because they actually care about themselves), you will always have unwanted attention. Skinny women, big women, average women... It doesn't matter. I think some women are maybe a bit unaware of how much casual attention is paid to them, regardless of their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:25 PM
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Things really started going off the rails when we as various cultures decided to throw out judgment entirely. There's a time and a place to judge, free of patriarchal religion and institutions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:50 PM
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And yet they call us toxic and want us shut down and harass us individually via DMs or self-harm reports. But then, after everything reddit has shown itself to be, why be surprised? We just went through a situation where they hired a pervert and rapist apologist. Reddit is the website version of "when someone tells you who they are, believe them".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:34 PM
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Echoing a statement we've made here lots of times. I wonder if this person has been creeping this subreddit because this is unusually self-aware for one of them. We've really got to do everything, huh? Even educate them about their own lack of appeal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:06 PM
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Broke-asses really out here with their faded videogame graphic tees and Hot Pocket dinners thinking they're gonna have to beat back the coaldiggers. The delusion of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:03 PM
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The whole "puritan/right wing/christian/fundamentalist" thing is so dumb because I don't object to porn out of fear and jealousy and a need to control anyone. My objection is both scientific and humanist; porn breaks brains and bodies and is a human rights violation on a massive scale. It's as simple as that. As far as I'm concerned, my logic is solid. Obviously, I can't control adult men's bodies and what they do with their time. But I can control my own time, and that means not wasting it with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:54 PM
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I don't think it's a matter of dating someone who thinks you are "perfect" - that's not necessarily a sign of a HVM. Many narcissistic LVM/NVM men think that their partners are "perfect".... until they're suddenly bored, or until you do something that randomly puts them off, or until they meet something shiny and new who isn't wise to their tricks and knows all about them. A HVM just plain respects you for who you are. It's not about being blind to your faults and shortcomings - which you absolu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:41 PM
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People in general have a terrible fucking sense of what normal people look like at various ages due to life once being much harder for the average person and because Hollywood keeps casting 60 year olds as 40 year olds. To say nothing of people in their mid-late 20s cast as teenagers. Men take care of themselves so badly that by age 25 they're already massively out of shape, balding, fine lines starting on their faces, sun damage, bad skin in general from terrible diet.... They think because the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:10 AM
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If she didn't outright know, I'm quite sure she had some suspicion that he was going to do something horrible. I'm so fucking tired of people giving these women a pass; it's infantalizing and insulting that people seem to "oh she didn't know... poor little creature.... :(" She knew about his wife. She's a monster, just a different sort than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:35 PM
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Reality is going to hit her extremely hard, I wish her the best on the other end of it. Booked a full-ass vacation with another woman but "nothing happened" lmao.... Sis....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:59 PM
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This kind of pornsick thinking is exactly why I'm still partially closeted. With men, even in a non-relationship situation, saying that you are bi flips the fucking disgusting porn switch in their brains and they cease to see you as you, and suddenly you're just another object. Hetero women absorb this attitude from men and also many seem to believe you're more "slutty" therefore interested in their gross boyfriends/husbands. And many will just flat out hate you because of it. It might not look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:37 PM
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I didn't say women aren't the victims. If you read my reply through again you can see that I was very specific in my word choices. The porn industry is run by the wealthy to prey on the disadvantaged as performers and sold to consumers regardless of age or gender. It's an evil, soulless industry. That does not mean that men who make choices in adulthood are victims, where would you even get that from my post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:55 PM
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The majority of girls saying this stuff are just so young. They have very little dating experience. They have even less real world adult life experience. They are absolutely being groomed by outside forces (those forces are men, particularly older and more worldly men) because they have no experience to compare against. Keep in mind that it is time honored teenage tradition to do and say shocking things. Scrotes know this because they too were once teenagers; it’s very easy to get a teen to talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:06 PM
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Like, obviously male vice has a lot to do with the popularity of porn, but men are for better or for worse as much blank slates from birth as women. Yes, testosterone, but that doesn’t give them the IDEAS that the porn industry itself perpetuates. Why would you not blame the industry and its decades-long push to expose people at increasingly younger ages to porn? It is not some benevolent happy place full of harmless people having fun: it is an industry built on RAPE and suffering and pain and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:57 PM
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To the lurkers in recovery: Don't hate yourself for not being perfect and making mistakes, but also don't keep making excuses for your choices and behavior. Own up what you are doing and proceed as best you can from there. Yes, it's hard. Be brave. Your standards aren't just for men to live up to, they're also for yourself. The moment you start living up to them is the moment you actually start living, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:02 PM
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Cats have been culturally linked in the west to the feminine aspect for centuries, it's some very deep psychological conditioning. If a man is hateful to cats, he hates women. It's a huge red flag. Most of the time they don't even know why they hate cats, they just "do".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:57 PM
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Scrote jealous of a male cat (tf does a cat care about his gf's breasts - oh right, men sexualize everything), doesn't understand that 10 does in fact count as "senior", and thinks that her love and care for a bonded, dependent, and trusting creature is obnoxious and something to be snuffed out Keep the cat, throw the man away. I wonder if she knows how hateful and possessive this human trash is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:52 PM
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Lunch isn't so bad. Depending on the place, I wouldn't consider it a dealbreaker at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:15 PM
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"women objectify men on FDS way more than we do on redpill" "hey watch this youtuber who calls women Plates" lOgICaL gEnDEr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:29 PM
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I wouldn't take the offering of these low-effort dates personally; it's not anything you did or didn't to or any kind of way you appear. I know a literal model who went through a series of these dates, and she is beautiful and doing well for herself. The cheap date phenomenon has happened for a few reasons: men have just plain less money to spend dating than they once did (this is often their own fault), they scattershot OLD dates and want to spend the least to be able to meet the most amount of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:29 PM
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The writer and director of that movie are men. Most of the people who decide what movies get to be made (producers) are men. Men are invested in upholding the patriarchy and it comes through in their movies. Trust me, I dated one of the people involved in the whole shitty industry; if you see shit behavior from male characters, remember that there is an actual shitty man probably behind it being there. Frankly, we need to be more critical with the media we consume and consider who is making it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:08 AM
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Honestly I disagree with people here quite regularly, I don't really know what anyone means about this place being an echo chamber. It's an education chamber. People come here with various experiences in various parts of Pickme recovery and drop hot takes that sometimes get picked apart. This is a tough love subreddit. Being too easy on each other would defeat the point; we're here to level up, not to reinforce the patriarchal and libfem ways of thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:56 PM
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My advice for dating a Trump supporter: don't. There are a million reasons why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:30 PM
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I feel like this kind of shit is a stage of (young) life a lot of Pickmeishas go through. But age catches up with them eventually and they get so used and abused by """friends""" and become increasingly written off and discarded because they're no longer 20. Men don't look at these kinds of statements and think they're funny, they just see easy prey ripe for abuse. It's a hard lesson to learn, but there's no telling a Pickmeisha in the throes of this that behaving like this will only hurt them i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:20 PM
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I get what you mean, and I agree that probably the majority of upvotes and awards are from people who would never treat a woman in the same way if she took a stand. It's just that the post's title said one thing and the screenshot didn't show anything like that at all. If it would have been titled or had a text discussion attached about how hypocritical the upvoters are, then sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:48 AM
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So I'm a dog? Because there's no context on these screenshots? That's a fucking rude-ass comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:28 AM
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I get that the replies were probably vile and of course a vast majority of men watch porn according to every statistic we have on the matter; the issue is that we don't have any of that information from one comment. People screenshot our comments here all the time and then post their assumptions about us based on out of context things. It doesn't feel great when it happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:22 AM
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Well, I didn't see the comments (hers or the ones replying to this), but I am uncomf with posting screens of people's comments that aren't actually against FDS principles and then titling them with things they aren't doing. But by all means the people defending porn/prostitutuion should be pictured here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:05 AM
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It's a special kind of mindfuck when the Other Woman is a mutual friend. I have experienced this and found all the texts, emails.... seen all the lies they both said about me, all the cruel shit. And she was supposed to be a friend. I'd confided in her. She deliberately went after him and then lied about me, repeatedly, to him. Every time someone here hits me with the "just both break up with him and be best friends, tee hee" romcom fantasy I want to scream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:53 AM
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imo, a lot of them are quite young and haven't sunk years/decades into relationships yet only to have the rug pulled out from under them and their lives completely wrecked due to infidelity. Either that or they're in Pickmeisha recovery and have been the Other Woman. It's like this... reflex people have, to blame the cheated-on woman for what happened to her. It's an extreme bit of misogyny in the culture, and I think that women are so scared of it happening to them that they will just outright …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:28 AM
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This sub falls all over itself excusing the Other Women who know about this. Every time the subject comes up they're always waggling fingers over anyone who has experienced the trauma of another woman laughing/celebrating because she "got your man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:05 AM
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Historically, go die honorably in war and leave widows alone to run your business/estates. So if they want to teach them that, well....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:37 AM
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Pornsick bullshit that has no relation to actual history. Apparently some teacher was just wacking it to Game of Thrones and thought it was real. Chivalry had nothing to do with women's behavior, and especially not this fetish Handmaid's Tale fucking nonsense. Chivalry was a custom developed FOR MEN'S BEHAVIOR to reinforce allegiance and loyalty. When it came into the court, it was a behavior set of etiquette standards for men because many were, frankly, poorly fucking behaved around women. Wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:35 AM
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The person who cheats and is not in a relationship with you: true, no consequences. So you should not be upset with them for cheating on you. You should be upset with the partner that betrayed you, put your health and mental well-being at risk, etc. However - it is Pickmeisha behavior to pursue men who are in relationships. Period. Of course a woman who doesn't know that a man is in a relationship is blameless. But it's terribly, terribly naive to think that all women don't know. Many do. And th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:21 AM
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Do not give them an out with biology. It is NOT biology that causes them to behave like this, it's society allowing them to behave in this way. They have been raised and nurtured to grow callous traits, they are not so biologically different from women. Neurosexism is a bad look. Hold men accountable. They are socially conditioned and continue to make the "easy" choices in their life because there is no social drawback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:05 PM
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Mad scrotes just love not knowing that words mean things, I guess. I mean, let's be real, they know their arguments are completely bogus. They just word salad some "woke" terminology as if any of their objections mean anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:39 AM
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Right? We hardly ever talk about gay men except in the context of gay men often knowing how to take care of themselves and their living environments, so straight men can't whine about how "biology" makes him unable to dress or wash his ass or vacuum a floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:33 AM
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I will never have a biological child of my own. I have never in my life had that 'instinct' of wanting to procreate, though I think much of it has largely been due to the fact that I have been surrounded by LVM almost entirely for my whole life (one grandfather being the exception). It doesn't mean I hate children. Far from it; I love kids and I would happily adopt, but our civilization is so fucking backwards with how it treats mothers and deprives them of the larger family units and communitie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:26 AM
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Dick isn't worth it. It's just dick. I can buy expensive designer dick that stays hard forever and is the exact shape I want it to be. I have never had sex so good I want to seriously screw up my life ever being attached to some man again. The men to whom the dick belongs are rarely worth it. By and large they're hateful, boring, unhygienic, pornsick, manipulative, lying, emotionally constipated, immature misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:47 AM
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Don't read too much into that "wahhh, men are attracted to very very very very young pre-pregnancy bodies" crap. It's evolutionary psych which is not a real thing, just a made up set of excuses for pedophiles and men who want a mentally and emotionally vulnerable girl. Evolutionary psychology is quack science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:38 PM
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I'm not "dragging a woman down" - she's part of the Tiktok Bimbo subculture. They literally call themselves that. SHE LITERALLY CALLS HERSELF THAT. The whole subculture is about conforming to a specific male-pleasing aesthetic while speaking in cutesy baby voices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:50 AM
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This is just so desperate, and for what? A non-date with some guy you have to beg to take you to pizza and wings (of all the things...)? Your dignity is worth more than shitty food and begging on Facebook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:33 AM
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I have to keep going over this because apparently people don't know. NO ONE is calling her look "an offensive term for women" except for her. 💖proud bimbo💖 she/her blm & defund the police!!!! This is her. From her Tiktok page. "Bimbo" is a thing on Tiktok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:07 PM
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Who is judging, sis? No one here is commenting on her worth or value as a person (in fact, most people have mentioned that her message is right). This isn't a perfect world where your choices are made in a vacuum, untethered to men's demands and de-powerment of women. Women cannot "reclaim" the Bimbo, because it was never ours; it was a look designed to appeal to men, for the consumption of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:40 PM
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It may be as simple as the fact that she likes the look and aesthetic, and I get it - I too like very pink and "girly" and cute things. In a perfect world it wouldn't really matter, but this is a reality full of predators and a patriarchy that infantalizes us in order to keep us powerless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:36 PM
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She's not the first feminist tiktok bimbo I've come across; these girls are very close to "getting it" as they pursue an aggressively constructed and feminine look that puts off the type of men who whine and cry and complain about "t-t-t-TOO MUCH MAKEUP..... TOO HIGH MAINTENANCE WAH SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE REQUIRES EFFORT..... it's annoying...." However, they're missing the point that the bimbo look is a deliberate porn look popularized among midcentury pornography (and largely based on the "look" of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:58 PM
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No, look up tiktok bimbos. It's literally its own subculture, dressed up as being empowering. I'm not throwing the term around in a general sense, its a whole aesthetic and subculture, on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:51 PM
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A woman who talks like this is not an ally. If she isn't pornsick herself, she is basing her entire worth around the tastes of pornsick men. If she can be rescued, that's great! Otherwise, avoid these types and their "rhetoric". Most of the time they'll grow out of it, anyway, the moment they pass age 25 and some scrote discards them for a 19 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:39 PM
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She's right, but this tiktok "bimbo" look and fake baby voice is fetish shit dressed up as libfem empowerment nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:09 PM
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Sex work isn't work. Sex work is the exploitation of women for the benefit of men. Sex work is the literal enslavement of some women. Sex work is - in many cases - legal violence against women. No women should be pro-sex work. Libfems have betrayed all women by allowing men into their discussion spaces to parrot their ethically repugnant discourse. I don't know what the deprogramming solution is, but it has to happen sooner rather than later or things will only continue to get worse for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:37 PM
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He's just a common, boring, ordinary scrote. I know it might not seem like it to you quite yet, but I assure you that given time you will wonder why you put yourself through such agony for Just Some Guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:57 PM
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Pornsick peeping tom sex pest. Get some cameras set up, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:55 PM
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Not to mention the stupid ""comeback"" of 'Oh, you want to be treated like a man? Then can I hit you?' Uh.... Bruh, the only thing you hit is the drive-thru at McDonald's multiple times a week. You don't even hit other men. Not to mention... assault is illegal. You can't just 'hit you like a man', unless you want assault charges pressed? Like already happens? Logical gender tho am i right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:29 AM
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More people in this sub really need to read Chump Lady's blog. Like, all of it. Every time I see someone here completely devastated by infidelity I just wanna shoot them her link and tell them to read everything, every day. It's so helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:27 AM
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I don't feel a single solitary ounce of sympathy for pickmes who actively make other women's lives worse by tearing them down, belittling them, doing the men's work of breaking their self-esteem. If they neglect their own children to chase LVM, fuck 'em. If they pick men and take men's sides over their kids, fuck 'em. If they get off on going after married men or men in committed relationships, I do not feel sorry for them. If a Pickme is making other people's lives around hers worse because she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:31 AM
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I was sexually assaulted by a faux feminist vegan after he lectured me on my eating habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:20 AM
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You get honest with yourself. 'Why?' has always been my favorite question to ask myself when I'm in the throes of really strong emotions. Why do I feel like that? What's the cause of that? Why am I allowing myself to be in these situations? You've got to take stock: of yourself, of your environments, and of the choices you've made. Grief and anger are all normal and natural, but at some point you've got to ask yourself why you feel that way at all. Where's the relief in it all finally being over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:14 AM
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Right, hobbies and interests are really important in the stage of detoxing from a traumatic relationship. If you are improving yourself, your mind, your environment, or even just your mood, you are too busy to pretzel yourself into making excuses for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:42 PM
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No idea. Pretty quick for FDS to move, though, so I assume a deletion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:38 PM
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Most men are trash, but there was some wisdom in thinking that you should check under your shoe for the source of stink. It may not have been you, personally speaking, but the stink was in fact your Pickmeisha-ness and low standards. I don't think it's a bad thing to take ownership of our faults because it makes it much easier to forgive ourselves and then never, ever go back to that lesser version of ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:37 PM
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It's just negging. Who gives a shit what men think of women's bodies? Half of the time they don't really even believe all the mean shit they say, they will just pick the lowest hanging fruits and go on the attack because they are basic misogynists without an interesting thought in their entire brains. Any man who attacks a woman's looks hates women. It doesn't matter if she's got perfect skin, perfect proportions, is under 25, whatever. Men will still come out of the woodwork to make some shitty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:31 PM
12

No. It's a terrible age gap. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:27 PM
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Read the handbook, sis. You can stop feeling this way. It's not as hard as you're making it out to be. Yes, age gaps are terrible, but they're especially terrible when it's younger-woman-older-man because the power imbalance that society has made between men and women only deepens significantly when you add the gap of age/experience. We're not here to reassure you that you should give this guy a try - that is not what this subreddit is for. Stay away from this man. Quit telling yourself you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:26 PM
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Distance. Distance, distance, distance. The way you break the bond is to stay away from the source; block, delete, distance. You put up boundaries and then you never violate them. Trauma bonding is one of the laziest tactics of a LVM to keep a partner; it requires nothing but a few nice words/acts after being their inherently abusive selves. Get away from them, get rid of things that have to do with them. Remove all traces of them from your life (within reason, ofc - some people have children wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:21 PM
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Consider who is writing the trope. Consider who created the trope. Since Hollywood/the film industry is overwhelmingly male (or male-influenced), you can be sure that the idea "i don't know how to do this!!! mommy fix it!!!!" was created by a man to let audiences know how "warm" and "caring" and "perfect" the female character is supposed to be (to the man). Even the act of tie-fixing itself is male-centric, it says nothing about the woman other than she can swoop in to fulfill a man's needs no m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:16 PM
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It's because they're allowed to be. At least this article acknowledges that instead of delving into eVoLuTIonArY pSyCHolOGy!!!! (vom)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:43 PM
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Red flags for me are signs of jealousy - not even just of me, but other women in general. A shitty boyfriend/husband (she will always, always choose him over you no matter what plans you have in advance). A serious social media presence/addiction - these types just seem to constantly need attention and validation. Women with no hobbies outside of caring for a partner or kids has boundary issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:42 PM
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No I definitely understand how dangerous the manosphere is. I've seen the crime statistics, I've read the reddit posts and heard the horrific language casually dropped between men about women. I've had my health put at risk, my mental well-being shaken and the security of my future demolished because men treat women as unthinking, unfeeling, automatons they can use and trash - all behavior reinforced by the manosphere where they're praised for destroying other human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:49 AM
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Anything "non-consensual" is rape. End of story. There's no grey area. It's assault. imo consensual BDSM is a form of assault in and of itself, but there is truly a legal definition between the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:35 AM
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They all look terrible, at least on OLD. Straight men seem completely incapable of knowing how to take a good picture: lit and shot from below, in a dark, messy cave, monitor light washing them out, every single pore and blemish and wrinkle deepened and darkened, ill-fitting clothes and messy hair. Vom. What's wild is that some of these men are thoroughly average in the daylight. They just don't care about how they look on OLD and think they look fine because the patriarchy hasn't fucked with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:44 PM
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I found my ex's other gf and contacted her to tell her what was going on (she was as in the dark about him as me), and he went into a narcissistic meltdown and accused me of being manipulative. After he cheated on me. For years. And lied about everything. Their criticisms don't mean shit, and they're almost ALWAYS projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:14 AM
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You hear it a lot because men made it up about themselves to cope with their lost youth. No woman made this shit up, it was men deciding on a lie and then telling it to women who repeated it until it became some commonly-held truth. Older men aren't better in bed because most men are bad in bed. Period. Now they're just bad in bed with zero stamina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:57 PM
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Yes of course this is a LVM, he already tried (what does 'tried' mean in this regard?) to dump you on Valentine's Day. What more do you need to know? "Personal reasons" sounds fishy - like a guilty conscience. If you're here you already know our answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:28 AM
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A man who pays does not just automatically make "a good man". He's paying for you to stay with him, not showing you that he loves you. There's a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:39 AM
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Curious why you think he's "a really good guy" if he doesn't do anything to actually show he appreciates you? idk what you want to hear from us, sis. This sub isn't the place for us to make excuses so you can keep on being with someone who clearly doesn't care enough to make an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:32 AM
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FeDS is a good name for this sub, I like the idea of us rolling up and rescuing women from these low effort scrotes. That being said, also why is this sub so obsessed with what anyone (esp men.... sistras.... plz...) thinks of them? It's like multiple posts a day with screenshots of what some other sub is saying about us. Who fucking cares? Ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:39 AM
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Happy Blockanddelete Day He's vile and deserves nothing but misery in his life. The fact that he keeps reaching out says that he's the same piece of shit show abused you so badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:38 PM
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He ain't the one, sis. And I know that women come here and complain about the LV things their men do only to receive "dump him" messages and then proceed to not do that. Maybe you'll try to reason "oh well, it's just one day compared against all the other days". So ignoring that, I wanna ask you: is his treatment of you acceptable? Do you really want to hook a future to someone who can't even be bothered to make very simple, twice-an-entire-year gestures? Is any of this what you dream about for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:33 PM
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Overlapping relationships are a sign of unresolved personal issues and immaturity. Even in cases where someone is genuinely separated from a spouse, until they're entirely divorced, it's still an overlapping relationship and men who seek them out should be avoided. You're likely to never hear the full, true story of what happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:04 AM
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"Separated but married" is often a LIE. I don't know what the actual situation was with this guy, but when men say they're separated, they are very often lying about their situation and their wife would be very interested in hearing that she's apparently separated from the husband who comes home to her every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:12 AM
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I think holidays are useful vetting tools, but honestly I'm with you on a purely personal level as far as not actually caring about them too much. I'm all for festivity but I don't put tons of value into holidays per se. That being said, I do expect certain treatment on them. Seems like you're at least able to communicate your needs and expectations with your bf in an equal way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:08 AM
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I let my anger be what it really is: a reaction to being hurt. This shit? It hurts and there's no relief and the frustration of that becomes anger. And then I hang on to that pain because every time I suffer it, it's a lesson and a reminder for the future to not put myself in those situations again if I can help it. I call these worthless scrotes out when I can, shame them, refuse to go easy on them, and don't placate them. Yes, it's put me in a lot of situations where they all think of me as a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:48 PM
16

This was my grandfather with my grandmother, he bought her jewelry for all her birthdays, Christmases, Valentines Days, etc. Except... she never asked him to stop buying lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:21 PM
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Boyfriends do not get gifts like for V-Day, no. Spending time with him is the gift. If he makes zero (or less than zero) effort, he's low value and you should kick him to the curb because he's just shown you how much he thinks of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:17 PM
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I will out my narcissistic abuser if he ever makes it big, which he probably won't because he's a chronically lazy loser. Until then, he's just some guy. But the entertainment world is rife with abusers - not all of them physical, mind. It's an industry that draws the type. I would never get involved with another man in it, every one I've known has been shockingly LV despite their money or connections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:42 AM
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There are a lot of women here who are working their way through a de-programming/detoxing process. I think the most important step you can take is to stop feeling shame for the person you were and start feeling anger at the society and people around you who were so harmful to your well being. They all failed you. Make some time to come here for support reading every day. Hearing all these voices will do wonders so long as you are receptive to the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:31 PM
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They know 100% what they're doing. That poor, helpless GoSh I Didn't Mean To Be Useless Golly Wow expression on their faces is a mask they have created over decades of turning every woman into Mommy who will nag and nag until she just gives up and cleans up after her darling boy herself. They know. They know if they make themselves useless and do nothing that they have a free ticket to blame you with later if you ever pipe up and tell them you are tired of their laziness. Mommy - in all her myri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:03 PM
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If we're defining "sex" by what the act has become - violent, painful, coerced, dangerous porn-fueled fantasy enacted against women who are told to endure it to be a Cool Girl - then I am 100% sex negative. So fucking what? Men consider a woman saying "I don't want that" to be hate and literal violence against them, because they are completely obsessed with us. Saying that you don't want meaningless, painful sex and that you love and value yourself too much to put yourself in that situation isn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:32 PM
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Uh.... no. Why should I be expected to tolerate someone who doesn't have their shit together? I'm not out here advocating for women to only date and marry millionaires, but "financially stable" just means not constantly in debt with a job that can support a regular adult life without constant struggle. That's not a high bar to jump over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:39 PM
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When men ask me what my favorite movie is, I say Gone Girl just to see how nervous they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:31 AM
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Men who whine and cry about their height are doing so based on what males find attractive about each other, not what most women find attractive about men. It's the same reason so many of them cry about not being absolutely jacked; that's attractiveness based on male standards, most women don't really give a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:02 AM
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"Cats, candles, wine, and The Golden Girls", and this is supposed to be a bad thing? jfc men just truly do not even remotely understand women. For many of us that is our DREAM LIFE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:57 AM
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From personal experience, the Sophia M. Sachs Butterfly House in the MO Botanical Gardens is absolutely beautiful and just a sheer delight to visit. Any donation made to name a cockroach after a LVX would support a very worthy cause!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:55 AM
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What the hell is all this mess? Angry Pickmeisha, living with a boyfriend (""fiance"""), together 5 years with a baby, scrote making excuses for another woman? Just throw it all in the trash. THIS is the kind of hell we're trying to liberate ourselves from, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:24 PM
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Ladies, I am about to hit you with some tough love, but if you recognize a strong jealous trait in your personality, it is in your best interest to do everything you can to exorcise it. Knee-jerk jealousy will ruin your life: it will encourage your worst Pickmeisha tendencies, it will keep you from friendships with other women, it might even fuck up your relationships with your daughters/younger reliant family members. As a jealous woman you will be isolated from other women, constantly hating t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:51 PM
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Absolutely not. The audacity of this scrote asking you to be Mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:23 PM
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Ladies, if you ever need a reminder of what we're fighting for, bookmark this post and come back to it whenever you start to wonder if you're being unreasonable. Young women have been so manipulated and browbeaten into accepting their objectification that they barely know how to function when they're not being treated like a piece of meat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:53 PM
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I would never change my name for a man. Why would I do that? I'm not his fuckin property. I even resent the fact that I have my father's surname, but at least it's the one I was born with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:04 PM
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Sis, you know why they lie. We're telling each other the truth about them and they're furious and terrified that we see through them. They ain't slick and never have been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:32 PM
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I long for a great awakening among Millennial and Gen Z women that porn is toxic and everything it touches in their lives, it corrodes - morally, emotionally, physically. This narrative that has been fed to us about porn showing us "ways to orient our pleasure" are lies created by men who are priming us for their own porn usage and abusive behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:30 PM
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Ari just strikes me as someone who is very insecure. She fluctuates between being a terrible Pickme and knowing her own worth and value. Men really seem to mess with her head and I can't figure out why. She's young, pretty, rich, and has the attention and validation of her fans. She doesn't NEED these scrotes. It just goes to show you how deeply this shit is embedded in our culture. Not even immense fame and wealth can insulate you from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:20 PM
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Most women do have a problem with their partners watching porn. Most women also engage in endless Pickme behavior, though, and give the impression that they don't have any problems with it. Men think that women who compromise their beliefs and feelings are happy, when really they're just 'scared' to lose the guy by putting their foot down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:56 AM
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He ain't the one, sis. A man buying a gift for a friend isn't always a bad sign (generosity is in fact a good trait), but he bought her something and not you, so what do you think that says? You're not his priority. Time to cut him loose, no contact, and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:54 AM
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Women have for far too long been pressured into making "allowances" for rampantly immoral men. Whatever a woman's moral code - religious or secular - she is constantly expected to make an exception for "freethinking" men, and then adopt their own kind of anything-goes take on a moral framework. Religion becomes less popular the younger the population is, which is a simple fact - and that's fine. You don't need religion for morality and ethics, but men who just love living with no consequences ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:37 PM
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Esther Perel herself is a MASSIVE red flag. She's just an apologist for cheaters and ammunition for gaslighters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:26 PM
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More younger women need to hear this from single women at your age, because I personally know so many sub-40 women who absolutely buy into the redpill nonsense about "the wall" and truly feel like their desirability will suddenly drop off into nothing after crossing some kind of invisible age line. The truth is that a woman who cares about herself and and has a healthy outlook on life and is always striving toward living well will always be able to find male attention at any age. The Wall does n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:13 PM
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No. People should strive for equality in a partnership but this ain't it. Any man who is so stingy and small-minded as to make everything into a 50/50 split is low value and has no grasp of what being an actual mature individual is who realizes that you can't cut every single thing in life down the middle. Broke-ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:23 PM
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Apologies are nice to hear. From men, 9/10 times they don't mean anything, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:16 PM
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Word. If they do it once, they will do it again. You've let them get by with the disrespect and they will continue to do it because you have taught them what you will tolerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:12 PM
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I'm sorry that you experienced this and it hurt and embarrassed you, but I am also really glad for you that you found out what kind of person he is so early on. Think of all the time you no longer have to waste on him! He's a piece of shit who doesn't care about you at all. None. Zero. He has absolutely no regard for you and probably barely thinks about you when you're apart. It's good that you know this NOW, as opposed to later. Trust me. Block, forget, and move on. That's the only advice you n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:08 PM
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I've had two exes who were cheaters, and one had a habit of cheating on me with other women in our social circles - these women knew he and I were a couple and had been for years, and still agreed to be the other party. I hated (and still do to this day) them as much as I hate him. A more recent ex cheated with someone who legitimately knew nothing about me and is blameless in that regard, but even after finding out the full story, decided to stay with him and went into a full apologist tour for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:02 PM
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Under the patriarchy (enforced by other women just as much as men), women can't do anything. Have emotions and you're a dramatic crybaby and should be mocked. Learn to wall your feelings off and you're a cold bitch and should be hated. Since there's no winning and no pleasing people, just live honestly and according to your feelings. When men try to dip into the excuses of "she's/you're crazy" for showing any emotion, just ask him what exactly he means by that. What they mean is negative emotion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:50 PM
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I have! I love Dworkin's work and Right-Wing Women is an incredibly grim and insightful look into how these women function inside their sphere. Dworkin can be a pretty heavy read, but I think a lot of women especially here on FDS could benefit by reading her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:51 PM
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Getting too flirty or sexual too quickly (ya'll know what this looks like, I don't even have to explain) over texts. Won't use the term "date", just wants to "hang out". Asks me questions about myself but never follows through on my answers, just moves on to the next question like he has a tried and tested checklist. Breaks plans early on. Expects 50/50 on a date - especially the first one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:29 PM
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Pickmes are practically a native species to rightwing extremist culture. Anti-feminist tradwife types are more or less a perfect checklist of Pickme behavior and are rife in that kind of environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:35 PM
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Block, ignore, forget. He met someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:37 AM
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You didn't just "throw your marriage away" over a kiss. With cheaters, the bits of cheating that you actually find out about are only a minuscule example of how much they have actually done. There is always so, so, so much that goes hidden and uncovered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:35 AM
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Did men always cheat this much? Yes, always. More, perhaps, because women used to have less recourse for divorce and they truly could get away with anything (adultery used to be an allowable offense for divorce but it was hard to prove as a woman in court). There absolutely are men out there who don't cheat, but frankly... I'm of the opinion that the majority do and always have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:33 AM
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Ugly men with the smallest amount of confidence and a shred of knowledge about how to manipulate people have it so fucking easy. They get to put absolutely zero effort into their appearance and yet can reap the rewards of a toxic society beating it into the heads of women from childhood onward that "looks don't matter.... just who they are.... :) don't be shallow!!! give him a chance!!" A HVM might not have been born genetically blessed with height and perfect bone structure, that's fine. But he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:16 PM
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"happily married" but dishing out dating tips on twitter, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:12 AM
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And the man is Jason Statham... who isn't a billionaire. He's also 20 years older than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:04 PM
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I mean... do whatever? You guys broke up and she moved on, if you expect her to care you're gonna be disappointed, dude. Ladies, let this be a lesson to you about men on the rebound. They truly don't care about you, they're just angry at their ex and taking it out on you by not even treating you like a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:48 PM
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More women need to have it impressed upon them that issues in their relationships aren't a matter of what is "normal" but instead - is this something you are willing to tolerate? Everyone has different boundaries and limits, and though I agree that FDS sets out some of the best baselines on what a woman's standards should be, there's not a guidebook for everything. Clearly this woman could not tolerate her fiancee not being over his late gf, which is fine. What isn't fine is that she chose to st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:21 PM
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Yeah, this is what I commented below. wtf @ that math, he's just telling on himself that his gf wasn't even cold in the ground before he moved on. YIKES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:09 PM
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Honestly? Yikes all around. Being jealous of a dead woman is kind of pathetic (and smacks of irrationally jealous Pick Me) and it's equally pathetic for this dude to move on when he's clearly not ready. Men really cannot stand to live on their own and deal with their own problems no matter how badly they need to. Like... do the math. This man is 27 years old and was together with his late gf for 13 years. When did they get together? How long has his late gf even been dead? 5 minutes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:07 PM
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Men: Fucking golddiggers, buy your own shit!!!!!! Women: [buys own shit] Men: No not like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:59 PM
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Just... collectively as a culture, we need to stop calling the "arrangement" stuff sugar babies/sugar daddies and call it what it is: prostitution. Sure, you're not out on the street. Sure, you're not as likely to get picked up by the police. But "sugar babies" are still women with johns, selling themselves. End this cutesy language around it and make women and girls face the reality of what they're doing to themselves and what men are doing to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:19 PM
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Why do men do this? What is their obsession with those ~innocent~ teenage years? Not even just the obvious pornsick pedo answer, but so many dudes I have dated have inevitably at some point gone on and on and on AND ON about their stupid fucking high school first loves and how important and pure and significant it was and how they're always chasing that first-love high blah blah blah Like get in therapy and get the fuck over it. It was HIGH SCHOOL. The immaturity and unwillingness to just move o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:09 PM
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The literal definition of a manchild: quitting work to travel and cheat on your wife of two and a half years because "muh peeness missed out" lmao shut the entire fuck up! He is right that it's not about her. Nothing in their marriage ever will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:05 AM
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I think men can change, sure. For the worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:40 PM
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Just avoid all men in the entertainment industry. Trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:24 AM
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I don't even know what this has to do with "single mothers" lmao It's all projection with them, men who bring up "single moms" out of nowhere are either deadbeat dads or have immense mommy issues and both are completely non-negotiable dealbreakers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:16 AM
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I hope this is fake but knowing men, it's probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:06 AM
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OP, thank you for taking the time to sit down and post all of this; women are often not taught strategies to sniff out unfaithful liars in favor of being "understanding" and "nurturing" and all the other toxic shit that gets heaped on us from childhood onward. The idea of the craaaaazy~ overly suspicious woman is so ingrained into society and it is SO damaging to our perceptions of reality and to our reputations. To listen to one's intuition and dig when they see any of these signs out of a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:00 AM
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Amen. Their "validation" means nothing. For most of them, they only find you amusing like a blowup doll or a dancing bear, they do not value you and take you seriously and even think of you as human. Never nuke your own dignity and self-worth for the pretense of validation, it's meaningless and furthermore - it's also not what you think it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:42 AM
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Not liking how you were feeling was most likely your intuition trying to warn you! You 100% made the right choice! My ex went out of town suddenly on a weird "business trip" that my gut screamed at me about (funny this brokeass with something that could only charitably be considered a "career" would suddenly need to travel two states over hmmMMM). It took a minimal amount of digging for me to be alble to ruin his fuckcation lmao. It is exactly what they say, about the shittiness iceberg: the shi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:35 AM
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Men really be out here creating the patriarchy, creating toxic masculinity, creating "unobtainable" standards for men, driving fellow men to suicide, committing violence against other men, and then having the absolute audacity to blame feminism for their troubles. The gender of lOgiC aND rEaSoN my ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:23 PM
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I got rid of a LVM this year after exposing his cheating and lies. He discarded me so fast I didn't even have time to kick him out! The moment he knew I knew, he was GONE. I haven't moved past anger at how I was treated, but frankly I am so glad to be rid of that human garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:17 PM
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Men truly think that all the women of the world are for sale. "Expect my full money's worth", VOM. A woman you take on a date is not a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:12 PM
6

Frankly this just makes me wonder if she's into men all that much. Don't flatter them by faking, this is why so many of them are so fucking bad at sex!!! And anyway, no man needs his ego boosted by lies, they're already undeservedly full of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:18 PM
79

They sound young. Not that it's any excuse for this behavior, but I most definitely these days would not be a teenager/early 20s woman and friends with a same-age man. They're disordered beyond all reasoning. But at any age, you cannot be friends with a LVM. Ever. A LVM is not regarding you as a friend, they are just waiting. However, a HVM does have the ability to be friends with women while being respectful and crossing no boundaries. It's absolutely a matter of quality. Just... don't fuck wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:12 PM
20

Absolutely, and that alone is a dumpable offense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:08 PM
81

I'm curious how anyone would see this as anything BUT a block and move on situation. Even if it's not a romantic relationship on the female friend's end (and it might not be, men can say a lot of things to make a woman feel comfortable and supported before exploiting that trust), it definitely is for him given the way he's reacted to his ACTUAL GF having misgivings. Block, throw the entire man away, move on. If he's not cheating yet, he will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:34 PM
93

Being okay with a brokeass 34 year old proposing with a fuckin ring pop. Neither of these clowns are emotionally mature enough to be married. I'm proud of her parents, they know what's up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:29 PM
29

Nah sis. This isn't a harmless kids-will-be-kids phase, this is grooming of young people and children in an abusive and harmful industry for the benefit of men. We shouldn't be throwing up our hands and letting the wacky kids sort it all out so they can learn the hard way, by golly. We should be fighting like hell for their futures and climbing on every soap box and rooftop we can and screaming until we're hoarse. That starts with not normalizing and minimizing how evil the sex work "industry" i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:24 PM
32

Don't entertain them for a second, especially if they are offering you money. Do not prostitute yourself like this, THE WORLD IS NOT THEIR BROTHEL and this kind of "well...maybe for the right price...." type of thinking reinforces the idea that all women are for sale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:17 PM
15

More than anything else, Pick Mes are just so damn boring. These are... ordinary traits that have nothing to do with being a super special Cool Girl. It's honestly just embarrassing that women can be conned into listing off a bunch of normal-ass personality traits like they're some kind of express pass into Manland (gag). Like I do not know how to properly express any further that men do not care. They don't find this stuff cool and admirable. They laugh at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:09 PM
140

I feel for her. It's so hard to get images of yourself removed once they're in the wild. I wish her success and a clean split with this revolting sex criminal. Never let a man have access to nudes of yourself, regardless of whether or not you think the relationship is stable. A HVM will not require them to remain interested and won't ask in the first place. If you feel like you have to send them to keep or catch someone's interest, you are involved with a LVM and I think you know what to do in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:40 AM
74

It's only LVM who talk about "the wall", anyway. It's not a thing, it's just some arbitrary boogeyman they made up in order to neg women (and if they needed to come up with something NEW, that just goes to show you how desperate they are to make women feel bad about themselves). Consider it a blessing any time one of these lowlives outs themselves by speaking these words. No HVM gives it any thought; most want partners near their own age because they're functional adults, not barely legal trophy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:23 PM
9

Men with absolutely zero background in science are suddenly world-class Biologists when it comes to "but mEn ArE nAtuRaLLy-" Any man who repeats evolutionary theory as to why they stalk girls on Instagram and get addicted to porn are instantly thrown in the trash pile. Evo psych is complete bunk from the 70s and evo biology has been influenced by men trying to justify their perversions. A LVM never uses good sources and good science, and their reliance on this tired nonsense is a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:34 PM
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